#folks just start using 'she.'

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#dandy's doodles #bfdi #battle for dream island #bfdi teardrop #bfdi td #bfdi flower #kin #why do i keep making teardrop comics? who knows #but yeah sorry for the bad quality and general doodley-ness. this was all very gestural. just trying to get a feeling out y'know #teardrop has been mean for the sake of competition... but now... #well. she never would've thrown lolly or gelatin under the bus because she was already so close to them #flower wanted to be friends - but wasn't. so td was willing to use her friendliness to her advantage... #i'd imagine after the fact that teardrop would feel kinda bad? #like oh maybe i am doomed to be self-serving and hostile and antisocial forever? #there's something to be reconciled here. between teardrop's desire for friendship and her desire for competition/victory #td will always want to win. they always want what's best for themselves #but now that bfb is over the competition with those folks is gone. there's no winning over them anymore #so perhaps in that little timeframe between the end of bfb and the start of her time in tpot td has the choice to be friends? #also at this point teardrop would totally have massive respect for flower for winning. so that's another point for flower-td friendship #and y'know... somebody just learning to listen to people... somebody just learning to be listened to... oh it's beautiful is it not? #and i don't know. i just feel like these two really would want to be friends but they each have these barriers #for flower: oh! i've been so pushy! i've passed her boundaries! i've presumed we're friends when that might not be true! #and for teardrop: oh! i've been so mean! i've taken advantage of her! i've made her think i don't want to be friends at all! #sorry i don't really know how to put this relationship into words but yeah. yeah :)

[13eyond13]

somebody save me from my stupid fucking crush on Alain Delon

#its so humiliating #i open my youtube and every other recommended video is a folk song set to clips of him lounging around in swim trunks in 1963 #the extremely specific way this crush started was that halfpromise laura mentioned somewhere that she uses his mannerisms as inspiration #for those!L #and then i made the mistake of watching plein soleil where he's just being a homoerotic lil thot like 100% of the time #if my male celeb crushes were represented as a devil and an angel on my shoulders #alain delon would be the devil and peeta hungergames would be the angel #p

[rowenabean]

#the wedding was lovely and i am so sad #managed to get most of the sad out of the way Friday and Sunday so i could be glad for them on the actual wedding day #but still. i'm going to miss her. #we always talked about living together and we never did and now we probably never will #i've got a model of married folk living together in community but i don't think they do and it has to be something you choose #her family are lovely and i was really glad to meet her friends and cousins that she talks about so often but they don't really get it #they get to have her!!! she's moving somewhere that's more convenient for literally everyone other than me! (this is not hard to do) #really good to get home and hug my dad and my little sister and have people who are my people around #was actually really good at the reception that there were a few other folk from my current town - i wasn't the only person who was #mixed joy and tears #i said something about us giving her over in my speech and they said yes that's exactly how we're feeling #but it wasn't till her husband responded to that in his speech that i started crying #everyone has been so kind to me but it has been SO good to get home #hoping i can get a bit more sleep as well. emotions are bigger when tired even though they're real still #(her cousins invited me to come stay any time and tbh i can see that living in Auckland could be actually really nice if you live where they #do. but i couldn't live where they do and do the work i want to do it is quite far away from the places in Auckland i could imagine working) #rowena adventures #btw no photos of me currently but probably some later??? not that we took many the groom had been sick the previous week and was #still pretty wiped so they got like two photos with the bridal party and ten with just them and that was it

[dutybcrne]

Kaeya and Rethel both have a favorite method to ward off any potential suitors, and it’s dueling.

#hc; kaeya #hc; rethel #//Wanted or unwanted; it’s the same for the most part. They won’t tend to accept any suitor who can’t best them in a duel #//Rethel in particular favored this after many started approaching her father for her hand; & he suggested she consider them for self-gain #//Still; she stubbornly demanded only those worthy enough to best her can have her; no gifts or sweet poems could sway her otherwise #//Other family members begged her to reconsider; but Anfortas agreed w her bc she claimed it was to ensure their line continued Strong #//Only the BEST for the Alberichs. @ the rate she was going tho; she was likely to end up a spinster. Not that she or Anfortas saw any issu #//Kae does this; bc he got spooked to hell and back bc a slew of marriage offers after Crepus’ death #//Bc folks claimed he ‘needed’ support after everything that happened; esp considering Crepus was slandered. That it would ‘BENEFIT’ him to #//Bc Luc wasn’t there to help get them off his back nor to actively secure of Luc’s hold as the Ragnvindr head for himself #//Some people assumed Kae would be it and made their move to take advantage. which Kae DETESTED for many reasons #//The biggest ones being ‘how DARE they assume HE is the new head of the family now that Diluc’s gone’ #//And ‘Oh stars; oh fucking he’ll; he does NOT need this; HE of all people does NOT need nor deserve to be married; oh fucking SHIT-‘ #//But yeah #//Both trained quite rigorously to ensure their independence; not ONE person has bested them since #//Esp since they both will pull out all the stops to ensure it; even playing dirty when need be #//Kae is more lax abt this tho—there’s a higher chance of him making an exception if he likes the other enough. & they are ‘safe’ enough #//Of the other muses; Xianyun; Beidou; and Dehya DEFINITELY do this to be done with unwanted suitors; Period. Xian; mostly to test ppl #//Idarias used to as well; but that was before the karmic debt made her more inclined to just try & kill anyone she comes across #//Xian & Ei would follow Kae & Rethel; in terms of dealing with suitors/testing if worthy. In Ei’s case; she’s too focused crushing on Miko #//Sb who CAN beat her can change her mind; or at least if they put up a good enough fight; they can shift her attention onto them #//Taru; honestly the fight is a prerequisite just to get his favor/attention at ALL #//Will NOT be willing to get genuinely close with much less accepting/choosing to court ANYONE unless they can manage to hold their own #hc; cloud retainer #hc; beidou #hc; dehya #hc; indarias #hc; ei #hc; tartaglia

[halforcdad]

serenading was really the last thing i ever wanted Kate to do as her grand gesture and i still don’t love it, but the amount of people who keep calling a big, awkward, public gesture hugely ooc for Kate and keep saying they miss the old whistler who wasn't dumb, oh DIA Whistler was so much better. its the show’s first season. i don’t think it’s even possible to be ooc when the writers are just starting to create these characters and we barely know them. we only saw ‘cool, confident, bossy dia whistler’ for about 6 episodes before 1x11 happened and changed everything, and while she’s still all of those things she was changing even before the breakup happened and with all the growth she’s gone through, she’s going to end the season looking pretty different to how she started (fair warning, this is a little unhinged and unorganized, just a little)

her arc has been about her learning to let people in and learning to be more honest with her feelings, to not be afraid of putting herself out there and learning how to stop pushing people away as a result of the impact Lucy and the team have had on her. it’s about making yourself vulnerable and trying to find people who will accept you even if you’re an awkward giraffe. throughout the season the writers have been telling us that she: finds it hard to be open and show her emotions, she puts her orders before her feelings at work causing everyone to view her as the ‘bad cop’ and that sucks, she really wants to make connections with her coworkers, but she doesn’t know how and she’s kinda bad at it, she was afraid of starting something with Lucy (and messing it up) because Lucy’s the most amazing woman she’s ever met and she wanted to keep it on the downlow until she felt she could handle it, is actually very charming and sensitive and goofy underneath that hardened exterior

there’s a reason Ernie describes her as “the tall one acting goofy,” she tries to keep her relationship with Lucy a secret and yet you can see her softening as a result of it and being unable to hide their connection and pull to each other even at work. Jesse notices they’re making googly eyes at each other during the Pearl Harbor tour in 1x09 and remarks that “there’s a certain DIA officer i haven’t seen around your desk recently,” because she couldn’t fight the gravitational pull drawing her to Lucy’s desk everyday, literally the worst kept secret at the office you morons! In 1x12 she’s sprinting after Lucy practically shouting after her (loud enough for all of Pearl Harbor to hear) even when she’s asking if Lucy’s going to throw their relationship away that easily. Kate gets a pass with Jane because how can you pretend you don’t care about Lucy after she could’ve died on an UC mission and as for Kai, well, he has two eyes so he definitely noticed too

the Whistler in 1x01 would definitely not be going over to Tennant’s house after 1x14 and sharing a drink with her (might not have warned her about Glenn Smith either) and maybe she wouldn’t have tried comforting her when Jesse went missing in 1x15 (not because she wouldn’t have wanted to, but maybe it would have been harder without all the stuff that happened in between as a result of the Lucy romance) and that’s growth baby!

as for her acting ‘dumb’ and goofy, whistler’s greatest hits (paraphrased):

1x07: the entire opening scene right in front of Ernie's coffee, like ladies its barely 9 in the morning 

1x09: “i want to be intimate” “here???” 

1x11: "i like this" "the coffee? its fair trade." "so i think i win the dumbass award." "yes...no! NO!"

1x14: “creds... that’s what all the cool agents say :)”

1x17: “the source of the attack was some sort of pineapple” “like the fruit?” (also forgetting she never apologized to Lucy)

1x20: while looking like a beaten bloody piñata “I’m fine just some bruises...and some minor head trauma...” “i did not have Lucy surf quotes on my bingo card today” 

1x21: “about the power of love!” -silence- “...anyway i think that’ll help us get through to David” (we were all raving about this scene and how cute it was, but we don't want to acknowledge all the work it took to get here?)

The writers have been showing it all season, this is just who she is the more you get to know her, not liking it is different than ooc

Kate just sucks at talking and processing her emotions on the spot and can’t always immediately formulate a response right away whether you’re her boss or her colleague or her ex girlfriend (she ghosted a girl for months for god’s sakes which is probably honestly where most of the ‘this feels ooc for Kate’ criticism comes from and it’s hard to blame anyone for that because wth Kate, but it also serves as the biggest indictment of how her lack of social skills has effected her life and now it’s finally catching up to her)

a lot of people call Whistler rushing in without thought or backup to be ooc, and while they’ve shown that she’s smart and good at thinking things through (figuring out a way to help the team in 1x06, with the Clark Lohan thing in 1x10, using David's wife’s fate as leverage to get through to him in 1x21), that’s been behind the scenes we never saw her do field work during her stint at the DIA so there’s nothing really to base the ooc claim on, the first time we see her in the field is in 1x17 (she only transferred to the FBI 3 episodes ago) when she rushes in and Lucy has to stop her so it’s not out of the ordinary for her to do something similar in 1x20 at Agent Jones’s house, Whistler in the office and Whistler out in the field are different because they’re different environments entirely (and she’s new to the field)

i dont think the people calling Whistler ooc for acting goofy and socially inept would call her ooc for turning down a promotion anywhere from 1x06-1x13 to stay close to Lucy after early Whistler was billed as ambitious and career-driven (but i guess it’s different because it’s romantic without being awkward...), if we’re going to throw that term out there we should examine all her actions that way not just the one’s we maybe don’t like 

you can criticize the writing and the show all you want we all have different opinions we’re not all going to agree on how good Whistler’s development has gone, but i don’t think it’s fair to say any public grand gesture or Kate acting ‘dumb’ is completely out of left field, yes she was more cold and distant and mean earlier (and maybe you preferred that way more) but as the show has progressed you get to see a different more shy, uncertain, dorky side of her and that's not ooc that's just how humans are

she’s been slowly stepping out of her comfort zone all season and Lucy’s influence on her has inspired her to finally make a running jump into the deep end to win her back because she loves her and that’s how much she means to her (my favorite post about the grand gesture written before we knew it was a singing gesture LOL) that's the whole point isn't it? the power of love! has changed Whistler! she's never felt this way about anyone before and is clearly woefully inexperienced in love, she misses Lucy and wants to win her back no matter what so she's willing to listen to anything and do anything to show her she's all in and wants to be with her and only her! love makes us do crazy things, but it makes sense after a season of pain and regret

unfortunately for some people, Kate also happens to be less competent socially so that’s going to manifest in truly awkward (and secondhand embarrassing) ways, but she’s always been capable of this because she’s a multifaceted character and the writers have been showing us that

#ncis hawaii #kate whistler #kacy #all the criticism and thoughts ive seen on tumblr has been cool and fine but the twitter folks just make my head explode #its like every time kate shows a not Cool trait shes ooc? theres a reason everyone calls her the dumbest smart person (affectionate) #shes got one braincell for work! whenever she uses it for her personal life or for following ernies advice is laughs at her and explodes #imma be real this is kinda petty and ranty bc of one specific kate stan on twitter i keep seeing firhrgjrg #like i cant even enjoy their fics bc they start all of them with 'i wont do u dirty like the writers have' #like wym the writers have treated me fine i loved 1x20 i loved all the kacy angst lol #like yas and tori are great and theyre 50% of it but who wrote the lines they say that make me love lucy and kate more and more everyday #also i dont think its possible at all for a character to be ooc...in season 1 like the writers barely know them yet how can i claim i do #like ok you like the character but then you hate the writers for half the traits theyve given them so do you actually like them??? #this is all incoherent and im sorry #yes i still dislike the serenade but like i understand the point of the big gesture and why u would go there #get you a hot lesbian mess who can do both! #im delirious i probably shouldnt post this and ill regret it but i will anyway #like i saw someone ask what have they done to you whistler #oh idk given her a personality??? made her likeable and made the audience want to root for her? like yall LMAO

[eenochian]

“headcanoning farah as wlw is disrespectful because she’s muslim”

my. my guy. queer people exist in every group. queer muslims very much exist.

“ok but it’s a sin in islam”

WHY ARE WE SUDDENLY JUSTIFYING HOMOPHOBIA WITH RELIGION⁉️⁉️ it’s wrong for a christian to use religion to justify their bigotry, so WHY is it okay to use islam or any other religion to do the same?? i know that i’m comparing the world’s most oppressive religion (christianity) to a religion that’s oppressed, but like… allowing one group to essentially “get a pass” opens the door for EVERY group to get one.

what was even weirder is that the person who made the post about it wasn’t even muslim 😭 they said they looked it up which i believe, but then they had an actual wlw muslim in their comments telling them it wasn’t a big deal— and THEY LITERALLY TOLD THE COMMENTER THAT IT WAS STILL DISRESPECTFUL?? AND OTHER NON-MUSLIMS WERE GOING “grr but it’s a sin >:(” LIKE?? HELLO?? WHY are people not even included in the group talking over ACTUAL MEMBERS OF THE GROUP???

i care very deeply about respecting people’s beliefs and faiths. but once that belief starts to harm others, my respect is withdrawn. the golden rule is that your rights end where another person’s begin. i remember seeing posts from years ago about queer muslims. they’ve always reminded me of queer christians – the vast majority of their faiths hate them, but they do still exist. and it’s possible to be progressive while also being devoted to your faith. i’ve met so many religious folks that are allies and supportive of queer people, so seeing posts like this crop up and gain popularity is just… disheartening. it feels like we’re going backwards after finally making some progress.

#not to mention the fucking astronomical rise in purity culture #so many young people don’t even realize that they’re becoming just as rigid and bigoted #as the older folks they claim to hate and be so much better than #it’s fucking 2023. we have less than 4 months until 2024. #the fact that people– especially people MY AGE– are still using religion to justify hate is insane to me #go back 8 or so years #back when “free the nip” was on the rise and people started reclaiming slurs and celebrating pride #we were somehow more progressive then than we are now #this is such an insignificant situation in the grand scheme of things #but it provides so much insight into the thinking of this generation. #we think we’re being progressive and so respectful and kind and that we’re so much better #because SURELY respecting a religion’s beliefs is the right thing to do #unless it’s christianity. then have at it y’know #but all these people (non-muslims) are doing is justifying bigotry and hatred with the EXACT same arguments that they claim aren’t valid #“you can’t use religion to justify hate!! (unless it’s this religion lol)” #like. that’s not the take you think it is. and we’re never going to progress past these hateful beliefs if you continue to justify it #idk just. as a queer person myself who has a fem oc that i ship with farah because i love her and view her as a very progressive character #seeing people use her to justify outdated bigoted beliefs hurts so bad #her whole character revolves around empowerment. and going against traditions. and not bowing down to what other people say #using her to justify the exact behavior that she fights against just feels disrespectful to HER. #like yes– she’s very likely muslim given where she lives. but she already doesn’t follow several of the practices iirc #and again. ‼️QUEER MUSLIMS EXIST‼️ #it’s just. ugh. i’m going in circles atp #i’m going to sleep i’m too tired and migraine-y for the internet

[hella1975]

my mum now knows what fanfiction is and thinks it's 'really cool' and that i should 'give it a go'

#:'))) #it was such a sweet conversation actually #basically ive just had this two days with bam of just being able to totally be myself re my writing and fic and all that #bc it's a HUGE part of my personality that im used to just keeping top secret at all costs #and specifically just our time in waterstones was so <333 #and i was like okay this is actually a good way to bring fic up to my mum actually #bam i used your dissertation as a convo opener actually lmao i was like 'oh so it's super interesting basically-' #and i explained what fanfic was to her! and she thinks it's so cool! #she literally was not weird about it at all and i kinda knew she wouldnt be bc im very much the problem #when it comes to limiting myself like IM the one who internalised all this shame around writing IM the one so scared of being 'cringe' #and my mum has always hated watching me do that to myself so i think she was really happy just seeing me talking about this stuff #she made a really good point actually she was like 'every sanditon adaption is fanfiction bc austen never actually finished it' #and 'kate bush's wuthering heights could also be a form of fanfiction' #i was like babygirl you're RIGHT and you're getting way more into this than i expected lmao #next step: tell her i accidentally started a cult and am weirdly popular in the online writing sphere #we're making progress folks this is huge for me and it only took me two fucking years LMAO

[dootznbootz]

...It's kind of wild when the terf that you got into a fight with and had to write an essay on "Why violence is wrong" back in high school now works at the pharmacy where you get your medication from...

#I'm sorry for the vent I just am mad that she could be in a PHARMACY. I hope she's at least changed her ways. #she should not be working in health if she still thinks this way. #She definitely remembered me too. I don't think she could forget honestly. neither of us was injured btw. #It wasn't a “fight” in the way you think most fights are. she called this sweet trans boy the word rhymes with maggot (that's what she is) #a maggot. #while she was moving around a lot and idk. rage took over and I twisted her arm and she happened to fall and then I cussed her out #I probably over did it but moving her arms around while ranting and then calling him that just pushed me over. I WAS calm at first. #He was a shy and quiet kid and he “didn't want to make a big deal about it” so I tried to follow his request but... you know. #it was in theatre behind the curtains during rehearsal and everyone heard/saw so yea. I got into trouble. no detention surprisingly #it was a long time coming. she would constantly harass him with shit about how “You still look like a girl”. and using wrong pronouns #and teachers were told but they didnt' do shit. She also was just a mean person. This guy wasn't the only person she bullied #I only wrote on why VIOLENCE was wrong. not about what I did. The only thing I feel bad about is that I scared the poor guy I was defending #I don't remember what I said (I was that mad) but apparently I "picked her personality apart like a bunch of lego bricks and then told her #why the “lego brick” is fucked up“ He was just 14-15 and she was 18 btw😒literally harrassing a sweet KID. #was convenient though because all I had to do was give her a look and she would immediately back down. idk what I said when I yelled #at her but it was nice that I could do that whenever she would start shit #Mad rambles #idk y'all I'm scared that she's in HEALTH. if I know anything I'll see if I can report her because while I hope she wouldn't fuck with tran #folks medications idk for sure. she was really cruel back in high school. #vent #rant #I try not to post shit like this but I'm worried you know?

[carcinized]

nothing no ones said before but kind of ridiculous that all hair advice is for straight/wavy haired people. like fuck yall tbh

#i been on this earth for so long and what it has taken for me to finally start to MAYBE have a lead on how to care for my hair #has been the combined experiences of realizing my hair looks positively divine after air drying after swimming in an ocean/lake/river #OR after i get really fucking sweaty from a workout #and i was telling my (super straight haired) mom this and she was like Ohhhh.... your hair probably needs oils. but your shampoo washes #them out. and i was like ok. so tonight i used very minimal shampoo and we are gonna find out if i can recreate those organized curls #bc my normal hair is just frizzy which i guess comes from lack of moisture? which shampoo rinses out?? #WE'LL SEE WHAT HAPPENS I GUESS. im going to sleep but its like man. fuck whoeever decided straight hair was all that mattered #and yall with ur wavy hair shut up. this post for the curly haired girlies (non gendered). love u wavy haired folks but this aint for u #curls ONLY!!!!!!!! #tobin talks

[florenceisfalling]

like idk. i miss seeing content from s.igne (though i respect gab wholeheartedly). i miss fanart from my favorite artists. i miss older eras of j.se at times (and yes, there were older eras, the way people pretended he Never Changed is just weird). i miss old anti designs. i miss the old fic trends. i miss having a very active fandom (though i am so happy to see the new arrivals) and i miss seeing him interact with fans the way he did on tumblr back in the day. i miss the way i used to interact with some of the blogs here before i decided to fuckin,,, wage holy war and make enemies out of them (joking, but i have seen sides to some of these people that i wish i could tear out of my memory). i miss feeling confident that i could trust the good intentions of people here and even the big man himself (not god. that makes sean sound like god. you know what i mean). i miss when some of you weren't so fucking bitter which is funny because i'm the bitterest bitch alive. idk. i don't think it's bad to miss any of these things because i'm not going to be an ass and act like it's anybody's fault. i'm not going to be bothered by gab for being happy because i'm glad she is happy, and i'm not going to get bothered by sean taking a reasonable step back from this hellsite when people were cruel to him, and i'm not going to get mad at trends for changing because that is how time works. but i do miss things and i know its cringe and parasocial and perhaps even problematic but i hate having to pretend like i never have Any feelings about the past lest i break a hypothetical rule of what is the Normal level of attachment to an online community. okay. i think i'm done now.

#one of my favorite writers left because they couldn't deal anymore and one of my favorite writers turned out to have shit views and one of #my favorite writers left because of something that was partly my fault and one of my favorite writers stopped writing because of two of the #others and one of my favorite writers hurt someone i love over and over and over and one of my favorite writers left because they were the #someone i love. two of the big names hate queer folk that don't align with their ideals and half the artists left for twitter or for dead. #the man himself left because criticism always becomes cruelty and people lie to make themselves feel good. #the editors all turned their accounts private and my favorite told me on livestream that i was good and starting somewhere but then forgot #my name. and i thought maybe i was the bitter one but then i look at some of the other people who have been here so long and wonder why #they even bother anymore because they care more about complaining with everything j.ack does than anyone who actually enjoys his stuff. #and you know i poked fun at *** for a lot of things. some deserved some not. and one of them was the fact that she compared fandom #to warfare. and yes that's still silly i don't think it's a fair comparison but i do know that she wasn't fully wrong. #when you've been here for a long time and ive Been here for a long time you start to get really used to names and faces #and the change can be like waking up to a new wallpaper in your room. not a bad one just a new one. #i don't want to pretend that this fandom is just a silly little hobby for me when lets be honest i know some of yalls personal lives a #little too dearly for that. ive loved people here ive lost people here the first person who showed me this place fucking DIED and i still #lose it sometimes over the fact that he would have loved jameson so much and we couldve been closer friends had he stayed alive a few more #years. so yeah. sorry for being fucking cringy or whatever but there have been times where i've felt like im on a sinking ship watching #everybody else row away and i refuse to go. so like. cool. cool. im glad things are good again but i never really got to process the bad #things.

[13eyond13]

Once I went to pick up a friend from his work and his workmates asked him if I was his girlfriend the following day. That's how he came out at the workplace, after years. By just saying "oh, no. I'm not really into girls". Maybe you could "create" a somewhat similar situation? Good luck!

hahah thats normally how i like to do it, i want it to come up naturally because i feel super awkward trying to conjure up a situation to tell people! I will cross my fingers for that kind of a reason to bring it up

#like i already know she's cool about trans folks and such which is a good sign bc #we don't live in the most bustling metropolis of forward thinking folks but she never misgenders the trans patients and is accepting #so im like thats a good sign etc #anyways i didnt even think of her in any romantic interest way at first but after a while i just really started liking her personality and #i think shes v kind and cool and chill and checks a lot of good boxes so #i wouldnt mind at least finding out if she's gay #also i am only working with her for 1 year so at least it wouldnt be an inifinitely awkward workplace situation if things didnt work out #when i shot my shot #i keep thinking about how i told her i used to have a crush on one of the male patients when i knew him as a kid and wishing i didnt say #that now bc thats like the only thing ive ever said about my preferences to her but it was just like a grade 7 crush #not like a real actually would date him crush #but for all she knows about me so far im just straight probably #anyways my new mission is to be more obviously gay without feeling cringe and forced about it wish me luck #ask #anon #p

[snowshinobi]

still not over the time i told a recent friend (now recent bf) i liked his shirt (pale blue-grey polo w narrow white horizontal stripes, compliments his fluffy light brown hair + hazel eyes) and several lunch walks later he said he can’t remember the last time someone complimented him on his outfit. i think my heart audibly cracked

#where to even start with this like. #HE LOOKS GOOD. FREQUENTLY. #he matches the accent colors of his band tees to his pants and/or shoes. my fave combo rn is #the black The Who tee (white and red lettering on both sides) + cream shorts + black sneakers w red accents #he does the accent matching thing subconsciously btw. i pointed out ''your sneaks match the shirt that's cool'' he was like ''oh they do'' #no one ever said anything huh #my understanding is dudes are hesitant to compliment other dudes bc they fear being called gay for it. classic homophobia making life worse #first and foremost for gay ppl but also for the straights #and women are hesitant to compliment dudes bc they worry he'll take it as flirting. classic heteronormative #''women and men can't be just friends'' + ''she asked for it'' garbage making life worse first and foremost for women but also for men #and yeah also all genders of trans and/or enby folks may be hesitant to compliment guys bc they fear being hatecrimed. can ya blame em?? #look at the fucking statistics #on the one hand not being constantly judged for their presentation is a win for men. i love the compliments but it's also unnerving how #ready ppl are to appraise my appearance #that said it sucks that men getting pos attention for looking nice on the daily is so rare #all that suit hype yet no love for subtle accent matching. sweet kicks. a good sturdy jacket. FLANNELS #also would it kill us to tell guys their facial hair looks good? multiple guys ive dated have asked my opinion on their facial hair choices #before stating what their preference is. i'd get asking out of curiosity or wanting to know how it affects the kissing texture #but dude. man. my guy. people who love you will kiss you anyway even if it's a lil fuzzier than they prefer. #what's important is you like it #idk how to condense all this into occasional normal compliments anymore i just tell #bunny boy #his hair is pretty and his taste in band Ts fucks and spend 30 seconds curling and uncurling his fingers bc his hands are nice #sigh #snowswords

[dutybcrne]

Kaeya “I will act plenty friendly and inviting at all times, but if you so much as touch me with most any sort of intent without being one of My People or without me being mentally prepared for it, I can and WILL have an anxiety attack (at best)” Alberich

#//Is constantly this 👌 close to losing his shit whenever he goes out drinking with fellow knights #//Bc SB will have the genius idea of throwing their arms around his shoulders or patting his limbs casually #hc; kaeya #//If the person is unsure of how well Kae regards them; they’re better off waiting for him to initiate physical contact #//Bc pushing past his boundaries & making him cobble together composure to save face (his own) can set back any relationship progress #//Not even solely romantic or the sort; he Will be less inclined to pursue a friendship with folks that do this #//Will he say anything? perhaps not too directly; and if he does; will only say it once—if they forget; there’s Consequences #//He Will remember; and trust Will start getting whittled down #//Never liked physical contact much since his childhood days—for the longest time; only Crepus; Addie and Luc were allowed #//Now of the og three; Addie’s the one who has/can act on said rights; & even then she has Decorum to follow #//So he doesn't get as much physical affection from her like he used to/as he'd want #//Jean; Lisa; Klee and Traveler are the only other people allowed this free right #//Klee especially; which is good bc 2) he loves her hugs & 2) she does so v unthinkingly #//She gets full fam rights just like Addie #//Albedo too; but Kae knows he’ll never take it. probably #//Rosie is v hit or miss; but he’s p sure she isn’t keen on physical contact of any sort either; so he’s cool w her #//Huffman is another hit or miss—depends on how much he’s had to drink & how recent their last assignment together was

[darkredmage]

I can't deal with this shit anymore

#vent #hooohhhh bpy where do i begin #i feel like my art teacher has obliterated my talent tbh #ever since elementary school my art teachers are all Asshats #but the one im talking about just diesnt fucking care about teaching shit #my teacher almost never teach us all the shit needed to study #and then expects everyone to understand how to do realism #and to the students that do know art and actually enjoy art this asshole is always saying that their style sucks ass because ohhhhhh you #cant draw properly #and a lot of the ppl who were told that are just people just getting started to draw #theres also a few folks whos art talent makes me wanna print and eat them but APPARENTLY fucking OIL PAINTING is not good enough #EVEN GOING AS FAR AS TO RIP HIS FUCKING ASSIGNMENT OFF AND FORCES HIM TO START ALL OVER #god i just want to fucking beat this ahit ass teacher so bad #because of the pandemic a lot of people just drops out of school or get a job. a few folks in my class take commission. #take a while fucking guess what my teacher thinks of them #thats right my teacher is one of those peoplw who says that art can't get you job #but when someone points out that comic artists are. well. artists. who do stuff for comics for money. #she says that you cant get money from just doing that. #fucking. #also. all this shit that fucked me up from all this + my current art teacher is just making me feel worse for doing art #and i feel like quiting doing art sometimes just because its not good enough #so yea #being an art student is great mom /s