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scriptlgbt · 28 days
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How would you feel about us opening the ask box?
So... we have a giant backlog of years-old messages. Some of the questions may or may not be relevant anymore to their askers. Some are from deactivated blogs. Some are things we've struggled to answer. Etc.
The backlog of asks has prevented us from opening the ask box.
So we want to ask you as readers and writers what your opinion is. Longer explanation below.
Life happens, and this is all volunteer-run. But I am sorry for all of you who wrote to us over the past few years only for us to not have the capacity to answer at the time.
Something we have done in the past was briefly open asks to help us get the momentum going, while we chipped away at older asks that required more research or reaching out to guest mods with identities we don't have. Or slowly getting to answering questions about our own trauma in order to help someone else write it in a way that respected its gravity.
With opening the ask box then, it also meant that the mountain continued to grow large. In an ideal world, we'd be able to answer every ask quickly.
I realize folks will see this and reply with, "why not just get new mods?"
Taking on new mods requires figuring out what an application looks like, reaching out to demographics besides our own (and knowing where to do this, and the right way, considering this is an unpaid gig), interviewing, and training new mods in how the ScriptFamily group of blogs operates. And generally, even when people go through all that process, very few people are able to maintain activity on the blog. Which is understandable! We are all in that boat! (ALSO. This isn't a sideblog, so it requires logging in and out, or using another browser, pls advise if you know a workaround. ) So the balance of labour put in to bring on new mods, vs. labour saved by it, is a HUGE roll of the dice.
I say all this not to discourage people from asking tough questions. Only to hopefully give some insight into why some asks take so long, and that it's because I've been researching Molly Houses from their heyday for like 5 years and figuring out what a Bavarian asexual man would call himself in 1920 using repatriated texts from the Magnus Hirschfeld Institute, typed manually and auto-translated. And also... someone asked about the omegaverse, AKA the A/B/O trope and transness this one time and... we all have a lot to say, haha. It's a lot to unpack! But we're passionate. And I hope as we work through asks in the future, our archive will help us better be able to help you.
But IDK, what are your thoughts on all this? Should we just go through the backlog very slowly (regardless of the age of the asks)? Or do you want the ask box opened for your current questions?
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scriptlgbt · 10 months
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Hi! Recently, I decided to make one of my characters a trans woman? I always hear about how cis people shouldn’t write “stories ABOUT being trans” and whatnot due to not really getting the experience of it, but what if you’re a transmasc who’s writing a transfem? Is there still a point you’re not allowed to write beyond, since the experience isn’t exactly your own despite the overlap, or can you go all out since the base experiences are still there?
I consulted my partner on this who is a trans woman. (I am trans, but TME.)
While we are Community(TM), there are a lot of things that just don't translate 1:1 with our experiences. Transmisogyny affected/targeted people experience different rates of violence and experience that violence in slightly different contexts to us.
She suggested that it really depends on how in-depth you're planning to go. She said if you're just meeting the vagueries of the experience, it might be okay, but a deep dive probably wouldn't be, because you'd have a lot more room for error.
I feel like this question is really vague in that what writing "about" being some way even means. Like what are you including? What is the purpose and intended audience? Are you incorporating inspiration from real people you know and your community? Are you making a character based purely on what you understand about the experience, but aren't close enough to any TMA people you could ask? Are you trying to use the character to explain to cis people what being a trans woman is like, like some kind of lesson? Where are you getting the information on said lesson? Is this just a character living life? Are you going into oppression, medical stuff, community and culture? (If you talk about oppression, to what level have you done the work on learning what transmisogyny is, and reckoning with the way that all other identities being the same, we do have privileges over trans women, and that it's transmisogynist and a misinterpretation of socialization theories to claim anyone is "socialized male"?) What is your view of trans women, as individuals and as part of our community? What is your actual plot and how does the character's identity as a trans woman come into it? What is the actual load of what you're taking on here, and are you willing to take responsibility and do the work for every aspect of it?
I think there's a lot of aspects to this that exist on a huge spectrum and your mileage may vary significantly with this. The tried and true advice of 'when in doubt, consult a sensitivity reader' rings true here.
She has said it comes down to whether you can write it credibly, rather than necessarily realistically. And that comes down to sensitivity readers. Being able to write about it convincingly will depend on how much help you get and how in depth you go really.
mod nat (& mod nat's partner)
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scriptlgbt · 10 months
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Research Survey
We've been discussing how best to put together a masterpost on research, and realized it would help to know where our audience is as far as research knowledge and techniques. Please feel free to reblog to increase the sample size!
The survey will run until the end of July and then will be closed so we can make use of the results.
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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one of my recurring side characters learns along the way that they identify as nb, but when my MC gets to know them, they still use female pronouns. would it be alright if I write the change of pronouns or should I just don't use pronouns at all for them until they've come out? their name wouldn't change and no one would use incorrect pronouns after they've been told the correct ones - does writing the changing pronouns still count as offensive?
(thanks! and sorry, english isn't my first language and I have some difficulties finding the exact right words to say what I mean)
An easy way to make this work would be to just have this character explicitly (written in the text) state that they prefer she/her pronouns at a given time. That way, when readers describe the character at that point using she/her pronouns, it isn't wrong. The issue might come when readers aren't sure whether to use she/her pronouns when referring to the character in the past, once they prefer different pronouns. In this case you can add dialogue specifying what the character wants. In real life situations, this is generally a thing of, "well, these pronouns aren't what I want right now, and I currently want these pronouns. So please call me by these pronouns."
Another option is simply to have an author's note in the beginning clarifying what pronouns a reader ought to use for the character when.
Yet another option is to just have the character prefer whatever pronouns they do throughout the story. Pronouns are often seen as having certain gender associations (ie. "female pronouns") but that isn't necessarily true. Lots of nonbinary people prefer she/her or he/him and so on. And lots of nonbinary people also like multiple sets of pronouns used interchangeably (like she/they). I do want to note that there is a mild difference in she/they vs they/she - some people will format their pronouns in a way to indicate that, though they like both sets of pronouns, they want the first one listed given slight preference. This isn't the case with everyone though and it always benefits to ask for clarification.
mod nat
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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Trans folks!
We’ve gotten a lot of asks about how to gender trans characters prior to them coming out, especially in scenes from childhood and so on.
I have my own thoughts on how to handle this, but I wanted to do an ask the audience.
Trans folks only: how do you feel this should be handled?
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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I'm writing an older cis, bisexual m/f couple, who consider themselves "privleged" for being able to get legal married long before the same gender couples/couples with trans partners in their lives. They are white New Yorkers who were out young adults who aged into 30-somethings during the aids crisis, if that helps with context.I don't believe in passing privilege, but it feels right for the characters. I want to write this as internalized biphobia, but I'm not sure how to word it.
The thing with biphobia (and panphobia and adjacent) is that it targets who you are, not merely whoever you’re with. The state thinking they’ve reformed you somehow when they only let you get married to a person of a different binary gender is biphobic. A lot of people in these situations may also feel that they have to compromise, prove something, constantly correct people, and so on.
Personally, I wouldn’t frame this as privilege. I would frame this as luck of the draw that they happen to be the one each fell in love with.
I think there’s a lot more to explore with regards to AIDS Crisis history in NY and the culture around it, especially with regards to how bi folks experienced it, but I don’t feel researched enough to advise on this aspect yet. I may come back to this later when I’ve gained more knowledge.
- mod nat
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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One character has many skills when it comes to her job that she lacks in her private life, I’m using some plot points as opportunities to show how unaware of it she is. After I establish two of her friends are together, she wonders if her being ace had something to do with not noticing, while automatically separating dragons who are in heat. This is her first respite (but not the first comparison) so this will likely be how her asexuality is introduced. Are there any problems to watch for?
Hey! I think that’s fine. Many aspecs don’t notice flirting. With them or between others. I imagine there are Signs to watch out for, when your dragons are in heat. Humans might have other signs and your character just forgot.
-Mod Bun
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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Hi there! So, one of my main characters for a story I’m writing is ftm transgender, and the setting is a medieval setting. How should I have her explain to the other characters her gender identity/transition? Hope you don’t mind me asking, and thank you in advance!
Hi. I sent you an ask last night and I think I might’ve accidentally described my character as ftm instead of mtf. If this is true, then I’m so sorry for the mixup. I hope this doesn’t cause you all too much trouble. Have a good day.
My usual advice for this kind of thing is to focus on the definitions and shared experiences trans people have. We all have slightly different approaches to explaining it, but I usually say, "I'm not the gender they thought I was when I was born." (Only, I tack on more explanations because usually people need an explanation of my being nonbinary.)
What makes representation valuable is being able to see examples of people like us, that we can relate to in some way, even if it's just the one part of our experience. An author can make a specific note in the beginning saying that the characters are trans, but due to the setting, this isn't the language used in-text. (Personally I see giving the definition as a firm and clear thing just about as good as using the label itself though.)
I don't know what sort of medieval setting you're thinking of (based on a culture that has existed? a made up one?) but it might also be worth exploring our binarism tag for looking into how to translate different cultural concepts of gender across to your audience. It might also help establish an understanding of how gender has not always had the same perceptions historically, and examining what that meant in the past. (Binarism specifically refers to a form of colonialism - our posts aren't a good primary resource for learning about it, but may be helpful in applying to a fictional context with regards to gender specifically.)
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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Help.
[Fri 19 May 2023] [death, terminal illness]
Hey, it’s mod nat again. My last living grandparent is terminally ill and I’d like to visit her for her birthday, and have her meet my partner of more than 8 years for the first time. My grandma has idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis, which she’s had diagnosed for about 3 years. (Life expectancy with PF is 3-5 years on average.) I only was able to for the first time in roughly 10 years last fall due to my being no contact with my parents (+ rest of family by extension) from 2014-2021.
We need to fundraise for transportation to the greater Tkaronto/Toronto area from so-called “Ottawa” where I live. Both my partner and I are disabled and on social assistance, so can’t otherwise afford transportation.
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Me at 3 ½, playing with plasticene with my grandfather. I wouldn’t have had access to this photo, or any from my childhood, if you folks hadn’t helped me fundraise to get to my grandpa’s funeral back in 2021. It means a lot and I thank you.
Breakdown of funds needed:
~$80 CAD for transport there (we’re getting a ride part of the way there through my sibling)
~$100 CAD for transport the way back
$??? CAD for lodging (I don’t know the amount but want to reimburse the person covering it for me)
$?? CAD for food/other necessities
Helping would mean me getting to talk to a grandparent as my real self, when I wasn’t able to before, despite coming out as trans a dozen years ago.
If you want to help but can’t provide funds:
please consider registering to be an organ donor so that when you’re gone one day, other people can live. here’s the ontario link.
if you’re local to the GTA and can provide a place to sleep (especially an accessible one) in the future please reply (don’t DM, this is not my personal account)
if you’ve benefitted from the work I’ve done here, vouching for my character and realness in the reblogs makes a real difference in this kind of thing.
[ Link to donate ]
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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Trans folks!
We’ve gotten a lot of asks about how to gender trans characters prior to them coming out, especially in scenes from childhood and so on.
I have my own thoughts on how to handle this, but I wanted to do an ask the audience.
Trans folks only: how do you feel this should be handled?
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scriptlgbt · 11 months
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Help.
[Fri 19 May 2023] [death, terminal illness]
Hey, it’s mod nat again. My last living grandparent is terminally ill and I’d like to visit her for her birthday, and have her meet my partner of more than 8 years for the first time. My grandma has idiopathic pulmonary fibrosis, which she’s had diagnosed for about 3 years. (Life expectancy with PF is 3-5 years on average.) I only was able to for the first time in roughly 10 years last fall due to my being no contact with my parents (+ rest of family by extension) from 2014-2021.
We need to fundraise for transportation to the greater Tkaronto/Toronto area from so-called “Ottawa” where I live. Both my partner and I are disabled and on social assistance, so can’t otherwise afford transportation.
Tumblr media
Me at 3 1/2, playing with plasticene with my grandfather. I wouldn’t have had access to this photo, or any from my childhood, if you folks hadn’t helped me fundraise to get to my grandpa’s funeral back in 2021. It means a lot and I thank you.
Breakdown of funds needed:
~$80 CAD for transport there (we’re getting a ride part of the way there through my sibling)
~$100 CAD for transport the way back
$??? CAD for lodging (I don’t know the amount but want to reimburse the person covering it for me)
$?? CAD for food/other necessities
Helping would mean me getting to talk to a grandparent as my real self, when I wasn’t able to before, despite coming out as trans a dozen years ago.
If you want to help but can’t provide funds:
please consider registering to be an organ donor so that when you’re gone one day, other people can live. here’s the ontario link.
if you’re local to the GTA and can provide a place to sleep (especially an accessible one) in the future please reply (don’t DM, this is not my personal account)
if you’ve benefitted from the work I’ve done here, vouching for my character and realness in the reblogs makes a real difference in this kind of thing.
[ Link to donate ]
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scriptlgbt · 1 year
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How would my character orgasm if he got a vaginectomy without meta nor phallo? So basically all he has is an enlarged clitoris, right? But what does it do?
[Sex]
An orgasm through clitoral stimulation is a lot more common for more people than orgasm through penetration. It does all pretty much the same things any other phallus does. It gets erect and flaccid, and it has a lot of sensitive nerve endings. Some people like oral, some like grinding, some like penetrating others or toys with it. Butt stuff also exists, and foreplay dedicated to talking about fantasies and paying attention to erogenous zones can make a huge difference.
- mod nat
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scriptlgbt · 1 year
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I'm writing a story with a Black trans man mc, I want to subvert the "angry, aggressive Black man" trope so he's fairly shy and awkward but becomes more confident as the story progresses. However, I'm worried this falls into a trope of trans men being weak or "girly". Any tips on still being able to subvert the first trope without falling into the second one?
@writingwithcolor has covered the intersection of Blackness and gender before, and may have some posts that can help as a jumping off point.
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scriptlgbt · 1 year
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I'm writing a story and I'd like to how trans people get/treat STDs. If they haven't had bottom surgery is it no different than someone with those parts who is cis? But if they have, what differences are there? How about someone with no genitals?
In general it's pretty much the same as it would be for cis people. Bloodwork and a urine sample are the standard, and aren't really any different based on what someone's genitalia is like.
Pap smears and other sorts of exams can be dysphoria inducing as well, and there's some situation where it may be difficult to use a speculum because of atrophy (which can be for all sorts of reasons, hormones, vaginismus, imperforate hymen, intersex stuff). And people whose vaginas are surgically constructed don't typically have a cervix, so pap smears don't really get done as far as I know. (Sometimes speculums are used for other things though, like making sure everything is healing right, trimming or removing stitches from surgery, etc.)
But for the most part, the differences for STI testing specifically are mostly social, and can go different ways based on who is administering the test. Pap smears are in particular stressful for trans people who may have genitalia that's been altered by hormones. (I know it's irrational but the worry about getting a boner during a pap test, for instance, has crossed my mind a lot.)
Some other testing can be thrown for a loop because of the way procedure etiquette works. I had to have a transvaginal ultrasound once to check for ovarian cysts and there were definitely parts of it that were weird for me. (Transvaginal ultrasounds involve the ultrasound wand going inside the front hole for an accurate reading of specific parts of the reproductive system.) For instance, the ultrasound tech was a cis man and as part of their protocol, a cis woman nurse had to be in the room while I underwent this procedure. I hadn't asked about that ahead of time or really thought anything about it - I was in the emergency room trying to get to the bottom of extreme abdominal pain and I figured I could endure what I needed to. But in an ideal world, I'd be able to ask for a non cis person to be in the room with me I think. (I came in an ambulance, which would not take my partner with me.) (It turned out to be a 4mm kidney stone by the way, no ovarian cysts.)
Another anecdote that may be relevant to this topic is that sometimes doctors get weird about not knowing what you're testing for, because they don't know what body parts you have (and which were added at what points, made of what material). Prior to the transvaginal ultrasound, a doctor asked me what "chromosomes" I had. I honestly told him I did not know, I hadn't ever had a karyotype test as far as I knew. The doctor stumbled over himself a lot and I don't remember what else he said right after that, other than he was fumbling, got corrected, and that he was clearly Trying His Best. I interrupted the second or third useless question with, "are you asking if I have ovaries in case it might be a burst ovarian cyst or something?"
He was instantly relieved and said yes, so I told him.
There's a big problem I've noticed, that when people talk about these sorts of topics, they aren't specific enough in order to address what they mean. We use euphemisms like "assigned female" because people don't know that someone "assigned female" can have literally any body type. People seem afraid to name body parts, so they use euphemisms that rely on stereotypes and assumptions in order to be understood. But when you realize that people "assigned female" can be intersex, can have hysterectomies, can have testes, can have phalloplasties, and that everyone's parts are more or less analogous (skenes gland = prostate, etc), you realize how useless these broad categories are. If you want to ask if someone could carry a pregnancy, ask if they could carry a pregnancy. Not if they have certain chromosomes or were DFAB. Specifics matter. If I knew I was XY, that doctor would probably have assumed that the pattern of people with XY chromosomes not menstruating would include me. And if I did have ovarian cysts, or even a pregnancy, this could have dramatically impacted my health outcomes. (There have been stillbirths because of situations like this where people did not act fast enough because of ignorance around trans bodies.) I could have given in and guessed my chromosomes when the doctor asked, but what if my answer turned out to not be true? And what if the lack of confidence in my answer saved my life in some way?
I realize this is pretty far deviated from your original topic, but in terms of testing difficulties, it does feel like the sort of anecdote that would be very informative about these issues.
- mod nat
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scriptlgbt · 1 year
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Note: It's intersex variations, not intersex conditions.
Some variations can also be conditions (like Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia, which can affect the way your body processes salt). But referring to intersex ways of being as "conditions" is pathologizing. Endosex ways of being are not viewed as conditions in the same way.
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scriptlgbt · 1 year
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I want to put a trans girl as one of my main characters, but I get really nervous and keep thinking I'm going to mess up or make it seem gross??? I just don't know what to do and I want to be diverse in my story. (Sorry if this doesnt make sense?? Im like really sick right now)
Hi! Thanks for checking in here. It’s normal and good to be concerned about making sure we do right by the people we are representing, it’s a sign of compassion. I know my saying this could have the opposite effect but… just so you know? Everybody who writes will make these mistakes. The idea is to accept that no matter how much you worry about it, you will and are going to make mistakes. You (I’m assuming) aren’t part of this demographic, and because of that there’s only so much you can understand. That’s just the fact of things. 
You just need to give yourself room to make these mistakes and room to edit, revise, rework - because you are going to. It’s part of the process. In writing her story, in getting to know and exploring who she is, can be, etc, you are going to grow and learn. Let yourself be wrong in the start so that you can learn how to be better in specific, tangible ways.
In your drafts, try highlighting certain wordings and passages that you think raise concern. Make it flexible, have multiple ideas, write and plan many. Weigh what you know and don’t know and take inventory of where you feel you’re falling short. When you think of or come across questions or topics that are new to you, don’t simply let yourself only wonder. Make yourself learn them and about as much related to those topics and questions as possible. Ask google the offensive versions of questions, they can lead you to the real, unoffensive answers. Write down and organize whatever of these questions you can. Even if you researched these things already, take notes on them so you can refer back or correct them as you learn more. Recognize this whole thing as a growing process for you, your character, and your manuscript.
You will make mistakes. It’s normal.
When you have collected enough unanswered questions and gotten enough roadblocks, let someone with this identity and experience into your process.
Hire a sensitivity reader/editor. If you cannot afford one, that’s a-okay and a totally understandable position to be in. Consider your own identities and experiences and whether perhaps you can offer a trade of labour. The easiest and most effective support we usually think of tends to be monetary, but it does not mean that those of us who lack money cannot support. It just means we have to get creative about finding ways to.
You don’t have to do this on your own. And to be honest, I don’t actually believe anyone can do it on their own. That’s okay.
Everything that grows starts in the ground.
Resources for reading up on representing transmisogyny affected persons
Previously answered:
Trans tropes
On writing a preteen-ish trans girl (since you used the term “girl” instead of “woman” I’m going to assume you’re going for a younger character - if this isn’t the case you might want to take into account how you might be infantilizing?)
Trans woman clone (explaining about body focus/potential for fetishization)
What dysphoria feels like (disclaimer: written by a TME person) (disclaimer: not everyone who is trans experiences dypshoria, and this greatly varies for all who do experience it)
Our trans women tag
Our trans tag
Authors, Articles, PDFs:
Sylvia Rivera (documentary) (lacks captions)
Sandy Stone (one of the earliest targets of TWERFs, one of the founders of trans studies as an academic discipline)
TERF Hate and Sandy Stone (transadvocate)
Julia Serano (coined the term transmisogyny)
 - Transmisogyny Primer
 - Writings (as listed on her website)
 - Book: Excluded
 - Book: Whipping Girl
TERF Week (transadvocate) (collection of articles)
Trans 101 (transadvocate)
Not your mom’s trans 101 (tranarchy)
Sex And Gender Are Actually The Same Thing (But Bear With Me…) (androgneity)
TransAdvocate 101 (transadvocate)
Transmisogyny tag (radical gender coalition)
Janet Mock
 - Book: Redefining Realness
Susan Stryker
Vivek Shraya (artist, poet)
Serena Sonoma
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (it’s basically a textbook - medical/healthcare focus)
TransPULSE (studies and statistics, valuable for knowing what common issues different trans populations face) (note: specific to so-called Ontario, Canada)
USTS (similar but for so-called America)
Projects and orgs:
Trans History Archive
Making Queer History
OFTVpodcast (trans history)
Queer Zine Project
Twitters:
@TransEthics
@fktransmisogyny
Comics:
Assigned Male
Robot Hugs /tagged/transgender
Peach Fuzz
YouTubers:
Julie Vu
Kat Blaque
Stef Sanjati
This list is obviously not comprehensive, these are just starting points off the top of my head. 
If your character is a racialized person (especially if they deal with colonialism) this requires research on binarism, which is a colonial racist force. Transmisogynoir is also a research point. 
Basically every intersection out there has activists and advocates writing on those experiences and the things which make them unique.
If anyone has any more suggestions or you are a transmisogyny-affected sensitivity reader/editor, feel free to reply or reblog with that info!
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scriptlgbt · 1 year
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Mod Nat’s Massive Binding Guide For Writers
Preface
I’ve been writing this for months now and will be perpetually updating it whenever I can and have enough information to update. Contributions and tips and whatnot are greatly appreciated, the link to give those is at the bottom of this page and should be linked on every page linked here as well.
The version you are currently seeing of the table of contents was last updated 2018-06-15. Please check the original post from our blog to ensure this is most recent version.
This is a guide of binding techniques aimed at writers depicting the honest experiences of these methods. This is not medical advice.
Table of Contents
READ FIRST: Writing Considerations and Health Information
Methods of Binding
1920s bandeau 
Addition methods
Bandages (ace/tensor), Back braces
Cling wrap
Commercial binders
Compression bras
Compression shirts
Corset
DIY binders (elastic, neoprene, tights)
Sarashi
Tape (Trans tape, kinesiology tape, duct/packing tape)
Wrapped cloth
Comments, corrections, clarifications, resource suggestions or requests?
Send it here!
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