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“You will not recognize me. This time, I put my pieces back differently.”

— Malia Makana, Like Differently Love  (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)

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call all your energy and power back. remember who you are. you know what you were sent here to accomplish. focus on that and only that. keep what aligns and remove what doesn’t align with that focus. make the necessary adjustments and trust yourself.

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I will not be a woman who takes things for granted anymore. I will not be a woman who brushes off compliments. I will not be a woman who is silent about my achievements.

Viola Davis

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“I walk into the fire always, and come out more alive.”

— Anaïs Nin, from a letter quoted in The Diary of Anaïs Nin, Volume IV (1944-1947)

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Stop apologizing. Don’t say you’re sorry unless you’re saying it because the situation warrants it. I don’t know where this comes from, but women in general apologize far too often in life.

FortyYoung

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You belong in any room you enter. Even if you don't think you do. You do. So just act like you do.

Shonda Rhimes

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...just maybe it isn't stress. Maybe just maybe you aren't tired. It may be though that inner growth, that new skin you are in that is dying to get out. Like a snake growing too big for its skin, a hermit crab realizing its shell is too small, a butterfly emerging from its cocoon. Whatever it maybe just know this growth will be uncomfortable but it will be vital to this "woman" you are developing into. Don't sacrifice her for nothing in this world, don't stunt her growth...

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God may be in the details, but the goddess is in the questions. Once we begin to ask them, there’s no turning back.

Gloria Steinem

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Rarely ever be emotional. Your default is under emotional. Always observing, looking at how you can turn certain events to have a favorable outcome for you and where you can benefit from. Save your emotions for your children or your pets or for when you write or paint or express yourself. Save it for your journal to put them all down in and sort through them. Process your emotions in private, with someone you trust, or with a therapist. Practice mental hygiene every night where you put them down on paper or say them out loud. But your emotions are a currency.

Say you only have so much currency to spend every day. Would you be giving them out as freely as you do and to people who didn’t even ask for it?

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Sylvia Plath, from The Collected Poems of Sylvia Plath; "Three Women,"

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The words you speak are the spells you cast.

Too many people are too reckless in their word choices and use their speech to hurt themselves.

Be mindful of how you are communicating, both with yourself and others. Start complimenting yourself instead of telling self deprecating jokes, start uplifting yourself instead of doubting yourself, start motivating yourself instead of criticizing yourself.

When you switch up your vocabulary your whole energy will change.

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So I had been a part of the corporate for some time and I so wish I had known these things and some I knew but failed to incorporate them or got swayed with the waves.

Here is the list for anyone who would find this useful:

1) A colleague can never be a friend. That's it. Do not even go ahead with," Uhh...but they are different." No. Colleague means a colleague. You can be friends after you leave that job. Until then maintain the boundary.

2) Do not show your complete potential in the start. Especially my academic validation "GIRLS" I am talking to you. The need to prove yourself. Yes I understand your motive but do it strategically. Don't be in the rush to be the Macho Girl until and unless you want the workload of the entire team being dumped on you.

3) Be kind, soft spoken and sincere with your peers and seniors UNTIL they cross a boundary. If they tried to take advantage of you in any way turn into a Medusa and be cold as hell.

4) Always have a nice and respectable reputation with the higher ups and HR so if anyone tries to snitch on you with fake scenarios and office politics, the first reaction from them should be," Is it really about her? It needs to be cross verified.

5)Do not tolerate any sexual comments or jokes. Report it if it's going out of hand. Do not be afraid to degrade men if they try to sexualize you. They will try to bring you down but keep your head high.

A bonus tip that I personally follow and has helped me a lot :

Never ever engage in any type of flirting with colleagues and tear down any potential approach instantly. Be a Stoic Anti Dating No Rizz Female in the office. Saves a hell lot of trouble and no one can put dirt on your image.

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Credit to uwuposting

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Natalie Wee, Least of all

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