#What was wrong with ''Infantile''

[dorenarox]

Arenanet when they give the SAB modes a new name for the FIVE MILIONTH TIME-

#What was wrong with ''Infantile'' #It is in fact a mode for actual infants #I hate this mode so much #It was done to shut those scrub crybabies up because they don't understand how to jump and not run into traps #You know. Something only an infant would do.

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[soullessjack]

one of the other most consistent ways I’ve seen ppl mischaracterize /infantilize jack is by giving him interest headcanons in shit that literal preschoolers watch and it simply must be corrected because 1) obligatory he’s not a fucking baby first and foremost, and 2) he’s obsessed with zombies. his favorite show is the walking dead. he’s a HUNTER. HE’S A WAR CRIMINAL AND A TEENAGE COSMIC HORROR. HE LIKES SCARY THINGS, HE CAN HANDLE SCARY THINGS, HE IS THE SCARY THING. can we please abandon that idea forever thank you

#been watching superhero stuff all day and hyperfixating like a mad man and thinking ab how similar jack is to most of the characters #+ how he would LOVE these shows too #see: my raven teen titans posting #spn #jack kline #spn fandom #spn headcanons #see also: acting like he’s too baby for scary things is infantilization and also literally just not correct watch the show lmao #autistic rage at things simply not being correct is unbridled no matter what circumstance it may be #this circumstance is my special interest so I am unfortunately a rabid hyena now when people are wrong

[the-meme-monarch]

Oh thank god I’m not the only person who reads K_K as transmasc and autistic

i didn't know there were people who didn't think that honestly! besides people who enjoy the game casually or Don't Like Or Care About scc HDBSJBDXJJ

#i actually hc them as intersex ! 'what was their assigned gender at fountain?' wouldnt you like to know weather boy #and i like to think capn is transmasc and sweet is nonbinary :] #but they are All transgendre #im really surprised to rhink there are people who Dont read kk as autistic bc. not a lot of people are normal about how they treat him ! #there are a lot of people who infantilize him . #when like i could point you to several instances that show capn and sweet are also autistic HDBSNSBDJSBSSK #but well so many people portray them wrong anywya. sad #the monarch’s court #scc

[squarebracket-trickster]

Sorry guys, rant incoming. I considered deleting this but I put too much effort in.

"girlboss" "girl dinner" "girl math" "boy math" "gen z are making fun of us for wearing x" "here's how to dress like gen z:" "girlies" "girl's night" "boy's night" "me and the boys" "90s kid"

"I don't feel like an adult" "I'm 34 and I can tell you, I still don't feel like an adult either." "My parents seemed like real adults when they were my age." "I still feel like a teenager."

Maybe you'd feel more like an adult if you started calling yourself one. Maybe you'd feel more like an adult if you stopped trying to dress like a teenager. Maybe you should move your bed out from the wall and get a wallet. Maybe find a calendar app that works for you.

You are an adult. Even if you live with your parents. Even if you do part-time shift work at minimum wage. Even if you haven't graduated college. Even if you are single. These are adult things to do. Because you are doing them. And you are an adult. Start treating yourself like an adult. Fake it 'till you make it if you have to.

In other, writing-related, news:

That trend on TikTok of 20-40 something women authors (and writers yet to be published) promoting their books like,

"Omg! I can't believe I've sold X number of copies!! I never thought I would!" "Ahhhh imagine publishing your book and all your dreams come true and now you get to meet famous authors and work with big names in the industry!!" "Would you read a book where [proceeds to list a bunch of oversaturated tropes that tell me nothing about the actual plot]?"

It reeks of infantilization. If you didn't believe anyone would want to read your book, why should I? You made it on the NYT bestseller list! Stop acting like a mega-fan who got to meet a celebrity. You are their peer! "Would you read a book--" What if I wouldn't? Why does it matter to you what I think of your book? And for the love of god stop hiding behind tropes you know are already popular. "Here is my book: This is what it is about." Have some goddamn confidence.

It is fine to mention in passing "this idea was really far-fetched so I didn't know if it would appeal" or "I was struggling with self-esteem when I wrote this". It's fine to fan a little bit. It's fine to discuss the tropes in your book. But why are you building your brand as an author off of your inferiority complex? You are using your poor self-esteem as a marketing tactic to seem "humble" and "relatable" but it's coming across as unprofessional and desperate for reassurance. You are an adult. You are competent. The more you act like it the more you will believe it.

And of course, I haven't seen a man promote his book this way...

On another note, do any of the 20-40 something women writers who do "write with me" videos on TikTok actually enjoy writing or are they just doing it for the aesthetic?

They all have gorgeous minimalism writing spaces full of white and pink and a macbook beneath a window. Their makeup is done and they are conventionally pretty to start with. But their entire video is just them talking about how little progress they made, how many pages they deleted, how often they got distracted, how frustrated they are. And like, yeah. We all have those days. But what about the good lines you can't wait to share? The days when the words just flow? The cool stuff you learned while researching? Why don't you ever make videos about that?

Is this some other attempt to seem "relatable" by only talking about the "bad" side of writing? Because again, it's coming across as lacking confidence at best and, at worst, that you don't actually know how to write. And that is not the brand you want as an author.

Again, its always women. Why must women market their self-esteem issues in order to sell their art? Why must we be perpetually awestruck children (girlies, book girls) in over our heads?

#also why do I get the sense these women are selling a lifestyle more than they are actually promoting their own books? #I feel like someone more qualified than me could link this to modelling good christian gender roles #and cultural conformity or something #it isn't lost on me how much of this is about trying to seem humble #and how much validation is tied to protestant success and hard work ideas #is this where the indoctrination starts? #give us 'role models' as influencers #also Alex Aster of Lightlark fame is the WORST for this #her content makes me physically sick to watch #and again interesting that it is pretty widely agreed on at this point that she is an industry plant #interesting that the industry plant is leaning so heavy on the humility and infantilization of women tactics #as though appealing to protestant christians is a major concern of the industry #what's that about? is it just sales? or is it related to those evangelical groups trying get books banned? #how much influence does conservative christian america have within the trad pub industry? #maybe I am really reaching here idk #I don't have any sources #it's just speculation I am open to be proven wrong

[findafight]

I agree with you so much about the El thing! I swear 99% of it stems from her 'getting in the way' of byler.

And the way they act like she would have no reason to feel hurt/ betrayed/ upset if byler were to get together.

Oh yeah. It absolutely stems from her getting in the way of Byler. No question.

Not every person who ships Byler believes or thinks or treats El like this, but I've seen it pretty rampant in the tag, especially when it comes to theories. (I want to note that I think it's a cute ship! I'm not a hater of it at all but I do hate how parts of the fandom treat it as some kind of moral imperative and some groundbreaking piece of rep. That's really turned me off the fandom to a degree) El existing and caring about Mike (and Mike caring about her) is portrayed as this existential threat to the ship and its potential "endgame" status, so it has to be belittled, which is just. Stupid. You don't have to tear characters (or their dynamic with others) down to have a ship. (I know it happens in other ships within the stranger things fandom too)

I also see theories that she never loved Mike or never loved him properly or romantically and he was miserable the whole time they dated and confused his own platonic feelings towards her. Her feelings towards both Mike and Will (and their feelings towards her!) Are downgraded and insulted. She's infantilized so much it's disgusting. When shippers act as though she doesn't understand her feelings and that they are strictly platonic towards Mike, and that Mike's own are also platonic and he's been confused the whole time, and he hasn't been able to articulate that or mixed them up (because he's always been in love with Will forever, they claim), they make it seem to me like they don't respect both El's growth as a character in understanding herself and embracing her individuality or Mike's care towards his friends.

And like you said, a lot of folks act like El would have no right to feel betrayed/hurt/upset if Will, now her brother, started dating her ex? Sometimes very soon after they break up? Who she obviously has loved and cared for deeply, who hurt her by being unable to communicate his feelings, and who has been consistently on her side with everything involving the Upside Down or lab. It seems as though these theorists think if El is anything but understanding and enthusiastic about it, she's unreasonable and clearly doesn't care about Mike or Will's happiness (If they even consider El as beyond her current relationship with Mike.) When that would be a natural reaction based on everything we've seen between them and just in general. Idk I just feel like El is done so dirty.

#el hopper #people stop infantilizing her in her relationship with mike! what is wrong with you! #she knows her feelings! explore something else or don't make it feel condescending if you explore how the lab fucked her up emptionally #yall i dont care what you ship but when you full volume say her bf has paternal feelings for her bc hes actually in love with his bff #as though that is a canon fact and at all supported by the show... i want to scream. #blr #stranger things #finda's rambles #findaanswers #anonasaurus

[skydalorian]

Pointed out there's something to be concerned about with Ameliance looking like a child/teenager on a recent "smash or pass" style poll post (that used very young-looking face screenshots.)

Proceeded to be called brian-dead, insane, etc. and be blocked by the poll blog for...responding to people keeping the argument going by @ ing me on the poll and other separate, unrelated polls.

Multiple people insisted I was incorrect, or attempted to explain that I was obviously wrong because she's 7ft tall and has kids (none of which is seen in the screenshots, and none of which negates that she -like most women in FF- has an extremely child-like face with wide-set and large eyes, a small mouth, and no wrinkles, flaws, or other signs of age...which seem reserved for male characters, ffs)

Totally rational behavior, awesome.

Anyway, @smashingorpassing prefers not to block people hurling accusations of brain-damage and insanity, in preference of blocking the person pointing out that FF (and anime-adjacent media in general) has a long-standing issue with making their characters look young, and their fans have a long-standing issue with viewing said infantilised people as fuckable waifus.

Frustrating to be blocked for, idk, some nonexistent and non-elaborated upon rule for that blog.

Update: aaaand they've removed all my comments. I could understand this if I violated literally ANY of their listed rules. I wasn't the one @ ing users outside of the walls of the post. I wasn't the one throwing out insults.

I've come to understand some FF fans are combative, complacent, hostile, and unquestioning of questionable trends in media, but it sucks that that extends to this blog and its moderators.

This is the "obviously a 40yo adult" BTW 🙄

#I never claimed it was anything but a fallible opinion #but guess what? #the defense of this character “not looking like a child” is also an unprovabke and fallible opinion #but apparently the better one? #i was also called insane and a terf for assuming childlike and petite women cant be fuckable #I am petite. i have hEDS and will look younger than my age for most of my adult life #people will go through a whole routine of stretches rather than face the cognitive dissonance that they might be a little in-the-wrong for #unquestioningly supportinf FF not being willing to acknowldge age outside of infantilized designs #smashingorpassing #smash or pass #ameliance #ffxiv #final fantasy

[chatonnoir]

The bakery enemies AU shows Marinette and Adrien having a climactic confrontation due to Marinette understandably thinking Adrien's apparent alarming fixation on Ladybug is revenge-driven, shows Marinette flipping Adrien as an obvious callback to Ladybug flipping Chat Noir when she's startled, and even shows Adrien literally momentarily blushing over it, and people in this fandom are so incapable of being normal that there have been daily comments from people talking about how much they want to punch/slap/beat up/kill Marinette, calling her a bitch and an assaulter, or going on and on like “how will he ever recover from this wah wah terrible marinette my poor little meow meow” It's just funny at this point how predictable this fandom is

Adrien stans every time: HhOW WILL HE RRECOVER FROM THIS,,.., MY PPPOOR BABY BOOBOO IS GOING TO BE QQUIVERING SHAKING CCRYING IN T,,HE CCORNER ,,,,,,TERRIBLE MEAN BITCH MARINETTE TRAUMATIZED HIM FOR LIFE,,,.,.,.

Actual Adrien: IT SURE FUCKING TASTES LIKE STRAWBERRY!!!!

Adrien is literally going to think this is so funny when their identities are revealed and he finds out she came to this conclusion bc of his Blorbo From My Life photo gallery it’s not that fucking deep

#ml fandom salt #it's not news that a large percentage of women are reflexively inclined to infantilize and UWU POOR BABY BOOBOO @ men #while simultaneously demonizing women especially if they think said woman wronged their UWU poor baby booboo man #and the absurd aggression they level towards said women will often be disproportionate to what the women have actually done #it's a phenomenon you see everywhere! all the time! #just look at the public's treatment of a certain recent court trial #It's SO easy for y'all to demonize a woman especially if a man you UWU is involved! It's instantaneous!

[offsidekineticist]

💎💎💎for agria if you're still taking these and it strikes your fancy lol!

I am still taking them! Sorry it took so long, took some time to decide who would be most interesting to answer this one. So here's Giliys's thoughts on Agria (whom he has nicknamed 'Threads' because Giliys can't just call people by their names like a normal person, I'm so sorry).

"Threads? Well. I think I'd have liked her better if we met before the fifth crusade. I know she's got rich family, but she doesn't really count as nobility. I mean, she coulda stayed in Brevoy and tried to blend in with with the fancy Lebedas, sucked up to them, tried to marry up, but she didn't. She went and said she was part of a people with no home scattered all over Avistan, and when she realized their culture had been stolen from them, she went and said she'd steal it back. That takes guts.

"But then Areelu fucking Vorlesh got ahold of her, and - " Giliys stops himself, face taut with rage. He closes his eyes and takes a deep breath. "Look. I know most people think I don't have a conscience cuz it's calibrated different than most. But I do know this: the worst, most unforgivale things you can do to someone are the things that hurt the soul. And I know, I know, I done plenty of that in my time, but I also know it's fucked up. What Areelu Vorlesh did was un-fucking-forgivable. And Threads did her best to pick up the pieces and stitch herself back together, but...she decided not to fix what she did to her, didn't she? I don't know if she didn't think it was possible or if she actually thought she was better off for it, but either way - I mean - that's not something you choose if your soul is whole.

"So yeah. It's funny, I don't have a problem with her having magic powers from the Abyss. But the power she has as knight-commander...yeah, that's the kind of thing that twists you up inside, makes you into something else. Something that can't be fixed. And I hope Galfrey rots for pushing her into that when she was already torn up inside by Vorlesh."

#and the thing he didnt say: he sees parallels between theo and agria #teachers who dedicated themselves to preserving their cultures #who enjoy embroidery #so he finds the idea of her as knight-commander deeply disturbing #bc he doesn't see any way for someone to hold such a position #without participating in systemic abuse #so he is kind of infantilizing her and her decisions #blaming what areelu did to her #talking as if her decisions were the result of her circumstances #rather than...yknow...her own choices #cuz that makes him uncomfortable #someone so like theo in a position of power just feels wrong #so instead he says some kind of awful things #pathfinder wotr #pwotr pals #knight-commander oc #oc: giliys #friend's oc #oc: agria lebeda #ask game #thanks for the ask!

[hereissomething]

FUCK YOU MANSCAPED FUCK YOU SHAVING FUCK YOU RAZORS FUCK YOU NAIR FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU

#phuz babbles #i hate it its awful to not see body hair on ppl #what the hell is wrong with having hairy balls #why do ppl insist on this weird infantilization of sexuality #i had to shave myself for an ex and it was awful #which was odd bc he was fuzzy all over except his balls and it made me :( #let ppl be fuzzy #restore the bush

[jewishbarbies]

“if taylor actually came out as lesbian in a couple years would you still hate her”

Obviously this was not asked to me, but I think some people forget that queer people can be bad people too as well as women (being a jerk doesn’t know of preference, ethnicity or gender) even if she was that doesn’t erase or justify the petty and vindictive behaviour, weaponising feminism to her own benefit only, and environmental damage she has caused

all that AND the fact that she’s proven herself racist/antisemitic and an abuse apologist. the list is almost endless by now. I don’t understand what coming out as a lesbian would even do for people who hate her. there’s no gotcha to be had when her sexuality has nothing to do with what she’s done.

#Asks #anonymoose #anti taylor swift #swifties dni #I agree with what you said tho #people have infantilized queer people and women #to the point where you can’t admit they’ve done anything wrong #or you’re homophobic and/or misogynist #and that has nothing to do with their behavior

[dreampearls]

the thing about nahida is that while she is very obviously purposefully depicted as childlike in image & childhood in general is an extremely important symbol of hers. she's Very notably Not literally a child

#sorry this is just like a fandom pet peeve of mine to see her infantilized #because it just feels like. Like okay her whole thing was how her agency was taken away from her because people automatically assumed #that her lack of knowledge meant they could assume near proprietary control over her entire life #and this being a one on one allegory for how children & childhood in general is treated #the loss of autonomy under the guise of protection being such an insidious form of abuse #so with nahida specifically treating her as a child even though she looks like one feels. Wrong #because her infantilization in fandom just kinda. runs diametrically opposed to what the entire point of her character is #that she may look like a child but is in fact this world's greatest source of intelligence and wisdom #who is literally several hundred years old #BUT THE ACARY FLIPSIDE TO THIS ARE THE PEOPLE WHO USE THIS ARGUMENT #TO DEFEND THEIR LOLIBAIT AND ITS LIKE #YOURE NOT ANY BETTER IN FACT THAT IS MUCH MHCH MUCH MUCH WORSE #THAN THE PEOPLE WHO JUST WANT NAHIDA TO BE CYNONARI OR KAVETHAMS WEIRD BABY THING #AND ITS LIKE IM CONSTANTLY TEARING OUT MY HAIR BECAUSE #THE FUCKING GAME ITSELF DID ALL OF THIS WHILE KNOWING THAT PEOPLE ARE GOING TO LIKE NAHIDA #NOT FOR ANY OF THE REASONS AFOREMENTIONED BUT BECAUSE SHE IS LOLIBAIT #SO IN THE END ALL OF US LOSE

[tonechkag]

Are you indiginous Russian, or etnic Russian? I'm asking this because I'm confused. If the former, then I understand. It's a shame Russians killed a lot of those tribes (a lot went extinct). But if the later, then I don't understand. You are now not part of a group, culture, and country that doas not view women as people, is about only vailenc in every form of it (phisical, mental, emotional, sexual, ect).

I mean Russians view wife beating as a form of love to the point that women who abendond it, and got together with non Russian men, were questioning if they partners loved them dou to them not beating them. Just look at Russia's domastic vailenc statistics, or how they say "It's a family value" about it. Or how there are up and running websites there, where they dox people who live there and part of the Lgbtq community, in hopes that they will get killed for it. Or what are they doing in Ukraine, and in the countries they went to. In Georgia Russians are openly fetishes the locals, whaile taking resorces away from them. Ask people from Ukraine, Poland, Finland, Estonia, Latvia, Lithuania, Hungary, Romania, or from any country that Russia has a history with. They will tell you the truth, and that really nothing good, or usefull, or worthy come out of that country, that culture, and those people seince the Russian revolution.

Sorry if I sound rude, but I just don't get it, why someone would be proud of it, and call themself that.

I'm both. My mother is Russian & my father is Chuvash. I have never been ashamed of my Russian family & I never will be. Being ashamed of it & pretending it doesn't exist won't magically make the bad parts dissappear. I simultaneously have a deep love for Russia's rich culture & history while not ignoring the suffering & wrong that's happened along the way (& is still happening). Holding both truths at the same time is possible regardless if people believe it or not. In my humble opinion, holding both truths & acknowledging the ugly parts of one's history is necessary for genuine healing, progression & a complete sense of self. But of course, that doesn't mean we endorse those horrible things. We should use them as a blueprint to do better in the present & future. That's all any of us can do.

These days it seems like so many people can't see outside of this Black vs. White polarizing way of thinking. It honestly drives me insane.

There's not a single country that hasn't committed atrocities in it's past. There's not a single person alive who's ancestors haven't done some fucked up shit. Are you sending these types of messages to Japanese people? They were committing some pretty horrific war crimes back during ww2 like The Rape Of Nanjing. What about Germans? They were genociding Jews, Slavs & Romani. What about the Dutch? They killed a fuck ton of the Lenape people when founding New Amsterdam (now known as New York City). Wait what about the various tribes in Africa that have been at war with each other since time immemorial? Ever heard of the Volhynia Massacre where Ukrainians slaughtered & raped Poles? What about Turks? Mongolians? Chinese? Indians? Need I go on? Are all people everywhere supposed to hate themselves? Or is it just Russians who are expected to perform this masochistic self-flagellation to appease random people on the internet?

Take a long hard look at your own history before pointing fingers at others. You're bound to find a skeleton or 2 in your own closet that you're not proud of.

#oh & if u think indigenous people are somehow incapable of committing the same heinous acts you're delusional #like we weren't these pure wholesome faiytale characters that never did anything wrong & lived in complete harmony with each other #its quite infantilizing & erases true history which frankly is just colonization under a slightly different guise #this may go in one ear & out the other #but i stand by what I've said #asks #anon #russian #chuvash #i might add more tags later my brain is fried & ive been sick all day

[elkkiel]

crazy how autism/audhd isn't an excuse when it comes to dream or (potentially) George, but it's totally chill to use it to excuse your own actions

#explanation not excuses #as people who struggle socially we have a responsibility to take ownership of what we do and say to others regardless of intent #if i hit my brother for breathing too loud and triggering my misophonia i'm still in the wrong!! its hard to control but that's still on me! #holy shit take some accountability and stop minimizing the autonomy a lot of us audhders have. #its so infantilizing ugh if you're able to understand right vs wrong as a neurodivergent fucking own up!!

[eumillipes]

I like to think that reynold reminisces about when he and his brother would actually get along together. And the very few “good times” he had w the cheat commandos,,, maybe not but its nice to make shit up.

#homestar runner #what if he thinks he did something wrong #like how the commandos bully and infantilize him. do you think he like. blames himself. #ok enough #cheat commandos #was writing abt that in depth but shitty ao3 crashed i hate it

[thanatoseyes]

Is it witchy to buy tea and a deck of oracle cards? I'd like to think so.

#witchblr #baby witch i guess #im not really fond of the term baby #mostly because ive been infantilized for being nice #so it just kind of rubs me the wrong way #not to say its a bad word or anything its not #budding witch i guess #ha because plants and witchcraft go hand in hand #see what i did there ah im funny #fake it till you make it guys