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#but either way WOMEN FIRST.
mysillyside · 2 months
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My thoughts on Light's sexuality
Light makes the most sense if you read him as an aroace man (who is also gay in a very specific nearly-hypothetical way) who's completely functionally heterosexual. By which I mean he's capable of performing heterosexuality both romantically/sexually (if it's beneficial to him), without feeling (too) uncomfortable. He feels no sexual or romantic attraction towards anyone, however he is only capable of having (somewhat) close relationships with men who are his intellectual equals. He's a very homosocial character.
While I don't think Light would ever go out of his way to seek out a relationship for personal reasons, I could see him entertaining the idea of a life-partnership (in a queer-platonic-esq sense, though he wouldn't call it that) with a fellow man if he found one with whom he feels a strong sense of kinship with and who also happens to be extremely intellectually stimulating/challenging.
His disinterest in women as partners, while definitely fueled by his misogyny to a degree, at its core is because Light already finds nearly everyone extremely unrelatable to him, women and men alike, hence why, even if Light wasn't Mr. Sexism, women would still be excluded by default as potential partners because he'd want someone he'd feel the closest possible sense of mutual understanding with.
Considering finding such a person would be, quite literally, near-impossible, in a no-Death Note, no-Kira world, Light would most likely either be single for life (ideal) or married to a woman for the sake of keeping up appearances (not ideal, but he'd manage).
I think reading him as an aroace man (who is also gay in a very specific nearly-hypothetical way) is the most in-line with his canon characterization. That is of course, if we're analyzing how he's written in the text itself. If we're however, analyzing him from the standpoint of authorial intent- he's completely heterosexual.
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kouhaiofcolor · 3 months
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I really miss the natural hair community & watching natural hair content generally. That was so good for Black Women; we were thriving at it, too. And as rapidly as it rose to popularity, it’s crazy how dead the whole concept is now. I think it had more to do w all the division created over routines around maintenance than anything else. Everybody was entirely too pushy w trying to make what worked for them personally a staple for taking care of textured hair in general — & that shit walked so that colorism, featurism, texturism & misogynoir could run. Now the same ppl who was riding the wave a few years ago & swearing by all these products, brands, sponsors, wash day & styling methods have put natural hair away as a concept entirely.
Also, why the hell did we waste all that energy prefacing everything w, “Stop doing this and do these things for your hair to grow to tailbone length overnight🤡” — just to go right back to weave and perms? All that researching for what? All the dedication to disproving antiblack/misogynoir notions about Black hair for what? All the redefining of protective styles for what? All the trying to unlearn the belief structures around the colonization of Black hair for what? What did we teach ourselves fr? How did we make things any easier for Black Women and little Black girls? It’s tragic af. The Natural Hair Community/Movement is dead, it seems like. I don’t think we fought hard enough to prevent what happened to it honestly :\
#this isn’t to call out or demoralize weave or perms or anything like that either#I don’t think there’s anything wrong w black women doing any of that#but on the flip side I do kind of feel like#maybe weave is a bit of a crutch for us?#even w an understanding of it being a conditioning via white supremacy & antiblackness#I just don’t understand why it was smothered as a movement#& why black women seem to have like…. kind of just rolled over with it?#it was legitimately good for us before everyone else went to bandwagoning for relevance#and I get that too#but I still feel like we did a poor job at defending & teaching each other first & foremost#non black people definitely got in the way of that#but we also got in each other’s way ourselves#everyone I used to be subscribed to on yt for natural hair content stepped away from it#even those w natural hair grown & maintained beyond their waist or whatnot#the switch right back to unhealthy means of taking care of textured hair was flipped so easily#it just saddens me cus we were working at doing better#esteeming ourselves#our nieces#our daughters#our female cousins and mothers and aunties about the way we take care of our hair#and fell just short of actually taking something tangible from it#it wasn’t about having longer hair#it was about giving textured hair representation in ways it mattered#we were so driven in this & it was beautiful#there is no movement or dedication to this in 2024 tho#proud of black women who were independent thinkers & didn’t fall off w all the chaos#them trends had ppl clambering all over each other#& it ultimately killed the movement#nowadays you don’t even hear from the non black women who were vulturing for clout#i be floored w how sparse any content true to the hash tags are anymore
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chiarrara · 29 days
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Nobara truthers, Gojo truthers, I'm a goddamn Higuruma truther. He's not fucking dead, my dude is coming back
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wonder-worker · 1 month
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"[Elizabeth Woodville's] piety as queen seems to have been broadly conventional for a fifteenth-century royal, encompassing pilgrimages, membership of various fraternities, a particular devotion to her name saint, notable generosity to the Carthusians, and the foundation of a chantry at Westminster after her son was born there. ['On other occasions she supported planned religious foundations in London, […] made generous gifts to Eton College, and petitioned the pope to extend the circumstances in which indulgences could be acquired by observing the feast of the Visitation']. One possible indicator of a more personal, and more sophisticated, thread in her piety is a book of Hours of the Guardian Angel which Sutton and Visser-Fuchs have argued was commissioned for her, very possibly at her request."
-J.L. Laynesmith, "Elizabeth Woodville: The Knight's Widow", "Later Plantagenet and Wars of the Roses Consorts: Power, Influence, Dynasty"
#historicwomendaily#elizabeth woodville#my post#friendly reminder that there's nothing indicating that Elizabeth was exceptionally pious or that her piety was 'beyond purely conventional'#(something first claimed by Anne Crawford who simultaneously claimed that Elizabeth was 'grasping and totally lacking in scruple' so...)#EW's piety as queen may have stood out compared to former 15th century predecessors and definitely stood out compared to her husband#but her actions in themselves were not especially novel or 'beyond normal' and by themselves don't indicate unusual piety on her part#As Laynesmith's more recent research observes they seem to have been 'broadly conventional'#A conclusion arrived at Derek Neal as well who also points out that in general queens and elite noblewomen simply had wider means#of 'visible material expression of [their] personal devotion' - and also emphasizes how we should look at their wider circumstances#to understand their actions (eg: the death of Elizabeth's son George in 1479 as a motivating factor)#It's nice that we know a bit about Elizabeth's more personal piety - for eg she seems to have developed an attachment to Westminster Abbey#It's possible her (outward) piety increased across her queenship - she undertook most of her religious projects in later years#But again - none of them indicate the *level* of her piety (ie: they don't indicate that she was beyond conventionally pious)#By 1475 it seems that contemporaries identified Cecily Neville as the most personally devout from the Yorkist family#(though Elizabeth and even Cecily's sons were far greater patrons)#I think people also assume this because of her retirement to Westminster post 1485#which doesn't work because 1) we don't actually know when she retired? as Laynesmith says there is no actual evidence for the traditional#date of 12 February 1487#2) she had very secular reasons for retiring (grief over the death of her children? her lack of dower lands or estates which most other#widows had? her options were very limited; choosing to reside in the abbey is not particularly surprising. it's a massive and unneeded jump#to claim that it was motivated solely by piety (especially because it wasn't a complete 'retirement' in the way people assume it was)#I think historians have a habit of using her piety as a GOTCHA!' point against her vilification - which is a flawed and stupid argument#Elizabeth could be the most pious individual in the world and still be the pantomime villain Ricardians/Yorkists claim she was#They're not mutually exclusive; this line of thinking is useless#I think this also stems from the fact that we simply know very little about Elizabeth as an individual (ie: her hobbies/interests)#certainly far less than we do for other prominent women Margaret of Anjou; Elizabeth of York;; Cecily Neville or Margaret Beaufort#and I think rather than emphasizing that gap of knowledge her historians merely try to fill it up with 'she was pious!'#which is ... an incredibly lackluster take. I think it's better to just acknowledge that we don't know much about this historical figure#ie: I do wish that her piety and patronage was emphasized more yes. but it shouldn't flip too far to the other side either.
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idk if it's a common interpretation of the scene but i like the idea that 1. julian and jadzia have similar Types and it's a point of teasing, and 2. the 'GO AWAY!' PADD scene w leeta was both out of general annoyance and out of julian assuming she was trying to make charming leeta into a competition
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aq2003 · 7 months
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there comes a beautiful time in life where i have to ask myselg th question, "did i accidentally project too hard onto the character that i only relate to a little bit and in doing so hugely missed this one entire aspect/interpretation of the characters . am i stupid"
#ARE THEY STUPID!#dr who#this is about ten specifically his relationship w martha lmao#m being so serious i genuinely did not. see the 'ten was on purpose leading martha on to make her think her feelings were requited' angle#until going out into the wild and reading the tumblr posts. like i genuinely did not. at ALLLLLL. its like a brick hitting my head#bc the ENTIRE time s3 ten came off to me as 'doing stuff w no romantic intent behind it but would consistently get misinterpreted as such'#cuz IIIIIIIII have done this. IIIIIIII have run into this problem before. and it sucks so incredibly bad.#i actually do want to think my og interpretation still holds water cuz like. well i could gather all the evidence but#first one that comes 2 mind would be him going 'it's like when you fancy someone + they dont know you exist' to martha. in episode TWELVE#two routes; either ten is needlessly cruel and callous even after a season's worth of building up trust and friendship w her#or he is on super 'i dont think she has feelings for me and this is a very unhappy coincidence of a line' cocaine#Or the 'she fancied me' line in s4 to donna. either he is disregarding all the good and positive impact she did him. or the fact that this#went over his head the whole time made him look back on that time w discomfort <- I DID THIS. I MIGHT HAVE BEEN PROJECTING#THIS ONTO HIM. AM I STUPID.?.?????#you know how mikage rgu can either be read as an incel or a gay man lost so completely in the sauce#ten is like in this same ballpark. i think. of 'emotionally manipulative and disrespects women' or 'aroacespec and missed the cues'#funniest possible options to pick from. ten my brother how did you set yourself up like this#absolutely not denying that he was toxic and unhealthy during s3 in like 500 ways btw. but well. ths is the one concwpt that#flew over my head. so completely. and i can kind of see it now but i also still find it hard to incorporate into my belief system#bc its like. brother I'M aroace and missed the cues too lol#tangential note we can trace many problems down to a writer's room filled w white people not giving#martha's character the respect/agency she deserves for the existing narrative she has. bc they pulled this w mickey too both in series 1+2#if they wanted to portray ten as manipulative then him and martha should've been given more screentime#together where martha (or anyone else) calls him the FUCK out on this. and ten would need to suffer narrative consequences of doing smth#as fucked up as that rather than his happy stable dynamic he has w donna. if they wanted to portray him as oblivious then marthas character#shouldn't have constantly been boiled down to an unrequited crush (particularly her dialogue in the s3 finale - there's a LOT more reasons#why she would choose to leave/why their dynamic was unhealthy besides ten not returning her feelings)#if you read all these tags you may be entitled 2 financial compensation#ten and martha#aspec doc tag
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j-esbian · 18 days
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(one of) the most frustrating parts about the portrayal of drow society is that it wants to create Reverse Sexism without uncoupling itself from some. pretty foundational patriarchal ideas. it ascribes to the (tired, essentialist) notion that men are inherently good at certain things, and women are inherently suited for different things
but rather than the basic subversion of “women are warriors and men are the homemakers” or even early feminist thought experiments like “traditionally ‘women’s priorities’ are given importance over ‘men’s’ (ie things are governed by council, importance is placed on childrearing, etc)”, menzoberranzan is “this society still holds to patriarchal values and women are not as good at these things which is why it’s demonstrably worse”.
the biggest tell is that they have to control the male population to maintain female dominance, the implication being that in a fair fight, men would easily overpower them. it assumes the misogynist ideas as fact that “women are inherently weaker” and also “women are duplicitous” so the drow fighting style is based on stealth and sabotage rather than “”honorable”” face- to-face combat (letting lie also the assumption that the only avenue for ambition is through military violence, and therefore still making it so that they are reliant on men, even as disposable shock troops, for their success).
the only things that keep women in charge are by stacking the numbers on a systematic level, and through sexual domination on the individual level (because clearly the only real power a woman can have over men is her sexuality).
it is a society where “men act like men” but women don’t act like women; it is evil because an act of god created an aberration against the “natural order” of things, and there is no one to tend the hearth (because if the women won’t do it, no one will)
#there’s just. so much to unpack#call me old fashioned but i think. if you’re trying to subvert something you should first understand how it actually works#now this is also mostly based off of what i read from the first couple drizzt novels and old lore on the wiki so like#it’s possible that they’ve tried to do a spit-polish retcon in 5e#but every time they’ve tried to do that with other things i feel like they also misunderstood the real issue so#either way i don’t have a lot of faith that this would have fundamentally changed#it’s probably just something like ‘yep we acknowledge it’s problematic but that’s bc lolth is eeeeevil so it’s supposed to be bad’#like i’m gonna be honest. i roll my eyes whenever Any fantasy society spends time codifying gender roles in this kind of way#there’s plenty of other races that are like ‘men are warriors and women are homemakers but both are equally important so it’s not sexist!!!#like they’re not just reinventing the wheel of victorian Separate Spheres#but what gets me about this one is how clear it feels that no one thought deeply about it#‘a matriarchy is when women act like men’#i have no source for this but it FEELS like it originated as a reactionary response to second wave feminism#‘women can do the same things men can do?? we should let them in positions of power??#this is what that looks like. checkmate feminists’#honestly i have learned a lot more about the way men think about women from fantasy bc#it rly shows their asses when you’re ostensibly removed from the world we live in#and the things they place importance on#mine#dnd
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cassmouse · 29 days
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My friends can no longer watch Final Destination 3 with me because I will not shut the fuck up about how big of a crush I have on Mary Elizabeth Winstead
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simcardiac-arrested · 9 months
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as a russian who doesn't talk to russian people online what the shit is happening there hello
look man i myself have put in the effort to Not talk to online russians for like (checks hand) 7 or so years (of course i’ve met some really great ones but this isn’t about them and they probably know it) but i’m sure the community didn’t change much. actually from the glimpses i see it seems to have gotten worse. don’t even get me startedddddd man
#Like okay first we have the misogynist dudebros. not a category exclusive to online russians but#there are so many it’s fucking crazy. homophobic to hell and back and Will hate on you for no reason#alpha male type mfs who hate women but will still harass them because of course they will#the second category of course is weird unironic fujoshis who are also usually proshippers#and they are either 12 (forgivable) or 25 and the thing is you can NEVER tell. But it’s kind of fucked how#acceptable it is to just straight up fetishize gay men (hell probably not only them) in online russian communities#and listen to me. the secret third category is that there is no third category. Both of these categories are racist#deer was right i have never seen a community more racist or xenophobic than fucking online russians#you draw a character one shade darker than their usual skintone and suddenly you got annoying as fuck russians in your comments going#BRO BURNT IN THE SUNNN 🤣🤣🤣 ENGLISH FANDOM LOOK WHAT YOU’VE DONE !!! <- in recent times they have taken to blaming the english fandom for#‘wokefying’ their sacred online russian spaces. Of course we can only be woke enough to fetishize gay men. god forbid black people exist#now the actual third category is the online russian tеrf/radfеm community. it seems recent to me but also as i said i have not really#interacted with russian comminity as a whole for a long while. But yea anyways they’re crazy i dont think i have to explain this one#but they’re somehow more evil and miserable than the ones you’re used to#another recent one is the russian twitterians … i’ve only seen glimpses of them as well as i dont use twitter#but you will not believe the shit these mfs try to pull. They try to get you to stop swearing at all bc they find a way to make every#russian swear word offensive. AND they speak fucking … englussian. rusglish. Half of their sentences are just english words written in#russian letters. all the same buzzwords english speaking twitter users like to say!#if you’ve never seen a russian talk about feminization or gatekeeping or being woke or yadda yadda. Well i have#it’s bad. they’re just very very terminally online#and don’t worry the last two categories will also always be racist/xenophobic even if the last one tries to seem Progressive#don’t know if i missed anytning but those are just the Specific Types of annoying asf online russians that i have noticed and have been#observing from a safe distance like a scientist#my point is keep not talking to russian people#cramswering#edit: I FORGOT BUT DONT EVEN GET ME STARTED ON HOW ONLINE RUSSIANS TREAT TRANS PEOPLE#YOU CANNOT IMAGINE THE WAY THEY REACT TO TRANS HEADCANONS IT’S LIKE THE END OF THE WORLD TO THEM. OR TRANS CHARACTERS#OR GOD FORBID ACTUAL REAL LIFE TRANS PEOPLE. it’s actually quite incredible how bigoted online russians are
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elisedonut · 9 months
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AAAAAAAA I need a Forbidden Love pairing for mtf!Percy specifically
i have a lot for Cis!Percy because it's honestly one of my favorite tropes but i haven't really thought much for Mtf!Percy ships other then like Penny, Marcus and Oliver.
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sapphicmumrik · 5 months
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Usagi should get to dress in women’s clothing more. as a treat
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rosietrace · 10 months
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『 For you? Anything. 』
Characters featured: Victoria Shard, Victoria Le Fay(@starry-night-rose )
Pairing: Shard x Le Fay
Synopsis: Le Fay got stood up during her date. And it seems Shard came at just the right time.
Warning(s): Potentially ooc, Shard is referred to as “Regina”, getting stood up on a date
{ Apologies for any out of character moments }
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Victoria sat there, impatient and disappointed. And no, this wasn't the Victoria of Pomefiore.
It was the one from Diasomnia. Victoria Le Fay, in all her prideful, confident glory, had been asked out.
And so far? It hasn't been going well for her.
That pretentious snail…. She thought, crossing her arms in annoyance as she felt a vein appearing on her forehead. To think, they'd leave me hanging like this…
She looked down at the ground, barely even bothering to touch the menu. The other people around her looked at her in both pity and slight amusement, depending on the person. Because they all knew what had happened.
Her date had stood her up.
And Victoria knew that as well. She uncrossed her arms, finally beginning to compose herself in an attempt to hide any signs of sadness.
She liked that guy. They were nice, handsome enough, and even went as far as to promise to pay for her meal during this date.
And yet they didn't come.
A waiter nearby soon approached. “Um, miss?” they called. “Have you…. Have you finally decided on what you shall order?”
Victoria pursed her lips, unsure of how she was to answer. She was hungry, sure, but…. There was that hope. That sliver of hope that, maybe, possibly, they'd show up.
As the waiter began growing all the more concerned, a voice was heard behind them.
“She'll have the pomegranate-based cheesecake.”
Both the waiter and Victoria turned to see who the source of the voice was.
Ah. It was the other Victoria, the one from Pomefiore.
Victoria would often call her Regina, in order to differentiate between her and the woman in front of her at the moment.
Regina looked at Victoria, raising an eyebrow. “What?” she asked. “Did you come here for nothing?”
A moment of silence passed between the two. The tension between them was so thick that the waiter between them would have cut it with a knife.
Even so, Victoria sighed, sending a nod. It was unclear if she sent it to Regina's way, or the waiter's.
Regardless, Regina sat across from her whilst the waiter wrote down Victoria's order. They turned to Regina. “And you, ma'am?”
Regina hummed, not even bothering to look at the waiter. “Vanilla and chocolate parfait.”
The waiter gave her a firm nod, writing down their orders before walking off.
Victoria tensed up, narrowing her eyes a little. “Why are you here?” she questioned.
Regina arched a brow. “Do you not want me here?”
“Wha- That isn't what I meant,” Victoria clarified. “I was just…. Surprised to see you here.”
Regina shrugged. “I can see why,” she said. “Let me guess: That date didn't go as planned?”
As surprised as Victoria may have been, she didn't bother to question Regina. Crossing her arms, Victoria allowed herself to slouch in her seat. “I'd barely call it a date.”
“Oh?” color Regina intrigued. “How come?”
Victoria huffed in annoyance. “He didn't even bother to show up,” she told her. The look in her eyes bordered between annoyance.
And hurt.
Regina noticed that, right away. She gave Victoria a look of pity. “Are you sure you're okay?”
There was genuine concern in her tone, so much so that it caught Victoria off guard for a moment.
“Hm. Of course, I am!” she feigned the confidence she had when she first entered the damn restaurant, moments before she realized: she got stood up. “You know me already, Regina, the great Victoria Le Fay isn't one to be so caught up over such frivolous matters!”
As soon as she said that, she knew - Regina didn't buy that little lie one bit. Manipulative as she may be, Victoria knew that Regina claimed to “uphold” one thing.
The truth. And what Victoria said, was far from it.
“Hey,” Regina called out, reaching out to place her hand on Victoria's. “You're lying. I know it.”
“Regina…”
“Victoria.”
“This isn't any of your busine-”
“I can't help you if you continue to lie about your feelings, Victoria,” Regina told her, letting go of her hand to fold her arms over her chest.
Victoria looked away. “This isn't any of your business.”
Regina sighed. “I know,” she replied. “I just happened to be at the right place, at the right time.”
“But….”
From the corner of Victoria's eye, she saw genuine sincerity filling Regina's eyes. “What I can do to help is to at least listen to you let out those frustrations you've been bottling up.”
It was ironic, to say the least. The girl who bottled her emotions the most is telling the girl who is most vocal about her opinions to do just that.
Still, Victoria was touched by her words and took a deep breath. “Fine,” she breathed.
And so, she told her everything.
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That ended up being exactly what she needed. For someone, it didn't matter who, to listen to her voice her opinions with little to no qualms about it.
Regina was quite the listener. A couple of comments here and there, but mostly silent. Letting Victoria take the initiative as her words started becoming all the more frustrated.
And that frustration only revealed itself fully once Victoria had a flavorful taste of pomegranate cheesecake.
“I just can't believe they'd do such a thing,” she continued to complain, taking a bite of her cheesecake with very few complaints about its taste.
Regina hummed. “Yes, a rather ridiculous thing to do, indeed.”
“Admittedly…” Victoria trailed off. Regina stopped any words from leaving her lips, in order to patiently await what Victoria had to say.
“Admittedly,” she began. “I… Actually quite liked them.”
And that's what made it hurt more.
Giving her a look, Regina pursed her lips, possibly thinking of something to say to respond to that.
And she found that reply, almost immediately.
“I see,” she said finally. “I'm not an expert at this sort of thing… But I can at least tell you this.”
Victoria arched a brow, (im)patiently waiting for whatever Regina had to say to her.
“You shouldn't be too caught up on someone like them.”
Victoria became all the more confused. “Why are you so concerned about my feelings? You don't need to do anything for me..”
Regina chuckled so softly that Victoria felt her cheeks heat up ever so slightly.
“For you? Anything.”
Victoria flinched, but allowed Regina to continue with what she told her. In doing so, she attempted to shake off the redness of her cheeks.
“Besides,” Regina rested her chin on her hand, leaning against it while looking at Victoria with a gentle smile.
“Who knows? Maybe the person you're looking for could be right in front of you.”
But, you're the…. As her thoughts drifted elsewhere, Victoria felt her face heat up in realization.
Was…. Was Regina referring to herself?
To be fair, it wasn't like Victoria felt like she could complain about being with Regina. She was poised, beautiful, and intellectually advanced….
Oh. Oh.
Victoria was in love with Regina. Or rather, in love with Victoria Shard.
At that realization, Regina looked at her with a look of concern. “Victoria?” she called out to her, pulling her out of her train of thought. “Are you okay?”
Victoria remained silent, unsure of what to say next. Obviously, she couldn't just tell Regina of these recently realized feelings right then and there.
But….. Y'know what, that was a problem for future Victoria Le Fay.
Smiling, albeit a little more softly than usual, Victoria shook her head.
“I'm fine.”
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tartt-bi-con · 9 months
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how actually dare you amazon.
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eyesopentv · 8 months
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this is gonna sound so strange but i wish manhood was beautiful in the way that womanhood is
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cruelsister-moved2 · 11 months
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i think its actually very significant how straight men are obsessed with lesbians vs bi women. the male gaze when it comes to sexuality between women is generally obsessed with feeling like its taking something that women didn’t want it to have. at the same time as they constantly try to push men on lesbians, they erase bi women’s autonomy in choosing to have sex with men. if it was just about wanting to have sex with two women, there are bi women who would enjoy sharing that experience with them as equals, but instead they’re obsessed with trying to ‘lure’ in lesbians, or at least trick a bi woman who thought she was hooking up with just a woman. porn where the actresses are both bi and are choosing to create entertainment for a male audience becomes fly-on-the-wall ‘lesbian porn’. men will talk about an experience with a bi woman who has always openly liked men as if they ‘turned a lesbian’. their bi partners are ‘lesbians with an exception’. if she’s someone who usually prefers women it’s a trophy and not just her enjoying multiple things. it’s all about trying to remove women’s autonomy from desire. 👍
#like you can compare how like fujoshis or whoever generally never insert themselves into a situation#i dont think that thinking a woman kissing another woman is hot is a crime. i would be hypocritical LOL#but i feel like this is one of the most visible examples of how its not abt sexuality its abt power#a lot of straight men's attitude towards lesbians is about the symbolic enactment of male power over all women#and thats why other people who arent even attracted to lesbians or arent men are also obsessed with inserting men into lesbianism#its ultimately about maintaining gendered boundaries and not about like wanting to sleep with a specific person#anyway something something the bi lesbian phenomenon#i think a lot of takes about how men treat bi womens attraction are goofy bc of the focus on erasure or whatever#but its not about that its about them WANTING to feel like they violated a boundary#whether youre the one with the boundary they want to violate#or someone who didnt have that boundary but theyre enjoying imagining that you did and they violated it#it sucks either way#idk i dont feel like i got it into words well but something about how deeply sick it is that even when bi women do want sex w men its like#they literally want to convince themselves you didnt want it at first. and thats really uncomfortable if you were sharing that intimacy with#someone not with that intention because its like theyre basically fantasising abt violating you and having power over you that you havent#actually given them#yuck
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