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baby-girl-aaron-dessner · 17 days

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I just wanted to speak out/rant if thats fine.

Taylor is a billionaire. She is white. She came from a rich family. She has fans that would literally clean up her crimes if she asked them to.

It's almost ridiculous how some fans portray her as 'a saviour', 'sinless, sweet girl'. Mind you, she in her mind 30s.

I love Taylor's music and the persona she has up for the media but you can't deny that she isn't all that very truthful.

She herself said that anti hero and midnights as a whole is one of her most honest and truthful works yet. She clearly states in antihero that she is narcissist who disguises it as altruism, she indirectly said that she does twist the narrative. Despite her confessing this herself (a few) swifties will defend her yet again for miniscule matters.

I am not a Taylor anti and probably never will be but I accept that media can easily be falsified. It baffles me how rare media literacy is nowadays.

This is a safe space for ranting sweet anon. I agree with you, especially on your point about how strange it is that her fans insist on the narrative that she's a saint despite the fact that she admits to having flaws. For example, on anti-hero she references her narcissism and on Getaway Car she confesses to being in a PR relationship and cheating.

Also strange how they infantilise a 34 year old woman so that they can perceive her as the epitome of faultless. However, it seems like she's happy to go along with it. After all, she profits from her cult and their blind fanaticism.

This narrative is pushed by a lack media critical thinking (and media literacy as point out) as well as wilful ignorance. It's easier to feed into a culture of celebrity worshipping and extreme parasocial relationships.

It's frustrating to witness this toxic stan culture so feel free to rant about it whenever you need <3

#asks #taylor swift #taylorswift #ts #the tortured poets department #ttpd #swifties

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yonpote · 3 months

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another thing is like... under capitalism, business success and wealth begin to alienate you from others who don't have that. and that alienation can feed into greed, like why not keep investing and making business deals and buying expensive stuff? and no one around is really going to call you out because they are either capitalist hacks or maybe people who once struggled who now rely on you.

so like, I don't inherently expect much from creators like dnp who come into money. even though they probably have more financial freedom than many other creators because of all the tours, books, games, etc (because they are good at business!)

so like, as their fans who ultimately are their consumers, I think it's good to call them out, especially because they have shown before that they have good intentions.

am I expecting much from them? no. wealth can be corrupting and speaking out comes with risk to business/career interests. but they have a special relationship with their audience, as we're mostly all fellow queer and neurodivergent people with similar interests. so we can provide feedback and be the ones to try to ground them and be like "hey that wasn't cool please do better." stopping engagement with them and their content entirely doesn't really do anything to help, unless they did something they needed to absolutely be deplatformed for. stopping engagement is a valid personal choice, but when I see stuff that begins to resemble like 'they aren't being activists right now time for everyone to unstan' I'm like... if that makes you feel better, fine, but I would rather parasocially / affectionately be like "hey I expect more from you!" in a way that is constructive. which is something I would want to do with my friends, but the difference is, if my friends didn't change or try to then I probably would distance myself from them. Whereas Dan and Phil are entertainers we don't now irl, we have a different relationship with them. but compared to many other creators, they really do tend to be more sensitive to their audience (which has helped their success).

but so this time the (mostly leftist) phannies calling them out actually got them to do a fundraiser so that's cool! even if it's because of the backlash like, that's what the point of backlash is! we should want people to change behavior. not to just abstractly punish them, for something they could be unlikely to do without pressure. though hopefully it will lead to less instances of having to pressure them.

idk this brings up interesting stuff about parasocial relationships, the transactions between creators and their audience, and capitalism. so of course I had to rant about it for a sec lol.

thats completely true! thank u for the rant lol but yeah i dont want to come across as being like, NEVER EXPECT ANYTHING FROM YOUR FAV CREATORS it was more like, with dnp specifically we know where their heart is i guess so it can be unnecessary to call for whatever. BUT you're absolutely right in that they probably wouldn't have done a charity stream were it not for pressure from fans. and maybe this is ME being parasocial but i'd like to think that this isn't for damage control or performativism (i mean it is a LITTLE cuz any publicity is a little bit abt looking good) but rather like, putting their money where their mouth is basically! and showing to their core audience like hey we care about this thing too and we fully hear you.

i was thinking about this General concept wrt dnp because i think there have been other moments where dnp were called out about something or criticized for like their more offensive humor and they stopped doing that and educated themselves which is better than most creators who put up fakeass apology videos. ive seen a lot of ppl say they want dan to talk about and apologize for his racist and sexist humor (and honestly only asking dan but not bringing up that phil also had his share of racist jokes) but it's like. at this point what further could he say? he's not a 21 year old shit head anymore (and yeah good for you for being a socially aware 21 y/o in 2024 but that offensive humor literally was just the culture of that time period) and they both have SHOWN that they have grown and even talked about it in like the pinof react video where they talked about "yeah we bullied kristen stewart a lot cuz it was just popular to make fun of her and justin bieber and that really sucks that we did that" like they have changed and shown change! they do not need to make a grand apology statement cuz like if you wanna talk performativism then lets talk about the fakeness of basically every apology video on the internet????

sorry thats unrelated to what u were talking abt but it just made me start thinking BUT YEAH THANK YOU FOR YOUR HOT TAKES!!!!

#myrambles

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fictiontbh · 6 months

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Haii!

I felt like I should make an intro-post for myself, so, I suppose this will be a huge masterlist of alot of things... so here's my introduction and everything about me!

Feel free to ask as much questions as you'd like! You can ask me through my inbox (as an anon or not) or through my DM's (direct messages) If you would like to keep your questions between you and me!

With that said....

More under cut <3

Tags!

Currently, I've been wanting to sort my posts, from og posts, art, and everything like that. It just makes it easier to search for things I want when I want. Currently my only tag is #TBH's art I chose that because my name changes alot... but my autism persists so... yeah that exists. If I ever get around to actually finishing my fics then the tag #TBH's fanfics will be coloured down on this list.

Sexuality/gender!

I am an Aroace Lesbian who is along the nonbinary spectrum! I prefer masc terms, dressing femme, and mixing up pronouns!!

Here are my flags!!

Questions are allowed!

Names!

My name is Storm(y) but I also go by Charm and Fiction. I go by she/they/he/ it!!

The reason I go by multiple names is due to me having been on the internet for... since I was born, practically.

Both of these names have a special place in my heart, though Charm has more of an explanation and Fiction is what I prefer to be named online.

The name "Stormy" comes from my middle name which is just the word Storm. It holds no significance more than just me disliking my birth name and chosing my middle name felt like it would be easier on those who do know me. I have also used this name on a self insert I made of me (not for me, of me. Trust me it is very different to make a self-insert that was made in your image than one you made just to project onto.)

"Charm", however, was a name i fell in love with because I am apart of the Fnaf Fandom. This name was made for a "self-insert" oc i made for satire, the thing is, I ended up expanding the OC's lore so much, but since it was "self-insert" I guess I just stopped taking it as a joke when my brain hyperfixated on the OC. The name has applied to me only because I still consider that OC a "self-insert", truly made for my Indulgence.

"Fiction" is my last name, no, not my actual last name, just my last preffered name. Fiction was another self indulgent name I made for another OC, this was made during a time of major depression where I would spend my day projecting onto my characters and enjoying parasocial relationships with them. Its not a name that means anything good, but this is the reason I use the internet, so I kept it.

I have said above that Fiction is my preffered name online, yet I would truly be fine and maybe happier if you do use my other names as well, especially for more lighthearted conversations. My names may change depending on the circumstance.

Also, I have certain personal depending on the name, Storm is what I draw most commonly as I based the design off myself truly, Charm is technically a furry, but like, robot.... fnaf. Thats my only explanation. Fnaf like Freddy. Except its a fox. Idk. Uhm. Fiction doesn't have a design, but they have alot of emotions behind her, so I'll probably draw them but she is gonna change... alot. No depiction of them is gonna stay the same. Ever.

In conclusion:

Storm is just a name I use for convenience and with family/close friends and in a way that connects to me as a person.

Charm is a name I use for self indulgence purposes and for happier/lighthearted conversations.

Fiction is the name I chose to express my thoughts and is used in a more depressing/serious type of conversation.

These names will switch alot however, sometimes storm or fiction will be the self-indulgent ones, sometimes Fiction will actually be happy and not just my "damn, depressive episode!!" name, sometimes my names will just have no meaning but usually I feel I prefer them during specific circumstances. Plus... sometimes I might find a new name I like for a bit and sometimes ill try testing out a new name.. ice been thinking Mimic for a bit and the name Allen has crossed my mind a few times... but for now sticking with the names above would probably be best.

My personality, what I choose to indulge in, and the thoughts in my head are different from eachother and I suppose my brain liked using the names to show and express myself in a more... disassociative way. Just blame it on past trauma and parasocial relationships I've been in.

Speaking of trauma...

Diagnosis'

I have Social/General Anxiety Disorder, Sociopathy and Minor Depression. I am also Autistic which attributes to alot of my other mental disorders and just myself as a person. (As stated before with Autigender)

I may still be undiagnosed so this list may update, and my only main guesses for what else i could have would probably be ocd and odd but... you never know right? I mean, i discover new paraphilias that i go "hmm... interesting..." to every... not every day but pretty often!! Im not technically a paraphiliac? I don't get aroused. At all. Ever. But I do get very interested. A new interest but not something I care for and actively search. Unless it's comships... love those.

I do not have a way to Segway into my interests smoothly so pretend that this is a really cool line that relates to my-

Interests

I have a LOT of interests.

FNAF, OMORI/おもり, Vocaloid, Evillious Chronicles, ONIBI/鬼火, Pokémon, Be More Chill, ATL:A, Hazbin/Helluva, Steven Universe, Saiki K No Psi Nan and then my scattered interests that are just... its just me liking random characters from random franchises. The franchises im not a fan of but one (1) character? Hell ye im into them!! They are... silly... so silly... recently BMC has been stuck on my mind and o CANNOT get rid of it... have I been squipped???

Shipping!

I am a multishipper. I ship almost every ship in every Fandom and I do not care what others ship. Will I judge? Yeah. Will I truly care? Never! This counts me as a "Pro-shipper" though in technicality im actually full comship. I do not care what you ship. Just as long as you DONT support people who actually and actively support or participate in abusive relationships IRL I am okay with you. From the most innocent cutesy ships to absolutely vile ones I support. Hence my squipemy ship...

I would also like to add, Kinks and anything sexual is allowed on this blog, just a reminder however if I get uncomfortable with the sexual tension in my asks, comment/replies, or anything im tagged in I will most likely not respond or delete what I can. I'm not sex repulsed, but I have boundaries for certain people and my way of showing affection/intimacy with them.

I suppose having said this... all thats left is a DNI list? Its a little basic, cause I really don't care. At all. Just have the basics.

DNI (Do not interact)

Pedophiles/Maps (POCD is fine! You can't control that and all that matters is you surpressing these urges. I can't even lie, I've had the thoughts too, its not pleasant and I'm sorry for your stigmatisation. You are welcome here.)

Rapists and rape defenders. (There is no excuse.)

Anti-LGBT/homo-or-transphobes (you are on tumblr. How could you dislike gay people. This was basically made for gay people. What.)

Anti-shippers. (Please I use shipping as a way of coping. My trauma is different from yours. My coping mechanisms are different than yours. Why do you get mad abt that. Its not a harmful coping mechanism. It doesn't hurt me or you or anybody else.)

Ableists. (There is no excuse.)

Racists. (There is no excuse.)

Radqueer. (... I dont like saying this but just.... no. You aren't welcome in the community. Xenogenders and neos are allowed here! Not you however.)

And thats the criteria. I told you. Its basic. I don't care who you are. I just want to know that I am in a place with people of my kind- mentally ill, bullied, nerds, geeks, whatevers, LGBT community, etc. Or just people who wont actively try and harm me, both mentally and physically. This has been my introduction, and I suppose.. I bit you adieu!

Goodbye! Thank you so much for listening~!

#fandoms #intro post #introduction #meet the blogger #TBH's art

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ranboocore-moved · 3 years

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EY!! Your addition to my post was great! Thank u for the input

yeah! of course!

i think we should talk about parasocial relationships a lot more than we do. parasocial relationships as we know them now have only been around since at most 2005, but again, i would argue that livestreaming has made them much more complex and intense -- and twitch was created back in 2011 and only really kicked off in 2014. at least before twitch streaming, and before instagram and especially were widely used, it was a bit easier to regulate the disconnect i was talking about. you get a youtube video once a week or something and while that is still far more personal than an a list actor would ever be, the popularity of streaming, and public social media, have made it so much more personal.

content creators aren’t necessarily plugged in all the time, but there are plenty of them who tweet and are active online frequently -- even if it’s not to interact with fans. it still makes them feel... close. maybe not friend close, but far more closer than any celebrity who tweets. it puts more like... cognitive dissonance into that disconnect. because it makes them feel maybe not like a friend but maybe like a mutual who you just don’t talk to. and as someone who has issues with attachment, and a hard time with establishing friendships and close relationships - therefore my friend group is extremely small, it’s very hard to establish in my head that i will likely never get the chance to talk to this person at a sizable length of time, nor will i ever be their friend. and as someone who is very quick to obsess and hyperfixate, it is very easy for me to make it my goal if i simply work hard enough and put out enough fan content.

i’ve done this a lot in the past before but i never particularly noticed what i was doing. i just knew that if i never finished the fan content, didn’t post it, and it didn’t spread out enough for the content creator to see it, i got violently sad and upset. Not at the content creator, but at myself. I’d feel like I wasn’t doing enough or I wasn’t trying hard enough so I’d either push myself too hard or I’d start to spiral down.

these issues aren’t really on any content creator or content consumer’s fault, though? i think i said it in the tags of the post before, it’s hard because i would argue we haven’t evolved to process stuff like that. either as human beings or just as a society. it’s an extremely complex relationship to have. when the term was coined, it was defined very broadly. it referred to the illusionary experience of being close with someone on mass media even though they were either not real or didn’t know you. the term included talk show hosts AND fictional characters at the time. it was coined back in the 1950s as well, so like... massive change in technologies. i feel like it should probably be redefined because the description of it when it was coin versus the contexts it holds now are so vastly different. in the 1950s they had tv and radio, where now we have the internet. which not only has similar functions to the tv and radio, but there’s also social media that provides another avenue of closeness and more interpersonal... content? it’s just very different from what it was before and i think there should be more studies into it as it can definitely have a serious affect on someone’s health.

everyone may not relate to going overboard in terms of caring for a content creator, but i feel like a lot of neurodivergent people and mentally ill people could relate with this. which it’s okay to struggle, just remember to take care of yourself first. if you’re grieving over the fact that they’ll probably never know you -- take a breath. remember that you come first. if you feel a twinge of hurt sometimes when you watch content, maybe take a step back. evaluate your feelings and try to figure out why you’re feeling like this and what you can do to combat it. TLDR; parasocial relationships as we know them are new. the way the internet has been curated and how content on the internet is created, is far more interpersonal than the way media has been created in the past. it’s new and it’s kind of confusing and hard to navigate. it’s easy to let yourself get caught up in and focused on interacting with these content creators that it can hurt. it’s not really anyones fault -- the technologies are new and the way parasocial relationships were defined before is vastly different from the way they are now. if you don’t relate thats fine, but i think there are neurodivergent people, and mentally ill people alike who can relate. if you do relate, take a breath. its okay. ask yourself why you feel like this and what you can do to change the way you feel.

#long post #maxalilabart #parasocial relationships #content creators #cc #sorry this is a mouthful #if you got this far congrats i hope you're well #parasocial relationships are hard to navigate #my ask box is open!#i struggle a lot too but i like talking about it #it helps me figure out why i feel that way #and how i can change my thinking to not feel that way #maxalibabart

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yammoba · 2 years

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In around 2016 or 2015 an anime reviwer i watched religiously came out as trans.

At the time the video he released to announce this made me cry.

I sat their crying for a while. I guess i had what we would now know as a pretty strong parasocial relationship with him. (I had little fantasies about making anime videos and eventually becomming his friend.) And i was so happy for him.

But i was so jelous, It burned.

At the time i thought: thats kinda a weird reaction? Are you sure you dont want to investigate this further?

While simultaiously berating myself for even daring to have such thoughts. (It wasnt possible for me to be like that. I would have known. You just wish there was an easy way to fix your problems. You're just too enamored with yaoi shit. Havent you been fine with being a woman? Theres no point. Stupid.)

When i was younger than that.

I read Soul Eater, and when i saw Chrona and how people reacted to them. I know i thought.

It would be nice if i could be like that.

When i was very young.

My friend and i started playing a game. Our stuffed animals were gods. Kings, adventurers.

I was using my favorite pikachu toy as my main one, and my friend asked me, is it a boy or a girl.

Well, i had heard, somewhere, that god had no gender. That was the first time i heard of something like that. And so i said, hes not a boy or a girl.

Maybe i should have always known.

(Maybe im just trying to make everything fit how i want it to.)

Is that different from trying to make sense of your life? Its all random and it all happened in the past so what wrong with trying to construct something out of it to feel better now.

(Well if it doesnt feel better wont that hurt more?)

I have had a problem for a lot of my life. Its difficult for me to act true to myself.

Its difficult for me to connect with things, unless theres a kind of distance. Or maybe i just dont see myself directly in too many things.

Its difficult for me to express myself in a way that feels true. I can immagine a lot of people feel that way. (I fall back on thinking that a lot. That other people must feel the same way as me. Probably everyone feels this way. Not to try to fit in, well it would be nice if i could. But it just means i dont have to deal with these feelings. They arent valid. Not special.)

If there's my true self i feel like a big part of me hates him and wants him to just shut up so we can stay safe and get on with our lives peacfully.

(Its better to not get invested. Trying to get something for yourself in that way is a waste of time.)

I think a lot of the chances I've had to connect with people in a way that could help me get squandered. Im just scared i guess.. im bad at talking to people. Im bad at getting what i want. I...

Im mad because a lot of it goes back to that same shit thats been fucking me up since i was a kid. Shouldn't i be over it by now?

After and during it all happening i thought... well.. i guess i should try to act normal. I should try to be pleasing. (Should try wearing some dresses any being a normal girl who does girly things.) might as well give it a shot.

I could never really manage it though. I dont think people cared. I was "the weird one" which i was fine with. I was just frightened.

((If you connect with them they'll just regect you. Theyre just putting up with you))

Even though im the weird one, there are lots of ways ive been forcing myself to be normal to be pleasing to fit in.

Haha yea.s hello felllow humans i too think that other random humans are "hot" and "sexually attractive" this sure is a funny sjoke we are all engaged in hahaah. Wow yes i sure to love being a girl. Girls are very cool so i love being one. I sure understand everything that is hppening. I sure think all of this is worth taking seriously.

(Its difficult for me to trust my feelings. Unless theres a rationalization. Unless they make sense. But i could deffinatly just be making up those reasons. )

Its difficult for me to belive my feelings unless i recive the physical sensation of those feelings. (But how are you supposed to know what those sensations actually mean?)(your just tricking yourself into feeling that way anyways)

I didnt ever finish evangellion. But a peice of one of shinji's monologs has been stuck in my head since i saw it in a video by that reveiwer. About being cowardly and weak. Im cowardly and weak. I dont like myself very much. I dont trust myself. Im honeslty insufferable.

Veiwing myself as others seem to thats not true. But i cant help think they either dont know, or are lying to me. Which is a thought that i think makes me very unpleasent.

Why am i like this. Like. I dont have a logical reason to be this fucked in the head. If im trans i think it would help explain a lot because where the fuck did all this shitty truama come from. Why is it so hard for me to accept myself when im around others. If i were alone i could be myself any not have to worry about anything. What am i so worried about anyways huh? It doesnt make sense.

I feel like no one. Or very few people have seen "me". At least in a way that they register as "me". I feel like i havent been able to be "myself" since i was a child. I keep trying. Im trying more.

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