"Feels like this is your first time, pretty," Gallagher points out, "I don't think you've shaved someone's face before."
You draw back, gaping at him like a fish. "How dare you?" you play the part of being offended so well Gallagher nearly misses the hint of mirth in your features. "I-I've done this before, clearly!"
An amused huff leaves him, "Sure, I've heard that before."
To be fair, he remains unopposed to you shaving his face even if you haven't done it before. The not-so-sneaky glances you've been taking on his growing stubble is proof, and so are the times he's walked in to you watching videos on how to groom someone's beard. (He promptly ignored it and asked you if you'd like your eggs sunny side up for today.)
He's not the type to do self-care often. But seeing that you're eager to take care of him, he's also not the type to refuse it.
"Do you still want me to shave your... uh, situation?" You sound hesitant. He thinks it misplaced.
Gallagher chuckles. "You're calling it a situation?" The hesitance slowly melts into annoyance, an affectionate roll of your eyes your response to his question. "That's a joke if I haven't heard one."
However, that eye roll doesn't prompt you into continuing. He lifts a hand to your cheek, caressing it. "I didn't say stop, did I?"
You huff, despite the heating of your cheeks, and continue. Gallagher thinks this is the best chance to stare, watching you with fondness swirling in his chest.
Sure, this can be a tradition between the both of you.
not to advocate for MORE sexism in bioware games or anything like that but like...the "gender equality" in DAO is so poorly thought out and by that I am SPECIFICALLY referring to women in the Grey Wardens.
Sure yeah Alistair makes that off-hand comment about how "there aren't many women in the wardens" that's more indicative of the writing team's sexism than anything else, but genuinely speaking I think there's actually a valid reason for women to not be allowed in the Grey Wardens.
You cannot tell me that Alistair and the HoF were the first to discover what Broodmothers were and how they were made. You cannot tell me that Grey Wardens have been fighting back Darkspawn for centuries and they do not know about Broodmothers. And if the Grey Wardens know about Broodmothers, then they must know that sending female Grey Wardens down into the Deep Roads is a bad fucking plan.
I can understand concessions being made during a Blight; hell, being a Grey Warden is such a Shit Job that I can understand the Grey Wardens being willing to take in anyone. But like...the women who join cannot go down into the Deep Roads for their Calling. And I would argue that them going down into the Deep Roads at all is a bad plan unless they've got some equivalent of a suicide pill with them in case of capture by Darkspawn.
It honestly is baffling to me that there's NO mention of protocols for female grey wardens during their Calling or expeditions to the Deep Roads being different AT ALL. All it would take is Alistair saying something along the lines of "So that's why there's so few women in the Wardens" after they discover the Broodmother.
Because a woman joining the Wardens isn't just risking death.
She's risking a horrific, violating transformation that turns her into a creature that endangers everyone.
I come from communism. I never had dolls to play with. When I was young, I was playing with invisible beings and shadows. I never liked objects. This is why I became a performance artist.
— Marina Abramović (available on TikTok 21 Jan 2024)
Hate how whenever a female character in play/movie is played by a man in drag, it's always as a way to show how ugly/old/unsophisticated said female character is. It's never a genuine "this female character happens to be played by a man in drag", it's always "we're having a man in drag play this female character to highlight how undesirable she is, aren't we funny?" Like aside from the obvious transphobia and mockery of gender nonconformity, there's also the misogynistic insinuation that undesirable women aren't even worth being played by a woman, that they're not woman enough just by virtue of not being attractive.
making spot conlon and the brooklyn newsies a group of newsgirls is genuinely such an inspired choice, and i need this to be the default for every professional production from now on
At what age does a girl child begin to review her assets and count her deficient parts? When does she close the bedroom door and begin to gaze privately into the mirror at contortionist angles to get a view from the rear, the left profile, the right, to check the curve of her calf muscle, the shape of her thighs, to ponder her shoulder blades and wonder if she is going to have a waistline? And pull in her stomach, throw out her chest and pose again in a search for the most flattering angle, making a mental note of what needs to be worked on, what had better develop, stay contained, or else? At what age does the process begin, this obsessive concentration on the minutiae of her physical being that will occupy some portion of her waking hours quite possibly for the rest of her life? When is she allowed to forget that her anatomy is being monitored by others, that there is a standard of desirable beauty, of individual parts, that she is measured against by boyfriends, loved ones, acquaintances at work, competitors, enemies and strangers? How can she be immune to the national celebration of this season’s movie star sporting this season’s body, to the calendar art in the neighborhood gas station, to the glamorous model in the high-fashion photograph, to the chance remark of a lover, the wistful preference of a husband, the whistle or the unexpected hostile comment heard on the street?
What’s your view on toxic female friendships. I think it’s such a shame betrayal seems to be more common theme in female friendships. Men seem to have life long friends without any drama at all. Of course there are women out there with good life long friends but sadly it’s rare especially in this era we live in
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I think the underlying themes here are patriarchy and internalized misogyny. It can appear in blatant forms like women who sabotage each other for male attention, body/appearance/slut shame other women, or overly criticize other women's behavior and choices.
But I also believe there's a more covert patriarchal dynamic to women-women friendships vs. men-men friendships that's only recently become a prominent conversation in the public sphere/social media. As women, we're taught that it's our responsibility and culturally conditioned to perform all the emotional labor for the people in our lives – mainly men, but also other women. Men are taught and socialized with the opposite mentality.
So, I believe the dilemma comes down to this:
Female friendships exist as an outlet to unload our emotional stressors from all the men and women in our lives, so along with strict standards to be the "perfect" woman, it is easy for women to get on each other's nerves/bad side when we're all constantly emotionally exhausted and unloading onto each other. We overemphasize the emotional labor we should expect out of each other because we are conditioned to do this for the men in our lives. But, because other women aren't men, we start to resent/project onto them this anger. It's a very insidious type of internalized misogyny that I think a lot of women aren't aware of and therefore do not confront.
Then, there's the other side of the coin, where men don't really have these expectations of other men. Their friendship is based more on camaraderie through mutual interests, upbringing, lifestyles, or shared experiences (like working together, attending the same university, etc.). They don't uphold this expectation of performing emotional labor for themselves or each other. That role is reversed or the women in their lives.
Of course, I believe most men are so socially conditioned by patriarchy that they don't even realize this underlying dynamic and there are plenty of exceptions of emotionally intelligent men who desire to/actively unpack this to create more emotionally nourishing and equitable relationships in their lives, but I'm speaking in generalities for comprehension's sake.
Hope this resonates with some of you and answers your question. Bisous xx