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#lgbtq community #lgbt pride #queer community

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CALLING FELLOW QUEERS

Hi guys, please help. I have a friend in an abusive relationship and is trying desperately to get out. This person pressures her to move out of state, meaning she's no longer eligible for services that could have helped her.

She wants to come home but can't afford the security deposit and first month's rent. She can take over from there once she's out, but getting out is the challenge now.

Please help. It's so hard to get people to take queer DV seriously, especially wlw.

There's more info here: https://gofund.me/cce91bca

Please help

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Reblog if you didn’t write My Immortal

We’re going to find the author by process of elimination.

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We made it through another winter, everyone. 

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Source: Dyke Strippers; Lesbian Cartoonists A to Z , edited by Roz Warren

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Using the bathroom in general is a human right and should be enshrined as such and I'm not joking. Too many groups of people are denied bathroom breaks or the use of bathrooms entirely--disabled people, blue-collar workers, children, homeless people, prisoners, students, the elderly. I'm surely missing other groups. Not using the bathroom when needed can cause serious, long-term damage, not to mention death. Free, clean, accessible bathrooms should be available everywhere. It's fucking cruel to deny someone the use of the bathroom, regardless of the reasoning. I'd rather every student in the world goof off and every homeless person make a mess and every worker "steal company time" than let one person suffer because they're denied the right to fucking pee in peace.

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Had my first seizure since 2021. Medical staff impressed I didn't piss/shit myself

#epilepsy

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A Less Popular Topic on the LGBT Community

Pride month is here, and I am so excited for all the gay shenanigans I am going to get into. One event I am looking forward to most is the party my partner and I am throwing. While checking off the task list, we tackled the guest list, the time and date, the decorations, the food- of course, the food.

And the drinks.

We actually had a bit of a hiccup here. We didn't really know what to do for drinks. Most of the guest list were of age, and the one or two under-age we didn't mind having a drink. And the millions of options wasn't the issue either.

The problem is our (and some of our guests') relationship with alcohol. A significant amount of us are in recovery. Some of us had an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, either being full blown alcoholics or well on the way to being one. The last thing we want to do is put ourselves and our guests in a place where they may feel pressured or expected to drink.

When you're planning your parties, try and keep this in your mind because I'd bet my bottom dollar this isn't a rare occurrence.

Substance use and substance use disorders are rampant in LGBT youth and adults. In LGBT adults, the substance use disorders are often mingled with other mental health disorders, known as comorbidity.

LGBT adults and adolescents are often time the victims of abuse, harassment, bullying, and substance can be used as an escape or to self-medicate pre-existing or currently growing mental health conditions.

Queer adults are more than twice as likely to suffer from a substance use disorder. The Process Recovery Center states this on their website:"According to 2015 data from the National Survey on Drug Use and Health, adults defined as ‘sexual minority’…were more than twice as likely as heterosexual adults to have used any illicit drug in the past year….Lesbian, gay, and bisexual (LGB) adolescents were 90 percent more likely to use substances than heterosexual adolescents…"Using drugs intravenously comes with another risk other than addiction: disease. Many diseases (such as HIV or Hepatitis) can be spread through dirty or shared needles. While there are many harm reduction organizations trying to prevent and reduce this number, these diseases still spread.

According to Alcohol Rehab Guide, up to 25% of the general LGBTQ community has moderate alcohol dependency with bisexual women having the highest drinking rates. Of the bisexual women reporting, 25% reported heavy drinking. Comparatively, only 5-10% of the general population has moderate alcohol dependency.

The article goes in to discuss some information about other subcommunities in the queer community such as transwomen. For more information, check out this site: LGBTQ Alcoholism - Alcohol Rehab Guide

So, when you're planning your pride party this year, maybe consider offering a mocktail to two!

Spread the word, stay safe, and have fun!

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To The Person Who Walked Past The Window - Jordan Bolton

My first book ‘Blue Sky Through the Window of a Moving Car’ is now available to pre-order! Get it here - https://smarturl.it/BlueSky

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Macaroni and cheese (via Instagram)

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Why does James Cameron's Titanic have a death grip on my heart right now

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Why does James Cameron's Titanic have a death grip on my heart right now

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I look in the mirror and hate my body more often than not. I hate it sith a passion.

But today I remembered that this body carried me through the darkest, most difficult times od my life. My body survived incredible stress for long periods of time. Between brief. But intense traumatic events to years of traumatizing stress, my body survived all of it.

Every ounce of fat stored, every binge, every drunk night, every time I dissociate, every stretch mark and every acne scar, every seizure or nights where I sleep 14 hours. Every scraped knee, burns, the scar on my nose. Every self inflicted scar.

All of it is a reminder of how far I've gotten in life and how much I've endured despite it all. I'm alive and my body did whatever it took to keep me alive in this moment.

And soon, my body can rest. I can find a physical equilibrium. My body doesn't have to focus on surviving any more. I'm safe now. I can rest now.

This body, flaws and all, survived.

And I can't hate it for that.

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BACKSHOTS.

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Literally the criteria for getting a diagnosis is whether or not the symptoms significantly impact a person's ability to function socially, professionally, or self focused.

If your symptoms impact you negatively and are disruptive, or causing distress it's debilitating.

This is using gentle terms.

If you are anxious about a test or a specific upcoming event, and that's the only time you have anxiety, you probably don't have an anxiety disorder.

If you're super sad because you failed your test, and nothing can cheer you up for a bit, you probably don't have depression.

If you are constantly on edge, body tense, can't sleep worth a damn, experiencing physical disruptions (gastro issues) more days than not for over six months, then yeah, it's debilitating and most likely generalized anxiety disorders.

If you feel overwhelming guilt or worthlessness, extreme fatigue, trouble sleeping or oversleeping,overstepping, decreased "interest" in most or all daily activities (can't bring yourself to shower or eat or brush your teeth or work or socialize) feel sad empty and hopeless, oh and let's not forget the suicidality of the disorder, then you probably are debilitated by Major Depressive Disorder.

Oh, and all of these require the following criteria:

"Symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other areas of functioning."

Like...the whole reason we have the MH field is because these Symptoms are debilitating.

And "baby"? Don't be so condescending when talking about a subject you are clearly not familiar with! And if someone is telling you they have a disability, then who do you think you are to think you know better? And btw, the symptoms I described are straight out of the DSM 5. And for some, all the therapy and medication in the world can't help them.

@compassionatereminders I hope you don't mind my addition. The minimization of the seriousness of mental illnesses/disorders/etc. Are a massive pet peeve of mine, to put it lightly.

baby ... I'm not telling you that you're faking anything. I'm saying what you do have is mental illness which is not a disability. no matter how much you people want to expand the term "neurodiversity", it will forever only encompass disorders people are born with and have inherited genetically. I do not mean a genetic predisposition, I mean someone like myself who has had autism obviously since birth. or the countless people with learning disabilities that I support on a daily basis. we cannot be fixed with medication and therapy. it is your choice and yours alone to act like your mental health makes you completely unable to live a normal life. meanwhile, actual disabled people would give anything to be able to live the life that you have intentionally locked yourself away from.

I'm still autistic... still professionally diagnosed as severely cognitively impaired after professional evaluation, to a degree that got me fast tracked to disability benefits... still had general learning disabilities since birth... like even if I was to entertain the idea that mental illnesses can't be disabling (and I'm not gonna) you clearly have no idea who I am and what I'm actually struggling with "baby"