#rude white women

[ausetkmt]

this weekend we're going to break from our normal informational protocol and have some fun with a little social experiment that we're going to call Karen Fest

everyone always enjoys a good comedy Karen video but what if we gave you 30 nahhh we went full queue - FIDDY Y'ALL,

yeah that's right, hands will be thrown

#Karen fest #Karen's #rude white women #privileged #throwing them hands #ausetkmt #white supremacy #white lies #white women weaponizing lies #Black Lives Matter #systemic racism in action #weaponizing violence when white

[rucow]

my humble era is over, i now claim ownership over my faves and i Will be your voryn/phantom/hircine/fíli mutual. all yuor blorbos are belong me now

#/lh ofc #last year i was so dead set on not jumping on the trend of calling myself the ceo of a specific character #bc it felt rly rude and mean??? i want to share my faves not to hoard them and be an unpleasant overbearing presence in a fandom !! #but i think that. when i put so much of myself into a chara...and i flesh them out and develop them so differently from their canon source #then im allowed to be associated with said character without feeling guilty :') #everyone has their own interpretation of characters and mine just happen to be wildly different from both canon and fanon haha #mainly bc im a raging lesbian and i love all my faves being girlified #ill never refer to them as genderbent and i rly dont like that term #bc it would imply that my faves are cis men in canon and that i change them to be cis women #which isnt true! the whole thing is that i Dont see them as being cis men in canon #most of my faves arent human and the gender roles of irl white societies dont apply to them!! #ik im bad with wording but hopefully u get what i mean 😭 #sorry about the word vomit its just how i am as a person fhshds #txt

[lurking-latinist]

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#so many posts on here I see and I want to go 'OP either you know an unusually high number of awful people or I know an unusually low number' #but (a) that's not helpful of me to say and (b) I don't know which it is #I do think I know an unusually low number of awful people *well* #like I've been blessed with an excellent family and I'm pretty good at picking friends #but even like casual daily interactions. apparently other people's regularly suck more than mine do #and like. what do I do with this form of privilege??* #I've been told that people tend to calm down around me which is nice I guess and perhaps insulates me from some deranged interactions #I also sometimes don't notice it when people are trying to be rude to me apparently #Believe me if I could bottle and share my 'judgmental weirdos repelling field' that I apparently have I would send you all some #*[it is of course linked with other forms of privilege but like. other highly educated white women still seem to complain of #more offputting interactions than I'm aware of happening to me] #it also occurs to me that this website is maybe not a perfectly unskewed barometer of everyone's daily pleasant or unpleasant interactions #in that one is more likely to come on here to complain than to come on here to rejoice #on average

[flatstarcarcosa]

"ArE yOu AbLe tO cAlL a MaNAgEr" how about I'm not actually and you can gargle my fucking balls how about that

#txt.txt #im in A Mood today and im tired of rude white women #bitch stop standing here staring at me

[unproduciblesmackdown]

ppl will be explaining how a difference is a difference & not a Deviation from a Superior state, & people who are the ones considered Default Normal (superior) will be like "okay....to be polite....i Might say i consider Some aspects of Some people's existence mere 'difference' & not being less than me...." as like hey i'm a Benevolent god. i still actually get to consider you worse & don't have to "humor" anything that challenges my superiority. if you only want everything to fit into the norm then it will all come back to upholding the norm. thinking of people's analysis of their own realities as equally legimate as being like Obscure, Irrelevant, Superficial & then using that reasoning to justify dismissing them. same as worrying that the [Different Lessers (Others(tm))] as Everywhere = a manifestation of the awareness that, yeah, respecting them as equals Does threaten your norm which is smothering everything everywhere. ppl who need to lock in the idea of Borders around personhood like um Yes they're all delineated separate Identities outside any hierarchy & so i think it's relevant to for some reason push back against "ohh so now Everyone's queer" like why not. why couldn't they be. what if they were. what if queerness was everywhere b/c it's ideological not a cordoned off Alternative Identity that is accommodated by focusing on Love(tm) as the new border around whose existence we might begrudgingly accept at arm's length (i.e. being otherwise "normal"! just imagine swapping out the binary gender (or, deep breath, presumed Private Parts) of one partner in an exclusive romantic lifelong nuclear family marriage, & that is Gay / Trans Rights. still gross but maybe we can do it, as long as they don't talk about it or shove it in our faces or even exist for more than one encounter w/us in our lives b/c what are the odds). evergreen laughing at someone suggesting ableist logic might be embedded in language of past & present b/c it's just So little to ask for that it's irrelevant but it's also So much to ask for that of course i'm not gonna do anything more than pass it along like "this is why i don't take ableism seriously" like yeah it's the disabled randos like it's the individual cringe teens(tm) ruining [the cishets would take Gender seriously otherwise!!!] & that's why you won't think about it or do anything about it & continue being comfortable with the norm & resent that actually their Difference is Less & disability is something worse that ppl "excuse" & all these ways that people are & all these things that they do are funny & weird & inexplicable & etc & one can't possibly be cruising along perpetuating a hierarchy with a sense that you're reasonable, well meaning, kind, etc etc & thus Justified, systemic oppression definitely wants to maximize how uncomfortable & arduous it feels to everyone rather than push to make it more streamlined & rewarding to embrace, or at least accept, whatever superiority over others you're afforded

#circled around to lovelessness as a lens there. so long as one was loving. so long as one wasn't consciously malicious #really just mask off about keeping the same perspective of Superiority when conflating disability & ppl ''making excuses'' #same as like e.g. that ppl consider everything an autistic person does as being Bad / Wrong / Worse. (this includes ''unskilled''!!!) #(crushing the Social Skills(tm) framework in talking abt allistic difference in my fist) #such that they think sm1 saying Autistic!! is then something they might be unfairly Beholden to to Put Up With their Wrongness #at special times in special scenarios....rather than like in some contexts you are no more ''right'' than the other party #different groups & cultures whose Norms Standards & Expectations could render You presumed rude thoughtless pushy etc #obvious overlaps to consider re: the Norms of like english speaking as ''universal'' someone noticeably speaking it as nth language? #time to Presume their ideas & contributions are Less. if they had the good brain like you their fluency would render their linguistic #Wrongness in having a diff 1st language invisible thus irrelevant. like the ''ideal'' for disability! as the ''ideal'' for anyone Passing #in any way! queer ppl surely all want to be as proximate to cishet ideals (just as cishet ppl should!) nonwhite ppl to Ideal White #women's rights = Proving they're As Good As men. ladies you're using too many exclamation points!! be Confident be Pushier!! #but ofc nobody actually wants the Others(tm) to be Equal. they're just saying ''it's your innate Wrongness that means you Aren't'' #the ableism logic in everything. men just Are better at xyz. oh we Can abuse autists...into being as proximate to allistic as possible!! #just actually means ''oh we Can abuse autists.'' the ''correctness'' is your Difference ''intruding'' less into allistic existence #force you to be harmed & diminished all day then save your meltdowns for when you're alone & out of the way #ppl's tweets like ''when ppl say 'omg too sensitive ofc i wasn't talking abt disabled ppl!' like yeah no shit b/c you never think of #disabled ppl'' like yeah most people idk aren't making their life's agenda to stop everyone from saying Stupid #but like believe me people organically sense the Vintage R words when you get called Idiot in exactly the same spirit & purpose #i mean that's so rworded as in that's so gay!! cmon!! & it's fine if you don't say either to gay ppl or. or. [insert the office quote] #oh i don't call um 20th c disabled ppl morons it's bad taste!! but b/c i use it Figuratively in the present it's fine it's so Different #fr i can't remember like. an article w/1 matter of fact sentence from a doctor using a [now Just a childish insult!!] as Diagnostic Label #for someone's disability & it still registered like ice water in the face. presumably no ''especial'' Malice just matter of fact! #it wasn't ''idiot'' it may have been ''moron'' fr. the vintage ''factual'' r word is There plain as day #like yeah ofc the ableism gets channeled into alternate language. & then complaints abt that is like UGH CMON!!! #like idk shouldn't you be fine using the R word then too? not really sweating this issue thee most all thee time either but like #it's not sooo funny even if someone seems pressed extensively abt it. not that hard to in fact just not use all these words all the time #ppl will be throwing out their ableism w/o Any labels talking about how Weird Offputting Etc someone acts so you can Tell they're bad.... #and yeah you should think abt that. anytime. the [difference used to categorize ''other'' is Just difference] Is Everywhere All The Time #the idea it can & should be ''contained'' for especial limited specific occasions (when you're feeling Nice!) = upholding the status quo

[insane-weasel]

Me at concert trying to make Convo: Oh hey I also cycle through 30 AO3 fic tabs to look for something to read then close the fic if it doesn't get me in first chapter

Girl in front of me: 0_0 (utter terror)

#Socially I know looking over people's shoulder at their phone is 'rude' #But we are in a dark room and your phone is bright white with black text #I can see you're reading fanfic and recognize you're changing tabs #I am not a Twitter expose #Pls I'm trying to be friendly #Your Harry Potter fanfic reading is not a crime #Anyway I went to the 'journalism instant Convo starter' school #You have 30 seconds to categorize someone by their appearance and start a convo based on that #I'm better with dads #Sport hoodie or t and you quickly ask about the latest game #Who do you think are in play offs #Mom/older women 'where did you buy that 'x' I love the way it looks' #I am so good at it with older people #But people around my age are just always like 0_0 #Like Christ I'm not accusing you of a crime #You're wearing Game Theory merch homie #I'm gonna assume you watch MatPat and probably like fnaf and/or undertale #Anyway I'm technically an introvert #I just have never met someone I couldn't make Convo with....except people my age

[banana-milk-enthusiast]

Mono Cliffs Provincial Park

#went on a hike this week #now im a nature gworl 💃🏽 #jokes aside it was a lovely walk beautiful scenery and air so clean my allergies disappeared hay fever who #there was an rude ass old lady at the lookout spot getting upset cuz i took a minute to take my friends picture #despite the fact that she was there long before us and still needed more pics and space but i digress old white women are just like that #fore warning their toilet is a pit into the abyss so maybe go before you get there #and if you have a fear of ladybugs dont even bother theres hundred up there i felt like a shuttle bus #scenery #parks #forest #hiking #fall #autumn #mono cliffs provincial park

[saltcherry]

my hot take on ‘can you use food words to describe skin color, especially of nonwhite people or characters’ is, you probably can do it in a reasonable way, it just depends on how racist the rest of your writing is whether is comes off as creepy. like it’s well-established in English literature to describe skin “as white as milk” and “cheeks as rosy as apples” etc., typically to describe young women or girls. the fetishistic tone is not going to hinge solely on the words chosen (of course, associations have to be considered). the real issue is that the fetishization of white women and of Black women or brown women operates differently. the words used to do it are different. the associations with sexuality are different (y do u think white women who want to assert sexuality often choose to do it by either embodying stereotypes associated with women of color or by directly appropriating aspects of nonwhite culture?). so really the challenge for the writer is not to remove all purple descriptors from their language, even stilted or outdated ones, and their associations (impossible task) but to be good enough at their craft to challenge, remake, critique, etc. those associations. like idk it seems like a very hard task and that’s why the advice is to simply remove that language! however it’s more interesting to try to grapple with language imo. and ultimately more productive because many many types of words carry associations of otherness, sexuality, prejudice, etc. when applied to nonwhite vs white people, Black vs nonBlack people, etc. the language problem can only be understood when you know this and only solved when you work at it with deep knowledge. (I guess the reason some people balk hard at “I don’t get why this is perceived as racist” over e.g. “she had skin like chocolate” is because they are lacking that deep knowledge accrued from reading a lot. related: if you don’t read a lot, and you write with that type of language, without knowledge either conscious or unconscious of those biases, will you replicate them? form new associations? is knowledge a curse, lol?

#i gotta delete this it's just a rant about context and knowledge and reclamation of language again #like the fact that no one complains about how white women can be described as apple cheeked simply bc no one even associates such things #with sexualization or fetishization of white women bc apple cheeked speaks to like hale and hearty type thoughts #and if anything that points to a sexualization across class: rural working class women with rude good health #it's an inter white problem #in literature! #meanwhile a white woman described as a fragile pale spring flower wilting in tropical heat IS being sexualized in response to a quote #oriental unquote sexuality that actually sort of replaces the intra english rural working class maiden vs the fragile upper class woman #as over and undersexualized respectively and displaces the over sexualization onto nonwhite women #in the latter case the white woman is being like protectively sexualized #the sexuality is hidden as a contrast #it's still fetishized basically but in a way that uphholds the social status of white women so it is accepted #like literally the descriptors that invoke sexuality are basically only relevant in their operation as contrats #also the fetishization of women esp nonwhite women only matters in the context of patriarchy esp white partriarchy #the problem is everyone who writes in English is subject to this paradigm #great!

[robotpussy]

maybe i should delete/turn off the reblogs on that noise in public post

#like ppl ARE STILL trying to tell me 'but op thats not what those posts are about!!! we mean ppl who play tik toks outloud in public!" #and it's like. i am also referring to those ppl too like there is technically nothing rude about it. just annoying 🤷🏾‍♀️ #and ppl trying too pin it on white women. listen im not a white woman defender but you cant hide behind #'we hate it because white women do it' because thats not true 😭 atleast for most ppl on here thats not why you guys hate it

[wetchickenbreast]

tbh i’m more scared of cishet white feminist women than anyone else i have to interact with in my daily life

#like i don’t want to be rude or anything #but they scare me so so much #meanest people i’ve met have always been cishet white women #chicken scratch

[protaetia]

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#i will say looking through the notes on the failwoman poll post #as well as checking out the poll's blog #TLT fandom keeps being annoying and cringe af #y'all really sending hate and harassment because someone called the series niche??? #accusing the person running the poll for taking things too seriously meanwhile you're the ones flooding them with anons lol #like i'm not active in that fandom anymore (it was because of the racism) but wow these people really didn't change #It really is full of some of the shittiest white women on this earth LMAO #I still love judith though #I'm rooting for everyone Black #scuttlings #also lol the way that they are blaming an imaginary person a character for blowing up that whole poll #like LMAO no??? it was just you hoard of annoying nerds?? You sack of unsalted crackers??? #maybe take responsibility for your destructive actions i know it's hard for you white women but try <3 #hobbyless behaviour #also saying that they're allowed to harass the op of the poll because they were rude UM WTF #ABSOLUTELY HOBBYLESS BEHAVIOUR

[papirouge]

White women persecution complex is truly from a whole another multiverse

#and OF COURSE OP is like 'nO fEmAle cUstOmEr eVer BeeN rUde tO Me' OF COURSE STACIE #BECAUSE YOURE NOT BLACK OR A WOMAN OF COLOR #there's a reason why White women have such a hard time to grasp WHY POC popularized the Karen meme to call out racist female customer #bc these women wont be that toxic and entitled with their kin DUH #whitefem be whitefeming #white feminism #papi watch

[thisisember]

i still feel like if a famous white woman from a beloved family in entertainment had lost her hair from chemotherapy for cancer, and at a big awards show viewed by huge numbers of people, the guy they got to host went on stage and cracked a joke about her being baldheaded, people would be fairly understanding if that woman and/or her husband were upset by it

#i Can’t say whether or not they would be understanding if her husband slapped the guy #but they would’ve gotten a much different reaction to their anger #people would have ​a more compassionate and sympathetic view of the situation #it’s not normally seen as tasteful to joke about women not having hair when it’s widely known that she lost her hair due to an illness #totally beyond her control #that couldn’t be prevented #and the white public I am referring to might not see this part of the picture but #many people know it is in poor taste it’s a joke about black women not having a lot of hair #they get mocked and judged and called baldheaded and if they wear wigs or extensions they’re laughed at or hated for that too #(please don’t try to tell me Black girls don’t get hate for wearing extensions they absolutely do) #my phone autocapitalized black for me lol that’s nice #anyway i don’t know that slapping the person who made the rude remark would be universally met with understanding and forgiveness #but i could totally see some white people being okay with it or making public statements in support of it were the races changed #this is ember

[zouisalmightie]

i spent the night at my moms and one of her cousins friend is staying at her house and this man was trying to have a full on conversation with me as i was trying to fall asleep. and then when i woke up he was like “yeah I haven’t seen you since you were tiny tell me about yourself” like sir I don’t know you and it’s also six in the morning get out of my face?

#but im not rude so i was like oh haha how wild you knew my great grandmother how cool #and then he tried to mansplain americas abortion rights to me and he said it’s not a problem for WOC only white women and I asked him if he #was stupid and my mom got mad at me but like…. is he stupid mother he might be

[keratoterato]

MonMusu race ideas;

Onoskelis (Satyr) - Extinct relatives of the common satyr that had donkey features instead of goat and lived up in the mountains and high cliffs. What brought their death was ancient religious crusades that deemed them demons. The Testament of Solomon is the only known evidence that they ever existed.

Deer Woman (Faun) - Relatives of the pan fauns with deer features instead of sheep and live out in the forests of North America. These fauns co-existed with the native tribes that once covered the vast wilderness and plains and too witnessed the demise and destruction of their people when settlers began their takeover. The race still lives on alongside the descendants of the native americans that suffered, but are now few in numbers and dwindling. A culture of their own at risk of dying off.

#monster concept #monster musume #note: I am white and I know deer women are special to native american folklore so I am hoping me using them like this isn't horribly rude #I have been brewing these ideas for months but even then I'll gladly delete this and remake it with just the onoskelis satyr #I am a bit of an anxious person so I just really feel the need to note these

[bugtheduck]

Oh my fucking god the coffee influencer girlies on Instagram won't LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE after a comment I made on a post MONTHS AGO

I have never seen a group of more pretentious people harassing someone who LITERALLY WORKS in a coffee shop (ME HELLO YES HI I work in a coffee shop, used to work for SB, don't like their company or union-busting) and if that isn't white coffee girlies with their full narcissism on display then I don't know what is

#i wasnt even?? being pretentious like OTHER BARISTAS IN THE COMMENTS #DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE I SERVE IN A DAY THAT ARE LIKE “oh i used to work for starbucks we do it differently” OR #“oh thats bot the traditional way” IN A DAY??? A FUCKING LOT #AND I SAID THAT IN A RESPONSE TO SOMEONE BEING AN ASS LIKE “i literally deal with pretentious mfs like you all the time just let them make #coffee how they want“ AND IM STILL GETTING HARASSED #BY PEOPLE WHO CANT READ #MAYBE READ WHAT I REPLIED INSTEAD OF BEING RUDE TO A STRANGER #WHERE I CLEARLY STATED THAT YES THERE ARE OTHER FORMS OF MAKING COFFEE THAT ARENT HIGHLY COMMERCIALIZED LIKE STARBUCKS #BUT FOR THE PURPOSES OF SOMEONE ASKING HOW TO ORDER A DRINK IF THEY WENT TO SB I COMMENTED TO HELP THEM OUT #“hey to order this asked for a reverse (iced) macchiato :))💚” #AND THE AMOUNT OF PEOPLE THAT S C R E A M E D “THATS NOT A REAL MACCHIATO” “YOURE THE REASON PEOPLE ORDER DRINKS WRONG” #SIT DOWN YOU PRETENTIOUS FUCKS IM AWARE #BUT TO MAKE MY JOB AND THEIR ORDER FUCKING EASIER THATS WHAT I WORK RECCOMEND THEY ATTEMPT TO ORDER #GET YOUR PRETENTIOUS COFFEE STANDARDS AWAY FROM ME I DEAL WITH ENOHGH OF YOU PEOPLE AT WORK #JUST LET PEOPLE ENJOY WHAT THEY ENJOY #I WOULD SOMEONE ORDER A “REVERSE MACCHIATO” THAN THEM MAKE A FUCK TON OF ADDITIONS AND CHANGES AND BE EVEN MORE PRETENTIOUS #the crazy part is half these people were claiming to be baristas YEAH FUCKING RIGHT as if someone that worked a service job at least one #fucking day in their life would be THAT pretentious to other service workers #get a fucking grip its just a drink #white women i swear to god #remind me to never utter the word coffee on instagram again #im just trying to serve people as quick as possible with as little headache please just let me do my job #and if telling someone to order an unmixed latte as a reverse macchiato makes it easier than i'll do it every day #“im a barista too and that doesnt exist” where bitch in beverly hills #im a queer person in the deep south making minimum wage i do not give a single fuck #mine #just let katie call her separated latte a reverse macchiato so i can take the next order i do not give a fuck about the details #“um actually🤓” then you come make it bitch #no i dont work for starbucks but i dont work for a high end coffee shop either and we certainly dont have a manual espresso machine #so we cant even MAKE a traditional macchiato be so for real