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shout out to all the bitches NOT having gay sex this pride month

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"the a in lgbtqia stands for ally!" wrong. it stands for atomic bomb.

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there are gay bars and lesbian bars and then “normal” straight bars so i think there should be aroace bars where absolutely none of that happens and we can sit there and discuss warhammer lore instead

i think that would be cool

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Hey, if you treat QPRs as lesser than romantic relationships, I do not like you.

Like, don't say “they're at least in a QPR”, or “I don't ship characters, most I can do is QPR”

All relationships are equal, stop using hierarchies for them.

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Kicking my hair and swirling my legs or something idk I'm aromantic

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here are some harmful aro stereotypes 💚🤍🩶🖤

there are probably so many more stereotypes, but those are the ones that i see more often! also i already posted same post about bisexuality, so check it out —> here.

aros are heartless — most people think that, because they assume aromantics do not love, they love. they can love their family, their friends, their pet or even themselves (this one is specifically for my afamilial & aplatonic folks). there is so much more complexity to love than romantic love and anyone who puts romantic love above all else is lame. like im sorry, but romantic love isn’t somehow better from self-love or love to your friends or family.

aro and ace are the same — this is also about asexuality, but aro ≠ ace. i see some people use the term asexual to describe both the aro & ace experience and to me it makes no sense since they’re completely different things. aro & ace can co-exist and one person can be on both spectrums, but that doesn’t mean all people are the same, not all aros are ace, not all aces are aro. so what is aro & ace? both are a spectrum. if you are aromantic you do not feel romantic attraction OR feel it under certain circumstances only (ex. when you know someone well, when someone likes you you like them back or until someone likes you back you like them). if you’re asexual that means you do not feel sexual attraction OR only feel it under certain circumstances.

aros can’t date — aros can in fact date, some people on the arospec experience attraction (rarely or under certain circumstances) so it makes sense they can date. there are also aros that do not experience romantic attraction, some date even though they do not experience the same feeling. they can like the person, care for them deeply and affectionately, but it is simply not romantic love, but they can chose to date the person. not all aros are loveless or romance repulsed.

i can ship xyz, aros can date — this is targeted tbh, i keep seeing people bring this up in Yelena Belova discourse about her aromanticism, while it is true aros can date, some chose not to, some are simply not interested in it and if a character in canon is showing no interest in romance or is repulsed by it, they don’t need to be fixed, they don’t need to be put in a relationship, they can just exist in peace. i especially dislike allos shipping aro/ace characters because they just see them as allo at that point, like im sorry, but they don’t give a shit about aros if they can’t listen to them explaining why you shouldn’t ship a specific aro character.

aros aren’t valid — bs. just bs. they are valid, whether you’re a man, a woman, a gender outside of the binary, whether you’re asexual as well or not, whether you want to date or not, you are valid as long as the definition applies to you!!! honestly here’s how i can explain being aro: if you are straight you are only attracted to opposite gender, so you don’t like same-sex, so just like you don’t like same-sex, aro’s don’t like same-sex & opposite gender.

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the heartache of being aroace is so crushing. i was born to love fiercely and all encompassing. i want to cook for you. i want to take you on picnics. i want to take care of you when you’re sick. i want to sit in silence with you. i want to share my life with you.

but no, i don’t want to kiss you. i don’t want to have sex. i don’t even really like holding hands. i’m sorry. i know its not enough. i’m sorry i’m not more.

please let me love you anyways.

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being aroace telling people i'm aroace

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Sex and romance aren't inevitable, they're both things you get to choose if you want to opt into or not.

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we lost our way when we started having discourse justifying shipping aroace characters with "ace people can still have sex/aros can still date", instead of using it as evidence to hc characters who aren't canonically aspec and who date and have sex, as aro/ace.

scraping the bottom of the barrel for characters who don't express interest in dating? no, i'm coming for your ladies' men and your sluts, your suave and sexy sweet talkers, your femme fatales and your serial monogamists.

aroaces you must liberate yourselves, break free of the shackles of that one canon aroace, you don't need them. sick of people shipping your fave canon aroace? their fave is aroace now. want more sex/romance favourable aroace rep? this works for that too! there are literally no downsides

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As an aroace I sometimes will look at fictional characters or an actual person and think "Woah, hey, they're pretty/handsome" and then I'll start to question if I'm actually aroace over one person... and I am.

Whenever I start to question it I will ask myself two questions: Would I wanna be romantically involved with them/would I want to be sexually involved with them? And my answer is always no. I just find them aesthetically pleasing

Now of course these questions may not work for every aroace person, but it works for me.

Basically this is post saying that if you're aroace and find someone you think looks nice, that doesn't mean you aren't aroace, you just think they're neat :]

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shoutout to the aromantics who don't feel love at all. shoutout to the aromantics who feel love deeply but not in the way society wants us to. shoutout to the aromantics who are repulsed by romance. shoutout to the aromantics who are romance positive. shoutout to aromantics who have conflicting feeling about romance. shoutout to aromantics that are neutral about romance. shoutout to aromantics in qprs. shoutout to aromantics who aren't in qprs. shoutout to aromantics who are also asexual or aspec. shoutout to aromantics who are allosexual. shoutout to aromantics with conflicting identities. shoutout to aromantics who are questioning. shoutout to aromantics who are in relationships. shoutout to aromantics who are happy not in a relationship.

shoutout to every aromantic person reading this because you are valid and a welcome part of the queer community no matter who you are or what you identify as. you are so loved and appreciated <33

#aromantic

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All aros are valid!

Even aroace people?

All aros are valid!

Even aroace men?

All aros are valid!

Even trans, enby, or agender aros and/or aces?

ALL aros are valid!

Even cishet aros and/or aces?

ALL AROS AROS ARE VALID!

Even cishet aromantic allosexual men?

ALL. AROS. ARE. VALID!

This is not up for debate.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #lime's reblogs

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lmao i think one of the most eye opening moments that made me realize how really not allo i was was when some of my friends were playing smash or pass and i was kinda squinting at the people they were showing like well what exactly do you mean by smash? like that they're hot, aesthetically? like you don't actually mean like literally have sex with these random strangers right lol (no they literally meant smash and i went bonkers)

-🍋Lime🍋

#aromantic #lime's rants #aro #aroace #asexual #arospec #ace #acespec

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An aro meme for myself

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