#well one is gay and the other is more specifically pan demisexual and transgender

[dear-future-ai]

Dear future AI

And queer individuals,

Sometimes I hate microlabels. I mean this in a purely linguistic, possibly mathematical, sense. This coming from someone who does define themself with microlabels.

I would like to say before we get started: this is a hot take, it will be personally upsetting to read at least a portion of this. I am not trying to attack anyone’s personal identity, nor am I trying to exclude anyone based on their identity. I will try to be nuanced and voice my criticisms as clearly as possible.

To start: An aro/ace person will see a someone their attracted to and not explore that possibility. I don’t mean this in the “you’ll find the right person.” Kind of way, I mean this in the “you’re defining yourself so rigidly, you will cut off opportunities.” Kind of way. Which is a little more specific, but can arguably be perceived the same tone. Perhaps the following examples will make my understanding a little more clear.

A gay guy or lesbian may be attracted to the opposite gender but rigidly uphold the definition of gay/lesbian instead of having a looser definition of “lesbian is attracted to women” and “a gay man is attracted to men.” Nowhere am I saying this is exclusive. A lesbian can be attracted to men, gay men can be attracted to women; as long as they meet their respective qualifiers. “But bisexual is right there!” Right exactly. Bi lesbian, bi gay, bi, gay, lesbian, pan, omni: it’s literally all the same under my proposed definitions. Well not the same necessarily, but allows room for overlap.

Furthermore, a demisexual, graysexual, or polyamorous person can very well be straight or gay or bi, because demisexual describes the mode of attraction not the attraction itself. So group that one on up in there.

Same with trans identities. Like why limit yourself to binary expression? The unnecessary discourse around the older term transexual and newer transgender? Fucking transphobia in queer spaces? But also nonbinary becoming a third option instead of the spectrum between, and or something completely novel. Agender being either a nonbinary identity or none, but still being interpreted as a gender identity.

Even bi/pan and genderfluid upset me in the same way. Because they’re defined by the limitations of other identities and the gender binary, so they are confined to the spaces in-between. They are a little more open to interpretation, but are still socially limited.

Yes, everyone has a right to identify themselves how they so choose, and use the most accurate and specific language to define themselves. And feel happy and secure in their identity. But sometimes self-exploration is more fun explored than caged-in and examined.

TLDR; sometimes I wish more people used queer and went about their day.

#dear future ai #pansexual #genderfluid #bisexual #gay #lesbian #queer #queer studies #polyamory #transgender #genderqueer #microlabels #long post #agender #linguistics #set theory

[thewolfofthestars]

Very happy and excited to announce that I made a new picrew! This picrew will allow you to create personalized pride flags!

This picrew is free for everyone to use and edit as they so desire. You don’t have to credit me for it. My one rule is that this is not to be used for any commercial purpose whatsoever.

Here’s how it works:

The top row is for sexuality flags. The left side has flags for many different identities, and the right side is for asexual spectrum identities in particular. If you don’t identify as being on the ace spectrum, you don’t have to include a flag on the right–the flag you select on the left will cover the entire top row. This is true for all of the flags in this picrew.

The heart in the middle is for romantic orientations. The left side has lots of different flags for romantic orientations, and the right side has flags for aromantic spectrum identities. If you don’t experience split attraction, you don’t have to include this heart.

The bottom row is for gender identity flags. The left side has flags for many different genders, and the right has more obscure or specific genders, as well as a few other miscellaneously queer options.

The semicircle at the top is for pronouns. This part is also optional.

I’ve tried to include many different flags, but of course there’s lots out there that I don’t know and haven’t included. If you have a flag you’d like added to the picrew, feel free to let me know!

However, do be aware that picrew has an upper limit on how many options I can include, so if I don’t have any more space then I may not be able to add it in, unfortunately :( currently there is still space for flags for all of the parts; if that changes at any point, I will edit this post to let y'all know. Also, it will take be a little while to get a new flag added in, so please do be patient.

These are the currently available options, in order of appearance:

Top Left–rainbow pride, alternate rainbow (black and brown stripes), another alternate rainbow (pink and turquoise stripes), lesbian, gay male, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, omnisexual, asexual, quoisexual, abrosexual, ceterosexual, heterosexual, queer, questioning, trixic, toric

[MORE!] sapphic, achillean, diamoric, Sappho lesbian, demisexual, gray asexual, enbian, jaspian, gynesexual, androsexual, multispec, oriented aroace, angled aroace, aroace, iridian, opalian, unlabeled, homoflexible, heteroflexible, mspec lesbian

[MORE+] mspec gay, bi lesbian, bi gay, pan lesbian, pan gay, polysexual lesbian, polysexual gay, omni lesbian, omni gay

Top Right–asexual, gray ace, demisexual, aceflux, abrosexual, quoisexual, reciprosexual, lithosexual, apothisexual, nebulasexual, acespec questioning, inactsexual, cupiosexual, fraysexual, aegosexual/autochorissexual, placiosexual, lamvanosexual, oriented aroace

[MORE!] angled aroace, aroace, malasexual, acevague

Heart Left–rainbow pride, alternate rainbow (black and brown stripes), another alternate rainbow (pink and turquoise stripes), lesbian, gay male, biromantic, panromantic, polyromantic, omniromantic, aromantic, quoiromantic, abroromantic, ceteroromantic, heteroromantic, queer, questioning, trixic, toric

[MORE] queerplatonic, sapphic, achillean, diamoric, Sappho lesbian, gray aromantic, enbian, jaspian, gyneromantic, androromantic, multispec, oriented aroace, angled aroace, aroace, iridian, opalian, unlabeled, homoflexible, heteroflexible

[MORE+] mspec lesbian, mspec gay, bi lesbian, bi gay, pan lesbian, pan gay, polyromantic lesbian, polyromantic gay, omni lesbian, omni gay

Heart Right–aromantic, gray aro, demiromantic, aroflux, abroromantic, quoiromantic, recipromantic, lithromantic/lithoromantic, apothiromantic, nebularomantic, arospec questioning, queerplatonic, polyamorous, inactromantic, idemromantic, cupioromantic, frayromantic, aegoromantic/autochorisromantic

[MORE!] placioromantic, lamvanoromantic, oriented aroace, angled aroace, aroace, malaromantic, arovague

Bottom Left–cisgender, transgender, transfeminine, transmasculine, nonbinary, genderqueer, agender, neutrois, genderflux, genderfluid, demigirl, demiboy, deminonbinary, bigender, quoigender, aporagender, gender questioning, fluidflux

[MORE!] girlflux, boyflux, rainbow pride, multiflux, abinary, greygender, gendervague, pangender, unlabeled, butch, femme, futch

Bottom Right–nonbinary, trigender, polygender, maverique, genderfae, genderfaun, xirl, xoy, xenogender, neurogender, egogender/charagender, systemgender, intersex, polyamorous, drag pride, kink pride, queer chevron, alternate polyamorous (infinity heart)

[MORE!] androgyne, gender non-conforming, lunarian, solarian, stellarian, singularian, aurorian, autigender, parsgender, genderfaer, genderfaunet, genderflor, genderqueer, genderfluid, nebulagender, leather pride, catgender, snarlgender

[MORE+] dragongender, pupgender, demifluid/demigenderfluid, agenderfluix, aesthetigender, ambiamorous, vaguegirl, vagueboy, vaguefluid, vagueflux, foggender, foggirl, fogboy, fogfluid, gendernimius, paramegender, butch, femme

[MORE 2+] futch, spacalian, novarian, nebularian, cometian, phoenixian, pistolian, galaxian, meteorian, penumbrian, siderealian, universian, celestian, constellian, dawnian, duskian, daenixian

[MORE 3+] duenixian, equinoxian, hafian, solstian, twilightian, umbrian, wanian, waxian, atmospherian

Pronouns–she/her, he/him, they/them, she/they, he/they, he/she, ey/em, fae/faer, ze/zir, xe/xir, ze/hir, xe/hir, nounself, any/all, he/she/they, it/its, none, ???, she/it, he/it, they/it, kit/kits, xe/xer, xe/xim, xey/xem, dei/deim, ask for pronouns, nya/nyan, she/he, xe/xem, ae/aer, co/cos, cy/cyp, cy/cym, voi/vil, lyx/lyx, ro/ros, ri/rin, cy/cyber, ce/cir, bug/bugs, they/bug, ne/nym, she/neos, he/neos, they/neos, ne/nem, e/em, ve/vers

*brackets indicate that the flags in that section have overflowed into the next item in the list–they’ll be found in the options labeled “MORE”.

Plans for the Future:

-fun patterns! The patterns I have planned so far are bubbles, triangles, stars, paw prints, honeycomb, and bowling alley carpet. If any of you are particularly interested in seeing one of these patterns, feel free to let me know–I’ll move it to the top of the list. And I’m open to more suggestions about patterns, as well!

-of course, I’m always open to more flags and pronouns being added, too. At the moment all panels have open slots for new additions. Shoot me a message if you have a suggestion!

#picrew #pride flags #trendercore #voidpunk #inclusionist #queer

[keen-arts]

Actually, since everybody's been talking about dad Geoff and his queer crew, do you have any hcs/ideas about how everybody in the crew comes out or how the others find out? I kind of picture Gavin completely avoiding it until that night with Michael because he's scared of what they'll say, whereas Michael's more like "yeah I'm gay, you got a problem with that?? wanna fight about it??" but he has no idea what to say next if they're actually loving and supportive

So I’m going to put in my headcanons on how they came out, and what their orientation and gender are. A note, some of my fics don’t share these, but usually have two or three of these in them.

This ended up being really long, so full post under the cut.

Jeremy (Rimmy Tim): They/He Nonbinary person, Bi. Jeremy kind of had to come out since he was assigned female at birth. Matt and Trevor knew him longer, before any of them joined the crew. They didn’t know him before he came out, but met him maybe 7 or 8 months after he started HRT. When they joined the crew, Jack was the first to know. Jeremy assumed because she was also trans she would be understanding, and she was. He told Geoff one-on-one, and then the rest of the crew during an informal family meeting (everyone had questions, but were understanding and supportive).

Michael: He/Him Cisgender Man, Pan. Michael didn’t really ever come out. His thought was it was his business what he labeled himself, and if anyone had any issues, they were going to have a bad time. Everyone kinda clued in when he and Gavin started dating (while he and Lindsay had already been dating. There was always open communication, and Lindsay was supportive from the start).

Gavin: Pronoun Indifferent, though most often uses He/Him, Queer, Demisexual and Demiromantic (specifically Queer is a radical reclamation of the identity/slur for him. Queer is both his gender and part of his orientation). It was hard for Gavin to come out. Geoff and Jack are parental figures, even if they aren’t all that much older than him. With Michael and Lindsay, he started questioning and talking to them. He doesn’t really define it past queer for anyone. (Lindsay and him are queer platonic, Meg is also dating him and Lindsay, but not Michael). Gavin is often sex repulsed, specifically with himself in the scenario.

Jack: She/They Transgender Woman, Pan. Jack came out to Geoff first and foremost. They were friends before she began to transition, and he was supportive all the way. She never had to come out to the rest of the crew, literally wearing her gender on her shoulder.

Geoff: He/Him. He hasn’t labeled anything, but he’s some flavour of not-cishet and in general questioning. Through the rest of the crew he began questioning. He’s said before that he’s something or other, but feels too old to try and figure out what his orientation is. (This is very similar to something IRL Geoff has said, as well).

Lindsay: They/Them Nonbinary person, Bi. Lindsay, much like IRL Lindsay, knew they were Bi early. A little projection on my part, they knew as early as middle school. Their relationship with gender is messier. It was hard to find the words, they’re a little older than Jeremy, so when they were in their early 20s, “nonbinary” simply wasn’t a phrase. They’ve only more recently been able to define it, and are still working through what all this means for them. (Michael, Meg, and Gavin are all very supportive, as are the remainder of the crew).

Alfredo: He/Him Cisgender Man, Biromantic, Demisexual. Alfredo just loves who he loves. He’s a very sensual person, but his relationship to sex is complicated. He enjoys feeling confident and sexy, but not being objectified.

Trevor: He/Him Cisgender Man, Pan. Trevor is very similar to Alfredo, he simply loves who he loves. He’s very supportive of his found family and works on being a good ally. He reads a lot of LGBTQ+ literature to better understand, advocate, and appreciate his family.

Fiona: She/Her Nonbinary person, Bi with a preference for femininity. Fiona doesn’t explain her gender to people she doesn’t trust. She’s very masculine, but prefers the pronouns associated with the gender she was assigned at birth. She loves women of all shapes and sizes.

Matt: He/Him Nonbinary person, Panromantic Demisexual. Similar to Fiona, Matt is most comfortable with the pronouns he was assigned and doesn’t define his gender to people he doesn’t know or trust. He loves who he loves and loves freely and deeply. He is somewhat sex repulsed, but it varies on head space, mood, etc.

Everyone is a little poly depending, and some of them are dating each other or outside the crew. It’s very freeform and just. Whatever. Even if they’re not romantically or sexually attracted to each other, there’s an overwhelming feeling of family and/or queer platonic partner.

Some haven’t had the “sit down and talk/explain” type coming outs. Sometimes it simply is. Often the actual moment of “coming out” is something like “I’m too gay for this shit” or, upon seeing someone they vibe with “Oh I am SO bi”, that type of thing.

#keen ship #ragehappy #fake ah crew #Anonymous

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this may sound stupid but i'm a super conservative republican and i'd really appreciate someone explaining all the sexualities and pride flags you're posting! i've never heard of anything besides gay, straight, and bisexual and now i'm really curious to learn more and educate myself about it :)

hi!! i’ll answer this as unironically and to the best of my ability as possible, assuming good intentions here.

i’ll organize them by set, since i do pride flag edits in sets of 9 at a time! these also won’t be in order.

under the cut because it’s very long!!!!!

set 1:

transgender: someone whose gender differs from their assigned gender at birth. note that “assigned gender at birth” does not always denote birth sex, as intersex people are often raised as a binary gender. transgender is used as an “umbrella” term for anyone who follows the definition, including nonbinary people.

pansexual: someone who is attracted to all genders; some people see pansexuality as interchangeable with bisexual, and other people choose to define it that gender is not part of their attraction, instead focusing on other qualities.

asexual (”ace”): someone who does not experience sexual (sometimes romantic) attraction at all.

aromantic (”aro”): someone who doesn’t experience romantic attraction, but may be attracted to people in a variety of other ways; while romantic attraction is a desire for a romantic relationship, aromantic people can still find people aesthetically pleasing, for example.

people who use “x-romantic” terms often subscribe to the “split-attraction model”, which is a way of labeling oneself with different amounts of romantic and sexual attraction. it’s very prominently used in the asexual community; for example, an ace lesbian may describe themselves as homoromantic asexual. some people don’t use this model at all and use their sexuality label to describe their romantic orientation as well.

nonbinary: someone who does not identify as 100% male or 100% female; nonbinary people have their own spectrum of identities, such as aligning with both masculinity/femininity, neither, some in different amounts, changing, et cetera.

genderfluid: someone whose gender identity changes over time, whether between specific identities or seemingly at random. the owner of this blog is genderfluid!

set 2:

gray-asexual: someone who experiences a partial amount of sexual attraction, often very little to a point where it’s distinguishable.

demisexual: someone who experiences sexual attraction only to those with a deep bond. demisexual people often don’t experience crushes; even when a demisexual person does form a strong bond, attraction is not guaranteed, much like how a gay person isn’t attracted to everyone of the same gender.

gray-romantic: same thing as gray-asexual, but for romantic attraction!

demiromantic: same thing as demisexual, but for romantic attraction!

genderqueer: generally interchangeable with the term ‘nonbinary’ with a slightly longer historical significance (the term “nonbinary” came after genderqueer.)

abrosexual: someone whose attraction to certain genders may change over time, again whether between specific points or at random.

he/him lesbian, she/her gay: due to many people’s differing experiences, people may identify a certain way but use pronouns that seemingly “contradict” their identity. he/him lesbians aren’t men, nor are she/her gays women.

pronouns aren’t synonymous with labels; a he/him lesbian may be a woman or feminine-aligned person who has a unique relationship with masculinity that makes him use he/him pronouns, and vice versa for she/her gays. another example is that sometimes trans people aren’t used to using new pronouns or may still use their old pronouns even after coming out/transitioning.

nonbinary lesbian: generally speaks for itself! remember that nonbinary people can experience masculinity and femininity in a variety of ways, and not all nonbinary people can be lesbians (don’t take that the wrong way), but some can and are!

set 3:

trixic (NBLW): means “nonbinary loving women”.

toric (NBLM): means “nonbinary loving men”.

trixic/toric are distinguishable from “nonbinary lesbian/gay” in the fact that just as binary pan/bisexual people can be WLW/MLM, a nonbinary pan/bisexual person can be NBLW/NBLM. some people use the terms in place of nonbinary lesbian/gay for themselves, though!

aroflux: someone whose romantic attraction may change over time, but always stays within the aromantic spectrum.

demigender/boy/girl: someone whose gender is “partial”, such as partially male, partially female, or something else; between “nothing” and another identity.

intersex: not a gender (usually)/sexuality label. someone born with a medical condition that makes their body’s sex “not fit a typical male/female definition”. this can be shown at birth or may become apparent later in life (especially during puberty). the creator of this blog is intersex! intersex people are estimated to occur in about 1.7% of the population, which is almost definitely a low-ball given that many intersex people may never find out they’re intersex.

autism pride: not a gender/sexuality label. the autism pride flag is for people with autism to show unity as a community! autism pride isn’t always necessarily about being happy that one has autism, but instead is a movement that seeks to normalize and accommodate for autistic people in society as opposed to the stigmatization/infantilization that we experience nowadays.

despite the number of labels here, a lot of them are very personal to some people or very uncommon - not that it makes them any less valid labels. the first set, for example, just about covers all of the most popular labels used.

also, even if someone’s gender or sexuality may be defined under a different label, people choose their own labels and how they may refer to their identity. for example, i’m a genderfluid person, but i often call myself “transgender”.

i hope this helps, anon!

#not emoji #Anonymous #flag stuff

[pinkcloudsnightlightbell-remade]

[This post really doesn’t make sense but you should deffo have some experience with the game Resident Evil 2 : Biohazard (2019) -- here’s a short livestream of the 30-minute demo by some cool video journalists and a H U G E L Y Y influential horror gamer’s video of the demo, as well. (And here’s a favourite artist who is probably the very one you can blame for me wasting your time/gushing sm lol...) ]

Input/commentary is sincerely, absolutely, and aggressively, encouraged! ! 

Leon Scott Kennedy is nooooooooooot supposed to be any heterosexual woman`s fantasy because he is bisexual let me get into it

👉 First like the whole thing with Ada manipulating him? 

GOLD

but it’s unfair to Leon who’s actually incredibly...human?

And the other thing is that (and I probably have made it really clear) Resident Evil and the fandom are so ... weird and racist but I like seeing all the changes from the remake as well as (to a lesser degree) backtracking through the games where Leon’s appeared

I love seeing him in 2019 being completely off-the-bat friendly towards Claire and then flirting -- and it being okay with me???? I went ahead and looked up tags on here and @/mikaeled had a drawing of the RE 2 protagonists 

The first protagonist, Claire, is drawn with the bi flag colours

The second protagonist, Leon, got the ace flag

THAT made me want to tap into fandom a little bit more and I went on Twitter and Pixiv and got to see some weird fantasies of being a really controlling Leon but on the other hand saw amazing depictions of Claire being in a loving relationship with a Leon whose kindness lined up with my first exposure of him. (The other day I had a similar experience looking up lesbian/bi claire redfield on this hellsite and someone wrote that Claire is a lesbian -- big big yes -- but added in the tags that “Leon is a trans bi guy!”)

So.

Why not get into it a bit while I’m overcaffeinated?

👉 Leon and Ada is ... weird and people can read weird, bad things into it especialllllllllly if you consider “yellow fever” but it can also be smth super cute where a bi guy and a really cool girl he meets allows him to survive the events of RE 2 (1998) because she is literally mourning the death of her boyfriend in Umbrella. I think that Capcom unbeknownst to their demonic loudmouth staff have created some really thoughtful chances for representation and that helped them get so big--so Ada and Leon are good

But like...

Claire is right there! Leon and Claire become friends like that and tbh they make my bisexual heart melt as individuals. As a couple I feel hope imagining the ways they’d buck the trend of alienation and the threat of abuse...I feel like I care nothing for the fandoms, the creators, and even a majority of the games’ plot points, but here Leon and Claire are, making me feel so much pride because they show that there’s a way for men and women to be ... healthy while in love. They’re the couple that’d be great peer parents (Shirley is a big part of their game they’re protagonists of, and I love how she is written both in 1998 and 2019 which parallels how Moira Burton is written--and completely diverges from the tragedy of the pigeonholey writing of Ashley Graham) and then while they’re wonderful supports to Shirley and are intimately “””together””” in many aspects of life I believe that they’re the type to not even date because the intimate devotion and protection or sticktoitiveness of a friendship ends up building first, because it matters more. Which is not to say that when they do get into a relationship it’s anything but one that is rare.

It’d be r.a.r.e.!!

look at this ... fucked me up 

👉 In regards to this rare kind of love, the key isn’t sympathy or understanding and cooperation even through struggles ranging from PTSD to personality clashes through the years, nor is it chemistry and attractiveness (yeah I will go on record that they’re for better or worse based off of Caucasian models who are paid to be taken pictures of in real life and it fucking shows like I’d be a dishonest bisexual if not just a bad bisexual if I said I didn’t wanna ram both of them into a mattress shut up).To me it’s how Claire is as much of a hero as a typical Die Hard movie hero and YET no more of a hero compared to Leon who is, very clearly, atypical. That’s the biggest part. I love the atypicality. Leon’s seen as hot but approachable and even “a little baby who’s an incompetent rookie cop” but he isn’t... the usual cop, a.k.a. a batt*rer and a **pist and a vio*ent threat and a pig... He’s known to be a soft kind person in the remake.... so to me... 

I love him for Claire but I love the possibility that Leon Scott Kennedy’s bi and gender-nonconforming, and asexual (being demisexual) and not-cisgender and completely proud. I love that he could be this and he IS as good as this ...and he supports lesbians and bi women and alll trans and gnc and nb people unequivocally, maybe,,? Yes? Sbshshdjdjd 

Granted this is all a LOT. Let me defend myself and say that perhaps this is a hyperfixation for me but I’m the type that likes to mix into some of the emotions a tiny nugget of logic so let me make the disclaimer that, ya boi isn't an easy 'n convenient character that's hot into which I as a reader can insert myself... For me I’ve pieced something together that brings comfort and makes some sense. I like to think that he is a survivor of gay-bashing, ostracization, financial abuse, emotional abuse, ****, humiliation, public threats, familial bullshit such as custody battles and gaslighting and is transgender but he’s proud... he’s proudly trans and perhaps he is touchaverse and in terms of sexuality is bi/pansexual while in terms of who he has dated before it’s very messy as he is very aggressively misandrist and hates men and perhaps he’s very stone when he is in a mewd -- and perhaps transphobia makes him go into a rage and he has actually gotten in lots of trouble before as a kid which came back to bite him and he’s lost family and found family and best friends and the loss really hurt and made his choice to go to police academy ring hollow by the end of his training and made him a big believe in social justice and in defending people who society left behind and in therapy and self-change and in accountability (he ISN’T a selfinsert prOMISE!!) but he’s been through a lot aaaaaaaa lotttttt like idk hes just a dude sure

he’s just a dude.b,ut theres a reason zombies don;t faze him!

LOVE THAT. That part.

👉 to sum up: i support the remake fans not being uncritical and loving on the cast of characters and leon specifically! there’s a reason he recently bucked the trend of masculinity and (21 years of fandom and 21 years of problematic annoying fans, perhaps also writers, aside) has always been objectifiable, that is, seen as hot/a sidepiece/specifically desirable for women--but just /: not /: women /: as in /: Women slash str8s /: . . . .RETCH lmao he’s a gun toting hero that is very atypical but not in a disempowering manner -- rather, in an empathetic and emotional one and I want to see the RE2 protagonists heal through a life changing care and tender friendship rather than bonding through liferuining catastrophes 💓💓💓but what I am trying to say in the end is that they are so inspiring both together and as individual protegonists due to their abiliy to weather thru struggles that I as a qtwoc immigrant in America can identify with🤧 

[📍]  tl;dr   -- - 💓cute pan pew pew man is loving and cute ! :> also claire is 💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓💓 so cute...........................pls support/refute my theory

#do not reblog but i can take input lmao i just really am feeling all the changes to ... everything compared to 1998/2000s leon and 2019 leon

[scriptlgbt]

Cleaning up

Hi! Mod Scix here! We’re trying to cut our way through the inbox, and I’ve compiled a few similar asks. This post will be a lot of ask and very short answer. Please understand this isn’t me being rude, I’m just trying to be efficient so we can get less behind. (hee hee, “behind”)

The first category of questions are errors:

Anonymous said:

(nb 2/3) They’re feminine, but choose against HRT/surgeries (maybe later?) bc they’re on PREP and the combination might lead to lower bone density (they’re a MedSchool stdt, they’d know). And they’re on Prep bc their boyfriend, the protag, is Poz, but their relationship isn’t healthy (constant arguing and protag trying to decide NB-char’s career for them). But NB-char puts up with it for years. Partly for love, partly bc protag accepts their gender, and they think they won’t ever have that again

Anonymous said:

Clarifying a few things about my ask (I'm the anon with the love triangle): 1. Gender/sexuality is of minimum importance in this story. Tough to explain, but the MC doesn't really have a concept of those issues? She's afab but agender for all intents and purposes. 2. The relationship between the two men is way healthier/happier than that between the MC and her ex. 3. There's no animosity between the MC and her ex's current partner.

Sorry, the rest of your questions are missing. If it's still a relevant question, please resend.

The next set I call research:

@teal0cean said:

Hello!! Love you guys! I wanted to ask if you know about the history of HRT for trans males. As in. What was or wasnt available or how the process of transitioning was during some historical period or other (im interested in early 20th Century!)

@yevie said:

Do you have any information on what sorts of resources/information would be available for a (lower-middle class, 20 year old nursing student in a metropolitan area) trans man in 1995? [Resources in terms of both social transitioning, especially in his academic and work setting and also resources in the whole LGBT community aspect and having access to the language to describe his experiences.] (He's also gay and ace, if that's relevant.)

Anonymous said:

I heard theres discourse about the terms FTM/MTF/etc. whats that about??

Anonymous said:

So I've always wondered about this, but I don't to seem like I'm insulting anybody. :( I just really want to know how it works... but I'm to scared to ask so I'm going to drop it here, because I think you will understand! :) (1/2)

You see, If a female decides to do the transision to male. How will she get the male genitalia and loose the female one? I really want to know. Does it hurt? (2/2)

Anonymous said:

How and when do people realize they might be homosexual?

Anonymous said:

Can you think of any really good ideas for a short LGBTQ film? Thank you!

Anonymous said:

Do you know where I could read a bit more about lgbtq+ stereotypes so that I don't do it myself?

Anonymous said:

What is bi/tri/polygender

Anonymous said:

I am making a documentary so i need a good script on it in hindi, would you be able to provide it?

So these are all research questions. Not actually what we are here for, though we do sometimes dive in. The first couple may be tougher to find using google, but the rest are pretty easy to dig up. Or else need to be reworded to narrow the focus. And sometimes the questions we get have built-in assumptions that kinda make it impossible to answer fairly.

Like the assumption that we write Hindi.

If anyone wants to answer these, please be civil.

The next section is the quick answer:

Anonymous said:

Do any trans men choose not to take hormones, even if they're available to the person? I know this answer would really vary from person to person, but I'm thinking of writing a trans man who doesn't want to take hormones, and I'm not sure if that would be considered unusual or not really understanding of the desires most transgender people have.

@pan-at-thedisco said:

Is it plausible for a trans boy who can definitely afford transition surgery to choose not to? Is this something that happens often?

Yeah, transfolk sometimes choose not to get surgery or take hormones. Don’t worry about “often,” it’s fiction.

Anonymous said:

Hello there, I have this male character that I wrote a long time ago and only recently have I been seeing him as bi, now he has crushes on guys but he still ends up with a girl. I can't help but feel like I "cheated" in a way by making a bi character have a hetero relationship but I don't want to change his relationship. I just want to hear your opinion about this.

It's not a hetero relationship, because he is in it. Just don't write it that the new relationship is fixing him, or more real, or anything like that.

Anonymous said:

I want to ask about usage of the word "queer" not in reference to a person or their gender/sexual orientation. Its original meaning meant "strange." It later became a slur, and has now been reclaimed by some in the community. I'm wondering if it's still okay to use it in its original meaning (i.e. "In front of him was the queerest fog he'd ever seen.") or has the evolution of the word has made that no longer acceptable, even if you're writing period/a specific atmosphere?

Go for it! Just be aware it sounds kind of old-fashioned.

Anonymous said:

hi! do you think it would be considered ok for a nonbinary character in a historical setting to use their language's equivalent of "it/its" pronouns? i'm cis and i'm worried people will take it the wrong way, but the character just wants to be convenient as their language only has one set of gender-neutral pronouns and it's for inanimate objects

No. If it's a fictional language, then it can have a gender-unspecified pronoun that doesn't only refer to objects.

@dreamwishing said:

I have a rather odd question. Odd enough that I'm not sure where to ask. This may not be the right place, and if it's not, maybe you could point me in a direction? That would be great. Everyone asks how to avoid stereotyping lgbtq+ people, but...how do I avoid stereotyping homophobes and the like?

...make them rounded, complete characters with more than one thing in their life.

Anonymous said:

I have a villainous character who is a combination/amalgamation of various people of different genders/sexualities, and they don't have a gender. I'm planning to refer to the character with they/them pronouns, and it just doesn't feel right to give them a gender. But since they're a bad guy, would it be... what's the word... transphobic (I guess? you know what i mean) to portray them as agender? I have other agender characters, if that makes a difference. (It's fantasy btw)

Having other agender characters -- well-represented -- solves the issue for you just fine. Also, make the villain interesting. I love a good villain. 

Anonymous said:

Will the mod/s be monitoring the comments at all? I've seen quite a few hateful replies and reblogs toward nonbinary and demisexual people. I would love to keep following, but it sucks having to be subjected to people invalidating my gender and sexuality in the comments.

There is nothing we can do about comments. "Never read the comments" is often a good idea. Alternately, block the blogs that are evil, and you'll soon find it was the same few all along. Anything really terrible, let us know so we can block them ourselves, and let our readers know.

That was a lot of work. I know it doesn’t look like much, but it took me a few hours and I’m wiped. Some kinds of work are more labor than they appear, and this is that kind of labor.

Still and all: love you all! Just not that way. 

~~Mod Scix

#answers #writing advice #lgbt #<3 #:P

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Chapter Twenty-Six : THE + IN LGBTQ+

So here we are. I did the L. I did the G. I did the B. I did the T. L G B T. Done. Oh for fuck’s sake, now what ? What do you mean there’s more letters ?

LGBTTQQIAAPC2 ????? YOU SURE ? I don’t think anyone is at this point.

Okay, let’s make a quick rundown of them all (it’s not like I have a life or something).

Q as in QUEER Nop, I’m keeping this one for the very end as I have a shitload to say. Let’s see.

Another Q ? Oh, okay, I see.

Q as in QUESTIONING  

We ain’t starting with an easy one. Questioning is the period of time a person can go through to sort out the ideas of gender, sexual identity and/or sexual orientation. It is a process of exploration for people not sure of themselves (which is a fair feeling) and uncomfortable with the idea of social queer labels. If you’re looking for a particular branch of people who could fall into that category, look no further than teenagers. At a time when your body is changing, your hormones are showing, and society still doesn’t put forward the idea that being Queer is acceptable, one might feel a great deal of confusion and uncertainty. Kids right now promote the right to sexual fluidity and I think that’s great. I just called them kids. I feel like a grandpa. The concept of sexual fluidity available to someone who doesn’t want to constraint him/her/themself in a subcategory is theoretically extremely healthy for the mind, helping seeing things clearer in the future.

I as in INTERSEX

Well, I’ve already talked a lot about Intersex people in previous articles, as it is so connected in its History to the lives of Transgender people (so read the articles from June 24th on Trans Identity and the June 9th on the differences between Sex, Sexuality and Gender Identity if you’re interested). I’ll do a sum up. Intersex people are individuals born with any of several variation in sex characteristics (chromosomes, sex hormones, genitals) and who do not fit the binary definitions of male or female bodies. Do not use the term “hermaphrodite” because if you do, you’re a hateful asshole. It’s a biological specificity that has long been ignored by the medical and social scene, giving them little to know coverage to actually build a proper gender identity up until recently. There’s a whole campaign right now to stop forced surgeries on Intersex infants as they are treated as wrong doings from nature that should be corrected. They shouldn’t. Binary notions of life has to be corrected. As the same for forced sterilization on transgender people, modifying the sex characteristics of an individual without his/her/them consent is a Human Rights violation. The existence of Intersex people is still not up to date in the world but progress has been made with gender classification on legal documents. Finally, being an Intersex individual does not make you automatically homosexual or bisexual. It’s a gender identity that has nothing to do with sexual orientation, giving to some arguments that they should not be included in our community. Fuck those people. But let’s not forget that as part of our community, we need to make an effort towards you in understanding your identity, include you in general conversations and fight for your individual rights that sometimes have little to no relations to ours. Let’s not repeat the errors of this heterosexual society, please.

A as in ASEXUAL

Good god, so much controversy over that one. Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, low or absent interest or desire for sexual activity. To make shit clear to everyone, it is considered a sexual orientation, although the primal idea of it is that there’s no sexual orientation to begin with. Although as in every sexuality (or lack of), there are levels and degrees of what being asexual means to someone. The acceptance of Asexuality is relatively new to the scientific community and to the world, mostly since the internet was invented and people started sharing their personal struggles (as they were deemed struggles in the eyes of society). More than any other term, asexuality seems to have a big question mark in the minds of people. Well, as sexual beings mostly driven by our urges, it’s hard to comprehend a world where no of this is part of the day-to-day mental conversation. The Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) has a great thing to say about the words Asexual : “There is no litmus test to determine if someone is Asexual. Asexuality is like any other identity — at its core, it’s just a word that people use to help figure themselves out. if at any point someone finds the word Asexual useful to describe themselves, we encourage them to use it for as long at it makes sense to do so”. Words of preaching that can be applied to any identity in our supposedly inclusive rainbow. Anyway, it’s a complex question that can go to various scenarios. Someone Asexual might engage in romantic relationships, other might not. They could have sex in order to satisfy their partners, but they probably wouldn’t take any pleasure out of it. Maybe they masturbate, maybe they don’t. The point is — Their sex drive is not our businesses. We don’t need to know what you do in your down time. Labels that can be adopted by Asexual people can also include Aromantic, Biromantic, Heteromantic, Homoromantic, Panromantic — with the acknowledgment of “sexual” orientation but lack of lust towards someone else. See ? There’s also Gray-romantic, Demiromantic, Demisexual, Semisexual, Friend-Focused. Queer people, know that Asexual as their places among our ranks, as their can be subjected to as much vile discriminations if out as the rest of us. More importantly, there’s currently no major legislation focused on Asexuality and no media exposure of any kind.

Another A as in ALLY

Also sometimes known as “SA” for Straight Allies. Usually cisgender heterosexual people who supports equal rights, gender equality, social movements and are in opposition with homophobia, biphobia, transphobia. I don’t have a lot to say about Allies. They’re good. The more we have, the better. Just don’t confuse being open to being an Ally. Being a Ally means make actual changes into your environment towards Equality. It’s not just saying that you have tons of gay friends and “they’re so much fun, I love them!”. Uh uh. It can be activism. It can be protests and articles and petitions and working for LGBT groups. Sure. Do that if you’re into it. I’m not an activist myself. I ain’t gonna judge you if you don’t want to be socially active for us. But you can be an ally by first of all, listen. Not just to us but to all the shit that can come out of your damn mouth that are homophobic and you don’t even realize it. Be ready for being taken back to school, people. Because the struggle is sometimes real. So real that some Queer people don’t want to educate straight people. I’m willing to but only if I feel like the person can really get it. I quickly know if they are or not. Don’t use our reclaimed slurs. Don’t “Guuuurl Okrrrrul Death Drop” us for the sake of comedy. As a gay man, I’m not even sure I can do it myself since it’s been part of the drag world. Yes, cultural appropriation inside the Queer community is a thing. Look it up. Anyway, Ally in the acronym ? hmm, debatable, even for me. Maybe an honorary title on the side ?

C as in CURIOUS

Arf, nop. I don’t agree. Next.

T as in TRANSEXUAL

Already covered the Transexual identity in the June 14th article. Go read this one, sucker.

P as in POLYAMOROUS

The practice of/desire for intimate relationships with more than one partner. Not to be confused with cheating as a polyamorous is made aware by all partners involved. It’s been described as a “consensual, ethical and responsible non-monogamy” philosophy/sexual identity. Those identities are so exciting to talk about. A polyamorous individual believes in an open relationship and rejects the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships. It’s not just about being sexually attracted to other people while in a relationship and acting on it, there’s real values such as love, intimacy, honesty and integrity in the process. Also a healthy  position on non-possessiveness that I admire greatly. Many social factors enter into consideration when it comes to polyamorous identity. The disillusionment with monogamy, illustrated with cheating and divorce from previous generations. A need for independence and equality, sometimes driven in a woman with feminism beliefs. You don’t need a man and you can do your own choices. Be as free as a man has been for thousands of years. Most of all, there’s this belief than human beings are not monogamous to begin with and to impose it on people is madness. The interest thing about polyamorous identity is not really the details of the relationships but the fact that it is not an identity or sexuality per say, but a companion piece to some of them. You can be poly and Straight, Poly and Trans and a Lesbian. Off course, as most of the other categories, it is not widely accepted by society and until recently, rarely talked about. I have a feeling it’s about to change. One of my friends came out to me as polyamorous. I mean, she didn’t actually come out but the fact that she openly talked about it surprised me and then delighted me. Not to be confused with Bigamy, which with being married to multiple partners. Not very common on western countries but forms of judicial recognition of multiple non marital partners are here and there, most notably in parts of the States.

P as in PANSEXUAL

Already did that one at length on the June 20th article on Bisexuality. No need to repeat myself that much.

2 as in TWO-SPIRIT

That one you’ve never heard of. Right ? It is a modern, pan-Indian, umbrella term used by some indigenous North American tribes to describe Native People in their communities who fulfill a third-gender (or other gender — variant) ceremonial role in their cultures. The term was created in 1990 (birth year) in Winnipeg by Lesbian and Gay indigenous gathered for the occasion, as a way to differentiate First Nations people from non-Native Queer Community people. The concept of Two-Spirit has been around for a long, long time but it used to have another name : Berdache. It was thought to be replaced as it is considered outdated and offensive (from the arabic “Bardaj” that means “slave”, the french Berdache that means “passive” and Italian “Bardassa” that means either “young prostitute” or “brat” and primally focuses on transgender folks and not other areas of the now-named Two-Spirit). Two-Spirit is not considered to be the same as being a Gay Native American. Yes, Two-Spirit people can fall in love with people of their same gender, or genderfuck conventions of what it means to be a man or a woman, but it’s way more than that. The term is meant to carry on the traditions of Indigenous people, too broad to explain them all here as each tribe has their own little definitions of what a Two-Spirit individual is. For more comprehensive information, you can watch Lydia Nibley’s 2009 documentary feature called Two Sprits. It focused on the murder of 16 year-old Navajo Fred Martinez, described by his mother as “nadleeh” or “half woman, half man”. But careful, it doesn’t mean exactly what you think it means.

And finally Q as in QUEER

This one’s easy. It’s us all. It’s an umbrella term to represent anyone in the Queer community. We’re a lot of categorized minorities in need of regroupment and that’s the easiest way to do it. I actually love the word Queer. It’s just an empowering word due its directness and History. It appeared around the 16th Century to talk about things that are “strange”, “odd”, “peculiar”, “eccentric”. Perfect fit. It later implied a feeling of suspicion and unwellness. It took 300 years for the word to get use in a pejorative way towards sexual differences. It was that or “invert”. Both are extremely fun. For almost a century, being called “Queer” was probably the worst. Well, Faggot isn’t a good one either but you get my drift. In the late 80s, the word started to be reclaimed as a neutral or positive self-identity by LGBTQ+ people. An activist organization to fight anti-gay violence called Queer Nation was created in 1990 (birth year, AGAIN!). I believe it to be still active and alive in some capacity somewhere in America. It also seemed important at the time to find a word that wasn’t so narrow in scope (as “Gay” is) and as the AIDS Epidemic was baptized “The Gay Cancer”, we were truly in need of a rebranding intervention. But that rebranding didn’t came without its challenges. With a new name came a new attitude, one that rejected the principles of assimilation into heteronormative society. The idea of marriage, adoption, service were banned from what was known the Queer movement in the 90s (while the “Gay” movement was still very much alive and willing to find new rights to Queer people). I didn’t live through this and I only have my perception of the word. I know some of y’all reject that term as you deem it offensive and self-deprecating. Some of you don’t appreciate the political vibe it brought to the community and the divide in ideas that followed. I only know that we cannot keep adding letters to our acronym. Ain’t nobody got time to say all those letters. We need to compromise, people. Yes, it’s a bad word. Now, it’s OURS. Being gay is political. They MADE IT political by beating us, torturing us, arresting us, killing us. They wanted to insult us. We take it and we roll with it with Pride.

So, are we good now ? Have I covered them all ?

Nop, I forgot to talk about Gender-Fluid, Non-Binary people (or Gender Queer), Bigender, Trigender, Pangender. Androgyne. Gender Bender. Third Gender. Androsexual, Gynephilia, Transvestite…

Time for you to make your own damn research. I still have four more articles to right and just so you know, I won’t use the term “LGBTQ+” anymore. I’ll say Queer as nothing else as of now. Position cleared.