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[ladysparklefists]

online communities are so strange because people slip away so easily. you can be on here for years, folding people you've never met into the fabric of your daily life, and then they disappear, leaving only ghost posts scattered across tumblr behind. or their blog stays dormant, for weeks, months, years, until you're only still following them because you remember that they love sunflowers or they were kind to you when they didn't have to be or the last thing they posted was sad and raw and you still worry about them sometimes.

and sometimes they come back when you least expect it, years later, even, and there's this sudden rush of relief like there you are, there you are, even though you barely knew each other.

there's a strange kind of love to it. i don't know you and i want to hold your hand across miles and time zones and oceans. i can still see the imprint of you in this community you left. you don't anyone will notice or care when you're gone, but we notice and we care and we wish you well.

i hope you're all okay out there. i hope the sun is shining on your face and you are breathing deeply. i miss you.

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#useful #gettin real sick of those Takes

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This is so funny what

#how to run #in plaaaaaace

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When one half of your brain takes accurate information Very Seriously, and the other half just wants to make really bad puns...

#MORE! #STARGATE SG1 #MEME FORMATS #PLEASE

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As a lesbian, there’s so much of bi women’s experience that I don’t understand. I don’t understand the questions and the confusion about sexual orientation that’s not clean-cut and not necessarily the same over time. I’ve always just liked girls and I don’t udnerstand how that would be hard to realize, I haven’t felt the pressure to “choose a side” or “just pick one” or had my feelings doubted because I’m attracted to both sexes.

I’m not subjected to the same prejudices and stereotypes that bi women are: I have been called frigid and broken and an eternal virgin because of my lesbianism, but never have I been subjected to the “faking it for men”, “insatible cheater” and “never satisfied with just one” stereotypes. It’s not my experience to soldier through expectations of hypersexuality and doubts about my love being faithful or my orientation even being real, and I will never be in a situation where my partner might be a man or straight. Sure, bi women and lesbians share the attraction to women, but I won’t ever understand what it’s like to experience attraction to both women and men, and I won’t feel the need to sit on a fence or become alienated from my community because of the sex of my partner.

But what I do share with bi women is how hard realizing our love for other women in the patriarchal and heteronormative society is. We’ve felt the same yearning, we’ve longed for love between women in a society that doesn’t always even recognize the existence of such a thing, a society where women are pressured to center their lives around men and be sexual objects instead of active agents. The stuggles we are subjected to stem from the same root, our same-sex love. We’ve all feared homophobic discrimination and violence against us when we’re with our girlfriends, we’re all fighting the battle to make people see our relationships with women just as full, good, real and serious as straight people’s, and we all feel the pressure to “not give in to our deviant inclination and just be normal”.

And most importantly, both lesbians and bi women love women. We love women like no other loves women on this planet. We are women who love women and want to have everything with them; we want a woman to kiss and hold, a woman to share a life with, a woman to make love to, a woman to know us through and through and become a family with. That love is the same and the fight for that love is the same, and we share the possibility of dedicating our lives to women alone in this world, and we all inherit the history of women before us who have carved spaces for themselves to do just that.

As a lesbian, bi women are my sisters both in love and arms. We share the great gift of love for our own sex and our differences are diversity in our community, something to respected and valued and learned from. We teach each other and help each other to grow into better people. I love my bi sisters, we are united by love, understanding, resilience and pride.

Solidarity between women have changed the world, and it will continue to do so.

#women loving women who love women #queer solidarity

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I'm at the zoo, I'm at the miniatures park, I'm at the combination zoo and miniatures park

A gibbon walks amid models of vehicles at a zoo in the park of miniatures in Bakhchisaray, Crimea.   REUTERS/Alexey Pavlishak

https://www.reuters.com/news/picture/top-photos-of-the-day-idUSRTXCKJR8

#this is incredible #i want to go to there

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here's my ~Queerest Place On The Internet~ hot take;

the worst part for me wasn't tungles's deeply cynical exploitation of demographics they specifically tried to suppress for cash

it was the giant wave of "um also q*eer is a nasty slur" it set off

and I see that take like almost every day but it was a lot all at once and I'm just so fucking tired of it

it's so fucking telling that it's ONLY happening with the "weird" word, the edge-cases word, the radical community word, the word that refuses to define boundaries

there was a huge, hilarious, delightful meme about the word that was consistently and brutally used as a weapon against me and mine in school, but I seen no Discourse about whether it was Problematic, nor anyone using "Harold they're l*sbians"

queer is a warm and wonderful word

~ signed, A Queer

#fed up #fight me #don't actually fight me #just block me #but think about it #sigh #queer #that's me

[ladysparklefists]

can we please talk about the way that

if you're ADHD (or probably autistic, or another flavour of neurodivergency, but I'm ADHD so it's what I know) that means either

you either have parents who are not themselves ADHD and fundamentally do not understand it bc their brain just works totally differently to yours and you get the classic "why don't you just try harder?"

OR

VERY LIKELY

(because it's got a genetic component)

you've got at least one parent who IS ALSO ADHD but they're almost certainly undiagnosed

and they've got ~30 additional years of masking and weird coping mechanisms all piled up inside them

and when you try to explain why something is happening or what you're struggling with

they're like, no no that's normal

bc it IS normal, for them, and for you, but not for neurotypical people actually, and it's so hard to convince them that actually no, freezing for hours unable to get started on a mundane task is a Troubling Symptom and not just, something you have to "get over" with some weird glitchy decades-old coping mechanism

and especially bc ADHD is mostly characterised by things that are normal in small amounts / occasionally and is a Thing bc they happen too much / all the time / frequently

but anyway

it's just. really hard for everyone. when it turns out "that's just how we are" is, actually, neurodivergent.

#help #I'm 31 and finally getting to try ADHD meds soon #ADHD #adult ADHD #my partner is neurotypical #and wow #turns out #life is very different if your dopamine works #couldn't tell #bc my family is absolutely riddled with ADHD and autism #and I wouldn't change us #but there's a real adjustment period going on

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yesssss I won!

https://uquiz.com/quiz/8hL5Xi/what-problematic-queer-trope-would-you-be

here have a uquiz uwu

#I do a lot of #personality quiz #things #and usually I don't reblob them or anything #but look! #I won! #I won the quiz! #a thing that is both normal to want and possible to do #phrases that live in a crevice in my mind somewhere #queer coded villain #the dream #the drama #the delight

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Make Britain Chips Again.

Loughborough Fair, November 2016.

#basically every Irish person I follow on here has reblobbed this #and I am not about to scorn it #CHIPS #we love chips #I love chips #national passtime is chips #gonna have chips on Monday can't wait #genuinely thinking about it more than I am the fancy roast lamb tomorrow #chips chips chips

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bring back Georgian-era sentence structure. fuck this single clause Hemingway bullshit; I want to string the reader along for pages, to link, however disparate, an endless array of actions using every form of punctuation I can imagine - even those I rarely use - and generally be as incoherent as possible (though it is to be said that this is for internet and casual use, and not for increasing the impenetrability of research papers, a far less noble goal than the one I proposed).

#relevant to my interests and principles both

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#NFTumblcryptids

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Stormwind ("Chihayafuru")

view on DeviantArt

“I can’t play karuta anymore. All 100 cards look completely black to me now”.

or Taichi as i see him after all the angst we’ve been through - wounded almost to death yet standing up straight. Oh god this guy is gorgeous even in his deepest pain T_T

So yeah give me more angst, moooar! *disperses the ash of her kokoro*

The tanka in the right corner is the 69th poem of the Hyakunin Isshu, and i put the rest ramblings about poems under the cut:

Keep reading

#this is so gorgeous #he's so braaaave #chihayafuru #mashima taichi #bisexuality

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Why do we say that capitalism must be “dismantled”?

You’ll hear phrases like “Smash the state!” “Eat the rich!” and “Smash capitalism!”

And, yes, of course, but… :)

However relevant those sayings are, our work must be careful, highly organized and above all planned.

Because capitalism and all of its associated systems are not discrete, abstracted entities we can attack independently.

It is a structure, like a complicated machine with many thousands of working parts…

And right now it is connected to absolutely everything.

If we do this… [picks up huge hammer and smashes the machine]

Then a lot of vulnerable people will die.

The machine was built and improved and redesigned and patched over the course of generations. It is very good at its intended purpose, which is ultimately to generate profit.

Every human being alive today relies on the byproducts of the machine to survive, without exception.

The machine’s engineers want it to keep working like it does. In fact, they want to optimise it.

That will kill all remaining life on Earth.

So, we must destroy the machine, quickly and carefully

We must examine its deadly programs and mechanics and replace them with alternatives we built together.

The engineers don’t want us tampering with the machine.

However, we make it run…

So we can make it STOP. Together.

How will YOU help us to safely dismantle the machine?

iww.org

p.s. My computer is on its last legs. If you would like me to draw you a little cartoon and help me get a new computer, learn more at this post.

#important #dismantle capitalism

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so I think all three of the main characters in Chihayafuru are neruodivergent because just look at them but I specifically want to say

neurotic "gifted child" ADHD Mashima Taichi

- appears confident and accomplished, but never feels like he's good enough;

- can't see his own talents;

- needs personal connections to be able to dedicate himself to even something he likes;

- has a weakness of being susceptible to distractions but can also hyperfocus and hold 100 poems in his head at once;

- was thoughtless and boisterous as a child but has overcorrected to tightly masked quiet politeness as a teen;

- gets cripplingly anxious and self-sabotages;

- is really smart but makes impulsive foolish decisions

#chihayafuru #mashima taichi #adhd #headcanon

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ppl w adhd and autism reblog and add what texture is so awful it haunts your dreams its okay if its incredibly specific ill go first: scratching my nails on a car

#BITING FABRIC #any fabric #it makes my teeth so unhappy

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as someone with a doctorate in Education;

homework is fucking bullshit

this person is almost certainly onto something, but the other factor (or maybe the mechanism by which it’s achieved) is that teachers are asked to do more and more and more shit for larger class sizes. And they literally can’t fit it all into the day. 

Schools (in modern Western context) used to do like, the three Rs (reading, ‘riting, and ‘rithmatic) and maybe some songs, maybe some local crafts, maybe whatever the teacher was interested in. If you wanted a Well Rounded Education, with literature and languages and history and music and philosophy, you literally had a governess or tutor who could do that shit one-on-one or one-on-siblings or, later, you went to a really posh school for rich kids. And even 50 years ago, when general schools were definitely a thing, they were mostly aiming to prepare kids to be literate and numerate adults, not send every kid to higher education.

And now we’re like, okay, well, everyone should go to school (good) and be taught in groups (okay) and everyone should have the chance to go to college (good). So here’s 30 children in a room (uh oh) and one teacher (oh no) AND they should learn reading, writing, maths, literature, languages, science, geography, history, civics, sex education, maybe music and art and crafts, maybe home economics and woodwork, plus do 40 minutes of exercise, plus maybe a bunch of prayer and religious education, plus half of those subjects should be taught through project-work and group-work which take longer, plus everyone in the class should matriculate to higher education, plus there are at least a handful of kids in the room with disabilities or neurodevelopmental differences who may or may not be assessed or diagnosed or supported. And this one teacher is supposed to do all of that in fewer hours than a full time job, plus take the roll, answer a million questions, mix things up for festivals, do fire drills, etc.

Expectations for what school should provide to children in terms of education has massively expanded (good) but all those expectations are just landing in an increasingly overburdened and understaffed school system (very bad).

so a bunch of the work is shunted off into Homework

#I'm totally going to be that insufferable parent #who has a #Doctorate In Education #coming in with references and theoretical frameworks #to explain to my kids' teachers that they did not do their homework