#and there aren't a lot of communities that are as varied and unhinged as tumblr so I'm thankful I can spit this out at the end of ace week

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Personally as an aroace being in a queerplatonic relationship and/or a poly relationship sound really freeing to me. I feel like in a QPR there would be less pressure to be more amatonormative or present that way. The kind of "omg I totally thought you guys were dating" sort of relationship that just comes from the pure intimacy of willing to be comfortable around each other and to be intimate without necessarily having to involve kissing/sex/"real" intimacy (and the possible aro or ace solidarity). Meanwhile in a poly relationship I feel like at least for me there would be less pressure be "involved" to an extent. A whole other person (or people) would negate a lot of anxiety on my part enough not being enough (especially if one or more of them are alloromantic). And potentially that's someone who can provide romance or sex that I just can't.

Obviously these are still relationships that you consciously need to put work into maintain and have open lines of communication and discussions of boundaries, etcetera, just like any "normal" relationship but that's really the point here. I'm not allo (and I'm perfectly fine with being "abnormal" by most societal standards, but that's obviously not true for all of us) in any way, shape, or form, so why should I have to fit myself into a little allo box?

#not to say that aros or aces or aroaces CAN'T be in a “normal” relationship because we totally can #but also we shouldn't have to be if we don't want to #there's probably a lot that could be criticized here but please don't be mean #just honest thoughts from a person who is comfortable with their aroace identity but still figuring out how to navigate the world as one #speaking of which I feel like this isn't something you can just. discuss outside of tumblr #I would be surprised if a random person on the street knew what a qpr is #or if they didn't think polyamory was just cheating or like. have negative connotations about it #which makes it hard to discuss and explore topics like these outside of internet anonymity #and there aren't a lot of communities that are as varied and unhinged as tumblr so I'm thankful I can spit this out at the end of ace week #ace week #asexual awareness week #acespec #asexuality #ace pride #ace week 2023 #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #aroace #aromantic #aro pride #arospec #aspec #asexual #qpr #qpr pride #queerplatonic #queer platonic relationship #polyamory #polyam relationship #polyam pride