alloaro-azelf

[alloaro-azelf]

yes there are the horrors but at least im aro

#fair enough #it may not alway be fun but at least I know I'm the coolest bitch in the room /j #aro #aromantic

[alloaro-azelf]

Aromantic awareness week!!!!

#aro #aromantic #aromanticism

[alloaro-azelf]

hey, how do you know if you're attracted to someone?

if you're talking romantic attraction, fuck if I know. if you're talking sexual attraction, basically if the thought "man, I'd gladly have sex with them" appears in my head, then I know I'm attracted 👍

#idk if this sounds too straightforward but I don't really have anything else to say lol #I always find it a bit funny when someone asks an aro person about attraction. I'll give anon the benefit of the doubt that this isn't abou #romantic attraction. so I just guessed that sexual attraction is what they were talking about. given my blog's theme. #alloaro #aroallo #answered

[alloaro-azelf]

AroAllo based moodboard! (Hope this is what you wanted!) For @daybringersol :) Hope you like the look!

Want one? Send an ask!! -mod Jay

#aroallo #alloaro #aromantic #aro

[alloaro-azelf]

holy shit, I can't believe my post got recognized :0

tell me you’re aromantic without telling me you’re aromantic. I’ll go first. I know what the word amatonormativity means.

#this is wild to me. almost certainly my most notable post on this site :0 #I've had a handful of other posts with more notes but getting an Official rating on a post is ✨✨✨ #aromantic #aro

[alloaro-azelf]

fun fact about me: ninjago is the series I'm totally not normal about

anyhow, I had an aromantic moment and was talking to the void on discord about jaya. bc I don't hate jaya entirely and I was wondering why that works since I'm romance repulsed. so the following is just my musings

I'm sharing here in case anyone is interested to see my take. it's kinda long tho, so it's going under a cut.

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plain text version:

I think the reason I can stand jaya (given that I generally hate romance but their relationship [is] a big part of the ninjago series) is that it feels dramaticized. like, the way jay expressed his affection for her has always felt dramatic because it is, especially in early seasons. it was meant to be over the top for the longest time. also, nya didn't properly reciprocate for the longest time, too. and that made it bearable, I think. it was just jay pining. later in the series, it definitely got more real, but idk. I even kinda enjoy it now. nya isn't very explicit about her feelings for jay, kai is a supportive brother in law, and jay often still feels dramaticized to me. [their] late season actions are probably standard bc I view pretty much all romance-coded acts as dramatic, but those three factors all help make it more bearable. and there's a lot of character development and hurt/comfort that the dynamic has to offer in combination with the found family element. so yeah, at times I do enjoy jaya. I'd definitely be fine if they never got together and I often see them as individuals than as a couple, but they can be cute. there are definitely times I get angry or disgusted at the portrayal of the relationship (both in canon and fanon), but like, they're okay :)

I'm not sure if I've ever really tolerated a fictional relationship this well before. I feel like there was one other time that I'm blanking on, but it's rare

it is funny tho how at best I think of their relationship as tolerable and dramaticized lol #romance-repulsed-aro 😅

one other reason!! they literally established the interest immediately. it's not like they changed jay's character by putting him in a relationship. I was given the terms and conditions of his character upfront and I chose to accept it. a romantic interest was not shoved upon him after the fact and I appreciate that.

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NOTE: this is definitely a more intricate topic that I don't have the mental capacity to fully articulate over text, but these general sentiments are probably the foundation for why it works with my brain

other factors might be: jay is my blorbo, I'm a major fan of whumpees and hurt/comfort which is really easy bc of skybound and seabound specifically, kai's characterization regarding their whole relationship is something I'm very partial to for some reason (yes s1 to s10 to s15), the way nya is outwardly less romantically inclined than jay, etc etc etc

#aromantic #aro #arospec #romance repulsed #apothiromantic #unassorted collections

[alloaro-azelf]

aroallo pride art :D

#aromantic #aro #aroallo #alloaro

[alloaro-azelf]

my best friend (international) recently let me know that her boyfriend feels kinda threatened by me. I don't know exactly how he feels because I didn't get the whole story, but I was told a few things that made her boyfriend nervous. and it sucks. I think he trusts that I'm a good guy and don't intend to harm her, so the only other logical reasoning is that he thinks I might steal his girlfriend away from him.

it's making me feel like I can't interact with my friend in the same way I used to. I'm more reluctant to use heart emojis with her or to say I love her (/p) or make dirty jokes or even just stay on call with her too long. becuase now I worry that I'm imposing, even though I never worried about any of it before.

she and I are part of a larger friend group, and that's just how the whole group is. we all complement and flirt and have occasional nsfw discussions with each other among other things. it's just how the friend group is. and I feel like I crossed a boundary I didn't even know was there. it makes me feel confused, and I don't want to feel like I did something wrong.

I know her boyfreind is entitled to his emotions, but I wish he could see her from my eyes for just a second to know that I'm really not trying anything deceptive. we're friends, and I cherish her... yes, more than anyone else, but not like that...

#alloaro #aroallo #aro #aromantic #aromanticism #azelf’s irl rambles

[alloaro-azelf]

aroallo culture is being fine with finding your friends hot, while being respectful of course and only would engage only if they would also be interested,but at the same time getting worried to overstep some boundaries by just finding them attractive

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#alloaro #aromantic #aroallo #aro #oh yeah this is very real #tbh I'd be willing to do the deed with basically any of my close friends but I'd never want to make them uncomfortable by bringing it up #but sometimes I feel dirty for even thinking of them that way #I just trust them

[alloaro-azelf]

happy aro week from this aro bird

#aro #alloaro #aroallo #aromantic

[alloaro-azelf]

as someone who's aromantic but very allosexual I just feel like queer people and allies who get up in arms at the idea of people fucking their friends and remaining completely platonic friends just really aren't the type of people who are gonna be actual allies to me. Like idk I don't think sex has to be some special intimate thing and I just think its age old conservative dogma being used to shame people this time just coming from people who claim to be more progressive. its dumb. its just "save sex till marriage or else you're impure" again.

[alloaro-azelf]

youre aro heart cards are so sweet 💚 would we be able to get some aroallo and non-SAM aro ones too for the homies?? ✨

Of course :]

Here is both aroallo (doesn't experience romantic attraction but does experience sexual attraction) and non-SAM aro (is simply and only aromantic). I actually learned about non-SAM aro from this; I found it very cool

If anybody wants, you can find the other ones here. Happy valentines day :]

#aromantic #aro #non sam aro #aromanticism

[alloaro-azelf]

Little Guy Number 50: alloaro butterfly

#alloaro #aroallo #aro #aromantic #aromanticism

[alloaro-azelf]

Hi, I am confused as to what romance-repulsed means in the context of also being allosexual - where's the difference between being close, fwb, a non-romatic relationship, . I guess I'd really just like to understand what romance repulsed includes and excluded for you :)

thank you for the curious ask! the nuance of these terms differs slightly depending on who you ask, but I find the way I use these words in different contexts can be very helpful to let me express pretty uniquely alloaro experiences

being close - any person I feel safe enough around to speak freely and be myself with; someone I am willing to tell personal and current details about my life as they occur; and someone I'm willing to go to for advice / help about major issues

fwb - literally just friends but with sexy times hehe. a fwb arrangement could also be exclusively sexual without platonic ties, but for me, friendship is necessary to build that trust and respect

non-romantic relationship - any ongoing interpersonal relationship that is explicitly not romantic. (friendships, acquaintanceships, collegiate, familiar strangers, etc). I know lots of people say this to refer to qprs or other life-long committed partnerships, but my definition is definitely broader and more detached than most,,, I'll direct you to this post I've made in the past to better explain my understanding of "relationships"

I think I answered your question, but if there's anything more your interested to know about, just let me know ^_^

#aro #aromanticism #aromantic #aroallo #alloaro #answered

[alloaro-azelf]

to the anon that responded to my psychosis post (now deleted), thank you. I'd never heard of what you mentioned, and it is something to consider. I'm still trying to process it all, but getting some feedback does feel encouraging if nothing else :)

#answered

[alloaro-azelf]

sometimes i wish i felt normal about romance

#aro #aromantic #I don't need purpose like the person in the drawing. but I do feel this way about just being misunderstood and lonely #it's maddening that others just can't understand and I often feel like I wanna curl into a ball and crush my head due to the frustration #and I want to feel normal #so I do relate to this vent piece but just a bit differently than op intended I suppose

[alloaro-azelf]

I forgot to say this when it happened, but my aromanticism showed itself on valentine's day. I told someone, "oh, I have plans for the night," and I was absolutely shocked when the person expressed disappointment after learning the plan was just a (recurring) movie night with friends. they thought I was going on a date, meanwhile I forgot that saying "I have plans tonight" on a valentine's day means something entirely different to alloros. the person proceeded to prod at me the next few minutes about the details of the get-together, but they gave up after realizing that it legitimately was just a movie night with friends

#aromantic #aro #aspec #aromanticism #valentine's day #azelf’s irl rambles