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full transcription of Marin's blog from Omega Mart!

huge thanks to @b0chelly for recording a scroll-through, which i typed this out from. (and warning for Omega Mart lore/story spoilers. second half is in reblog)

Marinknows.best

Location: Seven Monolith Village

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June 26, 2018

Happy Birthday to meeeeeeeeee!

So 14 feels way different than 13. For real. I think it's because I was expecting 13 to feel different, but sometimes when you expect something it turns out the opposite ya know?

Plus, 13 is like, "I'm new to being a teenager!!"

14 is more like, "I'm becoming the person I want to be." At least that's how I want it to be. I wanted to start this blog as a record of all that.

I should ask Did you guys feel the same way when you turned 13 and 14?

But probably nobody's gonna read this because I'm just a weirdo in the weird dessert. I mean, I know my best friend Jesse is reading this (hi Jesse). Besides her, crickets.

But yeah, if you are reading this and you don't know me - I live in Seven Monolith Village, a teensy tiny town that you've only heard of if you're into aliens or homesteading. And I'm literally stuck. As in, I'm physically unable to leave. My first memories are of all the adults in my life (Charlie, my great-uncle/father-figure - Rose, my what? Roommate? Mother-figure? Pseudo-aunt? All of the above? and my mom, Cecelia. who doesn't live here) telling me that for some reason, there's something wrong with me that makes it so I can't leave a certain radius of where we live. I got older and thought that they were just exaggerating to keep me safe, but then last year I tried. And it was, let's just say not good.

Anyway. That part of my life sucks, but not everything sucks. This year is all about Marin Dram 2.0. Not new, but definitely improved.

And maybe someday, somehow somebody will read this and care about what I have to say. Somebodies, even. Until then, this is Marin Dram signing off and sending my lame contemplations into the void!

July 1, 2018

Things I Want To Do Before I Turn 20 (and some of these will never happen like are literally unable to happen but JUST LET ME DREAM

1. Kiss someone (who???)

2. Meet HTB (kiss him) (jk he would never) (plus meeting him would be enough)

3. Go to Paris

4. Go to Rome (or somewhere cooler in Italy, look up where is the best pasta???)

5. Go to Greenland (why not???)

6. Go to New York City

7. Go to LA (with a dream and my cardigan lol)

8. Go to the Grand Canyon (this isn't mine, but 9, Jesse is sitting right here and she went to the GC when we were 12 and she's like blah blah blah it's my favorite place in the world and you'll love it. I'm doing this so she'll shut up.

9. Live in a normal house with normal rooms → ideally 12 of them: living room AND TV room, kitchen, dining room, 3 bathrooms, 3 bedrooms, study/library.

-plus an upstairs downstairs

-I'm willing to compromise on the number of rooms as long as there's more than ONE for TWO PEOPLE and I got my own

-plus an upstairs/downstairs

-I'm willing to compromise on the number of rooms as long as there's more than ONE for TWO PEOPLE and I get my own room with an actual door. Very into doors.

10. Go to a mall (Jesse says there's a bunch of bonkers ones in Vegas)

11. Make friends who aren't Jesse (no offense, Jesse)

12. Get Cecelia (my "mom") to teach me about business stuff so I can open my own cool coffeeshop/bookstore someday

13. Learn to drive (ask Charlie to teach me, he's obsessed with his truck) (Jesse says she can teach me because she's Little Miss Mechanic and thinks she knows everything about cars but news flash Jesse: you're you get than me)

14. Figure out my signature style- like I want people to send me pictures of things and be like "this just screamed Marin" and for that to be true

15. Liquid eyeliner??

16. I'm stopping here because I just read over all this and want to die/cry because easily 3/4 of these are literally impossible?

17. Kill me

18. Bye

19. Lololol Charlie just came in and I was complaining about this, not being able to leave and stuff, etc and he said that I should visit new places by... reading books?? And I mean I like to read. But dude. That's the dumbest thing I've ever head.

July 30, 2018

Okay so this is what I want my life to look like:

I want a pink room. Not just pink... P I N K. Cool pink wallpaper (floral? jacquard??), pink carpet, lots of pink flowers everywhere, a four-poster bed with a pink silk canopy, lots of cool pink throw pillows. Like, so pink that

people think I'm being sarcastic! Oh, and BOOKS. Floor-to-ceiling bookcases, and some of the shelves have, like, STUFF on them that isn't books, like gifts people gave me, or things I've collected on my JOURNEYS. You know, normal stuff that people who live on normal places and do normal things have.

If I lived in in this room, it'd be in awhite three-story house at the end of a cul-de-sac (did you know "culs-de-sac" is the plural? Not "cul-de-sacs"? crazy) and I'd wear very classic girly clothes and my hair would always do what I wanted it to. It'd be one of those towns that people call small, but it's actually a city. just one with a kinda small, cozy feeling. Somewhere that gets cold enough to wear cute jackets but not so cold I have to to like, shovel my driveway. Not a non-place with like 100 people where you can't even go outside without going crazy.

August 2nd, 2018

I guess I should explain where I live, for all my avid fans out there! (lol) (hello??)

So like... I don't live on Earth. At least, not the Earth you think of when you think of EARTH. I live in some some weird off-brand version of Earth called the Forked Earth where there are aliens and magic wells of magic energy and everything is MAGIC but like the crappy kind of magic, where the sun never fully rises and some goo called "runoff" has made everything wacky and oh yeah, my mom is responsible for that and everyone here hates her!! LOL

Also, I can't leave! Like, literally can't! Rose says I'm a "special child of Source" and that's why but that LITERALLY explains tells me nothing, in fact it just raises further questions that no one can seem to answer! AHHHHHHHHHH

Anyway, the last time I tried to leave I felt. When I try to leave I feel like I'm being pulled back by something, like you know those old cartoons where someone's on stage doing something dumb and then someone offstage pulls them away with a giant shepard's crook? It felt like that, and when I opened my eyes I was back in 7 Monolith Village. UGH.

I know this sounds crazy!!!!! But believe me when I say that I am the least crazy person here. Also, """here""" is C R A Z Y. Runoff has made everything the bad kind of psychedelic and then people here actually DRINK IT! Not only do I not DRINK THE STUFF THAT HAS MADE THE WORLD INSANE, I also do not talk to aliens (or whatever Nula are) like Rose or believe crazy conspiracy theories like Charlie, so I believe that qualifies me as the most normal person in the Forked Earth, thank you for this honor, I accept this award with humility and grace!

September 4, 2018

I had the weirdest dream last night?? I was swimming in a pool full of cereal, and when I came up for air, my mom was pouring milk on my head like she was rinsing my hair. She had her hand over my face like I was a little kid and she was shielding me from soap getting in my eyes.

Anyway I have no idea what it's supposed to mean. I went to bed hungry and I need to take a shower? Lol

October 16, 2018

I was trying to hide this entry from Jesse, but JESSE IS A NOSY PERSON. She says that blogs are for readers, and if I wanted something to be private then I should "Just write in a fucking notebook and hide it under your bed like a normal person, Marin." I'm allowed to have secrets!! Anyway, I'm making her a freaking playlist, that's why I wouldn't tell her what I was writing about. but EVEN STILL! I'm allowed to have secrets!! But I have this blog because I wanna get my feelings out, I wanna see everything in my head typed out all nice in a way that doesn't make it look insane. You know? I don't know who I'm asking.) Because, it's not like I go to a normal school or have a normal life where I'm surrounded by normal people I can talk to. No one knows about me! I'm trapped in this crazy place and This blog is my only outlet to the world outside. I KNOW that's heavy but it's true! The point is: Jesse's birthday is coming up. The central consistent thing in pretty much my whole life is sharing headphones with her and listening to music. The soundtrack to my entire existence is her. I wish I had money and could buy her the best presents of all time, but I can make her the best playlist of all time. I want it to be so good it feels like magic. I want her to think I'm magic. I had another dream the other night. I don't remember much, just glitter. I must be crafting too much. Or looking at festival makeup tutorials. Or both.

November 12, 2018

WARNING- Weird thoughts ahead, lol.

I can never tell which feelings are normal, and which are me being a giant weirdo. But for as long as I can remember, I've had this feeling like every part of my body that's possible to have a ribbon tied around it, has a ribbon tied around it. It's so weird. I can't see the other end of the ribbons - how far they go. where they're attached, nothing. And sometimes it's fine, because sometimes I can hardly feel them. I can forget about them for days at a time, weeks, months if I'm lucky. But then other times I can feel them like, pulling at me. It's freaking spooky, to have something pulling at you from somewhere you can't see. I can't tell if it's pulling me toward whatever it is? Or if it's trying to warn me? Or if I'm just insane??

Does that make sense? Does anybody else feel that way? (she asks into the void)

So idk I guess this ribbons-feeling is why I'm really careful all the time. Like I'm just a careful person. Charlie tried to give me a hard time about it, and I can't be like "I don't wanna pull back in the ribbons too hard without realizing it and wreck something!" because he'd be like "WTF Marin, do we need to get you help?" But also, more and more, I want to be the opposite of careful. I want to take a pair of comically oversized scissors and cut the ribbons into so many pieces that nobody can even tell what they are any more.

I don't know why I'm such a freak, only that I am. I don't know why I can't leave 7 Monolith, only that I can't. But there must be a reason, even if I can't see it, and I feel like it makes sense that the ribbons-feeling is part of that reason, right?

There's just a lot.

January 15, 2019

Happy new year! Lol I forgot to write on the actual first day of 2019, but OH WELL!

I got this new glitter nail polish, thanks to the monthly makeup subscription box my "mom" sends me as an outlet for her abandonment guilt. It has like, every color glitter imaginable without quite reading as "rainbow" which is fine just not really what I was in the mood for and it's vaguely halographic and shifts into all these different colors depending on the light. I'm obsessed. Anyway.

I was putting on another layer because I chipped it like 20 minutes into wearing it, and all of a sudden I had this feeling like I recognized the glitter? Like I felt this thing way deep in my gut and for a minute I couldn't breathe. It's the closest thing I've felt to how books and movies make Christmas look. Like I was home, with family, cookies and cider and all that stuff. Familiar and safe. I almost didn't recognize that feeling. And it came from the nail polish. How weird is that.

I mean, I don't want to make it sound like I've had this awful Charles Dickens childhood - Rose and Charlie are the best ever and always there for me and I love them a lot. But things never feel like...home. You know?

My mom always says this cryptic stuff about how I'm "special" and I wanna strangle her because I'm not, but you try getting my mom to stop doing anything she wants to do. Rose told me once that one day, I would "lead the charge into a new era of existence and access" because I'm "of the Source" and I was like uhhhh okay?? Charlie mostly treats me pretty normal, except when I ask him questions about our family. my mom or any Dram. He knows that I want to know more about them and he's my only real entrypoint, but apparently he's like the black sheep of that whole family. He and my mom were close way back right before I was born, but now whenever she comes to visit he barely even looks at her.

So that's to say: nobody tells me anything, ever.

January 16, 2019

Okay this is so weird. I wrote that entry yesterday about glitter and then last night I dreamed about glitter. Then I woke up with purple glitter in my bed?? Like not a lot, so at first I thought it was from my nail polish, but it was just a handful of purely purple glitter that looks nothing like my nail polish. SO WEIRD!!!!!!

February 14, 2019

Rose has an old book full of "ye olde" style fairy tales, and I flipped through it for the first time in forever today.

Not so weirdly, I've always been drawn to the story of Rapunzel.

Rapunzel couldn't leave the tower, or else she'd break her neck and die.

Same.

February 19, 2019

I was reading this article the other day in one of the teen magazines my "mom" gets me a subscription to and it was all about body positivity, which is great, but it was basically just like "wear a crop top if you wannna wear a crop top! it doesn't matter what size you are! You go, girl!" And like, sure. Yes. I am all for that. But doesn't it seem like there are some steps missing in there? Like, I can physically put on a crop top and wear it outside. But how do I convince myself that everybody isn't looking at me and making fun of me in their minds? How do I unlearn the last almost-fifteen years? How do I get actually positive about my body, not just put on a crop top and fight the urge to cry all day?

It's the same thing like when my mom sends me brochures from the CEO camp she ten when she was my age (her dad started the camp for her, which is an insane thing just by itself, but she did all the work, which is even more insane) and she's like "Marin, you lack direction for your life" and I'm like, cool mom. Yeah. I can see that. What I can't see is how to get there from here.

March 2, 2019

This is what I want my life to look like, volume 2:

The walls of my room are covered in Polaroids of me and my friends. There are lots of mirrors in all kinds of shapes. hearts and moons and stars. There's a record player and a lot of vintage records by Billie Holiday and Lena Horne and Peggy Lee and Nina Simone. And Christmas lights! Everywhere! Lots of of pink and purple Christmas lights everywhere.

If I lived in this room, I'd have so many friends and be part of so many clubs. My best friend would have a collection of vintage cameras, and every place we go to that has a photo booth, we'd get photos taken. Every time I'd look at myself in one of those mirrors, I'd feel happy at what I see and never weird or sad. (Jesse hates taking pictures, so even when I actually do normal stuff with her there's no evidence. What even is a life supposed to be without evidence? That's not an actual question you need to answer Jesse, it's just a question)

Anyway, if I lived in this kind of room, my mom would probably be like, an art history professor at a liberal arts college. That's how come everything looks so cool, because I would know stuff about art. My mom and I would love to try new recipes together. We get each other new cookbooks for every special occasion, and right now we're working out way through a Moroccan one. Moroccan Mondays.

In actuality, there's a dust storm happening outside and my eyes sting.

March 9, 2019

Here's what I'm obsessed with lately.

Can. You. EVEN???

February 3, 2020

Omg I totally forgot this blog existed!!

I lost the password and instead of just resetting it I got in one of my super stubborn moods (Taurus moon lol) and just kept putting in guesses and jokes on me, it locked me out. Anyway, that's a boring story.

But my friend Ximena is really good at hacking and stuff, so she got me back in. Yeah you read that right - I have friends. Obviously a lot has happened since my last post. Ximena moved out here a couple months ago (X's family used to live here but they moved away a while ago) and she introduced me to Lora who I sorta-not-really already knew, and Jesse and I have been hanging out with them a ton. Jesse kind of more than me. Which is fine!!

Anyway I'm 15 now? If I lived somewhere normal I'd be psyched about almost being 16, because I'd get a car and have a Sweet Sixteen and eat a huge PINK cake, but I don't!

February 16, 2020

I read this fanfic the other night that was written in the second person so everything was like "you." "you're doing this" etc you know?

So... You go to a drive-in movie with Heartthrob Boy, and he spills soda on you by accident. And you take off your shirt ( you have a tank top on, don't worry) to clean it up, bit you're still all sticky and self-conscious about being sticky and HTB like... used his tongue to get it off??? AAHHHHH I'M DISGUSTING

but also I wonder if a boy will ever touch any part of me with his tongue

March 2, 2020

Hi I don't know if you heard but I have friends :)))

March 15, 2020

I think I'm so into painting my nails and doing my hair because those are things that always fit. I don't have to worry about places not carrying about a size 8, or places that carry XLs but when you read the measurements they're actually size 8s too and it's like jesus if that's an XL what am I

My "mom" was confused why I needed new pants because mine still look new, but I showed her the thigh holes and she was like "that's a weird place for a hole, how did that happen" and I realized that when your legs are a certain size, you just don't know about thigh rub and what it does to clothes. Pants could just last for years.

No matter what, I can paint my nails with a different color nail polish on every finger, and I can always do a braid crown. And I know I'm cute as hell, etc, so this is not a Marin Needs to Learn to Love Herself thing. It's just an UGH thing

April 17, 2020

So Rose does all these Source experiments on plants and flowers and stuff. Tbh, it's just one if those things I hardly even register anymore because it's just always there. She's explained to me a million times what Source is/does/means, but the way Rose explains things sometimes is just a LOT to take in and she refers to me as a "child of Source" but I kinda figure that's like "child of God" right? What else would that mean?

But anyway, it's really annoying because dried flowers are a part of my new aesthetic and I pinned a bunch of them up on my wall but I woke up this morning to a freaking jungle of very alive flowers. I freaked out. on Rose, and she Rose said she didn't do it and I was like WELL THEN WHO DID and she said that I did??

Which like. Obviously that doesn't make sense. I asked her what she meant and She just shook her head and said " It's happening. We should have known" which is some horror movie shit that she refused to elaborate on. I love to feel safe and normal!!

Or maybe it's not a horror movie at all. But maybe it's a superhero movie? Maybe there's some kind of origin story I don't know about yet, and all of this will be worth it once I figure out my powers. I wonder what my costume will look like. Lol.

April 23, 2020

Is it possible to die from longing? I know that sounds melodramatic, but I'm also kinda serious?? Because it seems like one of those things that could fester and get infected and kill you. It's like when you fall down and bang up your knee, and you need to put a band-aid on the scrape for a while, but THEN you need to air it out - but how do you know when you're supposed to do each one of those things? And if you do either one too much, your knee gets infected. What if I smother my heart with band-aids for too long and it gets infected? This isn't about anybody. I just keep having these dreams about someone I never expected to have dreams about and they're so intense that they keep leaking into my life and I wonder if I need to do something about them.

May 2, 2020

So Jesse's gotten really into metal music, and I tried to get her to play me something since, AS PREVIOUSLY ESTABLISHED, that's what we've literally ALWAYS DONE with music and each other, and she kinda looked at Ximena out of the corner of her eye and said like "I don't think it's really your thing" And it was the meanest thing anybody's ever said to me.

So later I looked up Zenion, the band she was talking about, and I listened to every single fucking song they've ever recorded turned up as loud as it could go with my own headphones that are better than hers anyway, and I loved it. And I didn't love it just because she said I wouldn't. I loved it because it was loud and weird and wild and when I listened to it it made me feel like it's not crazy when so feel stuff so hard it's like my heart's gonna vibrate out of my body. And I would have told Jesse all this and we could have shared it, but I guess she thinks just because I like HTB and glitter and stuff, I don't have the capacity for anything else.

She clearly doesn't know me at all. So much for any kind of whatever, why would she ever want to kiss someone she clearly sees as like a stupid baby.

May 7, 2020

The dreams are getting weirder and they're happening more. I'm getting scared to go to sleep. Not that the dreams are always scary (they almost never are, or not scary like in a typically scary horror movie way). I mean, I've only ever been me. I don't know what other peoples' dreams are like.

The other night in one I was jumping on a trampoline, which is something I've never done in real life. I told Rose about it when I woke up, and she said "do you even know how to jump on a trampoline?" and I said "Rose, it's not like riding a bike. You don't have to learn. You just jump." and then we got into this whole thing about how some things we just know, and jumping's one of them, and how that's so weird. Sometimes I really like talking to Rose about stuff.

May 19, 2020

So, it's prom season in the real world. If I lived somewhere normal, my prom dress would be pink with lots of tulle and silk flowers at the shoulders, and it would fit perfectly and trying in dresses would be fun and not anxiety-inducing.

But since there are only like 10 teenagers currently in 7MV, were not having a homecoming. Cool.

May 27, 2020

So, mom came to visit this weekend, and I asked her about her prom. She was Typical Cecelia at first, very "Prom is a waste of time and money, Marin. It's a night when lesser people play dress-up to engage with their aspirations of grandeur." And I was like eyeroll forever and just stopped talking. BUT THEN she actually talked to me like a human being. She was like, "I actually didn't go to my prom" and when I asked her why she said that she didn't have a date, and was very self-conscious about it. I almost passed out at her admitting that she's ever been anything less than perfect.

(gonna continue this in reblog)

#omega mart #marin dram #omega mart lore

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Reflecting on Superman and Lois season 1

Now that the season is over, its interesting to look back at a very stop start season. Its very difficult for a show to hold your interest with the type of scheduling problems this show had, and in its very first season. When the show was announced, I wasn't terribly surprised but I was also not overly excited. There has been a lot of Superman and Superman adjacent material that has come out before and after the announcement so I did wonder about what they could do new. In addition, while I certainly liked Tyler in his guest appearances in Supergirl, in Elseworlds, and in Crisis, he did feel like the inferior Superman in Crisis when he was opposite Brandon Routh's Superman who really looked and felt like Superman, even better than he did in Superman Returns. However, once the trailer dropped, I was sold. It was clear that the show was going for something a lot more cinematic and a lot more grounded than the previous Arrowverse shows. I did have some apprehensiveness over the teenage boys angle because teenagers can become very stereotypically irritating in shows and given that a good chunk of time was going to be dedicated to them, it was going to be vital for them not be so.

Having finished the season, I have to say that the execs and the writers have pulled off an excellent first season. I don't think I would call it the best season 1 in the Arrowverse. I still love The Flash season 1 over any other Arrowverse season and while I haven't seen it in a while, I love Arrow season 1 as well. This may come at 2nd or 3rd place based on further reflection. I do think its has some issues when it comes to the villain storyline and with the big action set pieces, but the film's heart is set at the right place and the characters are all very likable and you want to see conversations between the characters. That's when you know that the writers are doing a good job when you almost feel that the show should go back to the character moments.

Firstly, the idea of a matured Superman is what works wonderfully well. There is something wonderful about seeing Clark and Lois as a couple who have known and loved each other for over a decade. Closer to two decades I guess. Characters don't quite look their age tbh. Lois would have to be in her early 40's at least. But I can honestly overlook that. Bitsie and Tyler were already a very likable couple in Elseworlds and the show has just used that natural chemistry to brilliant effect. But the big relief was that Jordan Elsass and Alex Garfin are excellent as Jonathan and Jordan. I was initially a little worried that Jordan could be a little much, but both of them were excellent and one of the highlights of the season was the bond between the two brothers. Jordan and Jonathan have conflicts but they are brothers and they love and support each other unconditionally.

Jonathan could have so easily been the douchey, jealous brother but Elsass is honestly one of the mvp's of the season. You really care for Jonathan, even though he arguably has a slightly less meaty role in the story. I think Bitsie Tulloch is outstanding all season. She has shot up very high among all my favorite Lois Lanes. She's very different from the other versions and that makes her stand out. One of my favorite episodes was episode 8, which deals with Lois dealing with memories of her miscarriage along with almost losing Jonathan. She is excellent in that episode as is Elsass. Tyler is wonderful throughout. He's a strong Superman but his Clark is even more endearing. Little things like him being so psyched for the Harvest Festival, how he plays young Clark in flashbacks as someone distinctly different, him meeting Lois and working with her for the first time, the adorable "my mom made it" moment when Superman first saves a kid etc... He just embodies everything you know and love from the character. Wole Parks is another terrific addition. Initially you think he's an alternate version of Lex Luthor but it was genius idea to have him actually be John Henry Irons. There was something innately likable about him even when he was fighting Superman and we thought he was Lex. I loved how they handled the dynamic of being Lois' husband in another world and having a daughter. It makes for an interesting dynamic but it never gets into problematic territory because he is mature enough to know that this Lois isn't his Lois, but they also show his difficulty in dealing with that. I liked the bond he seemed to be forming with Jonathan. And I liked how he came along to be an ally with Superman.

The Cushings are ok. They play an important part in the season with Sarah Cushing being Jordan's love interest and Kyle being a big part of the how the villain story begins, with Lana also being a major character in the story. All three actors are excellent but Kyle does have the stereotypical doucheyness which was a little annoying for the first 10 episodes, however he does redeem himself in the final arc. I hope Lana gets to be a bit more active in the show because she does feel like a bit passive as a character. However, I did find that Sarah and Jordan romance actually pretty cute. Both actors did a nice job making them feel like awkward teenagers, dancing around their feelings for each other. Sam Lane is another character who starts out pretty unlikable but I warmed up to him by the end.

Where I think the show doesn't really work at full strength is the superheroic aspect of the show. The character drama in the show is great. I think it works gangbusters. The superhero plot of it all is a little meh. While Adam Rayner is perfectly fine as Edge/Tal-Rho, as a character he's just not that interesting. There is an interesting perspective there that he's sort of a mirror image to Clark where he got mistreated by people when he landed on Earth and that is how his worldview shaped that way, and he longed for family, but there isn't enough done on a character level with him. As a result, the last third of the season was a little iffy. The whole, build Krypton on Earth felt like a variation of Zod's plot in Man of Steel. The method is different but the eventual outcome is the same. I also don't know why all Kryptonians, apart from Lara, are homicidal maniacs, when they are said to be a peaceful race. The arc also becomes repetitive because there are like three climaxes. And I feel the finale was the weakest climax of the lot. Episode 10 or 12 would have served as better finales with a little tweaking. If I remember correctly, the original order was for 13 episodes and it got extended to 15, so this might be an explanation to why it feels this way. The action is fairly by the numbers. While it looks like there is clearly more money on display here than say for Supergirl or The Flash, the action scenes aren't particularly exciting or inventive.

While I am not super high on the finale, I am mostly happy with how things wrapped up. I think they should have had Tal-Rho die tragically because I really don't think he's interesting enough to be brought back again. The arrival of Natalie Irons will surely be a source of some emotionally charged scenes. i hope there is some character bonding between the her and the brothers. Jonathan seemed pretty interested in meeting her when he saw videos of her. I do wonder how the show will continue to incorporate Smallville as a setting. Season 1 obviously had a very specific plot based reason to be in Smallville, given Edge's plot was based in Smallville. But I can't imagine every big bad will have Smallville based plot. But the characters are all settled in Smallville, with the Cushings and Lois buy half the Gazette and running it with Christy. So that's going to be an interesting balancing act that they have to do. I hope they can bring in some traditional superheroics as well because Superman rogues gallery is rich enough. Out of the episodes, I think 6-8 were my favorites, and the flashbacks in episode 11 were incredibly charming. While the season is not flawless I don't think it completely nailed the superheroic heights that it was aiming for, it was a really entertaining season of tv. An 8/10 for me.

#superman and lois #lois lane #clark kent #superman #jonathan kent #jordan kent #lana lang #sam lane #john henry irons #tyler hoechlin #bitsie tulloch #elizabeth tulloch #jordan elsass #alex garfin #wole parks #adam rayner #emanuelle chriqui #dylan walsh #erik valdez #kyle cushing #sarah cushing #inde navarrette #morgan edge #tal rho #superman & lois

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July New Moon in Cancer - What it Means and Rituals You Can Perform at Home

By Tiffany Faye July 9, 2021

*The Moon Phases I recognize line up with most Wiccan and Pagan beliefs. In Witchcraft, we normally call astronomies New Moon the Dark Moon (because it is not illuminated), and most witches recognize the New Moon as a day after the Dark Moon, when the moon is 1% illuminated.

Cancer is a water sign and full of nurturing energy, so this July's New Moon in Cancer is a great time to work with home life, family, and your own emotion and energy. The New Moon is a time for new beginnings and setting new goals. Because of the nurturing nature of this sign, it is a good time work on yourself. It has been a hard half of year, take time to rest and enjoy what you love while also evaluating your life and making plans for the second half of the year. This New Moon also activates empathy, so this is a good time get control of and understand your emotions. Have a good cry if you need to, whatever you need to do to regain your personal power. Cancer rules the heart, so try working on your Heart Chakra as well. New Moon in Cancer also have a lot of influence over areas like home life, wealth, and relationship with others, as well as yourself. You can take this time to get your home in order. Cleaning, redecorating, and rearranging your home can help set a new path for the next half of the year, or even the next lunation. Making plans from a financial aspect will also be a good idea, set up savings and rainy-day fund, start new business ventures. Also, use this time to reconnect with family and friends (please do not reconnect with people that harm your mental and emotional well-beings), especially those who have, and still do, nurture you. Spend time with your children and significant other, as well as your mother, or anyone else that helped with your upbringing. Finally, since Cancer is a Water sign, try working more closely with the Element. You could take a ritual bath with salts, herbs, crystals, and essential oils that correlate to the intention you wish to set.

You can work with so many areas during this New Moon so try picking 1 or 2 areas that so should really focus that will help your spiritual growth. You could spend the day with your family, take your kids, visit your mom or dad, and then later that night you can do a ritual bath or a ritual outside (if weather permits) under the New Moon. For this New Moon in Cancer, I will be providing two rituals. First, will be a ritual bath focus on yourself and your emotions that you can do prior to the second one. The second ritual we will evaluating our progress for the year, setting goals for the 2nd half of the year and this current lunation, and ending with a spell.

New Moon in Cancer Ritual Bath

Ingredients:

Smudge Stick - I still had some of my Sage and Lavender Smudge Stick left

Salts - I am going to do Pink Himalayan Salt, but Epsom or Seat Salt would also work.

Candles - any kind, I put white tealight surrounding the tub.

Your choice of various Herbs, Crystals, and Essential Oils - I chose Dried Lavender, Chamomile, and Rose Petals, Lavender and Rose Essential Oils, I also put my Angel Aura Rose Quartz Point, Amethyst Point, my large Rose Quartz chunk and my Clear Quartz Point around the tub and Moonstone Chips in the water. Use what you have one hand, correlates to your intentions, and what resonates with you.

Optional - I used one of my Self-Love Intention Setting Soap Bars that well sell in our Etsy Shop for this ritual bath. Also, Music and Incense to play and burn while in the tub. I did not do music, but I did a blend of the essential oil chose in my diffuser. We also sell homemade Herbal Bath Bombs that can used in ritual baths.

Step 1. Prepare the bath. Clean your tub out (you do not want to a ritual bath in a dirty tub). Smudge the bathroom with your smudge stick. Fill your tub with water at your desired temperature.

Step 2. While the tub is filling, light your candles and start adding your items to the water and around the tub. While doing this, think of or say out loud your intentions. My intentions for this bath were my relationship with my boyfriend improving and me being happy and loving myself. Light your incense and press play on your music.

Step 3. Soak in your tub for as long as you want. If you chose to play music, listen to it, and feel the emotions from the instruments and the voices. Meditate (be careful to not fall asleep) and think of your intentions manifesting into reality.

Step 4. This part is optional as some people do not do this when doing ritual bath, but I bathe myself afterward with my Intention Setting soap I make myself and sell on my Etsy shop. I use them with every shower and bath I take, whether it for a ritual or not.

Sep 5. Record your ritual in your Book of Shadows or Grimoire. I have a Ritual Journal where I keep track of every ritual, I have done with the date performed, materials used, intentions, entities worked with, and the steps I took. I also record how I feel and anything I experience during the ritual.

Step 6. Clean up. I cleaned up right away since I have kids that get into everything but if you are choosing to do another ritual, either the one I provided or a different one, you can clean up both the ritual bath and the New Moon ritual at the same time.

Click here to read our post on our July New Moon Ritual.

Sources:

Brown, Meressa, July 9, 2021, July 2021's New Moon in Cancer Will Be a Game-Changer for Relationships, MSN.com, https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/july-2021-s-new-moon-in-cancer-will-be-a-game-changer-for-relationships/ar-AALVLGl?li=BBnba9O

Deibe, Izzie, July 9, 2021, Cancer New Moon Rituals: 5 Rituals to Try on Saturday and Sunday, Express.co.uk, https://www.express.co.uk/life-style/life/1460277/cancer-new-moon-rituals-to-follow-on-saturday-crystals-moon-water-evg

Six, July 8, 2021, The New Moon in Cancer Wants You To Take Care of Yourself, Cosmopolitan.com, https://www.cosmopolitan.com/lifestyle/a36969000/new-moon-in-cancer-july-2021-meaning-horoscope/

The Astro Twin, July 8, 2021, The Year's One & Only New Moon in Cancer Begs Us to Feel Our Feelings, MindBodyGreen.com, https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/new-moon-july-2021

#July New Moon #New Moon in Cancer #About The July New Moon #July 2021 New Moon #The Lost Fae's Path #The Lost Fae's Market #Ritual Bath

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Bully put me through hell for an entire year I made sure she'll fail all her final exams

Hello! This is my first time posting anything on reddit. Also, English isn't my native language so I might have grammatical errors (but do point them out in comments if you want as I want to better myself in english). I'm also on mobile

So a little back ground. I live in middle east (Iran) and bullying is very rare and unheard of in all girl schools (I don't know about boy schools but I'm sure they have their fights and bullying) we have to go to same gender schools from primary to high school and only in university we sit in both gender classes.

This story goes back to ten years ago when I was 8. My family was poor at that time and we lived in a small town in southern part of the country. My dad was promoted to work in the capital so we packed our stuff and went there and rented a house. I had a thick southern accent and people a decade ago weren't as "woke" as they are now so I was picked on a lot for my accent. Also I was a very very shy girl, barely talked and was a pushover (something I'm still struggling with to this day) but I was very smart. I studied a lot of higher grade books on my own. I LOVED studying with all my heart since there was not much I could do with my free time since we were broke. my teachers always recommend me to skip 1 or 2 grades (for example study second grade in summer and start school at 3rd garde) but I couldn't do so because that summer we decided to move towns and my life was unstable at that moment.

Came the first day of school. I had no friend and didn't know anyone since we just moved in. Everyone were friends with each other because they spent the first grade together. Also I was very tall for my age so I went straight to the the desk at the back of the class to not cause problem for any student. Anyways that's when I met my bully. She was sitting one desk a head of me and when I saw her I IMMEDIATELY got this strange feeling that I should avoid her. It was the strongest gut feeling I've had in my life. Never have I ever met someone and in first glance I thought don't be near them just don't. She didn't have a mean face and wasn't out of ordinary it was just a feeling I couldn't explain. Anyway, teachers come and tell us to all go in the hallway so she can arrange us and tell us what two people should sit on which desk according to our heights. All those seconds I was praying please please please don't let me sit next to her for 9 months. And guess what? We had to share the same desk. Great.

Anyway, it's a blur for me how exactly the bullying started but I guess she figured out I was extremely shy and figured she could have her way with me. She started using my pencils and erasers and then took them for her own. She started stealing my food that my mom packed for me when I wasn't looking and played with the wrapping in front of my face afterwards. Sometimes our teacher let our deskmates to grade us on our dictation exams and I always graded her fairly but I started noticing my grades were becoming lower and lower and my mom was concerned. One time I stood behind her when she was grading me and saw that she's adding dots to my words (our alphabet has a lot of dots like ت چ ق خ) so if we add to them no matter how bizarre they look the teacher will reduce your score. She suddenly turned around as if sensing someone was behind her and when we locked eyes I could see the terror in her eyes. I suddenly grew a spine because she was messing with my grades and I wanted all my grades to be perfect scores so I went and informed the teacher but she just lectured her about her actions and nothing more happened to her.

After that she got more hostile with me. She waited for me on exams to fill the entire paper so she could snatch the exam sheet from my hand and erase my name and put her instead and gave me her paper instead. I tried to get my paper back but she kept pinching my hand and scratching it. I had to answer the entire exam in 15mins or so. She humiliated me in front of her friends and kept telling me how much of a shitty friend I am since I never invited my "best friend" to my house. I wasn't comfortable with it cause we didn't have many furnitures at that time and most of them were old and I knew if I invited her she would tell everyone the next day about our house and I didn't want them to think I have bad parents because we don't have that much money even though my dad and mom were working very hard for me and my older brother to have a better life.

The bullying took a toll on me. I cried myself to sleep most of the nights and made me, someone who enjoyed school and studying, dread the next morning because I didn't want to deal with her yet I'd never informed anyone about it because I felt like I would be a burden to people around me and oddly enough at that time I didn't really want her to get in trouble i felt bad fod her since her parents were divorced (in my country especially a decade ago it was a huge stigma to get divorced hence most couples decided to stay together so they wouldn't be shamed or for the sake of their kids and even if they wanted divorce their parents mostly wouldn't let them since no one wanted their kid to be the black sheep in the family. So you could say having divorced parents especially at that age was very rare). So I decided to deal with her myself and if she kept harassing me I would try to find a way to get out of school. I sometimes made myself puke in the middle of class (I'm SO sorry mrs. Janitor) and was sent home but after a couple times they told me I can't just go home I had a lot of absences. Although it never affected my grades I had perfect score in every subject. The worst of all was when she forced me to walk her home. I refused and told her I don't know this neighborhood since we just moved in a couple months ago but she promised me she would take me back but she left me when we were near her house and expectedly I got lost and couldn't find my way back home. I took some roads but just got more lost and scared and just sat there and cried my eyes out. It was getting darker and at some point a gentleman found me and I told him my building complex and he took me home. My parents were searching for me everywhere on car and my mom was crying and that made me cry even harder. So yeah I was very miserable that year.

Finally, THE REVENGE:

Came the last month of school. my aunt and my mom suggested that I study 3rd grade in summer and start the new school year as a 4th grader since I have the brains and I also was tall so I wouldn't look too small for my grade. I thought to myself I know I'm gonna make it so I'm not gonna be in her class next year. Basically I had nothing to lose. So I waited till the month of final exams. As usual she would sat there (I guess because we were 2nd graders our teacher didn't take it seriously and didn't made us to sit on separate desks so we still sat mext to each other) with a blank exam paper and let me take the exam as usual and snatch the paper when I'm done and I was forced to do the exam again. Little did she know I filled those exam papers will every bullshit that came to my mind I didn't even left 1 correct answer there. I was letting out all my anger from that year on her and I was enjoying every second of it and she was oblivious to all of it since she was sure all answers were correct and never checked the papers. I passed that year with flying colors at the top of my class as usual and she failed every single exam. I never saw her again after the last exam and once school ended I rested for one or two weeks and started studying the 3rd grade. I also passed that grade with perfect scores and started the new year at 4rth grade. It was so liberating to watch the look on my previous classmates when they saw me with 4th grade kids and they kept telling me you got the wrong class and I just told them nope I skipped 3rd grade. As for my bully she wasn't in 3rd grade next year and I heard from someone school refused to sign her up for the next year. Revenge was so sweet for my 8-9 year old self after everything I've endured. I know should've asked an adult for help but I was a shy small town girl that didn't fit in with busy parents and didn't want to burden anyone and thought I could handle it. I had low self esteem for a long time but I got better at handling my problems and not letting people take advantage of me like that.

Edit: spelling

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Wellness Segments from The Friend Zone Podcast

This is where I’ll be listing Fran’s Wellness Segments. It will be updated regularly. Any specific products/stores mentioned will be linked :)

Ep. 1: It’s Ok to Log Off  

Being the first episode, Fran starts us off easy with a loving suggestion to take a social media break. At the time of this recording, “Twitterless Assante” was reaping the benefits of taking mindless twitter scrolling out of his life for some time.

Ep. 2: Family Matters  

This is where we start digging in and doing the work. Here, Fran asks us to look within to resolve family disputes that have gone unchecked. Have the talks that you have been avoiding, even if it feels uncomfortable. Remember to come from a place of compassion when approaching loved ones, and to not take anything personally. Which is a theme throughout many of the early episodes, as it’s the 2nd agreement in The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, one of the many books Fran has suggested.

Ep. 3: Take 5  

Work on building and maintaining a healthy morning routine. This helps set the tone of the day. By leaving our phone out of this part of the day, we can avoid things like waking up to a long, angry text or some other drama  and letting that guide how the rest of day goes. Basically, set the tone of your day before taking in information from anyone else. 

Ep. 4: Surrender 

Meditate, meditate, meditate. 

Osho books are great for learning more about quieting the mind, as recommended by Fran. Sadhguru is another great teacher who I look to for insight on meditation, mindfulness, parenting, and just life in general. He has a channel on YouTube with tons of videos. Fran also recommends trying Mala beads to assist with meditation, or maybe journaling afterwards. She really just stresses the importance of beginning a meditation practice, without fear of doing it “right” or “wrong”.

Ep. 5: Even Martha Went to Jail  

No clear-cut Wellness Segment for this week, but the main gist of things was: create what you want, what feels good for you. Critics will appear for everyone, no matter how great they are, so do you. Don’t keep yourself from creating things because of fear of how others will receive it.

Ep. 6: Tacos & Quickweave 

In your journal, dissect the relationship you are in. Asking questions like, “Why are you with this person? Who are you *really* doing this relationship for?”   For singles, ask questions like, “What am I *really* looking for, in a person? How do I want to feel when I’m with them? How do I want to show up in their lives? How do I want them to show up in my life?” For those resistant to relationships, ask yourself why and really work through it to get those answers that you seek. ~meditate, meditate, meditate ~

Ep. 7: The Choir & The Competition Are Out 

Parents: Sit with our children and start asking them questions about their interests. Fran shares how she was impacted by her mom not being more encouraging about her becoming a singer, so she wants us to know how important it is to truly listen when our kids ask to pursue new things, even if it isn’t exactly what we pictured for them. 

For everyone, even those who don’t have children or maybe they aren’t quite at the age to start discussing these things: we were all a child at some point. Many people can benefit from asking ourselves if the profession we are in is for you, or if you were just trying to please our own parents. It’s never too late to begin learning more about anything that excites you.

Ep. 8: Fitness Regine Hunter  

(I’m pretty sure they purposely didn’t spell it “regime” because of the difficulty for many in pronouncing the word. lmao)

In this episode, Fran speaks on the importance of holistic health and wellbeing, sharing how much it has shaped who she is and improved her life. She wants us to really sit with ourselves and think about the things we want to work on. Ask, “What can I do to ensure that I’m being the most beautiful *me* possible?” From skin and hair care, to diet, to fitness, to the way we talk to ourselves or others. All the little things that make up holistic living. No quick fixes! We’re here to werrrrrrk, hunty. 

“Forget the internet for a second. Forget what the Instagram models look like, we’re talking about YOU...” - Fran the MF Goat.  

Implement a fitness regime that works for you. Maybe it’s part of your morning routine, maybe it’s an after dinner thing; everyone gets to choose what is best for them and that’s part of the beauty of this life. :) Try a few things and see what works. There is an emphasis on the importance of starting slow, allowing your mind and body to get used to new activity. Fran started off with walking, increasing her distance over time, and then turned that into jogging when it felt right for her. Blogilates and Yoga With Adriene are YouTube channels she mentions here. I have been hooked to yoga ever since trying a few videos from  Adriene. Yoga by Biola is another great channel to check out. Biola has this video, “Restorative Yoga for Collective Trauma”, which I love. I learned of her from The Friend Zone earlier in 2020. 

Skin and Hair: Check out Frans YouTube channel to see all the informative videos she has on all-natural beauty and health tips. Personally, I really like Naptural85 for hair videos as my curl pattern is very similar to hers. Click around on suggested videos to find the ones that speak to you. 

Ep. 9: Don’t Forget the Feet  

OIL UP! From head-to-toe. Get that moisture. Especially in these colder months. Hands, feet, nails, toenails...literally everywhere. Dustin cannot get over the importance of the feet. Fran says this aztec healing clay is great for dry, cracked feet, and she hinted at its ability to fix some facial skin woes as well. Extra Fran tip: put a small amount of oil on your nail beds before painting them. This protects the skin and promotes nail growth. I tried this myself and it’s a game changer in my nail health! They used to get cracks in them once they start getting to a certain length, but if i keep them oiled up, they are smooth as precious little stones. :) 

Ep. 10: A$AP Shirley Caesar  

This episode reminds us that finances, too, can impact our total feeling of well-being. The Friends all want us to get our finances in order, taking the tiniest of baby steps, if needed. Fran’s 3 things to cut back on: 

Eating Out

Online Shopping

Places like Target, where you go for 1 thing and leave with a full cart.

Making these sacrifices adds up. The goal is that eventually, any big things that are weighing on our mental due to finances can more easily be dealt with.

Ep. 11: And I’m Telling You, I’m NOT Going!

It’s all about skin-care in this wellness segment! Starting with what goes into your body, and ending with what goes on your body. First off: DRINK LOTS OF WATER! This not only promotes healthy skin but as we all know, it’s just good for the body in general. The body runs nice and smoothly when it’s hydrated from the inside-out. 

If you need to cut down on your caffeine intake (I’m right there with ya), Fran suggested Yerba Mate. It’s a natural source of caffeine and much cleaner than what comes in other energy drinks. I must say, I feel like the naturally occurring caffeine just hits different. I was hyyype the first few times I got a Yerba Mate instead of my usual orange Red Bull! Energy drink isn’t the only form to get your Yerba fix, thankfully. It’s sold as a loose leaf tea, or in bagged tea as well. I LOVE coffee though, and I am not giving that up so easy. I find that bringing mindfulness to my habits with it, helps me to not consume too much.

Now, for the outside of the body: washing and moisturizing daily is imperative. This may be obvious to some, but it can also feel difficult for those with a really busy schedule. I know for me, as a mom, there has been many times when I only had one chance to take a shower on a given day, and if I didn’t take it, I was always sorry. Or I would take a rushed, half-effort shower and get dressed immediately after without oil, lotion, anything. Having a routine in place for daily washing and moisturizing (that works with my sporadic life) helps me make sure it won’t get missed. Again, as with episode 9, OIL UP! Coconut oil is a great choice, but my skin just drinks it up like water. Sesame oil is a nice alternative because it’s a bit thicker. It was hard for me to get used to smelling like a huge sesame seed though, not gonna lie. But there are so many different oils and butters out there to love our bodies with, just use some trial and error to find which one(s) work best for you.

Last thing: Bedding. Change it at least once a week. Get on the silk pillowcase train! Or if you real fancy, like Fran, get you a full-on silk sheet set. Cotton sheets soak up all the moisture from our skin that we work so hard and lovingly on.

Ep. 12: The Shut Down Mixtape

House cleaning time! Clean your fridge, clean your closets, clean your desk drawers. Clean everything! Trying to especially bring focus to areas that are often overlooked in your regular daily cleaning. By doing this, we clear out old energy, removing heaviness from our homes that we may not even realize is there. I personally can vouch that this helps with anxiety and even lifts my depression symptoms as well. It feels good when the space I live in looks and smells nice, so taking the effort is more than worthwhile.

Ep. 13: Oh God…

Get in touch with what religion/spirituality mean to YOU. This one was hard for me because I wasn’t raised with much knowledge of (or respect for, sadly) religion. As I grew, I became super interested in the various religions and how they affect the lives of others - good or bad. I’ve now learned to adapt my own spiritual practices that support me and help me get by. And this is life changing.

Ep. 14: Say It Like You Mean It

Here, we are instructed to find out what our individual love language is. This comes from the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The 5 Love Languages are: 

Quality Time

Acts of Service

Receiving Gifts

Words of Affirmation

Physical Touch

You may already have an idea of what your primary love language is, but you can get some more information on that by reading the book or by taking quizzes on the book’s website. Knowing your love language, as a single, can help you define what you need from a partner. As someone in a relationship, it can help both partners learn how to best make sure everyone knows they are loved and valued. 

Ep. 15: Yo Mama

Scalp Care for Winter Weather!

½ Cup Olive Oil ~ Seals in moisture

2 Tbsp. Honey (Fran uses Raw honey) ~ Creates pretty shine

½ Cup Coconut Milk ~ Adds protein

½ an Avocado ~ Healthy fat

½ a Banana ~ Softens hair

Blend all ingredients into a creamy conditioner, which should come out a nice light greenish color. 

I keep forgetting coconut milk at the store or else I’d have been tried this one, smh *face palm* But I will edit to add my review after I finally do this. :) 

Ep. 16: Non Profit & Chill

This episode had no segments, but we can still gain a wellness tip from it. Recorded right after Fran returned from a trip to Africa, she had a ton of insight to share on why it’s so important to be an ethical consumer. This episode was a great one to re-listen to as it reminded me that I am reading labels and the “about” pages on brand’s websites for a valid reason that is important to me, not just following trends. Dang imposter syndrome, always trying to step in and ruin everything (shoutout to the Friend Zone for teaching me about that as well, in a later episode.)

Fair Trade Errything !!!

Ep. 17: There’s A Song For That

No wellness segment this week, per say, but again I’ll summarize the episode to make it wellness for us all. The friends basically dode over their favorite break-up songs, from the deepest of soul, to the pettiest of rap songs. Many genres listed, and many bangers. This episode is a great listen for those going through a breakup, or even if you’re a big fan of the episodes where the Friends just let loose and have fun.

Ep. 18: Don’t You Go To Work?

Inspired by Assante and his newly purchased stones, which he is carrying safely in his pocket, Fran suggested that us listeners get in on the magic as well by getting our own stones. Starting with Citrine. This stone is a light orange color, and can be found online or in local crystal stores in most cities. Often referred to as “the merchants stone”, Citrine is believed to attract success. Fran offered the idea of laying it on some money, because she did it and got a random check in the mail soon after...And I kid you not - I did it, and the saaame thing happened to me. I was shook and beyond grateful!

Other stones mentioned here are Lapis Lazuli and Black Tourmaline. Lapis is a pretty, royal blue shade, usually with gold flakes in it. Lapis is known as the “communication stone”. Black Tourmaline is, you guessed it, black, and often found in shiny pieces. Fran says she keeps one of these by her bedside to absorb negative thoughts; letting it cleanse her energy before bed.

Stores mentioned on this episode: Rock Star, and Namaste shop. Both New York based but have online shopping available. Personally, and this is gonna sound real woo-woo, but I prefer picking out stones in person because then I can actually feed off of their energy to pick the right one for me. Those living in a small town, there is probably a crystal shop not too far away.

Ep. 19: The Friend Zone & The Read Mash Up Pt. 1

Wellness this week: be messy and silly with your friends. For me, I don’t currently have any real life friends to hang out with, plus COVID, so my family gets to enjoy all my silly mess. Life just cannot be lived being serious 100% of the time!

Ep. 20: 2015, I’ma Let You Finish, But 2016…

I loved this episode because it brings us back to our journals. Fran asks the guys and us listeners to reflect on two simple, but powerful questions to answer at the end of each year:

What are 3 things you discovered about yourself this year that you love? Things that you feel will propel you into the next year, as a person, career-wise, and as a whole. Write freely about how you plan on maintaining and evolving.

What are 3 things you discovered about yourself this year that you did not like? Maybe some of these things are hard to face. Reflect on how you’ve allowed them to hold you back and what you are doing to adjust them.

#friendzonepod #wellness #holisticliving #forthe #hoodhearted

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Can My Kids Be Associated With Sessions?

This is when you as well as your former partner do not desire, or can not be in the exact same space with each other. In these circumstances, the conciliator goes in between both rooms to accomplish the discussions. It is an extremely practical device for individuals that have actually had unpredictable relationships in the past and also individual safety and security might be a fear. One disadvantage of shuttle arbitration is the enhanced time it requires to execute, and because of this, the costs can be a little much more. An approved household arbitrator records on the court kind that mediation is not suitable, i.e. the various other person is not ready to attend a MIAM. The idea of a MIAM is to see if family mediation would certainly appropriate, rather than going through court.

Mediation services are located in all components of mainland as well as island Scotland.

Arbitration is a distinct process as well as does not entail coaching or treatment.

Nor is it settlement where a third party decides.

The underlying principle is that arrangements gotten to by people themselves, as specialists in what is right for them and their kids, are more sustainable than court orders.

The National Audit Record stated that the arbitration course takes an average of 110 days, compared with 435 days for non- moderated situations. Family mediation does not have adversarial method like court, where individuals typically attempt to 'win' versus each various other, without taking a look at the total image. The arbitration process is a lot less demanding for households and it reinforces and strengthens efficient interactions in between individuals participating. For youngster matters that are concurred, a Parenting Plan is created, which details exactly how you both will spend time with your youngster or children. Once more, the arbitrator should give you information of any type of costs entailed. This is a big record, which will certainly take the mediator time to article, as well as the price of this is divided in between you as well as your ex-partner. The mediation sessions normally last between sixty and ninety mins, throughout which you will speak through the problems you are both facing, with the support of the moderator.

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Sensations hinder as well as conversations about functional things get lost in the hurt and rage. And also when you do manage to discuss them, many people are really feeling less sensible as well as less fair than usual. It is for every one of these reasons that many individuals locate it useful to obtain some assistance.

Included in the cost of your mediation is the moment considered the moderator to get ready for your session, write up any notes from your meetings as well as obtain your monetary disclosures. Lots of people pay their share, but you can agree that individual will certainly pay completely. There is even more regarding who spends for family mediation in our blog site below. To assist the arbitration market and recommendations organisations to advertise arbitration, we have actually created a series of public info materials. These have likewise been shared with household courts around the country.

# 12 How Much Does The Typical Divorce Cost In The Uk?

Moderators might discuss clearing up new companions' roles as well as how and when they should be presented to the household. This mediation model is often made use of when there is a high degree of conflict between the two individuals concerning mediation. An added reason for bringing in an added conciliator might be due to a complexity of an issue being gone over, which calls for a specialist. B) Shuttle bus mediation is the 2nd most usual type of arbitration.

What questions does a mediator ask a child?

Tell the child what Mom and Dad told you about him/her (their favorite activities, school subjects, friends, etc), include what the parents said they liked most about the child (affectionate, creative, helpful, etc.). 2. Ask what they like about Mom/Dad (do for each parent in turn).

Assistance and also mediation can assist couples establish a better partnership between each various other and with their kids after the separation is finalised. We make certain that family mediation will be an excellent beginning point to ideally, finding a solution to your family problems. The mediation procedure is private, as well as what is stated throughout the mediation procedure is legitimately privileged. This implies, that what is gone over in arbitration can not be after that utilized later as proof, if the situation progresses to court. The intro of new partners can additionally make it difficult for moms and dads and also children. Such modifications are not uncommon, as adults proceed with their lives and start new households.

We Require To Figure Out Arrangements For Our Children That Are Now 12 And Also 15 Can

The objective will be to try to find an agreement you can both cope with. Throughout the MIAM, which typically lasts between 45 minutes to a hr, the arbitrator will talk to you concerning the issues you intend to discuss throughout the arbitration process. Participating in family mediation is a volunteer procedure, so going to mediation is a choice you make yourself. Arbitration is about working with your mediator and ex-partner, to try to find an agreement you and your family can deal with. It is necessary to remember, that a contract made in mediation is not legitimately binding, so if you wish to make it legitimately binding in regulation, you will certainly need to seek lawful guidance.

The benefit that is released most commonly, is that family mediation is normally more affordable than going to court. The National Audit Record of 2012 states that the average cost per customer for arbitration was ₤ 675. The typical price per client for situations going to court was ₤ 2,823, which indicated there was an average conserving of ₤ 2,148. 8 years later, it is anticipated that the cost savings will certainly be also better. Going to family mediation is generally quicker than going to court.

These problems can be financial, or might be linked to kid plans. Yet they do see to it both of you have the opportunity to state what you need to state and also help you decide. When you have the initial conference before you start arbitration speak with the mediator concerning any type of concerns to make sure that you can ensure you have complete confidence in their capacity to stay impartial. You can not typically get arrangements about the kids made right into a court order similarly. But, as court orders concerning youngsters are extremely tough to impose anyhow, deciding that help everybody entailed is possibly still your best alternative.

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Having to see and talk to your ex lover is both an obstacle and an extremely favorable side-effect of mediation. Lots of people locate it enables them to find a method to connect with their ex once more, which if you have youngsters with each other can just be a really advantage. At the end of the sessions, the conciliator will jot down what it is that you have actually concurred. This is not lawfully binding and also, if the contract is about financial resources, you will certainly require to ask your lawyer to prepare formal documents to have it made legitimately binding. Concurring arrangements for the children or just how you will certainly divide money or home if your partnership has actually ended can be really hard.

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Making Youngster Arrangements If You Divorce Or Separate

There likewise were significant indirect effects to communication using teens' ideas in the authenticity of parental authority. The 95% CIs were [-0.202, -0.081], [-0.185, -0.071], and [-0.128, -0.0341] for uncaring, indulgent and tyrannical parents, specifically. In all 3 models, adolescents elevated in thoughtless, indulgent and tyrannical residences reported reduced degree of beliefs regarding parental authority and also higher assumptions for behavior autonomy. Likewise, problem intensity was reduced for youth with indulgent moms and dads and communication was lower for youth with unmindful, indulgent or authoritarian parents.

This is not a place to rework old problems however rather to solve parenting issues after separation or splitting up. If you are dividing from your companion or undergoing the divorce phase your mind might be jumbled, even if it was what you wanted.

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A series of 4 × 2 analyses of covariance was carried out to explore the web links in between four parenting designs and also parent-- teenage connections. At the same time, we likewise discovered if adolescents' assumption for habits autonomy as well as recommendation of parental authority varied as a function of teens' sex as well as parenting styles. As a last factor, an additional rationale for the existing research study was to deal with the dearth of study on mainland Chinese families published in the international literature. Including in mediation hertfordshire to include proof from non-Western countries such as China, offers to expand and strengthen knowledge of parent-adolescent connection procedures.

What do you wear to mediation?

The attorneys and the mediator will be dressed in formal business attire, but you do not need to dress that formally, particularly if you are not accustomed to wearing that type of clothing for a three-hour session. Whatever you choose to wear, your clothing should be neat and clean.

You are currently anticipated to deal with numerous practical problems whilst sensation emotional baffled and also also prone. You will be worried about the influence on your children, how will you inform them as well as what should they be informed? Where will you live exactly how will you share the care of your children? The last point you want is unpredictability during this emotional and virtually difficult time in your life. Do you go directly to a solicitor as everybody says or do you involve a mediator? Right here is a short review of the very best possible use of both since, in some cases, both techniques can be of help to you as well as your household. Involving children in mediation can be really intricate and a large amount of prep work is needed before an arbitrator will certainly talk with a kid.

Can Police Impose A Youngster Plan Order Or Parenting Plan?

Various factors to consider use relying on the age and maturation of the youngster. The child and both the moms and dads have to accept the assessment. It is the moderator's decision whether youngster assessment is suitable. Moms and dads often recommend that the kid or youngsters are associated with the arbitration process. It is important that parents recognize the views, requirements and also desires of their kids and also involving them in the arbitration process may be an excellent way to do this.

In this context, the connections in between parenting designs and also moms and dad-- adolescent conflict as well as cohesion in China might be various from those in Western societies.

In this stringent ordered framework, people' ask for autonomy and any actions that possibly intimidate group harmony are inhibited, whereas excellent respect for parental authority is highly valued.

This led to a significant change in the household, commonly described as the "4-2-1" family framework.

Studying mainland Chinese families also provides a special opportunity for checking out family procedures since its culture is so distinct from Western contexts.

Initially, China has been special in the world in its "one youngster policy" carried out by the federal government from 1979 until 2016.

A conciliator can interact with both moms and dads and examine their parenting methods and exactly how they connect to each other and their children. This way, the moderator can spot the preliminary indications of unreasonable conduct and handle it. An arbitrator runs from the point of nonpartisanship as well as does not side with any kind of moms and dad thus there is no bias. We understand that lawyers can be expensive, yet this need to not quit you from obtaining lawful advice, as many solicitors do offer free 30-minute examinations, which might aid deal with a particular concern. It is critical that you understand your legal rights and are encouraged on the court process, the issues included and the law.

I Do Not Wish To Go To Arbitration

Prior research study on these two facets of conflict has actually generated combined outcomes. For example, Smetana discovered that parenting designs' links with conflict frequency and intensity were extremely similar. In contrast, Assadi et al. reported that regularity was reduced for reliable moms and dads as well as greater for authoritarian moms and dads-- but just reliable parenting was linked to intensity. The support my kids as well as myself have obtained has actually been hugely useful and also has aided my kids negotiate their connection with separated parents.

Youngsters like to be informed as well as they value having their views as well as alternatives listened to, although they require to recognize that they are not responsible for the overall decision. Child Inclusive Arbitration involves a family conciliator that is trained as a kid specialist talking with a child or kids as a component of a mediation in which plans are being produced youngsters.

Altogether, there are well-established links between parenting design, adolescents' beliefs, as well as parent-adolescent partnership qualities. Nonetheless, these various constructs have actually not been taken a look at all together in one study. Perspectives regarding authenticity of authority are likewise linked with parent-- teen relationship functions. To adequately understand the links in between parenting designs as well as these two aspects of the parent-adolescent partnership, both ought to be analyzed. Additionally, most previous research study hardly ever identified dispute regularity and intensity or analyzed them at the same time. Conflict regularity refers to how typically problem takes place, whereas conflict intensity refers to the size of psychological arousal that occurs during problem.

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Legal recommendations is needed where you are looking for to develop legally binding setup when it come to finances or kids. There are family mediation services available for moms and dads having connection problems. When moms and dads make a decision to separate, they can make use of the pre-court family mediation solution. The process is most likely to break down if you and your ex-partner enter into an argument about that said what.

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Can My Kids Be Associated With Sessions?

They can also give certain info regarding what support kids may need when parents separate. Mediating a high conflict situation where the couple had separated numerous years earlier and had actually found it tough to adjust psychologically and virtually. The moms and dads were in litigation concerning their youngsters, finances and company passions and also their kids remained in the center of their disagreements. After 2 mediation sessions, which addressed their problem and also lack of participation, the parents were able to concentrate on the demands of their youngsters, that took part in a youngster inclusive mediation Arbitration involving a dispute over education in between moms and dads that had separated a number of years previously. It was agreed that the kid's sights ought to be taken into account as well as a child comprehensive arbitration conference was held with their son who was clear regarding his schooling preference.

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Keep in mind, also, that you need to a minimum of learn about mediation prior to you can get approved for legal aid for any court negotiation. You participate in a collection of mediation sessions, each lasting between one and also two hours; rarely are more than 6 sessions needed.

Are Any Contracts Made Via Mediation Lawfully Binding?

It is important that moms and dads understand the arbitrator is not carrying out a dreams and also sensations evaluation of their youngster/ kids. This is not an alternative to the duty of CAFCAS within court procedures (It is also still 'without prejudice 'so any conversations with a youngster can not be referred to within court procedures). It culminates in a contract, called a Memorandum of Understanding or Statement of Outcome. You'll possibly want to have your solicitor testimonial the arrangement before you sign it, and as soon as signed both of you can likewise have your solicitors authorize it to make every little thing legitimately binding. If so, the arbitrator will certainly record these, and also the others can be settled in court.

Kids can seem like they are captured between when their parents separate.

This can be really damaging to them and also it is something that can be avoided by parents requiring time to comprehend what their kids are experiencing and to speak with the kids regarding exactly how they really feel about points.

The details that can be located on this web page is targeted at aiding parents understand the feelings and also feelings that kids can be experiencing.

Children can be invited right into the family mediation procedure which can be beneficial in obtaining the moms and dads to pay attention to what the child wants after his or her moms and dads different or separation.

Lots of kids will attempt to cover up their sensations if they intend to avoid distressing, or hurting their parents.

The first meeting can be the with you as well as your ex or individually, discussing the problems as well as whether the two of you can meet face to face. At no time does the arbitrator effort to make decisions for you or take either side in the discussion. Adjudication can conserve cash in comparison to going through the household court procedure but it can additionally be an extremely expensive.

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Both parties will certainly require to offer straightforward, signed information concerning their financial resources for mediation to work. Know, though, that mediation doesn't benefit every person, although it succeeds in the large majority of instances. Every little thing you state is private, with the exemption of your monetary details and also anything that could emerge regarding the capacity of injury to any individual, most particularly your children.

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There are a range of expenses for making use of settlement consisting of arbitrator charges, the price of place hire as well as each party will certainly have to pay their own lawful prices. Consequently, the first expenses for arbitration may be much more pricey than going to court however it can conserve money in the future. The celebrations will normally send their proposals and the mediator will certainly establish a schedule for economic disclosure as well as for making a decision the final result. At the end of the process, the mediator will decide on how the monetary assets ought to be divided. This is not instantly lawfully binding and also should be made right into an approval order and afterwards submitted to the court. The order can be contested by either event, however it is likely that the court would promote it unless it determined it was considerably unreasonable to one celebration.

What Choices Do I Have To Take Care Of Parenting Problems?

We will usually after that meet you and also your companion individually to establish whether mediation is ideal in your specific case. If your situation is not appropriate for mediation this meeting will comprise a MIAM which is normally called for prior to a party can begin Court proceedings in connection with a youngster related or an economic case on divorce. The youngster can either meet the conciliator that is currently collaborating with the moms and dads or, as commonly happens, with a various moderator. Siblings will be seen independently or with each other depending upon what the kids themselves favor as well as also what the parents believe to be most suitable. Our moderator, Daniel Priest, an approved family arbitrator or some year experience has actually embarked on professional training for direct appointment with a youngster. He will decide after a discussion with the parents whether or not it is appropriate and also to carry out an appointment with a youngster.

The kid will determine what details they want their moms and dads to get at the 'comments' meeting. For several parents there are no wonderful surprises and they are guaranteed that they are on the appropriate track in helping their kid. Often though an essential piece of info comes to light that may have been missed if the kid or young adult had actually not had the opportunity to speak with someone outside the family.

If both parents have legal help for mediation there would be no charge. If simply one moms and dad is in receipt of legal help then the various other moms and dad would certainly be billed ₤ 50 + vat for the assessment with the child. We such as to think about the appointment with the child as even more a conversation/ chat so that they feel comfortable.

The outcomes of this conference were fed back to the parents that agreed to abide by their child's wishes. Arbitration involving a couple who remained in their mid-sixties and had substantial possessions. Dominic and Ruth have a healing, rather than a legal, history. When youngster inclusive mediation takes place the moderator will, with the child's consent, feed their sights back into the general arbitration process. We have years of experience in this area and 4 of our mediators are learnt this area. Our plan is to talk to both celebrations before arranging appointments for arbitration to guarantee that you both understand the procedure.

Grandparents Rights And Also Arbitration ... Assistance!!!!

Maintain interaction with the parents and discuss you're there for both of them. Your objective is not to choose sides, but to supply support for both of them throughout this challenging time.

Frequently these agonizing situations can be helped with the aid of a mediator who will hold an Arbitration Consumption Assessment Meeting or MIAM. MIAMs can soothe ruffled feelings and make certain that common assets are divided similarly, see to it that economic responsibilities ofboth parentsare laid out as well as assist to make the break as simple as possible for all the family members. In the UK Grandparents have no automated rights to youngster visitation, although court treatment can sometimes cause an Order for call, where it is thought about in the youngster's best interests.

Often Asked Inquiries Regarding Grandparent Accessibility Rights.

You can additionally represent on your own as well as it's becoming much more common to do. So, do not be afraid to request help throughout the family court process. Organization such as Assistance Via Court, People Suggestions, or Kid Law Recommendations can aid. If it ends up that arbitration is not suitable or case, the moderator will certainly give an arbitration certificate so you can apply to court for a youngster plans order. The first point you should do is attempt and keep call with your grandchildren preferably.

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This risk-free setting can be developed with the assistance of arbitration. It is likewise understandable that as a moms and dad it can be tough to develop a connection with your youngster's grandparents that is independent of your ex-partner, which is another aspect mediation can assist with considerably. One facet often offered little thought is the effect a family members break down can have on the connection in between a grandparent as well as their grandchildren. We're knowledgeable solicitors, along with fully-accredited family conciliators, so can offer support that extends outside of the family mediation area.

Why Arbitration Can Help Grandparents.

If having this conversation face to face is difficult, try creating an e-mail or a letter. other benefitsof using family mediation is that there is the capacity that you can save a great deal of money. Several grandparents litigate by themselves and also take care of the process without a concern. If you need assistance there are a variety of charities who can help you, such as Assistance Through Court. Everyone who operates in the court, whether they are an Area Judge, a family magistrate or a legal consultant to the court, do the job due to the fact that they desire to help families.

What grandparents do?

Grandparents teach young children. They help children learn by playing, talking and reading together while giving them focused attention. And they teach more directly by telling stories and sharing family and cultural traditions.

They had not seen their grandchildren for 7 months-- the lengthiest they had actually ever before gone without seeing them. Kid Arrangement Order-- the court will decide where and when the youngsters have contact with you.

What Is The Lawful Procedure For Grandparents Intending To See Their Grandchildren?

When it pertains to deciding, the court will certainly take into consideration the CAFCASS record. If it's in the most effective rate of interest if the children, the court will certainly provide an order so you can remain in get in touch with as well as it will certainly detail what sort of get in touch with you'll be able to appreciate from now on. When you use, household court will certainly consider whether you can be in contact with your grandchildren and if so, what sort of call would be most valuable for them. There's indirect call (letters, phone calls, video calls, and so on) and straight contact. However, if this is your only alternative, make sure you request for set fees for particular stages of the procedure when you speak to legal professionals.

Among the major changes was a requirement for a mediation session or MIAM to be attended before any court procedures to do with financial or protection issues. Household's are deeply impacted by separation or splitting up, especially when there arechildrenin the household.

Though it will certainly take longer, if you can verify your connection to your grandchildren is useful to them, an order is likely to be offered allowing you to proceed your caring relationship with your grandchildren. Richard and also Florence had appreciated a caring as well as caring partnership with their 3 grandchildren, aged 12, 8 and also 5. When their son and also step-daughter, Emma obtained divorced, they helped their son monetarily with his lawful fees as well as the separation was an unpleasant and also disputed one. Emma was angry at Richard and Florence as they had actually funded the lawful costs for the separation and really felt by doing so they were partly at fault for the marriage to end.

What grandparents should not do?

60 Things Grandparents Should Never DoRequest more grandchildren. Give naming advice. Post about your grandkids online without their parents' permission. Hand off your grandkids to anyone who wants to hold them. Or let other folks watch your grandkids. Try to raise your grandkids like you did your own children. Be lax about car seat safety. More items•

It is not such as a criminal court, where a person is going to be condemned or otherwise guilty. The environment is a lot more helpful, as everybody acknowledges that there is a child at the centre of the procedures. The officer will certainly explore all of the issues increase worrying the well-being of the child or children. Following this, a CAFCASS report will certainly be sent to the courts to help them in choosing the call arrangements.

What Can I Do Right Now To Preserve Contact?

Child Setup Order

Mediation is far quicker as well as less costly than litigation, particularly over monetary concerns. All factors of agreement are noted in a Memorandum of Understanding or Statement of End result at the final thought of the procedure. A negotiation set in mediation can be made legitimately binding as component of your divorce procedures. For example, there might be issues over whether the household home will need to be offered, exactly how joint financial obligations are to be taken care of, or regarding the apportionment of pension plans, financial savings or investments. If after your intake consultation mediation is deemed ideal a joint meeting will certainly be prepared with the arbitrator.

Which is the major source of family conflict?

One major source of family conflict is within the area of finances–specifically, the lack of enough money to pay bills, maintain the mortgage or rent, buy sufficient food and other necessities and have any remaining money for recreation. job or career may contribute to conflict within a family.

Family mediation services can be beneficial to kids throughout this period. For instance, when the conflict entails child guardianship or visitation rights, a family mediation service might fall short to solve the matter to the complete satisfaction of the parties.

Can My Youngsters Have A Say At The Same Time?

The arrangement to mediate is a standard file, used by all certified family mediators, and also is something that is called for by the Family Mediation Council, which regulates all family moderators. The mediation can not proceed unless the agreement to mediate has actually been signed. Many people have different evaluation conferences some time prior to the first joint session. Some people prefer ahead with each other to the evaluation conference, with a joint session adhering to straight later on if their situation is suitable for arbitration. FMA participants typically use both kinds of evaluation, but whichever type is chosen there always needs to be some opportunity for the mediator to speak separately per person.

The parties included can appoint their own Duncan Lewis day care legal representative to offer independent legal guidance at every stage of the arbitration process-- Duncan Lewis' own Arbitrators include Resolution certified Professional Method Consultants. Duncan Lewis kids legal representatives can suggest on the legal rights of prolonged member of the family or alternative family members under UK family members regulation as well as EU legislation-- consisting of requesting Youngster Setup Orders or Adult Duty. Under a Kid Arrangement Order or Unique Guardianship Order, extended member of the family supplying a home for children on an irreversible, normal, or momentary basis would get Adult Duty.

What Children Claim

In this meeting you will have the chance to discuss your issues, explore future choices as well as agree a means onward. This might take one, but normally several meetings, but the same conciliator will certainly remain with you throughout the process.

If joint sessions can not be offered, or where they can not be offered yet, individuals can access other support. Please call us to discover even more regarding the one to one STEP AHEAD - Conflict Mentoring Service. Our Mediators are presently supporting family members in Angus, where family partnership malfunction is triggering one member of the family to face homelessness. If you reside in Angus and also you or somebody in your family members could gain from functional assistance as well as mediation, please call us. When there are monetary concerns you will certainly require to provide factor to consider to what everyone in the family requires, particularly the kids. At the very start of the real arbitration, the conciliator will certainly ask you both to authorize an agreement to moderate, after talking to both of you that you understand what it claims and that you both understand just how mediation works.

What Is A Child Setups Order

The assistance my youngsters and myself have obtained has actually been extremely useful as well as has actually helped my youngsters bargain their partnership with separated moms and dads. is easier on your youngsters when parents co-operate and helps them proceed vital household connections. Households frequently go through demanding times in their lives, as well as this is normally the factor for the failure of the household.

Generally, disputes regarding plans for youngsters need 1 or 2 mediation sessions; those including home or money generally require 3 to 4 sessions. Study has actually revealed that youngsters can be more adversely impacted by uncertainty or by acrimony in between their parents than by the fact of the separation itself. When a connection in between parents breaks down, it is normally a top priority to set up clear arrangements for the children included.

For the most part, the family members that select the family mediation solution feel relieved as well as pleased that the issue has been resolved in an equally helpful way. In family mediation service, mediation is normally conducted in the visibility of a conciliator, that is responsible for preserving the privacy of the events. The celebrations are needed to have anticipation of all the legal elements connecting to the case. Family mediation solutions should be performed by a certified recognized mediator, that is likewise accustomed with the demands for a lawsuit in the family. For professional lawful recommendations on all child care issues-- including Extended Family or Choice Family kid contact and also gain access to arrangements-- contact Duncan Lewis Children Lawyers on. As soon as you have actually contacted Duncan Lewis, we can act quickly in any kind of childcare issue as well as put in place actions to assist resolve the issues and protect against additional disagreement and/or legal costs accumulating. Duncan Lewis youngsters legal representatives supply a dealt with charge for a preliminary client interview and assessment of an exclusive kid matter entailing expanded or different family members.

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If a parenting strategy is agreed in arbitration, intrinsic in that agreement is that both events will certainly rely on the other to maintain to what has been concurred. If one parent unilaterally chooses not to follow an agreed plan, it is extremely most likely the strategy will certainly after that fall short as the 2nd parent is-- at some future factor-- likely to do a tit-for-tat. You could go back to arbitration otherwise make an application to court for a kid arrangement order.

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After 2 arbitration sessions, which addressed their problem and also absence of collaboration, the moms and dads were able to concentrate on the demands of their youngsters, who participated in a kid inclusive mediation. The mediator motivates discussion, assisting to clear up issues, explore options and also examination which will operate in method. If firm proposals are gotten to, these are recorded in a paper which although not legitimately binding, can be made into a legally binding arrangement if you want. Arbitration is a volunteer process which the Courts actively urge.

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You and also your companion meet a neutral moderator or arbitrators to go over the issues in between you. If you decide that mediation is not ideal for you, after that the conciliator will authorize a kind to confirm that you have actually thought about arbitration. This is required prior to your lawyer can issue court proceedings. Kent Family Mediation Solution mediatorshave had experience in a variety of occupations, consisting of law, social work, treatment, human connections, education or counselling, prior to training as an arbitrator.

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Each year family conciliators have to complete a defined variety of hours of Constant Professional Growth to satisfy a PPC. Also the moderator also needs to carry out a certain number of hrs of family mediation annually. Nobody contests the reality that when parents co-operate, there is a positive influence on the children. Lots of parents, that have actually gone to arbitration, claim that arbitration helps them maintain essential family members relationships.

Nonetheless, if it proceeds both individuals do require to accept attend. However in many cases it is possible to make an arrangement whereby both individuals utilize separate spaces during family mediation. Bear in mind also that lawful aid is still available for family mediation. You will have to discover a mediator that has a legal help get in touch with and also be methods examined for eligibility. People in this scenario typically need splitting up advice to ensure they plan their future lives in an useful method, and also our specialist family moderators can help. Arbitration is a voluntary procedure which the courts proactively urge. You and your companion fulfill along with a family members arbitrator to go over the concerns between you.

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Some parents make a decision to just as share the function of bringing up their youngsters in a 'common parenting' function. The advantages of common parenting youngsters are that the children reach spend equivalent as well as significant amounts of their time with each moms and dad i.e. the youngsters live in between the homes of both moms and dads. One more instance is the kids stay in the household residence and also the moms and dads each take it consequently to remain with them. Shared parenting arrangements are most effective when both moms and dads are able to cooperate as well as interact fully as well as properly with each various other for the advantage of the children. It is therefore beneficial to both parents if they use mediation to negotiate and agree upon the payment of child upkeep. If moms and dads prepare the payment of child maintenance between themselves, they will certainly be conserving important money, by staying clear of paying unneeded charges to the Child Upkeep Solution.

You may want to talk to an accredited conciliator, to see if family mediation can assist you as well as your household, as opposed to pricey and also prolonged lawsuit in the courts.

Many individuals that separation or separate do not think about the choice of family mediation and go immediately to a family legal representative.

By utilizing family mediation, there is the possibility that you might conserve a great deal of cash as well as time in court.

Below at Bross Bennett we are dedicated to family mediation as a core part of the solution we provide.

Before you start your collective law sessions, you each need to authorize an agreement saying you'll try to get to a contract. If you still can not get to a contract, you'll need to visit court to sort out the concerns. You can't make use of the very same lawyer, so you'll require to find a different one - this can be pricey. If your agreement is about money or property, it's a great suggestion to take your memorandum of comprehending to a lawyer as well as inquire to transform it right into a 'permission order'. This suggests you can take your ex-partner to court if they don't stay with something you agreed.

What Is Family Settlement?

If you wish to keep the expenses of mediation down, attempt to agree as much as you can with your ex-partner prior to you begin. As an example, you might have already concurred arrangements concerning your youngsters, however need aid agreeing how to split your cash. If you get to an agreement it will be prepared by the mediator as a 'Memorandum of Comprehending'. This record is not legitimately binding, yet it can be developed into a legally binding court order. Mediating a high dispute situation where the couple had separated several years earlier and also had actually located it tough to adjust mentally as well as virtually. The parents were in litigation about their kids, financial resources as well as organization interests and their children were in the middle of their disagreements.

Additionally, choices made by you as well as your ex-partner by the arrangement are more likely to be maintained as well as followed, in contrast to court-imposed orders. It is smart to look for legal as well as other proper guidance from professionals, to have a full appreciation of your respective legal placements on legal rights as well as duties. This understanding ensures that you as well as your ex-partner are in a great placement to properly broker your terms as well as contracts in arbitration. Our moderators will certainly help you wage mediation in the most comfy way for you as well as your conditions.

The arbitrator will certainly always suggest that you both have independent lawful recommendations from a certified individual. A family members conciliator is unbiased, so he can give you legal details, however illegal recommendations-- this is the work of a family lawyer. It is required to remember, that an agreement made in mediation is not legitimately binding, so if you intend to make it legitimately binding in law, you will require to seek lawful advice. It is a personal out-of-court procedure that has clear ground rules and framework. The agreement or agreement entered into for the collective procedure verifies every person agrees to various solicitors actioning in if arrangements damage down and also you require to visit court or settlement to identify concerns. However, arrangements reached in mediation are not lawfully binding but an application can then be made to the court to convert the MOU right into a legally binding order. Research research studies have shown that family members disagreements solved by means of the arbitration path are less acrimonious than those cases that are resolved with the court system.

Check out a few of our familymediation case studiesto find out how family mediation can help. Pairs frequently feel extra positive concerning a contract reached with collaborative household regulation than a standard lawyer-led separation or dissolution because they have been directly associated with arrangements. Collaborative family members lawyers can work with accounting professionals or pension plan professionals if they are needed. A solicitor may provide you details concerning your economic privilege that you would certainly not otherwise know. If your ex-partner will not bargain with you, making use of a lawyer may be much more effective than trying to arrange it out straight. Most lawyers offer fixed-fee solutions or capped rates, which can be inexpensive. A raising number of household attorneys are also trained moderators.

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Mediation In Inheritance Disagreements

On top of that, the rules on statutory heritage also mean that your companion has no right to declare any type of things of emotional worth either. For that reason, it is essential to ensure you create a will to make sure that your estate splits just how you want it to divide. This is specifically essential if you as well as your partner live together and the residence remains in your name. Because of this, your partner may after that have no legal right to proceed living there.

It's the only way to make sure estate obtain proper monitoring, rather than the court choosing that gets what owing to a couple of outdated specifications. Your kids, for instance, would not obtain anything from your estate if you have an enduring spouse or civil companion. Jordan confesses to fight with making ends meet on his salary as a treatment employee for several years. He has actually now moved right into the big house, located in between Porthleven as well as Helston in Cornwall. The Rogers family members provided the home to the National Rely on 1974 in return for a 1,000-year lease so they could continue to live there.

Industrial & Civil Mediation

The applications for these types of insurance claim remain in the High Court therefore the costs are correspondingly increased. Arbitration is a private and voluntary procedure in the direction of settlement that is helped with by an independent person, the moderator. We help you without lowering the worth of the estate with high lawsuits expenses. Family members conflicts can be among the the vital problems, in settling Inheritance conflicts. Our Moderators are exceptional communicators and also professionals in both Family and also & Civil Arbitration.

By offering each other the opportunity to talk your mind as well as claim your item, you can work towards a service that fulfills your requirements.

Try to enter into mediation with the goal of recognizing the other event's disagreement, and why they feel by doing this.

Inheritance disputes can be complicated, but often the dispute itself comes from hurt feelings instead of the monetary assets included.

Whether it's a high net worth estate or the contrary, protecting your interests will certainly be your top priority.

Under the legal system in Scotland, if an individual passes away without leaving behind a clear will dictating how they want their property and also properties to go out to benefactors, the properties refer to the treatment of the Crown. It is the task of The Workplace of Queen's and Lord Treasurer's Remembrancer to after that care for these assets. The Federal government has a long list of properties in Scotland no one yet asserts. It not just includes significant home however financial possessions to the worth of ₤ 370,000 for what the residential property deserves, also.

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We are distinctively knowledgeable to aid in assisting the individuals get to an enduring as well as favorable outcome at a difficult time. We are among minority Arbitration services that specialise in the distinct problems surrounding resolving disputes over Wills and Inheritance matters. As necessary, the amount over the limit might be based on a 40% tax obligation rate. Eventually, this could avoid your enjoyed ones from receiving a round figure or building left for them in your will. That's a situation, in turn, that could cause somebody challenging a will. It's possible you have 99 problems, yet paying estate tax ain't one.

This differs to Court proceedings, which remain in public and also the decision made is a matter of public record. Both parties will prepare their ideal instance for arbitration and also their legal agents will certainly recommend availables made that they consider need to or should not be approved, to avoid the risks of litigation. An independent 3rd party, the moderator, will assist both sides to find to an arrangement that will certainly finish the disagreement. Arbitration continues to be on the increase and is a more preferred technique of fixing conflicts than test at Court, specifically so in count on as well as inheritance conflict situations. Such conflicts are incredibly common and are known to abuse families' right when they ought to be sticking as well as looking out for every other. promptly accumulate as well as can minimize what is entrusted to be shared out radically, particularly when the estate is spending for both sides' costs. for dependence from the deceased's estate being widened there is a raised litigation danger for personal representatives of the deceased to take into consideration, whether a valid will has been left or otherwise.

Avoiding Carelessness Insurance Claims

After a long fight, a treatment employee will acquire a 1,536-acre National Trust estate. This results after a DNA test for inheritance shows that he was the rightful beneficiary.

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Any type of individual with the appropriate surname might be able to assert on this valuable chance. There are a great deal of lawful aspects to take into consideration when a loved one dies. Yet just what takes place to possessions and property when the testator fails to leave a will behind?

Inheritance & Controversial Probate

Basically, you'll just require to bother with IHT if your estate is large sufficient to sustain the cost. Having a will suggests that your wishes on just how your estate is shared are honoured. Tough estates as well as wills, by comparison, require the suggestions of The Inheritance Professionals. Yet if your estate is small and your will is uncomplicated in nature, you can compose your very own will. In short, everybody must have a main Last Will and Testament.

Why do judges order mediation?

Judges love to refer cases for mediation because every case that settles is one less case the judge has to deal with on the court docket. “Mediation” is a kind of brokered negotiation and settlement conference used to settle a lawsuit or other dispute, and sometimes seek reconciliation between the parties.

Or to publicly name the next of kin that can get everything? Yes, it's ready for claiming by an unsuspecting descendent, as well as that descendent potentially having the legal right to a host of other assets, too. If your companion passes away intestacy or you feel that you have grounds to dispute an estate, act currently. Just get in touch with The Inheritance Specialists by filling out the contact type on our internet site or by calling. This would still be the case, even if your partner adds to footing the bill as well as home loan on the residential property. That's since the regulation would just tackle the name on the deeds of the home.

Mediation Offered To Heal Rifts On Regeneration Estate In Milton Keynes

There were additionally those valley individuals impacted by opencast that not did anything. This seeming apathy is utilized by conceited militant liberals to put derision on the mass of the population. This 'passiveness' however, isn't an independent datum free of social patterns. At the risk of being too conspiratorial, it's clear that such a situation is produced as well as promoted to commit the here and now order of points. As ever before, the media informed even more people than would have listened to by hearsay. In response to Wales Today's attempt to start a media backlash against the campaign by a blatantly biased meeting, the campaigns after that nationwide degree of assistance was demonstrated by more problems prior to or because.

After long months of siege the expulsion in late February was an anticlimax. It took an outside agency to jolt them back to life, being available in the form of the old enemy as well as its expulsion of Brynhenllys. Though the anti-opencast project was disregarded, it came at the end of a summer season of growth and also possibility for the motion, after peaceful months lots turned out for the expulsion. Combined with the factors above, geographically on the logistical edges of the short-term DA 'people's circuit, Brynhenllys was by Autumn constantly undermanned. Keeping site together attracted nearly all power from those continuing to be, transforming activity better inward. This and Watermeadows were the high point of site/community communication at Selar. After that, with the lines of communication well as well as really specified the very same propensities manifested themselves, however on a progressively lower scale.

The Mediation Service Was Outstanding

This is partally reasonable, as also 'eco warriors' can not be on duty 24hrs. Additionally, much of the committed neighborhood protestors were center aged to elderly.

On a historical angle, it is the case that any kind of reforms yielded under the rule of Capital have been via mediated companies to avoid escalated preferred unrest. Cutting across the insular tendencies that had established in the late stages of Brynhenllys and Selar, website occupants mixed socially with local residents, building up fondness. Numbers of neighborhood youngsters, enthused by the website as well as its effects, invested a great deal of time at Nant Helen. They had a laugh, yet more on the training/empowerment front could have been done.

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Underpinning this is the mechanism of arbitration in daily life, reinforcing alienation and also absence of involvement. There are varieties of examples on a society-wide degree, but the stereotypical example is the political system straight affecting communities intimidated by opencast.

Considerably, citizens were involved in trying to blockade the trucks packed with translocated watermeadow. Mainly, though, it was full-time militants playing the duty of 'cannon fodder'. Even defence as a focus for interaction as well as empowerment was not absolutely know. The opportunities of training help like low method walkways and treeborne lockons were never completely explored.

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' Watermeadows' showed among eco objections perennial trouble in trying to entail those outside of an unemployed subculture. Clearly its difficult to take part in disrupting job throughout functioning hours when devoted at these times. Those citizens who stood observing translocation can not be criticised, as due to the hefty policing, many website residents did also. Most of the reliable activity throughout today occurred during the night (e.g. iron bars surging the watermeadows). They can be found in numbers from across Britain, kicked arse as well as had their arses kicked. Significant battle on the initial day saw cops cruelty and greater than 2 dozen arrests.

Using age group and mind measures at all voxels to account for as much difference as possible in job performance, 32.7 percent of complete the difference in button prices was represented.

The existing strategy likewise stands for a little step toward total assimilation of several methods of brain pictures, cognitive performance and also moderating variables to much better comprehend cognitive aging.

This boost of 27 portion factors shows the value of consisting of procedures of brain activity in attempting to clarify age group distinctions in task efficiency.

The lines represent the regression fit lines within each team and also the cross-hairs on these lines are located at the mean worths for mind task and task performance.

Each panel stories brain activity vs. job efficiency within age, majorities show greater button costs or worse efficiency.

The people in these towns are told to offer over their destiny and that of their youngsters to the judgement of 'technical professionals' employed by a region council in a similar way positioned there to direct and also diffuse their prompts. Bluntly put, their prospective cumulative power is either given or swiped away; little marvel they're 'passive'.

Why Arbitration?

The typical open day likewise took place though not on the scale of the teddy bear's barbecue. Though organisational matters received attention, with much discussion of the campaigns internal dynamics; as well as the common site work/tree structure took place, for once the focus of activity was off site. Sadly, neighborhood resistance is still bound up in the mediated form of the general public enquiry system. From this, on-site power discovered a lot of its expression as an expansion of this process. In effect this was a recognition of real dynamics of opencast objection in South Wales. It tacitly admitted eco demonstrations duty as a vociferous 'pressure team which dramatised the problems by means of the media, influencing the mainstream decision making procedure. Not simply South Wales, yet all local projects experienced the haemorrhage of personnel, tightening horizons of possible task.

What is the number 1 reason for divorce in America?

According to the study, financial disagreements were the strongest disagreement types to predict divorce for both men and women. In a poll conducted by www.DivorceMagazine.com this summer, the leading cause of divorce was found to be financial issues, followed closely by basic incompatibility.

Following day, Wales Today went to Selar apologising; as well as they have actually kissed our arses since. Within the ambit of orthodox eco objection, the week of watermeadows was a reliable duration for anti-opencast objection. The local individuals, for whom the site had lost novelty value, were re-enthused. Furthermore, the dramatization and information merit of the actions gained loads of media protection. Some of those that then started coming near site because of this showed to be among one of the most engaged and longest standing on the project. The abilities and degrees of commitment, if anything, suiting the corresponding events features. Already the specifications of local involvement were primarily delineated as assistance to an 'eco lead', and that was the method it remained.

About Financial Resources And Also Mediation

It really depends upon the number of problems that are to be reviewed in mediation, and exactly how well you and also your ex-partner collaborate. Nevertheless, normally most individuals handle to solve their problems in two to three sessions. The mediation sessions focused on the legal concerns pertaining to the recognition of each person's parenting rights and their parental obligations.

What happens if you ignore mediation?

A party who refuses to accept an invitation to mediate, without very good reason, does so at considerable risk and can expect sharp criticism and a costs penalty from the court, regardless of the eventual outcome of the case at trial.

The arbitrator will certainly always recommend that you both have independent lawful advice from a certified individual. A household conciliator is neutral, so he can provide you lawful information, however not legal guidance-- this is the work of a family lawyer. Lawful recommendations to sustain mediation is of course crucial and occasionally crucial. People require to understand what a court would certainly perform in order to feel ALRIGHT about their arrangement. Lawyers may additionally play a part in the mediation procedure either since one or both of the couple demand that sustain in the arbitration area or to supply individual suggestions that a person or both need to get to a contract. Lawyers may also play a beneficial role in recommending choices to consider in mediation.

Make Plans For Youngsters, Cash As Well As Property.

Additionally the arbitrator likewise needs to take on a specific variety of hours of family mediation yearly. This is a huge paper, which will certainly take the mediator time to article, and also the expense of this is divided between you and also your ex-partner.

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The conciliator regularly brought the adults back to their shared worry, which was acting in the best interest of their daughter. This aided the parents agree to having actually shared call with the woman. Several separated moms and dads locate it a difficulty to arrange the moment that each youngster spends with their moms and dad. One of the most usual problem is not having the ability to speak with each various other successfully. After a partnership has concerned an end, speaking to your ex-partner can be very difficult and feelings can run high. This can make having a daily discussion regarding child plans extremely difficult, or essentially difficult.

Fixing Financial Disagreements In Arbitration.

Everybody is additionally motivated to obtain financial and also lawful recommendations to sustain their decisions when needed. Our family members mediators can offer every little thing you need to make it through your separation with the minimum of tension. We have actually proven proficiency in Family Regulation, actual experience of the problems as well as mistakes that can happen and also a genuine dedication to making the remedy as basic and uncomplicated as possible. Public financing for family mediation is readily available if you are qualified. Lyons Davidson Family Mediation isn't concerning marriage support or coaching. It definitely isn't concerning attorneys contesting the children or money, incurring you lawful prices.

Guidance is the application of details to your particular scenarios. Once each of you has actually gone to a MIAM, you can make a decision whether you wish to proceed right into arbitration "correct". Mediation is totally volunteer, as well as if you make a decision not to continue, the conciliator will be able to authorize your court application validating that you have actually gone to a MIAM. There are some exemptions to this demand; they can be found at area 13 of kind C100 as well as at section 3 of Kind A. If you remain in doubt about whether you need to go to a MIAM, please seek advice from a solicitor for guidance. Family mediation is a procedure in which an independent, properly qualified conciliator assists you work out plans for youngsters and financial resources complying with separation. Family mediation is a procedure where an independent, trained specialist helps you and also your ex-spouse make contracts about essential issues such as parenting setups, cash and building. An economic advisor can suggest on problems such as exactly how to divide assets in the most tax-efficient method as well as just how to invest the earnings of a divorce or dissolution negotiation.

Monetary Mediation For Separating Pairs.

In arbitration, your conciliator will certainly review with you both regarding interaction strategies as well as feasible guidelines. The household court is very clear, in that it does not see its role to parent youngsters. It is only in severe and alarming scenarios that the court need to intervene in lives of households as well as release an order. Every year household mediators need to complete a defined variety of hrs of Continual Professional Development to please a PPC.

That means you ought to see a lawyer before you begin arbitration so you recognize your civil liberties. You additionally require to get a solicitor to draw up a legal agreement formalising anything you've concurred. The quantity of legal or economic guidance you take will certainly depend on exactly how difficult your divorce or dissolution is, just how much money you need to pay for advice as well as whether you have actually agreed to component on excellent terms. Numerous pairs utilize one or more specialists during their separation or dissolution. A first free phone call guarantees your issues can be covered by the Mediation process which fundamental suitability requirements exist. The household as well as civil Court policies now call for that, based on certain minimal exceptions, anyone seeking an economic order must explore the possibility of mediation. During the arbitration process you are both encouraged to share information, so each person completely comprehends the monetary scenario and also offered alternatives.

What LD Family Mediation does is to give you the expert, unbiased assistance of someone who is trained to pay attention, recognize as well as help you reach your own decisions together. A person who will assist direct you through the practical concerns you'll have to deal with.

And, offer you down-to-earth, easy to understand information on reaching an arrangement that you both can cope with. Some mediators, consisting of National Family Mediation, additionally supply services for youngsters. The majority of children, typically from the age of 6, advantage by being able to discuss their sensations with a person outside their family. After discussing their sensations, normally consisting of concerns of abandonment, anger and also sadness, kids can then return to being kids. Whether we're working as moderators or sustaining you through the process as independent advisors, our team believe passionately that arbitration can succeed also in cases that are intricate or where arrangement might initially seem difficult.

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In celebration of Happy Mother's day, here's the 11 facts you probably didn't know about Taylor Swift's The Best Day

1. The song is about her mother, Andrea Swift, and the good effects her mother had on her growing up.

2. She wrote & recorded this song while touring with Brad Paisley in the summer of 2007.

3. It is the only song on her 2nd album "Fearless" to be written in the conventional simple-verse form.

4. She actually wrote this song without telling her mom and recorded it without telling her mom. It was a complete secret session.

5. When she got the trackback and synced up all these home videos of her when she was a little kid and made a video and played it for her mom on Christmas. Her mom had no idea that it was her singing for the first half of the song. And Andrea just broke down crying when she realized that Taylor had done this whole thing to surprise her.

6. This song gets her most emotional while singing this song.

7. She wrote the first verse from that perspective, and she starting thinking, "What would I be thinking if I was 5 and I was remembering this?' And it goes, 'I'm 5 years old/It's getting cold and I've got my big coat on.' It had language like that - that makes me really think back to that time,"' she said.

8. The song was inspired by an incident during middle school when Taylor called several of her friends on the phone and asked if they wanted to go shopping with her. However, every girl had a different excuse for why they couldn't go. Eventually, her mother agreed to take her to the local mall. When they arrived, she saw all of the girls she had called on the phone, goofing around in Victoria's Secret.

9. One time, she played this song on Fearless tour on Mother's day, she saw her mom crying. That's why she didn't want to put this song on the Fearless Tour setlist because her mom was there every night and cried every time she heard it.

10. She sang this song again on Mother's Day eve in Santa Clara, California, during the acoustic portion of her reputation Stadium Tour. Apparently by request of Camilla. "And I want you to think about anybody in your life who has mothered you and been there for you and made who you are," she told the crowd.

11. Pitchfork ranks this song in their list of "9 Songs That Remind of Mom".

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Hey Delta, I was wondering if you might write something about Dean working and Felix seeing him and thinking he's hot (Felix has to get a book or get something for/with his father for the garden?). And then later kissing the hell out of Dean (in 2nd senario = because it got him hot and bothered to see Dean working (muscular) and he thinks about it all day).

Hello, 

So I took my own twist on this scenario (I feel like I always say that). It was a really fun idea to play with.

This takes place pretty soon after Felix and Dean got back together.

I hope you enjoy!

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“This is so fucking stupid,” Felixexclaimed as he climbed out of his dad’s SUV. He was in a fucking mood to startthat day. He had gotten up early to drive his mom and sister to the airport,and he was sweating his fucking ass off because it was fucking hot as hell.Getting dragged out to this dinner was only making it fucking worse.

“Felix,” his dad sighed as he got out ofthe car too. He had been doing that a lot lately, sighing like Felix was themost exhausting thing in the universe. If that was supposed to make Felix feelguilty about his behavior, it failed miserably. Felix took it as a point ofpride that he was a source of continuing disappointment for his father. Leonardwasn’t someone Felix cared about making proud. He honestly didn’t think Leonardreally gave a fuck either except to keep up appearances, which was probably whythey were going to dinner. He needed to make sure the neighbors saw him being agood dad. “Why do we have to keep talking about your cursing?”

“Because you keep bringing it the fuck up,”Felix replied dismissively.

“It’s impolite,” his father informed withundue emphasis.

Felix smirked as he looked over the hood ofthe car. “That’s the fucking point,” he admitted happily. At this point, he wasjust being purposefully difficult which was improving his mood at least alittle.

“Felix,” Leonard pressed a hand on thehood of the car. “Could you please not, just for one night?” He still soundedexasperated, but there was a hard edge there as well. That was a newer thingthat had started around the time that he had found out about Dean. It had onlybeen a week, and that shit was already getting beyond old.

“Whatever you fucking say, I guess,” Felixdeclared with a heavy eye roll as he turned away from the car. “You’re theboss, right?” He called over his shoulder before starting out of the parkinglot.

Felix was so fucking sick and tired ofhearing about how Leonard was the boss, and that under his house it was hisrules. It had been kind of fun to watch his mom put her foot down when it cameto Leonard’s rules. Felix got his phone back, and he could leave the house now,as long as he told his dad where he was going and was home by 8 pm. There wasstill a laundry list of stupid fucking rules like he wasn’t allowed to haveDean over if his dad wasn’t at the house, but it was a start.

“I’m not trying to start a fight,” his dadinformed as he jogged to catch up with him. Want to see something truly tragic?Watch a middle-aged man jog. Felix rolled his eyes and kept walking. WhenLeonard caught up Felix heard him sigh, or maybe he was just out of fuckingbreath. “I just want to have a nice meal where we could talk.”

Felix reached the sidewalk and snorted. “Yeah,sure you want to talk,” he dismissed. Maybe he wanted to lecture. He could tellFelix more about how he needed to make “good” choices because he wouldn’t wantto regret things later or how it is important for Felix to think of his future.It was all just Leonard’s PC way for his dad to tell him to not be gay.

Fuckhim.

“I do,” Leonard stated insistently. Felixhad to admit his dad sounded almost believable, which was rather impressive.Felix still didn’t buy it because he wasn’t a fucking idiot. He wasn’t surewhat had inspired the whole father of the year act. It could have been his momvisiting or it could have been Naomi dumping his ass. Felix didn’t know, and hedidn’t fucking care. His dad could lay it on thick all he wanted. Felix wasn’tbuying it. “I feel like I don’t know you anymore,” his father added soundingalmost sad.

Well, that put it over the fucking top,Felix thought to himself. “When did you know me?” He questioned dismissively.Most of his memories of his childhood involved his father either leaving afamily event for work or just not being there. He was pretty sure his dad hadnever come to any of his soccer or lacrosse games, and he knew that he hadnever gone to any of Alley’s dance recitals. His mom hadn’t been great aboutthat stuff either, but she had at least been better. And the shit Felix hadgotten away with when he had lived in Vermont had been beyond fucking insane.He was pretty sure if his dad had an idea of half the shit he had done he wouldhave fucking died. But yeah, now he didn’t know Felix. Sure. “Like ever?”

Leonard sighed so heavily, Felix was sureit was fake. Was he not supposed to call his dad out on his bullshit? Aftercalling Dean a bad influence and then later threatening to have him arrested,Felix couldn’t do that.

He just continued in his path toward theirdestination with a newfound determination to just get the whole thing overwith. “Well, at least I know I warrant the best restaurant in town,” hecommented as he turned a corner and started down the town’s main street, “Ohwait, it is the only restaurant in town.”

Leonard didn’t have a retort for that one,and Felix really hoped that was the start of a new trend for the evening. Withschool officially out for summer, there seemed to be more activity around town.The local teens seemed to swarm the few attractions like bees. Felix noticed afew kids from his grade, and he didn’t pay any of them any attention.

Felix heard someone talking in thedistance, and it was just barely audible, but it still immediately caught hisattention. “Dean, thank you again for helping out,” Felix heard a man statesounding genuinely gracious.

At the mention of Dean, Felix stopped andlooked around. With Leonard’s freak out he really hadn’t been able to see Deanall that much. That didn’t mean he wasn’t able to spot Dean almost immediately.He was standing outside of the used bookstore where he sometimes worked, whichwas just across the street from where Felix was standing.

“Felix?” his father questioned catchingFelix’s attention. He turned to look at his father who had kept walking a fewfeet before realizing that Felix was no longer with him and stopped. He waslooking back at Felix confused but then he turned his head in the directionFelix had been looking. When he turned back Felix couldn’t figure out if helooked disappointed or frustrated or a mix of the two. “No,” he stated firmly,“Absolutely not.”

Felix had actually been on the fence aboutcrossing the street and trying to get Dean’s attention. Dean was obviouslyworking, and Felix didn’t want to get in the way of that or anything. Themoment his dad looked at him like that and told him no Felix was dead set to doit just to spite Leonard.

He turned and jogged across the streetheading toward where Dean was standing with an older man. He was halfway acrossthe street when he called out, “Dean!?!”

Dean heard him, that much was immediatelyobvious because he perked up and looked around for a few seconds. When hespotted Felix, he smiled and waved in Felix’s direction before turning back tothe older man he had been speaking to.

By the time Felix managed to cross thestreet, the older man Dean had been talking to had walked back into the store,so Dean was standing alone. He looked really….rugged, like more than normal notthat Dean normally looked particularly rugged. Actually, Dean normally lookedpretty clean-cut but in like a grunge sort of way (if that makes any sense).His clothes were always well-worn but clean. That day however Dean was standingthere in cargo shorts and a black tank top. He had definitely been working andnot just stocking books if the dirt on his clothes and in his hair was any indication.His hair was messier than usual, and he was covered with a sheen layer ofsweat.

Felix wasn’t the type to be into beingthrown around or anything like that. He might have been the more regular bottomin the relationship, but that didn’t mean he was submissive or into beingdominated. Still, seeing Dean looking all dirty and sweaty and generallymasculine brought images of those sorts of things to mind, and it turned Felixon more than he would have ever expected.

“Hey,” Dean greeted with a smile and a wave.He was clearly completely unaware of the level of sexual frustration his veryexistence in his present state was causing Felix. “What are you doing here?” hequestioned sounding a mix of surprised and excited.

“I have to have dinner with my dad,” Felixadmitted, and he hoped he made it clear just how unenthusiastic he was aboutthat idea.

Dean looked so dirty and sweaty, and Felixcouldn’t stop thinking about it. He wanted Dean to make him dirty and sweatytoo, and it was really distracting. He might have pointed back at where his dadmight have been, but Felix honestly couldn’t be sure because he was too busystaring at Dean’s sweaty and dirty arms.

Fuck!

“Oh,” Dean exclaimed with a nervous lookaround Felix and then gave the world’s most awkward wave ever. “Hi, Mr. Jackson,”Dean called. He clearly was trying to sound friendly or excited, but he failedso fucking badly. Dean could tell he failed too if his expression was anyindication. It wasn’t Dean’s fault. Leonard was the one that had been acomplete and utter dick about everything. Dean was just the type that wanted tobe liked and felt like he needed to keep trying.

“Um,” Felix hummed. He was still trying notto think about how hot Dean looked, and he definitely didn’t want to thinkabout his dad. “What are you doing?” he questioned.

Dean shrugged, and it was probably just anillusion, like a trick of the light or some shit, but the little motion madethe muscles on his arms ripple. “Working,” he answered completely unaware thathe was literally killing Felix with his rugged manliness.

To make matters worse his dad hadofficially caught up with him and was standing next to him. Felix didn’t haveto look at him to know that he was probably looking a mix of inpatient anduncomfortable. Felix didn’t actually give a fuck, but it still made the wholesituation more complicated somehow. Maybe it was the juxtaposition of havingsomeone he wanted so fucking bad (Dean) and someone he couldn’t stand (his dad)so close together.

“Well, I figured,” Felix stated before hisdad could jump in and say something stupid or offensive or both, “But shouldn’tyou be like putting books on a shelf or something?” He knew Dean had workedwith landscaping before during the summers, but he was standing outside of thebookstore (which was his favorite summer job ever) so it didn’t seem to match.“Not all….” Felix paused and almost involuntarily looked Dean over, “Dirty.”

Fuck, Dean looked sofucking good. Just looking at him was short-circuiting Felix’s brain. He wassurprised he was managing words at all.

“Mr. Campbell has an old shoulder injury,”Dean explained still apparently oblivious to the effect he was having on Felixjust by existing in his sweaty and dirty state. He pointed back toward thebookstore where the older man had disappeared before. Felix guessed the olderman had been Mr. Campbell, not that that mattered at the moment, especiallywhen Dean was so sweaty. “So, I help with the planters at the start of thesummer.”

“How responsible of you,” Felix’s dadstated. His voice was so strained Felix could tell that it was killing him tosay something nice to Dean. “We should probably let you get back to work,” hedeclared and then had the actual nerve to grab Felix’s arm. It wasn’t hard or anything,but it was enough to send the message that it was time for them to move along.“Felix-”

Felix shrugged Leonard’s hand off his armand shot him a look. He was tempted to tell him to go fuck himself, but he hada feeling that might get in the way of his new goal for the night, so the glarehad to do. It lasted less than a second before Felix turned back to Dean whowas still a sweaty, dirty Adonis and questioned, “So, is this like an all-nightthing or…?”

“Nah,” Dean answered with a shrug. HowDean was managing to make shrugging look so fucking sexy Felix hadn’t a clue,but he was, and it was not fair. “I only have a couple of planters left, so Ishould be done in an hour or so.”

“Maybe we could hang out after?” Felixquestioned, “Ya know, when I’m done with dinner and all that shit.”

Dean immediately grinned ear to ear at thequestion. “Yeah, I would love that,” he answered with what sounded like genuineexcitement. Leonard, of-fucking-course, coughed and ruined the fucking moment.Dean’s smile faltered, and he shot a nervous look in Leonard’s direction. “Um,”he hummed nervously, “If that’s okay with you, Mr. Jackson.”

Oh, that was just the moment Leonard waswaiting for, and he was quick to jump on it. “I don’t think-”

“He’ll deal,” Felix declared cutting hisfather off before he could say no. “I’ll text you,” he promised before grabbinghis dad’s arm and started pulling him away. Come hell or high water he wasgoing to see Dean that night, that much Felix was sure. The real challenge wasgoing to be getting through dinner without thinking about him being all sweaty,dirty, and hot.

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[PANN] Kyungsoo Is Too Cute To Handle

source : pann

T/N : Fyi, Kyungsoo caused so much ruckus from his appearances at Lotte Concert lol. It became a hot topic at various k-forums, and his name even trended. Part of it was because fans missed him too much. But the main reason was, he was truly too cute to handle! 

[PANN] THERE’S A REASON WHY D.O. DOESN’T GROW HIS HAIR

How can he do serious acting with such an adorably cute face. I feel like my heart will stop (due to admiration) when I see his acting on the screen... No, but, how old is D.O. now? If we judge only by his face, he can’t be in 20s... He can even take a young boy role. What’s up with the fringe...

comments:

1. [+270,  -15] The second pict (from OP post). It’s like, “Instead of seeing the dentist, I’m out eating tonkatsu for real.”

     > [+103,  0]  ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

“The Mom said she’s gonna buy him tonkatsu. She said nothing about going to the hospital. The son isn’t happy about it.”

2. [+225,  -10] Once you fall in love with cutie Kyungsoo, there’s no way out. 

3. [+197,  -14] Adorable cutie ♡

4. [+116,  0] I understand why fans call him ‘poker-faced cutie’ ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ D.O. himself is poker-faced and serious. But from the perspective of others, he’s simply a soft penguin who just grows feathers.

5. [+88,  0] Isn’t Kyungsoo too cute when he smiles ㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠㅠ

6. [+74,  0] When compared to this, it looks like a totally different person ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ Aren’t those (picts in OP post) from his debut era? Why does he look even younger as the time passed...?

7. [+69,  0] No, but, his hair grows so freaking fast. At this rate, will he be having a bob hair during comeback ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

8. [+66,  0] So f*cking cute human

9. [+54,  0] He looks exactly like this ㅜㅠㅠ

10. [+48,  0] An adorable cutie, right

11. [+47,  0] Doh Kyungsoo’s charm is: he’s so f*cking cute but he himself doesn’t know about it, and plus when he’s called ‘cute’, he’s gonna get so flustered and say ‘stop it’ ㅠㅠ that makes him even cuter

12. [+45,  0] This boy is the type to receive love wherever he goes ㅋㅋㅋㅋ when he’s acting with big seniors for a movie too, they all cooed over him like he’s their precious kid ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ

13. [+44,  -1] Not an EXO fan and knows Doh Kyungsoo through his actor side, but I like him so much ㅜㅜㅜㅜㅜㅜㅜㅜㅜ He’s pretty even with long hair or short hair.

14. [+41,  0] I think D.O. is really handsome. He’s a good singer, a good actor, and handsome on top of that... I’m jealous.

15. [+37,  0] There’s nothing to hate about Doh Kyungsoo. How can you even hate him. Has he ever gotten himself in controversy eversince debut?

16. [+34,  0] No, but. This person is truly cute. He’s really cute, but not just that, his face is also so good looking. If we’re talking about handsome guys, we can pick every members in the group. But for me, this person is the most good-looking one. He’s really damn, damn, damn handsome. When I saw him on the screen, I even went ‘huks!’.

17. [+34,  0] There’s a reason why a person receives love wherever he goes. He deserves that. That’s why I’ll always trust and love him.

18. [+33,  0] Cute! Cute! Cutie Kyungsoo, I love you!

19. [+30,  0] Doh Kyungsoo is cute

20. [+30,  0] Isn’t Kyungsoo so pretty today ㅠㅠㅠ He has been filming lately so he must be tired, I hope he’s adjusting his condition well...

21. [+27,  0] Ah I’m going crazy, he’s too cute ㅋㅋㅋㅋ But, the way his personality (엄근진 : strict, serious, earnest) is the complete opposite of his looks, it adds more reason why he’s stan-worthy ㅋㅋㅌㅋ큐ㅠㅠㅠ

22. [+26,  0] It’s not easy (for an idol) to shave his hair to suit to the movie he played in, but even with shaved hair, he was so damn handsome. Look at our Kyungsoo. If someone is naturally handsome, the ‘hairstyle effect’ won’t work for him ㅠㅠ [T/N : ‘Hairstyle effect’ is a term to say, someone’s appearance will change according to his / her hairstyles. Ugly in some, pretty in some.]

23. [+26,  0] Even if he has hair, even if he has no hair, even if he cut it short, he looks handsome in everything, isn’t he.

24. [+25,  -3] For real. I’m a fan of another group. Still, I’ve a crush on this boy only.

25. [+24,  0] Ah... I’m a multifandom who collect the cuties, and... I approve him... he’s f*cking cute.

26. [+23,  0] Heard the webtoon ‘Bastard’ is going to be adapted into a movie. I wish he’ll be the one taking ‘the son’ role.

27. [+22,  0] No, he’s cute, but he’s also so freaking handsome. There are many visuals in EXO, but Doh Kyungsoo is truly handsome. He’s good looking even with shaved-head. 

28. [+22,  0] Seeing the 2nd picture (in OP post) makes me smashing a pillow.

29. [+20,  0] But personally, I think the ‘slightly short, but styled’ hair fits D.O. so well. Somehow he looks like a flower-boy with long hair. And with the slightly sporty-hair, he’s like a freshly looking boy. Though actually, whatever he does, he emits this ‘young man’ feels ㅋㅋㅋㅋ Generally, since he looks so roundish-roundish, and his eyes that are like jade beads.

30. [+19,  0] I saw Doh Kyungsoo acting in ‘It’s Okay, That’s Love’ and thought he was good. So I looked him up, and found that he’s in EXO. And that surprised me so much. Because of that, I kept looking for their videos, getting attracted, and now I’m a fan of every members ㅋㅋ Kyungsoo is really cute, damn he himself doesn’t know about it, but the fact is, whatever he does is so freaking cute. This adorable person.

etc

#exo #kyungsoo #d.o. #cute #adorable

[derkastellan]

Review: Tales from the Loop, Part 1

OrSo, we’re two sessions in playing Tales from the Loop, the role-playing game set in an alternate 1980s’ Sweden. All in all a pleasant experience so far and an easy game to get into with comparatively minor flaws. We made characters and played the first scenario out of the four-scenario/four-season mini-campaign detailed in the main book, “Summerbreak and Killer Birds”.

Getting in character

First session was mostly character building. I was hoping for a swift run because it all looked extremely straight-forward, most of the time choosing a thing or two out of lists of two or three. Attributes and skill scores are rapidly distributed and things like age and name were settled quick...

Things you pick or make up are...

a Problem: A day-to-day-life trouble that dominates your life.

a Drive: Your motivation, especially why you'd want to go on adventures.

a Pride: What makes you special and stand out. Helps occasionally.

an Anchor: A person that makes you feel safe and understood. Refuge.

NPC relationships: People in the setting you have links to.

Each class (here called Type) has its own two or three suggestions for each item “or make up on your own”. Fair enough! After all, you should be able to relate to your character and its problems, people in their life, drives, etc.

Only... Though people could relate to their Type there was still a need to scavenge the lists of the others. Most of the items are suggestive and open enough. But a master list long at least double as long as the individual items of the Types combined would have been more useful. The Type descriptions give the impression you can pick fast (and some people might) but this is the part where you can really get bogged down... 

Not that I mind, really! I’d rather flesh out the details of a kid worth playing with the person stuck with it than fiddle with lots of scores and mechanical fiddling, especially since it often means helping someone make a choice who plays a system for the first time while having only a rough idea what their scores will amount to.

Rules 

Frankly, Tales from the Loop shines strongly in this regard. Its rules chapter is full of examples, short, and elegant. Always good to have a simple resolution mechanic:

Add skill and attribute score. 

Apply any bonus for items, help, or situation.

Roll as many d6.

All dice which show sixes are successes

Most tests pass with 1 success, some need 2, nigh-impossible requires 3 successes. Success above the required minimum buys additional effects. Most effects are suggested already in the skill descriptions.

But the shiny bit, the bit I appreciate the most, is a table showing how likely you are to succeed with how many dice. I’d rather tell my players the probability of success than having them guess. I’d guess badly myself if prompted when leaving the world of d20. If you want for example to have a fifty-fifty chance of making it you need 4 dice, 80% needs 9... So, a handy table!

And coming back to character creation I can tell players how their chance of success will be given the scores they put down, making an informed decision much easier.

The rules fit on 8 pages.

Introducing the Kids

Every mystery starts with scenes updating us about the everyday lives of kids. According to the advice in the books I let the players chose their scenes and played the scenes with them:

Making dinner for the family while the alcoholic dad sits by because mom is too sick to get up.

Getting into a fight because of being taunted by someone about a boy who has a crush on her.

Finding a sack with abandoned kittens by roadside and hiding them with mom from the estranged dad.

Coming late for dinner to find mom home alone again, smoking like a chimney stack, and querying the boy about his teammates’ dads.

I was quite pleased with how it turned out but hope to stay people more away from their family situations given that the group is 12 to 14 and will be 13 to 14 in the next session. 

I feel that there is a chance wasted here to set up rival kids, friends, crushes, etc in the character creation. The NPCs suggested are adventure hooks, not a real source of character play. It’s basically left to the GM to build this part during the “Questions” phase of making the Kids. 

A first mystery

The initial mystery from the four-adventure campaign played well enough. Problems arose around some minor details and the mechanics. A few spoilers follow after the page break, but only for the first adventure contained in the book and not other parts of the mini campaign.

So, it’s about stopping a scourge of birds made more intelligent and aggressive. I loved the illustration - blue tits sitting on mummified corpses and what not - that basically had nothing to do with the adventure... which was a bit disappointing.

So, two rogue scientists implant microchips into the brains of birds, enhancing them in unexpected ways. There’s a flock of increasingly aggressive and territorial birds. And the pigeons start... to talk. It works in an 80s’ story kind of way, cool stuff.

The players follow clues and find out more about what is doing it and end up stopping the whole thing. Some of the scenes set in the book do not connect directly to other scenes or yield little the players do not already know but they work to increase the mood considerably if you let them. 

Example: By the time the kids arrive at the ornithologist, they probably already know a lot. The thing here is that many things they can easily learn here don’t add to their knowledge (= “bird don’t behave like that”, duh). You can just reinforce what they know in many ways.

All the lonely people

But beyond that, NPCs behave in contradictory ways... The ornithologist kind of locks himself in his house, trying to kill his own birds. But before that he collects lots of useful information - the so-called recluse knows that a certain expert moved out of his house in a neighboring village, for example. He is like a collector of exposition, all done neatly off-screen, and after having done what is required to him, he goes to the state the players find him, that ensures he has no further hand in the adventure.

Similarly, Gunnar’s niece Majsan cycles around the island, observing the birds (so that players trip over her) but simultaneously has to hide from spying neighbors that suspect her of squatting. She is concerned about the birds and Gunnar is her uncle but she will not accompany the players to the showdown that involves both...

Another minor gripe is that there are two mentally disturbed characters in the adventure, Gunnar and Mats. Two out of three NPCs is a bit much. 

It’s also not convincing that Gunnar gets locked into the final location. Given his remaining supplies at the end of the adventure this would either eventually amount to murder by starving him or there must be more ways to leave (opening windows, a service hatch, etc). I can believe he’s too obsessed to leave, no problem. But I think he could, right?

Don’t call it combat

Another problem I found is the mechanics for showdowns. These are essentially light-weight combat rules. Players need to score a certain amount of successes within a limited number of self-chosen scenes. (Of course these scenes can be chases, ambushes, any kind, which is great!)

The goal is usually to achieve 2 or 3 successes per kid. A very strict reading of what little is written in that tight little section says each players gets one roll (and Things from the Flood seems to corroborate that) and scene to play it out in. I must admit I did not understand the mechanic well but also found it a poor fit for the situation, so I hope to put it to better use in the 2nd showdown. I simply went with the logic of the scene and players who played on the fact that one kid was the nephew of Gunnar’s love interest.

The mechanic, however, foresees that the kids make a plan but this can be safely ignored in this showdown because the kids don’t know the layout of the ship and about the presence and state of Gunnar, etc. You need information to make a plan! The 2nd adventure seems better in this regard. This first showdown would best be framed with each scene set in response to what they learn after they’re in. Still, the setup of this showdown is likely to put the kids in an extremely favorable position, narrative-wise. It’s not unreasonable to be able to lock themselves in the ship, keep the birds out, and beat up both Gunnar and the machine, for example. What my players did, however, left them on the good side of the mad scientist and made him a recurring character that lead out of a 2nd adventure minor plot hole (or more like plot lag).

Regarding the number of successes... even when engaged in some of their key skills, players often missed rolling a single six if at all any. Given that they need 2 or 3 sixes in each showdown I read so far, some conditions apply if they players actually want to win:

Ideally they get some bonus dice through equipment.

Sadly, their iconic items were almost all horribly out of place for this finale except for a sturdy leather jacket.

Save exactly one luck till the end. (You cannot re-roll twice.)

Have as many conditions available to still check to trade for successes if you need to push for a compromise.

Have as little conditions checked yet to roll high.

In other words, pushing for the finale when being not in a good shape is a bad idea. Having a moment with another kid or even your anchor if possible is a great idea, like encouraging a scared kid or calming an upset one. Being able to push a roll and re-roll fails with Luck seems vital here. The likelihood of having to push for a compromise is still rather high for the tougher threat levels requiring 3 or 4 sixes per player.

An extended example would have been most welcome here. Neither Tales from the Loop nor Things from the Flood contain one for this key mechanic. I do not speak from experience here, but it is still mechanically simple enough to reason it out.

The good thing here is you can pick your role and play to your strengths. The Jock fends off birds, for example. You get to maximize your dice and if I prepare in any way, that should help a lot.

I was pleased, however, with playing the end in a way that did not force an Extended Trouble on this scene.

Conclusion

Tales from the Loop is fun to play. The mechanics do not get in the way. Stories are simple, the Sweden of the 80s makes a cool setting. Unless you really push for short scenes the whole “play one mystery in one session” thing probably won’t work out. Knowing my group I didn’t expect it to.

According to the rules-as-written Luck points don’t seem to re-generate, but I like rewards for cool and engaged play. Kids that go out of their way to do right by others need some reward, right? Good karma.

The terse description of Extended Trouble leaves it to the GM to hash out what the consequences of these rules are. This is something I abhor in most RPGs: They give you the rules and at best they explain them well. But they don’t explain how they play together. In The One Ring I had to figure out the fine-tuned interplay between Hope and Fellowship in order to tell them to my players. It would help if some hints were given to a winning strategy when dealing with rules. Tales from the Loop goes part of the way by at least telling you how likely you are to score any success (but omits the tables for more successes...).

In a game in many ways as simple as this one there should have been room for going this extra mile. I assume play-testers and authors gain this understanding and should try to transmit it to GMs in the least and also players at best.

Still, I’m three sessions in and I love the characters and setting. Will write more about the next session soon.

#tales from the loop #role playing #rpg #pen & paper

[marvelsocialmedia]

#buckybarnes #barnes family #itwasthe30s #it was the30s #source: my mom whos the 2nd of 8 kids #and still feels this way #marvelsocialmedia #olderbrotherbucky #marvel #marvelmedia

[lee-changjae]

[TRANS] 20130722 Hot Debut Diary Interview - Changjae①

[Hot Debut Diary] MR.MR Changjae① "A kid full of curiosity with a strong sense of responsibility"

These days, new idol groups continue to come out every day. Some may say, "There are too many, I don't know who is who," but if you look closely, everyone is charming and passionate in their own ways. Their devotion to work hard is equal to their love for music. Many more idol groups have come out within the last year in particular. Because of this, groups who debuted at that time shake their heads together as one when they recall their debut. Also, they had experienced something very important. They personally experienced that you won't survive unless you work hard and do your best.

MR.MR are also one of the male idol groups who entered the music industry last year. They are a 5 member group consisting of leader Jin, Tey, Ryu, Changjae, and Doyeon who released their debut single album "Who's That Girl" in October 2012. They are now a rookie who are warmly welcoming their 1st year since debut.

With a great passion for singing and dancing, the dream to become a singer was obtained. They made their debut after a long time of their sweat and tears falling. Let's find out the story of what happened to the members before becoming MR.MR through 'Hot Debut Diary'.

MR.MR's 'Hot Debut Diary', the first main character is Changjae.

Name: Lee Changjae DOB: November 29th, 1991 Birthplace: Shinlim-dong, Seoul Conception Dream: A dream of a white tiger licking his mother's ear. Siblings: A sister younger by 4 years

His mother had the dream herself about Changjae's conception. A very large white tiger pounced at his mother and licked her ear. After that, his mother knew she was pregnant, and Changjae was born. Changjae and his 4-years younger sister argued a lot when they were young, but now that his sister is a high school senior, he is a considerate older brother who goes to pick her up when she has to study late.

source | Herald Corp translation | LCJ1129

▶ A very curious kid, why is that?

I wasn't a kid who cried or whined when I was young. However, my nickname was 'hammer hands'. Because when I put my hands together, I took apart everything and would destroy a lot of things. And there really was a lot of curiosity. My mom told me that I asked "Why?" all the time. On the days we would go out in the car, she must have had a lot of stress.

One day, my mom said that she tore out home-study material. I solved the problem by myself but I kept on asking why 2 plus 2 was 4. Haha. I don't remember well, but I heard my mom and dad say that I was an annoying kid.

I liked playing outside. I've preferred the outdoors more than being inside since I was a baby! But my parents trusted me and let me run around and play outside freely.

I also ran events like the preschool festival. I wasn't a kid who was scared of standing in front of others. My dad was a gymast, a table tennis player, and an archer. Even now, when I arm wrestle with my dad, sometimes I win and sometimes I lose. I won for the first time when I was in 4th grade. It was the opposite for my grandfather, who was unable to stay athletic, so my father taught me many sports.

Since I was young, I also went out to many ballparks. I have many memories of playing around with my dad.

▶ My dad is my idol

When I think about the past, I have many memories with my dad. It was like I was close friends with my parents, the atmosphere between the family was always peaceful too.

I distinctly remember riding in the car with my dad at night, the galaxy you could see through the window still remains clear in my mind. At that time, we didn't have GPS in the car and went while looking at a paper map, but my dad was driving as I said. At one point, the cars behind us started following us. The cars behind us didn't know the road well either, they just trusted us and followed us. What made it worse was that our car wasn't even going the right way either. It might have been somewhere around Hongcheon, but I don't remember clearly now. I really mean it! I have a really terrible sense of direction. Haha. As I recall this again, I'm sorry to the car owners who followed us.

I also took trips with my family, but many memories were made with my dad in particular when we played sports together. Because of that, I was influenced by my dad a lot. When I was young, my picture were all taken by my dad. There are about 8 heavy albums at home.

These days, I really think "I want to be like my dad" a lot. More and more, I want to become someone like my dad. I can't express it well, but I'm always grateful and I admire him.

▶ 'Elementary Student' Changjae's Keyword Set

I was born in Shinlimdong and lived there until I was in 1st grade of elementary school. Then I moved to Bongcheondong when I was in 2nd grade of elementary school. I transferred to Cheongryong Elementary School, at that time I was a student who liked sports and joking around.

I started learning racquetball when I was in 4th grade. I learned it at the racquetball center, and as you'd expect this was recommended by my dad. At first, it was my dad's interest, but he took me with him. It was really fun. Actually, there was a class specifically for children, but I was an outsider in class so I joined the adult members and received lessons together with them. I also received praise from the teacher, saying I did very well with the training that was difficult even for the adults.

However, even now I feel like my desire to win grows stronger especially when I'm playing sports. Haha. I even went to enter a contest and won a prize once. At that time, my dream was to make racquetball popular.

I also learned how to play traditional music in a class at the same time as my school club activities. I was quite popular in middle school, when I was in 6th grade I was assigned to be the leader. There are also lots of memories from when I was in the traditional music department. I also had the experience of traveling across the country during the boy scouts' activities. At the time of the expedition, my teacher suggested that I become the flag bearer, and I willingly received it, but truthfully it was really difficult. Although I was on the taller side in 4th grade, it wasn't an easy task to carry a large flag and lead the way.

However, my competitive spirit was ignited even here. I think I liked when someone would entrust something to me. I think I gained more of a sense of responsibility as well, it was hard but after doing it I would feel more accomplished.

I really enjoyed doing many activities when I was in elementary school. Then I entered middle school and reached the first turning point of my life.

Little kid Lee Changjae who asked "Why?" all the time followed his father and did sports, and received acknowledgement for his excellent ability. He was outgoing with a strong sense of responsibility when appointed the flag bearer during the cross-country expedition and leading the performances of the traditional music department. After 6 truly fulfilling years, he entered middle school and fell into a new world called 'dance'.

▶ The story of middle school student Changjae who got to know 'dance' continues in part 2 of "Hot Debut Diary".

source | Herald Corp translation | LCJ1129

#mr.mr #미스터미스터 #changjae #20130722 #p:interview #t:interview #t:trans #p:predebut

[tasmiq]

Jumu'ah Khuthbah: 08/01/2021

I must begin with a lament for the sudden separation with our frontline workers especially, to this pandemic. Allah Ta'ala (our Divine source the most High) forgive them for their shortcomings and bless them infinitely, as we have read; that those who are taken after being in service of humanity, will be taken to Jannah (heaven) - insha'Allah (with the will of the Divine as our hearts' wish)!

Now I can reflect on these timely inspirations that I have been blessed with. These blessed finds are making me deal with the ravaging force of the Covid pandemic and even making me grateful that I had an accident. I can dedicate proper time to relishing their wisdom you see, Alhamdulillah (Gratitude to our Source).

#1 Patriot Act. (Ala your Ammu's (Mum's) high school hearts)

What I relish about this show is that it presents politics, as needed humour. Needed in the fact that it is an unavoidable part of our lives that we have to engage - and with humour as Hasan Minhaj beautifully, aptly and honestly does, as an immigrant American from South Asia.

https://www.netflix.com/title/80239931?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp

#2 Food, earth, happiness: The story of sustainability.

As my former khuthbah (akin to a sermon) elucidated - it challenges us to reinvent what we have come to know about gardening and farming - as dealing with religion/faith. You are encouraged to let nature take control and listen to it, not control it! Striking immense resonance to this journey in religion/faith.

https://www.pmlydon.com/final-straw/

#3 The Beginning of Life (the movie).

I just loved that every kind of human being is celebrated despite their diversity. From diverse countries, diverse races, diverse economic brackets. For a shared practice of raising children. Subhana'Allah (Praise to our Source)!

https://www.netflix.com/title/80106927?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp

#4 The Minimalists.

It speaks to how hoarding stuff through commercialism is a subtle trap, that we all fall into! Note the 2nd hand unused goods in Abbu's (Dad's) office, and drawers and containers of your Ammu's (Mom's) unused belongings. When you shed these things, you develop clarity. Again, Subhana'Allah (Praise)!

https://www.netflix.com/title/81074662?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp

#5 Down to Earth.

What this mostly taught me is that we are not all victims to modernisation processes. Some are blessed with the insight to return to older more fulfilling systems. Just as your Mama (Uncle Tahmid) and Ammu (Mum mwah) were drawn to traditional martial arts...!

https://downtoearthfilm.com/payl

#6 The Social dilemma.

The documentary that started it all. It made me realise that social media is designed to be a trap, that sinks you deeper into its lair. I realised this especially through Facebook - as I reflected that after the near-death experience that we had, I was blessed with a totally new perspective to life. Where my past didn't define me, my present does. Besides, I had to carry people's baggage, with my own, spiced up by commercialism. A nauseating quicksand that I simply had to delete from my life, for bringing less and less benefit. Alhamdulillah (Gratitude)!

https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp

#7 Makoko, Nigeria.

This is a floating 'slum' which has captured this Alice in its Wonderland, as Markets of Warwick (Warwick Junction in Durban, South Africa) had done before my accident, when I could use my legs to experience these treasures of human resilience - first hand...

https://youtu.be/E67HTbrDWJg

#8 Mango Dreams. Independent movie on Netflix.

After boycotting Bollywood for the recent sectarian violence against Muslims in New Delhi, India in 2020 - this movie was a Godsend in showing me that it wasn't about religion; but politics, that stirred the ruthless violence. I even boycotted my favourite actor Amir Khan of Bollywood for staying silent as a Muslim Indian!

Interestingly, Nasruddin Shah - also a Muslim Indian and Bollywood star amongst other independent productions - has a cameo appearance in Mango Dreams. Why this is significant is because he was one of the few Bollywood stars that had the courage to speak about the 2020 Delhi violence targeting Muslims. But Mango Dreams is not about the abhorrent 2020 saga, but as far back as the ravaging partition that separated India from Pakistan. It proves how destructive politics can be, when it guises itself in the name of a religion.

https://www.netflix.com/title/80239642?s=a&trkid=13747225&t=cp

Every night my world is being reshaped; now that I have even succumbed to your Abbu's (dad Shamim's) challenge, of no screen time in the evenings. I can learn about 'Memory Palace' to help revive my short-term memory. When I look onto the clock which symbolises a terrace of Dr Dukes - the organic gardener (our latest book read), after seeping the energy of Dr Rupert Sheldrake 'under my pillow' about Science and Spirituality like a sunflower radiating into my brain (another book, gifted by my bro). Then to the flying saucer made by Muntaha symbolising my mirror by the sink to facilitate brushing my teeth; and Mahfouz' red toy car-part on the toilet cover symbolising my electric tooth brush, that colours my imagination - because I have space for it to!

Now for your Abbu's Arabic khuthbah (sermon), bismillah (in the name of the Divine)!

https://youtu.be/p9IOqd1LpkA

[womenofcolor15]

Future’s BM Brittni Backtracks Abuse Allegations, Says She Doesn’t Want To Paint Him As A ‘Violent Hateful Man’ + Future Jet Sets With New Boo Dess Dior

  It seems the drama has finally settled, and now, Future’s son’s mother, Brittni Mealy, wants to clear the air. Some craziness went down during their son’s birthday party, which caused Brittni to pop off on the ATL rapper. Now, she’s rapping to a different beat. More inside…

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It seems Future stays in a toxic, headline making situation. And its almost as if he craves being involved in some mess because he’s always entangled in some drama.

Over the weekend, Future and his son’s mother, Brittni Mealy, reunited to celebrate their son Prince’s 8th birthday. The festivities featured an Iron Man-themed bash.

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Brittni shared several photos from the b'day bash, wishing her son a Happy Birthday. We noticed in the 2nd photo below, she cropped Future out of the picture. She didn’t fully crop him out though. She left just enough of his image (blonde dreads) in the photo to see she did the Diddy crop on the flick:

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You can see the High Off Life rapper featured in his birthday video compilation below:

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Looks like everyone had fun. So, what’s tea?

Well, during the party (or as it was ending) Brittni hopped on social media sharing video of herself yelling and screaming at her son’s father. Check it:

#Future babymama #Brittni arguing after their son #Prince birthday. Allegedly Brittni is mad because Future has been with another girl from Atl pic.twitter.com/CzJq6kkHh8

— WHATSPOPPINTEA (@whatspoppintea) December 5, 2020

On IG Stories, she wrote Future told his son “f*ck him” and that he threatened to SHOOT her. Peep the posts below:

”I don’t even do this but @Future you a real p*ssy. You knew to hide and run when I cam cause you don’t want this smoke b*tch boy. You ran from my kids p*ssy a** h*e!! Run like yo scary a** always do b*tch!!,” she wrote.

”Who TF tells a 8 year old fuck him and he will shoot up his mom n*gga a real b*tch” she continued.

Yikes. Sis was pissed.

Now that the dust has settled, Brittni is backtracking on what she said about her son’s father. After dragging him on social media, she then went on to insist Future is a good father and not the man she’s painting him to be when she goes off on her social media rants.

"With the disrespect of women being at all time high and the whole Meg [Thee Stallion] situation shooting a women is not being taken lightly," Brittni wrote. "With that being said I just wanna say when people are in a heated situation things can escalate quickly and we are all human we say things we don't mean."

She admitted she said some things she really didn’t mean during a heated moment and didn’t really mean it.

”I can say In 11 years I've knew my sons dad I haven't felt threaten by him nor has my son," she continued. "The other night was a isolated situation." She said it was important to her that she doesn't "paint a picture of him to the world like he is this violent hateful man and bad mean father."

"He make sure I'm good he make sure our son good we family we go through things and that's that," she explained.

Oh.

Read her full message below:

No surprise here. Brittni has been known to blast the rapper on social media and be wrapped up in his arms shortly after.

We doubt the 37-year-old rapper even gave it second thought now that he has a new woman in his life. He has been cupcakin' with 22-year-old Dess Dior - who is Lil Baby's girlfriend Jayda Cheaves' best friend.

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His new BAE has been busy posting pictures of herself with Future's lyrics in the captions:

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Fans have been accusing Brittni of starting ish because Future has a new boo, following his situationship with Lori Harvey:

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Today...

Dess is helping Future pick out some threads.

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[rodislandpsychic]

Previous Owner Rosie Castle, Entitled Westerner, and a Mother’s Written Letter on Behalf of Her Husband Appealing Denied Veteran Aid Hearing Loss Claim

I had a major revelation from my previous post regarding Rosie who is this really bright and beautiful person I met on Second Life.

In my previous post, I was doing a rundown all the people named Rosie I’ve met in my Life. It’s because over the last 15 years of working in the Psychic Field, I’ve come to realize I’ve been shown people all throughout my Life that preps me for when I run into someone in the future.

This ties to my previous Instagram post about “Crisis of Infinite Earths” that aired on the CW Network. Steven Amell was wrapping up his television show “Arrow” for the character Green Arrow where he becomes Spectre.

In the film, Oliver Queen as Spector tells the Anti-Monitor that his entire Life has prepared him for this fight.

[Watch the Spectre vs. Anti-Monitor Scene on YouTube]

It’s the same with me where I’ve been prepped all my Life where I’ve been shown people in my past who have certain names and do certain things. I spent time listening or observing.

So when I run across someone, especially when they’re more intelligent than me, I have to pull from a different source because I can’t take them on pound for pound when it comes to Intellect.

PREVIOUS OWNER ROSIE CASTLE

I had forgotten that the previous owner of the house I’m now in is Rosie Castle with the same name as Rosie on Second Life.

I was reminded of this when our next door neighbor Eva showed up at our door. She’s a 2nd Grader and was locked out of her grandfather’s house because she brought the bag that didn’t have the key to the house in it.

I was helping my mom with an online E-signature document. I was surprised to see the silhouette of a small little girl walking past the window and to the front door.

There was no doorbell sound. But I told my mom that I think someone’s out there. So my mom went out and looked and found Eva.

I can indirectly prove this using my ability where news mirrors me every 24 hours.

News for 1/17 of 2020 showed how a sneaky snake crawled past the door bell camera without ringing the doorbell.

I take Screenshots of the news every 24 hours to show when something happened that echoes what is going on with me in real life.

Screenshotting is a method I developed back in 2004 when I was trying to figure out a way to prove stuff I witnessed coinciding with what pops up in the news.

My adopted daughter Jordan used to ask me why I would always take a Screenshot of every Snapchat. It was a force of habit like UFO Chaser. You never know when a UFO could surface so you always want to have your camera on you.

The same goes for the Psychic Field. You never know when news article will surface that echoes something you witnessed in the last 24 hours.

If you don’t take the Screenshot, you won’t have visual proof. So when I take a news article, I’ll take the screenshot of the web browser with the time stamp and date in the lower right corner.

ROSIE’S HUSBAND LEFT HER AND THE DAUGHTER

The interesting thing about how we came to this house is that it was across the street from what we were looking at.

When we met the husband Manuel Castle, he had a whole shrine dedicated to Captain American all types of beers, which follows that Superhero theme.

After we took over the house, we learned later on that Rosie and the daughter Jocelyn had found their own house while the father Manuel lives in town.

The timing of this is where we left Avenue 313 which is 3/13 for Jordan’s birthday.

This was stuff that unfolded 8/16 of 2018. My mom had gotten into a fight with my Aunt Julia who owned the house because she clashed with my stepdad.

Then we were cleaning up around the house, Aunt Julia was upset about an old crockpot that had been thrown away that she felt she could fix. My Aunt started yelling at my mother in the front yard in front of all the neighbors. It hurt my mom’s feelings.

My mother is older than Aunt Julia by a couple years. My Aunt Julia was eccentric since she’s a spinster.

She has a Walnut farm with llamas and a horse. But what is unfortunate is that she has no barn built. We felt sorry for the animals out in the cold.

My Aunt Julia had this unusual ritual where she says that you can’t feed the animals unless you look away or don’t look in their direction.

If I figured out what that is. Jordan is born Year of the Horse. When I would write Psychic Readings on Instagram and such, it’s where you can’t look directly at Jordan in a sense. You have to look away.

It’s kind of like with laying out food for wild creatures when you live in Washington State. You don’t just stand there and stare at the food you left out. The wild critters like squirrels and birds will be too afraid to approach with you watching them.

Since Jordan is born Year of the Horse, that’s what it is.

This incident with Jordan wrapped itself up mirroring the house on Avenue 313.

ROSIE WAS SHOWING UP AT OUR HOUSE

Rosie was trying to encourage carpooling with my mother to Church but my mom didn’t want to do so because she didn’t want to be dependent on Rosie for a pick-up.

So that’s where I feel I am with Rosie. What’s interesting is that I feel I’m getting close. In the last 2 years, I’ve felt my journey is drawing to a close.

I’ve just been doing this since 2004 and it seems to drag on.

ROSIE THE RIVETER

While I was doing some research, I ran across Rosie. One thing I’ve noticed over the years is I’ll be led to information.

Rosie the Riveter was on the Saturday Evening Post 5/29 of 1943

I’m born 5/29

Riv(ET)er = River + ET

ET = 5th Letter 20th Letter = 5th Sign 20 = Leo XX = Sun Female

So that’s where Rosie is in history

EMPATHY

i gave some thought to what Rosie was asking me about those who are empathetic or have empathy.

Empathy is understanding people.

Rosie made me think about something on whether I’m empathetic. If we’re talking about face to face encounters, I’m very accommodating.

Online communication in text is cold. You can say things where you didn’t mean for it to sound cold, but it does.

Like when when Rosie asked if I’m autistic, that took me by surprise.

The reason why I claim I’ve been groomed to be empathetic is because I spent most of my Life living under the same roof as my stepdad who has low Emotional Intelligence.

My stepdad has a temper. While growing up as a kid, if you said or did something wrong, you could set him off and he would be in this foul mood that would last for days or even weeks.

So you had to tiptoe on eggshells. You had to be careful with what you said or did or else you’d set him off.

I feel that is what groomed me for empathy where you have to understand the needs, feelings, and behavior of that person so you can manage them.

It was to a point where my mom told me that the reason why she would punish me before my stepdad did was because she wanted to put on a show or where my stepdad could see that I was being punished for my actions.

So you’d get punished for things and it was so that your punishment wouldn’t be worse.

It was kind of a sad way to live. Often times, I kind of felt that my mom was punishing me over little things that I really don’t think would have set my stepdad off.

But maybe it was a blessing in disguise living with that kind of person because if I didn’t, maybe I’d be worse off and completely unaware of other’s feelings.

So in a weird way, living in fear forces you to be empathetic.

AUTISM VS. MY MOM AS A REMEDIAL ENGLISH TEACHER

Rosie asking if I was autistic took me by surprise. However, I did give it some thought.

To completely push out such ideas without looking at them is unhealthy. Then you get into denial.

But if you can look it in the face or address it, then you’re better off.

I think I also found out why my mother was a high school remedial English teacher. My mother had to deal with students who had learning disabilities ranging from ADD to Autism.

My mom would work with those high school students.

What I found with my mom is that with her 28 years of working with those students is that she could tell by watching children like at Church whether they are autistic just by their behavior.

I think that worked out in my favor because if my mom had known I was autistic, she would’ve let me know and she would’ve taken measures or steps in dealnig with a child who has autism.

So I don’t think I have autism.

COLOR OF YOUR ARGUMENT

Talking with Rosie made me think about an old post I did about “Magic: The Gathering” with the Color Wheel.

The colors of the Magic: The Gathering Wheel can be used to determine what kind of argument is being used by your opponent.

GREEN: Nature or what you do naturally

RED: Fire and Passion

BLACK: Pestilence, Death, Anarchy, Poison

BLUE: Knowledge

YELLOW: Justice

This was from a company Wizards of the Coast based in Washington State.

There was a test you could take that would determine the color of your “Star Wars” Light Saber.

“Light Saber” in ESPanol means Light to know or “Knowing the Light.” If you know what kind of Light you have, you know what argument.

If you know what argument your opponent is using by its color, you can use the opposite color as counterbalance.

People will usually use hybrids or work with two colors that are often adjacent to one another on the color wheel.

COLORS SEEN IN HOW PEOPLE COMMUNICATE

These colors are seen in people with how they communicate. For example, if you see someone using Knowledge, then they’re using the color Blue. So you would want to do either Green or Red.

Green is Nature or doing what’s natural while Red is passion.

When I work in the Psychic Field, I usually go up against people who are more intelligent than me or have Science backing them up.

Since a lot of my information isn’t accepted by the Scientific Community, I can’t use Blue. I have to either be passionate with Red or do what’s natural with Green.

That’s where I’ll show what is seen in Nature to reinforce my claim.

When I say Earth’s Electromagnetic Field as a Neural Network Hive Mind with 8 billion Subconscious Minds as Planet Size Brain Cells mirrors the human brain’s electrical field neural network hive mind with millions of brain cells, I’m leaning what is seen in Nature.

FORCING COLOR CHANGES OR FLUSHING OUT COLORS

In my travels working in the Psychic Field, I’ll usually run across people play with  a Blue Deck as Information.

They’ll tend to dual wield with a White Deck. A Blue White Deck is Knowledge and Justice. That’s a strong combination and very good.

However, what’s tricky about it is where some people may they wield Knowledge as Blue and do it in the name of Justice and something good, but it could be a deception.

It could be deceiving others or self-deception. That’s where something that seems White for Justice is really Black for Pestilence and Death.

You this with Politicians where they think they do things for a Good Cause which is a White Deck, but it is really Black Deck.

That also includes people who lie to themselves. It may seem like they’re on the side of Good, but they’re using bad information or have been tricked into supporting something bad.

I personally try to use this method monitor myself. I like to think that it helps keep me in check.

Some people just argue and don’t even know what they’re arguing about.

ENTITLED WESTERNER

Rosie is in England and she used a term called an “entitled Westerner,” which I’ve never heard before. 

I can understand it. I know how we’re in the United States and have a lot of luxuries here where we’re better of than 3rd world countries.

However, Rosie prescribing this to my behavior was interesting to me because I could see it in younger people like Millennials.

The reason why I don’t feel that I can be easily grouped with that of entitled Westerners is because I’m not a normal person.

The stuff I work with is tied to the economy, film industry, television, and music.

Rosie hasn’t worked with me long enough to see it. Rebecca and Alexia who have been with me longer than 3 years have seen a lot of it.

DISEASES AND OUTBREAKS

While it seems like I may be finicky or don’t want to do this or that, I’ve got things I stress about.

I have to deal with diseases and outbreaks.

This is something others can’t deal with. So when someone like Rosie suggests that maybe I should get a part-time job, she has a point in the context of regular people.

Nobody ever said Life was fair.

That’s just how it is.

However, what’s really unnerving is that while I’m being told to go get a part-time job which means cutting down the time dealing with major international disasters, you’ve got diseases that are threatening people and where I’m one of the few people can take on this problem who is being made to get a part-time job.

DEAD BIRDS IN WALES

Rosie is in England and she hasn’t seen how the news is affected by things that go on in the Psychic Field.

News for 1/17 of 2020 reported dead birds hitting the Earth fleeing from a bird of prey.

That’s what it looks like when there are hiccups in the system with England that is lighting up with Rosie’s tag.

Rosie hasn’t worked long enough with me where I can pull her aside and address that with her.

That’s the problem I had with Jordan who only had a run of 6 months. I couldn’t pull Jordan off to the side and tell Jordan to ease up on what she’s doing. My hands were tied.

It ties into my problem where you can’t ask for help from people because they don’t believe it’s really happening or anything tied to me.

So you’re stuck in this rut.

MOTHER’S LETTER OF APPEAL

I’m including a copy of my mother’s letter of appeal to Veterans Affairs that denied my stepdad’s file for aid over his hearing loss.

It’s a very well-written letter. The representative sending it off complimented her saying that you could take over my job.

I show this because there’s a claim that you can tell a lot about the child through the mother in 2016. It was debunked saying that it’s not, but there is something that can be said about parents and how they shape or mold their children.

My mother was a high school remedial English teacher for 28 years where she would deal with students who had learning disabilities.

While she may not be a qualified physician to diagnose patients, she has spent enough time autistic children.

In our Church, my mom would point which children are autistic.

This letter is just showing how a my mom with 2 Bachelors in Psychology and Social Work and a Masters in Education communicates.

I’m not even half the writer she is, but at least I get to see what good writing looks like.

It sets a standard. Maybe I’ll never be as good of a writer as my mom, but you’re exposed to good writing.

The way that my mom is trying to file for an appeal to get a little bit of help financially mirrors my attempt to raise money for what I’m doing to survive and be able to continue my research.

Both of us are of above average Intelligence. My mom used to memorize speeches at the age of 4 and a sharp memory. She could remember the exact clothing people wore when she first met them.

It’s unfortunate at how we as people who contribute a lot to the United States don’t get any aid and have to struggle.

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December 30, 2019

Department of Veterans Affairs

Gentlemen:

I asked my wife to help me write this letter so I can adequately express myself in my attempt to seek further review of my claim for loss of hearing and tinnitus while serving in the Air Force as a jet engine mechanic from October 25, 1957 to June 6, 1962.

At the outset, I would like to thank you for thanking me for my military service. Joining the military in 1954 at age 17 after my sophomore year in high school was the best thing that happened to me because it saved me from my battered home life and freed me from my mother’s bondage and beatings.  I thank the military for giving me the opportunity to be able to support myself at such a young and inexperienced age, become self-reliant, restore my self-esteem, and prove my own worth.  

Please allow me to address your “Reasons for Decision” 1) Service connection for bilateral hearing loss. Veteran’s e-file and c-file contain no in-service documentation of hearing exams. Upon my discharge from the Air Force in June 1962, I had to undergo a complete physical examination that directed me to go through one cubicle to another.  My last destination was with the doctor who looked at the exam results, told me that I had a hearing loss, and advised me to file a claim for it. He added that my claim would be based on the extent of my hearing loss as it was, i.e., any further deterioration would not be honored.   I was not given a copy of my hearing test result.  The one and only document that was handed to me upon my discharge was the DD-Form 214 for my service in the Air Force. 2) Service connection for tinnitus. There is no in-service documentation of reports or complaints of hearing loss or tinnitus. In the winter of 1961 and spring of 1962, the Air Force sent me to Fairbanks, Alaska, as a mechanic to “tint” the B-52 bombers. This assignment involved six months of working under the plane with the engine’s loud noise running while I communicated with the pilot through my headphones. It was during this tour of duty that I started to hear ringing in my ears. The ringing was a nuisance, but it didn’t hurt. Since I was fully task-oriented and not a complainer by nature, I simply ignored the ringing when it occurred and thought nothing more of it.   When the VES audiologist asked me last December 5 if I knew of my tinnitus, I answered that I was (quoting from your letter, p. 3 of 4) “first being aware of it about one year ago.” I misunderstood his question…I thought he was asking me if I knew of the term “tinnitus” which I learned last April from my wife of 38 years. In fact, I was surprised when, from out of the blue, she asked me if I have ringing in my ears. I never mention to anyone that I have this condition and discomfort as it is my nature to keep things to myself if they only concern me. My wife then told me that she had just read in her computer that “tinnitus” is VA’s term for the ringing in the ears. In retrospect, upon my discharge in June 1962, if only I had been given any help, guidance, or was at least provided the form for my hearing loss claim, I would have filled it out right there and then. In contrast, your letter dated December 10, 2019 is very comprehensive and thorough. It is full of valuable information, explanation, and guidance on what to do to request a review of your decision. I can clearly see how far and how much VA has progressed over the years in its goal to help veterans in filing for their claims. It makes me sad to think that I didn’t have any such help upon my discharge. I also wonder why my e-file and c-file have no in-service documentation to support my claim. What happened to the result of my hearing exam that the doctor was looking at? Why did he advise me to file a claim if there was no valid or substantial basis for it? How about my six-month stint in Fairbanks, Alaska, to “tint” the B-52 bombers? Is there a record of it?  Without any malice, “If justice is going to prevail, who should be held responsible and be made accountable for this absence of in-service documentation? Since I was not given a copy, is it fair to lay the burden of proof on me and be the one at the losing end for this oversight?”

After my discharge, I went back home to Hawaii and worked as a janitor and then as a stevedore, toiling 12 hours a day to support my family of five.  I embraced my hearing loss and tinnitus as a part of me and my way of life that it never entered my mind to file a claim despite my financial hardship. My last job was as an electrician at the naval shipyards in California, Hawaii, and Washington, for 27 years. When I retired from [the Shipyard] in [Washington], in December 1992, the Department of Labor honorably acknowledged my hearing loss and awarded me $15,000.00, free annual check-ups with an audiologist, free updated hearing aids, and free batteries for life. In this regard, I asked my audiologist (Amy *******, Au.D., CCC-A, Doctor of Audiology) to supplement my claim with her records. You specified in your letter (page 2) that VA will assist me in gathering this new and relevant evidence.

Fifty-seven years after my discharge from the military and already 82 years old, why am I filing a claim only now?  It has to do with my move from Washington, to California, in May 2018. I was looking for a house in [California] to buy when I found out about VA’s home loans for veterans. When I applied in June 2018, my lender, asked me if I have a VA disability. Last March (2019), I applied for VA refinancing and was again asked if I have a VA disability. I was then told that if I have at least 10%, VA’s funding fee would be waived. This information brought my hearing loss and tinnitus to the fore and prompted me to file a claim last May.

I hope that this letter, along with my audiologist’s input, is providing you the “RELEVANT evidence that tends to prove the matter at issue,” and that my explanations, on their own merits, justify my right to seek  further review of your decision. I humbly ask that in your “careful and compassionate consideration” to please factor into the equation the moral and human elements that are integral to understanding my situation as you deliberate on reaching a decision that is just, equitable, and righteous.      

In closing, I take this opportunity to thank and salute you for all your efforts in finding ways and means to enhance your programs and services for the veterans. You have indeed come a long way! It is a tangible manifestation that you continuously look after our needs and welfare.  

Thank you for your attention and consideration.   Respectfully yours,

******