#boys and sex

[maaarine]

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity (Peggy Orenstein, 2020)

"When caught out, boys typically claim that they thought they were being “funny,” just joking around.

And in a way that makes sense—if, that is, you have been denied full emotional expression, been trained to suppress empathy, and consider cruelty, “ribbing,” or making demeaning sexual comments about women to be forms of bonding.

Such “humor” may even, when left unexamined, seem like an extension of the gross-out comedy of childhood: little boys are famous for their fart jokes, booger jokes, poop jokes, barf jokes.

It’s how they test boundaries, understand the human body, gain a little social cred with other guys.

But, as with sports, their glee in that can both enable and camouflage sexism. (…)

In order for gross, crude, sexual, or even slapstick humor to be funny to its audience, researchers have found, it has to succeed in two contradictory things: violating morals (that is, it has to be disgusting) while seeming harmless, detached from any true reality; certainly you can’t feel concern or identification with its subject.

That a dead baby joke would be a whole lot less funny if you first described in detail how the baby suffered, the grief of the parents, the horror of the funeral.

So, in order for boys to believe any of these antics were amusing, they had to systematically ignore the humanity of the girls involved—and that is not harmless at all. (…)

“Hilarious” is another way, under pretext of horseplay or group bonding, that boys learn to disregard others’ feelings as well as their own.

“Hilarious” is a safe haven, a default position when something is inappropriate, confusing, upsetting, depressing, unnerving, or horrifying; when something is simultaneously sexually explicit and dehumanizing; when it defies their ethics; when it evokes any of the emotions meant to stay safely behind that wall.

“Hilarious” offers distance, allowing them to subvert a more compassionate response that could be read as weak, overly sensitive, or otherwise unmasculine.

“Hilarious” is particularly troubling as a defense among bystanders—if assault is “hilarious,” they don’t have to take it seriously, they don’t have to respond: there is no problem."

#peggy orenstein #boys and sex #book #weaker sex

[amarrymeinbostonwriter]

Books Read in January and February 2024.

Josephine Tey's novel was The Daughter of time.

I read both Ragtime and Under the Feet of Jesus for an American lit class at my grad school. The rest of these books were my own choices.

I'm still currently reading both Yerba Buena and The Infernal World of Branwell Bronte.

I start my Romantic Brit Lit course next week too (I just finished my American Lit Seminar). I'm getting close to the end of my English Lit Master's degree. I have only two classes left now.

#books #book covers #bookblr #read in 2024 #my next class is Romantic Brit Lit #reading #currently reading #nickel and dimed #bad feminist #the daughter of time #boys and sex #tokyo ueno station #after dark #under the feet of jesus #ragtime #butch geography #yerba buena #the infernal world of branwell bronte #my chatter

[goodboy-ftm]

need to sit in someone's lap facing away from them with their hand between my legs rubbing me over my underwear, teasing me for being so wet and desperate for their fingers

#trans nsft #ftm bottom #ftm puppy #ftm sub #good boy #t4t nsft #mlm nsft #ftm t4t #t4t ns/fw #mlm sub #transmasc nsft #ftm nsft #queer nsft #t4t sex #puppy sub #dumb puppy #t4t bottom #bottomposting

[eddiethehunted]

i LOVE fics where eddie’s like “i’m a virgin… nobody wants to fuck me EVER… i’m a bitchless loser… never even had my first kiss… woe is me😔” and steve, vibrating with poorly restrained lust, is like “so i have this crazy idea”

#steddie #‘we should have sex right now. as friends.’ #and eddie is like oh is that- that’s a thing you want to do? #and steve is like ‘yeah. you know to help a friend out. lol’ #NO ONE IS BUYING IT STEVEN. YOUR DICK HAS BEEN HARD SINCE THE BIG BOY COMMENT

[moonlitkissing]

I need my sweet boy on top of me, humping my thigh with his head buried in my neck so i can play with his hair and whisper to him how pretty he is right then

#she speaks #nsft concept #gentle fdom #subby boys #listen i'll keep talking about cuddle sex til the day i die #i need him WHINY #and SOFT

[pretty-chloe]

Only want someone serious to suck my thing 🍆💦😩

#trans gender #transgender #trans sex worker #trans beauty #trans body positivity #trans boy #trans community #trans gal #trans girl #trans goddess #trans gurl #mtf trans #trans man #trans rights #trans guy #trans nsft #trans pride #trans woman #trans women are amazing #trans women are beautiful #transfem #transgirl #transgurl #transisbeautiful #transmasc #transsexual

[nv-may-die]

Every time I finish an assignment I should get fucked as a reward who said that

#ftm nsft #ftm sub #queer nsft #trans masc nsft #trans nsft #ftm ns/fw #ftm puppy #ftm sex #trans ns/fw #transgender ns/fw #t4t nsft #butch boy

[taktitty]

Staring problem

#the foxhole court #neil josten #andreil #andrew minyard #all for the game #tfc #tfc fanart #my art #aftg #just the boys being soft #because they deserve it #but also I have no self control #intimacy is more than sex- sometimes you just gotta be with your person #Neil heart eyes josten #Andrew this is nothing Minyard

[clock-warmer]

First draft for an idea about a skeptic having a ghost encounter 🩷

Reader X ghost/s

You are a skeptic, exploring a supposedly "haunted" location with your partner who is a believer. Having felt cold touches and hearing strange noises all night they are afraid and leave you alone in the building. What happens inside turns you from a skeptic into a form believer of the paranormal. 💓

Warning: This work contains,

breeding kink, reluctant/noncensent, threesome, blowjobs, degradation, creampie, facial, paranormal activity

Sexual content below the break 💓

There wasn't much you were afraid of going into buildings like these, you were a skeptic afterall. The same couldn't be said for your partner. Any slight thump or gust of wind had them jumping into your arms like an episode of Scooby doo. It was much the same when exploring the now abandoned Krolik Academy. Stairs creaked as the two of you applied weight, carefully stepping fearful about the floor falling out from under you.

"Fuck I want to go back please" your partner begged, this usually marked the end of your exploration but today you felt the unexplored corridors calling to you, feelings of cold chills running up and down your body, favouring travelling up your inner thighs.

"In a bit," you said, "we've barely seen anything" you move the flashlight around continuing further into the building despite your partner's fear. The fear wasn't unusual for them though, it was never a real concern when they started getting jumpy.

"Please I keep feeling like I'm being grabbed" they begged, you feel a grabbing on your wrist and turn around to see them further than a reaching distance away.

"Your just imagining it" you groaned, "like always. If your that scared you can go wait in the car" they just scoffed turning on their heel and making their way down the stairs.

Your eyes need to readjust now that there is less light, as soon as you hear the heavy wooden doors slam shut you feel more of the cold feeling traveling all over you. As if it's going through your clothes, you feel the cold sensation drawing lazy circles around your nipples. They harden under your bra. You cross your arms over your chest feeling violated by the wind, because that's the only explanation right? It's just the wind?

Your thoughts feel as if they aren't your own, flooding your head.

Such a prude.

Not like covering up will stop us much.

Acting all nervous as if she's not a slut absolutely desperate for it.

"What the fuck?" You exclaim out loud shocked by the things popping into your head. It had been a little while since you had gotten some action but you never knew yourself to be quite so down bad. Though with your partner waiting in the car, you didn't bother stopping the filthy thoughts now fuelling your actions.

Go lay on the table.

You feel compelled to obey your thoughts, a constant pressure against your clothed pussy and a soothing coolness massaging your breasts. The table you found was covered by a thick blanket of Gray dust that clung to your finger when you curiously dragged your finger across the surface.

Without warning you felt yourself be shoved down, hands catching yourself from falling face first into the dusty table, "wha-?"

Such a good little idiot doing what I say

You feel your shirt being unzipped and your bra being removed, your left dumbfounded and cold. Your shaking. What the fuck is happening to you. A firm grip finds your left breast and you feel a coolness meet your back as your pushed up slightly. Your flashlight laid on the table illuminating the empty dining room just enough for you to connect the sound of something dragging along the hardwood floors to the chair moving inexplicably closer to you.

Open your mouth

You don't, borderline terrified. You couldn't blame all this on just the wind. You feel a cold, hard something smack your cheek... playfully?

I said to open your mouth darling~

You shook your head rapidly tears welling up in your eyes as an invisible hand grabs you by the chin, another smack against your cheek. This time the other side. The same thing that smacked against your cheek drags across to your lips rubbing along them. The hand on your chin moves up to your hand almost instantly tangling itself in it, tugging slightly.

We know you want to now open wide

Your pants get pulled down alongside your panties, you can't see well in the light but there's a slightly darker patch from the slick leaking out of your cunt from being manhandled by the invisible assailants.

When something rubs up from your cunt, through your folds and up to your clit the cold feeling leaves you gasping which is when they take advantage of your mouth hanging open. The cock like object slides into your mouth reminding you of a popsicle as it sat still on your tongue.

There's a good girl, suprised you weren't begging to warm up my cock. Your as wet as a slut I wonder why your not acting like one.

Cold grabbing of your ass cheeks nearly manage to distract you from the cock in your mouth. Seperating your cheeks slightly before massaging them again and then repeating, slowly feeling something equally as big enter your cunt, feeling yourself stretch around it.

Such a good girl, taking us so well.

"Mmphh" you moan around the phantom cock in your mouth, sending vibrations up to the recipient warning a couple pulses in your mouth.

The pace of the cock fucking you from behind quickens, forcing you forward. your elbows holding your upper body up off of the dusty table. The harder and faster your fucked the deeper and faster the cock fucks your face, leaking a freezing cold liquid down your throat.

Fuck fuck fuck fuck fuck

The thought was simple and bouncing around your head, you couldn't even tell if it belonged to you or the entities balls deep in you.

Without warning your mouth is left empty and you feel as a liquid the temperature of ice water but the texture of glue coats your face. Your panting some of the liquid having pooled in your mouth is dripping out onto the table.

Sorry it's been so long~

Don't fucking apologize look at the mess this slut just made all over our house. Should have been grateful and swallowed every last drop.

There is a grip placed on your hips, cold and firm feeling like it may leave bruises as it slams into your dripping cunt with enough force to send you forward. Pleasure so strong your arms give out and your chest is pressed against the dusty table, sticky cheek collecting dust on the residue. "unghhh" you couldn't withhold your moans too well with your hole being ravaged like that. Thighs shaking as the pressure built up in your core.

You couldn't contain yourself any longer, squirting down your legs as the phantom fucks up against your cervix. The pulsing of your orgasm milking the freezing cum out of the cock.

Instantly the cold hands and cocks can no longer be felt, leaving you empty and longing. You stand on shaking legs tears slowly trickling down your cheeks from the overstimulation, grabbing the abandoned flashlight you rush down to your partner still patiently waiting for you in the car, the lights on as they say in the driver's seat.

"Are you okay??" They asked a worried expression as they scanned over your disheveled self "you look like you've seen a ghost"

#tw monsterfucking #monster fucker #creative writing #monster boy #fantasy #monster #monster fuqqer #smut #ghost smut #nsft #rough cnc #rough kink #bd/sm kink #ghost sex #ghost kink #ghost fucker #ghost x reader #monster x reader #x reader

[maaarine]

Boys & Sex: Young Men on Hookups, Love, Porn, Consent, and Navigating the New Masculinity (Peggy Orenstein, 2020)

"Nearly 60 percent of American boys in an international 2017 survey said that their parents (usually their dads) were the primary source of restrictive messages about masculinity.

Rob, an eighteen-year-old from New Jersey in his freshman year at a North Carolina college, said his father would tell him to “man up” if he was struggling in school or on the baseball field.

“That’s why I never talk to anybody about any problems I’m having,” he said.

“Because I always think, If you can’t handle this on your own, then you aren’t a man, you aren’t trying hard enough, you’re being a bitch.”

Rob’s roommate, Ely, who grew up in the suburbs of Washington, DC, got a similar message, though in a subtler form.

“My dad wasn’t sexist,” he said. “I didn’t learn ‘toxic’ or homophobic behavior from him. But I certainly learned the emotionally stunted side of masculinity. He never showed emotion: he was more of a sigh-and-walk-away guy than someone who would talk to you about what was going on.”

A 2018 national survey of over a thousand adolescents found that although girls believed there were “many ways to be a girl” (the big, honkin’ caveat being they still felt valued primarily for their appearance), boys felt there was only one narrow pathway to successful manhood.

They still equated the display of most emotions, as well as vulnerability, crying, or appearing sensitive or moody, with “acting like a girl”—which, in case you were wondering, is not a good thing.

A third of the boys surveyed agreed that they should hide or suppress their feelings when they were sad or scared.

Another third, like Rob, had felt pressure to “be a man” and “suck it up.”

Over 40 percent agreed that when they were angry, society expected them to be aggressive; the next most common response was that they should do nothing, keep quiet, and, again, “suck it up.”

Only 2 percent associated maleness with qualities such as honesty or morality, and only 8 percent with leadership—traits that are, of course, admirable in anyone but have traditionally been ascribed to masculinity.

Young American men also report more social pressure than other nationalities to be ever ready for sex and have as many partners as possible; feel a stronger stigma against homosexuality; and receive more messages that they should conform to rigid gender roles in the home and control their female partners, even to the point of violence."

#boys and sex #book #peggy orenstein #weaker sex

[domwitch]

I need a big strong service top to fuck me slow and whine about how close he is but I tell him he's not allowed to cum and he goes "mmmbut I'm soooooo clooosse 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺" and he's tearing up and panting and he thrusts faster but then slows down bc he remembers he can't cum yet and he tries to convince me again w his big brown puppy eyes and I tell him no and this goes on for hours ☺️

#my post #i wanna use a boy like hes my sex toy #he thrusts for as long as i want and he complains and whines and cries but obeys bc he loves being my toy

[carrotkicks]

cupid depression edition

#doodles #soukoku #skk #so i started thinking about lore!! #chuuya is a very sad little angel boy who very much wants someone who will love and cherish him #so he starts shooting people with his love spell to see if they'll be the right fit #and he gets dazai who is. incidently. immune to love spells. Dazai's originally in it for the *benefits* but actually likes chuuya soon #so chuuya's worried that dazai's only pretending to like him bc the love spell didn't actually work. #while also trying to grapple the ethics of brainwashing someone into loving him and his own.. dubious morality. #also skk have loads of sex LOL #ahhhh au born from some niche valentines art and the need to see much angel chuuya wings art. #cupid!chuuya vs poor sod he shot!dazai

[scrimtas]

the most fucked up fanart i ever did and I definitely DON'T respect myself for this one, but this shit is so harrier-core it's insane

redraw of this uhm pic

#cw dumb sex joke i guess #its sfw actually just Stupid #art #fanart #meme #redraw #disco elysium #de #harrier du bois #kim kitsuragi #cuno #cuno de ruyter #harrykim #i guess it counts as one?? #even tho its more of a shitpost than a ship art #sketch #digital art

[hollowtones]

"Good news! Men are real and you can have sex with them."

Some of us are ugly :(

I could give you the useless "noooo youre soooo good looking haha, beauty is fake haha" platitudes but we both know that would amount to nothing. Instead I will give you my perspective as someone who also struggles with how she looks.

I spent a long time having it hammered into me that the way I looked was Wrong, or Gross, or Bad, for like a million and one reasons. Societal expectations of beauty & the commodification of it is fucked. We all know that. And sometimes that shit weighs heavy on you, because they want it to weigh heavy on you, they want to make you feel bad so you'll give them money. We all know that too.

Anyways, to make a long story short, I spent less time seeking that kind of validation and more time seeking out other sorts of people and I realized there were hundreds of beautiful butches who would do ANYTHING to fucking LOOK like me, let alone get with someone like me. And the first time that dawned on me & the first time I internalized it & the first time I actually believed it I felt like the cockiest motherfucker alive.

This is a long winded way of saying there are absolutely people out there who would do unspeakable things to you in a sexy way. Good luck finding whatever it is you need to believe in yourself, stranger.

#Is the cat boy sex post still getting notes? I don't look at my notifications on this website ever. LOL

[melinda-cums]

I can only show it to the right person ❤are you the right person 🥺

#transgender #trans people #trans #trans sex worker #mtf trans #tran #trans beauty #trans body positivity #trans boy #trans community #trans day #trans day of remembrance #trans day of visibility #trans visibility #trans liberation #trans lives matter #trans man #trans nsft #trans pride #trans rights #trans woman #transfem #transformation #transgirl #transgurl #transisbeautiful #transmasc #transsexual