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I don't mean to boast but I am a well-traveled woman and I know how it feels to be sought after by men from all Nationalities, okay.
And as said before, the Lord has sent me my African King so I am not looking for attention from other men or woman - I am beyond happy.
And as I write at one of my favorite places, "On My Mama" by Victoria Monet is playing - and I know I've been giving big body gyal and goals lately - "I look fly, I look good".
But back to being world-wide and highly sought after.
Prior to being with my Ghanian heart-throb, I have and have always been open to dating outside my culture and race, meaning dating men that are not Haitian, and also men who are not Black. Even now, with both he and I being Black, we're still of different cultures.
Friends, when I went to Europe at 19, the men were enamored. The hair, the curves, the skin, I was exotic to them.
Now, at 25, I understand some of it was the hyper-sexualization and fetishization of Black women, but for others, that were just mesmerized by the beauty, I allowed them to take me to fancy dinners and have amazing conversations about the world and everything glamorous and expensive.
Point being, I am not un-accustomed to they eyes of men that do not look like me.
Now, what I have noticed is you'll have men that are not black, but are well traveled and when they compliment you its:
"You are so beautiful"
Actually, it's always that.
But when it comes to American white men who are not from a diverse community - and you can tell their version of traveling is just being on guided tours and not immersing themselves in the culture of whatever country they're in, the compliments are either very racially insensitive or super "frat-boy" language:
"You're so hot"
"You're so different"
"I love how long and straight your hair is"
"You're hot AF"
"I always thought you were so hot"
Emphasis on the "hotness" thing right? That's how 16 year-old horny teenagers talk. And if I'm completely honest, after hearing it multiple times from the same person, especially with the statement being an assessment of just sex-appeal, it starts to make me feel a little uncomfortable just because I don't like being hyper-sexualized. And those comments usually come from a place of hyper-sexualization.
Sometimes it doesn't, but you mean to tell me that there are grown men who are well established who don't know how to talk to women?
Further more, there are women who are actually receptive to this type of dialogue?
*Bombastic side eye
Mind you, I am so messy when it comes to spilling the tea to the African Chief: I was literally on the phone with him telling him everything this man was telling me as he was slipping and sliding in my DM's, and still is - even after I said I had a boyfriend and that I'm not interested.
And of course, my Lover-man makes the joke "Oh, you thought you would get a man and other men would stop trying to get with you? No baby, you are a beautiful woman, men will always seek you".
Before I continue with the story, I just wanted to thank God for my man. He is truly a Godly man who understands that:
He is with a woman who loves him unconditionally - meaning I tell him these things because he's my man, but I am not going anywhere. He gives BIG HUSBAND BIG PROVIDER GREAT FATHER GREAT LEADER - and that's what I prayed for when I felt like I was ready to be with the love of my life.
He also understands that he is with a very desirable woman - meaning he's so secure in himself that he knows men will throw themselves at me because I am attractive. But he loves the fact that when we walk into places with me on his arm, we're the focus of the room - really me but we all get the point *wink wink
And we talked about it and from a Spiritual standpoint, the devil will always try to destroy good things. But my GOD is greater and rebuke all of that.
And even as I am writing this, this man is still in my DM's.
And yes, the Ghanian Protector will hear about this tonight.
But I thought this was just too juicy to keep to myself until the weekend.
Moral of the story is homie is giving single-white-female and the Ghanian King knows everything!
As always ladies,
Fall is here and it is time for the oranges and yellows, boots and coats, and smoky eye-shadow.
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