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Oh btw if you say you support introjects but are weird about factives of bad people you actually don't support introjects thanks for coming to my ted talk. Don't be assholes thanks

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anyone wanna lay down on my cool table? yeah haha no those leather straps are from the previous owner. oh that table with needles and medical supplies? oh thats nothing lol thats just decoration. yeah hop up onto my table im not gonna do anything. what do you mean "why are you holding a syringe"? its nothing. yeah no youre fine i just wannaa see your inner elbow, no reason

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really feeling the weight of the mundane lately. might start performing unethical experiments on myself for fun

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the 'having a fun little daydream world as a child' to "i rely so much upon escapism to escape from the monotony of life that days seem to pass too quickly and sometimes i don't feel real" pipeline

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Comic 1

Thanks I suppose?

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have you ever felt so blurry and dissociative you ignore all system shit simply to exist but Simply Existing hurts because ears ringing head hurts everything is tingly nothing is real and everyone i interact with feels like a stranger and a friend at the same time to the point where people interacting with me and talking to me like they know and are close with me is weird but i also dont feel like someone else and people who dont know youre a system arent even aware you Dont Feel Real so you feel gross whenever they look at you and i feel like nothing and everything andOh hey is that the solar eclipse

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Grounding Techniques

We often mention and recommend grounding on this blog as a way to help folks who feel dissociated, overwhelmed, anxious, dazed, blurry, or disconnected. But we don’t have a post specifically compiling grounding techniques, so we decided to make one! Here are a few things our system does to ground ourselves when we’re feeling out of it.

Breathe!

Breathe in deep through your nose for 4 seconds, filling up your chest and belly with air, then exhale through your mouth for 7 seconds. Rinse and repeat - we usually do this 4-6 times in order to gain a bit more clarity or calm down.

The following clip can also be used - feel free to save this and breathe along with it to help calm down!

(Description:) A short clip of a small line expanding into a triangle, square, pentagon, adding sides up to an octagon with the prompt “Breathe in,” then shrinking back down to a small line with the prompt “Breathe out” over a period of nine seconds (End Description.)

4-3-2-1

Try to notice and pay attention to your surroundings. List 4 things you can see, 3 things you can feel, 2 things you can hear, and 1 thing you can taste or smell. You could also do 5-4-3-2-1 for sight, touch, sound, smell, and taste!

Sharp Experiences

Pull yourself out of a spiral, bring your focus on the present, or gain some sensation if you’re dissociating with a sharp experience. Hold a piece of ice or eat a lemon slice our a sour candy. Our system carries Warhead candies to help ground ourselves with sharp experiences.

Observations

Notice all sorts of things around you - clothes, furniture, utensils, anything within reach that you can safely touch. What is the texture like? Is anything soft, rough, smooth, hard, cool, or bumpy? What does it look like? Can you name some specific colors or shapes that you see? Try to be as specific with your observations as you can.

Take a walk

Take a short walk outside or around your current space. Try to notice how your body feels as you move. Count the steps that you take. Look at everything around you, and notice how what you see and hear changes with your movement.

Centering Statements

A centering statement can be a great way to help ground yourself in the present moment in time and space. You can write your statement down beforehand and take a look at it whenever you need, filling in the gaps for your present moment and situation. The centering statement our system uses these days says:

“My name is [system member]. I am a part of the Halberd Crew. I am [age] years old. I have [physical features]. The date is [date] and the time is [time]. I am in [physical location]. If I need help, I can contact [partner system] at [phone number].”

REST

While this may work for grounding when dissociated, this strategy is more intended for calming down when overwhelmed. We’ve covered this technique in detail in a previous post, which we’ll link HERE (<- hyperlink).

This pretty much sums up the grounding techniques that various members of our system use in order to help themselves when feeling disconnected or frazzled. We hope something here can be of some use to someone out there! Remember to look after yourselves to the best of your ability, and use some of these techniques to help ground yourself if you need to in the future. Thanks so much for reading, and take care!

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I think we all know tons of system experiences such as being introject/fictive heavy, or having a well-made innerworld, or have active inner-conversations..

But let's normalize not having introject dominant alters in a system,

Normalize not having innerworlds stereotypically,

Normalize having silent periods despite being plural,

Normalize change of hosts, or others who interacts outside with the world,

Normalize change of roles, that can happen for reasons,

Normalize having parts that doesn't front or contribute much,

Normalize not fitting to any roles that are mainly depicted (host, etc),

Normalize smaller headmate count of a system,

Normalize experiencing difficulties communicating between parts, some are not naturally having this aspect perfect right off the bat and need to practice a lot,

Normalize having difficult alters, they're not a burden and needs lots of care and patience,

Normalize having ups and downs as in feeling blurry or doing a bit worser with internal communication that fluctuates throughout the days,

Normalize not knowing who you are when you wake up,

And lastly, normalize your own system experiences because many always asks for assurance or fear of faking (even if it is helpful once in a while), even if learning to accept them without doubt can be something difficult to achieve, everything you experience is still as real even if you think it doesn't fit the image of what a system should be like,

We should normalize about anything else that is not usually potrayed or talked about.

What else needs to be normalized more? Let's make the list longer!

- j

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i <3 you weird alters. be weirder.

#did osdd #did system #plural system #sysblr #actually plural #system stuff #traumagenic #traumagenic system #system positivity #osdd

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#did osdd #did system #sysblr #dissociative identity disorder #actually dissociative #actually did #did alter

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one of the most important things about dissociative identity disorder and generally being a system that i wish people would understand is that it truly isn’t as cut and dry as it may seem for member count.

you’ll see people who say they have “six alters” and then immediately assume it’s six fully fleshed out equal individuals with no confusion or fuzziness regarding identity. that’s simply not true in a majority of cases, as i have seen.

most systems still VERY much deal with confusion regarding potential splits, go through dissociative episodes where they’re unsure of who they are, sometimes feel no attachment towards any identities, feel like they might have split and then suddenly that person is gone, unsure if alters they haven’t heard from often have gone dormant, not sure how to react when alters do come out of dormancy, etc.

it’s not a fun feeling and it’s genuinely unfair in certain situations to force systems to list every single alter to you with full certainty, as if it will never change. because it will. for so many different reasons, systems will grow, they will shrink, they will fuse, they will develop. you can’t expect the person with the dissociative disorder and lack of core identity to be able to keep up a perfected list of forever, it’s simply impossible. you may have alters who stick with you, but that doesn’t mean changes won’t happen.

and systems who may be reading this — please don’t feel bad. you are not a hassle, you are not a headache, and you are not an inconvenience for simply coping with something like this. it’s out of your control and the only thing you can do is continue to cope to find ways to help yourself retrain from these reactions. please don’t allow yourself to be harmed by others who don’t understand what you are going through. there are people who will accept and love you for who you are, all of you.

past, present, and future.

#did osdd #did system #plural system #sysblr #actually plural #system stuff #traumagenic #traumagenic system #system positivity #osdd #system community #dissociative system #osddid #actually did #actually dissociative #dissociative identity disorder

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- finn.

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WEBCORE PRNS & TITLES . . . for anon!

click/clicks . flicker/flickers . web/webs . tech/techs . www/www's . http/https . code/codes . cyber/cybers . digi/digital/digitals . glitch/glitches . error/errors . virus/viruses . .exe/.exe's . wire/wires . virtual/virtuals . program/programs . byte/bytes . static/statics . 0/0s . 1/1s . 01/01s . screen/screens . cursor/cursors . file/files . net/nets

the one behind/inside the screen . the glitching/cyber/digital one . the virus . (name).exe/.png/.com/.mp3/.mp4/ect . the wired one . the one tangled in wires/code . the one created by a code/a program . the program . they* who click endlessly . the one blurred by static . the (annoying) pop-up (window) . they* who keep opening and closing tabs

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i love being out of the loop. i do not need to be updated on situations that do not concern me.

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Undiagnosed systemhood is

Thinking you just have no sense of self, and that's why your "personality" keeps changing.

Feeling like you're watching someone else operate your body, with no idea how or why.

Having strange deja vu moments where you feel like you've done something, but you don't remember any specific details.

Feeling like years of your life weren't actually lived by you, but by someone else that still exists somewhere in you.

Saying things that you can't control or don't agree with and not being able to do anything to fix it.

Feeling like you don't belong in your body, like you aren't actually you.