#but like civilly

[cosmicterrorthe8th]

So....

Imagine if grant and terry were dating around the time he rolled the die another day. And he saw grant shot him. And he had zero context on the situation so he thinks grant will eventually be against him in the future and to make that situation hurt less, he starts distancing himself and they end up breaking up by saying some choice words.

And then when they are kidnapped by willy a second time, and Willy puts the collar on them, he type of now understands how he would die and that it really wasn't up to grant. That the only thing making grant kill him was that it was the most effective way to stop the teens which was an objective given to him by the collar.

And then they are in their cells and grant is apologizing and terry forgives and tells him he knew it would happen because of what he saw in the dice but this context is way more forgivable than what he thought would happen. Then terry brings up that what he saw in the die was what made him break up. Then grants like "Oh"

And while grant feels guilty when trying to be friends with terry because he put a bullet in his head, they do slowly move on and are besties again because they are in-laws now.

#grerry #grant wilson #terry jr #dndads #grant li wilson #terry jr stampler #dungeons and daddies #the choice words in the breakup do include something about the murder but like in a hypothetical way #dndads s2 #grant x terry #also I have more worda regarding the breakup #the tension drives their parents up the wall during the reunions so they pester them to make up enough to talk civilly #and they go get a coffee #and its like the song the night shift by lucy dacus #they kiss one last time and then are like it was nice dating you and go their seperate ways and cry

[thsc-confessions]

"I'm worried about controversial stuff coming up about this ship opinion situation, but here we go-"

"I dislike Toppat Henry x Charles/ Henry x Toppat Charles, especially that second one. The artwork I see of it (especially Toppat Charles x Henry, not so much on the other option) leans into toxic relationships for me and I dislike it heavily."

"As much as I love Henrles (tied with Polythreat for me), that situation of "Enemies to lovers" is the one type of Henrles ship that just.. turns me the wrong way unfortunately.." submitted by anon

#honestly same-- #I don't hate the IDEA of toppat henry x charles (or vice versa) it could work as an interesting story #it's just the way ppl execute it #like why do they make toppat henry/charles yandere for the other?? and kidnap them and like??? all that extra stuff???? #especially toppat charles bcz it wouldn't even make sense likeee I don't think henry would need to be kidnapped to want to join the toppats #and they romanticize tf out of it it's nasty :[ #again toppat henry x charles and vice versa COULD work imo you just gotta execute it properly #aka don't make them kidnap and abuse each other???? #but yea bcz of how (most) ppl execute it it turns me away too #also dw about controversial stuff coming up abt the ship opinion things #as long as you guys discuss/confess it civilly it should be fine #I actually like ship confessions (negative and positive) #as long as it's not like. “I ship charles x galeforce” bcz ew nasty #if I ever get some sort of proship confession I'm ignoring it I'm not posting that shit😭 #whoops I rambled a bit here sorry— #thsc confession #thsc #mod dave #thsc confessions #anti stickvin #but like #specifically toppat stickvin #tw toxic relationship #anon

[silvermars]

why does buffy love angel?

#i'm just curious #what does she actually love about him?? #like why is she so hung up on him for the rest of her life? why did they even date to begin with? #what do they have in common? #is it just physical attraction?.... bc that's all i remember #I SINCERELY WANT TO KNOW #buffy summers #btvs #anti bangel #edit: i see now how condescending my true intentions were in making and tagging this post and i apologize #i would love for this to be a place to converse civilly and not follow in my footsteps by being more open and conversational w each other

[munamania]

ok im a really chill and normal person and i get over things and am well adjusted but take a walk with me here. just give me my time to complain when im not in the absolute fucking trenches. and yes i believe i suffered more than those in trench warfare. it was literally a lesbian situationship with a bistraight girl come on. just. magenta choppy shag with the roots coming in. camo cargo pants black t shirt with red lettering and striped long sleeve (sign someone likes music. confirmed). lip ring big black stud earrings and nails. red docs. i think lesbians should be allowed to kill one dyke baiter in their lifetime idc

#and now we're gonna get into some quiet parts and youre just gonna let me have this #i. am so sick. first of all it was kinda funny how people ik ended up sorta surrounding her. felt good. but like we've shared a space #together since everything. i can like be in her presence it's seriously fine. that said. i do sometimes miss her #i say this after going through the really hating her guts period bc of her evil evil evil ways. and feeling like she's lame as hell bc she #s. but i mean it's me talking i have my problems too. i Hate the way we always so naturally act in sync. and i hate that we've both picked #each others' brains for hours so it's like. i knew you once and now we can't even look each other in the eye and that just really sucks #and i feel like. not that i strictly believe in these things. but we were sort of twin flames. i largely suffered for like. basically #falling in love w her. and i know i didn't leave as much of a mark. but i still hope it sucked a little for her #and i'll admit i think it'd be some sort of miracle if we could ever talk civilly. unfortunately we work in two ways #literally behaving in Ways and borderline fucking or not speaking. so. here we are #and i already humiliatingly tried to extend an olive branch this summer so im not gonna be fucking stupid. yk #but GOD how annoying. i did talk to situationship today and we were relatively normal so at least that's not deathly awkward #it's still. definitely um. stiff. but not terrible #i need to get to the club. pretend theres a cig emoji im on desktop rn #sorry for this. #film girl saga

[punkshitposts]

something I think is actually hilarious is that if you go left enough you start having more stances in common with (individual) conservatives, and if you go right enough you start agreeing with (individual) leftists. like i have a pretty close friend who's self described as "just far enough right that I hate politicians" , whom I hard disagree with his overarching political stances. but the finer details of it... yeah we agree with each other. gun control/gun rights opinions taxation opinions pro-small government opinions slight separatist opinions anti two party opinions anti-corporation opinion ect ect ect.

we stand on opposite sides of a standard political compass but I genuinely think if I were to count stats, I'd agree with as many of his stances as I would a liberals/democrats stances. my hs gov teacher described the difference in right vs left to us as "everyone's goal here is the betterment of mankind, they just think the best ways to do it are different" and that's literally the best way, to me, to describe what the difference in right vs left is regarding anarchism specifically. we got ESSENTIALLY the same opinion but the ways we think are the best ways to go about enacting said opinion are what makes us different. and something abt that is really painfully funny to me. envisioning a world where an-something is the major world thing, not capitalism.... and there's STILL right vs left... but The Anarchist Versions. christ.

sorry for the book i wrote in the tags. ignore typos I am NOT retyping any of that to fix them xoxo

#this is a controversial post to post here ik. however i think can we all agree that echo chambers and bubbles aren't... good. #and i think something that gets forgotten a lot by leftists is that there ARE anarchists on the right #yes we are EXTREMELY different but its important to like. remember that should The revolution come in our lifetimes their still gonna exist #and political disagreement on an individual scale CAN and SHOULD be civil so long as neither party is coming from a bigoted stance. #as in.. no i dont agree with a good chuck of what his stances but by disagree i just think hes wrong abt economics bros not like. a bigot. #in this same vain i also think (myself included) people shouldn't conflate conservativism with racists and homophobes. t #theres proud gay conservatives and conservatives who are poc... erasing those people means we cannot know of how the other side works. #i genuinely believe that if i were to go read every political theory book on right leaning politics id fine something uniquely republican #/right/whatever that i would agree with and then adapt into my own politics. im sure at least one of the unique-to-the-right stances has #actually standing and isn't a load of shit (again probably something economic rather than social). #and thats not a bad thing and if you think it is a actually don't know how to explain it to you! we MUST critically but civilly interact #with political opinions mirroring our own to 1 understand other people 2 fully understand and develope our own stances and why we have em #i genuinely find political conversations with that friend extremely enlightening even if we both walk away still set in unchanged opinions. #because it means i understand WHY others drift to those options but more importantly why /i/ drifted to my own

[frodo-of-the-nine-fingers]

stizzy as a precursor to steddy hands just hits so different

#steddy hands #ofmd #like ed and izzy and ed and stede is established and both are so wonderful #but stizzy is such a great fucking dynamic #like they hate each other but i can fix it #all it would take is like a couple heart felt conversations and stede wooing izzy and he's a fucking gonner #the hard part is getting them to talk to each other civilly but its so fuuuuun #mine

[simplyghosting]

Seeing a parent be dismissive (at best) to their kid and having a freeze response as I rapidly try to calculate how badly it could go for me to step in and call them out on it

#ghost posts #be the change you want to see in the world #like I’m not looking for a fight but also I want to help the kids so badly #like I see all of these strangers or sometimes even people I know and it’s just UGH #like how do I civilly tell a parent your 2 year old doesn’t understand they can’t stick random things in their mouth that you gave them #they don’t get that it’s dirty they’re bored #you shouldn’t yell at them for it and especially not smack them #it doesn’t help that half the time around here there is a language barrier #then there’s my neighbor that’s always swearing at his 10 year old #and the kid just seems to take it #others that complain that their kid is rowdy when I KNOW they haven’t taken them outside to play and run around #listen I was dismissed all the time as a kid I NEVER want to be that kind of person

[7roaches]

ngl ice king and mbetty is cute but i think if i was ice king and i turned back into simon bc all the golbetty shit still happened my entire perception would chan why am i talking in first person i think for a looooong time like akin to his process in f&c simon would be hung up over betty nd be like “ooooo yeah ice king was terrible i understand why she was like that” and then when he cant rationalize that anymore hed be like “ooooo betty was crazy and i was too so i understand it” and then “oooooo but she loved me so much so its actually romantic” & then he’d reach his pinnacle instead of minerva therapy i think hed just sit there like hey. what the fuck was that about

#cool posts #adventure time #not taghing the ship bc i heard there was weirdos in the tag nd ion wanna deal with that #copied qnd pasted tjis from disc so it kinda sucks #but like. i frel like the way ppl portray em nd their general dynamic in general simon would get 14 years in the future and have soooo much #compartmentalization to do i think thats the word #thats not a bad thing btw i support womens wrongs & rights for both of them #this might be poking a wasps nest but maybe the wasps will just give me a counterpoint civilly and i go ahhhh good point #i love discussion im just like simon hes so me #even tjo the girlboything i showed the cecaelian to (we didnt kiss but he told me hed rip my bones out win) says im so betty #which is also so win we should become ice king and magic betty & have toxic yuri that later we’re like hey what the fucj #teeheeeeee kicks my feet

[taylortruther]

this is very bitchy. sorry rae and anon but joe didn't even have any intention of attending the tour so him performing is out of question. man wasn't even interested to watch his work play out live.

i don't want to talk about joe and how much he sucks but yes we are in agreement and that is why i said i couldn't imagine joe wanting to lmao

#not gonna lie i do love that sometimes i'm like *answers politely and civilly* and then one of you comes in like RAE COME ON #fajsdkl

[noonvoid]

ai art is art. i don’t like ai. but it’s still art. lots of things are art. the real issue is how ai is being used maliciously by people.

#and people who draw aren’t wrong for feeling upset if someone who uses ai copy’s their artwork and repurposes it. it feels like shit! #this example is primarily for drawing of course but. you spend more time working on a piece than someone does inputting commands to get #the same result. it’s disheartening to know a piece you worked 12+ hours on was completed by someone else in 5 minutes. #like damn i wasted all my time. (you didn’t! but it can feel that way sometimes because we get discouraged) #it doesn’t mean that it’s correct. #people are allowed to be pissed off that it steals from human artists. #that ai art is being used over human created art in the industry. saying human art sounds dumb as fuck but that’s what it is lol #i don’t convey exactly what i mean properly i think— but it’s not black and white #it sort of reminds me of the musician turns out to be an asshole -> his music was never that good anyway. when it is!! #but he’s still an ass!! #in reference to people hating ai art and therefore it is not art etc etc #also holy shit that post has the whole tumblr experience huh. instead of discussing civilly it’s condescending and assholish from both sides #tumblr users (i am not immune) are insane and stupid sometimes. anyway #when the go touch grass meme is embarrassingly real. #would not put any of this into that post because i would probably get my tags ss’d then a whole essay on how i’m stupid and wrong ☝️

[remma-demma]

Truly fucking insane to me how even some trans people have drunk the gender essentialist koolaid and think that trans men are like, inherently arms of the patriarchy and oppressors. Just like believing all cis men are each, individually responsible for patriarchy. Isn’t the point of feminism that the system and people’s unconscious upholding of the system are the thing to be criticizing?? Gender essentialism is still gender essentialism even if you do it to trans people.

I don’t know why people don’t understand that treating any group as a monolith whose experiences are all the same is like. Bad and harmful. Trans men are men but they are not cis men. Many of us have experienced girl / womanhood enforced on us by society and deeply understand the struggle. I don’t see why it’s harmful to acknowledge the fact that trans men experience misogyny!!!! Lots of trans men haven’t or won’t transition! I promise you even if we are men, see ourselves as men, the vast majority of society will not.

I really hate infighting and “calling out” whole sections of the community, and I guarantee I’m not talking about 90% of trans women who are normal but that other 10% act like trans men have betrayed women by “choosing to be men”. Isn’t that like, 1) literally gc / terf logic and 2) implying that trans people just up and choose their gender one day (not saying that some don’t but like. Being trans is a deeply personal thing that’s often not a choice.)

This is thinking that makes trans men guilty to be trans men. We’re used to hearing it from radfems but to hear it from people who are supposed to be our allies??? From people who we have something so deeply in common with? It fucking sucks!!!

#sorry I just saw three whole Twitter posts that literally were like ALL TRANS WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUL AND FUNNY AND AWESOME #and all trans men are stupid and stinky and bad #trans men continue to be punching bags every three months for some fucking reason #I’m not disagreeing that trans women are put under a lot more pressure societally and that fucking sucks #but literally whenever trans men speak up we ARE dismissed. #our struggles may not be the same but they still fucking exist #this is mostly a vent but feel free to (civilly and constructively) talk to me about where my blind spots might be #I’m taking American cultural anthropology and we just learned the word intersectionality and I don’t think people truly understand that #the intersection between “being men’ and “being raised as female’ is very real #I think what that male model said was stupid in terms of like #thinking that trans women are to blame for being so visible #but what he said about the general way people are raised in gendered ways is not bullshit. #culture affects us from literally all angles and it’s wild to think that a trans man could just flip a switch one day and forget #being constantly put down and told to be kind and put others feelings above your own and be scared of being assaulted and blah blah blah #being raised as a girl shit. unless you transitioned as a child and had super supportive parents that shit is REAL #my post #trans #jfc even if you were raised in the right gender medical misogyny affects us too! our bodies are policed just like women’s are #also lol I’m not saying I just learned the term or idea intersectionality it’s just interesting to learn about it academically

[redlikelove]

sometimes I'll just see the tip of a drama iceberg passing for a fandom I'm not in where people just complaining about this subgroup of fans who are Doing Things Wrong and I'll go "glad I'm not there but even so maybe we just need to apply more judicious self content regulation?"

#blocking is free! I love doing it for the slightest things #I just use it as a ''get these posts out of my sight'' button at the drop of a hat #If i have a bad encounter the rare times I go out into wider fandom of the things I love #I just Don't Go Back There. frankly I dislike engaging with wider fandom in general #fandom for me is me and my group of friends' Correct Opinions. #at that point if someone does something Funny™ you can just... talk about it civilly? #that's another thing I feel like we could give a try more often but we don't want to have that conversation! #stop talking Red #on reflection ''we don't want to have that conversation'' feeds into that so revision: #it seems a wider trend is to immediately condemn anyone with an opposing opinion without giving them the space to grow from that opinion. #I do not like that and wish we could work towards a better place of understanding! #not ''tone policing.'' just asking to show a little more compassion for the human on the other side of the screen #EDIT: this was about Dragon Age stuff lmao #I have since taken my own advice and blocked those involved!

[y-eontan]

coaching the girlie that she Should by all means make her boyfriend help her cook the food he demanded of her and that is not endearing that his repertoire consists of Scrambled Eggs.

#she is a lot closer to my age than the other lady that was giving money to a man holding a “how to get a man and keep him happy” course #demanded might be too much of a strong word for whatever was going on #they were civilly discussing what to have for christmas dinners (when the parents are coming over) and he requested something #she has no experience making and does not want (she prefers classic christmas food) #but he also rebuffed the classic christmas food she wanted to make #and he was like oh also the kids that are coming probably wont like it so we should also order pizza for them #shes rightfully miffed about this #i sound like a redditor to myself but i know those guys would jump for the gun and suggest break up

[vermillioncrown]

[+] my revision of formulation for the whole study & thesis was majorly approved, ppl can no longer pretend to or actually be lost

[+] minion² was contained, showed up in person and got the sense that no one was going to take his nonsense

[+] no major disagreement between the supes, all subteams understand their tasks

[-] back-to-back-to-back meetings w advisors, integrators, external working groups, and study lead in the next two weeks

[-] i have to finish reading... 15+ papers and compile their data

[-] fix a data structure implementation in my optimization model that i had promised since... nov last year lol (it wasn't entirely necessary. until now)

we'll see if i'm in the mood for stress relief writing instead of just stress relief daydreaming... there's a lot of stuff for every fic but it's all over the place. tpac hyperfixation is still holding strong (esp when compared to all other wips, it is second place for most concrete ending + actual epilogue)

(first place is larb bc every chapter is outlined and scoped; just haven't felt like writing it)

(not saying the other fics don't have planned endings but besides their plot i don't have the context for the endings yet. the shape of the ending scenes are very much informed by the long, in-between chapters)

#academic jerky #redglyphs #was so 1000% business mode that one of the supes did the equivalent of '👉👈 ...we're okay right?' #also my other stress relief is trolling the new firstie under my wing (in good fun ofc) #this is the one i'm shielding from minion²'s nonsense #he's finding out exactly how willing i am to commit to a bit #but he's also a humongous weirdo so like and like #anywho rl is both rough but looking up #good things will come in march :) #also final thing: a reminder to both readers and writers that there is a real person on the other side of that screen #have been receiving a few comments that (on good faith) come from a place of praise and enthusiasm but... #there is a hint of uhhh... to them. like someone wrote it forgetting that a real person will read it without their face-to-face context #i'm not a blindly 'positive words only!! 🥰🥰🥰' type of person bc fucking obviously from my posts lol #but if one's intent is to convey something positive then do it without negging. do it without backhandedness or putdowns to others. #it is a valuable skill to learn how to communicate civilly. if this scares ppl into thinking 'well... now idk what to write or comment'... #okay. but know that you gotta practice irl or online soon enough and online is lower stakes than irl #and the only reason you might never need to know how to talk civilly is if you're an absolute recluse

[masckarlach]

something something im not going to interact with ur discourse if you are being condescending

#im not listening to it either there r ways of engaging civilly that arent just talking down to people #piss me off man im abt to get UNCIVIL! #like do u pass a certain age where u can no longer talk to others as people. like is that it #ignore my tag editing again its just like. #i even AGREE with the thjng im referencing and jts like. theres no need for that level of I Am Better Than U on a thing thats not even that #deeep like i agree with u. and that made ME feel like shit. was that the goal? #tlak to people like they are your equals becauee they ARE!

[tvheadfalls]

ANYWAY im sure it can be smth where one day ill just go fuck it and get out of my head and start posting whatever the fuck. i just need 2 vent

#blabs #like i just feel like ive established such a tame blog meanwhile im sittin here makin eldritch monster murder lesbian ocs #LMAO #i love shifter squad but a lot of the writing is v dated now #wanted to age it up a bit but ppl rly like them right now so im scared ill ruin that? #ralsei on floor . png #like im not saying #there isnt ANYONE following me who wouldnt love that #just v in my head #abt ppl who will #and will complain at me abt it #cause if i dont reply perfectly civilly that will also end up being a problem #blablabla #an endless cycle #ill probs delete this post later too i just need to release the feelings trapped in my hand *grinch scream* #head*