#talking informally to each other

[chocoberry-dream]

Me whenever someone on this app says that ji and ks aren’t close 🥲:

#LMAOAOAOAOOOO #putting kaisoo aside for a minute #like…you can always tell surface level fans when it comes to kp*p apart from the ones who actually are paying attention #if you have eyes you can see that they’re close #they themselves have also implied that MANY MANY times lmao #talking informally to each other #sharing a dorm #becoming close after 3 days #I could go on and on #it’s like are they not close or do you just not want them to be close? #and the funniest thing is it’s always ks stans who don’t want to acknowledge how close he is to ji #occasionally ji stans are like this too but it’s almost ALWAYS ks Stan’s #ppl gotta realize that even if kaisoo wasn’t real that still wouldn’t negate the fact that they are both close to each other LOL #but..ppl know the truth and they also know the possibility 👀 #like you don’t have to type out all these think pieces and try to narrow down whom in eggg seww is closest to each other #just look at how they act and listen to what they say #kaisoo #kadi #dika #long tags are long #beri talks #beri rants

[coquelicoq]

what i like especially about the pronouns in the goblin emperor is that this language doesn't just have the T-V distinction (aka informal vs. formal second-person pronouns, in this case 'thou' vs. 'you'), it also has informal and formal first-person pronouns. having BOTH of these distinctions in the same language lets you fine-tune your tone by mixing and matching. with only one axis of formality, when you use informal pronouns, are you being familiar in an intimate way, or in an insolent or dismissive way? when you use formal pronouns, are you being polite or standoffish? you can't tell just from the pronouns; there's ambiguity. but a language where you can use a formal first-person pronoun in the same sentence as an informal second-person pronoun allows you to distance yourself (via the formal first) while also being familiar (via the informal second), thereby achieving the conversational tenor known to linguists as Fuck Thee Specifically.

#just kidding i don't know what linguists call that tenor. or any tenors. i'm not totally positive what a tenor even is #but i can't let that stop me from writing a jokey post on tumblr dot com #register is a very interesting area of linguistics that i know very little about #so i'm probably revealing the depths of my vast ignorance here to all the sociolinguists who surely hang on my every word #but i've always thought of the formal/informal pronoun thing as being about two things: intimacy-distance & rudeness-politeness #and of course you can usually tell from context whether a formal pronoun is meant to indicate distance or politeness #(plus distance and politeness are related to each other (to various degrees depending on culture)) #but it seems like it would be cool to have a built-in alignment chart of sorts just for pronoun combos #instead of prep jock nerd goth...why not try intimate self-effacing polite superior? #the goblin emperor #pronouns #register #sociolinguistics #my posts #f #anyway i know i said i wasn't going to reread the goblin emperor...but guess what. lol #and i edited my tags on that earlier post but fyi the language DOES distinguish between plural and formal singular pronouns #i had said i thought it used the same pronouns for plural and formal but i just wasn't paying close enough attention #so anyway i just reread the part where maia is talking to setheris in formal first and informal second #and you can see setheris going ohhh shit. oh shit oh shit oh shit #i'm in biiiiiig trouble #you sure are dude. that's the Time to Grovel signal #it's interesting because at the very beginning of the book when i first saw the formal first used i just thought it was the royal we #because i knew the main character was supposed to be royalty #but then EVERYONE was doing it. so it's not the royal we it's just the formal we #however. this does make me realize that the way the royal we would function in a language that retains the t-v distinction #is the same way i'm describing here. it's just reserving that particular tone (i'm better than you and am displeased with you) #for royalty only. which makes sense given royalty's whole deal

[thursdayinspace]

Chimera though. "Do you have a significant other?" Mulder's answer: "Um, not in the widely understood definition of that term."

Dude. What?? Seriously, that is such a reply. Most importantly, it's very much not a no. That hesitation before he answers, that smile on his face that looks almost shy. Nope, he doesn't have a significant other in the widely understood definition of the term, but yes, there kiiiiind of is someone?!

Who even knows what those two disaster clowns are doing in their free time at this point. If they haven't had sex yet, they have six episodes left to Do It before Mulder disappears. They've had their Millennium Kiss which was definitely a Thing™. Basically he's working with the love of his life and he has an inkling that all that gazing he's been doing has been reciprocated and that maybe he is (or could potentially be) off the market? He wants to be.

Just imagining them still completely clueless about what it means doing the "no you hang up first" routine in person in the parking garage every night. "Good night." "Good night." "Good night." "You didn't get in your car." "Neither did you." "You go first." "No you go first." Until Skinner walks past rolling his eyes so hard he gives himself a migraine, muttering something about "those crazy kids figuring it out one day."

Whatever they're doing, whatever is going on between them, it is more than nothing. "Not in the widely understood definition of that term." It's such an evasive answer, but it's definitely not a no.

#txf #the x files #msr #mulder and scully #I regret to inform you that you love each other and really suck at talking about it

[phasmotid]

family of lovers and quiet deaths by choice

#true detective #tv #rust cohle #travis cohle #guys im kind of very into more travis information. im on the train now. #rust talking about the people who loved him down there being his daughter and his father. and they never liked each other. #ok whatever... killing me. #blog

[the-genius-az]

What is something special that Azula does only for Mai? Ty Lee? What does Mai do only for Azula? Etc. Could be something sweet or spicy

Thanks for the question, Amor!

Azula learned to make knives for Mai, she could easily buy them, but she decided to give more meaning to her gifts.

Azula wrote songs and sang for Ty Lee, after the girl admitted to loving her voice after a music class.

Mai wrote her daily life to Azula when the princess was too busy to be there.

Mai wrote poems for Ty Lee, she did it even more when she ran away to the circus.

Ty Lee painted Azula in all her paintings, the princess was her beautiful muse.

Ty Lee danced just for Mai, she taught her all the dances she learned.

#Azula #Mai #Ty Lee #Maizulee #Maizula #Tyzula #Mailee #atla #avatar the last airbender #Azula learned to make knives just for Mai. #Azula took extra music lessons for Ty Lee. #Mai wants to keep Azula informed about her life. #Ty Lee is the girl from Mai's poems. #Ty Lee can't help but paint only Azula. #Ty Lee only allows Mai to watch her dances. #This is so sweet! I'm proud. #I didn't want to make it spicy because I always wanted to talk about it in a sweet way! #They don't even allow each other to do the same thing that makes it special for the other.

[sciderman]

You have the astounding ability to make me consider liking things that I previously did not. Cable and Wade. Shiklah and Wade. Johnny and Peter. I’m a stubborn Spideypool obsessor, I’m sure I’ve mentioned, so pat yourself on the head for being SUCH a stan that you’ve broken through my OTP walls and gotten me to glance at other ways for Wade and Peter to he happy and loved.

i think if you truly love a character then you want them to get some no matter where it comes from

#i think it kind of really reduces a character if you're limiting them to One relationship solely! #a person is the result of every interaction and every relationship they've had. that's how you get a fleshed out human. #i think that's why i like to explore all of wade and peter's past relationships and stuff. it informs who they are. #it informs why they have all their baggage and their short-comings and it's just fun and interesting! #i think it's very easy for spideypool to become very flat and one-dimensional if you're focusing squarely on them #and there's no outside factors or additional lore giving them depth beyond. i don't know. sexy vigilantes. #like yeah it's hot. and that's fine. but it's kind of not why i'm here and why i'm so invested in them. #it is nice to see a hot drawing of them kissing on a rooftop yes. but i don't know. it doesn't tickle my pickle anymore. #i'm so much more interested in hearing them talk about their history and their relationships #and getting a better understanding of each other as a result. that's so freaking sexy to me. that's tickling my pickle. #sci speaks

[hella1975]

all hate to tiktok for taking 'having a space to more openly and actively talk about different cultures' to mean 'cultures are NOT to be shared and we must be vigilantly defensive of our cultures for fear of appropriation, a word that can be applied to any multicultural interaction'. like of course cultural appropriation is a very real problem but ive seen with the access to global multicultural conversation that tiktok provides it's made people TERRIFIED to even interact with cultures other than their own for fear of 'doing it wrong'. like at some point you have to acknowledge that in the real world of the great outdoors, the majority of people are eager to SHARE their cultures. yes there are ignorant questions and biases but also... how do you think those things get unlearnt? i dont understand how deciding that multiculturalism is an elephant in the room instead of a normal thing that should just be talked about and lived with is supposed to benefit anyone? and kids on tiktok are CONVINCED that it's a time bomb of a conversation to have and therefore must be avoided at all costs but like. people generally LOVE their home and their culture and are PROUD of it and want to share it. how have we made it so that showing genuine interest and a desire to understand something so integral to a person's identity is now feared and borderline demonised?

#thinking about this a lot lately. thinking about how fun it was comparing cultural differences in america #thinking of how when i was homesick one thing i found a great comfort in was talking about my home #and how it differed and i really loved and appreciated it when people would ask me about england #in a way that they genuinely just wanted to learn about it and not to take the piss #thinking about how the kitchen at work has chefs from all over europe. we have an irish chef and a spanish chef and an italian chef #and one of the kps is from eastern europe (i havent actually been able to find out where yet) etc and the way they banter with each other #like usually chefs are Problematic bc their humour is VERY abrasive and usually offensive #but this is one instance where it's actually to their benefit bc they're so unafraid to ADDRESS THE FACT THEY HAVE DIFFERENT CULTURES #i feel like the tiktok gen are so petrified of even acknowledging other cultures let alone discussing them #that it's actually sending the conversation backwards. like how does hoarding your culture and pretending it's not there benefit anyone #LET ALONE YOU AND THE CULTURE IN QUESTION. idk it just baffles me a bit that something that started as people on tiktok #genuinely spreading information and talking about the BAD side of this where people DO culturally appropriate or invade spaces that arent #theirs has now become 'for fear of speaking bad about it we will not speak about it at all'. and they'll crucify you if you do. like what #even at uni my best mate is indian and she's too scared to join the sikh society on her own so i regularly go to the events with her #and im typically one of the handful (or the only) white non-sikh there and i get SO welcomed each time #like there's such a genuine excitement to share the culture with someone who is effectively a blank slate #and like yeah ill ask 'dumb' questions or i'll have different experiences (tried a samosa for the first time at one of these events #and the moment that info got out i had like five STRANGERS trying to give me different samosas to try and it was genuinely such #a laugh bc yes they were TEASING me bc 'how have you never had one' but they were also really eager to share MORE as a result) #ugh idk what im saying. i just think it's a shame to watch this happen in real time on the internet #when if people would just go outside and actually TALK to people from other cultures they'd realise 9 times out of 10 the interactions #are actually really really nice for BOTH parties. and actually refusing to talk about this stuff is long-term pretty fucking detrimental #and it also goes the other way!!! like imagine if i - citizen of colonisation motherland herself - didn't interact with other cultures #and didnt ask questions or hear their opinions on whatever shared history we have from THEIR POINT OF VIEW #imagine the kind of shit id be internalising bc i only hung out with other white british people. it wouldnt matter if i was doing it #to be woke or 'respect their culture'. it would still be fucking ignorant. like half my interactions with other cultures #see me as the butt of the joke bc of this like aforementioned irish chef at work VOCALLY slates the english all the time #but it's done in an environment where we're FRIENDS and it's poking fun at each other while still addressing a very serious history. like?? #idk if any of this is worded in a way that makes sense but yeah. i have thoughts #cant believe i got inspired to make an actually serious post bc of the CHEFS AT WORK. embarrassing. no one let them see this

[the-acid-pear]

Y'know this little throwaway gag is so bizarre to me and I know this game is a bit very different to 2 and 3 but look at Matt's reaction when Jack raids the place in 3:

You'd argue he's simply stopping Jack bc he hates this guy and he also hates this job which Could Be True but i highly doubt bc overall despite his virginity and overall cursed vibe, Matt seems to be a good employee, by all means (I mean, Peter literally gave him a vacation instead of firing him in 2, so that says a lot).

Plus, Dave hates this guy as much as he hates him! He literally always calls him creepy and, AND!

This is the only footage you get of the prize corner in 2. Which is also the first game to show Matt and Dave's disdain for one another, Dave being likely more scared of Matt than Matt will ever be of him.

Which is all very curious. 2 does set a drastic change for Matt too with him going from being just strange to outright creepy, so was the old pizza place closing something that actually affected him or was he consistently that creepy all along? And if the later, did he just start hating Dave after that or did they always have beef and they simply had some sort of arrangement (or even higher word from Steven who tended to let Dave do whatever he wanted in general) that let him do so?

#luly talks #dsaf #matt virginia #matthew virginia #<- using both tags bc i didnt realize some call him matthew. ya se los dije el es matias para mi... #dsaf matt #dsaf dave #dave miller #anyway yeah i kinda went from just writing this as a haha silly thing i noticed to wait this is actually kind of bizarre to not mean anythi #cant tell which theory works best imo like the idea of matt being genuinely upset at the old place being destroyed is kinda cool #but also steven just being like a neglectful parent and using his manager power to let dave steal is So fucking funny to me #i will make a post about dave and steven later my sugar is low rn i need food before i die #but they're soooo silly too #also did you guys know i never realized 1 and 2 were just a few months apart from each other? this is because im a very stupid man #you might see me all analytical and shit and go woah luly is so smart i cant read. i cant hold information to save my life either #im an utter and complete dumbass #amen. #also another fun fact both these screenshots were taken from my evil routes which was a coincidence really #well except for 1 that is a non route #but those other two those are matpat baby #also yeah couldnt be bothered to get screenshots for dave and matt's argument KNJHJNGM JN

[tennessoui]

I think I really lose braincells each time you post about couples counselling au - because I have never felt a characterization of Obi-Wan and Anakin fit *so much* to my own headcanon that it drives me crazy. The lack of communication? The desperate need to please (Anakin) the delusion of thinking you're giving someone complete access (Obi-Wan) while keeping them out. It is SO perfect, it's literally my favourite obikin fic, I am so invested in this au. The questions you have them answer at the end. When Obi-Wan said he's "happy to make the list as an obligation" because free time means a lot to an enslaved man. Kit. KIT *stick figure gore of me sinking my talons into your shoulders* When Anakin says he has nothing to hide from Obi-Wan but Obi-Wan never asks and he feels like he's getting away with something each time he learns something while Obi-Wan is like. He can ask me anything. KIT *BLOOD IN MY MOUTH*

ahhh thank you so much!!! i really love writing chapters and answering asks about this fic because i'm really attached to these versions of obi-wan and anakin like. their motivations are so interesting to me, especially at this part of the story, in the beginning, when all they are are motivations

anakin absolutely feels this need to please and be loved and the focus of his master's attentions. he also feels helpless in the face of thinking obi-wan will never let him in like that. he also is unhealthily controlling in small ways (checking and rechecking his closed door, for one, trying to have a say in what he eats out of concerns for his health) but he just loves him so much and he really experienced like.d devastation when obi-wan was temporarily dead that i feel like altered his motivations fundamentally, especially because he restarted his heart so.....probably a tiny part of him....illogically feels as if that's his heart now......

and obi-wan absolutely thinks he is so transparent for anakin!! he has let him in!!! more than he's ever let anyone in at all probably, but it's probably not that much. he's so practiced at keeping him out and hiding his real emotions that that's second nature. not to mention he feels betrayed in his own way at anakin marrying padmé --instead of just having an affair with her-- and he's trying to frantically detach himself before anakin leaves the order because he'll be devastated when that happens. not to mention he can also be shit at respecting boundaries (he reads the messages on anakin's phone when he's asleep)

and it's all just so interesting especially because there's so much narrative bias and just narrative inaccuracies where the narrator/POV character completely reads the other's reactions wrong, which makes the little questionnaire at the end have so much more weight because the counselor is 1000% right when she says that that's what's most important--how they feel about each other and their relationship after honest deliberation and reflection

#asks #couples counseling au #obikin #obviously i could talk about this forever too lmao #it's also been interesting writing so far because i don't want to imply that one character is wrong or not #like obi-wan isn't wrong to not want to share anything #but anakin isn't wrong to want more and to be worried about obi-wan's health #i dont think the projection of the story ends with obi-wan constantly volunteering information without being asked #because that doesn't feel like him #and it's ok to just not be that sort of person #it will involve them opening up clearer communications though #because that's healthy #but it's been a lot of thinking about ok #we don't want to magically change these two characters #or imply that to have a healthy relationship you have to fundamentally change yourself #but more like #if two people really want to be together because they're fucking insane about each other #how can we have that happen in the most healthiest way #etc etc #though to be clear i don't think they'll ever be completely healthy #like that would be a wittle bit boring in the end #but they'll be like. much better #started from the bottom now we're at 68 out of 100 on the healthiness scale #good job boys lets hit the showers

[brittlebutch]

honestly Adaine is so good at clarifying/directing Ayda socially that it begins to circle back to a dynamic of like, Ayda saying "i don't know or understand these rules" and Adaine responding "have no fear, I've been carefully studying and manually interfacing with these for years, I will explain:" in a way that to me is so autism4autism

#N posts stuff #like Ayda feels like someone who has spent most of her life alone / with adults and so lacks any context at all for socializing with Peers #she's good at Information (bc she's a librarian) and communicating Facts (bc likely most of her socializing has been helping #with research in one way or another on Leviathan) BUT she struggles a lot more with like #friendly gossip and flirting and boundaries <- because she's never interfaced much with people her own age so it's like being lost at sea #BUT Adaine to me at a certain point Stops reading to me as 'Neurotypical who intuits the rules and is just good at explaining them' #and becomes 'autistic with a special interest in social rules/dynamics' and it's less 'i grew up speaking this language natively' #and WAY MORE 'i've been studying this language intentionally for many years so I can help clarify and give you advice' #and i Love That for them I love when they're talking in Hellbound and Adaine is like 'oh lovely! do you have notes on this social phenom?' #because she's 100% canonically the autistic person who is taking notes on social cues (outright in Daddies&Demons) and is like #'Excellent. Surely with these I am going to get a good grade in Social Conversation.' #Autism win! You and the Librarian on a pirate ship have become Best Friends who think each other are SO cool and lovely and kind <3 #d20lb #fhsy #d20: bad kids

[whoslaurapalmer]

laura (1944) / laura by vera caspary -- waldo and laura meet

bonus deleted scene from the movie script, with a third interpretation of their meeting --

#laura #1944 laura #vera caspary #laura hunt #waldo lydecker #gene tierney #clifton webb #lulu talks about 44 laura #lulu makes gifs #i WANTED another gif from the movie but tumblr refuses to let me move all the images around if i do more than 5 in the top of the post so!! #damn. gonna have to reshape screentogif just a hair to get that line at the bottom out. didn't see it until now #'IT'S FINE IT'S FINE I'M NOT REDOING IT!' -- lulu vandelay while making gifs bc she will NOT re-save and re-optimize YET AGAIN #oh god though i missed an s in the third gif but who's looking. who's counting. i will NOT do it again #me: okay i'll just whip this up before i go to bed. #me an hour later: .............................well. technically. that was with relative speed. #(then i had to redo one of the book pages bc i misspelled a word. sigh.) (i mean. that's a quick fix. a gif? NOT QUICK. not for a caption) #if you are thinking 'wtf? fawn-like????' i must inform you that that is in fact NOT the worst or the most uncomfortable thing #waldo says about laura in the book. #also it's been five years since they met in the movie vs seven years in the book #i do like the second and third gifs right next to each other -- their swapped positions....

[tenthousandguns]

also it's incredibly difficult to talk about the plants because we know so little about the plants - I would love to know what environment a dependent would thrive in. I have written fic about individual dependents theorizing what their experiences are like. but Nightow himself glosses over their individual personhood so much that it's difficult to tell if it even EXISTS

#trigun #obv they have individual memories but do they talk to each other? #do they share information? #they resonate with one another and share overall emotions it seems but how deep does that go when they are not in physical contact? #I have so so so many questions about dependents and plants in general because they fascinate me #actually my favorite characters in trigun #related: tristamp being like “they don't have souls” is such shit. I hope that's fake. #but overall nightow treats them as an allegory more than a proper species and it's maddening

[justalittlebluetiefling]

Tonight I convinced my party that we had to take one course of action and upon finding out that we could instead try and Teleport to save this person who risked their lives to get us out of the last city we were in before demons and devils took over, convinced them to totally change the plan and Teleport into the middle of the woods with the headmistress of the top magic university in the world and the top researcher at its sister facility instead. All while there's a chance that the person we're trying to save is possessed by a Nightmare. Oh, and we rolled just below what we needed to get to the place in the woods where the headmistress scryed (scried?), so we could be anywhere up to 350 miles away from our intended target right now. Oh, and an ancient green dragon lives in these woods and there's a 200000 gold bounty out for them.

But bright side: we hit level 8 today and I took the Sentinel feat!

#i'm screaming over this #like this is so fucking funny #'hey you're one of the most important people in the world teleport us now' #'hey i know we're supposed to get information TODAY on this person who was murdered and had their place taken by an imposter #but WHAT IF we go save this other person instead' #erin plays d&d #also without talking to each other two of the guys took vortex warp #so now they can throw us melee fighters around the battlefield if they want

[snixx]

got queerbaited into reading a book by chatgpt. is this rock bottom

#girlblogging.pdf #apparently coding isn't the only thing that thing is ass at. fetching basic information is too #i mean i Wanted to read it anyway and i knew it wasnt queer before. idk why i let chatgpt gaslight me into believing i was making it up #whatever. neither the main character nor her best friend are textually queer or in love with each other. they're both pretty boy crazy tbh #but the mc is giving big aro vibes. like she's so done with her best friend every time she starts talking about men or crushes #also her crush on this guy is giving extremely platonic im not biased i swear #she just throws herself at him because she thinks itd be cool to date her besties crushs bff #so she could feel normal like her #they do have a cute friendship though. mc and the guy. also they start dating like 2 seconds after her bff dies so it's not really romantic #also theres a very cool lesbian who gets more pagetime than the guy and whos friendship with mc is super angsty so #w #its a really good book ok i just went in with really wrong expectations #like a sapphic hiaylm #but every day i grow closer to the great truth of my life that sapphic hiaylm will never exist #and i should stop looking for it and find the beauty in things for their originality and what they are #anyway in this case the lack of sapphicness did not detract from the book at all dont get me wrong #i just found it funny

[deadbeatdadjokes]

DARKWORLD DIVORCE RATE AT 100%

#jo and I were talking about how funny it is to have divorce just be like #an INTEGRAL part of the utdr universe for some reason #and how if queen and spade got divorced essentially their respective domains are thereby also divorced by proxy #which is even funnier given the new evident spamvil information like besties of course you hate each other #your respective sovereigns are pettily attempting to remotely pillage each other’s territory in the name of alimony collection #deltarune #deltarune spoilers #? #spamton sweepstakes #only the important takeaways on my blog 😌😌 #(statistics)

[librarygf]

sorry this book changed my life. my brain chemistry etc

#when lestat and louis finally meet again and louis has had his own life and gained so much knowledge that theyre on an even playing field #and they just talk with all this fondness for each others silliest traits including lestats love of the drama and louis’ desire to be good #and it truly is like a coming home but a coming home informed by their growth and longing for each other #with the history of pain acknowledged but not overshadowing what they could be now. a new start but not one that requires forgetting #it’s all just so comforting and it can only be that because they learned so much in their time apart #i’m very excited for the show to get here in the end #m