#throws tantrums often

[basu-shokikita]

maybe i have not seen the content people complain about but when i see talks about the fandom infantilizing toki i'm confused cause like...didn't canon start that...with every passing season toki become more and more child-like until age regression was essentially confirmed in aotd...

#dont reblog PLEASE im just thinking outloud i dont want discourse #rambling #like idk canonically toki likes coloring books and offered pizza/chocolate to skwisgaar in exchange for a solo #he gets excited about secret santa and says woweee #he has a teddy bear etc etc #none of these things have to be inherently child-like #but the way toki is written during these scenes is purposefully meant to be perceived that way #plus he's the youngest of the band #never taken seriously #throws tantrums often #and so on #there's a whole scene in aotd where the joke is that toki is essentially acting like a child that wants to be taken to the bathroom #there's always gonna be people flanderizing but honestly toki is a tough nut to crack tbh #the key is finding the balance imo. he might have child-like interests but hes also BRUTAL #and overall he STILL IS AN ADULT in a death metal band that gets his dick wet often and does drugs on the regular #he just also is traumatized and wants to reclaim the childhood he never had imo #i think dethklok is somehow a safe space for him to act the way he wants to act vs the way he was forced to when he lived w his parents #he prolly had no choice but to grow too fast and was essentially forbidden to experience any kind of joy #so with dethklok he can indulge in all those silly little things he never got to back then #thats how i see it at least

[braimin]

I've mentioned it before but I think when Sanji's inconvenienced or annoyed with something happening between him and Zoro he does this thing where he flails and acts like he's gonna faint like those Victorian girls. Sometimes he gives big Tamaki from ohshc energy if you know what I mean.

Like anytime something he's planned for them goes wrong he has a breakdown and cries about it. Sanji's already always been an overreactive drama queen. But it's worse now, and the crew (Nami) has started calling it his 'Damsel Mode' because every time he acts like that everyone expects Zoro to go save him from his 'turmoil'.

When Sanji and Zoro first get together it really isn't all that bad. It's over the stuff that Zoro is definitely at fault for. Like when he ruins a date by starting fights or getting lost, or when he unintentionally says something really insensitive. But then over time it turns into something a little more unhinged. Like if he doesn't try to protect Sanji's 'honor' when someone insults him. 'Oi, shouldn't you stand up for your man and say something?' 'You're an adult Cook. Do it yourself.' 'Omg Marimo what's the point of keeping a stray if he won't even play guard dog?' 'Don't call me a dog.' Or if someone flirts with him, he'll entertain them for a bit and wait for Zoro to get all jealous, it never works and every time he looks over to find Zoro completely unbothered by it he gets so pissy.

Any time he decides he hasn't received enough attention he goes all 'oh, woe is me, my husband hates me.' But he also won't say to Zoro's face that he wants attention, he just wilts away in his kitchen.

Zoro is pretty good at being able to tell if it's 'Damsel Mode' or if there's actually something up with him. If it is 'Damsel Mode' then he's really sarcastic while he 'comforts' him like 'Yeah yeah, Curls, I'm a terrible husband.' But when it's something serious he'll come to Sanji really quietly and hold him. Zoro's failsafe plan is usually to make food for him (no matter how shitty it turns out) because it almost always makes Sanji feel loved.

#zosan #sanji #zoro #one piece #I just think Sanji should be really dramatic and roll around on the ground more often #Zoro will just stand over him like those parents in grocery stores who just stand there and watch their kid throw a tantrum on the floor #Damsel Mode is different from his pathetic tantrums about girls #and yet very similar lol

[eleonorvoncarter]

#goatboy #azzy is precious #i should draw him more often #asriel just being asriel #asriel loves flowers #he eats pie with his bare hands #then throws a tantrum over something dumb #who else wants to give him a hug

[m4ndysk4nkovich]

i genuinely like… can’t function when i see ian/debbie gallagher slander. i’m so dramatic, i know they’re fictional characters and everyone has the right to their own opinion, but i also will defend them with my life and i have blocked people because of the slander many times

#i’m just as much of an ian defender as i am a debbie defender #people just wanna be fucking dumb about debbie more often #shameless #ian gallagher #debbie gallagher #i’m so unserious and i will throw an actual tantrum if you hate either one of them

[piplupod]

i need to lie down and curl into a ball and tuck myself into a box and be gently lowered into the earth i think. and just stay there for a few days... years... however long it needs to be until i can exist without feeling like i am a prey animal being hunted for sport every day !!!!!!!

#And Suddenly Everything Felt Overwhelming Again. And Suddenly Reality Opened Its Eyes And Gazed Into My Own. #I can't even think straight like... how do people live entire lives #how do they exist without forcing themselves to continue every day and ignore the clanging bells of how Bad it all is #how do ppl ignore the siren song of how fragile the body is and how easy it would be to break the thread keeping the self alive #like i do think maybe death should not be such an easily obtainable thing. its so tempting and i hate it #I Don't Know !!!! head in my hands. i did not eat lunch today because I felt so bad so maybe that has made things worse #it has definitely made things worse. i want to have an existence where I do not feel this bad so often. #this is not a life to live. this is an existence to endure. i am tired i am tired i am tired. #but it will be okay again soon after I eat and distract myself. life is happy and wonderful when i do not Remember it All. god. #please ignore me as i throw a tantrum fdsjkl i am embarrassed in advance honestly. something is not right in my head right now.

[yume-fanfare]

knowing it's ok for people to dislike characters for no reason and that they have no obligation of reading stories for characters they don't like vs if they were to read even just one idol story they'd see they're factually wrong about many of their assumptions

#though often that's not enough to change people's mind (fair) #there would at least be less misconceptions............... #mar's midnight rambles #anyways. tori himemiya is someone who works hard to reach his goals and is earnest and kind he is a simple good kid #he doesnt actually have a mean bone in his body and he does not throw tantrums when things don't go his way #he isn't really that spoiled he just Isn't #which is obvious enough if you read almost any of his stories.................. #like just the fact that he has yuzuru. it's so his parents wouldn't have to pay that much attention to him

[kiwikipedia]

I think that it is important to return to that understanding and divide between Canon and Fanon again.

Yes, Canon has problems and plot holes and issues, but that is fundamentally the starting point and base for fanworks. It’s not mouldable and it’s not going to change unless the creator of said Canon— or new owner, in the wild cases of Disney and Star Wars and Amazon and LOTR (I guess?)— changes what they originally have written.

I think that it’s fine to jokingly say “oh I accept this as canon now” or “this is canon” to a Fan interpretation, but emphasis on the joke. People have to understand that Fanon Canon is not Canon.

Fanon literally comes from Fandom and Canon. It is not Canon. It should never be treated like Canon save for extenuating circumstances where Canon can no longer uphold itself to its prior standards. And even then that Fanon needs to be taken with the biggest fucking heaping of salt possible.

By treating Fanon as Canon, it restricts any creativity and further building onto the Canon base-frame and is ultimately harmful to new creators and even old ones who don’t want to adhere to some new fanon idea that suddenly barges in. You are not the first to be a fan of something, you are not the last fan of something and ultimately you are not the creator of a series that you are a fan of. You cannot change Canon and you cannot force others to accept your Fanon as Canon.

Every single interpretation of Canon is its own Fanon and that is just how it is.

Pointing at someone else’s work and saying “that’s not right!” just because that isn’t how you interpret a character, pairing, situation, location, foundation, organization, motive, narrative, or anything else is both a dick move and wrong.

You are allowed to create worlds upon worlds based on your own Fanon, but you cannot force that onto someone else. Furthermore, you cannot force a Fanon take onto someone else because, again, Fanon is not Canon and it is not your job nor even remotely OK for you to force someone to accept a Fanon take they don’t want to.

Likewise, you cannot force someone to make use of a “Fanon” Character because all that is at the very core is an over glorified OC with a cult following. That character is not Canon. 

Forcing Fanon onto someone ultimately is what drives people away from the fandom, and when you complain that there’s no more good work being put out by fans, take a moment to ask yourself why that is.

#I will gladly make room at the fandom table for other interpretation #but i will not give up my seat because you throw a tantrum #no nuance november but its not november and im just petty and mad #i can think of maybe three extenuating circumstances where Fanon triumphs over Canon and thats only because the Canon is so shitty. and even #then its widely accepted that the Fanon of that situation is not canon but simply refered back to often #i am hangry and going to yell #fandom discourse #psa #im also not sure whats going on with JRRT's work and Amazon but from what i know TROP is like. bad lol #not sure if they have full control like disney does so thats why the (??) is there #kiwiki says fuck #Kiwiki Speaks

[muraenide]

Perhaps it's time to make it everyone's problem that he didn't get to go to the masquerade, or shall he ask Rollo himself for an invitation?

Crushes the glass in his hand into pieces.

"Oh dear ~ I would have to clean that up afterward."

#𖦹 ⋆꙳ ⁄ dash commentary. #𖦹 ⋆꙳ ⁄ ic. #// im just saying #// jade should throw tantrums more often

[spotsupstuff]

god DAMN that is such a fucked up backstory for a ghosty guy. i love it 👍 also disdain’s colors being faded cause of his presence is such a neat detail omg…

JGHSLKCMLDKGJL remedying that "cute" accusation GJSDLKJCLKDJ THANKS I SUPPOSE GDJSLGJLKDJ

oooh lil fact added to that- the specific idea behind her colors (including the bags under her eyes) is that she starts looking like a victim of drowning, referring to Ko's body's fate. Iterators have skin on their puppets up in this interpretation and hers feels rather clammy too. just unpleasant stuff

the Ancients have tried skinning her (in a way that didn't hurt) and drafting different skin on her, even artificially coloring her, but just nothing wants to stick so at some point they just kind of give up and settle for an Interator who's puppet looks like a corpse

they don't really know why too because they are in denial that they might have a ghost situation up in their Iterator

#spot says stuff #rw #oc tag #as is often the case legends have different interpretations too (nasty warning further down) #some takes on Ko's story say that not only did he kill the child but also started eating it cuz you know how european folklore doesnt know- #-when enough is enough sometimes? yeah. #Inkling is native to this colony too. she grew up with a variation on it that told he tried to (sexually) assault the fiancé when he- #-spotted her. it was told like that to teach the children about That being wrong. a lil trauma never hurt nobody but Ko is certainly- #-fuckign Struggling man. he fucking hates it here. gon go bury his face in Disdains back and throw a tantrum real quick

[deepspaceclawstation]

I feel so stupid rn

#I forgot that I (am allowed to) exist the way I do because of a fortuitous combination of many factors #and that just because *I* can ignore the societal pressure to marry (and reproduce ig) doesn't mean other people are similarly fortunate #It isn't their fault and they owe me nothing. I understand that. #I just... we talked about this #We didn't make concrete plans or promises or anything solid but #we made jokes about moving in together in the same house with separate rooms #And ranted about how much we didn't want marriage and all it entails #and idk. It often felt like we were trying to go against the tide or something #When I heard the news I felt heartbroken yes but mostly I just felt... betrayed? #Like they were 'selling out' or 'giving in' #And let me clarify this is an arranged marriage that their relatives fixed for them. but also they said yes #And I just. don't get it #I expected them to hold out a little longer #and they told me. a MONTH before the date #A MONTH #I know I am making a huge deal out of it but idk it just hurts and I feel like shit and I feel like throwing a tantrum about it #I should clarify that I KNOW that I'm being irrational #My conceptualisation of the situation as them 'giving in' is ridiculous and unfair #I just... didn't think I had bought so much into the idea that we were going to be single together you know? #It's on me for daydreaming and reading into things #I wouldn't care so much if it was a love marriage situation or whatever coz I was prepared for that scenario #They are so so interesting and beautiful and clever and used to have so many admirers I thought it was only a matter of time #That would hurt but I'd live with it because whoever they chose would be worth it #But THIS?? #I feel like a jilted lover despite being leagues away from being anything resembling a lover #I am being so self important right now like I know I wouldn't even have been a passing thought in their mind while deliberating on this #I feel like laughing at myself looking at this from an outside perspective #So stupid and acting so unreasonably #I'm channelling all my negative selfish irrational thoughts here because if I carry them with me irl I will explode #I haven't even cried about it really. I should cry about it it will make me feel better but I know that will trip off a spiral of self-pity

[basingstokemercury]

Respect to Enter Mark Twain for having the line "the Cartwrights can take care of themselves" applied in relation to the one Cartwright who often very much cannot take care of himself and drags the others into trouble

#pondering the ponderosa #look Joe is a sweetheart when he's behaving himself and not throwing a tantrum #(I was so angry at him in The Last Hunt even he ought to be better than that) #but uh he is also a brat and a naive idiot more often than not

[bi-sapphics]

yet another grown-ass butch lesbian on twitter finding out that the femme they met on a dating app is actually bi and then getting angry about an issue that wasn't there before.

i'm getting tired ?! aren't you ?!

#basically the 'if i had a nickel for each time this happened it wouldn't be a lot but it's weird that it happened twice' phrase rn #but like. why is it always the butch lesbian separatists well into their 20s throwing tantrums over bi femmes #first it was radioactivebutch on here and now it's teddybearbutchh on twitter #the assumption that lesbians will find safety in a butch4femme relationship bc it'll always be les4les is so WEIRD and GROSS #and we should discuss it more me thinks #note how i didn't say anything is inherently wrong with les4les relationships but they are often flawed with intentions imo #anyways i don't wanna get into _4_ discourse rn but i always found the 'safety' argument among sapphic versions #to be bullshit (compared to t4t aut4aut blk4blk etc.) #biphobia #biphobic lesbians #butch/femme discourse #why are we still here my god !!

[weabooweedwitch]

I feel weird as fuck commenting on your situation in any capacity because I'm just an online rando who doesn't know you personally or the details of your issues w/ your mom beyond what you post and it all just feels a lil too parasocial but even though alleged therapist anon raises some (potentially?) good points about your relationship w/ her and maybe overall emotional issues I don't think you should beat yourself up too hard. It's normal for trauma survivors such as yourself to have some unhealthy and toxic interpersonal habits (slightly side-eyeing alleged therapist for not at least acknowledging this instead of just going in on you). You're not perfect, your mom is not perfect, it's okay we're all imperfect beings on this planet we call earth. Whether or not you're a covert narcissist (not gonna lie I had to google that one lmao) is between you and a personal, ahem, real therapist. Maybe you have some emotional dysregulation issues okay so what? Those can be improved!

Fun story about this online rando I was actually diagnosed with moderate to severe BPD at age 18. It turns out this was kind of a misdiagnosis in the first place, but my symptomatology (namely RSD from neurodiversity) very closely mimicked that of BPD and I had a lot of emotional problems perhaps similar to your own. You mentioned doing a round of DBT when you were a teenager and not finding success, but according to my actual real therapist and personal experiences it's very common for DBT to need multiple rounds before the skills fully sink in. It's also way better doing DBT as a fully formed adult than a teenager who frankly, probably doesn't take their mental health nearly as seriously as they should lmao (this crazy girl shit gets less and less cute with age I'm telling you). I'm now 23 and after 3 rounds of DBT I'm told I don't meet the criteria for borderline personality at all and haven't for a while now. Unfortunately there is a lot of stigma around this disorder (I noticed therapist anon throwing the word 'manipulative' around a bit), but that doesn't mean it's actually true. In many ways BPD is the modern day hysteria, but I won't go down that rabbit hole, just don't pay attention to what ignorant and oftentimes lowkey misogynistic people have to say online about BPD or other mental disorder! They are stupid armchair diagnoses who 99% of the time don't know wtf they're even talking about. You are loveable and worthy of life <3

I slept after work and i have a few asks now so, I'm gonna start this discussion again but since I uh, can get overwhelmed and over emotional I might eventually disappear from answering if u need to step back, but, anyways

One thing I have to be careful about is automatically leaning into "oh maybe they aren't even a real therapist" and I even got an ask suggesting this was one of those bitch lasagna people who were trying to actively make me miserable, which, I don't think is the case, but I also have to be careful automatically discrediting or lashing out emotionally at criticism because, well, a big problem I've always had is not being able to trust my own judgment and needing feedback from other people, stemming I assume from self loathing and anxiety stuff and I technically already am diagnosed with dependent personality disorder which, lack of self trust is a symptom of that (I'm sure I've mentioned that but maybe not?). One reason i began venting online when i was younger was because I would often have these sorts of incidents with my mother and I would use my blogs as the equivalent of an "am I the asshole" forum. I try to have a discussion and hearing other people's perspectives is good, and, a big issue I've struggled with is my mom immediately trying to get personal or discredit other people when they try to criticize her. Like, this isn't me going "see, my therapist thinks she's a stupid bitch" I mean when i was a minor she would literally go from absolutely loving a therapist and thinking they're extremely talented and caring and then when I got mad and repeated things like "hey you know, this is a licensed medical professional saying that a big component of our mother daughter dynamic is that you will literally wear me down to do what you want and you make it extremely difficult for me to set boundaries" and she has, literally, gone "they shouldn't be talking to you about me like that, I'm your parent, oh they just believe you because they've only listened to you, not me"

Well. I had multiple therapy sessions where, sometimes the topic would be dealing with my sister, or because I often feel like I struggle to bring up everything from not remembering, there WERE multiple times she would come into a session with me just to add on behaviors she's seen in me and things we've dealt with with my sister, and I had therapists tell me "yeah let's not have your mom come in here, she kept actually venting about her own issues and she was literally taking over your session and she was actually talking over you"

And im not, saying that to "prove" my mom is shitty or to say "oh look see, im justified" but like. My anger has built up over time? This didn't just magically start happening?

Yeah I need to stop blowing up over smaller things but also at the same time, I think I have a right to be frustrated when I'm seeing the same mistakes over and over, at least the ones that can financially damaging? I'm still SHOCKED she just stopped randomly paying the garage because. The remote isn't working and we have to use the keypad and I think some of the keypad buttons are loosening so sometimes you have to stand there and try it a few times because sometimes it won't close, it'll "untouch" a button you're still holding down and start opening again. And her response to that was "oh they weren't getting back to my emails so I just stopped paying rent" like. She. She literally dug us a hole worth hundreds of dollars for.... feeling entitled to help and getting mad over not getting it? She's been doing these sorts of behaviors for years? (Rm for post length)

Like gee I wonder what would happen if she pulled that shit with our landlord. "Oh, im gonna stop paying rent because the exhaust fan in the bathroom doesn't work" like no???? Why is she doing these things???? I was literally raised in poverty, why is she still doing this after we've had a literal lifetime of hardships???? Like gee thanks for not paying rent when you had solid income and now you're unemployed with hundreds of dollars due, that definitely helps, thanks, that's so much better, what a wise decision 🙄 and I call her out on it and she like, she literally sees nothing wrong with what she did? Because they didn't immediately cater to her, she stopped paying rent in protest, and that's Their fault. Like. That's fucking delusional. What if the property management tells our landlord we aren't paying for the garage and we get evicted??? Like it feels like she doesn't even realize the consequences???

Anyways back to what you actually said, fjfjfjf I rambled there, one thing I've noticed about DBT from the few times I was inpatient and outpatient is. You really do have to be in the right headspace for it to even work. It's so weird because certain things they would talk about and I would go "yeah well obviously, thats common sense" and other things would, kine of create an epiphany. Like for example, a phrase I try to keep with me is "its a process not an event" which basically means "don't get frustrated at immediate growth or results, things can take time" and this can apply to therapy, medication, really you can apply it to anything, but for me personally often when I am not seeing direct or immediate results, I feel like a failure and might give up way too soon, or beat myself up when I Am showing progress, just slowly.

Another DBT mindfulness technique I actually need to practice more (and tbh this could be an adhd thing, bc, I've always had focusing issues and I've read adhd can actually cause emotional regulation issues as well) is, like. When someone is speaking to you, don't be sitting there thinking of your reply, like, literally sitting there waiting for the second they stop speaking to say what you want, because then you're not thinking about and absorbing what the other person is saying. Although in my case often times I find myself doing that because I'm afraid I'll forget what I was gonna say, and my mom could also use a little work in this department

I definitely do think it's time for me to be reassessed though. I feel like now that I'm older and can better articulate my thoughts and memories and how things affect my relationships and ability to function, it can, I dunno, yield more results? Like something I heard constantly as a kid was "oh you have depression and anxiety and a lot of things overlap, let's treat those and see what symptoms are left" and its like homie that's kind of such a bad cop out sometimes, I feel like doctors adopting that mindset in my case really missed some important stuff. Like shit it feels weird to say since the trauma that caused it isn't recent, but I still display PTSD symptoms just in the sense that I'm jumpier and hypervigilant, like if there's an unexpected noise I still physically jump, I get startled easier, just the constant like, urge and need to look towards sounds or survey my surroundings which, I recognize my brain is literally going "hey, keep a look out for DANGER"

Regardless like, me being able to have these discussions with other people, positive or negative, is ultimately for my own benefit. Because this really is a sort of thing I can't do on my own. This IS a thing you take other people's feedbacks and perspectives on. But Jesus like. I'm not saying anyone has to hold my hand but that really felt so personally aggressive and it sent me onto a really horrible mental space. You know sometimes people insult themselves and belittle themselves because they think they're a lowly little worm and they just, they just hate themselves bro, like, it isn't always some inherent attempt to manipulate or demand pity and comfort. I've actually overnormalized saying horrible shit about myself and joking about suicide to the point I say it just, really easily, it comes naturally to me now, and that's definitely another habit I have to break

There's definitely stuff wrong with me, it's just a matter of finding out exactly what and, working towards treating that. It's just, unfortunately going to take some time and I need to make sure I keep my head on straight and don't do anything drastic in a fit of helplessness and despair or anything 😅

#like i dont rven feel like i can reply to these more supportive messages because of the accusations im just. tricking people? #idk... im just trying to be good and its hard. im having trouble controlling myslef #i often have like visceral physical reactions when i get upset like my heart literally begins racing #this isnt oh miranda is throwing a tantrum like im often sttaight up in crisis mode #idk. i just. want to know what to dk

[barbiecarlo]

sale is such a dipshit oh my god just shut up already

#red sox lb #t #throwing a temper tantrum like a seven yr old does not make you a big leaguer you fucking idiot #i am so annoyed about this god #all he needed to say was yeah that was a dumb thing to do sorry! i'll pay for the repairs! #and just shut up after that but no the clown's gotta keep talking #also i don't care how often this shit happens it shouldn't!

[loserposter]

I hate him.

#he makes me feel unattractive #no matter how much and how often he praises everything about me #i dont feel a thing #cause of the other things he ALSO says... featuring hits like “ure an amazing person but” and #“you can be difficult” #“thats so weird” #and last but not least “you're throwing a tantrum” #loser.posting

[s-loves-hot-coffee]

That feeling of having a lifetime's worth of rage fills you after a small inconvenience and then going away a split second later without a proper way of expressing it

#Coffe Rambles #It happens far too often for comfort #wonder if it has something to do with my ADHD #I got sick of explaining things I did all my life to my therapist and her gently explaining that it is indeed a symptom of ADHD #Is this the diagnosed later in life experience? lol #Then again the contrary of that feeling is when I know rationally that I can't be mad or sad about something and the feeling not going away #It makes me feel like I'm throwing a tantrum #even if I got very good at not showing it