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nerdygaymormon · 4 years

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So, I know the Church places,a lot of emphasis on getting married in the temple, and I think somewhere I heard it was necessary to achieve the highest level of glory, but recently I've been considering the label a romantic for myself and I was wondering what my place in the church would be. Is marriage really necessary for exaltation?

I wrote a very long response, and then at the end figured out the answer I should give you.

Listen to your heart. What is the Spirit trying to whisper to you?

Since you’re aro, check out the apostle Paul’s message in I Corinthians chapter 7. He says if you’re ace/aro, great! God has work for you. In fact, Paul seems to value being ace/aro over being married.

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I’ll still share the really long answer about whether marriage is necessary for exaltation,

I’ll begin with the Church’s answer. Then I’ll provide some historical context. And finally, I’ll share my thoughts.

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I suppose we should begin by defining what the LDS Church means by someone being exalted.

They will live in the presence of Jesus and God (which means living in the highest level of heaven)

They will become gods (children of God grow up to be like God)

They'll be united with their spouse for eternity, and linked to their righteous children and others through sealings

They will have eternal offspring (Wendy Watson Nelson is quoted in a 2020 manual for Sunday School teachers as saying marital sex "will continue eternally")

They'll receive everything Jesus and God have--power, glory, dominion and knowledge

Two of the items on the list involve being married/sealed together, which is why the LDS Church puts such an emphasis on this.

For those who are unmarried, or whose marriages aren't sealed in the temple, they can still make it to the highest kingdom of heaven but they will not be exalted, they'll be ministering angels

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In the Hebrew Bible (Old Testament), a person has to strictly observe all the Jewish laws involving sacrifice, prayer, and observance of holy days.

These laws cover everything from what clothes a person can wear, what they eat for lunch, and even if it’s okay to have sex with your wife when she is menstruating. God is very involved in the details.

These laws could be considered the "covenant path" of the Jewish faith.

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Jesus & his apostles reject the idea that people have to keep all the Jewish laws in order to be saved in heaven.

Rather than a bunch of boxes to check, Jesus taught there's simply 2 great commandments.

The first is to love God above all else.

The second is to work diligently for the welfare of others, especially the poor, outcasts, strangers, foreigners, marginalized and even those who are our hated enemies. In other words, help God accomplish His great work, which is us.

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This idea that Jesus rejected following strict laws and covenants, along with the command to love God, it lead to the Christian teaching of people being "saved" through their faith in Jesus.

First, a person has to believe that Jesus is the Son of God

Next, they must believe that they can't go to heaven unless Jesus saves them

Then they ask Jesus to come into their life by prayer. They admit that they've sinned and ask for forgiveness and pledge to follow Jesus for the rest of their life. This is often referred to as being "born again"

Finally, they are baptized as a sign of their commitment to Christ (baptism is not a requirement to get into heaven, but is a way to follow Christ’s example and show they've had a significant spiritual experience)

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Joseph Smith taught that most people go to heaven, and that heaven has layers.

To get to the highest level we must complete certain ordinances and live a certain way. President Nelson refers to this as the "covenant path."

Faith in Jesus (not an ordinance, but a requirement to begin this path)

Repentance (not an ordinance, but having a desire that to do better)

Baptism by immersion (symbolic of our repentance that washes us clean and saves us from eternal death to eternal life)

Laying on of Hands to receive the Holy Ghost

Melchizedek Priesthood ordination (for men only)

Washing & Annointing ordinance

Endowment ceremony

Celestial Marriage (sealed to spouse in the temple)

Sealing to parents (done in the temple, or if your parents were sealed to each other at the time of your birth, you were born sealed to them)

These collectively are known as the saving ordinances.

For people who died without completing this list of ordinances, these can be performed vicariously for them at the temple (except for the ordination to the Melchizedek priesthood).

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Since Joseph Smith put this new path of ordinances in place, there’s been a big change. For decades, "Celestial Marriage” meant polygamy, without it exaltation was not possible.

Since the Church was forced to stopped practicing polygamy, we've changed how we interpret the scriptures that talk about celestial marriage.

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In order to go to the temple to receive the saving ordinances necessary for exaltation, the Church requires we pass a worthiness interview. I suppose that in a sense, these are changes as to who qualifies to be exalted. This additional list of requirements includes:

follow the Word of Wisdom

sustain the current prophet and apostles

obey the law of chastity

pay a full tithe

attend church meetings and partake of the Sacrament

if divorced, pay your child or spousal support

wear the temple garments

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A Safeguard

There's many people who find themselves outside of this Covenant Path.

Many lived and died without knowing anything of Christ, and we do not have records for them and thus can’t do temple work for them

Some people are specifically forbidden by the Church from completing the requirements for exaltation

Queer people

In the past, people of African heritage were also forbidden by the LDS Church

Given there's an obvious lack of fairness and opportunity, there has to be a way to fix things, otherwise God would be very unjust.

I believe this idea has influenced the LDS concept of the Millennium, which is a period of 1,000 years of peace after Christ comes again.

The Church believes that during the Millennium, people will be taught the gospel, repent, marry, raise children. The temples will be busy with resurrected people getting temple ordinances done.

People who died single will have an opportunity to find someone to marry.

Some people believe that queer people will not be queer anymore and this will make it so they can find someone to marry and be sealed together.

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My thoughts.

We know next to nothing of heaven and post-mortal life, yet we speak about it in very definitive terms--what it’s like, who’ll be there, what they’re doing.

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I know we often speak of the highest level of heaven as very exclusive, but I’ve had the opportunity to speak with several Seventy and an apostle and they speak of the Millennium as the great hope.

Parents with wayward children should have hope, the lesbian should have hope, all will be made right, we all will have an opportunity to develop and grow. It sounds like everyone will be exalted if they want to be.

While I don’t quite agree with all the ways they think things will be fixed in the Millennium, I can get on board with the idea that God will make things right.

For example, the idea of a queer genocide that wipes out all LGBTQIA+ people and replace them with a cishet version of the person just doesn’t sit well with me.

What I do believe is that any blessing a person should’ve had during their lifetime will be made available to them.

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Something about the idea that in heaven married couples are having sex and creating babies for eternity is a little weird to me. Do women like the idea of an eternity of pregnancy? Imagine an eternity of morning sickness and child birth as your destiny.

Mormon scriptures teach that we all began as intelligences, without beginning or end. God came and organized intelligences into spirits. In that way we’re God’s spirit children. Does that sound like sex? It doesn’t to me. I don’t know when celestial sex became the Church’s explanation of what it means to organize intelligences.

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The ideas of what exaltation is causes leaders of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to struggle with the idea of people who are ace, trans, gay, aro and so on. They see themselves in the idea of heaven and not the rest of us.

Their idea of what exaltation means makes them see no space for queerness in God’s Plan.

That’s pretty bold to deny the existence of God’s diverse creations. Here we are, we exist, we are known, yet rather than expand the Plan, to find how we can fit into the Plan, they choose not to see us.

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It makes me very sad to think our Heavenly Parents might have set up a plan that would cause most of their children to not be exalted, and that means they’d never get to see those children or speak with them again, yet that’s what many Church members seem to believe.

If our Heavenly Parents are supposed to be a model for us on how to be parents, most humans would reject the idea of setting up a plan to make their kids fail so they would never see or speak to them again. That's the opposite of what we'd consider good parenting.

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While I find meaning in the ordinances performed by the LDS Church, I'm more inclined to believe what Jesus taught on the matter--Love God, love & lift those in need. Jesus called this "true religion" and those who follow it will find they do well in heaven, no matter what earthly church or religion they belong to.

I think of the story of 3 eighteen-year-olds who carried members of the Martin Handcart Company across the icy waters of the Sweetwater River. Those young men died from the extreme exposure, and upon hearing of what they did, Brigham Young wept and said they’d be exalted for their sacrifice. Their exaltation wasn’t dependent on being married or having the Melchizedek priesthood. Service & sacrifice for people in need was enough.

I imagine Mother Theresa, Gandhi, Nelson Mandela and others who've spent their life developing Christlike traits (regardless of whether they were Christian) will be much further ahead when the Millennium arrives. It only takes a few hours to complete the ordinances, and so much longer to become the kind of person who can be exalted.

I suspect a lot of Mormons will be surprised to find that their ordinances weren't enough to qualify them for exaltation

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Since I'm forbidden by the Church from being sealed to a husband, I instead focus on being a good person, on helping others, on being a great uncle and a good neighbor and friend.

Is marriage really necessary for exaltation? I don’t know.

I don’t know what heaven is like, there’s some Mormon beliefs about heaven that I really like, such most everyone goes to heaven, and we can be together with the people we most love.

While I don’t know much about heaven, I think we can know things about God’s character, and that’s what causes me to question some of what is taught about heaven & marriage and a Plan that excludes queer people.

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pbjpuppy · 5 years

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Finally Axel gets a real ref!! I love this big boy

More info about him under the cut!

Axel Cooper "Hey, bro!" Age: 24 Species: Blue-tongued skink Pronouns: He/Him Sexuality: Cishet (Ally) Birthplace: Canada Residence: New York, formerly in Reinough Family: TBA Friends: Vincent Takoda Personality Axel is the personification of the phrase "boys will be boys". An enthusiastic and optimistic gym rat, he's the life of any party and gets along with anyone. Although he comes across as an over-the-top frat bro (and he does love to party), he's far more intelligent and complex than he seems, and often gives his friends trusted advice. He's not afraid to set his friends straight when they're making bad decisions, and tries to be a good influence.. most of the time. His momma didn't raise him to misbehave, but we've all gotta have fun sometimes, eh? Although he excelled in sports for most of his life, especially football, his true passion lies in science, and he's training to study the spread of disease. Overall, Axel is the type of boy any girl wouldn't have to worry about bringing home, if he could ever get a girlfriend. Background Axel grew up in Reinough, New York, along with Vincent and Spencer Takoda, raised by his mother along with two younger twin siblings. His mother was a strict woman, and she had to be tough- being a single mother in such a male-dominated area was hard, and she had three kids to raise- but she was incredibly loving. Axel had a great relationship with his mother and always looked up to her, even before he was old enough to understand all she did for their family. Like many in Reinough, they were a Christian family, and Axel was raised religiously, but his mother was a progressive woman. She instilled in her children that everyone deserves equal love and treatment, and that women were not to be looked down upon; these values weren't common in Reinough and she worked to ensure her children grew up the right way. She stressed these things especially to Axel, her oldest, so that he could be a role model for his siblings. From the beginning he was sweet and tolerant of others. He befriended Vincent Takoda in elementary school, and the two quickly grew inseparable. When they were young, before they had been exposed to the choking masculinity of Reinough, the two would always be side-by-side, Vincent hanging off his taller friend's arm as they traversed the playground. Throughout elementary and into middle school they stayed best friends, accompanying each other through the rocky ups and downs of life and puberty ("Oh, god, feathers molt?! Vincent, I'm BALD! What do I DO!?"). Axel here had his first experiences with love and heartbreak when he got, and was was dumped by, his first girlfriend, and Vincent was there to comfort him ("She didn't deserve you anyways, man."). Middle school was a hard few years for Vincent, and Axel watched as his best friend changed into someone darker and sadder. Vincent's emotional nature and natural femininity had earned him bullies and lost him friends as other boys came to understand their masculine roles. Axel continued to love Vincent as he was, and, refusing to let him drift away, staunchly supported him. Their friendship was only cemented stronger by the time they reached high school. In high school, Axel's aptitude for sports reached its highest peak yet, and he flourished socially. Through the turbulence of popularity and relationships, he still remained close friends with Vincent, but the two had reached different levels of the social hierarchy. Also introduced into Axel's life was Jax Rawson, the violent upperclassman leader of the The Junkyard Dogs. The Junkyard Dogs were a vicious group, and Axel did his best to avoid them and Jax- secretly, they terrified him. His run-ins with the Dogs were few and far between, until Vincent befriended Jax's little sister, Abby Rawson. Suddenly, Jax seemed to have it out for Vincent- and Axel, loyal as ever, was there to protect him. Despite being afraid, Axel was far bigger than Jax, and occasionally intimidated the Dogs into leaving Vincent alone. During sophomore year, Axel watched Vincent befriend a new student- Danni Kings from Australia, a brooding, stoic student with a resting scowl. As time went on, it became obvious to him that Vincent's feelings for Danni weren't solely platonic. Vincent would talk at length about Danni to him, sparkling-eyed and blushing ("What? No I'm not!"), and Axel had seen how the two held hands when they thought nobody was looking. It was Vincent's business, though, and he went about supporting them silently, knowing that Vincent would be mortified to know he knew. One day, though, he walked in on the two kissing, and the "secret" was out. Later that night, Vincent came out to Axel, crying and ashamed, and though he was completely accepting he almost had to laugh- "Vin, I already knew." He continued to stand by Vincent as things got worse. In senior year, the tension peaked when Vincent had his falling out with Abby and was stabbed by Jax. When he visited the hospital, a scared and shaken Vincent told him about a plan to move away from Reinough forever. Although Axel was crushed to know his friend would be gone, he understood his decision, and loyally supported him until the very last moment. After their last few months and a tearful goodbye at the train station, Vincent departed, and while they exchanged texts he didn't see his best friend again for years... Until, of course, he got his Mansion letter. Mansion Events Axel is the only character to not live full-time at Mansion, switching between living there and his dorm room, depending on when school is in session. He was overjoyed to see Vincent again, and now that both of them have a stable living situation, they can both pursue the band they'd always wanted to start together- Vinny and The Burnouts. Although Axel's time is taken up by his studies, he always finds room in his schedule to practice the drums and have jam sessions with Vinny. As time goes on, the two go on tour together, chasing their dreams and closer friends than ever. Axel was the one that Vincent told the most about his visions when he discovered he was a timeline anomaly. Although there wasn't much that Axel could do to help him (and he didn't quite understand), he was always there to listen and help Vince destress. When Vincent and Danni get married, Axel is Vincent's best man. Relationships Vincent remains Axel's best friend. They're so close that they consider each other family. Axel considers Spencer, Vincent's little brother, part of his family as well. When they were younger, Spencer was always too shy to truly befriend him, but always looked forwards to saying hi when Axel came over. Axel kept an eye out for him in school as well- it was hard being a gay trans man in Reinough and Spencer could use the protection of a big scary jock. Spencer was grateful that Axel cared and always made sure he knew it was appreciated. Axel tried to reach out to him when Vincent moved away, knowing he was missing a big brother figure, but Spencer was too bitter to accept it. The two lost touch then, but reconnected years later through Mansion. Spencer was happy to see him again.. and developed a terrible crush on him, unbeknownst to Axel. Summer, another of Vincent's best friends, is someone who Axel is in the process of befriending. He wants to get to know her better, seeing as she's important to Vincent (and interesting on her own, too!), but she resists his attempts. She claims to find him annoying, but finds herself being nice to him sometimes.. only when nobody's looking, though. ("What? I don't get crushes! I'm dead!") Willow is the name of he and Vincent's (very attractive) manager. He's completely smitten with her, but she doesn't feel even close to the same way. ("That's rather unprofessional, Mr. Cooper.")

#monstrous art #axel #hes so good i'm *cries*#hes the type of boy character whos popular with lesbians

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freakflagbyiana · 3 years

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Unglamourous & Nonbinary

I grew up a cosplayer. Glamour and aesthetics as an art form have always been my happy place. But this strange pandemic era has found me exploring the absence of glamour, shadow glamour, the Unglamourous.

I would never wish to take someone else’s joy from them. I totally understand why people were dressing up for their one outing to get groceries or even just for themselves at home. I used to do that in the Before Times. Now I’m exploring a different way... the “down and dirty” way, as Clarissa Pinkola Estés (author of Women who Run with the Wolves) calls it.

To me, it feels like hibernation. It feels like saving my energy for all the glamour I’ll need “when this is over” and “when we can go out again” - which seems to be starting nowish.

Some of it relates to the concept of your “ghost outfit” - the outfit that you die in is the one you wear forever as a ghost - as many of us feeling like wraiths endlessly wandering the hallways of our own Bly Manor. Except mine is a two bedroom apartment and my ghost outfit is my favorite pajamas (like Annie Sawyer). Siri, play Every Day Is Exactly The Same by Nine Inch Nails. Some of it is the anthesis of the Magical Girl trope.

One of the reasons I loved Jennifer Connelly’s Sarah in Labyrinth is her “ghost outfit” is practical. Consisting of a loose fitting shirt, jeans, and sensible FLAT shoes. She doesn’t look like a princess except for the costume at the beginning (in Drag) and the ballroom scene (the male projection of what she should look like).

But I also carry a deep fondness in my heart for Sailor Uranus. All of the Sailor Scouts are “female” supposedly but this one pushes the boundary of binary...

the language of gender

My friend Angeliska and I have been in this reinvention journey into the non-binary. When they told me about their egg cracking, mine did too. It turns out, our femininity was mainly performative, drag, and it took removing the audience to see how deep that ran into our core beings.

"Please try to refrain from addressing me directly in messages as “Hey lady!” or “Hey woman!” or “Hey girl!” or “Hey mama!” because it makes me feel uncomfortable and itchy. I’m still figuring all this (my gender identity) out, because none of these were options I really knew were available for me, until fairly recently. Even the words/descriptors that are close enough for me, aren’t really quite right yet. One of the most important things that I’m learning is that I don’t owe anyone justification, or explanations. I don’t owe anyone androgyny. And that’s still hard for me - because I spent my entire life being told that I owed everyone a certain, very constrictive, very boring version of femininity. " -- Angeliska Polacheck

I too feel itchy when people say those things to me. The color pink sends me into a gender dysphoria induced rage. Someone put pink in my hair recently (long story for another blog) and I could not even live with it for 24 hours.

On TikTok, there’s something called a Themlin. Femlin but non-binary. A Femlin, lady-gremlin, is a gal who would be part of the (sassy, woke, feminist) Bimbo movement but is kinda too dirty... A bimbo but make it grunge. It’s a lot, I know, but that’s the shortest way to explain it.

I’m leaning into this Themlin concept. A few months ago I was surprised to find I like jogger pants now. I realized when I wear them with a Henley tank it gives me a gender euphoria from wanting to be Sigourney Weaver in Alien or Linda Hamilton in Terminator 2 when I was little. Side note: this tiktok explains why this character was my childhood nonbinary icon. I’m also reverting to wearing bike shorts, something I did a lot as a kid. Basically rediscovering how I dressed when I was a feral woodland “tomboy” child who was definitely definitely nonbinary but did not yet have language for it.

I have my clients to thank for this language. Over the last 3.5 years of owning my own salon, I have watched a few clients blossom as they realize they are trans or nonbinary and progress into their gender identity with gender-affirming clothes or hairstyles. The more I validated them, the more I realized I was validating myself, too.

While concept of my being nonbinary isn’t new, the awareness and language around it is new. For me personally, I did not realize that this also falls under the Transgender category umbrella.

performative feminity

My once bestie of 20 years, although more androgynous when we initially became friends, developed into a High Femme in our 20s and 30s. When we went out I often femmed up to be her counterpart because we liked wearing loosely corresponding outfits. I was always more goth, but in femme drag. It took me longer than her to get ready. When our relationship ended, I realized how much I was changing my aesthetic to meet her halfway, how much money I wasted on clothes I didn’t even feel comfortable in. I took longer to get ready because my gender-dysphoria was making me “itchy”.

Like many Drag performers, the first time I presented as another gender was Halloween, as Wayne Campbell. No one at the party recognized me “without makeup” and I found that concerning, as I knew it didn’t reflect how I thought of myself. I wore that costume all weekend and it was the first time in my life I could get ready in 15 minutes. I also felt more relaxed, less afraid, walking the streets late at night while presenting masculine.

In 2020-2021, taking a break from the glamourous beautician life has made me realize how much of my performative femininity was due to my career, too. There’s this unspoken rule that female-bodied people in the beauty industry have to be “beautiful” and “beautiful” equates to femme, makeup, hair done, etc. It used to take me 2 hours to get put together for work everyday. But a male stylist can throw on jeans and a tshirt and no makeup and be ready for work in 15 minutes. Fuck that, I want that to be acceptable for anyone. Glamour should always be a choice. It should be a treat, not the baseline by which you are considered professional. There are certainly successful female-bodied stylists who aren’t made-up and femme but it’s swimming upstream, not the status quo.

When I first started out, I had black hair just over my shoulders and nothing was shaved (I have a lot of hair so usually some is undercut). It was the hottest summer on record and I had a 2 hour bus journey to get to work every day so I was standing outside a lot. I didn’t want my hair to get sweaty so I wore it in Wednesday Addams braids as a protective hairstyle. My employer pulled me aside and told me I couldn’t do that every day. I didn’t argue, but to this day I still don’t understand why that isn’t professional. From then on I would have to wash my hair every day (because of the sweat) and would leave the house with clean, flat ironed hair that was doused in dry shampoo as a preventative measure. But it would become dirty by the time I got to work, because standing outside waiting for the bus adds sweat and literal road dirt being kicked up by the street. My hair didn’t grow any longer because it kept breaking off. (Shortly after that I quit shampoo and started using a cowash)

It’s so much work that cishet men don’t even consider doing. Part of the way patriarchy keeps female-bodied people under the boot is by keeping us at a deficit of Time & Money. By simply being born in a female body, our existence costs more money. We have to pay for menstruation products, birth control, makeup, hair and other grooming maintenance. We are operating with fewer free hours in the day... many of us with families do the majority of child-rearing, showing up to work without makeup is considered unprofessional so we spend time doing that, sometimes we hang out at venue for longer so that a friend can leave with us, because our safety is constantly threatened simply by being outside while “female”.

Side note, I would be fine with the makeup requirement at work thing, if men had to do it too.. Make Men Wear Eyeliner Again. Requirements for EVERYBODY, or nobody. But to be considered worthy and valuable part of society, female-bodied people have to groom for hours, remove all of our body hair, do the majority of emotional labor in relationships if we’re dating men, are EXPECTED to want and enjoy children.

If you don’t do these things, you are considered invalid. Your value is defined by your beauty as an object, while remaining silent, and ability to bear and raise children. All of this leaves us too poor, distracted, and tired to REVOLT!

So in 2020, I decided I’m done. I’m dropping all the femininity that I learned as a form of daily drag directly connected to my value, and starting over at the base level. This will help me decide what aspects of outer femininity I truly choose to participate in. Of course, I am only talking about Femininity here since I am an AFAB (Assigned Female At Birth) person. But the same goes for Masculinity. The value of AMAB people should not rely solely on their ability to embody things traditionally considered Masculine. Toxic Masculinity is an entirely different discussion, however it deserves an honorable mention here since I’m talking about performative gender.

moving forward

The Zoom culture of the pandemic has helped others drop performative gender already. I know people who don’t wear bras for work anymore because they Work From Home. It’s beautiful to see people awaken to their true priorities, what makes them contented and what is an unnecessary drain of their energy.

The lesson here is that life is too short to be living it for other people. I learned this a long time ago when I was a babygoth, but now it translates to gender norms and conscious acts of dismantling the white supremacist patriarchy.

We all have work to do. Something I am working on myself is deprogramming using the term “Dude” in a gender-neutral way. It’s really difficult for those of us who grew up in the 80s-90s. But the thing that changed my mind is when someone said something like “if it was truly gender-neutral then a hetero man would have no problem saying ‘I slept with this hot dude last night’ ” ...touché. Something important to remember is cisgender people don’t get to tell the trans community what words are acceptable for people to use in reference to them. Using new pronouns for someone can be difficult because personally my mouth speaks before my brain fully processes awareness of it all... Like Tourette’s, you don’t mean anything by it but that doesn't negate the impact it has on other people. However, I know from experience on both sides of the situation that if you use the wrong pronoun and correct yourself, indicating that you are aware of the person’s gender identity and are making an effort, it shows you respect them. And that’s all we want. That’s the part that makes us feel seen, even when you make a mistake.

I wanted to end on an esoteric note. In this post, my friend Jonah Welch muses on the NonBinary space being the “Alchemical Point” as in - the point of Transformation between two stationary states. They call it the Divine Androgyny. This is a microsummary, please go read the whole post and follow for more. It’s a really good thing to think about if this blog resonated with you and you’re feeling called to this journey too.

Visibility is important, I want to thank everyone who helped me on this journey myself. There are so many of us out now (including 80% of Gen Z it seems) thanks to the global internet community coming together. It feels like the tide is actually turning and people are starting to get it... including a greater understanding of us ourselves. This is your gentle reminder to love yourself and your Divine Androgyny.

the fun stuff

Here is my “gaylist” I listen to during Pride month and throughout the rest of the summer. Below are links for those curious to explore further.

Helpful Links:

Ally resources for cis people

Transgender Teen Survival Guide

The Genderbread Person

Trans Rosary Circle

Jeffery Marsh for everyday motivation & education

book: Jeffery Marsh - How to be You

Alok V Menon for everyday inspiration

Alok: How Fashion Designed the Gender Binary

TTSG Trans resources masterpost

Gender Expression ≠ Gender Identity

The Truth about Sailor Uranus

Singular “They” is correct English

GC2B, personal favorite chest binders!

I’m not your guy, Dude. Why language really does matter

Thanks for reading. I hope you felt included and seen. Happy exploring & Happy Pride Month!

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