#and our partner is a woman

[angeliic]

vent post idc

#being a split in a system fuckign sucks man #especially when youre a fictive like im not even fucking real dude #imjust in this head bc the hosts brain couldnt deal with life #and now i gotta sit here and watch them and their partner get it on while i miss my boyfriend and cant even talk to him because guess what #he isnt fucking real #hes a damn comic character #now if you believe in the multiverse theory then yeah hes somewhere out there and this is just the universe we were put into #two fictives in a system or whatever idfk #im tired and i wish i had someone to cuddle #but alas im not into women #and our partner is a woman #how does anyone even cope with this #theres so many layers of fucking illnesses here its insane #wild #vent #and like we set hard boundaries because the host doesnt want to be poly and thats cool man i get it like #im not even fronting most of the time #but fuck man when i am i feel so fucking unwanted and alone it sucks so hard and i dont blame anyone here because i shouldnt even be here #in the first place #im gonna nap #also how does one cope with these feelings man when you know youre not real #like the body is and im taking care of it but im just from a comic man i dont even exist #how does one deal with this level of shit

[buddiesmutslut]

One thing I hate so much about 911 is the LACK OF APOLOGIES.

Bobby shoves Buck against the wall in s1 & it’s written off as acceptable bc Buck is being nosy, like being annoying is a good excuse to put your hands on an employee.

Buck apologized for the lawsuit & not being around in s3, but Bobby never apologized for holding him back (& lying about it) & Eddie never apologized for screaming at him in the grocery store.

Chim assaulted Buck in his apartment before going after Maddie, and it was never addressed. (Also, does anyone remember if Chim apologized for keeping the Daniel secret from Buck but not the bomber in that one episode? I genuinely can’t remember, I haven’t watched the first seasons in like, a year.)

Also, does Maddie ever apologize for telling their parents about Buck being in therapy? I know they fought about it, but it was also tied in with the Daniel secret (which was fucked but they talked about that) and I can’t remember, but that was kind of shitty, too.

Buck maybe purposefully gets rough with Eddie and definitely hurts his ankle during the game. Sure, we see him feeling bad about it & Maddie scolding him, but no actual apology to his best friend, not even a mention of one.

Those are just the ones I can think of off the top of my head, & idk man, people are flawed, and I know that these characters aren’t perfect, but part of that is apologizing & making amends when you’re wrong. So much stuff is just glanced over to keep the story moving, and I get it but I’m not a huge fan of it. They all have this great, family bond, but how sustainable is that when you’re not owning up to your mistakes and making it right when you hurt someone?

#911 abc #evan buckley #911 spoilers #eddie diaz #howard chimney han #bobby nash #i have a lot of thoughts #if I was in charge I’d lock everyone in a room & make them say sorry #oliver stark #ryan guzman #peter krause #kenneth choi #jennifer love hewitt #we’re all going to sit in a circle and apologize for the way we hurt each other #the fact that we got Buckley AND Diaz parent apologies before we got apologies for the lawsuit is UNREAL #Honestly that punch from Chim & the way it was handled kind of turned me off his character #like he’s literally in love with a woman that survived an abusive relationship who ended up killing her husband in self defense #and then her next partner punches her brother in his own home bc she spoke to him? & we just go on with our day to day lives???? idfw that #Chim is cool & funny but I hate the writers for that #honestly I could sit here & pick apart each of these occurrences for days so I’m just going to shut up now lol

[stuff-terfs-say]

I don't like genital preference discourse because 99 percent of the time it's a cis person who made up a hypothetical pro trans argument and got mad at it.

#I'm sure there's someone somewhere saying YOU MUST HAVE SEX WITH A TRANS PERSON FOR WOKE POINTSS >:( but I'm not them so #if you're not listening to me and instead building a strawman and accusing it of being a conversion therapy advocate why bother ya know? #for me I have internalized the fact that trans people exist and there's a non zero chance that a woman is trans #so I just accept that #the only real difference would be how the sex works and that might be an issue for other people and I'm not saying that's bad or good #I would personally cross that bridge when I got there #and if we're not sexually compatible then we'll split the same way I would with a cis woman who wasn't sexually compatible #it's such a nothing burger for me but there are people's whose entire blog is this #I made jokes before but if you are so terrified of your partner having a peepee don't have sex until you Know for Sure #or vice versa but I mainly see the discourse centered around trans women given how they are more sexualized in our society

[teno-zi]

Thinking about how Wille and Simon will be each other's first and last kiss

#First and last times too #Like that tiktok with the wedding vows where the woman was like #“I promise to always be your dance partner” #“for the first time today as your wife and for the last time just the two of us across our kitchen floor #That's them #young royals #wilmon #yr #yr s3

[feral-radfem]

All of y'all pretending like heterosexual women are the only ones who experience misogyny, or experience the most misogyny, are not (just) being homophobic, you're being misogynistic.

You're denying women's sex based oppression is real or it's severity. So maybe sit down and shut up and realize that we are still women despite the fact that we are not sleeping with men. You have the ability to make the choice not to sleep with men too. It's not an inaction unique to homosexuals.

I will spread any feminist praxis I want, and if it's insulting for me to reiterate the ideals we preach in these spaces because I'm a homosexual then you can go ahead and be insulted. SSA women have just as much claim to these spaces as you do because we are women and these spaces are for fighting misogyny, which we all experience. It's not just for tackling the misogyny y'all are uncomfortable with, it's for tackling all of it. Get with the program, ladies.

#you don't have to like the fact that I sleep with women but you cannot act like I am not a woman #just as much right to be here and to preach the ideals radical feminists hold as you heterosexual women #I don't need to couch my language into something more appealing for you because I don't sleep with men #literally a problem you're choosing to perpetrate onto yourself #no one needs sex to survive nor romance it would be nice if you women would stop acting like they do. #the constant reiteration that women just naturally desire and need a romantic partner is misogyny it's propaganda #lily responds #radical feminism #radfems please touch #terfs please interact #radical feminists please touch #radical feminist #radical feminist theory #radfem lesbian #it doesn't become easier to be a good feminist as a lesbian you just aren't putting in the effort #I know this may come to a shock from you because you only hang out with lesbians in these faces but most women do expect we hold up #the gendered expectation for women and beauty standards just like it's expected of you #all socialized by the patriarchy on how women are supposed to look this doesn't change by being homosexual. we just make the effort not to #these ideas through our community cuz we're radfem homosexuals #maybe try to be less ignorant. that may help you be a better feminist overall

[can-i-get-a-yippee]

There’s an alternate universe where the 911 writers didn’t murder Shannon, and she, Buck, and Eddie get to have a similar dynamic to Micheal, Bobby, and Athena

#back on my Shannon lived bs #I just feel like it would’ve been really cute for her and Buck to develop a friendship :(( #like they both love Eddie and Chris so so much and they’re two of the only people who call Eddie out on his shit #Shannon being a spitfire and Buck being an enabler #Eddie getting called to the police station while on shift bc his ‘wife and boyfriend(?)’ got arrested after inciting a fight #He rushes over only to find Buck looking a little ashamed and Shannon looking not sorry at all along with another woman with a black eye #(and Christopher just having the time of his life entertaining the officers on duty) #He goes over to his ex wife and work partner and looks vaguely disappointed #Buck holding up his handcuffed hands with a placating gesture to Eddie and saying ‘in our defense we didn’t start it’ #Shannon saying ‘She should’ve known better than to talk about my son when we could hear it’ #Buck giving a ‘what can you do? she’s right’ shrug and Eddie rubbing his temples #because if he knew that Buck was going to enabled his ex wife he would’ve never introduced them #911 abc #buddie #eddie diaz #evan buck buckley #shannon díaz

[sneeplerbeepler]

me personally if i was minecraft steve i'd be piping down villager/witch/illager baddies all day

#night too. they'd be too busy getting piped down to notice the hostile mobs outside. we'd be safe due to the door in our beautiful house #where we're married with two lovely children and one soon to be conceived 😏. I would absolutely settle down with one particular woman #she would have a spark in her eyes that would tell me that she was more than just a one night stand. she was a life partner. a wife. #god these mobs are so baddddd i need themmmmm #especially the witch btw #and the vindicator #i need both those girls on my nonexistent dick TONIGHT #minecraft #steve #illager #villager #witch #mc #mcyt

[youknowihavenochingu]

Tom and Jerry relationships in dramas

Fight For My Way

Weightlifting Fairy Kim Bok Joo

Hometown Cha Cha Cha

True Beauty

So I Married The Anti Fan

Doom At Your Service

Suspicious Partner

Our Beloved Summer

Mr Queen

Strong Woman Do Bong Soon

#kdramas #fight for my way #weightlifting fairy kim bok joo #hometown cha cha cha #true beauty #so i married the anti fan #doom at your service #suspicious partner #our beloved summer #strong woman do bong soon

[mishtershpock]

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#not to sound like a broken record #i know this has already been talked about a lot in current fandom discourse #but all the tommy love also comes from a place of #misogyny (buck’s m/f relationships failed bc the women weren’t good enough. but his first m/m is perfect and destined and tommy is god) #(even though we know next to nothing about them as a couple. cough 1 kiss and 1 failed date cough cough) #and biphobic concepts (buck’s only relationship/partner that is worth shipping and love and fandom time is the m/m one) #(if he’s with a woman he’s not worth our time? the relationship/partner isn’t worth our time. right?) #some people kinda sounding like the conservative haters right now #oliver stark’s voice shouting from afar: he isn’t gay! he is bisexual! he still likes women! #some people like to celebrate bi buck (as we should) but then erase his previous gfs #in favour of this 1 man he’s shared literally 4 scenes with. okay #<- <- <- i drafted this like 6 hours before that interview came out. ollie came to back me up with the ‘he still likes women’ lmao #him dating a guy now does not erase or dismiss his previous m/f relationships or that he’s still into women #one final comment. any time buck got with a girl it was ‘they need to break up immediately’ #‘she’s not right for him’ #he’s with his first guy and it’s ’they should be endgame’ #‘they’re perfect together’ #huh?? one. we barely know tommy/them together #two. what exactly makes them endgame material? bc they’re both men? cough biphobic misogyny fetishization cough #three. it would be objectively hilarious if he realises his sexuality and within 2 weeks is dating a guy for the first time #and then that guy ends up being his endgame forever partner. lmaoooo that would be so dumb sawry #not to mention it would kinda lean into the biphobia and misogyny mentioned above #in that it would suggest that his problem with finding love previously was… women #and this problem is now magically fixed because… man #four. not to be a buddie endgame truther but if all the vocal support means this is what we get instead #instead of Them. i’m out see ya bye bye #i am sooooo reading way too much into this but oh well

[sir-bird-bones]

I’ve begun to realize that my favorite character dynamic is “absolutely insane about each other and their mutual best friend/in a qpr with”

#Lois x Clark with Jimmy just always there #or any version of the trinity of Diana x Bruce x Clark #I have a soft spot for Bakugo x Deku with Todoroki always there to the point people assume he’s their 3rd #they’re not wrong but they’re not right either #even with Danny phantom #and the ever lasting trio dynamic #with they way they had it in canon but my personal favorite flavor of Tucker x Sam with Danny in a qpr #it even goes in Scott Pilgrim with Scott x Romona and Wallace also #I love a cute Diana x Clark with Bruce being they’re ace romantic/qpr partner #But also Clark x Bruce with them going on a very romantic date but then half way through they’re both like man I sure miss Wonder Woman rn #or even Bruce x Diana walking in a moon lit garden looking into each others eyes and then Superman showing up #looking like absolute hell and just being like do you guys wanna get milk shakes with me 🥺 #and both of them being like well shit we have to go get milkshakes with him #the idea of telling him no doesn’t even cross their minds #and in a more platonic direction #ZADF with Zim seeing Gaz and being like YOUR sister Dib-thing WRONG she is OUR sister #they’re more but these are the few right off the top of my head #my rambles

[sam-the-pancake]

Flying today. This airport wheelchair sucks so badly. I'm grateful that I'm ambulatory still and able to use this shitty wheelchair instead of needing my custom one (and risking it being damaged 🙃) but god do they suck. the footplates are so wide I can feel my hips getting aggravated and the back sling gives no support which is one of the main supports I need from a wheelchair. Also, it's clearly never been cleaned beyond high contact points being wiped down.

Also also, the wheels? have chunks missing from them??? What happened? They're solid rubber and have slashes and wear but also just huge chunks out of them.

#host #pancakes talk #we got to the airline checkin before the people for our airline were there #so we got the airline next to us to give us one of the wheelchairs #the woman offered me a transfer style chair and i said id actually prefer one with large wheels and push rims and she gave me one! #so my partner can push me or i can self propel #and we didn't have to wait +30min for someone to show up to push me #(and nearly ram me into everything and everyone in our way like they like to do 🙃)

[choking-on-roses]

That AITA poll I just reblogged really got me thinking...it's simply amazing how many people feel obligated to stay in a relationship for some arbitrary reason, or guilty for breaking up with someone because they feel it wasn't justified enough.

I'm here to tell you that this is ridiculous. You can break up with anybody at any time for any reason. Period. That's it. You don't have to "wait it out." You don't have to stay out of some twisted sense of loyalty or because they're a good person or whatever. If you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, leave it. I swear to god it is so, so, so much more healthy to leave an unwanted relationship than to stay in something that isn't bringing you joy.

#my mother is ALWAYS bringing up the loyalty card #every time i break up with someone she brings out her 'well we should try to tough it out' card #please note this woman has been in two of the worst relationships I've ever seen #her current partner of 25 years is a methhead who beats her but she calls it a rough patch #like literally if you aren't happy with the relationship then go! #you deserve to be happy! and your partner deserves someone who wants to be with them! #and breaking up doesn't mean your time with that person was 'wasted' either #like idk what your mother told you but remember her perspective is still twisted from growing up in a time when divorce was a scandal #women can get divorced! we have our own jobs! we can get apartments and credit cards! #you will be okay on your own and you do not need a relationship that doesn't make you happy

[shinjaeha]

i’m still crying (mostly from happiness) over the ending of to my star 2, but i just want to talk about something i love so, so much about the scene between ji woo and seo joon in the beginning of ep 10.

it’s obviously a parallel to the confession kiss scene in the first season where seo joon takes the initiative, says the whole “if it’s too hard, i’ll go to you” line, and takes all the steps up to ji woo before kissing him.

what i love is that it’s so intentional in how it one ups that scene. the scene in season one is pretty much all seo joon. HE says the line, HE goes up to ji woo, HE kisses him (and we see in the intro how HE is the one that clasps ji woo’s hand first, unfurls it like he’s opening ji woo up, and holds it). obv we know that ji woo wanted all this, but it’s still extremely one-sided. they kiss, and there’s no extra conversation about their relationship. that’s just how it starts.

i was always hoping that ji woo would be the one to go to seo joon this time bc it would make sense as part of his character arc, and i’m so, so glad that’s what ended up happening. but what makes this scene better is that, even though ji woo is the one ‘confessing' this time around, it’s a lot more reciprocal. ji woo finally explains how he felt this whole time, begs seo joon to come back to him, asks for a hug. JI WOO is the one that literally takes all those steps up to seo joon (except for that last one), grips onto seo joon’s shirt, and reminds him of what seo joon said to him in the last season. but seo joon has to be the one to take that last step forward and accept ji woo into his arms too. the both of them need to make the effort, amend and understand one another in order for them to work out this time. i love that the hug feels much more reciprocal this time bc they’re both hugging each other now, nothing one-sided about it.

ji woo put seo joon through a lot...and i can understand how this moment might not be enough for some people if they were in seo joon’s position, but that’s what makes seo joon and ji woo so compatible with one another. seo joon can SEE the effort that it takes ji woo to be doing this. for ji woo, going back to seo joon and begging him like this, is an extremely difficult thing to do. it takes so much out of him...seo joon’s a lot more persistent and thick-skinned (he’s prob had to learn to be seeing as he’s been in the entertainment industry since he was a child). it’s why ji woo says that he can’t keep coming back in the same way that seo joon did for him...his personality isn’t the type that can keep taking rejection like seo joon can. he’s mustered all his courage up to open up to seo joon completely for this one moment. it’s a huge step for ji woo, literally and figuratively. like this scene intentionally takes plays on a STAIRCASE. and seo joon is deliberately positioned higher than ji woo here bc he’s the one that’s holding all the cards now. ji woo’s taken the steps, and now seo joon’s the one that determines what happens between them.

but we all know seo joon is loyal, and forgiving, and madly in love with ji woo. he’s also always understood ji woo. he seems cold on the outside, but he’s fragile on the inside (it’s one of the things that he mentions he likes about ji woo in season one). he knows that ji woo self-sabotages as a defense mechanism to prevent himself from getting more hurt...but he also knows that as much as ji woo hurt him, ji woo’s in just as much pain himself. he just doesn’t wear his heart on his sleeve in the same way that seo joon does...he keeps it all hidden inside himself.

so seo joon doesn’t prolong the pain, or punish ji woo for what happened. he’s not bitter, or resentful, or holding onto the hurt anymore. the moment he saw ji woo there staring up at him in tears, all of that fell away and he only wanted to accept ji woo back into his arms (his heart) and make all that pain go away. all he’d ever wanted was for ji woo to COMMUNICATE with him instead of keeping everything to himself, so when he finally does, that’s more than enough for him. he immediately reassures ji woo that he’s there for him.

i love how as soon as he does that, ji woo knows he’s in his safe space and starts apologising and spilling all the feelings he’s kept inside of him for so long. i esp love the difference compared to the season one scene in that they actually TALK to each other and address their issues and insecurities this time. they’ve had time to think, to know what’s at stake now, and are better equipped at handling any problems or conflicts that might arise in the future. they’re not jumping back into this uncertain or unaware anymore.

i just feel so warm inside knowing how they accept one another and their limits. that's what makes them work as well as they do. it's tougher for ji woo to take more steps in this way than it is for seo joon, but seo joon is always there to help nudge him along when he needs it. to hold his hand. to go to him when things are too hard for him. he's just so, so supportive of ji woo. and ji woo has learnt to let himself love and be loved now. it’s really beautiful :’) gonna miss these boys soooooooooo much.

#to my star #to my star 2 #to my star 2: our untold stories #i already wrote out a whole twitter thread about this last night but it was a bit all over the place bc i just finished the eps #and i was in my FEELS #can we also talk about how hwang da seul had hinted at the ending the ENTIRE time with the flashback scenes that WEREN'T flashbacks #but scenes from the future instead???????? #THE WOMAN IS A GENIUS A MASTERMIND A VISIONARY #anyway after those nine eps of angst we needed this one 40+ min full ep of pure fluff and i'm grateful for it #also if my future partner isn't like kang seo joon then i don't want them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #i can't believe we waited all this time and now the season is over i'm so conflicted #both happy and sad about the ending ;;; #i'll really really miss them #text

[x-v4mp3y3lin3r-x]

if you're deconstructing your ideas of binary gender and binary sex— you also have to deconstruct your ideas of binary sexuality and romantic attraction, too, fyi

#'are you saying homosexuals don't really exist??!?!!?!' no. please use your brain. #im saying it literally doesn't matter if a lesbian dates someone who YOU perceive as a man. #because the people in that relationship know more than you. #and human experience does not exist in a binary. #you have to accept that sometimes other people will experience life differently than you do #this also goes for gays and bis and pans and aces and aros. #the only people who get to define their experiences are them. #so no I don't really care if a gay man says his true love is a woman and he means it. #i still consider him gay. because he knows himself and his partner better than i know how to perceive them both #and how someone else identifies is none of my business. #that woman may be only part woman. or only perceived as a woman. or only sometimes a woman. or always both woman and man. #there's so many ways to be human. you have to learn to take other queers at face value and not question them #when you question if someone is 'REALLY gay' or 'REALLY trans' or 'REALLY bi'; you're thinking with the mindset of an oppressor #you do not need to gatekeep queerness. queerness is not a limited resource. queer people are not your enemies. #learn to empathize and embrace experiences unlike yours. be a better ally to the people in your own community instead of immediately - #- searching for ways to cast them out. be better. stop thinking like our oppressors. queer people do not need to rationalize ourselves for - #- anyone. they don't owe you an explanation. you cannot take their 'gay card' away.

[knifeslidez]

ive said it before and i'll say it again: be normal about bi people

#yall yell at each other and all of us that bi women arent welcome in any sapphic space because they like people who arent women sometimes #and constantly make jokes degrading or weirdly fetishizing bi men #and if youre anything other than a binary man or woman and youre bi. good luck trying to get any ''community'' with these pricks #if you think about sexuality and identity as being harshly divided along binary lines you tend to not comprehend mspec people #and thus we get constantly tossed back and forth between being seen as straights by monosexual gays and dirty queers by cishets #and either way you all harass us over whatever gender of partner we've had more of #''oh youre rlly just gay and in denial'' ''oh you're straight and invading our spaces'' fuck off right to hell #anyway rant over. be normal please #ghoul groans

[abstractsnail]

Nothing like going to the bar and having someone literally double my age trying to supply them with alcohol whilst also using me as a therapist

#this woman literally stole one of my partner’s shots #partner is trying to discuss our shot order before last call and this lady demanding shots from us