#affirmations i suppose

[lokh]

so ive been thinking so hard about that transfem butch zoro au.

i feel like at the Very beginning (after kuinas death) she does try to present real feminine like but it doesnt feel like Her and eventually she stops doing it (and in any case its not like kuina was super feminine so why would she try to be like that??)

on the other hand she HAS to make sure everyone knows shes a woman when she beats their ass and becomes the worlds greatest swordsman. so sports bras (or equivalent whatever) and open shirts are a staple

i think she would do hrt (or equivalent Whatever) because again she wants to prove that kuina could have done it. unfortunately i do also think this means she trains about 1 million times as hard

trans sanji............. coming to the realisation that maybe she Wants to be taken care of by a hot butch........................ as a pretty femme

#the lil fashion drawing wasnt initially supposed to have a corset but i had a dream about it specifically irt sanji. so LMAO #one piece #zosan #roronoa zoro #black leg sanji #sanji #art #the mellorine bullshit.......... i feel like. what happens is that sanji (using he/him Pre egg cracking) #thought she was a man at first. developed the rivalry. and by the time he realised she was a woman it was awkward for everyone to backtrack #but i dont think he could stand the idea that hes not treating a woman right and i also think that would be shitty lmao #but he just cant treat her like that. but he still sees her as a woman. i think instead hes acting in a way to affirm her butchness.... #does that make any sense. adghdbshbjgg

[canisalbus]

Just wanted to send some praise along, because you're a huge art inspiration for me and others and I love seeing you on my dash!!

I love the way you approach compositions and shapes, your pieces "flow" really beautifully. The weight and detail in your lines really emphasizes those things, too. There's so much beautiful and gentle detail to look at in your work!! The range of how you use colors is really impressive, and it adds so much life and contrast to your pieces.

I also really love the way you compose bodies. Again, the weight and the flow and the detail is very tangible and pleasing to look at. The way you draw clothes, hands, teeth, and little details like fur and veins and muscle and bone really shows how much care you put in.

And I really love your OCs and the universes you have! The way you think about everything and the complexities of it all is really admirable and inspiring.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, all your work and effort really shines through, and creates amazing things!! Keep it up!

Aw gosh, thank you so much for sending such a long and thoughtful comment! ;_;

#“beautiful and gentle detail” goodness gracious #even if it's just a bunch of silly fictional dogs I'm drawing for fun I pour a lot of my heart and soul to it #so it's what's the word “affirming” I suppose when it resonates with people #and it makes them stop scrolling for a moment and really look at it long enough to notice the details you described #feeling very seen right now thank you for caring about my work I appreciate it #answered #anonymous

[noahsfault]

I just accidentally came out to my dad, I literally just sent him this video because I thought it was funny

And he sent me

This was not how I imagined starting the conversation lmaoo

#you don’t understand #I only told my brother in the last year #I have been afraid to come out to anybody #let alone family #let alone my dad who I don’t talk to a lot #and this was supposed to be a funny haha #and he just #‘that’s very nice- on the topic of gender nonconformity…’ #I mean I’m glad it’s apparent and I actually feel very affirmed BUT #this was NOT how I imagined coming out #🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 #transgender #transmasc #trans #lgbtq+ #gnc #coming out #closeted #memes #j cole

[irbcallmefynn]

Rrrrrffff x3

#literally me #i do this #cause im doggey :3 #im a good ouppy x3 #all my friends say so! so it must be true! #call this daily affirmations i suppose

[anthyies]

self-portraits (2023)

#esha.txt #mycreations #art #THIS WAS FUNNNNN. i think everyone should do a self portrait once a year or two or reset their self image #like genuinely…. gender affirming. :) :) #the autism creature me is glowing because I have the same birthday as mob of mob psycho 100 which means I get powers. obviously #also the shirt for that one isn’t detailed but it’s supposed to be my shadow girls shirt . because thinking about utena gives me autism #superpowers. you understand. #my face #<- lol

[mafiiadogs]

Having Cheese, who's such a kind and patient character, admit that he's angry at Daniel for committing suicide was such a shocking and powerful moment.

#everyone dealt with their grief differently. and throughout the show I think we're supposed to assume Cheese made peace with it #He was always putting everyone before himself and always talked highly of Daniel #and for him to say that he was angry because of Daniel's death is something I think a lot of people will find affirming #anger is such an overlooked stage of mourning #and to show that someone can be kind and patient and loving while also dealing with those ugly emotions is so so so important #reservation dogs #suicide mention #death mention

[ivan-fyodorovich-k]

I feel like...

I feel in my anecdotal experience that the relentless and highly performative positivity and affirmation of intensely left-wing people is kind of the processed sugar of human affection

It’s intense, immediate, and good for a short burst, and it definitely feels good, but I can’t help but suspect that there’s no actual nutritional value there, and also that it is slowly lethal

#I'm thinking of all the very leftist/feminist women in particular but some men I've known #who are extremely kind to me out of the gate #but I always feel #or rather know #that I am only one or two moves away from vicious hatred #they accept you but they don't #I find that coffee shops and bars that take great pains to show that they are LGBTetc friendly #always have extremely happy and helpful and friendly employees #but there is also a strange terror or desperation there #I suppose it's not purely leftwing #right wing love is also intensely conditional #I suppose most acceptance and affirmation is fairly shallow when you get right down to it

[moongothic]

Question, why do you dislike the haki detransition theory for Crocodile? I think it would be interesting to see how he worked around not using haki and what kind of techniques he cooked up that way. Or maybe he only has to avoid using a certain type of haki?

It's less about the theory itself and more the potential story scenarios the theory could lead to that I dislike

Because if it was revealed in the story that Crocodile could use Haki but has actively been choosing not to because it would detransition him, then it could very likely lead to a scenario where Crocodile is forced to use Haki for some reason or another, thus he'd end up detransitioned. And I personally don't want to see that. I don't want to see Crocodile detransitioned against his will, nor put into a situation where he has to sacrifice his own comfort for any reason.

Like I don't know how to really explain it... For me it'd just rub me the wrong way the same way when ablebodied people celebrate it when disabled people in wheelchairs force themselves up to walk (say, to walk down the aisle) as if putting themselves into excruciating pain for a moment to appear """normal""" was a good thing Like obviously these are not the same thing and not actually comparable, I just can't think of anything else to compare it to explain why I don't want to see Croc detransitioned.

'Cause I can imagine, if Crocodile was forced to use Haki to, say, protect Luffy or some shit, there would be so many cishets who would celebrate it and treat it like it was a good thing. There'd be so many people saying shit like "Crocomom reveals her true form to heroicly save Luffy" or some shit (just going 1000% on the misgendering), and people would treat that kind of scene "a beautiful moment" instead of something that would (/should) be painful, humiliating and deeply uncomfortable for Crocodile. And I would fucking hate that. I would hate all of that so much. Not to mention, a scene like that could easily end up becoming the most memorable Crocodile moment in the series, and I don't want the trans man to end up being remembered as a woman. Not to mention Crocodile would then be STUCK detransitioned. Like the only way to retransition would be if he got another HRT shot from Ivankov, and between Iva-chan being on the other side of the Red Line (aka not accessible as of now), and them having zero obligation to help Sir Mass Murdering War Criminal retransition. Yeah. I don't want to watch him get humiliated and mocked for being trans. And the likelyhood he could be is absolutely mortifying.

And I know. Yes, even if the theory was true, it doesn't mean Crocodile would have to end up detransitioned in the story, it could just be there to explain why he can't use Haki and be left at that. I will argue that if you were going to make a plot point out of it, then it would be pointless if there weren't concequences for it. Like, it should lead to something. That's Writing 101. And the only other option then would be Crocodile refusing to use Haki for something and dying. Or him allowing someone else to end up hurt and/or die because he wouldn't be willing to sacrifice his comfort for their sake. Needless to say, both moves would end up being demonized to hell and back. The former for "being stupid and weak", the latter for being "selfish and evil". There would be no winning here. So in other words; Crocodile staying transitioned would end up as a selfish/evil action that would be looked down upon, while if he stopped being trans, that would be seen as a good thing to be celebrated. Need I explain why this would be fucked up.

So again, it's less the theory itself. It's where the theory could lead to (the Turbo Transphobia) that I dislike.

And the best way to avoid those horrible scenarios would be if the theory that allows them wasn't actually canon. If Crocodile can't be detransitioned permanently (without Iva-chan), then there's nothing to worry about.

#Moon posting #OP Meta #Sir Crocodile #CW Discussions of transphobia #CW Misgendering #Not a particularly long post. Figured the subject matter could be upsetting enough for people to read so. Read More be upon ye #Also yes. Technically if Crocodile did sacrifice his gender affirmation to save someone else- that would be a ''heroic sacrifice'' #T e c h n i c a l l y #But ***I don't want him to have to sacrifice that*** #For the record yes Doc Q could use his Becoming A Woman Disease on Crocodile etc #That shit just wouldn't be *permanent*. Anybody could use Haki and that would be resolved #Then there's other shit like powerscaling and how some DF abilities are supposed to be non-reversible even with Haki #So it'd make no sense to me if Iva-chan's HRT was reversible with Haki #But I've posted about those things before

[moreclaypigeons]

started hrt today<3

#im not trans #im not tkaing t sorry guys #just birth control #not for anti pregnancy purposes btw. bc not only am i a lesbian but also im not even. yknow. fuckingLMFOAOOO #it is actually gender affirming hrt tho if u think about it #because i am taking this bitch to get a FUCKing control on my acne #also bc my periods are...?????? its been two weeks since i was supposed to habe one... #anyways tmi but i thought this would be a fun post #sierra speaks #im like fr excited to start it tho cause im. #so tired of the pain #my testosterone levels are like. on the higher edge of the typical levels in females #which can be associated w insulin but im not rlly sure

[percypendragon420]

Actually I really like being neurodivergent/ AuDHD, (and not because its the only existence I've ever had), but like, all the bad things I can learn to cope with and, yeah, I could do without. But the things I actually enjoy about my brain?? Oh, I would go through anything to keep them.

I love being able to watch a show and absolutely squeal with delight.

I love learning so much in a short period of time, love hyperfixating and blinking and suddenly I've written a whole story or made a whole sweater

I love finding comfort in the same shows, in watching the same series over and over and always finding something new to learn, something that brings me immense joy form it.

I love loving those around me deeply and intensely and feeling strong connections with just a few people.

I love my little analytical brain, how it memorizes numbers and words without me even noticing, how it picks up quirks and patterns and makes sense of them without me having to do any sort of analyzing.

I love the feeling of a wonderful sensation, a blanket that it just the right texture, a cup of tea that tastes amazing, in a way that lights up all of my neurons into a bundle of happiness.

There are so many things I love about my brain, about , my neurodiversity, and I wouldn't change it for the world

#obvi this is all personal #there are also big negatives that come from my brain chemistry #everyones experience with neurodiversity is different I am not a monolith #I was feeling kind of sentimental i guess #anywaaaays #mine #mini rant #perseus rambles #this is just little affirmations for myself i suppose #AuDHD #ADHD #neurodivergent

[moss-on-a-rock]

You know when you have a fun activity planned and then the day comes and you're like. I dont want to fucking do that.

#supposed to be going axe throwing with my sister today #affirmations i am Going to enjoy it #🍄

[rollercoasterwords]

As a fic writer, how do you stay positive and not stress yourself out with constantly comparing?

I've been really struggling with that. I start spiraling when a certain chapter doesn't get as many comments as usual, comparing my hit counts and kudo counts to other fics, and it's really not healthy but I'm struggling with knowing how to stop, how to just be happy and proud of the response I've gotten. Any thoughts or suggestions would be much appreciated.

honestly? i know this might seem counterintuitive but my best advice in that situation is probably to stop posting for a while

like. for me the thing that helped most/still helps most when i find myself falling into the trap of comparison was taking a step back and reevaluating why i wanted to write and what i got out of writing in the first place. like, for me, the core reason i write is for the joy of creating something, and getting to share it with others is all just a bonus. but i haven't always felt that way, and it definitely took a lot of reflection and having to unlearn a lot of social messaging to get there.

i think we are all very much blasted with the message that the most important metric for how worthy art is = how big the audience looking at it is. and i think, because of the way capitalism conditions us to interact w art, it's really really easy to feel like your art is only meaningful if people are seeing it and telling you it's good. like, the focus turns to outside affirmation rather than an interior sense of worth.

but the act of creating art has merit in and of itself. art is worth something because the act of creation is beautiful and joyful, regardless of who sees or doesn't see the final product.

writing fanfiction has helped me find the joy in writing again by removing it from the sort of profit economy that conditions me to think art is only worth something if it can be sold. before i got into writing fic, i felt this sense that creative writing wasn't worth anything unless it was something that i could one day publish which really just stifled me, and it wasn't til i went "fuck it i'm just gonna write something for the fun of it with no plans to ever try and get other people to read it" that i started to really enjoy writing again. and i think that's why i tend to be really wary of anything that starts to treat fic like books or pull fanfic back into this pseudo-profit economy where worth is measured by online popularity/tiktok virality--bc for me, fanfiction is an escape from that sort of mentality.

now, i try to be really vigilant about when i'm starting to fall back into the habit of feeling like my writing is more or less valuable based on whether it gets more or less hits/kudos/comments etc. i think this winter i finally reached a point where writing fic was starting to feel too much like a job w the pressure i was putting on myself to write a certain amount of words or meet certain deadlines, so now i've just been writing without posting anything for like 2ish months and i've found it really helpful! it's good to remember that writing is fun and rewarding even if nobody is seeing it in the moment and there's not that constant feedback loop of affirmation.

and if getting that outside affirmation is a driving factor in why you're writing, and it's draining because it's driving you to constantly compare, then i think it's worth taking a step back and evaluating why you want to write and whether it's like....emotionally sustainable. there's nothing wrong with wanting affirmation and wanting people to see your work, but at least for me anytime i've prioritized outside affirmation it's weakened my own interior sense of worth and made me much more likely to burn out or abandon writing projects. it's difficult bc like i said we are all very much conditioned to prioritize outside affirmation when it comes to art, but for me reframing the way i think about what makes art worth creating in the first place has literally made my writing experience a million times better. so, the most concrete advice i have for giving yourself space to do that is just--stop posting for a bit. stop seeking an audience in any way shape or form. give yourself some time to write by yourself and for yourself, to figure out what about writing brings you joy when there is no outside affirmation and make that the centerpoint of your creative endeavors.

i think there might also be a skin on ao3 that hides kudos and hits and comment numbers, so it might be a good idea to look into that if you're really struggling to stop comparing! also, i highly recommend cj the x's video essays the kronk effect and 7 deadly art sins, as well as jamie berrout's essays against publishing if ur looking to challenge/reframe/expand/adjust the way you think about art + literature :•)

#sorry this got so long lol #but i do have many thoughts on the subject!! #i think this tendency to compare so heavily is very tied to like. an Internalized Artistic Profit Economy #or a meritocracy i suppose #where someone has to tell u ur art is good to make it worthwhile and fulfilling #but to me that isn't sustainable! bc there won't always be someone around to tell u ur art is Good #and also if u need that validation to feel like it has worth. then one person will never be enough #it's easy to become dependent on a constant feedback loop of affirmation #but if u start with a strong base of self-worth in ur art then u don't NEED that feedback loop yknow? #anyway #ranting and raving #ask

[osc-affirmations]

#inanimate insanity #ii blueberry #blueberry ii #iii spoilers #i suppose #object show affirmation #mod tophat

[agayconcept]

if anyone has a few spare dollars to help a disabled trans person travel to a doctor for care that's been systematically denied to them (!!) it would help a lot ♡

this situation has become urgent & i have no other way to cover the costs- i'm unable to work & do not receive any assistance with transportation. i really need help in order to access the treatment i need (which at this point is considered life-saving).

☆ my friend helped me set up a donation page bc i don't have reliable access to technology rn ⬆️ (link is above & here)

reblogs also help, tysm !! 🏳️‍⚧️

#boost #transphobia mention #my doctors office has simply cut off all communication at this point. so i cannot acces /any/ healthcare thru them #(yes a report is in the works. it takes Forever.) #anyway ive been on the phone w almost every other provider of hrt / gender affirming healthcare and am on all the wait lists #but am working to find something i can access before the next calendar year #and that will require me to travel p far and i simply Do Not have the $ to do so #especially bc the reason im not on disability ?? my doctors office was supposed to finish my application. they've ghosted me. so idfk #what will happen w that #🤦‍♂️ #*access #im too exhausted to go back and correct my typos. u get what u get sorry folks #i am at any given moment 3 days into an insomniatic anxiety riddled dissociative episode. i cannot be held accountable for my grammar

[aeide-thea]

so i went to reblog some fanart earlier and started to tag it #oh this is. incredible actually, and then paused and thought, @‍self why the 'actually.' what is that adverb conveying. and i contemplated it for a bit, and finally concluded: well, shit. it's reflexive deprecation.

the thing is, deprecation is my starting position pretty much always, and that's a problem in itself, but mostly my problem; but when you're talking abt somebody else's work, and you start backing defensively away from imagined negativity before anyone's even actually voiced any? you may think you're playing bodyguard, but in reality you're the vanguard of the assault, opening a wedge for enemy forces to strike.

i was talking a couple of weeks ago abt seeing ppl tag that kristin sue lucas name-multiplied-by-one post with tags like 'this is art To Me' vel sim., and honestly i think it's a similar sort of reflex—i think exposure to the tumblr vernacular often leads people (very much including me!) to produce turns of phrase like this, that ultimately serve to convey roughly

'i, a clever girlblogger,¹ am, yeah, engaging with this frivolous hai pollai²-coded material; but my relationship to it, unlike that of most she-ple, is Intellectual and Analytical and Examined! and to make that clear, i'll be dropping in these little verbal particles from time to time, in order to distinguish my own, elevated examination of the subject from the state of risible naivete³ i'm implicitly ascribing to the other, more ordinary audience members i'm conjuring up only to instantly put down—but like, it's fine, i'm a free-and-easy girlblogger(TM), so you can't think i'd ever deliberately propagate establishmentarian prejudices! never mind the effect my rhetoric might subconsciously be having, on me or on anyone else…'

and i think this framing is worth squinting at, and worth attempting to excise from one's speech and from one's mindset, because when you get right down to it? it's just yet another insidious manifestation of respectability politics, that's gotten people to adopt it via the cuckoo-chick strategy of positioning itself as cutesy tumblr idiolect.

and like, circling back around to that fanart i mentioned at the outset: yeah, the tag did feel weirdly prosodically truncated to me without that 'actually'! but this way, if the artist ends up seeing my discussion of their work in their notes, they won't be getting slapped in the face with a wet dead fish first, so like. what's more important, you know?

⸻ ¹ ""(gender neutral)"" ² https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoi_polloi in the feminine, if i haven't totally fumbled my declensions… ³ phrasing nicked from a comment of @‍proudheron's.

#anyway like. this for sure isn't the definitive post abt this #and really what i'm getting at is just another facet of 'self-deprecation isn't usually actually separable from disparaging others' #but i do think there's a particular subtle flavor of it here that's worth sticking under the microscope in its own right #for those of us who may have breathed it in without noticing‚ and now be spreading it‚ again without noticing‚ in our turn #i mean. obvs also extremely possible i just *think* i've put my finger on something important bc it's late! #but like. imagine tagging‚ idk‚ the winged victory or sth with 'this is art. to me' #it would be SUCH a weird rhetorical move! but consider: it's *always* a weird rhetorical move‚ actually. #bc fundamentally it's a speech pattern that's seeking affirmation of yr own taste/authority/status as Critic #at the expense of the thing you've evaluated— #like‚ you're going 'i think this is neat!! (but that might just be me 😔)' #and then other girlbloggers are supposed to be like 'yeah no i totally see what you mean!!!' and affirm you! but the thing is— #the '(but that might just be me 😔)' part doesn't just undercut yr discernment‚ it undercuts the praise *predicated* on yr discernment #so it's like. you're dissing yourself in a way that's supposed to earn you affirmation‚ which. is fucked up actually‚ lol :) #but—it's one thing when you do it to yourself; when you incorporate it into the foundations of yr compliment #you've actually totally undermined that compliment and rendered it an insult #(not to mention undermined the idea that the thing might have merit in itself‚ beyond yr authority to bestow or withhold— #like. if you're speaking in terms of what's good/deep/Art/&c To You? you've effectively already ceded the main field of universality #and retreated to defend only yr own walled garden—and implied you'll cede even that small ground if it's disputed) #so like. in the context of yr social relationship with yr followers‚ those sorts of qualifiers are affirmation-seeking moves— #though like. also ones that reinforce yr rhetorical passive-victim positionality‚ in a way you shd perhaps consider *not* reinforcing— #but in the context of yr interaction with an OP? they're negging. #and i just think like. i get it and i'm @-ing myself here as much as anyone else! but it's not‚ like‚ a healed-world way to behave. lol. #so like. consider: tagging things 'art' without the cutesy little qualifiers. praising things without the hedging. #i'm not at all good at that but. i'm going to try. #metatumbling #language #the psyche #'close readings no one needed for 300‚ alex' #(extremely tempted to just scrap this writeup tbh but like. the thinking was worth doing‚ so a record of it is worth keeping)