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Room Update

I got married last week. And my husband had a trip planned out to visit his grandma because she was getting old and he was worried about her. His flight was scheduled for tomorrow but she passed two days ago, from covid.

He's still going on the trip, along with one of his friends. His friend is staying the night at our place because it's closer to the airport so I've been cleaning all day. I still have 2 hours to clean the bathroom but the "old bedroom now hangout room" is good enough.

#audhd #cleaning #decluttering #hoarding #depression mess #adhd #autism #hoarders #actually autistic #family death tw

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I have one room I feel happy in

we finished the floors! We still need to install the base boards and paint trim but it looks so good! Doesn't smell like piss! Not full of junk!

We're gonna finish and move the bed in over the weekend. This is our room!

#house remodeling #audhd #cleaning #decluttering #hoarding #adhd #autism #I'm happy at least a little bit #I love my partner #He did most of the floors

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also he cut his hair in the backyard and just left it there like a fucking monster

I'm stressed & trying not to lash out on my roommates so I'm posting here

Okay so I came home from work to my partner being upset about my roommates leaving trash all over the kitchen so he asked me to text them. Which I did and this is what I got back:

Why would that be the assumption? Last week they just left a bag of trash on the the kitchen floor, even though the bins were already in the garage.

Oh. And when I wasn't here to clean up after them it looked like this:

The assumption is that they WON'T pick up their trash if I don't say anything about it but go off I guess.

#I hate this #Hair #Shitty roommates #Vent #Angry post #Cleaning #Unsanitary #I hate living here

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I'm stressed & trying not to lash out on my roommates so I'm posting here

Okay so I came home from work to my partner being upset about my roommates leaving trash all over the kitchen so he asked me to text them. Which I did and this is what I got back:

Why would that be the assumption? Last week they just left a bag of trash on the the kitchen floor, even though the bins were already in the garage.

Oh. And when I wasn't here to clean up after them it looked like this:

The assumption is that they WON'T pick up their trash if I don't say anything about it but go off I guess.

ETA: literally NOTHING was stopping either of them from putting the bins in the garage. I even already pulled them off the street and they were right next to the garage door. I fixed the garage door like 6 years ago so if you push the button the garage door just opens. Like magic.

I feel like he was blaming the trash on me because I didn't put the bins in the garage but he could have. I'm the only one who takes the bins out on trash day. They could help out a little bit and bring them in. But Noooo.

#Vent #Angry post #Shitty roommates #Cleaning #Unsanitary #I don't know what to fucking do #I hate living here #I'm trapped #I'm on night shifts this week so I get home in the morning rn

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I started cleaning the kitchen over the weekend

Everything in the sink was covered in mold. Black slime?? The bottom of the sink was thick with it. I had to use s scraper to get it out. It was pretty gross. I'm not doing their dishes so I just put them in a big tote on the floor.

When I lived here before, I just started cooking in my bedroom because everything downstairs smelled like dog pee. When I stopped cleaning up after my roommates it got like this downstairs. (Actually it was worse)

My partner wants to get the kitchen usable again. It's bullshit that I was confined to one room of the house for so long and I'm slowly trying to regain space again instead of hiding away. I haven't tackled the cabinets yet. There's nowhere to even put clean dishes because the cabinets are full of their food now :(

I think my stove top may be ruined forever because I couldn't get the 5 years worth of burnt on food to come off :(

Got this text from my partner while I was at work last night, which.. . I really need to figure out what to do for the long term. I might call my real estate agent and ask for advice so I can find a way to move out in the future. Or kick them out. We've put so much money & effort into fixing the upstairs but I don't want to keep the house because I'm terrified of what they've done to the basement.

We have to stay here for now, for financial reasons. Rent is crazy high everywhere, buying a different house is unattainable with the current market. But I don't want to live with these people.

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #cleaning #depression mess #adhd #autism #hoarders #unsanitary #Kitchen cleaning #Worst roommates ever #Bad living situation

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we painted the floor!

we also pulled out the base boards. We're hoping to paint the walls and start installing the new floors on Sunday.

It's been a few days and the room smells pretty strongly of paint. We had to use oil based primer because that's the best thing for getting rid of bad smells.

I do not have money for this but what else can I do? We need the house livable. I still haven't gotten to the kitchen. We're eating out way too much. Living here is a nightmare and it's been so expensive to fix. My roommates have not helped out at all, not with cleaning or paying for supplies to clean up their mess.

I'm about to get a pay cut at work and I'm so stressed out about it. We've been watching a lot of Caleb Hammer's Financial Audit and I've been feeling guilty about eating out constantly and having so much debt and now I'm going to have to use credit cards to pay for new flooring 😭 I don't have an emergency fund yet.

#home repair #hoarding #cleaning #decluttering #depression mess #actually autistic #autism #audhd #Credit card debt

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it actually smells better

this is the room my roommates locked their dog in when she was a puppy and let her pee all over the carpet. My partner and I tore out all the carpet and have been trying to get the pee smell out.

Our first attempt was with Nature's Miracle. It just made everything smell like perfume for a while and the pee smell kept coming back. I got it because it was readily available locally at stores.

But then someone recommended My Pet Peed (only available online) after I was complaining about my roommates' dog peeing on my tile floors on Facebook. (Yeah, they also let the dog pee all over the tile downstairs so it's not just this carpet)

It took two applications but the smell is gone!! It hasn't gotten any of the stains out of the wood (all their ads say it will) but we're painting it over with oil based primer (I wanted Kilz but I bought a different brand because it came in a bigger bucket) and then putting new floors in anyway so I don't care about the stains. It also got rid of the perfume smell from the Nature's Miracle!

I think we are going to fix this room up as a bedroom now. My partner didn't believe we'd ever get the smell out fully but we did!

#audhd #cleaning #hoarding #decluttering #Nightmare roommates #My pet peed #Unsanitary #Not sponsored #I wish there was smell-o-vision so y'all could fully appreciate the improvement of this room #deep cleaning

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reality check

I was planning on using the spare room as our bedroom and my old room more like a living room/kitchen area but I talked about it with my partner and he was just like "why?" And I really had to rethink it.

My partner wants to use my old room as our room because it's the one room in the house that doesn't smell like pee and wants to fix up the kitchen so we can use it. We're still trying to get the urine smell out of the small spare room. I just sprayed the walls and floors with My Pet Peed so well find out soon if it lives up to the hype.

I'd been isolating myself in my bedroom for so long I forgot how fucked it is that I can't use the rest of my house. I shouldn't have to cook in my bedroom. What the fuck. My roommates ruined the house.

I've been way too forgiving because I know they struggle with mental illness. But it's fucked that they made the house unhealthy for their pets and me to live in. We should have called animal control. My partner says they're abusing me by neglecting their pets and making the house a biohazard. I never thought of it that way and I'm having a major paradigm shift.

I struggle with mental health too and I NEVER made my dog & cat live in their own piss and shit.

Anyway, I gotta get on clearing out my room so we can use it as a bedroom. It's still so full of stuff.

#Abuse and neglect #audhd #decluttering #hoarding #cleaning #depression mess #adhd #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #Animal abuse #My pet peed

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well shit

Our lease ended yesterday, I didn't finish cleaning the house. I feel like such a failure.

I've been packing and moving for the past three days. We stayed in a hotel last night and I have to make room for a bed so we can sleep in the house tonight. My partner couldn't get time off work so we were up until 3am every night moving and he's basically dying of sleep deprivation. This has been one the most stressful weeks of my life.

We tore the carpet out of the room I want to use as our bedroom. I sprayed it down with enzyme cleaner and we need to paint the subfloor with kilz before we put new carpet in.

We also have a giant lizard cage in the room I need to temporarily set the bed up in (my old room is the only one that doesn't smell like pee because I don't let my roommate's dog in there) so I'm struggling to make space for the bed.

Our entire two bedroom apartment is in the garage right now.

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #cleaning #depression mess #adhd #autism #Moving #burnt out #stress

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I finally got back to the house

I went through the massive pile of books on top of my dresser. I had two trash bags of hardcovers to throw out (can't recycle hard covers), two bins of paperback that went to recycling, and one box that went to donation to the library.

A lot of the books I got rid of were either damaged or outdated. Everything that was good quality went to the library.

My partner and I also tore out the carpet my roommate's dog pissed on out of the first spare room that we want to use as our bedroom. I want to hire someone to install the new carpet so it gets done before we move in but he's very insistent on doing it himself. His only day off is Tuesday and I'm on night shifts this week & working on his day off. Next week we move in. When are we going to get this carpet done??

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #cleaning #depression mess #adhd #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #diy projects

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I basically didn't do anything

I went to the house for the first time in about 3 weeks. I got stressed out and felt sick so I ended up just going back to the apartment to play video games.

I moved a few things around but didn't get rid of anything. I did get my mail that I needed at least.

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #cleaning #depression mess #adhd #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #Doom room

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I'm having a bad mental health day

I'm really struggling to do anything. I'm not even going to the house today because I need a break. I'm trying to take it easy so I can calm down. I did some Journaling when I woke up. I stopped by my partner's work to visit with him and bring him lunch and I did some shopping. I thought getting out and doing stuff would help me feel less depressed but it didn't. I took a shower and I'm gonna nap after I post this. Maybe that will help.

CW: angry rant after the cut

I was up all last night and couldn't sleep because I was thinking about how angry I am with my roommates.

This entire floor was covered in piss & shit with paper towels cemented to the tile. My roommate kept saying he would clean it up. Did he? No!! My partner and I did. I spent like $200 on cleaning supplies, he had everything he needed to clean. He said he was going to but days went by and nothing. He said he would clean on Tuesday and we came back Sunday and nothing was done. My partner couldn't be in the house because of the smell so we cleaned it ourselves. It still smells like urine but not as overpowering as it was 😢

I'm just tired of being the one doing 95% of the cleaning. I did ALL of the cleaning the first two years we lived together. After I stopped cleaning up after them everything went to shit. I haven't used the kitchen in 5 years because it smells like urine. And they never cleaned it.

The basement was flooding last year and the plumber refused to come in the house. I wasn't even living there, I was with my partner in his apartment. And I'm still the one that cleaned the kitchen and the laundry room.

The other roommate always says thank you and tells me how great it looks and I HATE that. I don't care that you're grateful. I don't want to always be the one doing the cleaning. I work more hours and have a harder job. I haven't lived in the house for the past two years. Clean up your own fucking mess. I don't want praise. I want them to clean up their own shit.

Talking to them does nothing. They say they'll clean up but they DON'T. I swear I'm gonna start charging them $75/hr to clean up after them and just take the money from the household account idc.

I'm scared to live in the house again. I was so depressed living there before, things got REALLY bad. It'll probably be better this time because my partner will be there to support me. My partner keeps telling me it will be okay. But I'm still scared. I keep having break downs and crying if I think about it too much.

And my partner's mad too. He thinks my roommates shouldn't have a dog if they can't take care of it. But the dog is extremely reactive and wouldn't be able to be rehomedso he's not going to say anything to my roommates about that. My partner is going to try to work with training the dog since my roommates haven't. He feels absolutely terrible that this dog has been forced to live in her own urine and feces. It's unsanitary and cruel. My partner is also worried that the urine soaked through the grout and damaged the foundation of the house.

I don't even know how my roommates' cats are because they stay in their room. But my roommates always smell like cat pee and it's a little bit embarrassing for me to be around them in public.

I don't even know what to do except keep cleaning. Next week. Not today.

#Depression #Rant #Vent post #Personal vent #Vent #Anger #depression mess #cleaning #audhd #Self care #How do I stop feeling angry?? #How do I get out? I feel trapped #reactive dog #Unsanitary #Animal neglect #ND household #Cleaning #I am broken #Personal

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I worked on the two spare bedrooms today

This first spare room is what I want to set up as my partner's and my bedroom. The mini fridge needs to be thrown out but it is kinda heavy and I don't know where to take it to get rid of. I'm gonna steam clean that couch and put the covers on it tomorrow.

I plan on replacing the carpet before we move in. I meant to tear out the carpet while we still had the dumpster but I ran out of time. My roommates used to keep their puppy in this room so the carpet is covered in piss like the kitchen and living room were 😭😭😭😭

Most of the stuff in here was trash and I moved all my roommates' stuff into the other spare bedroom. I took all my stuff out of the 2nd spare room and just reorganized my roommates' stuff because I'm not comfortable throwing out anything that isn't mine.

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #adhd #depression mess #cleaning #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #Before and after

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I'm very grateful for my partner

He's spent 3 days helping me out with the house and he's coming back to help tomorrow. The first day was mainly getting furniture out to the dumpster. We completely filled it and I had to order a second one 🥲 R.I.P. my bank account.

Day two was getting trash out of the living room/kitchen and we cleaned the literal shit out of the floors. I wish I had taken photos of the floors but I forgot to with my partner there. My roommates haven't house trained their dog and also never cleaned up after her. The house is tolerable to be in now but still kinda smells like urine. The floors are like 80% done. We still need to go over them again and get under the fridge/oven/dishwasher. I'm hoping that gets rid of the rest of the smell. My partner and I talked about buying a large air purifier for the living room area.

Day 3 we cleared out the garage and part of one of the spare bedrooms upstairs. I don't have before/after photos of the garage either. I'm hoping to get that cleaned out & the carpet replaced so we can use it as a bedroom and then my room as more of a living room area.

The dog is no longer allowed upstairs unsupervised and my partner is going to help my roommates with training. The floors shouldn't get that bad ever again. There's some biofilm on the floor so that's going to be tough to clean but it's better than it was.

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #adhd #depression mess #cleaning #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #Kitchen #I wish my roommates would help more because this is 100% their mess but I'm not surprised #Unsanitary #I can handle clutter but the piss & shit is a nightmare

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Bathtub Dishes

I washed all the dishes I had in the tub. Put the nice ones I don't want to keep in a box for donations. The ones I want to keep are still on the drying racks. Everything else went to the dumpster.

I got all the toiletries and stuff out of the shower too so that's all clean. I have all the personal hygiene stuff I need at the apartment & everything at the house is pretty old so I just got rid of it.

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #adhd #depression mess #cleaning #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #bathroom #Dishes

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hello, just found your blog today. my family house used to be in a similar state, and while it took many months, we eventually managed to get it tidy. you can do it! congrats on your progress so far :)

Thank you! It's definitely taking a lot longer than I thought it would to clean out and I only have a little over a month before my partner and I move into the house so it's been stressful.

But I am making progress. I have to keep reminding myself it took 7 years to make this mess so it's not going to get cleaned in a week.

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Laundry Time

So I ended up just doing laundry myself because I'm too lazy to drive out to the laundry service. And doing laundry at home is basically free lol. I got four loads washed that are going straight to donation.

Also I donated everything in my dresser that was already clean yesterday. It was two bags worth of stuff. Doesn't really make good progress photos but my dresser is empty.

What I have left is bedding, towels, and expensive clothes. I'm going to donate most of the blankets because I'm going to move from a twin size bed to a full size so they're no longer needed. I'm gonna miss my 100% linen sheets though 🥲 There's a couple of throw blankets I want to keep. I'll probably get rid of half the towels.

I think most of the expensive clothes are going to be too small for me so I'm going to get those cleaned and take them out to a consignment shop and try to get some money out of them.

Before & After

#audhd #decluttering #hoarding #adhd #depression mess #cleaning #hoarders #autism #actually autistic #Clothing #Laundry