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Stephany L

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you are so much more than that failed test. that interview gone wrong, your relapse, the missed opportunities, the words you wish you could take back. you are not your mistakes. you're a person who's trying. there are so many opportunities to make things right. you'll get there, even if it takes a few more tries.

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(love you. hope your day is gentle.)

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if you’re struggling lately, i hope this reaches you.

we will be okay. you will be okay. you will grow and evolve and heal. you will enjoy life again even if it’s not the same as it was the last time you were happy. you will live your life not feeling stuck. you will do more than survive. you will thrive.

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Self Reminders

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This year, you should work on being more proud of yourself and stop criticizing yourself so much. You can always find something wrong, but what about all the good things you have done, the improvements you have going on ? Focus on that more.

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Hi, idk if this is the right place to ask..

I wanted to know if there's any advice you would give to help someone w an ed, where they are restrictive and have dysmorphia.

I've got a person close to me who's having a hard time eating, and I'm trying to understand and be helpful/supportive but idk what to do or if I'm doing anything right/helping much at all. I don't trust the stuff that first pops up on google to be good advice and I'd rather get something from people who personally understand.

I have ARFID, which isn't focused on the body in the same way other eds are, and so I can kinda understand the person's difficulty and have an intuition on how to be there for them, but I also kinda don't fully understand so i'm looking to see if there are any people on tumblr that can advise me on this.

Thanks if you do choose to answer

🌸Hi, thanks for your question. I am so sorry for the late response but here’s my take on this:

In order to be supportive for your friend who is restrictive and has dysmorphia i like to think it starts with vocabulary/diction.

Sure, you can have full on convos with your friend about ed topics but that’s not as realistic as changing your vocab to be more supportive of her recovery.

Dysmorphia——

For example: stray away from harmful phrasing when talking about appearances. Instead, encourage confidence in the way your friend looks. “I like your outfit, your hair is nice, your skin is glowing” etc.

Restriction——

For example: Encourage to eat meals that are fulfilling during appropriate meal times. Like going out to eat or cooking a meal together.

My experiences with restriction taught me that I might count calories or see the size of food and panic that it might be too much for me. If you have an understanding of why your friend restricts, maybe guide them towards meals that help discourage those thoughts.

Disclaimer: do NOT suggest diet changes without consulting professional resources first :)

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Hope this helps!

~ whispy

#eating disoder recovery #recovery #mental health #disordered eating thoughts #body postitive #eating disoder trigger warning #ed recovery #recovery focused #calorie restriction #caloric intake #nutrition #food restriction #ed symptoms

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Yes yes and yes.

Funnily enough, my ed feels separate from my social anxiety.

Mentalhealthceo

#eating disoder recovery #emotional abuse #mental health #recovery

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I can’t tell if inflation is helping or hurting my ed. I’m too broke to buy food so now I have to be extra conscious of what foods to get lol.

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#eating disoder recovery #recovery #mental health #disordered eating thoughts #body postitive #eating disoder trigger warning #ed recovery #recovery focused

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My first thanksgiving where my plate has less good on it.

I’m so used to having loads of food to stuff into my stomach and go into a nice food coma. But after being in recovery, THAT feels uncomfy for me.

I grabbed a portion of each food I wanted, ate what I wanted, and didn’t feel guilty or bloated afterwards.

I had a Ghost Plate that felt heavier than it actually was. I just felt like wayyyy more food should have been on it than there was.

It weirded me out at first but I got over it.

🌸Here’s to more plates and pacing my meals appropriately to my diet :)✨💕

~whispy

Ghost Plate

Noun; Adjective

Describing a plate that feels like it should have more food on it but in reality it doesn’t.

A plate of food feels like there’s more on it than there actually is.

Examples:

“I feel like I have a ghost plate”

“Your plate looks like a ghost plate”

#ed recovery #recovery focused #ed support #ed symptoms #body image #body dysmorphia #eating anxiety #holiday #ed motivation #thanksgiving

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Ghost Plate

Noun; Adjective

Describing a plate that feels like it should have more food on it but in reality it doesn’t.

A plate of food feels like there’s more on it than there actually is.

Examples:

“I feel like I have a ghost plate”

“Your plate looks like a ghost plate”

#eating disoder recovery #recovery #mental health #disordered eating thoughts #body postitive #eating disoder trigger warning

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Some things you should remind yourself daily

Your tummy is great

You have really nice legs

You have a really beautiful face

Your hair looks rad

You’re good enough

Your body is 100% normal and acceptable.

It’s yours and you should decorate it how you want

You’re hella cute

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Happy Thanksgiving to all who observe and Celebrate.

Remember:

• It’s ok to be full

• It’s ok to say no to more food

• It’s ok to have any size plate

• It’s ok to still be hungry

• It. Is. Ok :)❤️

#eating disoder recovery #recovery #mental health #disordered eating thoughts #body postitive #eating disoder trigger warning #thanksgiving #turkey #turkey day

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You're strong and courageous, more resilient than you think, more wonderful than you know. You're an amazing person, you look cute, you're adorable all around ♡

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Life CAN turn around. Things CAN be different. You CAN feel better. You CAN do some things you're scared of. Don't close the doors infront of you yourself.

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Sometimes, or maybe most times, when having an ed you completely shut down and neglect more than yourself. This neglect may be towards the people around you or, in this case, the environment you live in.

🌸 We all have to start somewhere🌸

~whispy

Hey, you are not an embarrassment for not knowing how to do certain household chores/basic self-care. They do not come naturally to us. A lot of it takes practice! Maybe you had a neglectful guardian. Maybe you had one that was very coddling and never thought to teach you. Maybe you haven't lived in a place where these things were available to you or needed. Doesn't matter. It's okay to not know and far more common than you might realise.

That said, this website provides very simple instructions on how to do everyday tasks such as making your bed, using a washing machine, cooking different foods, washing dishes, taking a shower, etc. All you have to do is use the search bar to find the task you're struggling with, and it'll come up with what you need + other related how-to's:)

If you're having trouble navigating it, let me provide you with some examples:

How to clean dishes by hand

How to make your bed (with visual demonstrations of each step!)

How to fold clothes (with visual demonstrations of each step!)

How to take a shower & dry yourself off (also provides ways to shave beards, armpits, legs and genitals)

How to shave legs, armpits, beards, pubic areas, etc. (a more in-depth guide)

How to mop the floor

How to sweep the floor

How to swallow pills

How to make small talk

How to make eye contact in different situations (or how to avoid it while still looking natural)

It's also perfectly okay if these don't help or aren't appealing to you. Unfortunately, nothing helps everyone.

#eating disoder recovery #recovery #mental health #disordered eating thoughts #body postitive #where will you start today

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Old post I relate to today 💙

I remember feeling scared in the kitchen out of fear that someone would come in and comment on my meal in an insulting way. I’d proceed to throw out the food and starve myself because I thought I didn’t deserve to eat at all.

Today that fear lingers but my confidence overcomes it. I have the voice to speak up and against the harmful comments that come from those closest to me.

It took years for me but it’s never too late to start. If you or someone you know struggles with an eating disorder or anxiety like this, know you’re not alone. It's ok to ask for help.

🌸🌸 You deserve(d) better. Keep going!

~ whispy

#its not fair #ed motivation