#carol queen

[femmepathy]

I love butch women even if their butchness is nothing more than cussedness: “If there are only two ways to be in this world, I’ll pick the other one.” I love butch women because they make straight people nervous. I love butch women because they resist. And even if I’m decked out in Frederick’s of Hollywood fluff, if I’m on the arm of a butch woman, you can see that I’m a gender-resistor, too.

Carol A. Queen Why I Love Butch Women

#why i love butch women #butch #lesbian #carol queen #carol a. queen #i had been looking for this for so long. and i just remembered i sent this to my gf when we first started talking #hehe ☺️☺️ #butch femme #pride #mine

[androgynealienfemme]

"What is butch? Rebellion against women's lot, against gender-role imperatives that pit boyness against girlness and then assign you-know-who the short straw. Butch is a giant fuck YOU! to compulsory femininity, just as lesbianism says the same to compulsory heterosexuality. I do not associate respect for compulsory anything with butchness, though perhaps some butch bottoms will disagree. I first gravitated toward butch women because they were the easiest female allies to recognize in my war against the compulsory world.

In the 1970s, when I came out in the dyke community, butch was dead and androgyny was practically an imperative. I didn't mind at first; girliness as a way of life hadn't worked out for me, and though I had always exhibited distinctly femme sexuality, I wasn't presenting myself to the world that way: I hadn't really grown into the image. I was young; the men I had fucked played "Me Tarzan, You Jane." I couldn't figure out how to get them to play the game by different rules. As soon as sex with them was over (or even while it was still going on) the whole thing felt stupid. Men who didn't play Tarzan were fine, but I couldn't figure out how to get them to fuck me. No doubt they were contending with their own straight (or not-so-straight) boy version of femme sexuality and were waiting for me to make the first move. Some men don't play Tarzan so as not to appear sexist; others just want you to do it-- grab their neckties and out them where you want them -- but I didn't know that at the time.

With some relief then, I retired the Jane I never wanted to be, reconstructed myself as an androgyne, and forsook my vain attempt to present my femininity to the world. The Uniform, actually, was Butch Lite. Jeans or chinos, flannel shirts or tees, sensible shoes-- either boots, athletic shoes, or Birkenstocks (it turns out the latter were incredibly subversive if you wore them with scarlet toenail polish, but that's another story). Almost the whole dyke community dressed this way: if a woman didn't, her politics and her sexual orientation were automatically up for debate.

The butches who were left over from the era before the purge also dressed this way. We had renamed the identity, it seemed, but kept the look. That way we could say we'd vanquished it, even as we kept it around to turn us on.

The unschooled eye couldn't tell the two sorts of women -- butches and androgynes-- apart. Butchness had been so thoroughly declared passe that an entire generation of dykes could dress in what was essentially butch-woman drag and evoke defensive responses only from conservative straight people (and very straight-identified "gay women").

At first I believed the mythos of the Vanished Butch (and her symbiotic sister-species, the Vanished Femme). But certain women wearing the Uniform made my nostrils flare, my tongue tie, my skin prickle like an electrical storm had passed. They filled the clothes differently. It took me some years to begin to understand why I wanted to chew on some women's thick brown leather belts and not on others.

Non-butch women wore the Uniform like librarians who had just come in from gardening. It was not clothes that made the woman. It was stance. It was attitude-- it was impossible to picture one of the librarians wearing a tux, or myself dressing in silk or lace to present myself to her. It was impossible to think of presenting myself to her at all, to offer her that mixture of allure and willingness that I desired to give a butch woman."

“Why I Love Butch Women” by Carol A. Queen, On Butch and Femme: Compiled Readings, (edited by I.M. Epstein) (2017)

#why I love butch women #dagger: on butch women #on butch and femme: compiled readings #on butch and femme #Carol queen #lesbian lit #lesbian #butch lesbian #butch #lesbian history #butch history #queer history #lgbtq+ history

[newsmutproject]

But - especially for women and queers - a pleasant sex life has never been a given. Hence both sex information and consent culture are even more political than they appear from the outside.

You can’t be any kind of queer, including genderqueer, and be afforded respect and safety across the board. So sex positivity - not popular culture’s “Wheee! Sex!” version, but the original definition, which I’ll boil down to “Sex is diverse and we all have the right to be ourselves sexually, presuming consent” - is key to addressing rape and non-consent. It is the overarching philosophy that states that our sexual desires are our own and can be engaged in, in an atmosphere of consent, any way we choose. Each of us deserves respect, and consensual sexual behavior should never be a source of shame.

-Carol Queen, in Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker

#Carol Queen #consent culture #sex positivity #changing the narratives

[hellyeahscarleteen]

Pride Video Round-Up!

Moments in Queer Resistance

GALZ

Mattachine Society and the Lavender Scare

Kif-Kif

Gad Beck

Interviews!

Author and activist S. Bear Bergman

Sci-Fi author Charlie Jane Anders

Long-time sex educator Carol Queen

#history #queer history #queer resistance #mattachine society #lavender scare #gad beck #charlie jane anders #s.bear bergman #carol queen

[readingbibooks]

“I want to honor and share our emerging secrets. If a bisexual community can form with no need to define itself in relation to its “opposite,” perhaps there I will have my coming-out place. Until then, home is not a place, but a process.”

- Carol A. Queen, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

#carol queen #bi any other name

[iphis24]

Maleness isn’t male on a female, honey — it’s something else again, a horse of another color, something our gender-impoverished language doesn’t offer us words to describe.

Carol Queen, “Why I Love Butch Women”, in Dagger: On Butch Women (Eds. Lily Burana, Roxxie, and Linnea Due)

#carol queen #why i love butch women #dagger: on butch women #gender - #the first part!!! #quotes

[dsalinaplays]

Ngl I'd actually like to see how much I've read this year.

#gay #swan queen #carol aird #clexa #wayhaught #wynonna earp #ouat #a03 #ao3 fanfic #fanfics #baldur's gate 3 #lady dimitrescu #fanfiction

[gwendyworm]

Kamala: why does the queen of asgaurd call you baby girl-

Carol: let’s stop talking.

#COME ON THIS ABSOLUTELY HAPPENED #look kamala was getting fed just as much as we were #who said the arranged marriage fanfiction involved prince yan!!!!! there’s a queen right there!!!!!! #that kiss made me go insane #the marvels #captain marvel #carol danvers #kamala khan #ms marvel #GWEN SPEAKS!!!!!

[queam]

Trolls Artdump

#trolls #trolls band together #trolls world tour #trolls poppy #queen poppy #trolls barb #queen barb #trolls floyd #trolls clay #trolls viva #cliva #trolls smidge #trolls carol #delta dawn #rock zombie delta dawn #verbalase 50k cliva….

[funktrolls]

[ February 2023 ] trolls art log

#broppy #brolly #gustval #carb #hickoppy #trolls branch #queen poppy #holly darling #trolls rhythm #trolls big j #val thundershock #gust tumbleweed #queen barb #trolls carol #trolls hickory #trollstopia #trolls world tour #dreamworks trolls #manolo.art

[androgynealienfemme]

“On Butch Woman” by Carol A. Queen, from Dagger: On Butch Women

#on butch women #Carol Queen #lesbian #butch #femme #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbt #gender stuff #i love lesbian writing there’s so much here #so much depth and complexity and so much we can all learn about lgbt history and culture and language #writing #recs #btw if someone wants to retype the text for screenreaders please do

[newsmutproject]

Those feelings of 'maybe,' fraught and contingent as they are, are where the really exciting work lies. When 'maybe' is never an equivocal dodge but always opportunity and means to get closer to our own enthusiastic, passionate 'yes' - what a day that will be.

Carol Queen, in Ask: Building Consent Culture edited by Kitty Stryker

#Carol Queen #experimentation #consent culture #quotes #changing the narratives

[userparallels]

HOUSE OF THE DRAGON 1.01 “The Heirs of the Dragon” LA REINE MARGOT (1994) dir. Patrice Chéreau

#house of the dragon #la reine margot #queen margot #ours* #by carol #dailyflicks #useroptional #userbbelcher #gameofthronesdaily #ceremonial #cinemapix #chewieblog #cinematv #asoiafedit #hotdedit #adaptationsdaily #tusereliza #arthurpendragonns #femalecharacters #userladiesblr

[ljaneyx]

I've never felt so seen than seeing Kamala Khan's room and just watching her throughout the entire movie. Like I'm sorry the mention of fanfiction threw me completely. Like oh my god I love her so much. I read the Ms Marvel comics when I was 11 and I cried when her series was announced and when it came out. To actually see live representation of her in a MOVIE was more than I could've dreamed of. The Marvels is such an amazing Movie 😭💕

#the marvels #iman vellani #brie larson #teyonah parris #kamala khan #monica rambeau #carol danvers #i love them all do much #also Carol and Valkyrie!?!?!?! #i died #i literally sobbed so much #the king and queen of the universe #my new otp #they only got two mins of screentime but idc #they got a million hours in my heart #its all i can think about now

[readingbibooks]

“I want to be able to express the truths of my life, and my sexuality, in a language that does not obscure. The word choices available now restrict me. I am not tolerant of these restrictions, of a world view that consigns dissidents to limbo. I want some place to belong, a name to be called.”

- Carol A. Queen, Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out

#carol queen #bi any other name

[iphis24]

Loving masculinity in a woman differs crucially in one way from loving it in a man: In her it is a badge of standing out, not of fitting in. It is grown into through pain, or at least a sense of separation from those less different.

Carol Queen, “Why I Love Butch Women”, in Dagger: On Butch Women (Eds. Lily Burana, Roxxie, and Linnea Due)

#carol queen #why i love butch women #dagger: on butch women #gender - #not to discount the queer masculinities men of various kinds have carved out for themselves as forms of difference! #but at least in comparing butchness to normative cishet masculinities this feels resonant #quotes