#don’t be that person

[fantasiees]

Stick to girls cutie

Uuuhh rude I will not

#if it wasn’t clear before #i am bi #so #no??? #also what if i want to suck a girl’s dick??? #what then???? #don’t be that person #asks

[thechaoticrow]

friendly reminder that if you dress as kaz this halloween, don’t include the cane unless you’re disabled yourself. mobility aids aren’t props or costume pieces for able-bodied people

#yes i am actually disabled #you can dress as kaz just don’t do this #kaz brekker #grishaverse #halloween #six of crows #shadow and bone #crow club #jesper fahey #inej ghafa #nina zenik #wylan hendriks #matthias helvar #don’t be that person

[genisflyingkites]

sometimes I see my fellow classmates post about how they have autism and their symptoms and I’m like all for it like find yourself and whatever can help you but I can’t help but remember how mean or just straight up ignore my friend or other classmates who was more in spectrum of autism idk…

#internet likes to romanticize symptoms that are easier to romanticize #like having intense special interest but like #but coughing ticks or being unable to verbalize things properly #idk my school was mean to them I remember #will delete later but whenever I see it I wanna call out so bad #don’t be that person #I’m vague posting like a coward but wanna see anyone else relate Shdhdhhdhd

[cinnamonsly]

gonna leave this here…. heheh

#nothing inappropriate #pls #don’t be that person

[crystal-clovers]

I would just like to remind everyone that every single thing you say to someone affects them in a way, whether it be positive, negative, big, or small.

Everything negative hurts in some way, even if the person doesn’t show it. Even if the person themselves doesn’t feel it. Every whisper, every giggle, every gossip, every reaction, every purposeful avoidance for no reason, hurts. It may take weeks for the person to even recognise it’s happening, but it will hit them. 

Doesn’t affect you that they are hurting? Doesn’t make you feel anything? Getting a little kick out of pretending to gag whenever that person walks past? Loving the weekly share of that person’s sex life with all of your friends, so that they can share it on social media, and suddenly that person is a slut? 

It will affect you, trust me. Wait until the day that person disappears. One day they will snap. One day all the walls they put up to block you out, to deal with the tiny comments about their weight, will crumble down as quickly as they had to be put up. One day they’ll blame themselves for what you told them, and take it out on themselves. They’ll believe you. They’ll believe everything you say, whether that be consciously or not. 

The lack of empathy of those who don’t understand their actions have ACTUAL consequences are unbelievable. I can’t understand why they can’t put themselves into the victim’s shoes for a hot minute, and understand the fact that some of their words and action cause people to literally hide themselves away. Some people will actively avoid walking outside because they honestly don’t want their hairy legs or their waistline to be pointed out today. Hiding in toilet stalls at work is definitely not how an ‘outstanding workplace environment with top quality care and respect for employees’ should have their ‘valued’ workers be spending their lunch breaks. Students shouldn’t have to wear tights in 35 degree heat because of the fear every single one of their classmates pointing out their unshaven legs, then following them the whole way out of school with knives in their pockets and insults in their mouths.

It makes me honestly question what I’m doing wrong. What changed from last year that makes me suddenly the one to get picked on? Or is it my new glasses prescription making all of this clearer to me, and so now I can see what has been aching me this whole time? 

#tw rant #i’m a grumpy kitty #not directed to anyone #on here at least #but please please please please #treat your words like loaded guns #keep them stowed away and in safe hands #the safest hands for your insults are not those around you #they’re yours to keep inside your head #and if you yourself were bullied or hurt by those around you? #don’t be that guy. don’t be those bitchy girls who spread shit about you #don’t be that person

[waffle-bubbles]

People who boil their wooden spoons or put them in the dishwasher make me die inside

#don’t be that person #why do I know how to clean better than actual adults

[dapperskeletonbird]

Hey um. Didn’t think i’d need to say this, but even if someone is a bad person, do not fucking misgender them. You can call them out on the shit they’ve done without being transphobic.

#transgender #transphobia #had to block someone who was talking like that #don’t be that person #i’m so fucking mad #tw cursing

[evidently-endless]

i think we should remind musicians they can absolutely make up little stories for their songs btw. it doesn’t have to be about them at all. you can invent a guy and put him in situations to music. time honoured tradition in fact.

#i love reading your examples! however next person to be like um actually this exists?? it’s on sight #i know it exists. i think it’s fun. that’s why i think more people should do it. #sometimes i think the confessional style loses impact because everything has to be excavated from the depths of the soul #and somehow. confessional writing seems to be going with the most disaffected bland sound possible. odd. #i love deeply personal songs! i love when songs sound like they mean something to the artist! #something something wider issue of mining trauma and being performatively vulnerable for quote unquote content #idk i don’t have the actual knowledge to write about this well there’s just something not landing for me recently #mine

[junglejim4322]

I can’t believe “fake gamer girl” was an actual concept guys thought existed literally the most unfuckable guys who have ever lived were convinced girls were faking being interested in loser nerd hobbies to impress them

#I’m a gamer (derogatory) don’t take me calling gaming (derogatory) a loser nerd hobby personally

[gayvampyr]

no offense but you guys need to learn the difference between someone implying their experience is universal and a post simply just not being about you

#i’ve seen people respond to my personal posts venting about my own experiences and say that it’s ‘not universal’ or ‘needs more nuance’ #like??? no it doesn’t ?? it’s a vent #i don’t need to pass it through peer review #text post #10k #top posts #15k #20k #25k #30k #40k #50k #60k #80k

[adjit]

I think we need to get more comfortable with the idea that sometimes shitty, racist, homophobic, bigoted people are still incredibly talented.

I feel like every time I see a post addressing someone’s shitty behavior the post also takes the time to mention that they’re not even good at [x] anyway. And that’s just not always true? Equating being good at a skill as being morally good is just not necessary. Someone can be a fantastic writer, can have a beautiful singing voice, can create breathtaking artwork, and still be a horrible person.

I know part of this is probably just the instinct to dislike everything about a person when you dislike them, but I also think this mindset leads to people defending creatives way past where they should, because if bad people create bad art, then if this person creates art that I like and resonates with me, then they can’t be a bad person!

And you know. That’s just not true. Those two things are simply completely unconnected and I think it’d be healthier if we all started disconnecting them in our heads.

#ramblings tag #like idk. I think it’s possible to feel distaste for someone’s stuff while acknowledging it’s objectively good #but sometimes people act like admitting there’s a single good thing about a person who’s been shitty is impossible #and like. no! people are multifaceted and can have many positives #those don’t change the fact that they’ve done shitty things

[bixels]

Baffled.

#personal #not art #like how do you arrive at this conclusion #what beliefs? #the man may be a total grouch but if there’s one thing he HATES it’s Japanese nationalism #Japanese nationalists famously HATE his work especially the wind rises which criticizes imperial Japan and calls out the invasion of China #don’t ask for context on the first part of the tag I’m not answering

[nooby-banana]

#this felt worthy of the meme #i honestly can’t laugh hard enough what a waste of a project #not tagging this tho i don’t want either disney or star wars fans in my notifs #personal

[sunnibits]

just out of curiosity bc some people I know with glasses can just go a few hours or a day without them and be chill but I need them on all the time or I’ll go crazy

#I know this is just purely dependant on how disabled you are but like. making polls is fun #personally I don’t consider myself super badly nearsighted but like. if anything is literally more than a foot away from me it blurs #so going around without them would suck ass and probably give me a headache #sunny polls

[noknowshame]

why is religious Christmas imagery all so joyful and pleasant? where is the inherent horror of the birth of Christ? A mother is handed her newborn child, wailing and innocent. Her hands come away sticky. Red. Simply by giving her son life she has already killed him. He is doomed from the beginning. Her love will not save him from suffering. Because the thing cradled in her arms is not a baby, it is a sacrifice: born amongst the other bleating animals whose blood will one day be spilled in the name of what demands it. the night is silent with anticipation. Mary, did you know? That your womb was also a grave?

#instant conversation enders for my multiple youth pastor cousins #don’t say it (I’m gonna say it) #The Child is The Price #but i mean come on #as someone who isn't actually even christian the real-life historical version of this is still cursed as fuck #i mean we know that jesus was a person who existed. whatever circumstances he was born in #its terrifyingly ominous to imagine being so unaware of the affect your child will have on the future of humanity #time itself will one day be counted around your birth of him #and all because he will suffer an excruciatingly painful death that you will not be able to prevent #not only that. but regardless of his or your intentions #regardless of whether there is a god #for millenea unfathomable millions will have blood spilled and will spill blood in his name #atrocities will be committed that you cannot even conceive of #and all on his and your behalf #you love your child. its beautiful. but there's horror in what you've done. because everyone else will love him too #and what's more dangerous than that?

[eatyourdamnpears]

I’ve been in such a funk since the concert. I’m not even sure I enjoyed myself that much. maybe I did. I don’t know

#I don’t think I’m a concert person #parts of it were fun but parts of it were like …I’d rather be in bed right now and watching clips of this off tiktok #isn’t post-concert blues a thing? right? it’s a thing? #all I know is I feel really shitty and all I want to do is cry about it