#learn from my mistakes my friends

[neyafromfrance95]

i'm so sorry to see that you're being vagueposted about for your sylki takes. it may be true that how you see sylki is a bit different than a certain section of the fandom, but that doesn't at ALL mean that you shouldn't be allowed to have your own takes! fwiw, i followed you bc i actually agree with and really enjoy ur perspective on sylki. i was getting frustrated with how many people seem to view this ship in a super heteronormative way and want sylvie to basically become a housewife, and i was so glad to find a blog that felt the same way. this fandom has become tiring tbh with how many people are now freaking out that sylvie hasn't immediately started having lokis babies in s2, and i really wish that people would at least leave room for others to have their own opinions!

this! that section of sylki shippers do not leave any room for you to have your opinions! they act like a fanon police controlling what you say in your posts on your blog!

and god forbid that what you say opposes their own hcs and takes, if you commit this unforgivable sin of having a take that is different from theirs, you better be ready for some good old online group harassment! they will make you feel like you are not welcome in this fandom, they will make sure that you are hurt, they will alienate you and force you out!

but no, you are the bad guy for jokingly calling a fandom in general "vanilla" and saying (after several disclaimers that it's your personal opinion) that when it comes to canon, you don't think that sylvie should be all about being loki's housewife.

at this point i honestly hate this fandom. there are some decent sylkis out there and i love the ship itself, but a big portion of the fandom has simply sucked all the joy for the series out of me. i wonder if they realize what the consequences of their behavior could be? back when i said (in my blog) that i don't think sylvie having babies is a compelling completion of her story in canon, and this bunch came to my blog to harass me for my takes, i was in a very *very* bad place already, and the space that was supposed to be my escape pretty much turned on me and added up to an already depressing state i was in.

and bfr anyone says that it's just a fandom wank, let me tell you that these people know how to be really cruel, whether they realize it or not, their behavior is simply cruel. they don't just argue in favor of their opinion, they shit on you personally, get aggressive towards you personally, make you feel like you "can't sit with them", ect. it gets really creepy and ugly.

and the thing is, i never addressed anyone specific in my posts, i never said *this* person and *that* person have shitty hcs/takes, i never even vaguely hinted at a distaste towards the hcs/takes of someone specific, but they accuse me of pointing fingers. when i said that i didn't think canon sylvie having babies would work, i never said anything about sylki babies in fanfiction, yet people accused me of pointing fingers at the fic writers. and they would come to my blog, harass me in the replies and asks, and talk about how despicable i am in their own blogs, and it went on and on for a while.

thanks for your nice words, anon, they are uplifting. and to those who can't stand me so much, don't worry, i'm going to leave this fandom once the series is finished. i hope you are satisfied that being a shitty, gatekeeping, narrow-minded, egocentric person worked for you! but don't ever feel entitled to complain about how lokius shippers treat you.

#asks #sylki #sylvie laufeydottir #loki #i regret ever getting invested in this fandom i really really regret it #learn from my mistakes my friends #unfortunately a lot of your mutuals aren't actually your friends #they are going to turn your time in the fandom into hell if you dare to voice your unpopular opinion/hc on your own blog! #i had mutuals harass me and ppl i thought as friends not come to my aid bc of nonexistent sylki babies lmao #anyways anyways #you win! good job at forcing the last sylki who has unpopular takes/hcs out of the fandom! #you could have just muted or blocked me but i guess it was your duty to make sure it was clear that sylki fandom hates me! #oh & thank you for destroying my desire to ever read a sylki fic vanilla or not bc i can't be sure that it's not written by someone who #felt so insecure bc of my hcs that they decided to ruin the fandom experience for me! #mf i never insulted your fic i'm sure i have never even read it i was simply ranting about what i would like to read in case there was #someone wondering if there would be an audience for that sort of thing #and i never told you not to hc sylki/sylvie a certain way when i ranted on my blog how i don't think housewife!sylvie would work in canon! #but deep down you know that you just don't want anyone to have a different hc/take #again don't worry! you won! hope you are happy! #actually you managed to destroy my desire to be in any fandom ever! i should replace fandom with grass-touching bc maybe the lack of said #grass-touching is the reason some of you think everything is about you and targets you and your precious hcs #god i just cant stop thinking regretful i am for getting invested in this fandom when so many shippers turned out so hypocritical bad peopl #maybe one good thing that may come out of this is some poor soul reading it and getting a reality check regarding twitter/tumblr fandoms #DON'T GET ATTACHED THESE PPL WILL HARASS YOU AND HURT YOU OVER MADE-UP BABIES #it's not worth it! prioritize your mental health! #i have wasted so much of my time defending sylkis from the antis here & on twt only to have the majority of them turn on me #i want my time back god i really want all that wasted time back #why are you mfs sending me angry asks i told u that u won i'm leaving this fandom what more do u want from me?! #im not wasting my life in the fandom where the mfs would harass a real person bc of their parasocial relationship with hc babies #be content with hurting and forcing a person out of the fandom bc u took smtng that wasn't targeted at u too personally

[dizzybevvie]

"Stoick was just as bad as Spitelout" just say you didnt watch Riders of Berk

#ALSO???? NO. #Stoick said sorry he grew as a person he learned from his mistakes #Spitelout Never got Better. Period. #I think its sad because a lot of stoicks characterisation is lost on people since almost all of it happens in riders of berk #you get to watch stoick be a PERSON and a FATHER rather than just a chief #Stoick is goofy and silly hes funny snd ppl dont see that bc they never watched rob #Remember that episode of Riders Of Berk where he effectively steals toothless? or tells hiccup to make astrid+snot to fight to the death #Or the ENTIRETY of Portrait of Hiccup as a Buff Man??!??!? #LIKE STOICK LEARNS. STOICK L E A R N S AND HE G R O W S #Me and my friend @/vairsmania had a longgg conversation abt this but yeah!!!! STOICK LEARNEDD #When ppl dojt forgive stoick its just a red flag to me #httyd

[stevethehairington]

really fucking sick and tired of people who really fucking love the eddie book jumping on people who don't like or are even remotely critical of it's posts and like crusading their opinions around from the top of their high horses and shoving it down our throats.

if you like the book, great! that's awesome! love that for you! i am genuinely glad that you were able to find good in it and enjoy it!!

but not everyone did, and not everyone is going to agree with you. so, instead of going on some grand crusade where you find every single post that includes anything even remotely negative or negative adjacent or even neutrally critical and spending ALL this time and effort trying to provide unwanted rebuttals to every single thing, maybe you should just stay in your lane and find people who DO like the book and chat about it with them.

because i can PROMISE YOU, none of us appreciate it when you come onto our posts and start accusing us of "hating on" the author or "being rude" about her and her work and RIDICULOUS shit like that.

being critical of something and pointing out it's flaws is NOT inherently hating on it. i, frankly, do not know where people got that notion, but it's not fucking true so can we fucking quit assuming it is? and, critiquing something is also NOT the same as saying this is shit and it sucks and the author is a piece of garbage. again, where the fuck that came from is beyond me. you can be critical of something and still enjoy it. as soooo many of you love to point out, it's not perfect, why should it be perfect? so D U H. of course that means criticism can and should arise???

also. hot take (by which i mean ice fucking cold because it's NOT a fucking hot take), but going around toting FALSE facts as part of your "defense" does not make you or your argument look good. you, like the author, should maybe do a basic fact check first. 🙃

tldr, if you like the book, that's genuinely great, but stay in your fucking lane and stop seeking out posts from people who didn't like it to start shit in the notes.

#flight of icarus #stranger things #this has happened to me and to so many of my friends and im fucking SICK of it #i didn't even hate the book either!! i thought it was just okay #and yet i STILL get all these book lovers jumping down my throat about things i say about the book #things that - HONESTLY are not even like that scathing!!!!! #like god damn all im asking for is a little BASIC effort from the author and they all think thats me asking for her head on a platter #its NOT #i have no problem with the author #she's whatever to me honestly just a vessel through which the book was given to us #ALSO she is some nebulous blob way outside my orbit. AS IN any critiques i have of her and her work are NOT direct assaults on her??? #like i dont fucking KNOW her #im not saying any of this to her face #she is a published writer she should KNOW the risks she is taking when she publishes her writing #not everyone is going to like it! there are going to be people who are critical of it! there are going to be people who hate it! #critiques and pointing out mistakes and wishing for things to have been different is not a fucking direct attack #those things are actually pretty fucking common responses to ANYTHING #and a lot of times theyre actually meant as useful helpful things geared towards improvement and not something to tear someone down with #some people on the internet need to go touch grass and learn how to CRITICALLY THINK again #the world is not as black and white as you think #n e ways. rant over. if you stuck around through all of that kudos to you. i am just. at the end of my rope with this bullshit.

[leeenuu]

@pscentral event 13: tropes ↳ the sound of music (1965) (in/sp)

#the sound of music #filmedit #userabs #usermills #userraffa #userrobin #userleahrose #cinemapix #filmtv #gifs* #pscentral* #could've done more gifs if not for the fact i need to wake up in five hours #i never learn from my mistakes smh #time management is not my friend

[transgenderfivepebbles]

hating hod is a red flag tbh. never trust a hod hater

#ramblings #something something.. her story being about learning to move forward and forgive yourself #about how even if you make an unimaginably horrible mistake it doesn't condemn you to being a Bad Person Forever #and endlessly beating yourself up or sacrificing yourself in a search for redemption is pointless #and it's better for everyone to try to be kind to yourself #like people genuinely are out here hating her for getting the head onto ayin and co.'s case but #that's the entire point of her story? it's About how much she regrets it and her journey to heal from that guilt? #she did it because she was young and innocent and her friends were dying out there?? #the central theme is literally The Hope to Be a Better Person #i will never understand. hod is my best friend i love her. hod haters not allowed

[mo49ko]

Hello!! Firstly, I must tell you that your art is adorable! You were one of the first artists I ever found for TGCF and your fengqing dynamic is perfect!

I was wondering if you had any tips for learning Japanese? I've been trying to learn it for a year but I can't get the hang of it 〒▽〒 I try to use your Japanese versions of your comics to help but since I've already read them in English, I don't feel like I'm learning anything...

Do you have any advice or tips on where to start? qwq

hello!! thank you so much it makes so happy!! i only started drawing fengqing 6 months ago so it's surprising that you found me 🥹💖i have so much fun drawing them!

hmmm im not studying japanese so i don't have specific ressources... if any of my followers have some please feel free to share them in the comments! 💖 it might depend on your level as well.

however, i think that the most important thing about languages is that they're just a tool to communicate with people/access culture/knowledge in another language, so you shouldn't worry too much about the grammar and stuff like that from the beginning.

as someone who has studied many languages, my general tips are:

learn through things that interest you rather than textbook/language apps (ex. manga, anime, etc.) ※ i know that some people say not to do that because a lot of phrases are "unnatural" which is true, but imo if you have awareness about it you will pick up on that really quickly anyways. the point is just to consume a lot of the language;

try to speak/write in that language even if you make mistakes (native speakers really don't care!!): for example, you can tweet something simple or write a simple blog post in japanese often. you can also comment on people's art or fanfics using simple sentences, then you can read other people's comments to learn new ways to express yourself.

consume media that is directed at native speakers (ex. instead of language-learning youtube, you can just watch regular videos from japanese youtubers about topics that interest you), because that way you can learn a lot of natural/casual phrases to use. i'm saying this because language-learning videos will often "simplify" sentences but you won't hear it said like that irl.

as for where i think you should start, i'm assuming you already know the alphabets since you're reading my comics 🫶 in that case, i would encourage you to read a lot more! for example, you can find fengqing comics and fanfics in japanese on twitter 💖 many creators who participated in the 2023 fengqing web event write them!

for me, the most important thing when learning a new language is to be interested in the people who use that language. so just engage with them and learn through whatever contents you find interesting!! 💗

i'm sorry if my answer is not that precise. you can feel free to ask me if you have other questions!! 頑張ってください～

edit: another anon has kindly shared their experience in another ask!

#english isnt even my first language (<- obvious) and i make mistakes all the time but!!! it doesnt matter!!!! #moko replies #anonymous #i learned a lot of spanish years ago by talking to friends from south america who liked anime lol #learning languages for hobbies is 100% valid and effective btw!!!! #i respect ppl who make the effort so much #sometimes i talk to someone who studied so hard to get N1 but they....cant talk like a normal person...at all.... #vs people who learned it by actually... talking with people #just have fun with it !!!!!!!!

[heavenly-garden]

I am not a robot 🤖 I am human and happy to be alive even if the world is shrouded in darkness and looks super ugly right now but there is still a light within my heart and I refuse to give up faith and I refuse to give up hope. I still believe in human kindness. The media doesn't show it so we have to show it. We cannot depend on any govt to care about our wellbeing. We need our own communities to care for each other, neighbors helping neighbors. That's it. Human endeavors are not all evil, there are still good people trying to make a difference, they don't yell or make a scene they quietly move amongst us as hidden angels in human form.

#i am not a robot #i am human #i make mistakes #i try to learn from my mistakes #i love my family #i love my friends #i love my church #i am part of a loving community #i feel deeply for others #i care about people #i just wish this world care about me #but individual people choose to care about me #always take all lifes blessings wih gratitude #eveey kindness no matter how small matters to me

[nuggies69]

I often think back to what the hell was going on through Hanzo's head on that unfortunate day with Genji. I remember someone pointing out in the written lore from Blzzrd, it was never clearly stated that the elders gave the order for Hanzo to eliminate Genji. They said "the tension led to a violent confrontation" and "Hanzo was forced to kill him." (I find it annoying sometimes in the English language, separated sentences can cause ambiguous meaning.)

So this led me to think,

Scenario A

If he truly was "forced by the elders", how pressured and broken was Hanzo at that moment that he had no other choice but to do that? How scared does one have to be to not make a decision on their own? Maybe his own life was on the line? I can understand someone choosing their own life over another. And well, they're just brothers I have to remind myself my shipping hc is just fanon lol. I think it's easy enough to choose yourself over a sibling, especially if said sibling is not helping. Dw Genji I love u no matter what If this was what happened, I imagine he would... convince himself it wasn't entirely his own fault at that moment, because it was an order. I imagine it would be easier for current him to forgive himself because Genji would emphasize it wasn't entirely his fault.

Scenario B

But if the "tension grew to a violent confrontation" and Hanzo wasn't ordered by the elders, instead he lost patience at that moment... I imagine it would be infinitely harder for Hanzo to forgive himself. Because I'm pretty sure everyone has experience anger so strong they wanted to hurt someone, even if it was their loved ones especially if it was a loved one, even if they know they don't truly want to hurt them. Because they know the other person won't leave them. And if Hanzo wanted to hurt Genji at the moment, it would be understandable if the self-loathing was infinite.

I imagine he made an impromptu slash to Genji. One cut across his torso, not as brutal and as many as other headcanons, but deep enough to cause multiple failures in Genji's body. After, he'd realize what he has done, leave the crime scene in a hurry, panicked as he was not planning to kill.

The elders would tell him Genji died. Whether or not they saw OW take his body, I don't know, but they probably want Hanzo back in work as soon as possible so they agreed he was dead. And that was that, there was nothing left for Hanzo to do but work until he decided to run away.

In this scenario, what was there for Genji to say to help Hanzo forgive himself? "You were pressured to do that," or "I was a brat at that time and you were mad," okay, external input would be helpful. But Hanzo himself knows he wanted to hurt Genji then. And that will forever haunt him. He may still heal slowly, but that thought would probably come back sometimes and ruin his day.

I wonder if Hanzo would ever tell Genji this, let the burden out of his heart, finally lay everything bare? Genji would still say it's okay, what happened has happened and they can try to be better, and that his forgiveness will never leave Hanzo. But your true enemy will always be yourself. I hope Hanzo finds genuine peace at one point. Hanzo probably didn't wanna repeat the same incident with another human being, so he kept his distance. Make friends, yes, but never too close, never too familiar. So he can remind himself to keep his temper in check. Never too comfortable.

This also cause me tho think about him and Illari. I know I can't compare the both, as everyone has their own burdens and different limitations.

But IF what happened to Hanzo was Scenario B and he somewhat still have control over what the did, his grieving would probably be... easier to process than Illari's. Not any less heavy, but at least it's a more tangible thing to process. Because he still had someone to blame, someone to focus the hatred on.

Illari never intended to hurt her people. The accident was simply the universe being a bicth to her. Who was there to blame? She can't keep blaming herself even if she wanted to, cuz she didn't ask to be born with such strength. It's not fair. And now she's making up for something that happened because the universe decided to fuck around. Hanzo can strangle himself, but who can Illari strangle? The feeling of having no focus for the hatred is what I think would weight heaviest on Illari's shoulder.

#Nuggies ranting #I think about them often cuz blzzrd wont #I like to know every detail of a situation #Tbh the hamno part was smth i went through in the past #With a friend that was dear to me #I now realize maybe that's why i think often about what happened to the bros #The path to redemption is trying #My other friends have told me to let it go do better and move on #I try to do better but if i let it go then how would I learn from my mistakes? #I don't like thinking too hard because this is what happens when I think too hard and make myself sad #So I try to focus on happier things #Sometimes I think it's pointless and cringe to imagine what fictional characters think and feel at the moment cuz they're fkin pixels #But I guess this is a way for humans to process their own feelings in a... prettier way #Self consolidation perchance

[permanentreverie]

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#ok so mini rant session #i am doing a bit better today - little less distraught over getting fired from a job i thought i was doing pretty good at and i was trying #really hard and genuinely enjoying #and just more baffled because truly i had no warning and i was completely blindsided #i was in the middle of a 3 month trial and i would have a review at the end in which i would be offered a permanent position if it went well #and i thought i was making my way towards that! granted i was still making mistakes but genuinely not of such a great scale i thought it #called for my immediate dismissal #that being said i was still VERY MUCH IN TRAINING. i had only been there A MONTH AND A HALF learning COMPLETELY NEW SYSTEMS #and i was told that i had been there a few weeks already and that i wasn’t catching on quick enough. that there were some areas i was #understanding and others i just simply wasn’t #and i asked what areas specifically so that i could learn more and try harder #and they didn’t give me a specific answer. #ok and so. so. i have this insecurity. #that at first impression people will like me. that they may think i’m pretty or kind or funny or whatever #but then they spend time with me or get to know me and realize that that’s all bullshit. #that i’m actually not pretty and im mean and loud and selfish and lazy and rude and etc etc etc #MASSIVE fucking insecurity in that like that’s why i genuinely don’t have friends or a significant other #and that genuinely i’m just a Bad Person #and when i was fired? i was told ‘a persons true colours show after a few weeks’ #so that’s MAJORLY fucking me up. #when i was hired i was boasted to about my boss’s hiring process and how she’s ’only been fooled twice’ #and the morning before i was fired in a meeting my supervisor told everyone that i was doing quite well. #so yeah i truly had no fucking warning. at fucking all. #hurt and confused and angry and baffled and did i mention hurt #anyways if you’re still here i’m sorry i know this is not a good look for me

[the-paris-of-people]

For those of you that thought Kimberly and Canaan were out of left field...

Oh boy, buckle up, because I am going to explain how Kimberly and Canaan make perfect sense together and the show has been building to them since their first interaction. I'm going to be examining their scenes together, their scenes in other romantic relationships and interactions with friends, and ultimately investigate the events of the finale, which culminated in them developing feelings for each other.

In the first scene where Kimberly and Canaan are introduced, Canaan takes advantage of Kimberly's naivete by telling her he has to work multiple jobs to support his family because his mother is addicted to crack. I personally love this scene because it reveals Kimberly's lack of exposure to POC and touches on her unconscious biases prior to coming to Essex, but it also establishes the fun, banter-y dynamic between Canaan and Kimberly from the get-go. Kimberly later stands up for Canaan and this choice was 100% deliberate on the writer's part for K/C relationship building. Christopher Meyer's background reactions (in a lot of these scenes) suggest he's in awe at the different side of Kimberly that's shown to him through this interaction. Kimberly may have that sweet, kind, girl-next-door vibe but she also has a backbone and is not afraid to stand up for herself. Moreover, Canaan's being in agreement of Kimberly's speech and their shared position at Sips together implies shared values that bind them together, at least in the affluent world of Essex.

A few episodes later, when she and Bela attend the comedy gala, Kimberly understands from Canaan that he and Lila are not being tipped well as caterers. She leaves them a large tip and announces to everyone that they are on financial aid, which elicits pity tips from the attending gala members. Canaan initially doesn't believe this will work, and he's so surprised and grateful to Kimberly for her shrewd assessment of the situation, he gives her a portion of their tips later. Again, Kimberly's resourceful advice surprises and compels Canaan, setting them up for a deeper connection down the road.

For those of you who don't regularly follow my blog, I'm also obsessed with Ben and Devi from Never Have I Ever (another MK show) and love that Ben acts to "save Devi from herself" and often is her voice of reason, pushing her to be a better person. Canaan acts as this voice of reason throughout the remainder of season 1 for Kimberly, reminding to focus on her Econ homework instead of obsessing over Nico because it's likely not worth it (a hard lesson Kimberly learns on her own), imploring her not to cheat because she cannot pull it off. The latter observation suggests that over the time period of working together, Canaan knows her, knows that she cannot cheat, knows that is the least discrete person in the world and she cannot pull it off (again, Canaan is right again) He even calls her cute during this conversation, yes he compares it to when Nemo gets mad at his Dad, but it's clear during this commentary that while he may be passing it off as a joke, he genuinely finds Kimberly attractive on some level.

There's another comment in this scene Canaan makes to Kimberly that sets them both up to be together. Canaan tells Kimberly he sees her with "more of a sweet boy" and describes a nerd. All we know about Canaan at this point in season 1 is that he's funny, sarcastic, DTF (with Whitney at this point), and kind, the "nerd" aspect of his personality hasn't come up - at least for now.

During season 2, Canaan and Kimberly embark upon parallel journeys to date a great person, but not the right person for them. We can argue Leighton goes through a similar journey in another post, but that's for another day. At the end of s1 and beginning of s2, Canaan dates Whitney (who btw I would die for, no Whitney slander in the comments please) and while the two are attracted to each other, have good conversation, and seem to get along, they seem to have different attitudes towards their family and academic goals. Canaan defends Whitney's mom to her for coming to make sure she was okay after the whole Coach Dalton (aka the most heinous man known to society) fiasco and has a much more clear plan about his career/future than Whitney while Whitney is still trying to navigate her nascent relationships with her mother and biochemistry. I want to make it clear that there is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with Whitney trying to figure that out and she's amazing and deserves the best and 100% deserves all the love in the world, but it's clear from the Zoe/phone incident (although CANAAN hello you 100% should have told Whitney and not invited Zoe to the Kissmas party) that Canaan values being with someone who's completely secure with themselves in order to build a strong relationship. It's notable that when Canaan is reassuring Whitney about Zoe he calls her "A dream girl" rather than "MY dream girl" and that may be reading too much into it but I think the article choice was deliberate on the part of the writers. Also before Canaan asks Whitney to be his gf, he compliments Whitney that the study geek vibe on her is cute. Again, interesting considering how he thinks the perfect guy for Kimberly as a nerd because she is one ... and at the same time he is also attracted to them.

On the flip side, we have Kimberly who begins a little romance with Jackson. Jackson seems like a great, nice guy who really likes Kimberly, which is a refreshing break for my girl considering she had been through the ringer and back with Nico, losing her scholarship, and donating her eggs. However, yes she has this great, hot guy who's into her- the issue is, she's not into him and she feels they don't fully understand each other. Jackson initially doesn't participate in the food worker's strike even though it's near and dear to Kimberly's heart, she's incredibly passionate about social causes and is helping organize the movement as well! Once Kimberly explains she wants him to support her, he does, but to Kimberly, she shouldn't have to explain. She feels Jackson immediately should have understood how the strike was important to her- worker's rights are in her core belief system (see: her upbringing and her speech at Sips in the first episode), and she should have a partner who immediately is willing to join which again, why I think it's intentional that this episode highlighted that Canaan helped her with the strike and was her team member while Jackson did not. After a conversation with Lila and Canaan (in which Canaan seems VERY jealous, might I add), she realizes how much it bothers her how little she and Jackson have in common. She doesn't get his EDM/country playlists, his love of wrestling, and while Jackson is willing to learn about the things he cares about and doesn't think that it's a big deal, it still doesn't seem like it's fully resolved.

In the background of these relationships, Kimberly and Canaan are orbiting each other. They update each other about their lives at the coffeehouse, they complain about Lila getting drunk on power, they work together on the strike, Canaan is there to observe Kimberly being supportive and prepping Lila for her manager interview, all until their journeys converge in the final two episodes of the season.

When Kimberly learns that Canaan is getting an award from the econ department, she's so excited for him and encourages him to attend. Canaan, who initially wasn't go to, has all of these dormant feelings for Kimberly that have developed over the past year which come to a head when he realizes how grateful he is to her for being so excited and supportive for him. He nervously invites her to the econ banquet, but because he's calm, collected, Canaan and he knows she's dating Jackson, he passes it off as a back-up invite. At the banquet, Kimberly, who is of aware that Canaan is kind, funny, and handsome, discovers a different side to him and sees that he's also humble, intelligent, hard-working, and cares about his family deeply, which reflect all of Kimberly's own positive qualities and values. On a value level, she realizes they have more in common than Jackson and Kimberly. They've worked together the whole year, there's been a small flame flickering between them, and once they're finally in a more romantic context, it's the match that lights the fire. Once he and Kimberly have that conversation about Canaan's mom's Alzheimer's, which is sure to come up in the future if I know Mindy's shows, she realizes that her hot work friend is much deeper than she knew he was, and she's interested in him and wants to know more, enjoys and wants time with Canaan more than she wants with Jackson. I don't think that Kimberly broke up with Jackson because she realized she had feelings for Canaan. I think she broke up with him because she realized, upon spending time with Canaan, she didn't have feelings for Jackson. Meanwhile, Canaan enjoys Kimberly's fun energy and openness at the banquet- she constantly is talking about how much fun she's having and wants to know more about his life and his mom and even though she's not cool or chill or fun, she's so unapologetically herself and happy about the way she lives her life and conducts herself (even when she almost eats the flowers off Canaan's dessert) and Canaan's into it.

Throughout the entire series, the writers set Canaan and Kimberly to get together. They always got along, were good for each other, balanced each other out, have a great platonic chemistry, and needed to date other people to realize the qualities they valued in each other as future potential partners. I know a lot of people wanted a classic "slow burn" situation and I was a little disappointed they didn't do it with them, but upon reflection, I actually like the route the writers took. They dropped little hints that Kimberly and Canaan would get together, and when they finally saw each other in a new light, away from work and their friends, and got to know each other more deeply, they realized they wanted to explore something more. Honestly, it's super realistic to have that one event that puts your hot friend in a new light and to just go for it and date afterwards instead of dragging it out. Based on the very first episode though, and even the whole first season, it's obvious they were setting up some kind of conflict between Kimberly and Whitney over dual interest in Canaan so while I think the situation is shitty and low-key devastates me, it was ALWAYS bound to happen and didn't just "come out of nowhere." Anyway, I urge you to rewatch the series and watch Canaan and Kimberly's interactions closely, it surprises me that there was so much uproar over them getting together when although not completely explicit, it was built into their arcs in s1 and s2.

#i will comment on the whitney stuff in another post if yall are curious #but genuinely it's not petty drama or ruining their friendship #it's very built into the character flaws of both kimberly and whitney to behave the way they did #and again the show was setting up for this conflict #and obviously whitney and kimberly going through this is going to make their friendship stronger #kimberly should have absolutely told whitney but also why is everyone acting like kimberly shot someone and is this backstabbing bitch when #she's been one of the most loyal friends and is the “mom” of the suite but she just made a mistake like a normal 18/19 year old that she wi #ll likely learn from and never hurt whitney like that again #anyway yall are sleeping on canaan and kimberly they are adorable and they are full supportive husband/wife energy and endgame potential #canaan x kimberly #kimberly x canaan #tslocg #the sex lives of college girls #canaan greene #kimberly finkle #i will protect whitney kimberly and canaan with my life #also canaan was very resolute in his decision to break up with whitney #it was clear to him they were not right from each other

[astro-inthestars]

YOOOOOOO WE FUCKIN DID IT!!!! YEAHHH!! We slayed SOOO well!! EVERYONE DID!! The other sections were SO FUCKING GOOD i LOVED it!!! And like, we won first place or whatever i didnt care about that really BUT WE ALL DID GREAT!

Anyways, just got home from my pal's birthday party (more like Hang Out at the mall, we ate out) it was AWESOME! First time inside a Starbucks, and first order ALL ON MY OWN! (HELL YEAH RELIGIOUS REBELLION!!)

#rennikorambles #i dont actually KNOW if its rebellion since. i ordered java chip frappucino... and i dunno if that has coffee or anythin- #BUT EITHER WAY im so glad my first time inside a starbucks is with friends <333 #i lost ALL my money <33333 #worth it #i was SO jumpy and excited the whole damn time. just shows how hyped i am around my friends <3 i love those idiots so much #after eating at pizza hut we went to an arcade and I got TWO keychain plushies from the claw machines (SLAY) #one of them i gave as a bday gift to my pal LMAO the other i kept <33 a little wolfy!!! #and then after that they went to starbucks and YEAHHH it was so fun #and then we went to the department store and immediately went to the toy section (which includes games like video games on the ps4/5 etc) #those idiots got One Piece playing cards. nerdddss <33 (me staring longingly at Persona 5 Royal on PS4 for a discounted price. help) #(I CANT GET IT IM NOT A GAMER IM BAD AT GAMES AND AND) #anyways #as for the musical MAN im just so proud. in my opinion the other's did WAY better than our section in terms of song and choreography #but the only one-up we had on them was the fact ours flowed so smoothly with nearly no mistakes #they kept having long pauses when transitioning to the next scene‚ whilst we specifically focused and practiced smooth transitions #thats probably why we had less time for dance choreo and stuff... but either way!!! just SO proud it made my theater heart so happy #and! i learned something about the actual story of El Fili! mAN ITS SO TRAGIC WTF MAN.... MANNNNNN. BRUH... #anyway <333 ALIVE NOW!!! FREE!!!

[softboiledwonderland]

You're not too old at 31 to ruin your bangs with a pair of scissors in the bathroom in case anyone was wondering 👍

#I've learned nothing from my mistakes (did the same thing when I was 12) #I've learned nothing from others' mistakes (at least two friends had done it at some point and said DON'T DO IT) #I blame taylor swift and brad mondo for this #feeling slightly sick #it looks kind of good though actually. so at least one thing is different from when I was 12 #really looking forward to seeing how I feel about it tomorrow!

[pearlpool]

more tagsposting because i’m having tweetable thoughts and i can’t tweet rn

#can’t tweet (not allowed) (twitter break) (i have a problem about that app) #i hope that like. it’s clear how much i’ve grown/changed in the last few years #i hope it’s not just visible to me #i feel like a totally different person from who i was in 2020. which was when a lot of my online friends actually got to know me better #and it’s so crazy to think of what i was like at that time. i was SUCH a baby #and there are some mistakes i’ve made that still fuck me up to this day 😭 #so ig like. hey if we’re friends i feel really weird about that time in my life and in our friendship 😭 #but at least in my view of myself a lot has changed for me internally. and some of these things are good! #crazy how you learn as you get older #anyways #this actually probably isn’t something i would tweet now that i’m thinking about it #but anyways. yeah reading my old journal is really insane #and i hope im still someone you think is cool. maybe more so now idk

[criticaaaaaaaal]

#see my blog was never intended to be . like . seen by people? thats why its so gross #i tag Nothing. i only tag what i want to tag. i still have the mindset of what i used to be *checks watch* 9 months ago? i think? #i had under 100 followers most if not all being friends and mutuals #and then i made the mistake of posting art. sigh #this still carries over to the fact id Like to move blogs because this ones gotten. way too big #lesson learned for anyone on tumglblr: if you post anything like art or fanfic MAKE IT A SIDE BLOG!!!!!!!!!!!!! #do NOT do what i did. not the main blog. mistake #i used to make sideblogs everytime i got a new main interest but when i got into toh i stopped. idk why. but im stuck here now #if i DO move blogs i'll post about it. it'll prob be a quieter move but yeah it'll happen #im just procrastinating cus all my junk is already HERE #so like. why move. yknow? #i do genuinely love & appreciate the support. people have been very kind to me #i appreciate it a lot #i also just know from experience i am not someone that should have any sort of following on anything. i take it horribly #like. i used to be an active twitter artist for a year and that was HORRIBLE. ppl didnt just want art they wanted my opinions and my biases #i couldnt breath without 5 people asking me things #horrible life to live lol i like tumblr more #i started on tumblr and i moved back. im glad #anywhoo enough rambling i guess. if i move ill let people know! if i dont. well youll know cus im still here #ugh if i move i have to reblock my tags n people blaaaaugh #okey ill talk to you people later

[the-trans-dragon]

Could a person with mental illness do THIS?

*spends 20 minutes trying to respond to a text, too anxious to commit to a first word such as "Hey" versus "Hi!" versus maybe a unique catchphrase I should incorporate into my personality like "Banjo bonjour!" or, if it would be more logical, "Bonjour banjo!"*

#🙃 #its a specific person who i never really decided what kind of relationship we have #maybe she was technically one of my bosses? but we started on the same day and bonded over #trying to adjust super quickly and not make mistakes (or to learn from them very quickly) and then we #had some really nice chats about our lives and families and partners #so its like. we are casual coworker acquaintances and we are Girls Who Are Friends (im not sure if she #knew i was trans and nonbinary. i think she assumed i was a woman. but the way she perceived and interacted with my gender was comfy in a #very specific way that makes me feel Okay Being Seen As A Girl. it still doesnt feel like ME. but i can fit inside it without #contorting and hiding parts of myself. kinda like the pants i bought at goodwill that definitely didnt quite fit but #my wife hemmed them a bit and i could squeeze my butt into them if i held my breath and they were a great pair of work pants for $7 #anyways lol she was like a peer/mentor/cool aunt's even cooler best friend/woman you sat next to at the ER one time and she felt like you'd #known her forever but it was probably just because it was 2:30AM and neither of you had slept and were both lowkey curious if you were gonna #die before getting medical help/drunk woman who accidentally says something you've needed to hear for the past decade. lol #so idk if its a “hello” situation or a “hiya” or a “hey sup” or what. :3 well there went another ten minutes while i #rambled in the tags. okay byyyyyye. #sorenhoots

[hidefdoritos]

experiencing shrimp emotions again

#you know how it is #had a convo with a friend where I briefly mentioned my last relationship falling apart #and she mentioned how much it hurts when you imagine a future and then it changes #and I almost broke down crying right there. #cause I spent from February to July gearing up to hurt my own feelings because I never had an actual conversation in human words with the #person I thought I was dating. #i truly didn't learn from any previous mistakes huh. #ok to rb #haha funny laugh #prednisone posting