#single married women

[angrywifelife]

Channeling my inner single woman for the next couple of days. 😈 I might be posting a lot more while I prowl.

#angry wife life #marriage struggles #divorce warnings #idiot husbands #angry wife #idiot husband #relationships #marriage #married life #divorce #single married women

[marzipanandminutiae]

women who were the only girl with F/F ships in their mostly-sapphic teen friend group, and had to feign interest in the Pretty Gay Anime Boys Of The Week to talk to their friends at all, deserve financial compensation

#fandom #why do so many queer women only like M/M ships? like I've heard the 'it's less personal so I can enjoy it more' explanation and You Do You! #but I don't think I'll ever fully understand #and my god was it tiresome in my teen years #I was the only one who cared about the female characters like 75% of the time- and we were all queer girls! #we'd all read the same book or manga and I'd be like 'so when female main character-' #only to get steamrolled with 'OMG THIS GUY AND THIS GUY ARE MY EVERYTHING!!! THEY NEED TO GET MARRIED!!!' from all sides #repeat for every. single. thing. we all watched or read together #and if I liked something that didn't have shippable men nobody else would engage with it

[the-insufferable-know-it-all]

when Brennan is an incredible DM and narrates Pass Without a Trace happening and Jujubee decides she’s gonna marry him because he’s poetic and heartfelt: girl, me too

#dimension 20 #dungeons and drag queens #alas he is already married to the single greatest women on earth

[nonokoko13]

Watch me make a shrine for a character we have only seen in bubble speeches and flashbacks

Jeeves I don't know you but you seem the only stable person in this wicked household. Thank you for being in Damian's life, unlike certain man

#spy x family #sxf jeeves #give me his surname Endo I wanna know what will be my married last name #unless Melinda is first in line then good for her #we only have a somewhat profile picture years old and a front one with his eyes closed but he looks fineee #sxf chapter 93 #yes I'm desperate. Look at the male market we have here #Malewife mc happily married. Siscon guy. Franky. Dominic taken. Old men. Scar SSS dude #and a girlfailure of spy who has only appeared twice. the second time in the background in one single panel #this is the Atacama and I am THIRSTY #thank god Endo compensates with many gorgeous women (out of my league) #oh I almost forgot the teacher with eye patch. that guy was nice. BUT STILL #sxf spoilers #everyday I wake up and thank God for giving Damian some good people who cares like Jeeves and his friends

[fictionadventurer]

Why was "Mrs. Gaskell" used as a way to dismiss her as an author? As if she's just a middle-class wife and mother who can't care about anything beyond the cozy and the domestic? This should be something to celebrate! She was a wife and a mother and an author!

And not just one who's writing stories for her children. (Not that there's anything wrong with writing for your children--Tolkien writing for his children gave us some masterworks--but it is the expected path of a mother of the period who wants to write.) Gaskell wrote stories examining big societal issues like labor and technology and the class divide. She's living proof that a woman doesn't stop having a brain or caring about the wider world once she has a husband and children. She managed to write stories that have become part of the literary canon and raised a family. Why was this used to frame her as a lesser author when she managed to do more with her life? It's amazing that an author with that background got to be part of the literary conversation, and it should be celebrated more.

#elizabeth gaskell #books #once again i am taking issue with that bad article #(not that the writer pushed this view but it did mention how it made her overlooked for a lot of literary history) #this is a sister to that post about laura ingalls wilder being representation for the working-class farm family #i'm probably forgetting a lot of other authors with a similar background #they're probably mostly married #but most of the people she gets compared with were always-single-women so the point still mostly stands

[catofoldstones]

I have a question: why is Catelyn a Stark when Cersei is still a Lannister?

#asoiaf #game of thrones #catelyn stark #cersei lannister #questions #medieval feudal dynamics #and women as part of that feudalistic system #and in universe #Cersei is married to the king but no one calls her a Baratheon #and catelyn is a tully married to a stark and is rarely called a tully by other people #lf doesn’t count because he’s a piece of shit & I will kill him if no one else will #and the only other time is when cat is trying to draw strength from her House and how she was raised and what she was groomed to do #Cersei is a Lannister through #not a single person calls her a Baratheon #house stark #house tully #house lannister #house baratheon

[athenawasamerf]

This is so fringe for tumblr but it’s also completely hilarious so I’m gonna share with the group.

Background: Basically how marriage works in islam (and therefore in Islamic/Muslim majority countries) is that the groom and his family pay for everything, the house, the furnishings, the wedding, even the bride’s clothes. As in, pjs and underwear and outfits for different seasons, as well as giving the bride a monetary gift (Mahr). This is all well and good, but unrealistic for impoverished North African countries. So what Egyptians do instead is that these costs are split between the bride and groom (and their families). The groom acquires an apartment, and depending on which area of Egypt they’re in there’s a cultural knowledge of what furnishings fall to the groom vs the bride. Mostly things like actual furniture and the bulk of electronic items falls to the groom, while things like curtains and carpets and bedspreads and towels and cutlery falls to the bride, along with a few electronics like TVs, microwaves and, recently, dishwashers. The details are hashed out privately.

Now, the house is in the groom’s name and men started doing this thing where they divorce women and take all the shit the women had bought for the house. Which is like, a lot. To keep our rights protected, because lord knows the state won’t do shit to protect us, women started doing this thing where they write extremely detailed lists of all the things they bought for the marital home and how much it costs. A couple of witnesses and the groom would then sign this ‘list of purchases’ as proof that it’s debt payable to the bride in case of divorce (or death, if the late husband’s family tries to defraud her out of her things during the handling of the inheritance). Men, of course, have been opposed to this concept for decades and have launched multiple campaigns against it, the last of which went viral just a few days ago.

Egyptian women, fed up with the bs we’ve been taking from the least useful men on earth, kinda just went… okay then, buy everything your own damn selves, and started a social media campaign of memes about men rushing to stores for bargains on pots and pans, and arguing with their mothers about the number of towels they need to get to ‘not be seen as lesser than my cousin’. It’s very much an inversion of the humiliating bullshit women go through to get married in this country, but nothing on earth will be funnier to me than Egyptian men going ‘we wont sign lists of purchase anymore’ and this new generation of Egyptian women going ‘okay then we ain’t buying shit. Have fun arguing with the seamstress about the price of fabric per meter for living room curtains.’

PS: men came back with ‘we’ll do the absolute bare minimum of furnishings and you’ll have to just accept that and live with it’ in hopes of deterring women from not sharing in marriage costs, and women were just like ‘no, actually, Islam says marriage is for he who can afford it, if you cant afford it just fast like islam tells you to :)))))’

Men: ‘you’ll all become spinsters’

Women: ‘we’ll just start marrying foreign men’

Egyptian social media has been hilarious the last few days and i wish y’all spoke Arabic so i could share it with you

#the best part is how many men were just. shocked to hell #insert shook pikachu meme #like yes we are fed up after decades of dehumanisation #many Egyptian women are now opting to live single and adopt baby girls #so its this double whammy of we wont marry you and we cant adopt boys bc its haram to live with them after puberty so well adopt girls #and just be single #10/10 queen behaviour all around

[shirkers2018dirsanditan]

it’s kind of crazy to see people argue against the “patriarchy hurts men too!” form of antifeminism by pointing out that the same people wouldn’t say that about white people and racism because if anything the argument is easier to make about white people. racism is a key mechanism of capitalist oppression. and it is a key mechanism of white delusion and maintaining white complicity. but race is also not historically stable and there’s always a considerable bit of gray area. above all because race is entirely fabricated. but the same cannot be said for sexual oppression, which isn’t entirely rigid obviously, but lacks the same gray area. you have, largely, two halves of a population - a male half and a female half. and men as INDIVIDUALS participate directly in women’s oppression, most acutely through violence and the threat of violence, for which there is really not a racial equivalent. racial violence is not nearly as common as sex based violence, and interracial relationships have historically been sanctioned, where the law has essentially forced women to enter into relationships with men. and that’s not even considering male family members. like…that’s why feminists said the personal was political……male oppression of women occurs literally on an individual basis in a very direct, day to day way

#not that racism never does #but it’s not the primary mechanism of racism #and tbh i think white people are pretty full of it because i don’t think they are personally burdened by anti racism in any real way #unless they’re apart of the upper echelon #whereas if women no longer HAVE to marry men #that means many men will remain unmarried #if women are given the freedom to live independently #that means many individual men will remain single and alone #it’s a direct effect

[jennifersminds]

yeah no i’m with the edwina anti’s girl what are you talking about?

#like?!? #‘i’m leaving your dream behind?’ #‘you’ve lost your power’ #girl it’s the 16th century or some shit all women have the same dream #kate told her time and time again that she should marry who she wants #she didn’t tell her about the grandparents deal so edwina would have a choice #there was not a single expectation placed on edwina beyond the ones society put in place she can fuck all the way off #i understand being upset about kate and anything she’s valid for that but everything else?? #absurd #she’s stunning tho so slay #anti edwina sharma #bridgerton #kate sharma #kathony

[isfjmel-phleg]

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#random personal stuff #back on my soapbox feel free to ignore #ALSO it hurts enough feeling like married women my age won't want to be friends with me because I'm not in The Mom Club #but to be told that married women allegedly don't want single friends because single women have designs on their husbands...ouch #I was able to establish that I Would Never and I'm sorry Grandma had one bad experience but #...yeah that hurt a lot #it can't really be true #I hope it isn't #I do have some married friends and I've never felt that they regard me as a threat #but wow thanks now I have one more thing to worry about #(the conversation tonight was a rollercoaster)

[shittywriterbrain]

in jeeves and wooster there's the common trope of the love triangle only that one person really does not want to be there and it's great

#you can tell its the finale because bertie is now engaged to two women #id say madeline and florence should just marry each other but i dont remember if they had a single interaction #jeeves and wooster

[radlymona]

ENOUGHHHHH

#every single tag on the post is like this #‘oh I can’t believe the gay ass country hasn’t legalised yet’ #as if a) Ancient Greece didn’t practise pederasty influenced by a hatred of women #and b) modern Greece isn’t extraordinarily homophobic and religious #like the way people talk about the tags they genuinely believe we still believe in Greek gods #at this point I have to wonder how many people know orthodox Christianity is overwhelmingly the main religion #and furthermore calling Greeks q*eer where any actual translations of the word is unequivocally a swear #but ofc the one using another slur is almost certainly a straight girl so what’s the fucking point #trying to celebrate lgb greeks being given the right to marry and a pathway to actual equal rights #being completely overshadowed by a heartless western perception that ignores the real suffering of Greeks #in favour of romanticised view of ancient Greeks #posts that repeak me

[fromtheseventhhell]

Honestly, If we're talking about female characters who receive misogynistic hate then Lyanna needs to be high up on the list. She gets so much hate for a) her proximity to a male character (Rhaegar) b) the pure fanon that people have invented surrounding her and c) resentment that she's such an important part of the story. And the thing is, for as relevant as she is, we simply do not know enough about her character to justify the hate that she receives. A lot of it is just people inventing reasons to dislike her. I also find it funny that a lot of people who dislike her are Rhaegar antis who characterize their relationship as forced and non-consensual, but then they'll still find reasons to hate her for it. She's supposedly bratty and immature, but also somehow intentionally seductive and evil for "stealing" Rhaegar and hurting Elia 🙄. I wish people would learn to separate canon from fanon when it came to discussing these characters.

#lyanna stark #asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #fandom nonsense #people calling her a brat for not wanting to marry robert likeshe's not a womanizing abuser #but I guess fuck female characters who don't sit down shut up and do their duties apparently #if she had married robert then Rhaegar wouldn't have left Elia for a /white/ women so Lyanna got what she deserved right? 🙄 #I guess hating on Rhaegar alone doesn't feel right they need the spice of misogyny to balance things out #we get a lot more of her then other characters in her tier but it's still not so much to justify all of the hate she gets #people who hate on Lyanna can really go to hell cause there's not a single justifiable reason for it #imagine if I said I hated Elia cause she was a horrible wife who pushed Rhaegar into abandoning his marriage? and that if she'd #just done her duty then she and her children would still be alive? that's how people sound making things up to hate on Lyanna

[stackthedeck]

I'm not a huge fan of T'challa and Ororo as a married couple, but I do think the Illuminati meetings would have been 1000 times funnier if they were married at the time

#half the team is chronically single losers #the other half are married to the most badass women of all time

[skyriderwednesday]

Me as a reader: "Mr Doyle/Ms Sayers/etc, you've used that name eight times already, maybe you should find some different ones."

Me as a writer: "It's totally fine if this man and this child are named Guillaume and Gwilym even though those are the French and Welsh versions of the same name, because they never interact."

#roasting myself cos YES I KNOW #at least i'm not the actual 1500s #so far i don't have a single thomas and i've completely banned the names elizabeth and mary #also me as a writer: referring to both parts of a couple by their title/surname without honorifics #MULTIPLE TIMES #yes i'd hate me too lmao #in my defense lord graylily made himself important #he wasn't meant to show up in person #he just had to exist because ladies-in-waiting were historically married women #but then i needed a Serious Man and i'd already alluded to that being lord graylily's personality #so there's two of them now you're welcome #there's also threatening to be a third but i'm trying to keep young graylily (lord graylily's son) out of it

[fictionadventurer]

💍

#i am never more glad to be catholic than when i hear protestants talk about how people treat single women #i'm sure there are women in catholic circles who get pressure to marry too #but there's a wider understanding that marriage isn't the highest calling #a single woman *could* have a religious vocation #and even if she doesn't family isn't the only thing she can do with her life #we are all called to be saints no matter our station in life #so this makes the marriage obsession among protestants feel very weird and i'm very sorry for you all #and i hope it gets better