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nebulousmedic · 4 months
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Hey not a ask and you don’t have to answer this publicly but on your nsfw twitter, I noticed you drew the mercs drinking while having sex and I wanted you to know that drunk sex is r/ape/non-con. They’re intoxicated so they can’t properly consent so I recommend editing those pics or deleting them!
Scout is not intoxicated in the drawing. I imagined it happened the next day at night, perhaps? Since I did depict him hungover, or even a couple days after since an 0rgy like that does require proper planning and preparation
Anyway
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angelzai · 4 months
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atsushi nsfw alphabet NEOW PLEASE PLEASE 🙏🏻
nsfw alphabet - atsushi nakajima . . . .ᐟ
MINORS DO NOT INTERACT!
wc: 2.8k
cw: switch!atsushi, gn!reader, implied ada!reader, unprotected sex, creampie, dirty talk, mentions of exhibitionism/mild voyeurism/semi-public sex, mild marking, communication, praise, mild degradation, brief mirror sex, brief edging, breeding kink if you look at it from the right angle, spanking, teasing
reid: anon, the way this was already in the works when you requested…you get me
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a = aftercare (what they’re like after sex)
cuddly cuddly cuddlyyy
for the love of god cuddle him
even if he’s just dommed the hell out of you, pull him close and run your fingertips across his shoulders and kiss his hair and tell him how good he did
don’t worry, he will return the favor! but he just needs to hear it
if he was rough, he will reaffirm that anything mean he might’ve said was bedroom talk only and that you are wonderful and he loves you so much.
clean-up? nooo, stay with him <3
always always always verbally confirms that you’re feeling happy, loved, and safe after. communicative king
b = body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)
he loves your hands. they hold him so gently, they caress him so softly, they make him cum so hard, and they’re so pretty - what else could he ask for?
if you’re not both busy elsewhere, he will hold both your hands during sex. kisses your knuckles and palms, licks and bites your fingers - he borderline-worships your hands
he likes his arms, especially since he started eating better and filling out. also impressed with his back when he’s finally in decent shape
(in all reality, the biggest selling point of these two places is probably the scratch marks you leave on them - he can’t get enough of gazing at his marked-up biceps in the morning, or twisting at the waist to see the violent red tracks you left down his back<3)
c = cum (anything to do with cum, basically)
unbelievably gorgeous while he cums
so desperate to cum in you. he doesn’t quite know whether it’s instinctual or the fact that you just feel so good around him, but he needs it and he will beg for it.
not opposed to cumming on you per say - he’ll tell you how pretty you look covered in it, but there’s nothing that gets him hard again instantly quite like watching his seed drip out of your twitching hole <3
d = dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)
gets so hot at the thought of being caught fucking you
it’s a little confusing to him - he absolutely does not want to make anyone uncomfortable, especially you, and the idea of being caught by an authority figure/someone he knows isn’t super appealing to him either.
it’s less getting caught and more the looming threat that he could be caught that gets him going
with some thorough discussion and plenty of prior consent from all parties, he could definitely get down with being watched
won’t bring this up solely because he doesn’t know how to </3 he doesn’t want you to think he’s weird for it, but please, just fuck him in that single stall bathroom at the mall
e = experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)
VIRGIN
basic headcanon, i know.
but listen - his pretty little head thinks up some of the dirtiest shit
you heard it here folks, atsushi nakajima is a closet freak. an absolute fucking animal disguised as an angel
you roll in your chair over to his desk. how was his morning, you ask? do you want him to tell you how he woke up with the worst hard-on and thought about you while he fucked his hand? how he pictured your watery eyes lookin’ up at him and your warm throat constricting around his cock and your soft hair knotted around his fingers? because he’ll tell you alright, in that sweet, soft voice of his, and he’ll say it with an unassuming face, just out of everyone’s earshot so that if you react you’d be the one to incriminate you both over your conversation - you’d be the one subject to dazai’s teasing and kunikida’s wrath and ranpo’s incessant questioning. and he’ll trace his fingertip over the back of your hand and blush so subtly, so innocently while he talks. don’t be fooled by his timidity, he knows exactly what he’s doing with this.
he feels so powerful when he can fluster you like this - don’t be surprised when he asks you to help him grab something from the supply closet later that day.
he might not have the physical experience, but he has enthusiasm, determination, and filthy words and fantasies to make up for it <3
f = favoite position (this goes without saying)
anything that allows you to hook your legs over his shoulders is his favorite <3
i’ve seen it called a few different things, but the praying mantis position and any variation of it - yeah he’s big on this
he’s a sucker for classic missionary so he can kiss you, hold your face, swallow your moans, pin your wrists above your head, press his forehead to yours, mark your neck, bury his face in your hair. ugh such a sweet boy
g = goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)
as a rule, he’s not that goofy. he takes your pleasure seriously!
please don’t laugh at him too hard in bed if he does something unintentionally funny. he’s still a little insecure about his lack of experience
if he says something that’s just a beat off or his toby fox undertale ringtone starts blaring from his phone just brush it off
what he doesn’t mind at all is laughing and joking at the silly sounds your bodies sometimes make. it alleviates awkwardness!
h = hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)
didn’t really realize that upkeep was even a thing until he was with you
he’s pretty sparse! his body hair’s only slightly darker than his silvery locks, and he doesn’t have much to begin with
does have a faint and pretty little happy trail <3
i = intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)
he’s a little rough around the edges when it comes to setting the mood - he’ll probably just start kissing you and mumbling “wanna fuck you,” “‘m so horny,” “please touch me.” clumsy, but cute and effective <3
loves letting you know how perfect you are, how well you’re doing, how good you’re squeezing him…he forgets to talk so much when he’s lost in his pleasure, but he really values letting you know how you make him feel!
expects the same from you - tell him what you like, what you’re not liking, if you need him to slow down or change positions. makes for really communicative and romantic sex
again. hand holding <3
j = jack off (masturbation headcanon)
horny little fuck. jacks off so much more than you’d expect him to.
another pillow/blanket humper sighs dreamily
he kind of hates how shameful it can feel after? he still sometimes has trouble believing he deserves pleasure at all. he’d much rather just have you there to reassure him that he deserves to feel good <3
k = kink (one or more of their kinks)
at the start of your relationship, he kind of just assumes he’s a sub - that he’d like to be taken care of, let you have control and make the decisions, etc. and it’s true! he does like that!
but oh god, if you encourage him to dom you, there is truly no going back from how feral he gets.
it’s anyone’s guess on any given day whether he’ll be in the mood to dom or sub. he comes to really appreciate this versatility about himself!
doesn’t mind some mean words once you build up excellent trust with him. let’s be real, he’s a sassy lil motherfucker (cough “no wonder dazai up and left you” “you’re even more pathetic than i am” cough) - he can spew some ultra tasteful degradation <3
gradually gets off even harder on being rough with you as your relationship progresses, he gets more comfortable, and you both explore more. he grows to become big on punishments (read: bending you over his lap and spanking you red) if you’re being bratty
but at the end of the day, it’s atsushi we’re talking about. so most importantly…
PRAISE
PRAISE
PRAISE
your tigerboy needs praise so bad - doesn’t matter if you’re domming or he’s domming.
he’s sitting with his back to your chest while you stroke him and play with his nipples? whisper in his ear about how pretty he sounds, that he’s being such a good boy, his dick’s so perfect, you’re so in love with him.
on the flip side, he’s drilling into you ruthlessly after a stressful day? be extra loud for him - sob and cry about how good it feels, how he’s so big, how he fucks you so well.
l = location (favorite places to do the do)
so down bad for doing it on the bathroom counter
he’ll hoist you up to sit you on the very edge of the sink to fuck you with his arms wrapped around your middle and his face buried in your neck
(looks up into the mirror every so often to watch your ass ripple against the counter and your head loll back - can’t help the wild grin on his face as he leans back to give you a glimpse of his dark eyes and shit-eating expression. loves watching himself make you feel good almost as much as he loves making you feel good.)
m = motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)
when you love on him in front of other people.
he won’t go over the top with pda, but he really enjoys the little pecks, squeezes, and touches that are only for him
you offer to go get everyone at the agency coffee from the café downstairs, but atsushi’s the only one that gets a sweet tug on the collar of his shirt and a kiss on the cheek before you go. little reminders like that let him know your love is all his, and it gets him impatient to get you home
will kind of go out of his way to make his pda appear practical. it helps him avoid embarrassment, he swears. oh no, you look cold at the train stop, he better wrap his arms around you from behind and press you to him! the fact that passersby get to know you’re his is totally just a bonus, nothing more. :)
n = no (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)
as another one with a trauma-ridden past, he cannot handle degradation and humiliation taken too far. no 24/7 D/s dynamic for him please. of course he wants to be your whore, but that’s not all he wants to be! please keep it moderate and in the sexy space. always remind him how valued and loved he is immediately before and after. he truly loathes feeling worthless, it would be even worse if that feeling was coming from you :(
o = oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)
receiving takes pressure off of him - i can see a lot of your first sexual encounters with him being you going down on him
your experience level here isn’t too important either - the way you look on your knees in front of him has him busting so quick
he’s not a pro at giving by any means, but god he loves doing it.
after getting over the initial fear of disappointing you with his mouth, he’s very eager to learn what makes you fall apart
all around, he loves communication, so give it to him straight. coach him through it. he’s receptive - he’ll pick up alright <3
p = pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)
fucks fast and hard <3
there is so much passion and sensitivity in this boy he’s practically bursting at the seams with it
all that passion combined with his adoration for you translates into pretty intense lovemaking
q = quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)
while he much prefers going at it until you’re both unable to move, he’s not opposed to quickies.
perfect time for a quickie is if he’s being sent on an assignment or mission and won’t see you for few days - did you both already have sweet, romantic goodbye sex that morning and also probably the night before? yes. will he still rail you in the agency bathroom literal minutes before he leaves? absolutely.
r = risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)
he’ll experiment within his likes and boundaries! as mentioned before, he’d probably like to let a consenting third party watch him while he fucks you
not big on anything that could genuinely hurt you or get you into serious trouble like weapons or dangerous spaces
not super conscious of his own health in general - again, he will want to fuck you raw and finish inside you
s = stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)
many. multiple.
he’s got a natural athleticism about him, and on top of his ability and the rigorous physical discipline his job tends to require, he can go three or four rounds on a bad day.
(is this also because he’s just that desperate for and in love with you? yes possibly)
t = toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)
i just can’t see him being super into toys
if he were to give them a try, he’d probably want you to use them on him, if that’s okay with you - maybe a cock ring or a vibe strapped to his dick
he’d rather just feel you and fuck you and touch you as much as he can <3 he can’t get enough of you, why on earth would he wanna share you with a piece of silicone?
u = unfair (how much they like to tease)
he likes a moderate amount of teasing. dirty promises in your ear in public, maybe two or three instances of edging before he lets you cum
ultimately though, he wants what he wants and that’s for both of you to feel good - he definitely leans toward a soft dom. he’ll put you in your place for sure, but the main goal is always to make you cum <3
v = volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)
breathy and whiney tigerboy. his sounds come from his throat as opposed to his chest
trails off into heaving sighs if he’s going slow; speeds up into rhythmic moans when he’s fucking you fast
“so needy. you gonna be good? promise?”
“you’re gonna lay there all pretty and take it f’me, yeah?”
hello who taught him how to talk like this??
“feels- hah- so good! feels s’good, ah!”
“lemme cum in you, please, please, please…!”
talkative until he’s fucked out - then it’s just unintelligible nonsense and tears
w = wild card (a random headcanon for the character)
he’s insecure! it’s part of where his praise kink comes from. building off that, do this thing when he’s feeling down where you ask him to “tell me what you are.”
it forces him to compliment himself.
let him know you expect him to say something along the lines of “good boy,” “lovely,” “perfect,” just positive self-talk - when he does, repeat it back and reward him and reaffirm it. pound that shit into his brain.
even better? do this while you’re riding him slowly <3
x = x-ray (let’s see what’s going on under those clothes)
prettiest dick of them all
average and uniform girth from base to tip, pale just like the rest of him other than the blushy, leaky head, and a single prominent vein down the top side
just under six inches. literally perfect
y = yearning (how high is their sex drive?)
he’s hormonal and fucking pent up. just, from life. anytime you wanna let him hit, he’s there
kind of feels bad, actually, about how much he asks you for sex - he would never want you to get the idea that that’s all he wants!
the fact that he loves you so much is definitely a huge part of why he’s so goddamn horny
z = zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)
the epitome of “i just let him nut in me, now he’s playing fortnite?”
tigerboy can bounce right back up after some routine post-sex cuddles. as stated before, he’s got stamina
at bedtime, fear not - he’ll get his energy out by hopping up for a quick glass of water, cleaning you off quietly and gently with some nice smelling wipes, or playing a game/reading a book while you drift off.
he’s not a sound sleeper, but he has to admit when he does finally fall asleep next to you after sex, it always seems to be the best sleep of his life. <3
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pythoria · 2 months
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In light of the new astarion voice lines in reaction to mizora, I think we finally need to put to rest the whole monogamous vs polyam astarion discourse. Here's the thing. Polyamory is never explicitly discussed or negotiated at any point during the astarion romance. You get individual instances of astarion being okay with various things, like a one night stand with the drows or halsin. It's unclear in the coversation about halsin if he's agreeing to a one night stand or a three-way relationship deal, he just gives you a general go ahead to do whatever you want with halsin because he trusts you. But then halsin doesn't stick around at the end of the game, and by the time he leaves he's only ever been with astarion in the context of the drow orgy (which is optional), and only sexually. Halsin is only interested romantically in the player char from what we're shown. Everyone is free to headcanon otherwise or write whatever fics they want, but as long as we're arguing about canon we have to be very specific. Nothing about any of the conversations with astarion suggest polyamory. They might have suggested a sort of open relationship situation before, but now with mizora, we have proof that there was no negotiation or blanket consent given off screen for having sex with other people, and in fact, it hurts astarion deeply to see his partner engage in sex with someone else.
Now, you can argue it's because he didn't consent to it beforehand, fair enough. Let's walk through what that conversation could've looked like, shall we? If you'd have asked him if you can sleep with mizora, he could've either said yes or no, it's pretty straightforward. From how upset he is, and the fact that he doesn't bring up you not getting his approval beforehand, we can infer his answer would've been "no" (because if he would've said yes anyway, you would get the type of reaction you get with ascended astarion, a "next time invite me" type response). So then, why would astarion say no to mizora specifically, if asked? After all, he's presumably okay with meaningless sex, even when he's not involved, because he lets you sleep with one of the drows all by yourself. And presumably he's also okay with it when feelings are involved, if he's truly okay with the halsin arrangement. So what part of sleeping with mizora is different? Why would he suddenly disagree with it if he was previously okay with similar arrangements?
Here's the thing. Astarion says yes to things out of pressure. Obviously he tells you so himself in act 2, "i didn't know how to say no", and that's corroborated by his dead expression during the drow 4/5some. He says yes to things, hates them, and then depending on how violated he feels afterwards, he decides whether or not it's a forgivable transgression on the part of his partner. He HAS to do it after the fact, because prior to it, he doesn't know how he will feel, he doesn't know if something specific is going to be the thing that tips him over. When he says "i didn't know how to say no" in act 2, it's not just that he instantly knew he didn't want to have sex with tav and went along anyway, it's also that he wasn't sure what he was supposed to do, and maybe mistakenly believed he could put up with it, until he actually did it. With the drows, the only difference is that he does put up with it, by dissociating. For astarion, something is either too much, or something he can tune out and deal with. He never expresses any "mild" discomfort that you can talk to him about, except for when he's anxious you want to have sex with halsin because he doesn't put out. And even then, there's nothing you can say that will make him disapprove of the halsin thing, short of completely breaking up with him. He voices an insecurity, sure, but even when told that insecurity is legitimate, he still agrees to the halsin situation.
This is why I need everyone to understand, there is no polyam negotiation with astarion, he blanket accepts everything until he snaps, because that's what trauma victims do. I'm not saying this out of a desire to prove astarion is monogamous, either. If the game showed healthy communication about this I wouldn't be here arguing about any of this. Polyamory is valid and can be done in a healthy way, but what you have in the game is not a representation of polyamory, it's a representation of a trauma victim not knowing his own limits and chugging full speed ahead until he snaps. The mizora exchange just cements that further. The roll you have to pass to get him to stay with you isn't "let's discuss boundaries, i didn't know this wasn't allowed", it's "this didn't mean anything". If this man was already okay with meaningless sex on the side, why would you need to convince him of it? All you're doing is manipulating him, and the result of that manipulation isn't even "okay, you can have meaningless sex from now on as long as we talk beforehand", instead, he says he forgives you. There's no implication that this could happen again, if only you have his consent, he just forgives you for this one transgression and agrees to move on. And let me be perfectly clear, I've shipped polyam ships before, I don't have an inherent bias against it. But we all, collectively as a fandom, need to learn to read the room. The signs of discomfort are all there, it doesn't help anyone if we put on horse blinders and ignore them. My only desire is to see astarion interpreted faithfully, not to start or contribute to a war people seem to be having about the validity of polyamory in general or in real life.
So, in conclusion, we need to separate headcanons from canon. Canon is, at best, unclear on what Astarion is comfortable with. It helps no one to act like this is a clear cut issue on either side, but imo it's more harmful to potentially force him into situations he's uncomfortable with than to just let him lead, since he doesn't propose any of these arrangements himself, and never does them for his benefit, only his partner's.
And one last thing. This is not to say "don't do these things because they're bad". They're in the game so you can do them and roleplay however you want. However, we need to be realistic about the kind of characters we're playing. If your tav pressures astarion into these various situations, that's not a good-aligned tav, and that's okay, as long as you're not pretending otherwise. I love an evil durge playthrough as much as the next person, but none of it would be cathartic or fun if the whole time I was under the impression that murder is actually fine and good.
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babygirlandmommy496 · 4 months
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So I started being a Mommy to a baby boy and he's been complaining my mommying has been "too sweet" and "too much". It's not as relaxing as he would want?
I'm not really sure what he's looking for? I call him cute and give him kisses all over and give his tummy raspberries. But when he gets sassy I am not afraid to give him the business (spanks and paddles). I'm just not really sure what I could or should be doing differently.
He also says it's not entirely sexual for him, but I am a person with a high libido so I try to take "advantage" of the baby often (obviously stopping when he's not interested).
Is there anything you'd recommend?
I can't speak for your little and only true communication between the two of you is going to provide the answers you seek.
My advice is to-ask a lot of questions prior to little time and after little time ask him what was his favorite/least favorite parts. A new power exchange dynamic takes time and requires a lot of patience from both parties for things to feel full comfortable. It sounds like he may be trying to communicate that when you're in mommy space he feels over stimulated by how much you are talking, touching or forcing the scene on him. This is especially true if he isn't used to being in this type of role play or typically is little alone. My little space only became sexual after being together a long time. If he is communicating that he isn't as sexual as you then taking advantage of the baby isn't appropriate at this time in the dynamic. Often times it is the least sexual things (diaper changes, skin-to-skin cuddles or feeding) that can be most sensual in the beginning of the relationship.
I also want to add that ANY discipline needs to be discussed before hand! CNC only works when your partner has informed consent! What behaviors warrant a spanking/paddle? What can be expected from aftercare? Is discipline appropriate while building trust in the relationship?
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rnisa · 2 years
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NSFW Death Note Headcanons 
content warnings: hard kinks and fetishes - there may be content you do not like to see. if that’s the case, don’t read it if you cannot separate fantasy from reality. i am entirely self-projecting LOL
characters included: Light, L, Misa, Near, Mikami
a/n: i headcanon every charatcer as bisexual = me projecting again, but i genuinely don’t really care about sexualities much. but you can h/c them as whatever you like when you read. very few headcanons may be gender-specific! if one doesn’t apply to you then just skip over. important: assume these are all kinks between healthy individuals that have discussed it prior. you can be  kinky & healthy. consent is sexy. if you can’t understand that, then i don’t know why you are still reading...
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Light Yagami
★ I gave my content warnings, so I mind as well do the worst of them first: Light has a misogyny kink for sure. He doesn’t really hate women; it’s about the power dynamic. 
★ He very much craves control, and it gets him off. As such he likes most kinks where there is a power dynamic. 
★ He swears he isn’t into petplay, but Light would love to have you leashed up, tugging on your collar to pull you closer to him. Whether he just does it for the heck of it, or he’s using it to push himself deeper into your mouth, he loves it.
★ Not into being called “d addy” or anything, but he loves being called “Sir,”.
★ Light is very good at what he does, I would never want to hurt you so much, but he thinks you could do with some ‘gentle’ choking.
★ Loves to manhandle his partners: he’s pretty strong, so between throwing you on the bed and picking you up to f uck you against the wall, expect to be moved around like a doll, a bit.
★ Prefers the “reward” system. If you’re “good” and do as he says, he will in turn reward you with the things you want. 
★ If you’re “bad”, he will consistently edge you and refuse to let you cum.
★ If Light was extra satisfied, you will be rewarded in cuddles without you needing to ask him.
★ Good/Not Kira Light will have mostly similar kinks but actually be loving and gentle with you during the daytime.
★ With prior consent, he would ask if you wouldn’t mind waking each other up by doing something sexy. I.e., you touching him to wake him up in the morning, and him doing the same for you in return.
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L Lawliet
★ L’s libido is honestly very low. 
★ His kinks are a bit more... unique? Just like he is, I suppose.
★ L would love to just watch you play with yourself - whether he’s in the same room as you or watching you through cameras, or a hole in the wall - sometimes he will touch himself, other times he will not.
★ He gets his spiciest usually when you’re the most tired, for some reason. 1-4am are peak h orny on main hours for him.
★ Loves to tease you in public, subtly. If you’re sitting next to or across from him and he knows he can get away with discreetly touching you underneath the table, he will. He won’t have an expression, but you will.
★ Really, really likes phone s ex. For him touch is great and all, but the most important thing is the buildup. L likes a lot of unique kinds of foreplay.
★ Foot f etish. No I don’t have one but that shit’s funny as fuck.
★ Most of L’s enjoyment, as I said before does come from foreplay. He enjoys touching you the most with his hands, he loves to tease you to see his reaction. 
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★ Now Misa is a switch, hands down.
★ Bottom? Top? She will switch right in the middle sometimes.
★ She really enjoys a brat tamer - Misa will be a brat and put up a hissy fit, until she is “put in her place” and “tamed” to a more submissive state.
★ Enjoys having your sessions recorded to get back off to later on.
★ Not fond of hurting her partners - she won’t do it, unless you ask she will try. But her boundaries for that only go so far. I think she would only be fine with doing some light spanking/slapping to her partner. And stepping on them if asked.
★ Loves being slapped, herself. But not too hard...
★ She loves it when people ask her to step on them - she happily does, with her big Demonia boots. She’s not sorry.
★ Misa is big into giving, and receiving oral. She’s extremely good at it.
★ Loves vibrators - on you, or herself. 
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Near 
★ Oh god why am I writing this. Why am I writing for Near.
★ Uhhh
★ Probably the only wholesome, non-degenerate one here.  I think it’s very easy to excite him and he tries his best to hide it.
★ Bottom.
★ He so desperately wants to be the top, wants to dominate you, and to be honest...he does talk a pretty good game! He’s very good at dirty talking - better over the phone, or through text. But when it comes down to it, he’s a bit lost as to what to do. So you have no choice but to take charge.
★ I do think he will be interested in sex, but very embarrassed. Sadly he kind of worries a bit too much about how well he’s doing/his body to really enjoy it.
★ Prefers the lights off; he needs a lot of positive words of encouragement. With this I think over time he could become more comfortable, with the right partner who nurtures and helps him.
★ Will ask you for nudes a lot. Will he send one back? Nope.
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Teru Mikami
★ He has the biggest humiliation kink.
★ Loves being degraded and insulted. I think he would cope with his horrific bullying as a kid, in this way. 
★ Teru enjoys being insulted... call him anything from  “pathetic,”  “loser,”  “incel,”  “creep,”  and it kind of gets him going. 
★ I can see him using those kinds of services where he pays people to ignore him. 
★ He is into findoms (financial domination); typically where (usually wealthy men) give (usually women) money for no reason, or absolutely nothing in return. Can be expensive gifts, a large amount of money - without any sex ever taking place. I don’t get it but my friend literally does this for a living???
★ Overall Mikami is just a hardcore simp. He would do nearly anything you ask, he only wants to make you happy. He doesn’t really have much, so he considers you his most prized possession.
★ I think even at default he’s more inclined to be a yandere. He is obsessive over you, possessive, and it’s very unhealthy. He will go through your phone/email, anything. Very insecure about seeing someone so much as like your Instagram photos.
★ A relationship with him is already fairly toxic, but after you have sex? This man is already talking about getting married, having/adopting kids, and planning the life you have together.
★ If it’s Mikami after he gets the Death Note, it just amps up the toxicity. Almost impossible to get away from him, and be careful about who you talk with. If someone is a little too friendly with you, and he feels even the slightest bit threatened...
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promethea-silk · 5 months
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Oddly enough, receiving the missive from Ricard brought a sense of relief to have a reason to leave the estate walls. She had cooped herself  up in her room the days following the altercation with her brother-in-law and while she was actually enjoying time alone, Cordelia was itching for time outside. Of course, she didn't necessarily need a reason to leave, she could come and go as she pleased, but this made things a bit more interesting. The woman had, afterall, been eagerly awaiting to hear what her newest business partner had in store for her. 
Thankfully, by this time, the bruising around her eye and neck had faded to soft purples and dull yellows, it made covering them a bit easier though their presence was still noticeable. It bothered her little, though, as she made her way through the streets with her chin high, waltzing directly up to the Milner estate and announcing her arrival. Darkened lips tugged into a brief smirk as she thought of their prior meeting, the last time she had walked through the doors. She had poked and prodded, working Ricard up with tidbits of rumors to coax a reaction from him. It worked.
When the door opened, Cordelia leveled her gaze with the man who greeted her. “I received word that Mister Blythe wished to speak with me, he should be expecting my arrival.”
Vincent offered a quick bow before opening the door further, allowing her space to pass through. “Of course, this way ma’am.” 
Once she was inside and the door was closed behind her, he offered to take the woman’s coat before guiding her through the darkened halls, stopping in front of the two large wooden doors that led to Ricard’s office. The young man cleared his throat before knocking loudly, announcing their presence and started to speak before promptly being cut off. 
“I know who’s here and why, Vincent. Bring Lady Gray in.”
“I…as you say, sir.” The man offered a sheepish grin and another small bow before pushing the door open and allowing room for the lady to pass.
Inside, Ricard was standing next to the fireplace, his vest undone, sleeves rolled up, arms crossed over his chest - he wasn’t disheveled, but did look as though he’d been working the better part of the day, perhaps two. He waited for the door to close before looking towards his company, trailing his tongue across one of his canines. “Good evening, Cordelia.”
“Remember we had a very clear discussion about how we didn’t want this business to involve the Cress family?”
The ebony haired woman stood her ground upon entering the room, looking over the somewhat unsettled man. She couldn’t help but grin when his back was to her and once the sound of the door clicked behind her, her feet began to carry her across the room. With each step, she began pulling the tips of her gloves from her fingers, one by one until she could remove them completely to set them aside to a nearby table. “Ricard.”  The two syllables dancing from her mouth calmly as a regard in greeting.
Coming to stand before him, she offered a casual tilt of her head as her lips pressed together in a soft hum. “Hm, actually, I believe it was of agreement that you and your men would go nowhere near the Cress estate. In fact, I believe I stated fully that your ex-betrothed was involved here.” Still, her tone was calm, reassuring even as she looked at him curiously. 
“Well your brother-in-law just made her more involved.” He sighed heavily, reaching up to pinch the bridge of his nose with a tired sigh. “I just received word that Damien was spotted in Tailfeather with Valeria Cress. The pair…reportedly, spent some time in one particular set of stables together. Didn’t have a man on the inside, the details from there are fuzzy.” 
He looked up, running a hand through his hair. “And this is where it gets…messy. If Vahalia Cress finds out that we knew that this happened and didn’t inform her, then things are likely to end poorly. But that also means informing her how we knew that this happened.” Dark eyes locked with hers, “Which is that I’ve been tailing Damien Gray.” His eyes narrowed for a moment, taking in the bruising and making a note to ask about it a bit later, as he waited for her response.
“Oh, I had every intention of informing Lady Cress of whatever happenings we learned about the two of them.” Her reaction held no surprise and very little concern, she had prepared for this, in large part. “Vahalia has forbidden her sister from spending time with Damien outside of supervised events, or perhaps in general, the details on that I am unaware of. While I hold no ill will toward Valeria, she has no business with my brother-in-law, or rather moreso, vice versa. I have my own dealings with Vahalia, I would rather see Damien not muck it all up.”
 With his gaze locked to hers, she mirrored the look, blinking slowly. The time she had spent the last few days had given her a calm that very little was doing to break through, it had infuriated Eivor and perhaps now would seem confusing to Ricard, yet here she was. 
Ricard exhaled sharply through his nose as he shook his head, uncrossing his arms to lean on against the mantle of the fireplace, cursing under his breath. “That almost makes things worse.”
“I’ve no issue tailing Damien Gray - the man has been drinking a bit too much, gambling a bit too much, typical activities for someone trying to keep their mind busy. Fine, no issue with that. And as long as Valeria Cress stayed at the Cress estate and away from this mess things were fine - but they had to try and be fucking sneaky about things.” He glanced back over his shoulder. “So I’ve got the go ahead to share this information then - both on the same page, no blow back, no secret meltdowns, not gonna stab me after I get back from this meeting or anything, right?”
Her lids fluttered in a few quicker blinks as she fought to stifle a bit of a snicker. “That has really brought you so much concern, has it?” A hand reached out toward his lower abdomen though she held her distance. She sighed heavily and shook her head. “I am not going to stab you, Ricard. I dislike the information as much as you and Vahalia will, truthfully, but you did the job I requested and paid for. I can and will deal with the Cress’ in regards to the blowback on my end on my own.”
His fingers drummed against the stone mantle before he pushed away, pacing the length of the room - arms crossing over his chest once more. “I mentioned before about the road to hell and what that’s paved with, right? I’ll rest easier when the information is in the hands of those it needs to be and I can be done with it. The Cress family is not one I need to be concerning myself with. Not anymore.”  He approached the fireplace once again. “What happened to your neck, and your eye?’
She took a deep breath and nodded, watching as he walked away and began pacing. “I understand.” She replied simply, shrugging her shoulders to herself, though. “With your aversion, I am quite surprised you agreed to take on the task in the first place. I might say it was admirable but I have a feeling as though there was reason far beyond admiration.” When he returned near to her and the question came, her eyes finally broke from his to look into the fire at their side, the flames mirroring in her almost poetically. “Oh, hardly a concern, the man these hands belonged to won’t be doing it again, I trust.” 
His gaze narrowed, the broken eye contact doing nothing to alleviate the nagging questions, “I’d beg to differ - whether the man has thoughts of doing it again or not, I’d argue that the fact he did it once makes knowing his name worthwhile - knowing the type of man he is and all that.” Thoughts drifted for a moment to another house, a front hall, as he lay bleeding, and still, he’d never had thoughts of laying a hand on the one who’d caused the injury - animosity be damned. He broke out of the thought with a quick shake of his head - “You’re under no obligation to share, of course, secrets have their place.”
He ran a hand over his face tiredly, “-and back to the topic at hand, I took the job because I thought, perhaps foolishly, that Valeria would be only peripherally involved and I’d be able to sidestep that information while obtaining what you wanted and needed. I didn’t think he’d do this, this quickly.” A huff of frustration left him as he moved to sit down in a nearby chair. “I’ve done idiotic things, but for fucks sake.”
With a sigh, she returned her attention to him, her ever present somewhat arrogant demeanor about her. “What are you going to do about it? Defend my honor?” The dry tone she carried was far likely uncalled for in that moment but it danced from her lips easily. “Giving you his name would only further make things difficult for you.” She warned with the slight twitch of her brow. 
He waved a hand out towards her, “Depends on who it was and how much I knew about the person, but as I said, you’re under no obligation to share - secrets have their place. Just curiosity born of concern.”
His retreat to the chair simply caused her to turn her body to allow for ease of communication to remain. “Are you… afraid of her?” Finally the question came as her own eyes narrowed over him almost tauntingly. 
The hand fell back to the armrest as his eyes narrowed. “Who? Vahalia? No.” He quickly adjusted his shirt as he settled his head against the back of the chair. “We’re not terribly fond of one another - as I’m sure you could tell, and I don’t particularly want to go have this conversation because I’m sure she’ll find some way for this to be my fault, but I’m not scared of the woman. What makes you say that, Cordelia?”
Her reaction was very pointed as she lowered her gaze to him. Cordelia couldn’t hold back the scoff as she slowly closed the distance and yet remained simply standing over him with hands coming to rest on either hip. She was relieved the topic of her state of being had come and gone quickly just as she had hoped. “What makes me say that? Hm… let’s go down the list, shall we?”
Her hands came together so that with each point she would make, she tapped a finger to the opposite pointer finger. “You vehemently insisted that this job keep you away from the Cress estate, upon learning of Valeria’s deeper involvement you have turned to somewhat of a mess, your immediate concern is angered  repercussions from me following a meeting with her… which, of course, you seem incredibly distressed to see to.” Ending her explanation, she dropped her hands to her side and looked at Ricard pointedly. “I think that sums it up.” 
“My history with the Cress family is complicated, which I believe we’ve discussed to a certain extent. I haven’t known you long enough to discuss all the details of the history, but it’s a tale to be sure. And it is better for all involved and for your business endeavors with Vahalia that anything I’m doing tailing your brother-in-law stays as far away from her family as possible. This -” he waved a hand around indicating the general area, “-could be interpreted as trying to keep tabs on her family and not just on him. Which goes over like a bag of lead bricks.”
“I think it’s the right think to inform her about who Valeria has been seen with - but doing what I thought was the right thing also left me bleed out in a front hall before, so forgive me if I seem a bit skiddish at the prospect.”
Cordelia pursed her lips as she brought a hand to rest over her abdomen around where she had taken notice of the scar on his person the day they happened upon one another at the baths. Raising a brow, her head tilted at this. “So she did that to you.” It was inquisitive in nature but also more of a realized statement.
Ricard shrugged one shoulder, as best he could given his position. “Aye, she did. It was quite the argument that led to it too - as I said the day at the springs - get to know me well we enough and perhaps one day you’ll get the story behind it. For now it’s just a scar, and now you know the person who gave it to me.”
“Mm.” A nod came with her hand falling back to her side, lips pressed together now in a thoughtful hum. “Would you like me to deliver the information? It could be said I had my own people following Damien and happened upon them.” 
“No.” The answer was swift, to the point. “I may not want to have the conversation, but I won’t avoid it. And I won’t hide from Vahalia Cress. I found the information, I’ll deliver it, and if she doesn’t like it, then I’ll have to deal with the consequences.” His eyes closed for a moment before they reopened as he stood, once again running a hand through his hair. “I don’t have to mention I’m working for you - that’s up to you whether I do or don’t, but I need to know your preference before I speak with her.”
Her shoulders rose and fell in a gentle shrug. “Do what you will, the offer will stand.” She eased a bit in her stance as her eyes followed him as Ricard stood to full stature. “I have little preference on if she knows or not, she knows we have connection already I believe…”  Cordelia glanced off in thought for a brief moment. “…either way, tell her if you’d like, I feel there really isn’t a way around the fact the you were working on my behalf. After all, what other reason would you have for tailing Damien?” 
“I just needed to know if you had strong feelings one way or the other - have all the information going on, so there are no misunderstandings.” Another long exhale. “I appreciate the offer, but as I said, I need to be the one to tell her. Doesn’t matter who hired me to do the work, I did the work, therefore I’m the one responsible.”
“Well, as long as you don’t … meet an untimely demise, keep me updated, hm?” Hands came together to rest just below her abdomen as Cordelia raised a brow expectantly as if waiting for anything else. “Was that all, then?” 
“That was all, an update on where things stand and…to let you know I’d be speaking with Lady Cress about what I found.” He reached up and rubbed the back of his neck. “I’ll send a missive in the next day or so - I imagine it’ll be a brief meeting.”
A simple nod with another hum before she moved to pluck up the gloves she had set aside previously. “Very well.” Her response was simple as she went about putting the gloves back into her hands and though she made way for the door, paused. “Good luck, Ricard.” She remarked with a bit of a playful tone before disappearing behind the door. 
Ricard sighed as he watched her go before returning to his place before the fire. 
He was going to need a hell of a lot more than luck.
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I wish the SA allegory when it comes to consent and turning was more consistent (if it's going to be an aspect of the world). Alexis is whatever to me. I don't know enough about her tbh (and tbh I don't think we're going to get a nuanced anything on her. Redacted has made every canon mention of her super negative asl with no shades of gray, but who knows).
But what am I supposed to do when the turning could be framed as someone (who while horrifically ignoring consent) tried to change someone to save his life? She compelled him (terrible!). Then we turn around and William turned Vincent without consent to save him, compelled him to force him to drink blood. Vincent changed Lovely with dubious consent (you can't consent under duress so saying yes to being changed when you're moments from dying and your vampire partner and you never discussed it prior is dubious consent). I don't think either William nor Vincent are villains at all though or did the wrong thing! I just want the allegory to be more consistent if it's gonna be there.
Then we turn around and I'm asked to have sympathy for a listener character (Cutie) who spent years ignoring their partner's consent even after constantly being asked to stop invading his mind to the point of him crying. Cutie's job didn't even go into Quinn's mind without consent to find a victim. Idk I just want the exploration of consent and how the framing of the person who breaches that consent works to be more consistent.
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tvrningon · 8 months
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so this is a big ol' headcanon dump that elaborates on some stuff from this post! i was gonna break up this post into parts since each one is unrelated to the other, but i decided to keep it all in one place for the sake of convenience uvu
it might be the influence of cyrillo's fc bc the guy's got some feral expressions, but!! i've decided that while he is an attentive lover who enjoys the softer side of sex, cyrillo does have his moments when he prefers to be rough. he's busy and stressed and has to put his own feelings on the backburner pretty often, so it's kinda?? a way of letting loose and releasing all his pent up frustration. this is only done with consent ofc!! but think of it as the physical equivalent to complaining to your partner about all the annoying stuff that happened at your job :' )
it's also a lil bit about having control over someone who is willing to put their pleasure in his hands. it's about their trust in him to take care of them, to be rough yet not cruel. it makes him all mushy and hard at once <3 ASDFG
there is a lot that cyrillo enjoys or is willing to try; he's been around for a while, so he's had plenty of time to figure out what he likes and plenty of time to get over any embarrassment he might have felt at one time. if you approach him about sex/kinks/etc., he'll discuss it with you without batting an eye, without judgement, and without pressure. he wants his partner to be comfortable above all else <3
while cyrillo is picky-ish with actual relationships since he doesn't have much time for real commitment, he has no qualms about casual sex. he has friends/partners who he goes to when he's in the mood, though! his libido fluctuates a bit thanks to how busy he keeps himself and the fatigue that comes with that.
cyrillo enjoys the thrill of semi-public sex. he prefers a closed door or somewhat secluded area -- like a rooftop -- bc he doesn't want to actually be seen, but pls know he's gonna have the biggest smirk on his face if anyone figures out what y'all did asdfj that being said, cyrillo finds it really appealing to try and get his partner to make noise when they really should be quiet, and he's a menace for that!! someone walks near the section of the garden where he has you splayed out? better not get too loud and draw their attention 'cause he ain't stopping : ) someone knocks on the door he has you pressed against?? he's gonna make you speak through the door even though he hasn't stopped moving : ) he is : ) the worst : )
once again gonna stress that cyrillo doesn't do anything risky or rough without knowing his partner's boundaries! it's not enjoyable unless both of them are having a good time, so prior to any situation like what i discussed above, he'll always have a conversation about it and likely establish a safe word or something. just bc he's a menace doesn't mean his lover has to indulge him all the time u3u
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oooh ia with your turning post, but it made me think of other 'turnings under duress' like can you really consent to being turned truly in a situation like lovely's where you've never discussed it before and are literally dying in that moment??
i was thinking abt that too! and tbh, i hv no idea. u’re honestly right, bcuz how r u in ur right state of mind in a situation like lovely’s where the life force has literally been slurped out of u by a bunch of shades. like how r u supposed to hv a clear mind when all u’re focusing on is trying to stay calm???? it’s a blurred line that i can’t really see the answer too.
ig u could argue that it’s a bit different with lovely and vincent bcuz they were partners prior and it was a perilous situation, but even then, lovely didn’t give full consent bcuz they physically couldn’t. and just bcuz u’re partners w someone doesn’t mean u hv a right to their bodily autonomy.
i think a situation like alexis’s and sam’s is slightly clearer to navigate. even though they were friends and it was ALSO a perilous situation, sam literally said “no, i don’t want that.” and alexis took it as a flashing green light and basically said, “no means yes!!! now let me at him!!”
but ALSO— was sam rly able to think clearly either? i mean, i don’t think so— bro had a car door INSIDE of him. could he really think abt how he was going to die when all he was thinking abt was the metal lodged in his torso? u could argue alexis was just trying to save him and meant no harm, and maybe if the situation was different, sam would’ve been grateful for him ‘saving’ her. idk abt alexis’s intentions tho, since we hvn’t met her in the prime universe. but do her intentions even matter when the harm was still done?
i think lovely’s and sam’s situations r more similar than some ppl think— each person just looks back at their own turning w different lenses bcuz of the different response they both had to asking if they wanted to be turned (or, forced, in sam’s case.) lovely looks back on it as vincent saving them, while sam looks back on his as his right to being human stripped from him. and both of their views r valid.
also oops, u probably didn’t expect an essay on the tribulations of navigating consent in a vampiric world LMAO, sry abt the ramble. this has just been rattling in my head for awhile and i was talking abt it w my friend the other day. apologies for u hving to be on the receiving end of my word vomit!!!!! but thanks a bunch for the brain juice 🧃
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so, uhm...i recently started dating this guy!! hes super-duper nice nd everything, but...im autistic nd have issues with, ya know, down there (im a pre-op trans man, currently 9 months into HRT), nd also certain textures
but idk how to bring these into the convo naturally, or seem like im just catering to my needs
hes a neurotypical cis man that wldnt need any accommodations in a sexual setting, idk what to do
-Ashton [he/they]
hi Ashton,
congrats on the new relationship! that's exciting :)
there's something you said that I want to gently push back on, which is your certainty that your partner wouldn't need any accommodations during sex. it sounds like that's not a conversation the two of you have had yet, which means that is in fact something you have no way of knowing - and, if I may say so, it's a bit presumptuous to assume.
everyone has different needs, wants, and requirements during sex. there's no default setting, among neurotypical cis men or anyone else. what your partner likes and doesn't like, the sensations he loves and the ones he can't stand, how he communicates his needs, the things that thrill him and the ones that leave him lukewarm - there's no way of knowing any of that until you begin that conversation!
likewise, there's no way that he'll know about you need from him until it's talked about. wanting to talk about those things isn't "just catering to your need," as you worry, but it does need to be a two-way convo.
listen: there's no singular right time or place to begin that conversation. straight up, it might feel awkward. it will almost definitely be an evolving conversation. have you talked about the textures you don't like outside of a sexual context? that can be a great place to start. do you ask before touching him casually, or - even better - ask how he would like to be touched? also a great way to normalize conversations about boundaries and consent into your relationship dynamic. are you guys kissing? kissing can require some finagling to get right anyway, what a great time to start talking about which sensations and textures don't float your boat.
"oh - speaking of which - what we're doing right now is fine, but here's some stuff that I don't like/can't do," you might say. "I care about you, and want to spend a lot more time with you, so I want you to know that I have this boundary." and, importantly, follow it up with, "do you have anything like that I should know about? I want to know how to help you feel good and comfortable, too."
(this is a guideline, not a script. you don't have to quote that verbatim.)
obviously you know your partner and your relationship better than I do; I trust you to know the most reasonable points to develop this conversation further. as long as you've begun the discussion prior to actually Having Sex (even if it's just a few minutes prior, frankly) you're doing great.
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