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mihotose · 4 months
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every time i see a fanwork where half light tells harry to kill himself im just He would not fucking say that!!!!! half light is harry's paranoia, his fight or flight instinct, his self preservation. half light wants to protect harry, not kill him
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timeisacephalopod · 6 months
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Idk if anyone else has noticed a trend of descriptions of movies/ TV shows on streaming services literally just listing a celebrity name and/or reference a piece of media they were in and that's it. But like, that is a SCOURGE lmao what the fuck IS the Piece of Media about- listing a name I don't recognize and media I also don't recognize does not tell me what this thing that is not the thing referenced in the description is please I just want to know what your movie is about 🙃🙃🙃🙃
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chryblossomjjk · 1 year
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the weekend | jjk (teaser)
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→pairing: dilf!jk x babysitter reader
→rating/genre: m/18+ | fwb?, angst, full fic will include smut
→word count: 618
→warnings: suggestive (as in building up to smut), some dirty talk, hair pulling, neck smoochies, lil lingerie moment, slightly dangerous moment in a car?, implied infidelity, smol appearance from bby yul (holds up ‘aww’ cue card)
→summary: Every weekend, you give Jungkook a little taste of something he’s missing Monday through Friday.
→notes: um long time no see i haven't posted any writing in a while so im v excited and nervy atm! had this teaser planned for a hot minute so yeah v excited to see your reactions! i don't have a set date when this will come out but hopefully soon. as for now, you can check out my masterlist if u wanna wink wink. also this fic will be v angsty so pls if thats not ur thing, skip this. ok love u bye !! feedback is appreciated v much uwu. also this is not beta’d obvi so if there’s any typos or goofiness rip im sorry :’(
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“Well, there’s still time.” You point to the clock on his touchscreen stereo; 11:12 p.m. You throw your hair over your shoulder before slowly undoing the top two buttons of your shirt, revealing the skimpy black lingerie set you bought just for tonight. Just for him. “We can celebrate…”
“Yeah?” His cheek bubbles, teasing tongue poking at the inside of his mouth, eyebrow jumping at your suggestion. “How so?”
You bite your lip, contemplating your next move. Hastily, you unbuckle your seatbelt and lean over the center console. It’s reckless, but so was being with a man like Jungkook. You’re incapable of rational thought when you finally get to have him the way you want. One night of him isn’t enough. What kind of tease is that? You need at least six more to be satisfied.
“__,” he warns, arching his head away from your sneaky lips.  “Put your seatbelt on. Wait until we get to the hotel.”
“Where’s the fun in that, though?” You pout, cupping his cheek and batting your eyelashes innocently. Jungkook doesn’t take the bait, giving the desolate road ahead his unwavering attention. Despite his nonchalant demeanor, you can tell you’re getting to him. Below you, his slacks tighten around his thick, tensed thighs. He’s playing right into your hands. Needily, you tongue the little silver hoops dangling from his ear. 
“If I have to pull over, you’re in trouble.”
“Maybe I-”
A hushed ‘fuck’ cuts you off as the car comes to a screeching halt. Jungkook slams on the brakes, coming too close to the slower vehicle in front of you for comfort. Luckily, his dad reflexes kick in, strong hand gripping your waist tightly, preventing you from barreling forward. You brace yourself by clutching his shoulders, and when the adrenaline rush fades, you finally look at him. His nostrils are flared and his jaw is clenched painfully tight.
He’s pissed. 
You know you should apologize, or be shaken up at the very least, but the blinking of his turn signal as he pulls to the side of the dark highway has your mouth watering. This is just what you wanted. 
Jungkook sighs in frustration, tilting his head back against the headrest. The movement is counterintuitive, exposing the inked canvas of his neck that you’re desperate to paint red and purple. You go in for a bite.
A hand fists your tangled hair, pulling you off with a harsh yank before you have the chance to sink your teeth into his skin. The silver ring on his finger digs into your scalp like a knife. “Do not fucking mark me.”
The feeling of the frigid metal is agonizing. Not physically, his grip loosens immediately after the initial tug, but emotionally. You know why he doesn’t want you to mark him. Any evidence of you, other than your weekly babysitting duties, would unravel his entire life. Jungkook is an intelligent man. You don’t have to tell him that it’s all a facade, and everything’s already been undone. 
“I’m sorry.” Your voice comes out frail and shaky. “I just want you.”
And like some cruel joke, his phone rings. 
The contact image would normally make you swoon. It’s a picture of him and his daughter from her first birthday party; her sticky, strawberry ice cream covered, hands holding his cheeks as he stares at her with scrunched eyes and a big smile. You think that picture is the only time you’ve ever seen him genuinely happy.
The bold, white font at the top of the screen, though, makes you sick to your stomach. 
‘Wife.’
Jungkook releases your hair and places a finger over his mouth, signaling for you to shut up, before answering. 
“Yes, Seulgi?”
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© chryblossomjjk 2023 [do not copy, translate or repost]
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totheblood · 11 months
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as a black writer i want to say some things…
one, inclusivity is absolutely needed. not only in this community but nearly all communities. oftentimes we are seen as a non-factor or have our experiences just be disregarded. i made a post on this a while ago and got a weird amount of hate for it.
two, i really dislike the way in which this conversation was brought up. because while a lot of it is true, (we need more inclusivity in works and more black writers) people ended up bringing up specific writers and sort of blaming them for the lack of inclusivity? or saying that they writer their readers white? this is so frustrating because one it’s not true, as someone who has read a lot of their work, it has been raceless except for the fact that their readers are hyperfeminine. again being hyperfem is also a lesbian experience so please remember that, and thats how they are! that’s who they are in their daily life and thats how they write. some of you dont realize how incredibly difficult it is to write outside of who you are. but overall i havent seen them say anything that would make their readers explicitly white. on top of that it’s just so counterintuitive to the point to bring up white writers when discussing the lack of inclusivity. there are a lot of black writers!!! how about instead of bringing others down, we work to bring others up. it takes away from what we are saying and is not only unfair to those writers who had nothing to do with it, but also black writers.
third, if you are making an entire account to spread hate, you don’t have the moral highground you think you do. i know this may sound shocking but how about you block the things you don’t like, and dont talk about it anymore. there are things ive seen on here that i haven’t liked but i keep my mouth shut, don’t follow or interact, and keep it moving. that existing will not cause me to spend my time writing hate to that person or even focusing on it. i’ll focus on my work and what i like to write/read. you are obsessed at the end of the day. it’s not a good look and it’s mass bullying.
fourth, i saw a lot of discourse about minors. again, a lot of the minors who read my work don’t realize it’s mostly for your sake. unrealistic expectations of sex and relationships are so detrimental when you are so young. but at the end of the day i can’t control what minors read/don’t read. my work is public and i understand that. once again, however, i ask that you don’t interact with me. as someome who is 22 and already in a position of power it would be not only weird but wrong for us to have interactions. please remember that.
all in all, i do love this community and the people who are just here to read and mind their own. stop ruining the collective experience for everyone please.
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A/N: I AM ABSOLUTELY NOT SUPPOSED TO BE WRITING RN but this fandom and this blog are in desperate need of a refresh so here’s something short and sweet. I SWEAR THIS WAS A REQUEST BUT I COULDNT FIND THE ORIGINAL ASK ANYWHERE. Anyway here it is. Sorry if I missed some of the details.
Warnings: none.
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“Hey, I’ve got the keys, I’ll wait in the car, yeah?” Matty peeked his head into the bathroom where his wife and kid had reached a dead-end in their negotiations. “You guys aren’t dressed yet?” He frowned.
His wife shot him a look “can I…umm, talk to you for a second?” She placed a hand over Matty’s arm tapping it and gesturing for him to follow her into the bedroom.
“What’s going on?” He asked, softly, when they were alone.
“Your daughter….she doesn’t want to go to the hairdresser’s.”
Matty smiled, relieved that it wasn’t anything serious.
“I’ve tried to reason with her, encourage her, tell her that we’d be there with her the whole time, but it’s a firm ‘no.’”
He giggled, knowing his daughter’s stubbornness. “Why not, though?”
“She says she doesn’t want a stranger touching her head, her hair, her neck. Says it’s weird.”
“She’s not wrong” Matty burst into laughter, causing his wife to roll her eyes. “What? You don’t find hair appointments kind of uncomfortable? You’ve gotta make polite chit-chat while they reposition your head in all sorts of directions. The forced intimacy of someone literally running their hands through your hair…you gotta admit, it’s kind of weird.”
“So it’s two against one, then?” His wife shrugged. “I’m outnumbered.”
“Hold on a minute. I didn’t say that! Let me try.”
“Please…be my guest.”
Matty made his way into the bathroom, where his fierce little girl had her arms folded over her chest, clearly maintaining her unflinching resolve.
Matty crouched so he was at the same level as her and gave her a quick kiss. “Hey, baby? Listen, if you do this really brave thing for me and get your hair done, we can go get ice cream after. You get to pick out two flavors.”
“So, THATS your strategy?” His wife, who’d been watching from the doorway, interrupted.
“Well, yours didn’t work, so…” he turned back to his daughter “what do you say? Hmm?”
He watched her hesitate for a moment, the gears turning in her head as she considered his offer. “No.” She blurted out.
Matty sighed loudly, his shoulder slumping. “Look, my love, I know it’s really weird, but it’s just something we all have to do. Even grownups do it. Mommy and daddy get their hair cut all the time. It’s just one of those things we have to do.”
“Why do we have to?” She inquired, taking Matty by surprise.
“Uhhh….” He tried to formulate a response to her difficult question. “I know it’s counterintuitive, but, in order for your hair to grow, you gotta cut it sometimes.”
His little baby’s face scrunched in confusion as she attempted to process his logic.
“Counterintuitive? Really?” His wife whispered from behind them.
“I don’t know- she’s really advanced for her age- and- mind your own business! So…shall we go get dressed?”
“No.” That monosyllabic answer hit him again. Matty swore he was looking right at a version of himself.
He sat down on the floor, looking up at the fluorescent bathroom lights and breathing deeply to control his tone and his frustration.
“Here’s an idea!” He called out suddenly, looking back at her. “What if I do it?”
His wife, fearing the consequences of this idea, shot him a stern look, “do what, Matty?”
“Cut her hair! I mean, if the problem is that she doesn’t want her hair touched by a stranger, and we’ve taught her to set boundaries, I’m not gonna just haul her over my shoulder and force her into the hairdresser’s chair! and…well, I do her hair all the time! she loves it! So, i mean, I could do it…”
“Matthew!” He knew that when she used his full name, he was in trouble, but he was desperate for ideas.
“It’s only a few inches of hair, how hard could it be?” He shrugged. “Look, she’s a kid. If it looks a bit crooked it’ll be cute and whimsical. What do you say, my dear?”
“Hmmmm….” His daughter scratched her head, pretending to think for a moment as Matty’s eyes watched her anxiously awaiting the verdict. “Maybe.”
“Oh god…” his wife mumbled, pacing around the bathroom.
“Hey, be patient. It’s not a no. That’s something.” Matty gave her a soft smile, turning back to face his reluctant client. “How can daddy get you to let him cut your hair? What should I do to make you say yes?”
“You can….ummm” she took a second to think, then a smile lit up her face with realization. “You can let me cut your hair, too!”
Matty’s head fell backwards as he chuckled loudly. Clearly proud of his daughter’s bargain.
“Alright, bestie. You got it!” He put his hand up asking her for a high five, and she reciprocated strongly. “Let’s do this thing, huh?”
“Okay!” She beamed with joy.
“Are you insane?” His wife whispered in his ear as he passed her by on the way out of the bathroom.
“Some kids just like to see how things work. Makes them more comfortable when they know what to expect.”
She smiled at her husband “when did you get so wise?”
“What can I say? Fatherhood has changed me.” He winked.
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“Alright, my love. My head is your canvas. Do your worst.” He set down some scissors and the clipper in front of her. “Oh, but, maybe let mommy show you how to use the scissors first? Don’t wanna cut yourself, okay?”
She giggled loudly and stomped her tiny feet with glee as she made her first cut.
Matty had to fight the urge to move around to see the look on her face. “You havin’ fun?” He asked without moving his head.
“Yes! Loads!”
A few more awkwardly positioned snips of hair later, she’d gained enough confidence to pick up the clippers.
“Mommy, mommy. What’s this do?”
Matty saw his wife’s eyes in the mirror and he knew what she was asking
“Yeah, let her have at it.” He smiled into the mirror.
“But your beautiful curls…” she winced.
“They’ll grow back.”
His wife sighed, giving into his madness, “okay, hun. Let me show you but you gotta be careful and let mommy hold it over your hand, okay?”
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cluster-b-culture-is · 6 months
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hey!!! if its ok i’d like you’re thoughts on something ig and to sorta ask you something
so im bodily 15 atm, and i have cptsd. when i look at posts regarding certain cluster b experiences (possibly some cluster c aswell) i relate a LOT (obviously im not saying that bc i relate that i have these disorders, i just kinda have a feeling that *something* is going on). its tricky bc i keep looking into things and i cant really find an answer. i also dont know if im too young and that its just because im a teenager.
i wont get into like what “symptoms” i experience rn bc i feel like thats a whole other conversation but yeah.
i hope i dont sound like one of those people that are like “i must have x bc i related to a silly video i saw” im just really confused and i feel like something aint right
i know you’re probably not professionals so feel free to delete or ignore this if its too much, but if not, what do you think?
So, here's the thing (and we will attempt to avoid being patronizing): It is absolutely correct that your age and emotional/psychological development can affect things, and that the process of development can cause things that look like mild symptoms. It's also correct that that combined with c-ptsd (and any other disorders you may have; you'd be surprised how many symptoms and comorbidities autism, ADHD, NPD, and BPD all share) can make it extremely hard to determine where your symptoms are coming from and whether there might be something more.
(You're also correct that we are not professionals; this is all coming from our own research and personal experiences, so as with everything, take this with a grain of salt.)
However. I would argue that it would be far more harmful to deny any possibility of having a personality disorder until you reach some arbitrary age threshold than it would be to say that you do have a PD. Especially if looking at your life experiences through the lens of having a PD is helpful, and if resources for pw/[x]PDs are helpful to you. Even if you don't end up having a PD, that doesn't mean you were just a hormonal stupid teenager refusing to listen to the Adults™ or whatever the fuck--it means that you looked at your experiences, found something that seemed similar, and it turned out that you were wrong; but hopefully, along the way, you found things that were helpful.
Under the assumption that you have done a lot of research, I would personally recommend saying that you have traits of a particular disorder as opposed to saying you have the full disorder, and that is to two ends: one, a lot of adults with PDs (especially in ASPD spaces, if that's one of the disorders you're looking at) will kick your shit to hell and back if you even insinuate that you think you may have the full disorder (which I think is extremely counterintuitive if we want teenagers to understand their experiences and, yknow, not develop a full-blown personality disorder, regardless of whether you think teenagers can have a full personality disorder); and two, it might help you target the specific symptoms that you're experiencing without saddling you with the belief[/knowledge] that you have an incredibly stigmatized and lifelong disorder.
A lot of this stuff depends on a few things: (A) what your symptoms are (and if they can be better explained by other things, especially other things you know you have); (B) how severe your symptoms are (like the difference between being generally grouchy versus being actively hostile); and (C) how long your symptoms have lasted (if they only started popping up in the past few months or the past year versus if you've had them for years and years).
If you end up not having a personality disorder, anon, I think it will still be better for you in the long run to explore the possibility instead of shrugging it off under the excuse that you're "too young". It could turn out that you never had the disorder and it really was something else, it could turn out that you have traits but not the full disorder, or, hell, it could turn out that, by using resources and support you found by being part of communities surrounding PDs, you ended up not developing the full PD (even if you may still have a few traits)--because, at this age, you are still developing, and you are changing a lot, and very little is set in stone when it comes to these types of things--and you should absolutely take advantage of that! And even then, speaking from a more selfish perspective, it will never be a bad thing for more people to understand what it may be like to have a personality disorder.
For a bit of actionable advice on determining whether or not you may have one, though:
(1) Do your research. Obviously it's great that you're getting information from people with the disorders themselves by looking at PD communities; however, not everything having to do with the disorder will be talked about, and quite honestly, Tumblr is a terrible place to find definitive information on the PDs. Life experience? Yes. Actual information looking at how the disorders work and what they can entail in full? Ehhh, not quite. Look at a variety of academic sources, but in the same vein, keep your wits about you--professionals aren't immune to ableism, and may often perpetuate it with glee. Some of it may be obvious, some of it might not be.
(2) Keep an eye on your symptoms--make a manual check against the actual criteria every once in a while (but keep in mind that the DSM is also deeply flawed and biased); @shitborderlinesdo has a ton of checklists based on the DSM and individual testimony that can help. We first started questioning ASPD when we were 14, and we'd do those kinds of manual checks once every several months or once a year or so. It both helps you understand what your symptoms are, and helps you keep track of how you're doing over time. Don't use online quizzes for this; quite honestly, they're not really good for anything except validation if you know you'll get a high score.
(3) Look at stuff other than personality disorders, too, and try to figure out why your interest skews towards specific disorders. For a long ass time, we believed we had StPD and did our absolute best to ignore any information to the contrary, because (due to our symptoms) if it wasn't StPD, the only thing it could be otherwise was schizophrenia, and we were scared shitless of the idea; at first because we were scared of the idea that our symptoms might've been so severe, but eventually because we were afraid to admit that we were wrong. (As I've said before, no shame in being wrong--do as I say, not as I do.)
Ultimately, I can't stop you from doing anything, and I can't force you to do anything either. I'm just a mentally ill guy with an internet connection. My life experiences have led me to this conclusion, and others may disagree with it--that's perfectly fine. Again, I am not a professional. You know yourself and your experiences the best, and I think by this point, you have enough understanding of yourself and the world to be able to figure out what'll be best for you and your health, given that you have the proper resources to do so. You are a being with life experience, even if it's less than others may have; you aren't a rock, and you aren't a three year old who still hasn't realized that touching the lit stove will equal a burned finger. I personally think that the way a lot of folks go about talking to and about teenagers who think they may have personality disorders is, frankly, infantilizing and invalidating, and it just ends up with traumatized and unsupported teenagers turning into traumatized and unsupported adults, with the added bonus of an extra helping of imposter syndrome to top it all off.
I hope you're doing well anon, and I hope you see this (sorry for responding so late lmao). Off into the world ye may go, hopefully with a bit more knowledge and idea of what to do next than you had before.
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laprimera · 8 months
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catching up to dash since early morning is wild. but since everyones putting their two cents in lemme throw a bet in from someone who's been in poke rpc for some seven or so odd years ( hell some people have been around longer LMAO ).
I see a lot of posts focused on the individual experience, and thats great and not so great at the same time. It's tumblr, I get it. For the longest time peeps have been putting up with their time and energy being spent on the outside just to get online and want to relax. Let's not forget the mental illnesses that make energy and attention just impossible literally to do things lmao.
I love seeing people taking steps to take care of themselves. The early days didn't have carefully made boundaries and I saw so many peeps get burnt out making this a job more then a hobby, getting abused, a lot of nasty stuff but all that changed when the attitude changed. It's been so much better for everyone that way.
But I also observe the community in this .. or lack of in some ways. There's also been a lot of people leaving because of little interaction or in some cases being shunned from events that are supposedly open. That's a recent movement. I remember dash wide spontaneous events, the rpc sharing and evolving a plot that may have started from one blog before connecting so many others, raid battles with legendary pokemon that went out of control, etc!
Im not saying you can't have a circle of pals. I sure do! I'm saying have instances of being open for others to interact and get involved. I'm sure a lot of peeps wouldn't have even met their pals without having that oppurtunity to participate in something small that became something very big! This hobby is great because there's a community to share and be apart of and to deny or shun new players or even current ones who want to be part of something great is counterintuitive for a community at whole. Whether thats rb'ing memes, letting peeps comment on ic posts or dash posts, having starter calls, making aus that aren't connected to a plot so it's easier to open to new engagement, etc.
Course there's the argument of "its my X so I will say what or who goes into X" and you're right! There's a perfect balance of boundaries understood and being made and maybe opening the narrative to players who genuinely look interested and try to join who listen to said boundaries and participate fairly and with anticipation.
But more then anything make it easy to do so. I also remember the period when people would put cryptic rule passwords in their rules. Like...Im talking they broke them up, scattered them around all around their tiny text, glow up pages and if you get one word wrong theyd tell you try again....lol. We don't need that. Getting the nuisances of society is hard enough least of all for the peeps who have conditions that make this extra hard. I'm talking from someone who has an extreme case of social anxiety (doctors word for it, not mine LAUGHs) and ADHD. I don't communicate or participate like regular players. In fact I only gauge how well I can play with someone by casual one off ic back and forth first and build from there. Maybe by the third or fourth interaction Im brave enough to reach out via DMs. I literally have panic attacks and take a week to answer IMs that come out of the blue asking to participate which is just the regular thing to do in the rpc, but I literally can't do that. Sadly I've been reprimanded for trying to have casual back and forths throughout the years despite how apparent I make it that I have a very hard time going into IMs or asks without knowing you first.
We should make ourselves accessible! We talk about making front pages accessible for those hard of sight, google documents to make things easy, icons and all that but don't really talk about making the important communication between peeps accessible for people with handicaps too.
All in all this is my opinion and observation! The community changes every few years and it's interesting to see how it turns one way or the other. You dont have to listen to me or any of this really! Be as private or as open as ya like. This is after all a hobby and Im literally turning into the old man in the corner on his rocker literally and figurately.
also fuck fetish asks. that has never changed and I hate it.
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ofthenoseclan · 10 months
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If someone were interested in wanting to get into the touhou series, what would you recommend they start with? :0
surprisingly this is a very difficult question to answer, since touhou is such an expansive franchise and a lot of people enjoy it for very different reasons. its also a series thats counterintuitive to follow if youre not there while each part of it is releasing, since theres a lot of plot overlap between the game series and the spinoffs on a chapter-by-chapter basis (though its not difficult to make sense of if you know that's the case in advance). there is really no easy way to get into touhou, but the flip side of this is that there isnt an incorrect way to get into it either! it just depends what you want out of it.
if youre looking to experience the story without too much hassle, start with the games in numerical order, then tackle the spinoff books and the concept records later if you feel like it. you can choose to start at the first game, or you can skip right to 6 since its the first windows title and the oldest game that's actively relevant to the plot overall (more detail on why thats the case here). dont forget to read omake.txt before beginning each game, since they contain the story prologues and character backstories that contextualize the plot before the games begin!
if youre looking for a polished gameplay experience and dont really care about following the story, then i would recommend 7, 8, or 10 as good standard shmup experiences; or 12.5, 12.8, or 18 if you want to see the franchise at its most esoteric in game design. if youre an experienced shmup player and want something that will kick your teeth in, 12, 14.3, or 15 will give you that.
if you dont care as much about the plot or the gameplay, but want to see the characters explored, the official manga are fine introductions. theyre not perfect, since they rely on you knowing the plot and cast of the games releasing concurrently with them somewhat, but you'll probably manage fine. out of these, the manga with the best balance of being self-contained while featuring a compelling plot would be touhou suzunaan ~ forbidden scrollery.
the concept albums are probably the most beginner-friendly example in this list, and theyre my favourite part of the franchise! since theyre just music cds without any skill at shmups required to get into them, plus they follow a self-contained plot from the rest of the series, you can get into them without any prior knowledge and get a complete experience!
lastly, a lot of people just start getting into touhou by browsing fanmade works, and thats valid too! some people often read a bunch of fan doujins or listen to arrange albums, notice a character in them, and go "she looks cool! which one is she from?" and branch into the official content from there. this is the option id recommend least out of these, because the tone and quality of fanworks can vary drastically and give you false impressions of the official content. however, its still perfectly okay to start this way, caveats aside!
what im trying to get at is that none of these are ideal solutions, but theyre all possible ways to start out. like i said, theres no easy way to get into touhou, but theres no wrong way either.
the only official content id advise against starting with would be any spinoff books other than the manga. despite most of these containing a lot of the best writing in the series, the more story-focused ones are often heavily tied to the plots of the games, so their highs hit highest if you have some level of experience with the series prior to reading them.
let me know if you have more questions on starting out, and i can answer whatever!
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comfycozycrossfox · 3 months
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anyway im a psych major but ill make one thing SO clear about that: i think that the way that therapists and psychologists react to concerning information is completely bullshit and completely counterintuitive to their jobs
if patients dont feel comfortable telling you the full scope of their mental illness for fear of you throwing them in a facility against their will, you're failing. you've failed.
theres times when that is necessary! But i've heard of therapists calling a 5150 for self harm. slight suicidal intent. some wont see you if you have or have had an eating disorder at all-they'll call you a danger to yourself and call a wellness check, or won't even take you. and i dont think any old therapist should be treating for that-but if i say "i have eating disordered habits" and your response is anything other than "I can refer you to a specialist," go fuck yourself. dont know of any? thats just another sign that youre shite at your job.
therapy is for mental health help, and if i cant tell you about the full scope of my mental health problems, then what, pray tell, is the fucking point. I don't need to be hospitalized for self harm. I also probably shouldn't be on my own in dealing with that. Its almost as if we invented a middleground. Or we should have. Being thrown into a facility against my will would make me actively more suicidal-in fact, thats what a lot of studies suggest usually happens! so if i tell you that im actively suicidal, and THATS the response? how exactly is that going to help me in the long run? do you think that this therapeutic relationship will be the same after that? do you think itll be conducive to growth at all? because I don't.
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trying to work my way through the ye west alex jones interview. its terrible.
i do have one gripe with everything ive read about it, though:
theres a point i saw where the point ye is trying to make is ‘the bible says we should love everyone’. he says, quote, “God says love everyone, so if i say, i love the Zionists, that, that cancelled my account, then i can say, i love... (stammers a bit) i do love Hitler.”
then alex jones proceeds to mock him and say “thatd make a great tshirt, ‘i love Hitler’.”
listen, what i wanna say here is that you are quite literally taking him out of context. he is an anti-Semite, obviously, but dont misrepresent his points, otherwise youre just spreading misinformation. yes, even left leaning misinformation is bad. 
to reiterate, i havent watched the whole interview yet, but im planning on watching it to get a proper understanding of what happened. so there could be a point earlier/later in the video where ye does explicitly say he loves Hitler and condones his actions. but at this specific moment (which i think may be the moment people are pointing to, saying he loves Hitler), he goes on to say “i do love Hitler, i do love the Zionists, i love everyone.” (his emphasis, not mine)
once again, i dont support him at all, but i went into this thinking he outright said he loved Hitler and his actions, but he’s clearly trying to make a point here, the point being “love everyone”.
i know this post is already so long but im just anxious because this post is the most likely post to ever get me cancelled, so one more time: i DONT support ye, im not “on his side”, hes an anti-Semite. but the moment you start spreading misinformation about someone, youre giving them more power. they can very easily prove you wrong, then claim that the media is attacking them or whatever, and then turn the situation around to their benefit. so what im saying is even if its a morally disgusting awful person, try not to misrepresent them cause thats counterintuitive.
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bernlcastel · 8 months
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Honestly i find it interesting how terfs were able to convince so so many people that the idea of female community and womanhood is a real thing that exists, like idk if its just cause i live in southern usa but thats just. Not a thing. The intersection between gay women, trans women, women of color, lower class women, etc etc etc.. there isnt a community. Its just rich white sometimes lesbian women who claim theres a community while knowing theyd claim a black cis woman was actually a man if she looked at them wrong. Seeing it as a community is somewhat counterintuitive because people think they can just avoid it but please look in your everyday circle of people and dont assume you can just put it up to some community that doesnt exist
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e2019 · 8 months
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like idk if this is the typical experience or no cuz i always see ppl say dont be afraid to call ems cuz theyre not cops they just wanna help you but thats not how it feels to me. it's like they'll do the bare minimum to make sure ur not gonna die in the next like hour then immediately the priority shifts now they wanna try n charge u with something. cuz they narcanned me and before i even know whats going on theyre like whats your name do u know where u are what day is it whos the president ok so where are the drugs. constantly hounding your half dead fucked up ass threatening U and they wont leave til they find something all up in your personal space searching shit. and this might sound counterintuitive but i do not think it helps to confiscate the drugs when someone overdoses i think that puts the person in even more danger if anything. cuz thats not gonna make them stop if they dont want to lets be real. so now theyre sick and they have less money and they have to buy more drugs so now it's a new batch of unknown potency and maybe the person's tolerance has dropped in the meantime. whereas at least what they were using before they knew the potency of and they already overdosed on that well now there are all these new unknown factors plus all the stress this person is under they are even more likely to overdose again now. and either way it;s scary enough to overdose without being interrogated immediately upon being revived like damn chill out a minute wtf. just my 2cents.
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ok u said u were bored so i come to u with a dilemma. i'm in this club with a very cute guy and i would like to go on a date with him, but im very shy and we've barely ever talked. what do i do?
ooh ok well if you’re in a club then you’re already seeing each other regularly which is good!! so first id say strike up a conversation with him — like pick something that you know about. maybe he has a cool shirt? a sticker on his laptop? something like that!! (once i met a guy in a college class who had a sticker on his water bottle from the town he was from which was near where i grew up, so one day while we were both just sitting there i was like SO ARE YOU FROM THERE? and then once that ice was broken we ended up talking a lot and he eventually invited me to a party as his date!) (i wasn’t actually interested in that guy but it’s proof that it works) so that could be one method.
another method could be employing your friends!! if you have other people in the club you’re close with, you can ~let it slip~ that you think this guy is cute and then they can help you orchestrate situations to talk to him!! (also a college story but there was one guy in one of my classes who i always used to joke i was in love with (i really did find him cute i just knew nothing about him) and it became kind of an inside joke with me and my friends and then every time we’d see him around they’d start chatting with his friends so that we’d be forced to talk to each other — stuff like that! and on the topic of that guy i just found out from one of my friends that he actually DID have a crush on me the whole time!!) (this was new information to all of us but it was very exciting)
ok those are my two examples i can think of from my own life where i had a vague crush on a guy i was regularly seeing in a class setting but had trouble starting conversations with… in general i feel like with crushes we have a tendency to overcomplicate things because we really WANT something to happen, and counterintuitively, the best thing to do is usually just treat them like any normal person. i know for me when i have a crush i literally just start ignoring them because i get so nervous and in my head about it, and that usually results in them being like … oh so she doesn’t like me. whereas it’s always the people who i don’t care about who end up falling in love with me because i don’t care about how they perceive me and i end up just being fully myself. soooo i guess thats to say if there’s anything you can do to take the pressure off yourself to impress this guy, try to do that? it’s so hard — i know. im terrible at it myself. but it’s probably the best thing you can do!!
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aahsoka · 9 months
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i just KNEW they were gonna be like ‘actually u have to drain her of her blood to become human’ but now I am just like. ok so what are u gonna do with this because clearly hes not gonna kill her to live thats counterintuitive. You gonna make him die instead? u gonna add a super special secret that like. maybe her missing father knows about. that lets them both live ? 🤔🤔
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warning this is a long one lmao
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i tried once and failed spectacularly and never tried again 😭😭😭
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ive just been letting the toddlers run wild bc i imagine two werewolves wouldnt be helicopter parents and its honestly sm less stressful 😭😭 like yeah go splash in the toilet and have fun
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hmm like sims aesthetic? idk really its kinda all over the place djfkf id just say nondescript cartoon-yness lmao. and most of my inspo is from real life!
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ty! like i dont want it to seem like im a saint and totally exempt from fucking up but i would hope it would be clear that id never intentionally whitewash a sim, thats quite counterintuitive of literally everything i preach
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thats what its giving atp 😭😭
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PREMONITIONS youre right, i shouldve forced my mom to birth me early so i could properly do my research for ts2 😩😩
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honestly!! ive tried to play both ts2 and ts3 since joining simblr but i literally Can Not, plus the millions of fixes that go in to ensuring they both work properly, it shouldnt come as a surprise to people that the majority of current simmers are only familiar with ts4
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dkjfkfd thats the consensus everyone is coming to but i dont remember last summer being this bad 😭😭 it fully couldve been tho that was before i ever left my simblr bubble lmao
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thank you sm!! ily2 🥺🥺💖💖
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thank you!! like i am not an ea employee plz cut me some slack 😭😭 and im glad u like my dina🥺🥺 just gonna tweak her a bit to make her more like her previous iterations !
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thank you!! and omg that is so exciting, good luck on ur legacy challenge! 💖💖
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i am autistic so i rlly dont know wtf theyre talking about in regards to my tone, i just think im speaking normally lmao. and i wholeheartedly agree with what u said about black simmers, ive def seen other black simmers get the same hate and vitriol over their tone and its sick, and then everyone wonders why ppl leave and simblr “dies”, like its bc yall make it inhospitable
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i love both of those things so ty sm! 🥺💖💖
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thank you!! i’m doing okay, ty for checking in 🥺💖💖
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DJKDFK ty! i honestly didnt think id get so attached to the dog people either 😭😭
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NO SAME i forget im not like 16 anymore 😭😭 i recently came to the realization that its techinally legal for weird older men to hit on me and i havent known peace since ✋
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i actually considered that! or adding that werewolf girl i made in cas a couple days ago bc im so attached to all of them sjddk the thing is id have to human-ify them bc the halabis are set in the boring real world 
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TYY shes my fave townie of all time so ofc i had to do my girl justice 😌😌
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thank u 🤧🤧❤❤❤
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ACTUALLY when i was playing in that save i literally thought damn now i wanna play with ulrike and dina 😭😭 so maybe so 👁
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this is so sweet omfg thank you sm 😭😭❤❤ im so glad ollie brings you comfort, shes one of my fave sims of all time for that same reason so its good to hear other ppl connect with her the same 🥺🥺 and omg sometimes i forget she has the klepto trait until she tries to steal shit 😭😭
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filthforfriends · 2 years
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BITCHES ATTENDING PARAMOUNT
Please feel free to reblog this even if it doesn't apply to you
Do you also have tickets to Maneskin at the Paramount Theatre on Halloween? Me too! Message me! Especially if its general seating.
I've never done the waiting in line for hours to be seated in the front thing. I could use some guidance and help calculating when to get there, and maybe you could too! I know that sitting in groups makes this possible, so lets make a group!
I know meeting up with strangers on the internet is very counterintuitive so lets get to know each other! Lets hangout beforehand in a place that feels good to you! Or FaceTime group chat (just as soon as someone explains to me how that works) I have irl friends that I've met on here and they make me life so much better.
I'm spending the night in Seattle so I can get their REAL early and hold your place. Again, not sure what the etiquette is for that. I promise not to dox you or mention your blog to anyone without your explicit, enthusiastic consent.
If you're not sure you can message me or ask question anon in my askbox. I'm not going to share your information with anyone. I'm just a socially anxious bitch thats already dreading trying to get in the front row.
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