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coulsonlives · 1 year

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Hi, how's it going? I just saw your post about spoons and how people in this RPC act like you're an ableist asshole over it, and holy shit do I relate, because it's literally happened to me too. Rant incoming, but I thought I'd pass some validation your way... I have a lot of feelings about this.

Like you said, tumblr users have become absurdly brazen with the "you're ableist" accusations towards people with disabilities who are just trying to enjoy a hobby, and trying to ensure their needs are met by making them clear/upfront in their rules. Like, jesus christ... If you have depression or low spoons, and you easily burn out from high partner/character turnover, or if you don't spend a lot of time online, or if you get really disoriented if you log on once a week and see a lot has changed re: your partners' blogs and such, that's a valid concern. It's not being fucking "ADHD ableist" to say you burn out if partners have a high turnover with their blogs or characters, so you prefer to follow people whose blogs and characters are more stable. It's not "ADHD ableist" to say you prefer writing longform posts rather than one-liners. It's not "ADHD ableist" to say you have memory issues, so you can't manage when threads or characters change a lot. That last one about memory is very ironic, because ADHD can literally affect working memory too, sometimes you need to take the exact same approach with it! Anyways, long story short, there's no "right" way to roleplay. My approach to roleplaying isn't going to be compatible with everyone else's, that's just the way it works. But some assholes don't understand that at all, and they throw fists over it, and I just? Stop.

We're not saying "if you roleplay this way, you suck ass", or "this way of roleplaying is better than the rest", or "if you read these rules, you must do as I say because I'm a bossy controlling high-maintenance bitch", but that's literally what the Reactive Outrage Crowd seems to interpret from our rules... Which we've put upfront out of courtesy, before people even interact with us. And I'm sick of it. I've seen it happen to my friends, and it's happened to me, I'm sorry to hear it's happened to you, too, ugh. You can be the nicest person, and you still get shit because people take screencaps out of context or whatever, and they think their disabilities and ND traits give them full license to order us to conform to their own specific needs, which they wrongly believe is the only "right" way to roleplay, so we must conform to them, and them only.

What the hell happened to, "we are fundamentally incompatible as writing partners, so instead of trying to force each other to fit into a mold, which is only going to lead to frustration, let's acknowledge we are too different, and find partners who are more compatible"?!

Honestly, these last few years.

The worst part, in my opinion? How tumblr's RPC is full of petty-ass roleplayers who like to pretend they're inclusive, and understanding of people who are ND or who have disabilities, but as it turns out... They're only accepting if you're the "right" kind of ND or disabled, fuck you if you're anything else.

Are you autistic, and do you have very blunt or direct rules that are formatted in bullet points? Maybe you'll hear, "wow, if I wanted to apply for a job and check off boxes, I'd go on indeed, lmfao" (I wish I were kidding, this has happened). Have health problems and need to explain the specific ways it affects your writing or blog organization, which involves a lot of tag lists and explanations? "Wow, these rules are so long, nobody with ADHD is going to read a textbook, lmaoo." (Yes, I've also seen this.) Prefer not to follow people who are super into one specific fandom, because you don't want to hear about it, or because you don't want a higher likelihood of seeing that content on your dash (due to accidental untagging or something)? "Lmao, this person sounds like a wet napkin".

Are you kidding me?

Some people are so ready to shit on rules and posts that do literally nothing wrong. The only things these rules and posts do is show incompatibility with the person's own roleplaying style, in a totally non-judgmental way. But people equate these rules and posts to ableism and rudeness, because they've gotten it into their heads that their own way to roleplay is the "only way", and then they start stirring up the Outrage Porn mobs. Hey, look everyone, here's the latest in "shitty ableism," let's all stare and wonder wtf is wrong with this person who's done literally nothing even remotely offensive! Like that's not a super fucked-up form of entertainment. And why is it always "ADHD ableist", like you said? I feel bad for the people with ADHD who genuinely don't give a rat's ass about people's rules or finding faults in everything, and who just adhere to the live and let live mindset.

Like… Come on, people. There is nothing wrong with ADHD, or with preferring high-turnover threads or short rules and things... Just like there's nothing wrong with the alternative. Just shut the fuck up with the rules bullshit, regardless of your disabilities, and stop acting like you know what's best for all people and their own disabilities. People who are clearly incompatible with you don't owe you shit, especially if they're not hurting anyone or forcing you to do anything. You need to stop being so entitled and learn how to walk away like an adult. And stop calling everything ableist without it warranting it, because not only are you hurting ND/disabled people more often than not when you use it (sometimes without even realizing it), especially on a website like tumblr, but you're grossly watering down the term, and that's going to bite all of us in the ass one day. You shouldn't be proud of that, you should be ashamed.

Okay, I'm done lol.

(Shit like this is why I don't go on tumblr anymore, for the record.)

This needs to be framed and displayed in the tumblr rp museum of excellence, thank you for saying it

#hi jazz 🥺#it's going good!!#this is good shit tho really good shit #i want to ask what fandoms this is worst in but i feel like i know the answer lol #i really have nothing else to add #tumblr rpc #ableism ment cw #tumblr rp #bullying

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traumasurvivorshelpingsurvivors · 1 year

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Hello, I need a small rant or smth, no tws, just need to talk to someone who's familiar with the topic:

I hate hate hate how much mental illnesses overlap like, I have so many autism and adhd traits but they could also be trauma reactions, social phobia, anxiety, whatever. And I saw therapists and they didn't diagnose me with it, on the other hand, I was a depressed 14 y.o. girl so, the perfect example for someone, who's overseen with those kind of issues.

I am not even too interested in identifying with something (and I certainly don't feel part of some group). I feel like I have all those small, mundane traits but the famous big ones, which you usually use as examples, I don't. And I occasionally scroll through those tags and can find helpful tips for me (and a lot of tips for issues I don't have). So idk why it even bothers me.

I just would love to have clarity. And you know, even if I would visit a therapist, would they be able to diagnose those two things if they aren't textbook examples? I've seen incompetent therapists!

But srsly ppl, how are you able to self diagnose with adhd or autism, I feel like they have barely any unique traits!

Hi anon,

To address your question, I think it's just about extensive research into both conditions, including talking to autistics or those with ADHD about their experiences. I'm not completely familiar with the criteria or experience of ADHD but I can talk about my experience being autistic if you're interested.

Just because you weren't diagnosed doesn't mean that you don't have symptoms of those conditions. You have to meet a specific number of criteria to be diagnosed with a mental illness, which varies depending on how many criteria there are. So let's say you need to meet 50% or more of criteria to be diagnosed with something. Just because you didn't meet 50% doesn't mean it's 0%, it could be 30%, 40%, etc.

That being said, you don't have to meet all the criteria to qualify either. It's not impossible, but like I said, you typically only need 5 or 6 criteria to qualify for a diagnosis. I have diagnosed BPD and yet a fear of abandonment was not one of the criteria I met, although it's notorious.

While there are benefits to being diagnosed with something, my therapist told me that a diagnosis is merely a label given to you. For example, I don't need to be diagnosed with OSDD to receive necessary care for OSDD, as my therapist is already under the assumption that I would be diagnosed if I wanted to be evaluated. I don't need to prove that I'm autistic to receive accommodations in school. So perhaps it's worth asking yourself what a clinical diagnosis would do for you, and if those things can't already be done.

Sometimes it's hard to simply separate mental illnesses whose symptoms are often comorbid. Dissociation for example is characteristic of BPD, OSDD, DID, DPDR, etc. So if you have more than one of those disorders and you dissociate, it can be hard to tell which disorder may be responsible.

Not all therapists are certified to diagnose. My therapist personally refers me to my psychiatrist or her institution for evaluations. That being said, if you currently have a therapist, I would recommend asking their opinion on a potential diagnosis for ADHD, and see what they think. Your therapist can get an intimate sense of your potential symptoms over time and so they would be the best person to ask. Your therapist may also invite you to describe why you suspect this disorder, and take that into account as well.

If anyone would like to share their experience with ADHD to add insight to the conversation, you are more than welcome to do so. Otherwise, I hope I could help. Please let us know if you need anything.

-Bun

#mod bun #trauma talks

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supergay-supergirl · 3 years

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Lena vs. the Social Contract

or, the autistic Lena fic we all deserve (under the cut cause it's 1560 words)

@broken-lycan enjoy

also, this is my third time posting this cause I keep having tumblr issues, please bear with me

Lena had always been… different.

At first, she thought it was because her mother had died. Then, because she lived with the Luthors. But when she saw an encyclopedia entry on autism spectrum disorder in the Mount Helena library, something clicked.

"I've suspected since I met you," Andrea said when Lena confided in her. "I have ADHD, so I recognized a lot of traits. But I didn't want to assume anything."

Andrea tried to help her be herself, but at a stuffy boarding school like Mount Helena, people weren't too accepting of kids who were different, and Lena was already enough of a social pariah as it is. At home, it was even worse. Lillian and Lex nitpicked her every movement, stray expression, and slip of phrase. "This kind of behavior isn't befitting of a Luthor," Lillian would say, gesturing for Lena to stand up straight. "Smile. Project confidence. It's not difficult."

So Lena learned how to keep her hands still with pens and glasses of water; to stare into people's eyes without really looking at them; to hide her discomfort behind crossed arms and prickly comments. She practiced controlling her tone of voice until it was almost second nature, and she could read the beats of a conversation and pull an appropriate response from the list in her head. Still, too often, it felt like nothing she did would ever be enough. Lillian still criticized her; Lex still dismissed her. She still felt different.

She thought that college might be better, but she was a fool to have hoped. Not only was she younger than everyone else in her class, but she already had more accolades than all of them combined, which ostracized her almost as much as her last name. She graduated as quickly as she could. Thankfully, if life didn't come naturally to her, at least science did, and she threw all her attention to plowing ahead of her peers and making sure she didn't completely dishonor the Luthor name.

Lena met Jack Spheer between the 610s and 620s of the Metropolis Public Library, sitting between two bookshelves with her head tucked between her knees. He jumped back a little when he saw her. "Sorry," he said. "I didn't know anyone was in here."

"Oh, don't be sorry," Lena said, making sure to intone correctly (updowndownup) and getting to her feet. "I didn't know anyone else in Metropolis was interested in engineering."

"Really?" Jack said. "Then you must not come here often." He held out a hand. "Jack Spheer, resident geek of Metropolis."

Lena shook (downupdownupdown). Jack's hand was softer than it looked, but his grip was oddly self-assured.

"I suppose I don't have to ask your name," he continued.

Lena caught herself twisting her fingers together—the one nervous behavior she'd never been able to quell—and casually crossed her arms instead. "Suppose not."

But as far as she could tell, Jack didn't look unnerved. He just glanced at the shelves full of thick textbooks and asked, "Here for a bit of light reading, then, are we?"

"Not at all. I'm trying to research biomedical technology, but the organization in this place is abysmal. I don't suppose you have any recommendations?"

Without looking, Jack drew out a book, wrote something inside the cover, and held it out to her. "Start with this one. My number's in there; call me when you're done with it." And that was that.

When she kissed Jack for the first time, it felt like a dream. She'd only ever dated one person before, her boyfriend in fifth grade, whom she was pretty sure Lillian had threatened into dating her. She and Andrea had gotten close, but neither of them had ever made the first move, both preoccupied with trying to get through a boarding school that seemed to be actively working against them. But being with Jack was like honey, easy and sweet and safe, and when the time came, it just felt right. And he seemed to think so, too.

That was, until Lex turned the sun red.

Suddenly, there were press conferences and court appearances and the world's attention all on her. Lena was the one remaining Luthor, the unexpected heir to the family company and name. Suddenly, Lillian was treating her like she was twelve again. Keep your poise. Look the reporters in the eye. Don't disappoint me, Lena. The streets of Metropolis turned concave, and all Lena could do was keep herself together, until finally she couldn't, and she fled to National City.

And then she met Kara.

Kara, who didn't seem to know where to look or what to do with her hands. Who raised her voice without realizing it, who hugged hard and blushed easily. Who cringed at loud noises and didn't mind when Lena couldn't act the way most people wanted her to.

She met Alex, who had grown up with Kara and still loved her fiercely. Lena hadn't known that was possible, but to Alex it was second nature—letting her sister ramble on and on about her interests, maintaining a stable volume with her voice, walking behind Kara so she could keep an eye on her. The more time they spent together, the more Alex adjusted instinctively to Lena's sensitivities, until Lena felt more comfortable around her than around most of the people she'd met in her life.

During Lena's first days in National City, Kara had told her that a hacker had broken into her private emails. "There are some potentially embarrassing things in there," she'd said. Lena hadn't known which of her secrets Kara was referring to—her relationships with women, her connections to Lex's off-record dealings, the secret projects she was running in L-Corp's underground lab—but Kara had surprised her, handing over the hacked emails without asking for anything in return. Months later, Kara told her what the emails had contained. Among other things, there was a confirmation email from National City Hospital linking to Lena's diagnosis of ASD. She'd set up the appointment on a whim—she did own the hospital, after all—and even though she'd never followed up, she was embarrassed to say she'd felt relieved, just like all those years ago in boarding school. Like solving a puzzle for the first time. Or rather, like realizing the puzzle had all the pieces it needed, even if they didn't quite match the picture on the box.

"I didn't think it was worth mentioning," Kara said. "I mean, I'm from—well, I never fit in growing up in Midvale. It would have been a lot worse without Eliza and Alex to help me cope. No one should ever be judged on something like that."

Lena spoke slowly so Kara would know she was being genuine. "Thank you, Kara. Truly."

"No problem." Kara smiled. "Just doing the right thing. And if you ever want to talk to someone about it, just give me a call. I've dealt with my share of sensory overload."

It wasn't until much later that she did finally ask Kara for help. But she gradually started to come out of her shell. First, just around Kara. Then around Kara's friends and family. Winn indulged her obsession with technology; Eliza mothered her more than Lillian ever had; James shared her passion for helping people. And Brainy. Oh, she liked Kara's friends, even if they were loud and disorganized and occasionally idiotic, but Brainy understood her in a way few others did. If Jack had been honey, Brainy was water, speaking without connotation, always jumping from one scientific conclusion to the next, his mind and Lena's working in perfect synchrony. If something required communication, they said it out loud. If it didn't, they stayed silent, secure in knowing that each of them would respond at the other's request.

She quickly figured out that Brainy, like Lena herself, was often overcome by emotion. "Little boxes," she'd told him. It was the same lesson Lillian had taught her over and over again in elementary school—lock away your discomfort, find some way to behave yourself. It had worked, or it hadn't, but either way, little boxes had led her here, and she figured Brainy could benefit from doing the same.

But then Brainy had evolved. And suddenly he was the one who understood emotions, and he was the one who knew how to be human, and Lena was left trying to figure out what she'd gotten wrong. Until one day, Brainy told her that little boxes had prevented him from connecting with others, and Lena decided to give the other way a try.

She let herself fidget. She stopped pouring drinks whenever she felt restless and started tapping her pen, checking her phone, or swiveling in her office chair instead. She broke eye contact when she felt like it and showed the expressions that came most naturally to her, rather than the ones she'd matched to situations based on careful cataloguing of the people around her. Perhaps more importantly, she allowed herself to have fun. The ins and outs of business interested her, but she had entered this industry because she wanted to invent new technology—to help people, to change the world. With Supergirl's team, she finally got the chance to do that.

And so, even though Kara was gone, Lena felt lighter than ever before.

She was different, but that wasn't a bad thing anymore.

#supergirl #lena luthor #supergirl fic #supergirl fanfiction #I KNOW THE ENDING IS BAD OK #I COULDN'T THINK OF A BETTER ONE #also be aware that this is a first draft #not going to make a second draft but i felt like that was important #much of the stuff in here is based off of stuff in the show so i'll put that in a reblog #autistic lena luthor #nd arrowverse #my content #PLEASE WORK THIS TIME DEAR GOD #my fic

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oatchi · 3 years

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🏳‍🌈 for tfa. hand me. Give. Require

🏳️‍🌈 do you have any headcanons (lgbt, race, neuro, etc) that are important to you? You really want me to fill my dash up, huh. Okay. Fine. Under the cut it goes.

Let me be clear, I accept many things for many characters, especially when it comes to trans headcanons, so I may go back and forth on a lot of these, but you literally asked for it.

Optimus Prime: Bisexual. I can understand the transmasc headcanon given to him, but I do not like the way people treat him in the fandom in combination with the headcanon (i.e., the soft uwu boy act) so most depictions leave a sour taste in my mouth. Suffers from textbook PTSD. Ratchet: Old old queer man. He's the kind of old man who doesn't label himself because he finds it a bit ridiculous. He likes mechs, he likes femmes, he likes everything outside of that and in between. He doesn't care what he "falls under," he's just living his life. Textbook PTSD, and he is the old gay mentor to Optimus' young gay in need of a parental figure. Bumblebee: Gay Trans man. Easy. Teeeextbook ADHD, and he hates being infantilized for it. Not much else to say on this. Also he's polyam and parent trapped all his partners into also being in love with each other. Except not like, parent trapping them, just like, boyfriend trapping them. Bulkhead: Bisexual cisguy who's doing his best to support his trans friends. He is Autistic, okay? He is. He has a special interest in the show. and Sensory issues. Trust Me. He's cis but he's got the autistic gender swag with it okay. Prowl: He is.... How you say... Pansexual. I will not get into anything about bi/pan stuff but he follows the logic I do of bisexual meaning "attraction to your gender, the opposite, and others" and pansexual meaning "attraction regardless of gender." He's also a he/they because he has the Autism Fucked Up My Concept Of Gender disease. He's autistic btw. He holds hands with Bumblebee and Bulkhead and is open to more. Dinobots: They're all stupid and bi. Not for each other they just are. Omega Supreme: He's so guy ever. I think the inherit concept of being nothing more than a war machine and made to have "low processing power" is kinda neurodivergent-trans. Like inheritly. He chose to be a guy and stuff. Arcee: JUST some girl. She has kind old bi trans lady energy I think. I think her memory issues probably persisted a bit even though they were shown to be "fixed" at the end, but only in minor ways. Wreckgar: HE IS JUST SOME GUY. I think if you asked him his pronouns he would say "I am Wreckgar! I... Use he/him pronouns?" and then think about it and then go "I am Wreckgar! I use any pronouns!" and that would be the interaction. I don't think he has any feelings on anyone really other than friendship <3 Megatron: Old, old gay man. He is not gay for Optimus. Crucial. He is just gay. Also I think he's trans with it. Old gay trans man that will dark seduce you. (If Fruit reads this essay. I'm reclaiming.) Starscream: As Unfortunate As It Is, he has transgender swag. I cannot place what kind, but I'd like to believe it's any pronouns. Also Gay. But No One Wants Him. Starscream clones: I DON'T KNOW MAN. THEYRE JUST KINDA THERE. In my mind I feel like Slipstream stole all the transgender swag making all the other ones normal guys. Well like. As normal as Clones of Starscream could be. Blitzwing: He/they by nature, self referential as "we" occasionally again by nature. OSDD-1b but they all respond to "Blitzwing" because they are a chaotic group that switch on the drop of a hat and they've just learned to. The kind of system that works to make up the concept of one whole "person," so even if they themselves know they're different, they are pooling resources together to make one guy often. One Gay Guy. Smile Lugnut: Do I literally need to say anything. He's gay. He's never even looked at a woman unless it was for work. He's gay and the one guy he wants does not want him at all Blackarachnia: Trans girl. She's a metaphor alright. I like to think she's transhet because they are the strongest type of trans people and Blackarachnia is stronger than all of us. Heavily suffers from the body issues, and suffers from trauma. Because of the Spiders. Soundwave: No gender No sexuality Only Liberate Robots. That is how I think he feels Shockwave: Old Gay Man. He has transgender swag I feel like he's gender fucked up. I don't know how. He's weird with it. Smile. Lockdown: I like to think he is a neutral/pos aroace who just acts like that. He does not fuck he could if he wanted but he doesn't. End post Swindle: He's just a little guy! And it's his birthday, you would try to make a guy pick just one place on the gender spectrum on his birthday? He's got gender swag and I think he is also aroace and hangs out with Lockdown because of this. Wasp(inator): The Bug gave him Transgender Swag. He's also terribly traumatized Constructicons: Fuck these guys. But they're also all bi and no one wants them Angry Archer: I could not give less of a shit about this man. But he's like gay (derogatory) Nanosec: transhet. Good for him. Meltdown: Again, gay (derogatory) Colossus: I literally don't know. Whatever man. Gay old guy Professor Princess: She Is like, idk. 6. I think she cares about my little ponies more than being on my headcanons chart. Henry Masterson: He is so so so so so gaytrans and insane Slo-Mo: transhet. Good for her. Ultra Magnus: Old old gay man. No further commentary. Jazz: Hehehe... Gay ninja. I think he actually could like a woman in theory but he is definitely mlm. I think he is either a hardcore trans ally or a transman. Jetfire/Jetstorm: Putting them together because personally I love to believe that because they are viewed as a unit and are usually never referred to as individuals, they are actually much more accustomed to singular they/them in reference to themselves. I think they accept anything though. Also they're just a little fucked up from the whole dying and coming back thing I think. I think the death and coming back thing gave them a bit of nonbinary swag. they/he's. Blurr: I don't know where this is coming from, but He/They/It nonbinary gay dude. That's all Heh. What. Did you think I'd forget my specialist boy of all time? Never. I just needed to put him at the bottom so you didn't have to scroll through ALL the shit I have to say about him just to see 1-2 sentences on some other guys. Anyways. Let's get into it. Sentinel Prime: Is so so so so so SO much. He can literally be interpreted a million ways, but let me make one thing very clear. He is NOT a cishet man who's an asshole for no reason. Without a doubt, my personal favourite interpretation of him is as a bisexual cis man who, despite the everything, is a very hardcore trans ally. A real "oh you're trans? Okay uhh what name. Okay. Okay. Pronouns? Okay. Gotttt it. Okay. Okay. (Goes back to insulting you but this time reaffirming of your gender)" type guy. Mentally? PTSD. Textbook. Often showing in ways that are the exact opposite of the way Optimus' shows, making him seem "difficult." Also, literally everyone can fuck off, I think he's so autistic. I think he's genuinely so autistic so bad. Touch is only good if he initiates it. He wants touch do NOT fucking touch him if he doesn't make it very clear he wants touch. Do not expect him to understand peoples feelings he does not get it. Do not expect him to understand a social setting, he will NOT get it. He doesn't know how to do any of that. He is hardcore rule follower because of a mix of trauma and autism. And when he does break the rules? Well, it didn't break is Autism Moral Rules, so it's fine. Organic stuff is not only a traumatic trigger, it is often stuff he would consider "bad touch." He does NOT like how soft humans and other organics are, he HATES their liquids, he DOES NOT like hair. And listen to me? Listen to me. Only I'm allowed to say this one as a haver of this disorder. Obsessive compulsive disorder rooted in trauma. Did he only comically have to clean himself once as a gag in the show..? Yes. Would I trust anyone else saying this..? No. But I live deep inside Sentinel Prime's mind and trust me, I know what I'm saying. I believe the compulsive need for status comes from a complex mix of PTSD, OCD, and Autism. With the PTSD, he blocked everyone out, till all that was left was status. OCD would have him with the repeated intrusive thoughts of needing to be the best, or else, well, the general "bad things will happen" type response. Autism is definitely important in this mix, because he has been working towards it for years, and the moment it might be out of reach entirely, complete and total meltdown and confusion ensues. Yes, that could be attributed to both the PTSD and OCD, but trust me. I know him. Several other things about him play into these three, to make the list short, being unable to stop to let the blame hit him for once is crucial to not letting what little of he has left to his name be shattered. The small sense of identity is all effects of PTSD, OCD and autism. The deal with Optimus is so neurodivergent I swear to God. He is just some guy with a handful of mental disorders that doesn't know how to articulate care. I need to stop now and so I shall, smile. Oh and by the way, Sari Sumdac is trans, realizing she was a robot transed her, she is nonbinary she/they/he. Thank you and Good Night

#callisto.wav #sentinelminor #tf #GOD. I CANT BELIEVE I DID THIS. I LITERALLY STARTED ASKING LIKE 'HEY WHO IN TFA IS IMPORTANT TO YOU' TO MAKE SURE I GOT EVERYONE

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herotune · 2 years

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Hello there! I wanted to ask you why you don't want that BBC Sherlock fans interact with your Art? I'm a BBC fan, but I'm a fan of canon and other Sherlock interpretations too. Furthermore, I don't want to offend you, so maybe I can understand.

ok so disclaimer at the start: im not. mad at you for sending this ask; if i sound angry explaining this its because the show breaks my heart and the things eggs benedict has said in interviews make my blood boil but like i do want to give u a fair explanation

also. PLEASE if anyone wants to re/blog this just dont. i dont want this to take off in any way i just. want to explain why the show makes me uncomfortable.

i did kind of explain in the tags on this post: [link] but i think i need to fix my theme bc i dont think it shows tags on desktop so i'll explain again. i actually have. a lot to say about it and im gonna put a longer explanation under a cut but basically:

TLDR; i think both the show and its stars are really ableist homophobic and racist (mr cummerbund is especially monstrously ableist and even if you dont read the rest of the post i do highly recommend you look up what hes said about autistic people before continuing to support the show) and i just. dont want ppl who like it interacting with me

but i also think the show itself really is. the antithesis to the original stories on all fronts and just utterly lacks the humanity and compassion the og stories were full of and changed the public perception of the character of sherlock holmes significantly for the worse.

sherlock holmes was never meant to be an asshole and is in fact consistently an incredibly sweet kind and sincere person full of compassion and consideration for others in the stories and it just breaks my heart that the b/b/c version threw everything good about the books out and made everyone think holmes was an asshole who doesnt give a shit about others when thats Never who he was in the first place.

and then all the gay baiting pisses me off bc holmes is really heavily coded as gay in the og stories imo but its hard to talk about it bc the concepts been ruined for a lot of ppl bc of the show.

and thats basically it.

and this is already. Really long but longer explanation under cut:

huge warning for ableism and homophobia here but i really REALLY hate mr eggs benedict whose name i refuse to say correctly. hes said a lot of really vile things in interviews including this idiotic shit about alan turing:

and this NIGHTMARISHLY ableist mess about autistic people:

both of which are from this interview: [link]

and THIS also equally nightmarishly ableist mess AGAIN about autistic people:

which is from THIS interview: [link]

i shouldnt have to explain why this is fucking horrible. as a gay man and as someone whos both autistic and adhd i find his comments like. legitimately monstrous for a lot of obvious reasons.

i shouldnt have to explain why its horrible to say that alan turing “wasnt camp” so it’s ok to not address the fact he was gay. i shouldnt have to explain why its horrible to compare autistic people to frankensteins monster or say that we’re “all about bodily functions” or that autistic ppl are permanent mental one year olds or that someone who’s brilliant can’t possibly be autistic because it’d give us “false hope.” (and calling sherlock a sociopath is a whole other can of worms idk if i can even begin to unpack)

all of this is legitimately horrible and evil on its own and if you cant understand that i really REALLY dont want u interacting with me at all and would prefer you just block me right now.

but its also really hurtful because it's really obvious to me from the og stories that holmes is both autistic and adhd. he’s actually one of the most textbook accurate complex and human depictions of someone whos autistic and adhd ive ever seen in my entire life and it just. Really hurts that the show deliberately refuses to acknowledge it and tries to take away representation we genuinely already HAVE in the books because it would give us “false hope.”

you Cannot replicate holmes as a character and his thought process without recognizing he’s both adhd and autistic. holmes has nonverbal episodes, he has intense hyperfocus and special interests (watson actually describes his interests in stuff like violins and criminology as him having made a “special study” of each and holmes describes his interest in criminology as his “special subject” at one point)

his thought process as described in the books also very much mirrors adhd “ive connected so many dots so quickly that i cant even really explain how i got here and nobody knows what im talking about because there was only one passenger on this runaway train of thought and its me and i wasnt even fully aware of the whole ride either” where like, he’ll make observations in an instant n then have to walk back and figure out how to explain things again (for example he does that a lot in the og book version of a study in scarlet)

and he does tend to take things literally quite a bit. there’s a few times in the stories (like the gloria scott and when watson gives holmes his brothers pocket watch in the sign of the four) where people will ask him to use his observational skills on them and he’ll do it to the best of his ability because he took their request completely literally n did exactly what they asked, without recognizing some of the things he was observing might be too personal or might be upsetting (and when he recognizes that he Has said something that upset them he genuinely apologizes and tries to make up for it and walks them through how he knew these things because he genuinely did not mean to upset them and actually cares about how they feel)

and this isnt even like. everything that makes it incredibly and unambiguously clear hes autistic and adhd. but this post is like so fucking long already but basically. i dont think there’s any room for doubt that he’s autistic and adhd in the og stories and its such a pervasive obvious and intrinsic part of his character that if someone can’t recognize it its usually because theyve got some incredibly awful ableist hangups about autistic and adhd people and dont think we’re human beings (like mr fucking cumberpatch)

and this isnt even getting into the horrible misogyny lesbophobia and biphobia with irene adler, the racism in episodes like the blind banker, the racist and misogynistic comments ma/rtin free/man made about lucy li/u, and all the other horrible shit associated with that show.

there’s quite a few things in some of the og stories that havent aged well bc they were written in the 1800s and i fucking hate it but like. theres still a lot of good in them and its INFURIATING and heartbreaking to me that the b/b/c had every opportunity to update the stories for the present day but they refused to and actually KEPT some of the things that hadnt aged well while simultaneously tossing out basically everything good about them.

there’s a lot about that show that i will never forgive and i could go on but im gonna. stop here bc this post is a mile long and i should maybe just make a 5 hour long video essay about it but whatever.

basically. i think if you can read all this and know all this about the show and still like it i would really rather you just. leave me alone

and since a lot of this is present in the show itself i dont really, fully believe that ppl just arent aware of the problems with it even if they hadnt read mar/tin free/man and eggs benedicts monstrous comments in interviews. like yeah yeah you can enjoy things critically but after a certain point it just. crosses a line and for me personally this show really does and i would really rather ppl who like the show just. not interact with me.

that’s all.

#sky writing #priority mail #anon #i dont. think i want to or am going to answer too many asks about this but i did. want to explain here

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chicken i'm a teacher and i feel like a lot of the advice given to teachers for how best to support students with adhd comes from the neurotypical community. things like chunk information into smaller parts, give frequent breaks, use fidget toys, etc. and maybe that's all good advice (??), but is there anything you wish teachers would do differently? things that would give your brain the best chance of learning?

oh man this is such a good thoughtful question & one that i hope every teacher thinks about, but i know it’s tough so i really appreciate that you are!! i think the ones you gave are pretty good practical tips, honestly? i’m hoping other people will jump in because i just have my experience to speak from.

a couple things that i would say that are less... concrete but just stuff i wish my teachers had known:

- the formal dx isn’t everything / don’t assume that kids are neurotypical

i know there’s a lot of paperwork and stuff around these issues for you guys, so this can be a little tough to manage. one thing that happened to me though and that i hear a lot from friends is just like..... it’s hereditary, and also there’s a lot of stigma around being neurodivergent, especially in older generations? i know my mom really pushed back against anyone that suggested that i had adhd, because she has the exact same symptoms and was kind of like Why Are These Teachers Using This Parent Teacher Conference To Call Me a Big Freak. i know other parents that just think it’s too weird to have an nd kid and basically picked any possible weird workaround over getting an actual diagnosis. i think a lot of teachers kind of look at formal dx as a way to separate kids who are lazy but normal from kids who have “real problems,” and that can get really super gnarly if you’re, y’know, a ten year old whose parents just don’t believe in the idea of adhd for whatever reason.

- don’t assume that kids aren’t trying?

i know there’s totally just some kids that need more motivation for whatever reason, but...... i think the flipside is that..... you can also just put a ton of pressure on a kid who is genuinely trying super hard? i think a lot of teachers have a little bit of an idea that there’s a series of magic words that they can say to properly motivate a kid, and then presto, they’ll follow directions and be Fixed. and definitely they mean well!! but also i think you can really easily make a kid shut down if they’re trying their absolute hardest & none of the adults around them are perceiving it at all? it honestly was pretty traumatic to want to be good at school So Badly and still have every adult be constantly like okay...... we need to talk about why you’re lazy and don’t care and why you’re shitty at this, actually. i think my best teachers just really had a sense of humor about the fact that i was going to misunderstand stuff or forget deadlines and that it wasn’t a matter of them teaching it badly or me not caring to learn.

- if you figure out how to work with one kid with adhd..... congratulations you figured out how to work with one (1) kid with adhd

this is something that autistic people have talked about a lot, but i think it also really holds true for adhd? my partner and i always make each other a lil crazy because despite having Same Guy Disease we have uhhh completely opposite needs. jay’s dyslexic mcfuck and he wants verbal instructions and someone to talk to basically every waking minute or he’s like I’M BORED I NEED TASKS NOW!!! IMMEDIATELY!!! I’M POKING THE WORLD WITH A STICK. DO SOMETHING. whereas i..... cannot interpret verbal instructions worth one good goddamn and if you give me strict instructions and deadlines with no wiggle room i’ll simply get claustrophobic and die. like my ideal school situation is someone gives me a textbook full of problems and they sit in another room and never speak to me unless i have a question. genuinely. i know there’s some skepticism in ed about learning styles, but i do think for people with Sensory Stuff that just being... more thoughtful about how information is delivered and how they’re receiving it can really help? a lot of adhd people really struggle with written info or verbal info, and if you’re relying 100% on one option it’s... kind of impossible for them to Do School in any real way.

- just have a sense of humor / support kids if they figure out a way that works for them?

i kinda mentioned this earlier, but i think a lot of people fall into the trap of thinking that they can motivate every kid into doing things The Right Way, and then a lot of kids just shut down instead? genuinely the teachers i got along with the best were the ones that just.... kind of sat back and accepted that like, i was not native to their environment and wasn’t going to be able engage with stuff the way they envisioned. i took the same math teacher for three years of high school because at one point i just started ignoring her lectures & doing homework during every class. instead of confronting me about it she just was kind of like “weird!!! not technically a sin though!” and we?? got along great after that? like literally better than i had ever gotten along with a teacher until then. i didn’t even know you could go to math class and not cry! amazing. i won’t say i was ever super great at math, but i went from being the kid getting Fs on every single test and never turning in homework to being a pretty reliable B+ student. she totally could’ve gotten offended in that situation since she was trying dang hard to give an interesting lecture, but having her just kind of go “weird! okay” and not be like Callout Post: This Child Is So Annoying made such a huge fucking difference for me (shoutout to ms. butler thank you for letting me graduate high school etc etc)

let kids see other life paths without judgment

kind of in line with the motivation thing, but i think like.... yes kids with ADHD can absolutely thrive in academics, but also make it clear that it’s not a catastrophe if it’s not a good environment for them? there’s so much rhetoric around “you have to do well in 1st grade so you can get into harvard and be a lawyer” or whatever, and i think kids who struggle pick up on that more than people realize. i remember really genuinely feeling like there was straight up not a future for me if i didn’t find a way to just like.... get a new brain??? and i wish i’d had positive role models for the idea that like. you can have a cool interesting life even if you’re very bad at sitting in a lecture!! it’s fine!! maybe you can’t be an astronaut or whatever but it’s still worth trying to graduate and see what’s out there

OKAY my two practical tips: let kids wander the fuck around AND also. start a knitting club

okay this is just for me but lmaoooooooo my elementary school teachers thought i was gonna SIT STILL??? and THINK???? at the SAME TIME???? i don’t even do that as a 25 year old. please. you know those bikes that like power electricity generators? that’s what a hyperactive brain is like. if they’re not moving they’re just not doing anything.

also yeah knitting club. you gotta. my 4th grade teacher sucked so bad on every single front listed above and she hated me soooooo much but she did teach me how to sit through a 30 minute meeting without crying. fucking around with string and sticks IS adhd culture probably. idk.

#sorry this is so many words but obviously i think about this Constantly hjgs #hope some of it helps!! also feel free to ask questions or wtv #anon #ask

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