#i dont think i know straight cis people on tumblr

[yukishirostar]

So people are talking about a post in the Zolu tag by a certain tumblr user in regards to their issues with Zolu as a ship. They shall be unnamed because i dont wish to bring attention to them and instead just want to focus on their arguments because they're not the first people to make some of these points and so this is also an opportunity for me to talk about these things (a tweet is going around on Twitter containing these screenshots with the username so you can find it there if you need to anyway).

The way this person dismisses the relationship between Zoro and Luffy as a result of needing to pair gay Zoro with someone is too laughable, they must be very fit in order to be able to do these mental gymnastics. I believe that many people who are going on about the Zolu scenes in the OPLA were already Zolu shippers who were familiar with the original story and are enjoying the moments because they were well, really good Zolu moments? And there is actually, shockingly, many good Zolu moments in the original story too which is why many people ship them. Wild, I know.

Then there's 'straight-washed Sanji'. Equally if not more of a bizarre thing to believe. I might make some people mad especially the Sanji stans out there who constantly insist on the 'repressed queer' narrative with his character, but Sanji is written pretty explicitly to be seen as a cisgender and heterosexual character. The way you say with your whole chest that Luffy is 'canonically' aroace but don't acknowledge that Sanji is 'canonically' cishet is beyond hypocritical. If you believe Sanji looking like a 'misogynistic straight man' is different from the way he is written in canon then maybe you should go back and reread/rewatch series with your eyes open this time. If you wish to headcanon him with the frankly offensive repressed bisexual/transgender cliché then go ahead, but that is clearly not the intention Oda has with his character.

There's also the fact that aroace people can uh. Be in relationships. Get married. Have children. Did it occur to you that many people who ship Zolu ship them as an ace couple or-

First thing I want to say here, as a trans man who is 'mlm', can other dudes stop with this idea that women or fem-aligned individuals enjoying homosexual relationships between two men is inherently fetishising or that as a masc-aligned individual your enjoyment of a ship is morally superior in some way. Stop pulling out your 'mlm/ transmasc / cis gay' card in order to justify why your ship is superior. Its cringe af.

But if we are to insist that 'cishet female gaze fetishising mlm' is going on then ironically Zosan fits that the better than any ship in the fandom. It being by far the most popular mlm ship means there is likely a higher proportion of people who identify as cishet women who ship it. Its also the classic 'two men who dislike/hate eachother and have a toxic relationship but hot sexual tension' slash/yaoi stereotype. Majority of Zosan I've come across is depicting Zoro as the masculine male man in the relationship while Sanji the effeminate twink that Sanji stans project themselves onto and they go crazy for the bickering that is apparently reminiscent to them of a toxic heterosexual marriage. Meanwhile every Zolu/Luzo shipper I've interacted with has been some flavour of queer and Zolu is closest to the 'falling in love with your same sex bestie' narrative that the majority if not every non-heterosexual person has experienced at least once in their lifetime. This is just my personal view of course, but I think noting a difference in perspective on this topic is interesting and reveals that at the end of the day this is totally subjective and based purely on anecdotes.

Also it's just a very weird point here that apparently OP has 'plenty of varied queer rep' (it actually doesn't have that many canonical queer characters in relation to its cast size but anyway) and other media doesn't so shipping aroace characters in gay relationships is valid in those but not in One Piece … HUH???? So you're saying if One Piece had 'less' queer rep, then Zolu would be fine to ship? Idek my brain hurts.

"I have black friends so I'll speak for the black community and get offended for them" (btw this person then proceeded to block aroace people who had issues with their depiction of aroace people).

Also if we're talking canonical depictions, the only thing Zoro has been canonically depicted as is also aroace, equally if not moreso than Luffy. So by your own rules, you can't ship a cishet (sanji) with an aroace (zoro), therefore Zosan is now invalid. Stop erasing Zoro's aroace identity bigot.

'Categorically wrong' makes me laugh. I don't ship Zoro and Nami but like, people can ship what they want to??

'The general public is aware enough of gay people and how to spot them these days' uh... firstly this sounds very homophobic. Secondly the general public (cishet ppl) are famously bad at recognising queerness even when its in flashing lights before them. Thirdly you make it sound like Zoro was going around on roller skates and booty shorts listening to YMCA and Madonna in the show. I do agree he was gay-coded but it was mostly because he had sexual tension with every man he interacted with, not for the strange reasons you pointed out...

Its kinda the elephant in the room too but like. These are just headcanons. You can have multiple headcanons and interpretations of a character's sexuality. I can see Zoro as aroace virgin one day and a gay h*e the next. I'm actually allowed, legally, to do that.

The way they think shipping Zolu is harmful to aroace representation when BOTH characters are closest to being canonically aroace than anything yet ship Zosan, label being anti-Zolu as some kind of pro-ace activism, and then proceeded to block aroace people for criticising their incorrect depiction of what being aroace is...

This was a lot of words to say that you don't like a ship. Just say you don't like it, and it gets in the way of the ship you like, instead of writing a virtue signalling essay to justify your reasoning. Please.

They had some more to say on future posts I'll just pick my favourite bits

They really have this narrative that Zolu is only popular because of OPLA and can't fathom that its just a popular ship in general and always has been huh. And they couldn't make it more obvious that they're totally salty about it ranking in the top 100 most popular tumblr ships, lmao.

Your classic case of 'self-identifying ally who speaks over the people they are supposed allies of'. Its a general rule that you feel the need to declare yourself an ally you're probably not an ally, actual allies know they need to just shut up and do the work. Saying 'this character's aroace' and 'I have aroace friends' actually isn't what allyship is, thats just accepting that ace people exist which is like... the baseline.

Calling a wholesome loving ship like Zolu an icky ship is a severe consequence of online brain (this person is 26 years old btw)

#long post #Zolu #Luzo #One Piece #response

[decolonize-the-left]

What is there left to learn?

All you need to know of any good branch of leftism is that self determination and freedom is above everything.

We stand against so much because so much has been created to get in the way of that.

Money often gets in the way by imposing literal pay walls to basic needs so we oppose it. Racism gets in the way when racist gatekeepers prevent POC from receiving equal care, equal service, and equal access to resources so we oppose it. The same goes for all the other -isms and bigotries such as misogyny and homophobia.

Human beings come in all shapes, sizes, colors, sexualities, and genders. We are beautifully diverse this way, it's literally human nature.

And so we must learn to live and accept people different from ourselves.

Nobody has more rights or humanity than anyone else. Nobody has the right to enforce their own determinations and truths on anyone else. There is no singular way of being that is Right or makes you more deserving than the rest, that gives you the right to control others because it's just such a Good way of living. There never will be.

There is no natural way to determine what a good, deserving human looks like. And that's why leftism supports and hears all oppressed people.

Every single excuse and method that attempts to control/feel superior are all social constructs. Ex:

You're rich, fiscally responsible and think you're better than others? Money isn't natural, it's barely even real. It's something that some human made up one day to feel better than the others. It may as well be called pixie dust. And without it you're just like the rest of us.

Being White didn't mean anything before some human decided they could gain self esteem by reducing the perceived worthiness of Black and Brown ppl. Without made-up ideas of race you're just like the rest of us, made of the same hunger and thirst and love as we are.

Cis and Trans or Gay and straight are just different ways for humans to be born and exist. Some people like their bodies, some don't. Some people kiss the same sex, some dont. You aren't superior for being cis or only kissing one sex. You won't get a trophy for denying the kind of human you are or for making others feel bad about the kind of human they are either.

There is no natural test for superiority in humans because human superiority is unnatural. For any of us.

The only measure of being Better than others was how much better you were at being a community member; how much you contributed to the betterment of your peers. You didn't brag about being white, you bragged about how you killed so many deer that your people certainly will Not be starving.

We were born to share this planet and our only ACTUAL job is to take care of each other and the planet in whatever way we can. It's the only thing we've ever owed each other.

Racism, ableism, colonization, capitalism, white supremacy, genocide, Nazis, Zionists, etc.

These are not concepts that deserve to be kept alive. Anything that makes you hate someone else or makes you feel more Worthy than someone else has no place in the future.

I say all this because I feel like I'm beating a dead horse on this blog so often. I really do try to stay educational and focus on solidarity. But there's only so much that words can do without action.

And words without action are as good as dust in the wind.

I love this blog, but I'm long over this. We need to act. There is a genocide happening and I'm starting to believe that everyone who wants to stop it Already knows about it. They do not need awareness. They don't need voices. They need direction. They need community. They need support and bodies to help intimidate police.

They need us.

And instead I blog on Tumblr trying to rally people that hardly reblog a call to action.

This blog is starting to feel like a symptom of the system. A time-consuming distraction for me. And a way for you to placate yourselves while the world gets worse.

Just following leftists doesn't make you a good person. Having the Right opinions doesn't make you a good person. Even believing in equality doesn't make you a good person if you don't do something about it.

I'm tired of begging for people to organize and protest and show up for each other.

I'm convinced that if you ever had the intention of doing so then you already are. And if you're not then that's a choice you've made.

You either support genocide or you fight it, you know?

I don't know what else there is to learn or say. What are you waiting for? An invitation?

Please go fucking organize and join a protest.

In other news....I am getting closer to deleting this blog every day.

#on all level but physical i am on my knees banging my head against the wall #leftist #Decolonize #whiteness #free palestine #socialism #anarchist #self determination #native sovereignty #sovereignty #liberation #revolution #Palestine #BLM #ableism #lgbt #capitalism #biden #ndn #palestine #democrats #republican #social justice #trans #abolish ice #abolish capitalism #abolish the police #abolish prisons #Decolonization #decolonize palestine

[biracy]

abt your post abt bi women belonging in the wlw community just as much as lesbians : i was reading the replies and youre so right abt how ignorant people are abt what comphet really is. im a lesbian and like yea i think we would experience comphet in the most intense way since were not attracted to men in any level, but comphet isnt only abt that, its a symptom of the patriarchy forcing women to center men in their lives and hell even straight women experience comphet, let alone bi women. people just have thrown around the word comphet so much they dont even know the true meaning

I was actually gonna post abt this soon LMAO so yeah!! I think it's also a misunderstanding of what "heterosexuality" as a dominant social force is to say that lesbians who are not attracted to men can experience "comphet", but bisexual women who are attracted to men cannot experience it. "Heterosexuality" as it is defined by dominant social forces is not only "a relationship between a man and a woman" - it's almost always a relationship between a "masculine" man and a "feminine" woman, and quite often a relationship between a man and a woman that results in monogamous marriage and childbirth. When people write about comphet, they're not talking about how movies and TV and fairy tales and children's books and my parents and my teachers and my religion all came together and told me to want to fuck genderfucky bi guythings. There is a specific kind of man centered in the heterosexuality enforced onto women, and a specific kind of role that a woman is expected to take on in that heterosexuality. I think the idea that bi people (women especially) cannot experience "comphet" overlaps a lot with people who believe that all bisexual people have the capability to become "straight-passing" if they enter different-gender relationships, which is in and of itself based on, in my observances, the belief that "gay/lesbian culture" and "bisexual culture" are completely distinct and that bisexual people are in some way innately less capable of being gender-nonconforming (or as some Tumblr scholars will call it, "visibly queer"). Bisexual people often date each other, we're often trans and/or visibly gender-nonconforming, and that's not something that we can just turn off the minute we enter into a quote unquote "heterosexual relationship." I'm bisexual, I'm nonbinary and id as both a man and a woman (so I take part in all these "sapphic" conversations etc etc u know the drill), I'm weird and kinky and switchy, I'm polyamorous, right now I'm dating a cis butch bi girl and a trans + nonbinary pan guy. At this point in my life I have absolutely no interest in relationships with cishet men, I don't want to get monogamously married, I never want to have children. I have not performed heterosexuality any better than, idk, a "gold star lesbian" has, and I FEEL it, I'm given shit for it, every relative I have pressures me already about boyfriends and grandkids and whatever. I do think there are bisexual people sometimes who do conform more to Straight Society but a) I think there are an equal amount of gay guys and lesbians who conform to Straight Society tbqh and b) it doesn't cover the breadth of bisexual people who do exist and who do feel the pressure to conform to the mainstream, dominant social system of heterosexuality and who CANNOT conform to it any more than you, anon, probably can. So yeah TL;DR bi girls can definitely experience "comphet" lmao and people are probably gonna hate that I said that

#ask #anon #lgbt #bisexuality #comphet #i've seen similar conversations about how even straight trans people are seen as existing outside of heterosexuality #bc heterosexuality is not 'when a man and a woman date'. it's a system

[polyamorouspunk]

sleepover friday thing and im sorry if i've already sent you an ask about this, i have the worst memory in the world at the best of times. with that out of the way... how do i cope with my orientation doing a 180? my whole life, starting from when i was about 10, ive identified as a lesbian. i exclusively dated girls (or people who identified as girls at the time anyway) and non-binary people. i was only attracted to girls and non-binary people. when i thought about being married in the future, it was always to a woman or non-binary person.

then i met my soulmate and he was a man. i dont use the term lightly either -- im talking about love at first meeting, spending time together as often as possible, sharing secrets, the whole thing. i plan on getting a tattoo dedicated to him. i still called myself a lesbian, just with one exception, because he was the only man i ever loved. and then he went dormant and hasnt come back (hence the tattoo).

then i started noticing i sometimes got crushes on men but not very often. now it's a couple years later and it struck me the other day that i don't think i'm sexually attracted to women anymore. just men and non-binary people. and it really threw me for a loop. ive been a lesbian my whole life but now im not? i'm almost exclusively (sexually) xlm now. which is certainly hard to deal with since i'm dating someone who is woman-aligned.

this is really long im so sorry i didnt mean to ramble so much akskfkf but do you have any words of advice for someone whose identity flipped on its head and feels lost now

I doubt that I’m going to say anything revolutionary here, so I’m just going to talk.

Things change for everyone. Different things change for different people. I don’t want to discount the experiences of certain people like men who are attracted to cis women exclusively, women who are attracted to cis men specifically, men who are only attracted to men, women who only attracted to women, etc. When I say stuff like “sexuality is fluid” it’s in the same way you say “gender is fluid” knowing that for some people it 100% isn’t, but it CAN be.

Some people have a very hard time accepting that sexuality can be fluid. It’s been pointed out before that some people are all for playing around with your gender and calling yourself a woman as a cis man in drag or calling yourself a liquid because your gender is so fluid or going “none of the above” in those gender questions or any amount of things like that. But as soon as someone implies that sometimes you can be a lesbian and sometimes you can be a gay man and those things can coincide or change certain people get really up in arms.

Complicated sexualities and gender have been around longer than any of us, and certainly around longer than tumblr and the internet. Perhaps my own favorite example is talking about how bisexuals and lesbians used to fall under the same or at least a more similar label in Stone Butch Blues. Before the phenomenon of lesbian separatists.

Bisexual lesbians and pansexual gays and all those kinds of things, while perhaps POPULARIZED by social media, existed long before that. Why is the idea that trans people existed before tumblr not a novel idea but the fact that perhaps wlw were all lumped under the phrase “lesbian” because there were women with more complicated sexualities like might fit under the label “bi lesbian” today wild and unacceptable to some people?

The idea that you can call yourself a lesbian exclusively but have some exceptions or call yourself gay exclusively but have an exception or hell even call yourself straight but have an exception is not a new thing. I, personally, love straight cisgender male content creators who say shit like “I’m not gay but I would make out with that man”. Cracks me the fuck up. I want more of that shit. But suddenly if a lesbian says “I’m not straight but I would make out with that man” it’s like woah woah woah are you sure you’re REALLY a lesbian?

Plenty of people who are straight/gay/lesbian fully accept that you can ID as one of those things and still use that label if you have on exception or even a few. Some do not, and will say if your thoughts even stray from your assigned sex of attraction then you are not allowed to use that label.

There will people who will say you can’t call yourself a lesbian if you’ve had sex with a man before even if you didn’t enjoy it. Gold star lesbian mentality.

The idea of sexuality being fluid is sadly a controversial one, as is every facet of being “in the community”. But for many people it is.

I see it a lot like coming to terms that you are not in fact cisgender. You go your whole life believing, truly believing, that you are a cis girl perhaps, until suddenly one day you realize you are NOT. Maybe there weren’t “signs” that you were trans along the way. Maybe one day it just hit you like a ton of bricks. What do you do? How do you cope?

Well. How do you cope with any other thing that hits you like a ton of bricks? How do you cope with someone you thought loved you deciding to dump you and never speak to you again in a day? How do you cope with being fired from a job you felt so secure in and planned on being in for at least another decade? How do you cope with the unexpected death of a loved one?

Over time. You try not to stress it. You try and move through your days by keeping it in the back of your mind until time has dulled that immediate pain enough for you to reconsider. The pain isn’t going to go away. But it can become manageable. You cannot deal with things if you are screaming and crying and hyperventilating and throwing things. You need to wait until you’re not doing any of those things in order to deal with the issue at hand, for a vivid and extreme example.

What does it mean to you to be xlm? I call myself a bi lesbian. On this blog I call myself trans masc and mlm. On my main I’m a [girl] and a bi lesbian. To me that means I, Savanna, personally will have sex with people who have a vagina, as someone who also has a vagina. Be they trans men, trans women, cis women, nonbinary/other. I do not like the idea of having sex with an actual flesh and blood and cummy dick, HOWEVER I’m open enough to say “I haven’t really been in a position in my life right now where someone has wanted to jam their dick inside of me, so I haven’t really had to worry about that. If it comes to that point, I can’t say for sure that I’m going to be like ‘ew no a dick’ even though I do not like dicks. Depending on the person and the situation I might be willing to make an exception.” And hey. There are people I might be with who have a vagina that I might just be like hey you know what? I don’t want to have sex. For whatever reason.

Your partner is woman-aligned, so I’m sure in your mind that’s not something you’re aesthetically attracted to right now. But sexually might you be? Do you think you’re having another exception to your sexuality like you did before?

Try your best not to worry about it and try to come to any conclusions until you’ve given it some time. I’m not sure how long it’s been since you came to this realization, maybe it’s been a few days, maybe it’s been a few weeks. But take the time you need to not make an emotional response to it in regards to your current relationship. Do what you’re doing and talk to other people about it. When you’re ready, you should talk to your partner about it. Perhaps there’s accommodations and arrangements that can be made. I’ve said before even though I’m transmasc here like if a cishet guy wanted to date me only as his gf I would be willing to compromise on my gender expression for that most likely. My gender isn’t a huge deal to me. Things like that.

Take it slow and take your time. Don’t make any rash decisions. Talk it out. Don’t worry about feeling like you “made a mistake” or are “living a lie”. We wouldn’t tell someone who came out as trans things like that, so much as gender changes and/or is fluid so is sexuality.

#punk gets mail #the punk gives good advice

[farmerlesbian]

where is the line between transmasc/genderweird lesbians and Men with a capital M? i dont think there really is one, but as a lesbian who straddles that line, people are constantly trying to shame me onto one side or the other and its exhausting. i think sometimes the ppl trying to protect our community by keeping men out end up targeting mostly ppl who are in between or overlapping categories and are typically trans, instead of like, Cisguys preying on dykes. its become a real problem in the community just being visibly trans or butch tbh

i don't think it's possible to articulate A Line. i agree with you and don't really have anything to add!

i'll just say what i've said before. it's fuzzy/blurry. the nuances and intricacies of someone's gender through the narrow slice the internet (on anon!) is not enough for a stranger to make any sort of call about! it's something that individuals with non-binary gender experiences gotta use their own discretion about. people should go about these things with a mindset of using their best judgement and engaging in good faith, instead of like, pushing the boundaries of what is "allowed". instead of seeking approval and validation, seek to look inside onesself and determine 'is this for me? is this space for me? do i genuinely feel like i'm intruding and pushing the boundaries or do i feel like i'm being pushed out and unjustly excluded?'. those are different feelings and while i can imagine it's hard to discern sometimes, maybe talking with your irl people you can figure it out. yeah sometimes you gotta ask a clarifying question here and there to the organizers of the space in question -- i certainly do when seeing (nonlesbian) events for "femmes" and stuff like that haha!

i'm sorry that you're dealing with people being shitty to you about straddling the line. i know i see it, people having this like compulsive need to find rules and permission and categories for everything, needing to push people into one box or another in order to make sense of them, to know how to see you and treat you. and it sucks! it sucks even more because the boxes are WRONG! it hurts and they don't get you.

for ME, when i say "no men" i mean people who are men period. no additions no explanations no complications. just a straight up man. a fully binary man, if you will. i do not intend to apply this to people with funky genders. to trans folks straddling lines. i think if someone is genderweird or got somethin funky goin on they aren't a straight up Man capital M with no qualifiers! do you see yourself as a man or not, deep down? (general you, not you anon!) i do apply it to trans men and cis men alike. i see no reason to separate the two as if trans men aren't really men. because there ARE binary trans men. there are binary cis men! there are a LOT of them out there in the world! some of them are even on tumblr! are there ALSO trans men that feel also kinda butch at the same time and like a little dykey? maybe. i dunno any personally so i'm not gonna make harsh calls and big rules and statements. i'd expect people to make their own judgement calls and use their discretion and best judgment! i absolutely do not want to push someone out who feels that it is their community and that they deserve to belong in it. this is why i don't patrol my followers list except for bots (common lately ugh tumblr!) and obvious gross lesbophobes (quite rare).

sorry this got so long. lmao i say i'm not gonna add anything and then next thing i know you have an essay!! sorry!! hope it makes sense. basically i fully agree with you and i'm sorry you are having people shame you and push you. they should not do that and i do not support it and it is not what i think We should be doing as a lesbian community.

#ask farmer lesbian #mod alfalfa #i can't speak for anyone but myself #idk what to tag this as #gender #nonbinary #please tell me if this makes sense or if i'm being confusing #i can ask my woife to summarize if necessary she is a woman of few words #anonymous #'i have nothing to add' *proceeds to write an essay* lmao

[i-like-omori]

no one asked, but here's my omori headcannons

no one ever asked for my opinion but i still wanna share these are romantic/s*xuality headcannons, maybe a few others but at the time of writing idk these wont have explanations besides just like, if you've been in the fandom and know where im comming from (is saying s*x or anything related bannable to tumblr? i dont want to risk it so everything will be cencored)

sunny

he thinks he's 100% straight.

gynoromantic or neptunic gynoromantic: can like anyone, but they'd have to have prominent feminine traits neptunic: only liking non-binary people and girls

aegos*xual doesn't want s*x physically but can still think about it I guess

most likely cisgender

omori aromantic having no romantic attraction as*xual having no s*xual attraction*

kel

doesn't know much about the LGBTQ community, but knows he's at least not straight

biromantic bis*xuality, but romantically*

bis*xual or gigas*xual /j + orchids*xual bis*xual: likes both men and women** orchids*xual: expirences s*xual attraction but doesn't want s*x at all gigas*xual:

😭help- ok back to seriousness ···

most likely cisgender

aubrey

fights her homosexuality, hates it with a passion.

biromantic (with preference to women) or lesbian biromantic* lesbain: a woman who only likes other women

bis*xual or lesbain bis*xual**

most likely cisgender

basil

he knows, kel knows, sunny knows, aubrey knows, hero knows, mari knew, it's obvious, but he still says "straight"

gay.

gives me genderfluid but tends to be male presenting 98% of the time, but probably cisgender

hero

one of those guys who get really nervous when speaking to gay people hero - "haha i love fruit.. wait.. i-is that offensive? i'm sorry, i dont know if the term 'fruit' or 'fruity' is okay to say.." kel - "dude we're talking about watermelons here."

heteros*xual ally

grays*xual only sometimes feeling s*xual attraction

cis.

mari

trys to learn everything she can and be as understanding as possible. Tries to help hero out of his paranoia around offending people.

heteros*xual ally

as*xual*

cisgender

hopefully these are cool 👍

#headcanon #headcannons #omori #lgbtq #lgbtq headcanons #omori basil #omori kel #omori sunny #omori aubrey #omori hero #omori mari #im tired #it's past my bedtime

[queenburd]

Honestly, I dont think I could mask, even if I wanted to (which I dont). I am incapable of containing how much I care abt shit and boy has it gotten me into Situations. 

I wear old cringe fandom pins in public, I talk to cashiers and bank tellers that “today’s laaaaundry day”, I pretty much radiate queer energy to the point where my neighbors thought i and my roommate were lesbians (nope, not girls, not in a relationship, nada). they are fully aware of how Not Cis Or Straight I am. I’ll ramble abt my tragic backstory for funsies.

I just.... cannot contain my feelings abt things. if you’ve read any of my fics on ao3 or tumblr, or even any of my poems, you would know Im Unable to Not Be Sincere, even while Im making stupid jokes.

The most I could say that I “mask” is that I don’t want to annoy people whose opinions I care abt. that is a pretty small number! and those people are usually more than happy to share in my joy with me.

so this is me, telling you, Unmask on my content. put dumb yelling tags on reblogs of my art and posts, leave wild replies, send me asks and talk to me about the thing. if we both care about the thing then you don’t have to hide from me abt it. Promise.

[parfaitpuppymogai]

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♡ pronoun/name suggeztionz & checkz (💌 i know it sounds crazy)

♡ chatting/misc poztz (💗 so please baby please baby step into the mist!)

♡ reblogging thingz from my old acc that im ztill proud ov (🍥 ghost town)

ₓ˚. ୭ ˚○ i will KNOT do ｡･:*:･ﾟ☆,｡･:*:･ﾟ☆

♡ anything 2 do with groupz im not apart ov

♡ coining 4 harmvul/hatevul identities (exx. dream minecraft sexual, clovergender, etc)

♡ anything on the blacklizt

ₓ˚. ୭ ˚○ boundariez ｡･:*:･ﾟ☆,｡･:*:･ﾟ☆

♡ due 2 my anxxiety involving death threatz n hate mezzagez n the like, i do not allow anon azkz, srry ómò (thdr@m@s amirite...) iv u want to req something anonymouzly plz dm me it!!

♡ i haz a topic blacklizt which basically has everything i revuse 2 make terms based on, plz do not suggest anything on the topic blacklizt!!

♡ le dni appliez 2 anyone who fits it, idc iv ur public abt it or not

♡ iv ur on my dni plz do not uze my termz, and do not recoin/"reclaim"/baztardize them!! (n plz do not complain abt it to me iv u r pro-endo. u already haz tonz ov alternative labelz 2 use az most ov the mogai community iz unvortunately pro-endo.)

♡ u can repozt my termz p much anywhere, EXCEPT 4 fandom wikiz. but PLZ credit me and specify that i do not want endoz uzing my termz!! (exx. "coined by softfuzzyaemogai on tumblr. the coiner is uncomfy with nontraumagenic systems using their terms.")

ₓ˚. ୭ ˚○ b4 u interact ｡･:*:･ﾟ☆*:･,｡･:ﾟ☆

♡ i do not tag/cw swearing/provanity, however i do tag/cw reclaimed slurz.

♡ i am a furry, iv ur uncomvy w that plz just fucking block me.

♡ iv u bring up anything on the topic blacklizt towardz me plz censor it!! /srs

♡ plz uze tone tagz when interacting

♡ iv ur gonna dm me abt anything, plz put an underztandable intro (like your virzt mezzage, or the mezzage zubject, etc). i wanna know what the mezzage iz abt,, zeeing "(no zubject)" or "we need to talk" makez me rlly anxiouz

ₓ˚. ୭ ˚○ do not interact iv u... ｡･:*☆:･,｡･:ﾟ☆

♡ know me irl

♡ are already on bad termz w me

♡ vall under bazic dni criteria

♡ are friends w anyone on my people blacklizt. i literally CANNOT trust u iv u r :(

♡ arent gay but still engage in gay flag discourse or have "x flag users dni"

♡ you go by the namez mentioned in my topic blacklizt

♡ dream/dsmp fans

♡ dhmis avatars (regular fanz r ok, but those w avatars vrom the show make me super uncomvy)

♡ uze wrath neopronounz, such as wra/wrath/wraths. someone with those neoz haz traumatized me & it's like one ov my biggest triggerz.

♡ are tolerant/a fan ov 4ch*n, l*lc*w, kiwif*rms, etc. im zurprized thiz iznt under bazic criteria

♡ headcanon lgbt characterz as thingz they arent. for example, headcanoning a canonically gay man as a nonbinary lesbian

♡ are a lgbt f*tsihiz*r (straight ppl who read yaoi, cis ppl who like "traps/f*mb*ys", etc)

♡ are a lgbt exclus ov any kind (ex. dont think asexxualz belong in the community, think xxenogenderz r "the reason cishetz think actual trans ppl r faking", etc)

♡ heavily r*lig*ous

♡ find thingz about me obnoxiouz to the point where you feel the need to talk about it

♡ my zpecial intereztz are a trigger/dizcomvort vor you

♡ into g*recore/h*tecore

♡ fans ov fucked up media (ex. fnf vs /v/-tan mod, alfr*ds pl*yhouse)

♡ fans ov my triggerz (i wont list them publicly 4 my own savety, but i will block u myselv iv i vind out)

♡ you think cisphobia, heterophobia, racism against whites, etc. iz an actual problem

♡ you think women can be vincian/vincians can like women, or that men can be lesbians/lesbians can like men (this includes demiboy lesbians/demiboy gays)

♡ you make jokez abt traumatic things (ex. "this song slaps harder than my dad") (those who have that trauma n use humor to cope r ok)

･:*:･ﾟ☆,｡･:*:･ﾟ,｡･:*:･ﾟ☆･:*,｡･ﾟ,｡･:*:,｡･ﾟ☆,｡･:*:,｡･ﾟ

here iz my dni banner, it doeznt have my vull dni but doez have thingz that i believe r the mozt important. the "ae" in my name literally meanz "anti endo" so itz not my vault iv an endo reblogz it.

#dont rb plz

[cursedweedman]

BASICS. | JIMMY HOPKINS

LEGAL NAME: James Anthony Hopkins (there is a very real chance i only added the "anthony" because of the pre-existing man anthony hopkins, this is not intentional but my brain seems to like "anthony" as a middle name so it has Stuck) NICKNAME[S]: Jim, Jim-Jam, Icepick, there are More DATE OF BIRTH: 23rd of march, i can't remember the year off the top of my head (he's usually 31 but i have recently fucked about with this timescale so ????) GENDER: Cis male PLACE OF BIRTH: Boston, New England CURRENTLY LIVING: New York SPOKEN LANGUAGES: English, barely, but if we're talking "enough to get a beer and ask directions and understand responses" spanish, arabic, a little mandarin, a little italian. i am not doing that thing where i'm like "oh ye he is very smart". i just mean he's probably picked up very select phrases in a lot of languages from Business Shit. he prolly just knows some swears real talk EDUCATION: literally none HAIR COLOR: blackish brown EYE COLOR: grey, like john dillenger. i worked backwards on this btw, i only found out old dilly boy had grey eyes the other day HEIGHT: point of contention. i always say six foot but i sort of think he's a short king. i always write people looking down on him when i'm writing by myself, and him looking down on people on tumblr. so maybe he's just taller online, like a lot of blokes. WEIGHT: i don't know how american weights work and i also dont know how much he would weigh. his weight does fluctuate as well, depends on when i'm writing him. sometimes he's cocaine & beat a man to death ripped, sometimes he's been drinking beer and smoking weed for four years

FAMILY INFORMATION.

SIBLING[S]: He was close with his older half-sister, he has some more half-brothers out there he doesn't know about. PARENT[S]: John Hopkins, Cathy Banks RELATIVE[S]: He visited his grandfather a few times before he died, only person of note, they only met a handful of times but he was one of the only "family" members he interacted with after he left home. CHILDREN: Amy Hopkins PET[S]: Numerous. This isn't to say he currently has any pets, but he's kept cats and dogs and birds over the years. He's never bought an animal, either, never went out looking for a pet, but if a stray starts chilling with him he looks after it

RELATIONSHIP INFORMATION.

SEXUAL ORIENTATION: Straight - but he prolly fucked a guy RELATIONSHIP STATUS: Widowed and ready to mingle SINCE WHEN: four years ago whatever the maths is on that i aint working it out

TAGGED BY: the one the only @dxsoleTAGGING: @shesboundtobruise, @vuulpecula, @sleazygoing &whoever else wants to do it im gonna go cook burgers

#idk what to tag this but i feel self consious about rawdogging the tags #{}{P}{}fake tag~~~~ #i never know how to spell consious so dont @ me #conksious #copions #conshous

[dollxmania]

honestly it is realy annoying for me as a aro ace woc to hear the argument that there shouldnt be a female yuu because it isnt an otome game its is inherentily sexist to assum that women only want dating games most of the dissagrement is coming from a premade prespective that is not they dont want to change

half of the points that you mentioned to that person that asked doesnt mention anthing that they asked you only tried to shame them and answered rudley

and the all boy school point is bad because that isnt the big probem here yuu cant use magic and got dragged here aginst thier will lol, you seem to be angry that there isnt a lot of male and other alt representions in media and that it only focuses on fem and you might be right but i think that person felt left out when 2 out of 3 canon are male (not to mention half of the fem yuu content is fan made by fem fans for that reason the dont see themselves so they do it themvselves )after suporting the game and being told that its up to the player since the mc is yuu(you) , it might be just the shock

but i hope in the futrue we see a manga about Gender netrul transmanor woman or fem yuu or a nonbinary black mc twst fandom in genral lack alot of rep

i hope this isn’t genshinlumine /j who’s digging through my old posts. can’t be arsed to respond honestly, I’ve been sick the past week and getting my tests done so let me just say, as an Asian genderfluid demisexual since we’re pulling out gender and race,

“It’s inherentily inherently sexist to assum assume that women only want dating games.” when did i say women only want that? I’m a biological woman and does it make me sexist to say that twst would be recognized as a dating sim if there’s a female lead because the animes such as kamigami no asobi or uta no prince sama… are generally made into animes to promote their games which in case you were aware are visual romance games. i play a LOT of otomate and even i can say that it would be bad to make a fem mc for this purpose because i KNOW by asking people they also assumed (regardless of gender) twst was a dating sim due to the predominantly female side of the fandom being loud about it.

where’d i say women want only dating games. i said that it is considered female targeted or a dating sim because of the reputation from other shows with a female lead and male characters.

and you literally brought up my point… with your woke idea. i said i wanted a gender neutral mc, never said that they HAD to be male. if you had time to stalk my tumblr you’d read id prefer a shrimp. dear aro ace poc anon, have you considered that people who play the game like you say aren’t all women,, want to be represented? I’m genderfluid. My friends trans. There also GENDER IDENTITY v BIOLOGICAL GENDER v GENDER PRESENTATION v PRONOUNS. to label a single person as man because they look manly or a man trans because they dress like a woman is bullshit. a fem yuu will do nothing to acknowledge others in the community who aren’t straight, cis, and female. having mc as a certain skin color will also exclude people. The best solution? just make a shrimp mc with mc not even being a focus.

also I told y’all if y’all wanna fight, turn anon off you little cowards. <33 only people who know they’re wrong fight on anon- btw i wasn’t rude the person who sent the ask literally followed me afterwards AND sent another ask talking to me so y’all are really trying.

embarrassing to try and yell at a seventeen year old, huh? y’all wanna be like oh im so woke while sending an anon to a minor when you’re a grown woman 💖 amazing how you come on MY blog, re: the post you are reading is a month old about, then complain about MY opinion as though MY account were unblockable because you’re offended that you’re not the center of the universe.

#ren.ramblings💌꒱·˚ #disney twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland #twst wonderland #this is like genshin lumines side acc probably #GUYS seventeen year old gets bullied off tumblr #imagine having an opinion #oh geez you probably thought pulling out the aro ace card was gonna get sympathy #too bad I’m GAYER

[thelastsaiyanprincess]

Hi

Im 25 years old, Im a young guy and I love tickling. I wish I could do some BDSM tickling someday and I was wondering, how was finding people to tickling? Can you tell me more about it!

btw: great body and videos ;)

hello!

in my humble opinion, the key to finding our people is to approach things naturally and with an authentic desire to form connections. you can post personal ads & try randomly messaging people on fetlife or reddit or other forums to some degree of success, but in my experience i've met my tickle friends the same way i've met other friends in life. by SOCIALIZING :)

go to meetups in your area, attend munches, parties, and gatherings that are tickle themed. get out there & SOCIALIZE. and no, i dont mean PLAY parties where the focus is entirely on public play. i mean the vanilla events where you can introduce yourself to the community, make small talk, truly get to know others on a personal level before even considering BDSM play. people can sense if youre genuinely interested in them VS only talking to them to get something out of it. if you show interest in getting to know people, then you can start to build trust and help them feel more comfortable with you.

this is especially important for straight cis men. i have been hurt, abused, or used by several guys in this community and dont trust newbies, even if they have good intentions. i dont want to speak for everyone, but i know others share the same feelings as me. the men i've played with i have known for years (spiffy i've known for almost a decade!) and even then i asked for references from other people theyve played with. understand that we value safety, so if we dont feel safe with you, we will not play or entertain you.

also, to add on. dont make everything about kink. dont try to turn every conversation into an RP or tease. DONT MAKE EVERYTHING SEXUAL! nothing turns me off more than someone who pretends to care about me then tries to sneakily get me to tease them or turn the conversation kinky!

anyway, moving on. i know a lot of us suffer from social anxiety and depression, so going to events may be easier said than done. however, it will be much harder to form strong connections if you dont log off the internet every once in a while and engage in person. even if it feels awkward or youre worried people will think youre weird, at least you were brave enough to try. i went to a meetup in los angeles years ago by myself and was so anxious i almost stayed home, but i faced my fear & ended up meeting some of my best friends from the community there. trust me, its worth subjecting yourself to the mortifying ordeal of being known lol.

this isnt to say you cant make good friends online. ive met cool people from tumblr, fetlife, reddit, and even TMF. however, eventually i went on to meet these people in person and grew close enough with them that i felt comfortable playing. i dont think i wouldve felt safe enough to play with these people without meeting them in person first.

now i cant speak for EVERY person but this is my personal opinion mixed with experience and the best advice i can think of to offer you. please read it carefully & consider what i'm telling you. i hope you are successful in your search 🙏🏽

#asks #my advice #discord groups are also a great way to interact with people in a virtual space as well #just be cautious because there tends to be drama lol

[sereniv]

vegans have to remember that from a non vegans perspective, we are a mariad of different definitions most of which are negative. and that within those definitions, is us being people who want to take away something that is part of their life

I think thats why ive gravitated more towards focusing on the non vegan aspect of veganism than the full on Earthling Ed approach. As in focusing on tradition, religion, and the possible and practical part instead of just trying to switch to more plant based eating.

Because its easy to spit the facts and provide resources and find alternatives, but i feel theres no active support and conversation for people who "cant go vegan". there is, but its nothing concrete and big. just individual conversations

Like someone who has a religion who requires the killing or use of an animal, or a tradition or a culture.

I just feel like these people are alienated, even though they are talked about in reference AND there are vegans who fall under that category of course. but because white/cis/straight/rich/abled types of ppl tend to get more focus, it drowns out everyone else out and even though i KNOW veganism is diverse sometimes it doesn't feel like it. then again, im only on tumblr

but i also feel the alienation can come from the non vegan too, with no willingness to have a conversation and figure these things out. but its also understandable like i said in the first paragraph.

obviously if the talk was with me, id have someone tell me their situation and it would be more about them talking and me listening, since i wouldnt be in the same identity as them and therefore cant have that "same hat" convo people have within their own community

- but also there NEEDS to be a place or network of different marginalized identities so that non vegans can talk with vegans of their same culture/religion/etc.

and i mean im just on tumblr so im limited in what i see. so maybe this exists?

idk how to explain this properly. i just never see anyone double down on these, and focus on people who's best includes animal products, like i do (not saying im better for doing that, i just feel odd one out)

i feel that the more symapthy and understanding for those situations would help drive out the people who claim to be vegan but arent. to get rid of people who try and say veganism is 100% plant based, who shit on others and are racist with their veganism.

to really drive in the importance of "possible and practical" and checking in with yourself and being honest with yourself.

idk there just needs to be...MORE.

i feel there is an emotional/mental/spiritual aspect not talked about enough.

i was watching Earthling Ed and this one guy said that the only options on campus were tofu and it was gross. now with the rest of the video, this guy probably doesnt try hard to find other options.

But i sympathize. But Ed said that theres always options and basically said that he could choose the tofu

But im thinking, what if the only option was mushrooms. I either eat that or dont eat. Now i wouldn't eat animal products, but mushrooms make me gag. I would dread looking forward to eating. it would ruin my day. it would drain me, and thus it wouldnt be practical for me to keep trying to eat it bc of them varying affects it has on my health (mentally or emotionally)

which may seem extreme, but you wouldnt get to say that someone in that situation can just suck it up. there has to at LEAST be sympathy and understanding.

now for someone else if they chose chicken instead, is it worth the life of a chicken? No, but it also shouldnt be at the expense of your wellbeing. This is why we tell people who have ED's who cant eat plant based, to focus on their wellbeing. because its all goes off of situation by situation. Its not about "the life of a chicken for aomeone who has an ED" its about doing your best within the situation you have, and to focus on doing what is necessary for you, and try and avoid unnecessary harm.

And if youve exhausted all other options then i dont think anyone can blame you. Because who is anyone to say that its possible for you to eat the tofu? Whos to say its possible for you to do something you say you cant do? We have to trust people with what they say and work with them, even if they are lying.

Thats why there needs to be symapthy and encouragement of self reflection. And to do that often. check in with yourself every month and ask if maybe you can change something that you couldn't before

idk. i just never see ppl focus on this as much as i do and i keep wondering if im like idk. wrong for it?

and to be clear, when i talk about religion or culture im talking about the individual. Because within every religion or culture i assume, there are going to be people who view it differently. Religion and culture can be personalized while also being a community. i mean cultures change and religions change and its usually bc of one person. this is NOT to say we should aim to change an entire culture or religion, just simply stating that just because someone is from a religion or culture doesnt mean they cant..idk the word..go over their views and stance and see if theres room for change. like "do i actually believe this, or would an alternative work?" and sometimes they come to the conclusion that there can be no change, and sometimes they find things they can change. both are fine

So while culture and religion as a whole are not valid reasons to cause unnecessary harm (unnecessary being individually defined. this is about animal use only), individuals within that culture or religion get to decide whether its necessary or not

Because otherwise youre talking about pushing colonialist ideas and genocide, if you are to say that killing an animal isnt necessary for someones spiritual connection to their religion or culture. Or to say that wearing an animal isnt necessary for a ceremony. Because even though a life is taken, and it might not seen necessary to you, why do YOU get to decide for that person?

2 people within the same religion can have 2 different approaches to it, 2 different views. same with culture. i mean thats how religion and culture change over years. how traditions change

I just wish there was a place where ppl could talk about that with others like them, to get out their worries and their frustrations and also help establish even, a stronger connection by finding out what truly is a necessity for them.

which sometimes will be using animals.

and i support that. and i think someone can still be vegan even if they use animals if they deem it undeniably necessary.

idk maybe ill make a discord server. bc this bugs me. no slight at any other vegans, but it bugs me that non vegans have such bad experience with veganism (whether its actual vegans or not), and i feel that connection is needed.

#vegan #vegan ref #vegans #veganism

[seven-thewanderer]

Welp, my current time on Tumblr is coming to a close. Imma start being busy again, so I decided to the current amount of followers I have, I’ll let you know some stuff:

You can ask me questions if y’all want, you can ask about my Bug AU, you can ask about the Pokémon versions of Sun(drop) and Moon(drop) that I drew, you can just ask me random stuff, but not weird stuff. If y’all do ask questions, however, I’ll probably answer when I return, so probably for 2 weeks of December. Or February or March. Or just entirely next year summer. But if there are questions, I’ll try to answer them when I return.

Also, if any of y’all (or any potential followers I get while I’m gone) want to do fanart or just draw my Bug AU Sun & Moon, or my Pokemon Version of Sun & Moon, then go ahead! I’m not stopping you! However, there’s a huge chance that I’ll never see it though, so if you want me to see it, then idk, dm it to me? I may see it when I come back.

Also, here’s some donts for when I’m gone:

Do not steal my art please (I’ve said that many times in the tags of my art, so please don’t try & steal it while I’m gone. If you post it somewhere on Pinterest or somewhere else, even Twitter or TikTok or Instagram, and it gets really popular & I find out, I’m coming back just to find you.)

Do not spam my dms (you will make me panic and disappear for longer)

Dont even ask anything about a face reveal (I’ll either say no or not respond to you at all.)

Don’t ask about my age (same answer for if you ask about my face: no or no answer at all)

Anyways, I don’t wanna have too many requirements, just I feel like something could possibly go wrong while I’m gone, so I’m trying to say some things so that nothing goes wrong.

Also, don’t hesitate to just go through my whole blog while I’m gone, I don’t think I have too much stuff? So if you wanna see art or something, you can just go to my art tag & look at it!

Also, please don’t get me famous. I know Tumblr fame is bad, but even if it wasn���t, I still don’t wanna get famous. I’m not even supposed to have this account, so if my account is found by the wrong people, then I’m in for a ride. Also, the fact that I’m not cis & straight would make things even worse if I’m found out. So you can like my art, and new people can follow me, but please not too much, I just wanna vibe on this site.

Anyways, I think that’s all I got for now, I’ll say one final message on the day that I disappear though.

#2 days #Seven’s disappearance

[jovishark]

sorry to bother if you dont want to answer thats totally fine, but i havent listened to mbmbam in a while, whats been happening with travis saying "huh" ?

[disclaimer: this is not what i would put in a review but im saying this here bc its not intended for them to see. yes i know the mcelroys are all real people and i know their podcast is twelve fuckin years old and i know they all try really hard. but here goes]

well. basically travis is the one who picks the questions and everything so he sees them days in advance of recording. any time (since around the 400s) griffin or justin finishes reading a question or a statement or a press release travis immediately goes HUH. like hes considering it. but he never gives the message any room to Breathe so you know hes not really, hes just making a noise to let them know hes still in the room or that he has an opinion. he instantly sets the stage as 'HEY its me and im here, and i think im very funny'

and its not even just that its like. he doesnt give them any room to talk anymore. and when they do he interrupts them either to steal their joke or "posit" his own and Griffin Himself has pointed it out multiple times that travis needs to let them talk and contribute and travis goes riiiiight rightrightrightright BUT let me just- like no. dude come on. its making it hard to listen to but Also it sounds more and more like griffin is just so tired and mumbly because hes just waiting to get interrupted

and i used to really like travis!! in the Thank Travis For Travis days yes i thought he was really funny because sure his joke was that he was self centered but it was because he actually had something to say. his advice was tempered and sometimes informative and sometimes a fun joke but it was BALANCED with griffin doing a funny voice or justin pointing out some down to earth stuff. now its like. hes doing the same joke about being the greatest, but worse, since he steps on both of them to make it? he butts in with a joke thats not funny and expects them to pick up the pieces

literally in like. episode 605 or 604 he brings up "i am the Quintessential Millennial Dad [Cis Straight Man Edition] because i listen to matchbox twenty while i mow the lawn" and griffin and justin just. sat there. and eventually moved on while travis kept saying oh, i thought that was gonna be- that was a bit, because see, you guys are also millennial dads who- no? okay, i just thought- oh, okay AND it was incredibly weird and dumb and awkward. travis is getting really performative and not in a fancy takes flight way, but in a way that like. you scroll past on twitter. in a way that you roll your eyes at and hope it stops soon. but for some reason hes decided that not only will he make the podcast all about him but he will do it using buzzwords that most people on tumblr would blacklist And he will do it in direct defiance of both griffin and justin asking him to please not

when jesse thorn made that ad that says 'mbmbam is good now, i promise' i think he spoke too soon. justin and griffin arent without fault but at least them reading press releases and other peoples articles to me is a pleasant audio experience. travis just tramples bits and makes the same bad noise and only picks questions hes interested in because he thinks he can worm a story out of them when really all hes doing is making me buy youtube music

tl;dr he interrupts so much and so badly it makes me visibly uncomfortable

EDIT: i will add to this that i KNOW travis has adhd and impulse control. i know this because he brings it up constantly as an excuse for acting like this. he says its a thing hes had since childhood but it only manifested on mbmbam 400 episodes in, so? i dont know man. im not going to get into anybodys mental illness but yes im aware of this as a thing and id like to say its an explanation but not an excuse for ruining a podcast you and your brothers spent a decade on

#shh

[irul]

Your take on straight trans people is problematic because it perpetuates the same ideas of transgenderism as homosexuality and not just transgenderism. it especially affects black trans women because being trans is seen as them being gay and not just trans. there needs to be a very deliberate attempt to separate the two. furthermore, there's trans women who are only attracted to men hence making them straight. so in your cognitive dissonance you're saying a cis male who is into a trans woman is gay and not just cishet male (or bi or whatever i think you get my point). I'm trying to say this with the most love because I've followed you for years and I hope my point is getting across.

like, historically, white male anthropologists traveled in many regions in Africa and seen "men who dress and live their lives as women". like, the women they saw would live their life like any other woman and be married to men. sure they were confused but what to expect from white males studying this way before pride.

but that seeming gay to you is showing not your transphobia but I bit of transmisognoir. I'm sure you know what these terms means since you've been on tumblr for awhile but if not...not to be slick but like...google is free.

im seriously not sure what you’re trying to say here im talking about transness and not abt it in relation to cisness. idc abt how cis ppl identify or feel pls stop putting words in my mouth. and again im not saying straight trans ppl dont exist. ppl just move towards what feels right for them. nothing is so rigid or as black n white.

#the binary is colonial violence so why frame and understand things through that vile framework? #i absolutely dont think there shud be a deliberate attempt to separate gender n sexuality bc it’s all interwoven and #poetry we make for ourselves in the words of leslie feinberg #ask #re: first tag or not just understand but act and live inside of i guess #also nothing inherently makes someone straight or gay like. why do u decide someone’s sexuality/gender