#groomed children

[furiousgoldfish]

If you bonded with a groomer or a predator or a very toxic and damaging person as a child or a teen, you need to know that none of it was your fault.

You don't look for red flags as a child. You don't know there are any red flags at all. The only thing you're capable of noticing in others are signs of acceptance, signs of them wanting you around, signs of attention, admiration, interest, love. As a child, you want those things so badly, and you're not naturally programmed to vet people once they show these things to you.

Your natural programming is to bond with anyone who doesn't seem outright threatening and dangerous to you. That's all you had to work with. If an adult got you to lower your defenses even a little, if they made you fee important and special, they were in and you had no way to see if they had any bad intentions. That's because you were a child, and someone else was supposed to make sure you don't get in hands of someone dangerous! You weren't equipped to figure it out. You weren't given the resources or the development to vet people, to see where any type of situation is going, to recognize any warning signs, any danger signs. As a child, you can't do that. And predators know this.

They know you're going to see them in the kindest, most innocent, least prejudiced light. They know you're going to project your own intentions on them; they also just want a friend, companion, someone who loves and admires and unconditionally accepts them! because what other thing could a person possibly want? That's all you know, all that exists for you at that point. You cannot see evil intentions because you have none, and it's incredibly hard for you to imagine someone else having one, especially if that someone has given some attention and kindness to you.

Kids can't defend against grooming. It's always the adult's responsibility to make sure the children are not exposed to dangerous and abusive people. Someone should have protected you. Someone should have acted as your caretaker. Both the groomer, and the person responsible for looking out for you, are responsible for you ending up groomed and violated. It can never be any of your fault.

#grooming #guilt for being groomed #innocence exploited #child abuse #child grooming #trauma bonding #child neglect #groomed children

[myuminji]

the bride walked down the aisle to where the groom stood, and there they exchanged their vows in front of the altar...

#what do you mean this isn't how it goes? The flower girls are there to throw flower petals and wedding bouquets ready on their hands too... #just twt having collective breakdowns over them as usual #it's interesting that both played the role of the bride and the groom at the same time. #only they can pull it off I swear #trigun #trigun maximum #vash the stampede #nicholas d wolfwood #trigun maximum spoilers #vashwood #ish? #actually not really it's just the narrative that plays out like that #myuminjiart #just wanna point out my art a few things: the wine as bouquet. vash holding a shot glass also as bouquet. #vash trying to smile even if he says it's impossible. he tried. #the confetti thrown by the orphanage children...as if they're flower girl throwing flower petals for them....

[fluoresensitive]

I was thinking and I've come to the realization that people do not truly understand the damage that incest and rape does to you. They think they do, they think it's about forbidden romance and desire so strong that you can't help yourself but it's not. It's about control and power, about someone in a position over you deciding that your bodily autonomy and mental well-being come second to them. And it scares me that you can't say, "please do not sexualize abuse" without facing backlash on a website with this many survivors.

#the boys that raped me didnt do so because they were SOOOOO into me; they did it because they could and no one could stop them #victims of incest are not Dark Forbidden Romances; they are 10/9 children who are groomed and abused by terrible parents #i just think you guys are downright wicked xoxo

[hiemaldesirae]

train ride

#yeah so. i think about csm a lot #so many makima scenes. so fucking many #and vox as the control devil fucking WORKS too thats like. maybe the worst part #people respect him look up to him as an idol and hes got basically a monopoly on the whole of hell its power and entertainment #sigh. i hate to compare him to makima though #my wife would never groom a teenager (he hates children) but i do fully believe hed pull out all the stops on al if necessary #🌗 art tag #hazbin hotel #vox hazbin hotel #hazbin vox

[a-room-of-my-own]

Family theme park apologises for drag queen act that left parents 'horrified': Boss confirms it will not take part in any future Pride celebrations after Ru Paul's Drag Race UK star used angle grinder on crotch during show

It showed drag queen Crystal, who performed on the first season of the BBC's Ru Paul's Drag Race and whose real name is Colin Munro.

He was seen wielding an angle grinder and wearing fishnet tights, a leotard and a pair of high heels as more than 50 people including several children watched the event, which was being held to close the park's Pride celebrations.

Performing to the tune of Scissor Sisters' hit Filthy/Gorgeous, Crystal made thrusting motions with his hips and ran his hand up and down the angle grinder while using it to make sparks fly from a metal plate fixed to his crotch.

Philip Miller, executive chairman of Adventure Island, told MailOnline in a statement today that there had been 'confusion' as to 'what we would allow or not'.

He added that the 'grinding act' was 'definitely a nonstarter' because it was not 'family entertainment' and vowed that the park will not participate in any future Pride celebrations, nor will Crystal be booked again.

#transgender #drag #they just can’t stop trying to groom children can they #WTF #gender critical #radfem please interact

[bicheetopuff]

I think the people complaining about AFOs back story have forgotten what his character represents.

He’s a manipulative rich old man that wants to own and monopolize every major resource in the world so that he can be considered a god.

His entire being is a metaphor for major corporations and every politician and billionaire ceo ever… so him being a narcissistic and greedy kid isn’t at all surprising. He doesn’t have a traumatizing backstory because he’s a manipulative power hungry chump like he has been the entire series.

#he literally grooms children to his dirty work for him #he’s taken over orphanages and hospitals to create mindless monsters to do his labor for free #he’s manipulated people by giving them fractions of power so that they’ll bend to his will #he’s irredeemable and idk why people are surprised #also you mfs trying to compare him to Katsuki need to reread the series #there’s a difference between a spoiled kid dwelling in the praise he received from adults around him #and whatever the fuck afo is #Katsuki didnt fucking kill people #and he was never a narcissist #he wanted to be top hero because he was told his whole life that he could be #also Katsuki never viewed Deku as his property wtf are y’all on #bnha #bakudeku #bkdk #bnha spoilers #bnha 407

[punkeropercyjackson]

Saying kid characters of color can't be kids because 'They don't really act that age' is actual rethoric used to adultify irl traumatized younger poc as an excuse to make emotionally abusing or even sexualizing them look not bad.In addition to the racial aspects,this also plays into society's idea that kids can't be people because 'they're too young to comprehend feelings and thoughts' and it provides a safe haven for REAL child abusers both online and in person and it really shows with how often minors in fandom are cyberbullied by adults for speaking up for themselves even outside of this context

#the cat is me btw👆🏼 #antiproship #children's rights #child abuse cw #grooming cw #cp cw #adultification tw #racism cw #bullying cw #hobie brown #katara #allura #damian wayne #hazel levesque #momo yaoyorozu #todoroki shouto #punkflower #ghostpunk #anti zutara #pro kataang #legitallurance #kallura #anti shaladin #anti batcest #antidamijon #todomomo #anti bakugou #trans autistic swag #summeredits #summerposting

[culturevulturette]

Some people really get pissed off when you request that they keep their mitts off of kids. Go figure.

#grooming children is evil

[isa-ah]

We both were chosen by this destiny…

Why did it have to be us?

#sorry this is soooo low energy i’m rlly down rn #hero’s purpose #loz #oot #ganondorf #link #maybe the symbolism would have been better if i did oot zelda and impa with koume and koutake #or if i did skyward sword zelda and impa with demise #but this felt Correct anyway #truly the dialogue in episode 5 is still just. chewing on it. chewing on it. chewing on it. #treating spirit of the hero as an extension of the curse that strips link of his empathy and autonomy is sooooo sexy #that it’s all morally grey that no one is correct in this conflict and there is no hero and villain #just used children groomed into a life of compulsive bloodshed at hylia and demise behest #god #hylia just Using Him against his will as he starts to crumble and ganondorf losing his humanity for his tenderness #the recognition of each other as terrified miserable children seconds before they’re both killed. it’s so sad #bro idk major link is just a genius he’s a genius #it’s so fucking compelling and depressing and i really wish the mutually morally grey landscape would be acknowledged canonically

[antifainternational]

Republicans will be all like "save the children" but then turn a blind eye to the horrific abuse of children in ICE custody and throw their own LGBT children to the wolves by kicking them out to the Streets. 🐸☕

(content warning for discussion of child sexual abuse)

If right-wingers were actually concerned about saving children from sexual abuse, they'd be focusing their efforts on where most children are being sexually abused. The trouble for them is that the same institutions they actively participate in and/or support (e.g. their fellow right-wing extremists, the Southern Baptist Convention, CPB/ICE, the Catholic Church, Donald Trump, etc.) are regularly accused of the worst examples of systematic child sexual abuse, with the accusations coming from actual people making credible allegations, usually backed by substantive evidence. There are media reports from well-respected outlets; publicly-accessible court documents and hearing transcripts; and public statement made by some of the victims that anyone could find to verify the claims with just a little effort. But right-wingers don't actually care about child sexual abuse. They don't raise money for counselling and therapy for survivors of child sexual abuse (and as politicians they often block access or prevent funding for therapy for survivors). They don't support NGOs that do credible work fighting human trafficking. They actively work against providing the kinds of supports that are the most effective at preventing children from being sexually exploited to begin with. What they do instead is use terms like "groomers" and "paedophiles" to tar-and-feather any outgroup they want to portray as "the baddies" in an effort to rally their troops to attack a scapegoat - both to distract people from the actual problem and what could be done about it and to build their followings and encourage violence against those outgroups. Currently it's trans people that are being subjected to this abuse; previously it was Muslims, then LGBTQ+ people before them, and so on. We're not saying that child sexual abuse is not horrific and that the problem does not have to be addressed, obviously. But the way the right accuses any group they're currently scapegoating as "groomers" allows the institutions the right supports that are currently and have historically engaged in the systemic sexual abuse of children to get away with it and even continue the abuse and shelter abusers without accountability. It also does real harm to legitimate organizations doing legitimate work combatting child sex trafficking because it takes resources away from them and diminishes the credibility of the movement as a whole. It's a cynical weaponization of child sexual abuse to gain political points against the perceived "enemy du jour" for the far right. It is especially ironic that people holding this viewpoint would then use it to justify ostracizing and rendering their own LGBTQ+ children homeless, since doing so makes their own children extremely vulnerable to sexual exploitation and abuse. That's a long way to say that the right-wingers are disgusting hypocrites, but there you go!

#antifa #save the children #antifascist #child sex abuse #antifascism #groomers #grooming

[thewitchqueenofharrenhal]

Like yall just made me delete that post because having to see y’all’s well actually Rhaenyra needs to be held accountable for her privilege takes are annoying and the same shit that yall hate being said about Alicent.

#like I had to process #and what do you mean by held accountable for her transgressions #what transgressions??? #she never used her dragon!!! #she was recovering from a horribly traumatic birth for a big chunk of the war? #are yall insane #I see what people say when they mention yall don’t have empathy for Rhaenyra #and this is coming from someone who has enjoyed the greens more #anyways block me if you don’t like it #im not supporting misogynistic takes towards Rhaenyra #if you want to hate on Rhaenyra hate on her for VALID SHIT #like being racist to Nettles #or taxing her smallfolk into a rebellion #Rhaenyra needed to have children to earn her Queenship #SHE DID #oh they weren’t true born #she married the man her father commanded her to she did her duty #her mistake or not because she was GROOMED was involving herself with Daemon #like judge her for valid reasons #not misogynistic talking points please #y’all sound like the same people who say Alicent needed to know her place and stay in it #that’s not how it works

[punkeropercyjackson]

Batman and Robin were seen as a romantic couple in ye olden times not because they were intended as one but because the group of 'queer elders' that said they are were irl pedophiles and you literally can't prove me wrong.Relatedly,while i sympathize with Devin Grayson for the csa she went through and hope she's doing way better now as a cocsa victim himself,she was still in the wrong for writing Inheretance and the connected stories and she herself aknowledged this by apologizing for it in an interview i can provide a link for.She's not your prosh*p advocate anymore and i don't think i'll ever like her as a person but you can't use her as your leeway for this.Not this and certainly not all the potential victims back then who thought they were Robin to 'Batman' because of being groomed with the lies and it happens today too.It's happening right now and you're helping it get worse

#batfam #batman and robin #bruce wayne #dick grayson #jason todd #tim drake #duke thomas #damian wayne #matt mcginnis #anti batcest #black jason todd #latino jason todd #afrolatino jason supremacy #romani dick grayson #arab damian wayne #duke is a robin #duke is a batboy #battinson supremacy #devin grayson #child molestation cw #pedophillia tw #child abuse cw #grooming cw #trans #homophobia #children's rights #💌 #summerposting