#are straight men ok

[minthara]

the absolute gall of that dude from the last date to say i didn't put enough effort into my appearance on the date 💀 anyway i said bye boy

#petra.txt #are straight men ok #i asked him how much makeup and which perfume he was wearing LMAO #i'm literally so confused like. i looked so hot that night LMAO like i'm really not one to not put effort in.... #HE WAS WEARING A LUMBERJACK STYLED JACKET LIKE

[sarasade]

One of the most generally useful things to come out of Hbomberguy's plagiarism video and Todd in the Shadows' similar video on misinformation is how they bring transparency to the internet phenomenon of "I made up a guy to get mad at".

Seriously, I've seen people make up a lot of stupid shit on the internet over the years and it's often just a manipulative attempt to paint a group of marginalized people in a bad light.

That's the TL;DR version of this post. 

ANYWAY here is the long version

Those videos are mostly about James Somerton's plagiarism of other queer people's work. However I'd like to talk about that 20-30% of Somerton's original writing- and oh boy. It's mostly about complaining about White Straight Women and misgendering well-known trans creators such as Rebecca Sugar and calling Becky Albertalli a straight woman while it's pretty common knowledge that she was forced to out herself as bi because she received so much harassment over "being a cishet woman who appropriates LGBT+ stories".

One thing that irks me especially is how in his Killing Stalking and Gay Shipping videos Somerton brings up how straight women/ teen girl shippers exploit gay men for their personal sexual fantasies. This gets brought up several times in his videos.

Being all up and arms about Somerton being a "White Cis Gay Who Hates Women and Queer People tm" is not that useful because the kind of rhetoric he's using is extremely common in fandom and LGBT+ spaces on Tumblr, TikTok and Twitter. We really don't need to bring Somerton's identity to this since he is in no way an unique example.

It's hypocritical to make this about an individual person when I've seen A TON of posts, tweets and videos where queer people talk about these Sinister Straight Women who are supposedly out there fetishizing and exploiting queer men. It's pretty clear to me that this is just an excuse to shit on women and queer people for having any sexual interests. At worst these comments are spreading misinformation about BL, a form of media that has been excessively studied by both Asian feminists and Asian queer women.

This all sounds really familiar and I think it's good that people are calling it out as what it is: misogyny and transphobia. I'd also point out the potentially racist motives behind being this hypervigilant about Asian media.

People can absolutely be misogynist regardless of gender or orientation. I really don't know why we need to create some kind of made up enemy to get mad at. I actually think it's almost sinister how "anti-fujoshi" people call Slash shippers and fujoshi misogynists or claim that they have internalised misogyny while being dismissive about women's interests and creative pursuits under Japanese obscenity laws, China's censorship, book bans in American schools and various other disadvances that are part of being a queer and/or female creator.

I think we shouldn't be naive about the bad faith actors who want to turn queer people against each other. For example Fujoshi.info mentions anti-gender (TERF, GC etc) movement using this kind of rhetoric as well.

Anyway if you want to read more:

- about the false info around BL fandom fujoshi.info

-There is the scholar Thomas Baudinette who studies gay media in Japan. Here is a podcast with him and the scholar Khursten Santos

-James Welker is a BL scholar as well. Here is a podcast interview about the new international BL article collection he edited.

-I've already talked about this Youtube channel by KrisPNatz and his great Killing Stalking video that actually engages with the themes of the manhwa

- There is also HR Coleman's thesis DO NOT FEED THE FETISHIZERS: BOYS LOVE FANS RESISTANCE AND CHALLENGE OF PERCEIVED REPUTATION where she interviews 36 BL fans and actually breaks down why fetishization has become such a huge talking point in the fandom discourse. Spoilers, it's mostly about young queer people and women being worried that they will get judged and pathologized for their interest in anything sexual.

-Great podcast about Danmei and censorship with Liang Ge

#Also I don't mean that you can always tell if someone is a transphobe or a TERF based on a couple of things they have said. #My point is that sometimes ok people can have very regressive ideas too. #This is not a call out post about how we should go around accusing anti-fujoshi people #todd in the shadows #hbomberguy #sarasade text #even I've got those “Fandom is mostly straight women fetishizing gay men” comments once and it begins to sound kind of passive-aggressive #when you're a bi woman. Lot of fandom stats at AO3 show that fandoms are montly bi women. who are these people calling straight exactly hmm #also straight women are completely ok leave them alone. I know I know Yes I'm so brave for saying this #cw: transphobia

[120percents]

i just think it’s so funny that zoro does not even wanna comment on the usokaya situation when usopp explicitly asks and he very pointedly looks away when they kiss and yet he proceeds to butt in every single time sanji flirts with a woman or implies he knows about romance to redirect attention back on himself like god i wonder where your interests lie…

#also the goading sanji into talking with him and just commenting on every single thing sanji says... ok! #zoro is patient 0 of terminal sanji-itis #this is the live action but i mean... this is also animanga zoro and zoro in the movies at times is it not LMFAO #but while they were fighting and then even when he was asking for seconds of the dish and sanji finished his dialogue and zoro CONTINUED #do u want his attention or smth? are you happy you have someone who u can bicker (flirt) with every day and can hand ur ass to u and u him? #also sanji just BEAMING and smiling whenever they bicker is just insane INSANE like yeah they're enjoying this... wow... #also obviously zoro has all the weird UST charged dialogues with multiple MEN like i truly don't know how u can see him as straight lmao #anyways... i just needed to ramble anyways... i fear s2 will be insane with new pet names and arguments I'm actually so hyped #like oh i wanna see the look on sanji and luffy's faces when zoro calls out his finishing move LMFAO (let him be a loser pls) #OK RAMBLING OVER FR... i just like talking about zosan idk #zosan #zs #opla #tagging for spoilers ish #sanzo #zorosan #sanzoro

[lokh]

WAIT SHUROS DAD SAID HE WANTED HIM TO BRING SOMETHING BACK INTERESTING.... AND WHO IS MORE INTERESTING THAN LAIOS....

#he also cited lack of flexibility in thinking. so surely the solution is shuro realising u can like men.......... #wait... wait imagine. this wasnt the point of the post but everyone imagine with me #fake dating au but not on purpose shuro Does bring back the fucking king of the risen golden kingdom #but his dad takes it as him bringing his significant other back and says he wins #and laios goes But thats not- #and shuro claps his hand over his mouth like Wait a minute. #and when he gets back everyone agrees its the dumbest thing he could have done #im torn between chilchuck laughing or screaming at him. and kabru straight up murdering him #i dont know if itll be a recreation of the laios proximity disgust meter #or he comes back to a party popper exploding in his face with the banner Congrats on your marriage! #maybe both #god it is so difficult to come up with a ship name for them #but i need to. even if im just populating the tag with my screaming #laishuro????? maybe???? #they dont have a lot of overlapping letters... #ok laishuro is free and also this is the only post that comes up if u search it here. weve done it lads #laishuro #dungeon meshi #will that even show up in the tags anymore. im a fool

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

normal things to say

#this was because a drunk woman interrupted some gay mens tiktok video like #not saying straight women never harrass gay men but this is A BIT much #especially when all i ever see these guys talking about is the terrible straight women #and not the straight men who are most likely to enact violence towards them but ok #shit talking

[stuckinapril]

OK I’ve been having bicurious thoughts and tumblr has to know first

#DONT LOOK AT ME #dint go into my inbox and ask me I’m confused too #I’m still identifying as straight bc for my 21 years of existence it’s been guys for the most part #But there’s this nice girl ik and she’s so sweet and pretty and I’ve been so done w men #AGAIN do not needle me about this im confused too OK #And don’t be mad at me if it ends up that I’m just straight I have never guessed I might be bi OK. W this girl it’s different #Like I’m actually into you???? You’re so sweet & so beautiful?? I love spending time w u????? #and ik she’s also bi so I would not have my heart crushed if she was like Umm I’m not into girls #p

[yarboyandy]

Ripper and Spike in London, 1974

#buffy the vampire slayer #btvs #buffyverse #rupert giles #spike btvs #ripper giles #william pratt #idk #andy drawz #ok i wanna draw girls now ENOUGH MEN! #im becoming straight #guys should i draw greys anatomy art next

[filibusterfrog]

having fun w digital watercolours

#my art #my ocs #yes i know i know fili drawing profile shots of men. revolutionary #i just like all the straight lines ok it makes me go awooga #chimp brain

[imthursdaysyme]

Modern merthur based on those bts photos of them I’m comically large jackets they looked so cute and funny I had to

#drawing #art #bbc merlin #merlin #arthur pendragon #arthur pendragon fanart #Merlin fanart #I’m my mind it’s like college #and they’re walking and see a group of men and they are like holy fuck what is happening over there #wrestling? #orgies? #friendly straight male bonding? #what is happening #I also think #off topic #that many people view merthur as gayxgay or gayxbi but I firmly believe they are bixbi #like also a lot of people will say they believe Arthur is bi #and then turn around and say he never loved Gwen #or never would love Gwen romantically #and like ok just say you think he’s gay then #bc if you say you think a character is bi but then get mad when they are in a straight relationship then you don’t think they’re bi #I’m sorry but it drives me crazy #I’ll get off my soap box now #anyway #digital art #merthur

[overwatch]

Straight men trying to justify why they leave Astarion at camp and never make him part of the party

#astarion #baldur's gate 3 #beckons you the reader closer and whispers it's the biphobia #straight men being uncomfortable with male characters being flamboyant or flirting w/their characters will never not be funny to me #while at the same time doing the same to fem characters and women irl like ok einstein (not a compliment i hate einstein fucking bitch ass) #another hting that makes me crylaugh is them complainign about locks and traps aND YEAH I WONDER WHY YOUR ROGUELESS PARTY STRUGGLES WTHAT #txt

[wrathofrats]

Also btw adding onto the no one posting about the ghoulettes thing, isolating them from the other ghouls also isn’t fun. Some people treat them like their own entire separate entity, as if they’re not even in the same band and it’s kinda annoying as hell LMAO. Let the ghoulettes hang out with the ghouls idk why we love to act like men and women can’t hang out???

#reminder that writing quote unquote straight sex is ok. #opposite gender smut is ok and valid some of yall are kinda strange ngl #this is a whole debate tho #but yall can actually write sub women with dom men the world won’t end!!! I promise!! #i digress

[kil9]

every guy ever interviewing taemin: hi welcome to our show :) first question how were the preparations for this album and btw ive never felt this way about another man before

#99.txt #its insaaaane gwgkjdshgksdjh #if a straight guy is watching taemin...... he wont be in 15 minutes 😫😫 #remember that girl who brought her boyfriend to the concert and was like ''so what did u think :) ?'' #and hes like ''im sorry im worried im gona start liking men...'' #the mc of this show im watching now is literally..... taem left the stage for a minute and hes to the audience like #''wtf why do i feel like this about someone of the same gender 😳 my heart is pounding uhm'' #gwgkjshgsd....... his effect !!!!!!!! #during the interview: ''hello and btw you look very lovely today. good answer to the question you answered very cutely.'' #''its ok to answer wrong youre very cute making mistakes did i mention youre cute'' gwgkjhdsg 🤧🤧 #get to together man. godspeed

[tiredfemininity]

tumblr gets so excited whenever a trans woman is in a relationship with a woman. like. bestie that's a straight man.

#Remember when hating straight men was ok and not arbitrarily discriminatory because he hides his misogyny behind a capitalist exploit of a m #Radfem safe #Radfems please touch #Gender critical #Radfems do touch

[samuelroukin]

also i was out earlier to pick up my regular cigarette order from the drugstore and the government recently jacked up the prices again so the guy was like 'hah think you should be worried?' since we talked abt it last time and i was like yeag. and then he was like 'surprise :^) same cost since i ordered from a supplier that still had them. for you'

same guy who was said he was getting on his knees for me btw

#he wants me /joking #weird vibes bc he does stuff like that but also seems to not like me so ? #then again i have that effect on straight men sometimes lkfjkhkgjhst #meaning they'll do things for me for no reason #not sure what it is but ok #ben.txt

[tiefling-queer]

so many people would rather shit themselves to death than bother reading anything about landback and making any attempt to understand decolonization.

ending apartheid in south africa didn't result in a genocide of white settlers and their descendants. freeing palestine isn't calling for another genocide of jewish settlers and their descendants. landback isn't a call for mass genocide and deportation of white americans back to europe.

your paranoia about the expected retribution should the indigenous peoples your illegitimate nation oppresses have their land restored to them is unfounded and racist.

your brain is poisoned by this conception that a hierarchy must exist and if youre not at the top then you must be at the bottom. and especially for white people, who cannot imagine being anywhere other than the top (hence why white people subject to other forms of oppression often perceive that oppression as being the worst form of oppression, rather than as a different facet of the same overarching systems that deem us unfit), the idea of being oppressed by groups that youve been taught your whole life, subconsciously or even consciously, to see as lesser and animalistic fills you with fear.

#emo poetry #gonna lose my fucking mind. Sick of this stupid shit #Like. Ok fellow white people here's an exercise: #White women: if youve ever said something like 'i hate men' or 'kill all men' etc because you were very upset about misogyny #Then you can understand indigenous people saying 'i hate colonizers' or 'kill all colonizers' without making it about you personally #White queers do the same with straight people/cishets

[talkrefined]

nine selfies from this year :33333 i’m a faggot btw

#sir wanted me to post photos of him fucking me but i don’t post hole or face on here. just in case i know #shrive.txt #ok to rb #i’m a gender freak none of the straight men following or messaging me over this post #belong here #get out