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chikkou · 4 years

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Will you talk more about Lisa?? Lisa the character specifically but also your feelings on his feelings about Buddy? I just thought your analysis was so good and I want to hear other thoughts you have on her.

yall are honestly spoiling me rn sdhkfdjfks this is like a dream come true

i already got into the stuff with buddy in this ask here but i have a LOT to say about lisa and the connection between her and buddy so u better settle in!

ok so firstly ill start with lisa. i played the original lisa game (lisa the first) not long after it first dropped in 2012, and im not even kidding when i said it changed me LMAO.... seeing a story about a girl suffering is nothing new, but austin jorgensens approach to it was so fucking unique. you dont just witness it, you get to EXPERIENCE it right along with her. many stories that involve sexual abuse/rape show or otherwise depict it explicitly for the shock value, which is both disgusting and, in my opinion, extremely fucking exploitative. i feel that it is horrific to dignify an act so deeply evil with screentime. but lisa stood out to me immediately because, even though you know exactly whats going on, the game NEVER shows anything explicit. everything is layered in subtext and symbolism, and austin is fantastic with indirect storytelling, so you learn so much from just a little drop of information. this applies not just to the game proper, but to the character as well.

in case its not clear: i absolutely ADORE lisa. she is my favorite character in all of the games, bar none. its going to sound kind of fucked up, but as a kid around her age going through some fucked up shit, her committing suicide at the end felt like a sort of victory to me. she knew she could never escape from marty or what he was doing to her. he leaks into every single part of her psyche, everything she ever cared about or loved is ruined because of him, and even the vague memory of her mother is completely corrupted, and turned into a muddled version of him. lisa the first also had the added benefit of some religious commentary, as there are crosses all over their home and marty is characterized as an extremely religious man, which i fucking LOVE and wish had come back in the painful, but its an acceptable loss. anyway, lisa committing suicide at the end was an act of defiance against not just marty, but martys god, as suicide is considered a mortal sin in catholicism. lisa knew she’d never be free of marty in life, so she escaped the only way she could; she was defiant to the end.

ive seen people complain that the painful has a bit of a “lost lenore” thing going on, since lisas death seems to fuel the Manpain of both brad and buzzo, but i actually disagree. on the contrary, its just like austin himself said - lisa will never be gone. lisa is ALWAYS there, with brad, and buzzo, and buddy, and marty, and yado, and the ENTIRE FUCKING WORLD. i dont necessarily think that there is something paranormal going on in the game, but i AM going to say that, unlike other cases of a girl/woman dying for a mans backstory, lisa isnt just a bittersweet memory they can reflect on and then put away when its convenient for them. she is a presence that is felt throughout the entire game. brad sees her more than once, sometimes watching, sometimes reprimanding him. buzzo is clearly haunted by her, as he cries out to her a few times in the joyful. every character who was directly touched by lisa - brad, marty, and buzzo - calls out to lisa as they die. call it their guilt or call it her actions, but in either case, it is clear that lisa just as significant of a character in the painful as she was in the first, even if she cant always be seen. even in a meta-sense, every game in the series - even the joyful, whose protagonist doesnt even know who she is - is named after her. she is at the center of everything that happens in them.

that actually brings me to buddy, because i find the dynamic between her and lisa fucking fascinating. as i previously mentioned, brad never talked about his past with buddy, and snaps at her for bringing up his adoptive son dusty (rando), so it goes without saying that she definitely doesnt know who lisa is. in spite of that, though, lisa is a fucking massive part of buddys life, and while she may not know the person herself, i think she is aware that when people (and brad especially) look at her, they arent seeing HER.

i mentioned it in another post, but even though brad takes it upon himself to raise and “protect” buddy, he seems to almost unwittingly recreate lisas appearance, primarily by allowing her hair to grow long even though he knows what a risk that is to her safety. he also treats buddy in a manner thats incredibly similar to how marty treated lisa (sans sexual abuse, of course) - he insults her, does not let her leave the house at all, and forces her to do unsavory things that no one should ever have to do (in buddys case, this means killing at least two innocent people because brad doesnt want a “weak” daughter). the most literal comparison between buddy and lisa is the fact that they are both very young girls being essentially held captive by their father figures, albeit for different reasons, and both long for freedom from their captors.

theres also the fact that both buddy and lisa have to deal with misogyny and the effects of rape culture firsthand; they both battle against men who feel entitled to do with them whatever they please, and the threat of ongoing sexual abuse looms heavy over both of their heads. neither one can seek help from anyone; the neighbors in brad and lisas town seem complacent at best, if they even know what is happening to lisa at all, and buddys only allies (sans rando) are long dead by the start of the joyful. this is not just a hypothetical or a distant possibility. this is the real, tangible fate that will befall them if they cant somehow secure their safety.

sadly, because lisa wasnt playable in either of the rpgs, we dont know if she was able to fight as brad was, but it is highly probable that she had the innate skill but was never able to learn it (as marty highly discouraged them from learning “their grandfathers karate,” and seemed disgusted whenever brad did so). however, she did have ONE weapon she could make use of, and this is a weapon buddy ends up using, as well - her femininity. she became close to bernard (aka buzzo), made him fall in love with her, and then used him as a last ditch effort to stop martys abuse by having him mutilate her face. im not saying lisa never cared about bernard - in fact, i think she DID really love and care for him - but her own fucked up experiences with “love” meant she really couldnt understand what it was supposed to be like, or that it was wrong to manipulate the people you care about. lisa did very few things wrong - it pretty much just stops at the maiming of the cat and her manipulation of bernard - but she knew that she would never get away from marty without some kind of drastic action being taken, and scarring herself was her last ditch effort before ultimately committing suicide.

buddy ends up taking a somewhat similar tack in the joyful, and like in lisas case, its simultaneously resourceful and horrific. one of buddys key moves in the joyful is to flash the enemy (which the player obviously doesnt see) in order to distract them long enough to get the kill. its fucking horrible and disgusting and makes you feel so dirty, but then, how must buddy feel having to do something like that just to survive? shes just a child, but in a world where almost every man is out to get you, she knows this has to be done to save herself, very much like lisa. unlike in lisas case, though, buddy is successful in securing her safety in this way - lisas effort is for naught, and leads to her committing suicide not very long after.

in a way, i sort of attribute buddys brutality to lisas omnipresence; all of the men pursuing buddy are just like marty, monsters who would harm a fucking child for their own disgusting ends, and i think that when buzzo said that lisa wouldve loved olathe, what he means is that she would have loved seeing so many horrible men being punished for what theyd done. so in my opinion, buddy carving out a place for herself in olathe by killing all those who would subjugate her seems very much in the mentality lisa would have had. sure, there are some innocents who sadly get roped into it, but that would definitely not be her intention; for example, if buzzo could have practiced amputation without harming a living thing, i dont think lisa would have asked him to practice on the cat. note the LACK of brutality at the beehive and the swamp bar, two of the few peaceful places in the painful and both devoid of predatory men hunting for buddy - lisa has no qualm with any of them. but marty? brad could hardly even get a full sentence out before killing him on the spot. i dont doubt that that has a great deal to do with lisas presence.

ok i talked for a while LMAO but basically i think that, in a more metatextual sense, lisa and buddys relationship really strikes me as an accurate depiction of generational trauma. of course it was intentional with the more obvious trauma chain (marty to brad to buddy), but the trauma chain of marty to lisa to buddy is rarely ever addressed due to lisa not physically appearing in the painful. however, i believe it may inform buddys actions a great deal more than people realize - after all, buddys experience is unique, but who could understand it better than lisa? who knows that sort of pain, of being alone on an island, the lone woman trapped with a man (or men) who want nothing more than to cause you harm? even without her realizing it, lisa is guiding buddy, encouraging her to take back what is hers no matter the cost, to punish those who would try to take what they want from her. lisa might be dead, but she is a vengeful presence throughout every game, and buddys actions feel like theyre meant not only to save herself, but to avenge lisa, even if she doesnt realize it. at the end of the day, buddy and lisa both get to exact revenge against all the men who have wronged them, and they succeed. they are aggressive, and violent, and selfish, and ANGRY - and they have every fucking right to be.

#lisa the first #lisa the painful #lisa the joyful #long post #yall GOTTA stop u know good and damn well i will talk about this game all fucking day hdskjdsk #rape mention #abuse mention #lisa #anya's anons

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thatkinkyboi · 4 years

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How do you feel about extreme ddlg? Like the sub regresses to way underage and the dom is way older

Hm...well I guess it comes down to personal preference.

Personally, I get super uncomfy when some 40+ seeks out littles that are just barely 18 or even under 21. It screams predatory to me unless its strictly a nonsexual dom/sub mentorship (which is a thing I can elaborate on if needed).

Personally, I feel people under 21 are often times under prepared for kink and bdsm since they are just coming out of an abstinence only childhood and suddenly are expected to be adults. Let's face it. Even me as a 25 yr old, I'm still seen a a kid in peoples eyes. There's a lot I dont have experience in. I'd rather people under 21 take the time to explore what they want sexually since now theyll probably have more sexual freedom. Really the lack of sex ed is a huge component in all of this age differences and stuff.

Now let's say you have a couple and there is a slight age difference but they are st least in the same generation or age bracket. Like let's say they are both in their 20s or 30s.

If the sub regresses that's fine. I regress to a childish state and sometimes I want sex and other times I dont.

Something I've noticed is having a specific age group to regress to isnt needed or even overly common. Some just act more childish in whatever way they feel childish. I dont have a specific age.

As long as everyone involved is safe sane consensual and everyone is within the legal age, I dont really have a right or place to condemn anyone.

It's their choice and decision. And the cool thing about being an adult is you have the autonomy to make that decision for yourself. If I dont like or someone else doesnt like, who gives a fuck? They aren't part of the dynamic.

You feel me?

Tldr: as long as everyone is safe, sane, consensual, and old enough to legally consent, it's your decision and your relationship. Anyone outside of the dynamic ultimately has no say. So as long as you are happy and your partner is happy, does it really matter?

#bd/sm community #bd/sm lifestyle #pro kink #pro-kink #bd/sm blog #bd/sm relationship #tw #lgbt pride

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void-official · 5 years

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“Micro-identities/’Mogai/ya’ll literally just be making shit up now” OK. i’m sorry im stuck on this and this is the last i’ll talk about it today bc fuck it. I’m gonna be Real for a second. And it’s going to be awkward, and it’s going to be long, and I’m gonna Lose Follower bc defending micro-labels is Cringe. Whatever. I get it. go ahead and unfollow. The rest of you who actually care. and in the spirit of Pride Month, as someone who feels like they’re almost never allowed to express Pride in who I am? Here we go.

I’m bi. Most of you can probably tell, im not exactly subtle about it.

I’m bi. But

my actual interest in dating or having sex with Anyone has been pretty much negligible for my entire life. I just don’t Care. I never have. Dating and sex seem like a hassle to me and I don’t feel like i’m particularly missing out by not taking part in them. It doesn’t negate my enjoyment of peoples bodies necessarily, nor does it mean I never get crushes on people it just means at the end of the day, my desire to go out there and find people to have sex with and/or date has always been like. really really low. Even if the opportunity was there. And i’ve come to terms with this. I accept this about myself.

There is actually a great deal of overlap between bi and ace identity. all those ‘weird little terms’ like ‘demisexual’ you guys hate so much were originally created for people like me, who feel like they are fundamentally not allowed to call themselves something straightforward like ‘bi’ (or straight/gay/lesbian) without people inevitably screaming at them for Doing It Wrong. So they can describe how they feel in a brief word, instead of having to go through the pains of explaining the complex relationship they have with sexual attraction to every fucking person who asks what their sexuality is.

saying ‘well you should just be able to say bi and leave it at that’ doesn’t actually account for the experiences i have when i Just Say i’m Bi. Even me Just Saying ‘im bi’ i’ve always gotta deal with harassment from people whoget weirdly agressive about -why- i’m not out there fucking or dating the people i claim im attracted to. Am I a prude? a Tease? Just an ‘Acey’ lying for brownie points? Am I Actually Just Traumatized? (They ask in a really aggressive condescending way, like thats actually how you should talk to someone you think is potentially traumatized) But by the standards of this discourse, i’m not allowed to call myself ace either, because then people are going to yell at me that if I experience the tiniest smidgen of sexual attraction or romantic inclination sometimes, or post pictures of sexy video game characters, clearly i cant be that either I literally can’t win. there is not a thing I can call myself that won’t earn me the ire of LGBT people on tumblr who think they know me and what i should call myself better than I do. And believe me i hate talking about this More than you do. I’d rather just shut up and let people Assume i’m whatever they want me to be sometimes but then mutuals i thought i trusted will inevitably openly make fun of the people who outwardly call themselves demisexual or whatever microlabel is trendy to shit on currently, and usually i bite my tongue cause at the end of the day its Just Words, right? I don’t even use that word, right? Its just words and some words can be interchangeable and not everyone knows what they mean which can feel alienating and unnecessary to people who don’t understand them. I -get- why people ‘cringe’ when they see like 10 terms they don’t understand in someones bio. why do you think i don’t even list anything about my sexuality in mine other than my pronouns?

but I always remember like. just bc that label isnt For Me, it doesn’t mean there might be someone in a similar position to me who doesnt feel comfortable just calling themeslves bi, and prefers the label ‘demisexual biromantic’ who feels like that phrase puts them in a place of peace and contentment, and I wouldn’t argue with them about it. Bc thats their fucking choice. Them being happy with who they are takes priority over my personal opinions of the language they use. same with gender nonconforming people who dont want call themselves trans or nonbinary. Thats fucking Fine. I’m not telling you to have to use the same words as me if you don’t feel like they’re necessary or accurate. I literally don’t give a rats ass what words you use to identify yourself so long as they’re not being used to hurt other people. I just want to be able to have Words, for myself, that describe how I feel, that don’t result in people treating my entire identity like some shitty discourse Meme. And right now I have none. No matter what I call myself, people choose tell me it’s not accurate, or its too complicated.

As for all these shitty fucking posts about people ‘forcing’ young people to take up labels. This. This doesn’t actually happen? (OK I won’t say it doesn’t happen ever on an individual level? but that its not something enforced or encouraged by any group as a practice, and that distinction is necessary, bc saying it happens on a large scale literally implies predatory intentions from a massive group of people instead of members of the group behaving poorly as individuals)

Demisexual people as a whole have literally never told me i had to call myself demi just bc my sense of how i experience attraction might be similar to theirs. Ace people as a whole don’t usually tell people whose lack of sexual attraction is caused by trauma or who havent developed enough to experience sexual attraction that they -have- to call themselves ace. Most Bi or Pan people are fine with the fact that their labels have a lot of overlap and that the line between these things can be murky, they arent actually constantly ready to tear each others throats out over whose terminology is correct. All of this shit is made up by hateful people, or people taking a few examples of poor behavior out of context as an excuse to shit on everyone else, and well meaning people keep falling for it bc it -seems- helpful to be. reactive. I guess? to people you’re constantly told are hurtful to the causes of marginalized people. but im telling you. its not true. literally nobody forces you to call yourself any of these words, they just Exist out there in case you want them, and if you think thats somehow a threat to other peoples identities or to Minors just like, conceptually, for existing, for being Too Specific, im sorry but what other word is there for your reaction than phobic? If an individual derails a conversation about Y to be like “You didn’t include _X_” or tries to force their views on a minor who hasn’t developed a stable sense of identity yet, that is an Individual behaving in an inappropriate manner, not an invitation for you to throw the whole group under the bus. I hate to tell you but if you’re using examples of individuals on tumblr who say stupid shit, everyone on tumblr says stupid shit and butts in conversationally where they’re not welcome. Universally. It’s how tumblr is formatted. Trust me, I have like 4 viral posts going right now.

i’m just tired of it at this point. im not cool with people who stretch to make fun of micro-labels all the time and think they’re being woke allies or w/e to the ‘real LGBTs’. Even if a lot of the time I personally don’t care for all the labels and wouldn’t choose them for myself, I still feel like If you can’t treat people like individuals and assess their character on a case by case basis, i don’t trust you. I don’t like people who stereotype and LGBT people are not immune to this behavior. Like i don’t say it often but it fucking hurts, and it hurts other people I’m close to who I know have similar complicated identities and struggle coming up w/words to describe themselves that the whole of tumblr LGBT+ will approve of and agree with (clearly an impossibility because there are still people who don’t want bi and trans to even be in there). I might tolerate the constant jokes and not block on principle of knowing not everyone has ingested and thought about this discourse in the same way I have, and im a big tough adult, ultimately i can take it. but inside i know no matter what i call myself, if i were earnest with some of you about how i feel I’d probably be just another ‘special snowflake Delusional mogai creep’ to you, and i can’t deny that fucking hurts to think about. I try not to talk about it openly bc it embarrasses me, bc i dont think my sexuality should have to be battle ground for discourse for people who are supposed to be on my side. But there it is. I think most of this discourse is Trash, and clearly not for the reason most people on here say its trash, not bc theres ‘too many specific words, y’all just be Making Shit Up’ but because so many of you are more caught up in the words than the substance of the arguments or the needs of people whose experiences might have a lot of overlap with yours regardless of what word they’re using to describe it.

Anyway. happy pride to LGBTQA+ people who still dont really feel pride in themselves or their identity. I’d say you’re valid, but you don’t need my validation or anyone elses to understand that you’re a person deserving of respect and compassion. You exist as who you are, and you have to come to terms with who that is, regardless of whether or not you feel like you’re accepted for it. if not pride then, settle for confidence in who you are.

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comiiical · 3 years

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Started (and didn’t finish because of all the prudist bullshit behind, generalization and overall judgement) a video on youtube and now I need teacher-student relationships. So, since I am going to open Stephen (Froy) who wants to give me a teacher for him? No Tops rule applied. May also open his main younger version with Thomas because reasons. And Peyton can also have a college teacher (?)

Like seriously, power imbalances happen in every relationship, if we are going to judge one that doesn’t really have power imbalances unless the teacher is literally forcing the st udent to sleep them in order to get a good grade, or the student is sleeping with the teacher to get said grade, I am sorry, but it is not worth my time watching it. Was it bad on Riverdale? Yes. It was. Because she took full on advantage of him. Was it bad on gilmore girls? Yes, it was, because he tripled her age and was completely unattractive. Is it bad on GG’s reboot? I CANT TELL because I haven’t awtched, but all I have seen is Thomas’ character being PREDATORY TOWARDS THE TEACHER not the other way around. Was it bad with Ezria? HELL TO THE NO. Sorry, but no. In that case? In that specific case in particular? No. They met outside, she lied about her age, they had it going. Then she pressed him onto and he continued because he liked her. And did their notes get affected? did the imbalance affect their relationship? No. Secrecy, yeah sure. But the imbalance of power that this video is constantly saying? No. Actually, let’s talk about power imbalance: let’s talk about Will Schuester forcing Finn. Let’s talk about Mean Girls’ teacher forcing Hady to join the club. Those were not romantic relationships, and both teachers abused their powers.

Let’s talk about rich men and women forcing poor men and women to do their bidding because without them they wuoldn’t have a life. Or benefits, or whatever. That’s power imbalance. But in teacher-student realtionships, they’re NON. There’s a potential for it if the guy or woman is a piece of trash? Yes. I KNOW FOR GOOD AND ON MY OWN SKIN THIS CAN HAPPEN. But you cannot generalised. You cannot treat the error as the rule. Because It’s not. Just like not every Cop will kill you if you raise your voice to them. Just like not every waiter will spit on your drink if they have a bad day. Like, dude. Generalization is awful. And trying to keep and continue this trend of undermining 2 conselting adults choices (in the specifics where they are so) is a mistake. Also undermining the power of decision of a young person, minor or not, is also bad? “If they’re 19 they’re still teenagers”. DUDE DUUUUDE. Some are teenagers with 32. But if the relationship is 19-28 I am sorry but that age difference is in no way dangerous. Much more when the 19 person is far more mature than the other. Like seriously. Let’s stop treating everything as a problem, shall we?

Let’s note when it is a problem yes. As I said, I identify in the reboot that Thomas’ character behavior is predatory. The one I have seen initated by him. What the teacher has done? I dont know? But that comes after a predatory behavior from him. You know, Like Ma*nus Bane was predatory towards Alec Ligh*wood, to name another case of power imbalance that is often ignored and never judged. Or Heck, even Jacob Black was a fucking wolf after his prey when it came to Bella and everyone complained about Edward just because he was older. Man, seriously, seriously. Like. For fucks sake. Identify the problem, there’s no issue. But don’t make it the fucking norm and extend it to everything. I dont even remember a teacher-student relationship in the original Gossip Girl, probably because I stopped watching by the time (apparently Dan) had it happening. And I remember being uncomfortable by Friend’s relationship? But it was.. severely judged by the characters in it and it still proved possible? Also, it happene like... YEARS AND YEARS after their teacher-student connection was over? It was a connection after he left? Not during? So? Like? Seriously?

Look at Sakura’s father and Nadeshiko, her mother. They were student teacher. She was 16. That was a problem (culturally accepted in Japan though) and still, it is severely implied there was never an imbalance in their relationship. Severely implied as well that there was no more than the often passive love that asian culture displays. Severely implied too that Touya and his teacher did no more than kissing if kissing. And even if this I identified as a problem it was also solved well: one relationship didn’t advance until both were consenting adults and had given their entire consideration to it all. The other simply didn’t advance because it was not good. She left, put seas between them, and left him to grow his crush out. So yeah. IDK man. I just I am pissed lol sorry for the granting

also sorry for the unpopular opinion. But this conversation will forever leave me a bad body. I have seen whatit’s like to be abused by adults and teachers. And it really really annoys me to see certain words used in this context, extremely wrong.

#borriquito como tú tururú ( ooc )#unpopular opinion

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starship-imzadi · 4 years

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S2 E22 Shades of Grey

Den of Geek really has the best reaction to this episode. They state, as I suspected, that apparently this episode was done as a clip show because the season went over budget. The producers should have saved whatever money they did spend on this episode, close out everyone's contracts, and just let the season be.

Instead, we have this awkward atrocity to close out and recap the first two seasons. This episode is one of the reasons I argue that TNG doesn't really settle until season 3; it feels like season 1 and 2 are a long extended pilot before costumes are changed, characters are axed, actors recast, someone always gets a hair cut, and the main title sequence theme song is rerecorded...or whatever it is producers change after seeing a pilot episode.

I wonder if their shoes are waterproof...

I've got to say, if you don't care about Riker, that is not a catchy opener.

I don't think who ever wrote this knows anything about bacteria or viruses.

I wonder what filming this episode was like for Jonathan. He's just lying down for most of it.

They wade into the water so unnecessarily. Riker was attacked by some unknown element but let's just walk through the murky water, no big deal.

Data says the relationship between the vines and animals could be symbiotic but then he goes on the say the vines could be predatory, which Picard reiterates by saying "the vines infect animals in order to kill them"....this is not symbiosis! What benefit is there to the animal?

Riker says the thorn looks "harmless".....but, but, how? It's as big as a coat hook! How does that look harmless?

I must say Picard's odd conversation with Riker is endearing. It's really kind of awkward like he wants to talk to him but it's quite sure what to say, he's not very good with emotion.

That's such a bad joke but also, totally a joke Riker would tell.

IMZADI! They just have to say the word and I turn into a complete mess.

Now, I know Star Trek medicine is very detached from reality but this is stupid. Reaching his spinal column would not knock him out. It might paralyzed his diaphragm and he'd stop breathing!

WHO TOOK HIS SPACESUIT OFF DURING THE COMMERCIAL BREAK?!? That's so stupid. Did someone think he needed to look more appropriate for a hospital setting but the future does have hospital gowns?

Also, how deep is she putting that in his brain?! (The telescoping "needles" just look like radio or tv antenna. The ends are so blunt it looks like she'll get a tissue core sample.)

Aww, Riker feels alone and lost.

This juxtaposition of older and younger clips within this episode exemplify how much has developed and changed over the last two seasons. I wonder if Riker was chosen as the center if this episode because the editors had the most clips of him to choose from.

I can't tell what Troi's reaction is to Riker's erotic dreams. She sighs but the camera doesn't pan to her face in time so Pulaski is the only indication of Troi's behaviour. Also, fuck off Pulaski! Troi can read Riker'e feelings that's fine but the specifics of his personal thoughts and feeling aren't any of your business.

Also, for the record and while I'm thinking about it: Riker is NOT a womanizer. I think the episode is largely to blame for that misconception. He remembers each woman [person] he's been with.

Seeing Minuet reminded me of this post:

"People call Will Riker a womanizer like he didn't tongue kiss a hologram who's only personality traits were liking jazz and being kind of nice to talk to a couple times and then think of her so fondly that when he was trapped in a simulation of the future she was put in the role of his dead wife that is not womanizer behavior " ("Future Imperfect")

Urban Dictionary defines a "womanizer" as: "Men who are emotionally unavailable, due to patterns of dysfunctional love. Unpredictable, dishonest, high ego, charming, full of charisma, completely irresistible, extremely seductive. They hold your attention like nobody else, all out of an unconscious desire to prove constantly that they are real men by the number of conquests they can make, they actually need permanent external validation from different women, so they dont sense love with them, as they banalized them as objects to get attention or sex."

Riker does none of these things. He remembers each person not as score but for who they are, he enjoys sex as a shared experience, we never see any one complain of being used by him, he flirts with women because he enjoys the report even if it will not lead to sex, and most noticably with Troi he is very emotionally available, caring, and supportive.

So, is this like extended electroshock therapy?

Riker's sad emotional moments are: Tasha's death, watching Troi lose her son. (Which is really sweet).

God forbid 24th medicine be able to identify these elusive un-named endorphins. Let's just shock his brain more!

Wow, Riker gets into severe danger or nearly dies a lot.

Take a moment to appreciate that Troi stood by Riker's side (for this entire stupid episode) and Riker noticed.

A stupid ending that somehow, other than being the ending, might be the best part of the whole episode.

Since this is the final episode of season 2 I think it's worth taking the time to notice that Troi did not call Riker "Bill" once in this season, and in tandem with the above post, I'd like to quote this very humorous post:

"Theories about why Deanna kept calling Riker Bill in season 1

-she knew he hated it as a nickname and wanted to mess with him

-he went by Bill when he was an ensign/lieutenant and he changed to Will because it had more command presence

-he actually went by Bill when he got on the ship but everyone kept calling him Will and he felt too embarrassed to correct anyone

-she legit forgot his name"

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missvoltairine-blog · 7 years

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CSA TW WHICH IS SERIOUS BUSINESS

from the blog of an admitted pedophile, and a person who autismserenity and their pals are all being chummy with and putting forward as like this totally reliable person whose opinions on how to treat pedophiles are worth listening to:

Like with minors i mean an age range between 12-17 you cant tell me they are not atleast mastrubating and looking at porn at that age i was atleast… and all my friends were and all my online friends i have now that are somewhere around that age are either already sexually active and no longer virgins or really really want to have sex and are activly looking for people within their age range to have sex with so i dont quite see how sending nudes to those people would harm them in anyway i only send them if they ask for them after all, it’s not like i’m “Hi, nice to meet you, here have nudes” i always ask if someone wants to have them and most often they specifically came to me cause they heard from others i am sharing nudes.

1) How the FUCK do you know ANYTHING about the porn and masturbation habits of your “””friends””” who are between the ages of 12 and 17. This is completely inappropriate information for you to have! How did you get this information? Why are you telling us about this? You seriously wanna be like, “Well I KNOW that these 12 to 17 year olds who I’m personally acquainted with are sexually active and masturbate to porn and want to have sex! But I’m not having any inappropriate conversations with them.” The ONLY WAY you could have that information about them is if you were having inappropriate, PREDATORY conversations with them about their sexualities.

2) “Well I always ASK if they want them” you shouldn’t be fucking asking. Don’t ask kids if they want porn you made! That is INHERENTLY predatory. This is how these fucking assholes twist consent culture shit to make it seem like grooming children is okay - “well, the kids ASK for it.” Kids ask for all kinds of shit. Kids try to stick their fingers in light sockets and shove things so far up their noses they have to be taken to the emergency room to get it taken out. That doesn’t make it okay for an adult to encourage those things. “None of them have ever told me no and some of them even ask for it” - yeah, that’s how grooming works. That’s what predators do. They wait for an opening, they introduce this shit gradually, they make their victim think that it’s about the victim’s desires when really it’s about what the predator wants, that way the victim is too ashamed to say no right away.

The people promoting this person as a reputable source for information on csa and pedophelia are people who have for MONTHS been attacking rape and csa survivors for talking about communication and consent in relationships. It’s not just courteousmingler - autismserenity, vaspider, wetwareproblem, etc have all been circulating posts about how LGBT people are sexual predators (”they only have a problem with asexual politics because asexual people aren’t sexually available to them, this is just about making more people sexually available to them”) and how even talking to an asexual person with whom you’re in a relationship about sex is tantamount to rape because obviously any conversation a non-asexual person would have with an asexual person about sex would inherently revolve around the non-asexual person wanting to fuck and obviously THAT means rape, I... guess.

There is a DIRECT link between these people promoting this shit, and calling me and a friend of mine rapists for saying that you should be able to talk about sex with a sexual partner, and that we were raped by people who wouldn’t allow us to talk about sex on our own terms. There has been a concrete, concerted effort from the people trying to sell stuff like this, to undermine conversations about abuse and boundaries and consent in adult relationships, by calling survivors rapists and rape apologists and pedophile apologists and abusers. These things are absolutely connected, they serve each other way too well to not be connected at all.

They are muddying the waters by SIMULTANEOUSLY saying that anyone who wants to have HEALTHY, CONSENSUAL discussions about sex and have a fulfilling, healthy, consensual sex life AS AN ADULT, WITH OTHER ADULTS is a predator, and ALSO saying that ACTUAL predators aren’t predators because their PREDATORY BEHAVIOR is a natural coping mechanism and some kids want sexual content foisted on them by adults.

I literally do not care how you feel about ace discourse at all at this point, this is more important than asexual politicking or whatever, this is so unhealthy. I need people to start taking this seriously.

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allosexyjunkrat-blog · 7 years

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ok fellas now that i have a discourse blog, specifically for discourse, im gonna address somethin that i know a loooot of people have difficulty covering

and it is

roadrat

as a disclaimer, i literally do not dislike people who like roadrat. hell on my main im pretty sure everyone i follow likes it. and ya know what?

youre right. its legal. roadhog is 48. junkrat is 25. 100% legal, legaler than the dudes themselves.

but fighting to say that its morally correct is like the discourse over the omnic crisis.

it just doesnt FUCKING make sense.

junkrat is indeed an adult who can make his own choices.

but the omnic crisis was over 30 years ago in the overwatch timeline, and the australian omnium blew shortly after the govt gifted to the omnics the land in the outback.sorry for all the uh. “thes”. im not eloquent. roadhog lived through the omnic crisis, and the omnium explosion. we dont know if junkrat was even alive when that shit went down.

thus, in case ya didnt notice already, roadhog is FAR more mature than junkrat.

junkrat is physically an adult, but he hasnt had half of the experiences roadhog had.

yeah, junkrat probably had to mature real quick to survive for 25 years, but he is NOT socially mature. like he literally has half a good interaction in game. and in the comic, he was easily taken advantage of by a sleazy ass businessman. he is not immature, hes had a lot of life to get through, but he has no social skills since he grew up in the fucking post apocalyptic outback.

now i am certainly not trying to say that roadhog is bad cause hes old, or junkrats stupid and cant fuck anything til he gets a working brain, or whatever some fuck is deducing from this.

im frankly just offended that people think roadhog would do this kinda shit.

you claim the term “predatory gays” in this whole argument to justify yourself, or, instead, justify yelling at people for not liking it, but its.....not like that. youre basically saying that roadhog would willingly enter a relationship with a (mentally ill, hes literally irradiated to the point that it fucks with his head) dude thats basically the same age younger than a son would be. and honetsly

i am offended.

roadhog is better than that. hes a emo grumpy Kunt but he is better than that. bc that can easily be interpreted in a way that would seem..... Not Good. manipulative maybe. bad.

of course, that isnt to say in that event, roadhog wouldnt approach it in a mature way that would avoid taking advantage of the massive age and maturity gap (cause those are different things) while being a good and healthy influence on junkrat and his mental health.

but the main thing i really wanna say in this is that

you should NOT be telling people that theyre not allowed to feel the way they feel about this.

it aint homophobia, it aint fatphobia, whatever ya wanna call it. its just because of the circumstances.

again, id like to assert that i dont mind this ship much, nor do i dislike poeple for liking it.

just don’t keep doin whatever the FUCK you think youre doin, cause its not cool.

#its going to show up in the search regardless of what you do #thats what i knew a couple years ago #idk if its changed any #but im not gonna obnoxiously blot it out #ship hate #readmore so i dont relaly bother people searching or whatever

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1-65 except the ones you already did

ok this is A LOT so sorry if you’re on mobile

1: Do you have a crush at the moment?

answered

2: Have you ever been deeply in love?

answered

3: Longest relationship you've ever been in?

like........unofficially almost 2 years but official a combination of 2 months then 7 or 8 months idfk

4: Have you ever changed for someone?

i absorb the personality of everyone i ever talk to but like, not intentionally

5: How is your relationship with your ex?

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA i hope we never speak again or if we do it’s just so i can be like FUCK YOU again tbh,

6: Have you ever been cheated on?

nah

7: Have you ever cheated?

nope

8: Would you date someone who's well known for cheating?

what the fuck no

9: What's the most important part of a relationship?

umm......communication? trust? all those words people throw out that are true and real but i love being very open at all times so truly communication

10: Do you like to be in serious relationships or just flings?

serious i guess? my last “fling” was kind of a disaster so idk

11: When you are dating someone do you believe in going on "breaks"?

NOPE NOPE NOPE almost fell for that bullshit and it’s basically what ended my last relationship so absolutely not no thanks!!! not for me

12: How many people have you ever hooked up with?

i hate the phrase hooked up bc it could mean anything from kissing to sex so i never know how to answer this?! i already made a post the other day sayin ive kissed 4 people so theres that i guess

13: What's one thing you regret saying/doing in a previous relationship?

answered

14: What age do you think is appropriate for kids to start having sex?

idk you do you but like, personally before like........16 seems too dangerous imo bc you are Children but as long as it’s safe and whatever idk

15: Do you believe in the phrase "age is just a number"?

no bc it’s usually used by predatory older dudes but i mean age differences are fine as long as it’s not creepy and terrible. but don’t say this as a 24 year old dude as an excuse to date a high schooler

16: Do you believe in "love at first sight"?

answered

17: Do you believe it's possible to fall in love on the internet?

that’s like, exclusively what’s happened to me so, yeah

18: What do you consider a deal breaker?

i don’t have like a specific list in my mind or like one THING i cannot tolerate but i guess a huge one would be anything having to do w not tolerating mental illness bc that is my entire personality

19: How do you know it's time to end a relationship?

when they make you feel shitty more than they make you feel happy

20: Are you currently in a relationship?

nop

21: Do you think people who have dated can stay friends?

yeah i’ve seen it happen and work out fine

22: Do you think people should date their friends?

sure why not, it’s nice to be friends then have it turn into something or whatever. i like relationships based off of friendships

23: How many relationships have you had?

um i’d really only count like, one, so......1

24: Do you think love can last forever?

yeah i love happy old couples

25: Do you believe love can conquer all things?

um.......not really??? that’s like, a big statement,

26: Would you break up with someone your parents didn't approve of?

no because i dated someone my parents disliked for a long time

27: If you could go back in time and give yourself one piece of advice about dating what would it be?

answered

28: Do you think long distance relationships can work?

absolutely tho i’m not huge on them for myself

29: What do you notice first about another person?

answered

30: Are you straight, bi, gay or pansexual?

me all the time: IM GAY AS HELL

but really i’m bi

31: Would it bother you if your partner suffered from any mental illness?

answered

32: Have you ever been in an abusive relationship?

haha........................................................................................yeah and it’s fucked up my entire psyche so (-:

33: Do you want to get married one day?

yeah!

34: What do you think about getting your partner's name tattooed?

sounds like a very bad idea and also wouldn’t even be like aesthetically pleasing so no thanks

35: Could you be in a relationship without sex?

probably? idk

36: Are you still a virgin?

no i’m a sinner

37: What's more important: Looks or personality?

personality but obviously i like people that i am physically attracted to so.....i mean its both but i am very big on personality which is why hookups arent rly my thing too much

38: Do you enjoy love films?

do i enjoy them? i will SOB at them, so,

39: Have you ever given anyone/received roses?

nope

40: Have you ever had a valentine?

answered i think

41: What's your imagination of a "perfect date"?

getting drunk and taking a nap together

42: Have you ever read "Romeo & Juliet"?

i did for school in like 8th grade

43: What's more important: Your partner or your friends?

gotta get that balance. don’t neglect either of them

44: Would you consider yourself "romantic"?

i call myself a hopeless romantic constantly

45: Could you imagine to date one of your current friends?

yes

46: Have you ever been "friendzoned"?

fake concept. i had high school crushes that never went anywhere but that doesnt mean friendzoned really so no

47: Which "famous couple" is your favorite?

i don’t pay attention to thos things honestly................mulder and scully

48: What's your favorite love song?

i have an entire playlist of love songs, hmu for it, but ummm probably first day of my life if thats considered a love song

49: Have you ever broken someone's heart?

eh. kind of. complicated

50: If you're single, why do you think you are?

i’m ugly

(bc i have been single for like...2 months and thos things dont come fast)

51: Would you rather date someone who's rich but a douchebag or someone who's poor but a nice guy?

poor but nice guy 100%

52: Are you good at giving other people advices regarding dating/ relationships?

ehhhhhhhhhhhhh not really i mean sometimes? i don’t know it depends on the situation

53: Are you jealous of couples when you're single?

LOL.............yes i am known to get kinda salty

54: How important is it to make a relationship official (p.e. on Facebook)?

eh. i like having it be Official and known as a thing but other than that idk

55: Would you consider yourself "clingy", "overly attached" or "jealous"?

i will cling to you with the force of a thousand suns (but try to play it cool and fail yikes)

56: Have you ever "destroyed" a relationship?

nah he did that (side eye emoji)

57: Do you think it's silly to consider suicide because of a broken heart?

me: i’m going to kill myself when we break up

so like, no, but don’t do it because i didn’t and that was a dumbass mindset

58: Are you the "dominant" or the "submissive" part in a relationship?

the MOST submissive you will ever meet, in your entire life, please dominate me

59: Have you ever forgotten important dates like your partner's birthday or your anniversary?

answered i think

60: What's your opinion on open relationships?

whatever works for u but probably not my thing

61: Who's more important: Your partner or your family?

my siblings can fuck off but parents and partner are both important

62: How do you define "cheating"?

????????? is there more than one definition??? its fuckin cheating. dont flirt or do shit w other people.

63: Is watching porn while being in a relationship inappropriate?

it doesn’t make me feel awesome to think about but it’s not like, an issue

64: Do you think Valentine's Day is overrated?

me when im single: yes

me if i was in a relationship: NO (HEART EYES X1000)

65: Would you consider yourself a "cuddler"?

WOULD I? CONSIDER????????????? I DONT CONSIDER ANYTHING. I KNOW FOR A FUCKING FACT I AM. i will cuddle 24/7 365 baby

#Anonymous #stina answers

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