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btw if you're annoyed with Google search giving you results for stuff that's similar to but not actually what you typed in, go to search tools, go to where it says "all results" and change that to "verbatim" and then it will search for what you actually asked for

why this is not the default is beyond me other than obvs enshittification but it has rescued a bunch of searches for me lately where the top results were completely unhelpful until i switched to that so. might be helpful for others

#resources

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the hunger games films tore out the books teeth. like it does the series such a disservice when it stands for nothing, says nothing, passes no judgement.. katniss speaks so plainly in the books about what she thinks of the capital. of what they do to her and her family and the districts. of the different worlds she witnesses as she’s straddled between 12 and the capital.. she calls it barbaric. she calls it disgusting and wrong and horrifying, over and over, and the films were like how do we market this teen romance.

#thg

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Yes this poll is very biased in favor of North America lol

#cn kid

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#sweethearts #911ls #911ls bts #911 ls cast

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Do not punish the behaviour you want to see

I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,  snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the word “finally”. 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

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sorry i dont go here i didnt even finish the show. but 'the 100' having the most widely acknowleged case of the bury-your-gays trope makes it doubly funny that it also went on to have the most egregious case of straightbaiting ever broadcast as well. the fact the actors have shared they were told to play their respective male and female leads as having a romantic attachment for no less than half a decade only for them to never act on it and then in the end ONE MURDERS THE OTHER. thats really something right there. i think the show runner might not even be homophobic, just a sadist

#ahh I remember that shitshow

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#awww awww 🥰🥰🥰 #also still on this train emergency I see 👀👀👀 #911ls #911ls bts #911 ls cast

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Coño don limpio

#😅😅😅

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why are french people rude?

Ah well, the safest explanation when an entire country’s people are stereotyped as rude is that they have their own culture with different criteria for politeness than the ones you are used to. It’s probably easier for Americans to forget this than for the rest of the world, because they consume less foreign media than the rest of us (from literature in translation to foreign films) and are less exposed to aspects of foreign cultures that could inform them about different norms of politeness (online interactions happen in their own language and follow their own (anglo) social codes.) With this insular worldview it’s easy to take it for granted that American good manners are universal. They are not!

A very common gripe against American tourists in Paris is that they talk so loudly in public spaces, which is definitely rude here but I assume that in the US, people just have a different threshold for what constitutes ‘loud’ (I wonder if it is due to being used to having more space than Europeans). I also remember a discussion I had with one of my translation professors about the American concept of ‘active listening’ and how negatively it is perceived in France. It may be that in the US it is polite to make ‘listening noises’ at regular intervals while someone is speaking to you, ‘uh huh’, ‘right’, ‘yeah’, ‘really?’, and that you would perceive someone who just stands there silently as disinterested or thinking about something else. In France it is more polite to shut up and listen (with the occasional nod or ‘mmh’) and it’s rather seen as annoying and rude to make a bunch of useless noise while someone is speaking.

There are of course countless examples like that. The infamous rude waiters in Parisian cafés probably seem a lot more rude and cold to people who have a different food culture… People from other cultures might consider a waiter terrible at his job if he doesn’t frequently check on them to make sure they don’t wait for anything, but the idea that a meal is a pleasant experience rather than just a way to feed yourself (esp when eating out) means we like having time to chat and just enjoy our table for a while, so we don’t mind as much waiting to order or for the next course. French people would typically hate if an overzealous waiter took the initiative to bring the note once we’re done with our meal so we don’t have to wait for it, as it would be interpreted as “you’re done, now get out of my restaurant.”

The level of formality required to be seen as polite is quite high in France, which might contribute to French people being seen as rude by people with a more casual culture. To continue with waiters, even in casual cafés they will address clients with the formal you and conversely, and won’t pretend to be your friend (the fact that we don’t have the American tip culture also means they don’t feel the need to ingratiate themselves to you.) I remember being alarmed when a waitress in New York introduced herself and asked how I was doing. “She’s giving me her first name? What… am I supposed to with it? Use it?” It gave me some insight on why Americans might consider French waiters rude or sullen! It might also be more accepted outside of France to customise your dish—my brother worked as a waiter and often had to say “That won’t be possible” about alterations to a dish that he knew wouldn’t fly with the chef, to foreign tourists who were stunned and angry to hear that, and probably brought home a negative opinion of French waiters. In France where the sentiment in most restaurants is more “respect the chef’s skill” than “the customer is king”, people are more likely to be apologetic if they ask for alterations (beyond basic stuff) as you can quickly be seen as rude, even by the people you are eating with. 

And I remember reading on a website for learning English that the polite answer to “How are you?” is “I’m fine, thank you!” because it’s rude to burden someone you aren’t close to with your problems. In my corner of the French countryside the polite thing to do is to complain about some minor trouble, because saying everything is going great is perceived negatively, as boasting, and also as a standoffish reply that kind of shuts down the conversation, while grumbling about some problem everyone can relate to will keep it going. (French people love grumbling as a positive bonding activity!)

Basically, before you settle on the conclusion that people from a different place are collectively rude, consider that if you travel there and scrupulously follow your own culture’s social code of good manners, you might be completely unaware that you are being perceived as obnoxious, rude or unfriendly yourself simply because your behaviour clashes with what is expected by locals.

#sososososo interesting!!!

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Missing Moments

Season Three

A series of canon compliant tags and a continuing storyline that follows along with the show but digs deeper into TK and Carlos’s relationship, their individual struggles, and the love they build together.

Find links to individual stories below, or read the whole collection at the link above.

3x1 - Imperfect pieces pulling at the glue (T)

3x2 - Up in smoke (E)

3x3 - Wayfaring stranger (T)

3x4 - Homeward bound (T)

3x5 - Reconstruction (M)

3x6 - All these sacred melodies (E)

3x7 - Everest to Mariana (E)

3x8 - "You have one new message..." (E)

season one fics season two fics

#!!!!! #🥴🥴🥴 #also andie congratulations!!! the fact you reached/circled back to the beginning that started it all... I applaud you!! #can't wait to get my heart ripped into pieces sksksk 😭💖 #911ls #tarlos #fic recs

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wip wednesday

thank you to @carlos-in-glasses @bonheur-cafe @paperstorm @heartstringsduet @im-overstimulated-and-im-sad

@whatsintheboxmh @lemonlyman-dotcom @cold-blooded-jelly-doughnut @strandnreyes for the tags <3

The track is exactly where Google Maps says it’ll be, just about ten minutes away from the gym. TK parks his rental car in the empty parking lot and reaches for his water bottle. He’s antsy, in a way he thought he was safe from for a bit longer. His skin itches as if to prove his point, the thought of driving back home and parking himself on the couch feeling laughably insufficient for what he needs right now. He’d waited for Carlos to get into the shower before leaving the locker room, still not quite sure what he’d said. It feels like every word that’s left has mouth has been the wrong one, has rubbed at Carlos in a way he definitely didn’t mean. TK doubts he’s going to get anything from him on exactly what he said wrong. He wonders if it’s nothing at all, if Carlos is just like this now, teenage sweetness and unbridled excitement calcified into a wall between him and the rest of the world. TK takes a breath and kills the engine when he’s parked in what seems to be the lot of a high school. The tracks usually stay open, which he was kind of counting on when he had the idea to drive here. Practice ended over an hour ago, but he doesn’t feel finished. His body craves something else, still has some left over energy he doesn’t know what else to do with. He lets himself in through the gate and stares at the dimly-lit track. A month ago, his life looked completely different. Busy city streets and a coach he couldn’t find any more ways to please. Going to the gym every day convinced only that he’d be leaving that evening learning some new way he could be pushed beyond his limit. Anything’s better than that. He lets it be the only thought left in his head when he steps into the furthest lane from center and takes off.

leaving an open tag for anyone that wants to share!

#olympics au my beloved!! #911ls #wip recs

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Amaury the chocolate guy has done it again

#when he started making moving parts out of chocolate #that was the point his wizardry was confirmed #<- #🤯🤯🤯

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Sorry for the long post :)

#ahhh an icon <3

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yayyyy mutuals hiiiiiiiii reblog if you love your mutualssssssss hiii mutuals

#🥰🥰🥰

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The fact that Microsoft Word has to be a subscription is upsetting. I already paid for it why do I have to pay again

#resources

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Love is a sacrament that should be taken kneeling.

marc fishman - john william waterhouse - stephan abel sinding - richard westall - pompeo batoni

#ohh this is so gorgeous #🥴🥴🥺🥺 #911ls #tarlos

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God of War (2018) | dev. Santa Monica Studios Music by Bear McCreary released April 20, 2018

spotify template & tutorial by @wilmontouch

#back to back bangers bear mccreary never misses #truly... it's insane... god tier soundtrack #god of war