#but high school friends are different

[outer-edges]

(Tell Me I'm Okay) Patrick by Rachel Bloom + a couple terrible terrible excerpts from an odd vent piece i wrote a while back.

#so…. #we’re gonna utilize the #mattie gets personal #tag again today #i am just Very Nervous about going to school #i just like #making friends is difficult for me #in a very biblical and extreme way #i think id have an easier time with quantum mechanics than i do with making friends #it’s not like I really have any friends right now #but it’s a different kind of feeling when you’re surrounded by your peers #and you’re supposed to have friends #and everyone around you has friends #and you keep getting told by everyone that this is supposed to be the best time of your life #it’s just… #it’s exhausting #im exhausted #and i am moving in w/ a current friend of mine #+ I have a couple friends who already go to the school I’m transferring to #but high school friends are different #and they all have their other friends #im just not really ready to feel that oppressive kind of loneliness again #it scrapes out your fucking soul bro #and it makes you feel so fucking worthless #bc after so long of it. its like. so it’s gotta be a me problem. right? #and in actuality I don’t think it’s an anyone problem #but it still feels shitty #i just #i know im going to get there and feel like a fake person #an empty husk

[inkskinned]

one of the things about being an educator is that you hear what parents want their kids to be able to do a lot. they want their kid to be an astronaut or a ballerina or a politician. they want them to get off that damn phone. be better about socializing. stop spending so much time indoors. learn to control their own temper. to just "fucking listen", which means to be obedient.

one of the things i learned in my pedagogy classes is that it's almost always easier to roleplay how you want someone to act. it's almost always easier to explain why a rule exists, rather than simply setting the rule and demanding adherence.

i want my kids to be kind. i want them to ask me what book they should read next, and i want to read that book with them so we can discuss it. i want my kid to be able to tell me hey that hurt my feelings without worrying i'll punish them. i want my kid to be proud of small things and come running up to me to tell me about them. i want them to say "nah, i get why this rule exists, but i get to hate it" and know that i don't need them to be grateful-for-the-roof-overhead while washing the dishes. i want them to teach me things. i want them to say - this isn't safe. i'm calling my mom and getting out of this. i want them to hear me apologize when i do fuck up; and i want them to want to come home.

the other day a parent was telling me she didn't understand why her kid "just got so angry." this woman had flown off the handle at me.

my dad - traditional catholic that he is - resents my sentiment of "gentle parenting". he says they'll grow up spoiled, horrible, pretentious. granola, he spits.

i am going to be kind to them. i am going to set the example, i think. and whatever they choose become in the meantime - i'm going to love them for it.

#writeblr #i was doing a lot with high school students. over and over again #other teachers kept asking me what i was doing differently - why the kids listened to me. i am not particularly foreboding #and i have a pretty firm personal policy of never reacting in anger #godhelpme. #i was always kind of taken aback #because in general the kids were pretty easy. i explained i needed to keep everything “PG-13” because this was my workplace #and it was kind of their workplace #too. besides #i love swearing #and since i couldn't swear #neither could they - so if they were going to say “fuck” or become violent #they needed to choose a really specific time #because we only get “the one”.. sure enough - nobody wanted to waste the one very specific “fuck” utterance. kids listened. #i think just because - that rule makes sense. the kids understand that i don't want to be unfair to them #that censorship is stupid #but that i'm under these rules too so like let's ride it out together #also i look young and tbh between me and u nobody wants to make the nice english teacher cry #the way these kids defended me to their friends was really genuinely so heartwarming bc the Grouchy Frat Boy #would be like MISS RAQUEL DOESN'T DESERVE THAT KIND OF AN ATTITUDE BRO DON'T TALK BACK TO HER

[swinging-stars-from-satellites]

holding hands platonically. reblog if you agree

#when I was like a freshman in high school I had one friend at church who was super tactile and extroverted #and she would come sit next to me and hold my hand at church sometimes #she eventually moved to a different church and we were never super close to begin with - just proximity friends #but I remember that bc it was really nice to hold someone's hand #sometimes I do it with my sister or my cousins or occasionally gurt #but I think we should normalize platonic hand holding yknow?? like everyone should know about this it's GREAT #Lu rambles #<3 #platonic posting

[stuckinapril]

I’m happy for the little life I built for myself

#there’s a lot of ways to go #i am nowhere NEAR the dream life I really want to attain #or the dream person I want to be #but high school me #hell even freshman in college me #would GAWK at the life I have so deliberately made happen. #the solid network of friends I have #the confidence I’m slowly but surely growing into #the discipline I’m harvesting bit by bit. i do not claim perfection but I am 100% improving #I’m just happy idk! i don’t compare myself at all now bc I know I’m on the right track #especially compared to where I was like 5 years ago. such a different mind state from now #and no one can take that away from me #there’s a lot more to go. a lot more. but I thought I’d pause and be intentionally grateful for what has been accomplished #bc it actually puts things into perspective to look at the past rather than just look to the present. it creates contentment #i get so caught up being hard on myself for not accomplishing certain things yet #that I forget I pulled myself out of such a deep rut by the skin of my teeth #and that’s important to keep in mind even as you progress to your goals #anyway <333 happy content in my own lane etc etc #p

[yardsards]

anyone else have this experience?

#eliot posts #i've been told by a few ppl that knew me back then that i was hella bullied in elementary school #i do not remember being bullied at all #i knew i didn't have many friends but chalked that up to me choosing to spend that much time alone #i did not pick up on passive aggressive shit #and wasn't aware of my surroundings enough to realize when ppl were talking abt me behind my back #and i think brushed off direct mean comments as like haha you are such a jokester #i was reminded of this bc i was talking to a friend from high school last night #and she mentioned a time when me and her and another friend went out somewhere #and the employees were being super nice to her and our other friend but extremely rude and condescending to me #she was like ''it's been years and i am still peeved over that'' and i was like ''wait they were mean to me???'' #did not even notice a difference in our treatment #autism #autistic

[rooolt]

it wasn’t until I watched it play out in a dream of mine that I truly understood the “Fabian is tragically in love with his aroace best friend who will never return his feelings” agenda and I felt shrimp emotions experiencing it

#Same dream in which another character from a different show said the words “I’m gay” and I’ve genuinely been thinking about it since #Honestly the shrimp emotions were more about that but still #Like I see the vision #Bc it’s also so real to high school like ya know #(<- gay person who had an awkward falling out with a close friend over something similar) #IM FINE! #dimension 20 #fantasy high #fantasy high junior year #btw I don’t ship them or think they should date I think Fabian is a cringefail loserboy

[iarrelm]

An early morning conversation about tea got a little out of hand

#hazbin hotel #sir pentious #angel dust #charlie morningstar #vaggie hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel husk #alastor hazbin hotel #my art #alastors face in the second to last drawing is my masterpiece i'll never draw something as funny ever again #i really needed a whole season of dumb shenanigans tbh #praying for a longer season 2 that includes the cast being stupid and best friends #i got this audio from youtube shorts but i looked up the source and apparently its from a tiktok by yokaidogma?? i think #the content is originally from a tumblr post that you can find if you search up 'tea tastes different if you put it in hot water' #this was my first time doing an animatic style thing it was fun #i havent done anything like this since i took computer graphics in high school like 3-4 years ago lmao #ok now that i've done a silly animatic it's time to try a serious one

[peppermoons]

Nobuhiko Okamoto really out there promoting his BL manga that is basically a bkdk au and you people here are just... NOT TALKING ABOUT IT?????

#bakudeku #bkdk #he really said: FINE if no one else is gonna do it i guess i'll have to do it myself #'this is a work of pure love 🥹' #one of the characters is a crybaby called uzuki and he was bullied as a kid and the other one is blond and he's uzuki's hero #and they're childhood friends whose relationship got strained over the years but now they're in high school together and they get kidnapped #and forced into some...survival game(?) where they have to fuck or die and it's called 'boku no spirited away' #like????? SIR????? EXPLAIN YOURSELF?!?!?!? #can't believe no one here is talking about it and i had to find out when i randomly saw it mentioned by someone from a different fandom #you're all on twitter and get these interesting news every day yet you choose to leave us all here in the dark. NOT FAIR

[emry-stars-art]

hi i just wanna say... FAT ANDREW!!! FAT ANDREW!!!!!!!! FAT ANDREW!!!!!!!!!!!!! 💞💘💓💝💗💝💖💗💝💓💘💓💘💗💗💓💞💗

I thoroughly appreciate your rep if my lurking in your art tag didn't show that yet 🥹

THANK YOU FOR LURKING AND FOR THE ASK I’ve been going off messing around with body types for the girls… and for everyone really, I just love drawing humans so much ✨ YEAH FAT STOCKY ANDREW

He’s doing his cool down stretches bc Kevin won’t let them leave until everyone’s done

#someone once tagged an Andrew I drew with like #YES he eats lots of sweets YES he could bench press all of us YES he goes fast as FUCK #and it’s one of my favorite tags ever #YEAH HE’S STRONG AND QUICK! #in complete honestly I halfway make Andrew a foot-shorter version of my very good friend from high school and college #*honesty #god I have Andrew weightlifting on my list of ‘to draw’ rn #imagine… #folds and bumps and just fat in general can be so pleasing to draw #tummy is the softest thing about him maybe #anyway #fan art #my art #aftg #all for the game #andrew minyard #I should draw like different interpretations of the twins #bc in my head Aaron and Andrew don’t have the same body type like. not even close enough to really confuse them #but in canon they pass for each other all the time and you know what? I like a good stocky Aaron too

[misfitmiska]

Please I can’t be the only one who thought of this—

(knows full well that no one else has thought of this but secretly hopes this post will trick dr stone fans into watching yume no crayon oukoku)

#art #crossovers #okay the yuzu/horesore comparison is KIND of a reach design and personality wise but #they are both high school girls with an interest in fashion and two feral guy friends and that’s enough for me #senku and negikku have different personalities but they are both “the smart guy” + leader of their group and they literally look the same #PLUS their names rhyme #watch me give negikku red eyes because he doesnt have a canonical eye colour #taiju and nobiruja are the same person no cap #yume no crayon oukoku #dr stone #dcst #ooki taiju #ogawa yuzuriha #ishigami senku #nobiruja #horesore #negikku #i am alone in this fandom but it’s okay because i can draw #yuzuriha ogawa #taiju ooki #senku ishigami #i forgor which tags i use for these characters help

[fizzytoo]

made a bottoms (movie)/“fight club” inspired oc :D —leah dawn (she/her, 21, physics major) joined her university's "secret" self-defense (fight) club to impress girls and get pussy 😞

#ts4 #sims 4 #ts4 cas #show us your sims #*fizzysims #oc: leah dawn #bc apparently she's not getting any bitches in the physics department #and everybody thinks she's straight 😞 #she can’t fight either 😞 she gets her ass tore up takes silly little selfies then guilts her friends into taking her for ice cream #not too much on my girl’s big ass forehead ✊🏽 #idk when im gonna see the bottoms movie so idk the dynamics of the fight club so dont come for me for including random ass details 🫵🏽 #i just wanted an excuse to make a lesbian oc that’s in a fight club but doesn’t look like she’s in a fight club #y’all think she’s getting pussy? LMAOAJSJSHSH #we need more people in this fight club :D hint hint wink wink #i already have some more ideas for different members maybe antagonists 👀 (enemies to lovers 👀) #anyway this was fun. i’m not rlly sure about the white cas bg WHEW bright as hell and not great for white clothes swatches #ik the bottoms movie is set in a high school but i’m not doing that 💀 i’m grown #blood #cw blood

[dishsaop]

one of the hardest things you can do, but one of the most rewarding, is understanding the fact that if one of your friends is annoyed with or mad at you, they will tell you. and if they are annoyed with or mad at you and they dont tell you, that burden is on them, not on you. catastrophizing in your head about how your harmless interactions might be enraging or disgusting a friend is damaging to you both. if someone respects you as a friend and as a person, they will tell you if they need a change. otherwise, its not your problem, baby. you are both individuals capable of communicating your needs, and neither of you (i am assuming) are telepaths.

#well if youre telepaths that introduces a whole new thing but i wont speak over telepath experiences #anyway sliding this post between silly ones dont look at me #this was inspired by a conversation w an old high school friend #m text #additional tags edit: im referring to like. regular interactions. if youre out here like actually stabbing people or calling them slurs and #being a genuine shithead that makes people feel unsafe thats different #i mean like if youre loud or infodumping or weird or just concerned youre annoying and off... let them tell you instead of #assuming it

[sluttylittlewaste]

Hilarious that the same people defending any and all questionable choices the Bad Kids make (namely Kristen lbr) by saying "They're just kids! They have all this trauma and it's fucked up to expect teens to be good and nice all the time!" are the same people insisting that Kipperlily is an evil bitch and the Ratgrinders deserve to die.

#it's almost like the rules of empathy and nuance only apply to characters you like 🙃 #we know absolutely nothing of significance about the Ratgrinders #and i can't wait for Brennan to remind us of that #you want to complain about Kipperlily using her families money to try to buy the campaign??? #The entire shrimp party that kicked off Kristen's campaign was bankrolled by her rich friend #Adaine is a total bitch to anyone who isn't in her immediate friend group #Fig is a literal full time criminal at this point #they have at least 50+ murders under their collective belts at this point #the only verified difference between the Bad Kids and the Ratgrinders at this point is that we know nothing about them #I hope they are the biggest red herring Brennan has ever pulled #because I feel like there are people in this fandom who are so used to self-identifying as victims that they've become full bullies #and they're projecting that shit in some really gross ways #The same way Brennan had to remind Adaine that she wasn't the only one with a shitty life when she was dunking on Zayne? #how about we all take a big step back and try to have a little more perspective #instead of jumping straight to being triggered by a CHILD who had the audacity to not love your faves behavior #let me die #if i die #d20 fhjy #fhjy #dimension 20 #kristen applebees #kipperlily copperkettle #the bad kids #the ratgrinders #we have no context on what those kids went through in all the time the Bad Kids have been running around doing other shit #Aguefort is an awful school and their friend is dead #maybe she has a reason not to like the super special “chosen one” that got personally resurrected by the principal and keeps failing upwards #i didn't want to be a Kipperlily defense page #but the energy of the Kipperlily hate reeks of double-standards and unprocessed high school bitterness

[paunchsalazar]

neck and neck in the bottom awards

#sorry to my friends I did tweet this but it stands.. #bastard sons.. mixed race.. blond. tall.. extending roses.. weird stunted childhood.. history nerds.. #arguably Catholic though I think Alistair is critical of the church to the point of not practicing/participating in organized religion.. #bottom subs…. let’s just be realistic #they are very different don’t get me wrong but their overlap is hilarious to me….. I think what keeps Alistair from being Tamaki is ofc #the horrors of his genre and also that he’s not a full bishonen baby adored by his parents.. #dragon age #ouran high school host club

[krookodyke]

something about the end of yellowjackets 2x02 and the beginning of the Cannibalism connecting to the core theme of the show… that we were all just girls together, and we did all these horrible things together. and now we have to live with it, forever, with the inherent violence of girlhood and how we all participated because there was no other option. it was survival.

#txt #yellowjackets #yellowjackets spoilers #like a theme that truly gets me about this damn show is that… yes the girls are in this very damned situation but #is it that different from high school? don’t you eat your best friend whole there as the only way to have her? #and just thinking in the pilot… how they broke allie’s leg to ‘freeze her out’… no different than leaving jackie in the cold. #yellowjackets just offers a more tangible view of how violent girlhood can be and how it always is #doesn’t matter if you’re in the canadian wilderness or suburban new jersey. it’s all the same

[autosadist]

did anyone else's entire high school friend group end up transitioning over the course of their 20s

#we are all over the country now but like...two different friend groups lol my rivethead friends from philly/ny and my high school friends #from nj