#drama addict

[garpy-garp]

#dependance #mentalhealthart #dependancy #drugs addiction #addiction #illustratrice #canadianartist #quebecart #contemporary drawing #codependacy #drama #drama addict

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him. #bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?'' #'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''

[houseswife]

infinitely funny that wilson turned vegetarian while house was in prison to show that he’s moving on with his life and is capable of making personal changes that don’t revolve around his boybestfriend situationship but then the MINUTE they reunite he’s like “let’s get dinner! I’m craving MEAT 😋😋’. what kind of symbolism is this. I’m going to say a slur

#house md #hilson #house/wilson #gregory house #james wilson #greg house #hatecrimes md #‘meat’s back on the menu’ headass. #at least when will said so there was a double-entendre reason that wasn’t inherently gay. although that too #why are you as a character ina. medical drama bringing up the flesh metaphors #I suppose it’s about indulgence and withdrawal and consumption. or whatever #bringing us back to the addiction motif… #as well as the Penis imagery of course

[a-drama-addict]

do you ever think about your mutuals' ocs and go

#oughfjjgjfjdk #a-drama-addict speaks

[jesterjaxx]

Non-djuncan week art i did on my phone at work

#there is something so addicting about drawing them kissing #im cringe but i am free #im also gay damn #jester draws #total drama #fanart #djuncan #duncan total drama #dj total drama #dj td #duncan td

[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

“Hold my hands; kiss my forehead, hug me and look in my eyes; maybe today is the last day you can do this.” ― M.F. Moonzajer

Roommates Of Poongduck 304

KinnPorsche

Addicted the Series

Destiny Seeker

Tokyo In April Is...

My Gear Your Gown

The Eighth Sense

History 5: Love In The Future

My Secret Love

Love In The Air

Forehead kisses - my beloved (Part3/?) as part of my My favorite bl-trope collection in no particular order.

#bl series #bl drama #multi bl #multibl.edit #forehead kisses #foreheadkissesrulethemall #myedit #bl tropes #roommates of poongduck 304 #kinnporsche #addicted the series #destiny Seeker #Tokyo in April is... #My gear your gown #the eighth sense #history 5 #my secret love #love in the air

[00mold]

#mine #gijinka #lord shen #kfp #kung fu panda #boss wolf #im not experienced at gijinkas ahhhh #they’re the only ones i make gijinlas of because im addicted to period dramas

[maxescheibechlinichacheli]

#middleman's love #middlemans love #middleman's love the series #kinguea #thai bl #bl series #bl drama #maxine gifs #King is me #coffee addict #and Uea is not suspecting anything at all not ever no

[kinnporsche-is-life]

THEY STEAL THIS FROM US ALL

Let me be understood correctly - I wish Cheque all the best and the most spectacular successes in his professional life. But I will always have a tiny grave in my heart that says Lovely addict.

#tod panapong #cheque wacharawee #thai drama #lovely addict #venus in the sky the series #Venus in the sky cast #tod x cheque #thai bl #thai bl series #9 naa #venus in the sky

[quickhacked]

'You really just can't fuckin' quit me, can you?' Vitali scoffed, nostrils flaring on exhale and the smoke of his cigarette stung in his nose as his eyes followed Nick's frantic pacing back and forth through the tunnel. 'Assuming I ever was addicted to you in the first place,' he said in return, tilting his head up in defense when Nick's gaze snapped in his direction. 'It means nothing anymore, Nick— you ruined everything for me. There is nothing left for us now.'

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#cp2077 #cyberpunk 2077 #art #art:vitali #nuclearocs #nuclearart #sorry man i'm thinking entirely too much about young vitali again he makes me fucking INSANE!!!!!!! #the cigarette in question is a fake thang by the way but like. it adds to the drama of quitting something/someone #with the whole promise he made to mikhail to stop smoking but then picking it up again anyway and losing mikhail #but missing him every single day of his life and kind of being addicted to the memories of him and trying to satisfy his needs #through nick but nick can't provide and he isn't mikhail and vitali isn't addicted to nick per se BUT. #he is addicted to the temporary relief he can get from nick because it reminds him of his time with mikhail #do you see. how insane all of this is and how insane he is and how badly i need to explode everything with my mind. anyway

[thecruellestmonth]

Do you guys really believe that killing is the singular bad thing that cops do?

Or even that killing is the most frequent bad thing that cops do?

Are you saying that if cops didn't kill, then they'd be the same as Batman? Because then you're suggesting that effectively Batman already is a cop, with the exception that he hasn't killed (just like the majority of U.S. cops, who have never once shot or killed anybody).

I'm a bit worried to see opinions suggesting that only killing is wrong—and that violence, stalking, and humiliation are okay. In real-life, police commit countless acts of those "little" abuses, terrorizing entire communities, before they murder anybody.

Invading people's privacy is wrong. Hurting people to the point of hospitalization is wrong. Forcibly drugging people is wrong. Putting people in cages is wrong. Torture and "enhanced interrogation" are wrong. Ambushing people in their homes and safe places is wrong. Keeping inexhaustible wealth is wrong.

Superhero comics are power fantasies. Not all fantasies need to reflect our ideology in reality. But once you apply your real-life values to fiction, once you decide that fiction showcases exemplary real-life ideology—then your praise for Batman's ideology does become a worrying reflection of your real-life understanding of social issues.

#copaganda #Bruce Wayne critical #GCPD #fandom discourse #Batman copaganda #police brutality cw #Almost sorry to drag serious discussion of copaganda into ridiculous superhero comics but I swear the other guys started it first... #To be clear I'm completely disinterested in condemning or interrogating Bruce over his personal choice not to kill. #But I am so fascinated in how he justifies his own use of violence and privilege!!! So very very fascinated!! #Once again: LESLIE THOMPKINS IS RIGHT. #Actually I'm not gonna tag this post as @nti Bruce W@yne--because really I enjoy canon Bruce a hell of a lot more than his stans do lol. #Sorry but Batman isn't a darling anti-cop revolutionary. If he were then he'd get in line behind Green Arrow and like the Invisibles. #I mean maybe The Audio Adventures version is anti cop but still in a free-market libertarian power fantasy kind of way if you can dig that. #violence mention cw #murder mention cw #fandom drama #This is why Cheer doesn't work because Red Hood realizes 'Oh I don't want kids to lose their parents like I lost mine-- #--therefore I won't murder anymore. It's time to put my faith in the system. 👼👼👼' #Jason sweetie... you lost your father firstly to criminalization and incarceration for property crime. #You lost your mother to poverty and addiction. You are actually not like Batdaddy and your trauma is not a mere echo of his trauma. #Batman discourse

[separatist-apologist]

There are a lot of people on the internet who come specifically to rage bait simply because their own lives are pathetic, empty, and boring and this is a way they've learned to get attention. And the sooner a lot of you all realize that, the sooner you'll be able to have a measure of actual fun in this fandom.

#the elucien tag is annoying lately like why are you guys arguing with people who don't care? #why are you engaging with people intentionally trying to rile you up for discord points? #move ON #learn how to just ignore something that annoys you and engage with the things that bring you joy #unclear if people are aware that sometimes a response can be SILENT and that silence is actually SO LOUD #a lot of yall are addicted to drama and RIP i guess but you burn yourselves out and you don't last #ask me why so many fade but im still here: i know how to mind my own business

[a-drama-addict]

my fav shadowheart moment in hindsight is the time you pass the gallows in baldurs gate and she starts talking about things that can go wrong with hanging. and then wyll's like "shadowheart i dont like thinking about that" and she continues

#her mind #now that i finished the game i will be actively posting about it. scary times #a-drama-addict speaks

[jesterjaxx]

Something so funny about giving DJ a edgy freak for a boyfriend

DJ would text him a photo of cookies that he made and Duncan would text back "if we were in a 80s horror movie and you died first id try to get revenge on the killer and when i get fatally wounded during the fight the camera would pan to my dead body facing yours with blue and red lighting"

and DJ just has to decode that

#pros and cons of dating a horror movie addict #jester jabbers #djuncan #duncan td #duncan total drama #dj total drama #total drama dj #dj x duncan

[wanderlust-in-my-soul]

I want to learn boxing. Then let me teach you wrestling.

#stay with me #stay with me the series #I love those two grumpy boys already #the new addicted #chinese series #chinese drama #chinese bl #censored bl? #bl drama #bl series #asianlgbtqdrama #myedit

[attackoneyebrows]

chinese is such a beautiful language for insults......just saw someone tweet i’ll cross the ocean to shove an umbrella up your ass and open it (我会过海洋来把伞推到你屁股上然后打开它) what a sublime viewing experience

#ofc it was related to genshin art drama #truly a cesspool #not me being addicted to that game for almost a yr what a tragedy