#konmari

[hussyknee]

#marie kondo #konmari #racism #capitalism #consumer culture #consumerism #usamericans #white people #knee of huss

[in-sufficientdata]

Why the Konmari method is pretty useless for people with genuine problems with hoarding and OCD, or OCD tendencies, at least without some caveats and definitions:

Hoarding is defined by a persistent emotional attachment to inanimate objects. Clutterers and hoarders often have an unconscious need to save items, whether for an imagined future ideal use, or just because otherwise they would end up in the landfill.

People with these issues often have difficulty discerning the difference between a truly useful item and something that should be given or thrown away because of their emotional attachment to the item.

They see themselves as the best curator of the items, which may range from useful items like craft supplies, display items, sentimental items, and stuff that is truly just junk.

"Sunk costs" is a term from economics that means that a cost that has already been incurred and cannot be recovered. Although the original term refers to finances, the sunk costs of the time and effort someone has put into an item can influence their decision to keep the item.

Therefore, another factor in this attachment is the sunk costs of money, effort, and time that a person has put into an item. A person may no longer be personally attached to an item, but will keep it because they have always meant to use it or simply because it's not yet ruined.

This is also a reason those with fewer economic advantage tend to be hoarders more than those with a comfortable financial situation. Someone like this realizing they've obtained two of an item will take on the responsibility of curating both instead of getting rid of one.

Because of all these factors, the expression that was translated as "sparks joy" in the English version is too easy for a clutterer to confuse or redefine in their own mind as they work to sort through their items.

In my case, for example, I had a situation where the basement, which was full of our excess saved items, needed to be cleared so the cracked foundation could be repaired. I had to decide what to save in the limited storage space we still had, and what to throw out or donate.

If Konmari had been in vogue at the time (this was in 2004) I'm certain I would have kept far more items than I should have. This language is too easy for a clutterer to massage and redefine in their own mind based on what the item is.

First, clutterers need to be clear-eyed about the fact that they suffer from excess emotional attachment to objects. Flylady's declutter method was in vogue at the time I engaged in this declutter session, and she has a whole checklist of questions to ask oneself about an object:

Do I love this item?

Have I used it in the past year?

Is it really garbage?

Do I have another one that is better?

Should I really keep two?

Does it have sentimental value that causes me to love it?

Or does it give me guilt and make me sad when I see the item?

This may seem needlessly complex to someone who is not a hoarder or clutterer but this addresses many of the reasons that a sufferer would keep an item that they shouldn't.

Another factor is that they are perfectionists. This seems at odds with the idea that they may have a huge mess in their home, but what happens is they often can't deal with their persistent need to have a perfectly clean home that matches their vision.

Because of this they put off starting on the project until it can be done perfectly.

This is why methods like Flylady and Unfuck Your Habitat (which is really just Flylady without the cutesy rhetoric) help these people so much, because people with differences such as ADHD become clutterers because they don't know how to regulate their own time or how to organize.

The emotional attachment to their possessions is, incidentally, why decluttering on behalf of your hoarder friend is a very bad idea. The person will need to work through this process on their own, in order for it to stick.

Getting rid of these items can be intensely emotional and difficult for someone with these tendencies.

Time limits, routines, consistency, and persistence are the best tools for someone who needs to declutter. Don't try to do this all in an afternoon. Not only is it a difficult process, it should become a consistent habit.

For resources and further reading please check out Squalor Survivors (archive.org link).

#mine #please feel free to ask me questions about this i am an old hand #squalor survivors #hoarding #ocd #obsessive compulsive disorder #ocd tendencies #konmari #konmari method #marie kondo #reposting everything from my twitter feed #i'm about to delete everything so get it while it's hot #tweet: 2019

[dedicatedfollower467]

i've said it before but i'll say it again:

as an adhder, the hard part about the konmari method is not the "don't keep things that don't spark joy" bit, it's the "put things away when you're done with them" bit.

#konmari method #marie kondo #konmari #adhd #definitely adhd #def's like keeps happening: the novel

[whowouldwininafite]

#who would win in a fite #polls #tournament tuesday #tt3 #Gilgamesh #final fantasy #marie kondo #konmari

[arctic-hands]

Ugh someone in the free stuff group wants a copy of Marie Kondo's book and naturally the most popular comment is about how she "gave up cleaning" and is a fraud #EmbraceTheMess

She had a third baby, fuckos. Her priorities changed now that she has to keep up with three young children, that doesn't mean she lied it means sometimes life gets in the way. #EmbraceTheMess all you like it that makes you happy, but why are you threatened by this petite Japanese woman who advises you just keep the things you're happy with and say goodbye to the things you don't? And I say that as a pathological hoarder.

#Marie Kondo #KonMari #i will defend Marie Kondo with my life

[malfoynonsense]

konmari tip

When I read that you should organize by taking everything off the shelves (books in particular) I scoffed and said there’s no way I’m doing that. However, I did decide that if I’m trying this philosophy out, I’m going to do it properly. At this point I was still very sceptical about konmari and was dead set on proving it WRONG. 

So I did an experiment. I looked at my book shelf and found four books I wanted to get rid of, two of which have been in the back of my mind already. 

Then, to follow through and do the decluttering properly, I took everything off the shelf and held each individual book in my hand. The ones I wanted to keep, I put on the shelf. The ones that held sentimental value I set aside. 

And this is the important part: While there were no more than those four original books I acitvely wanted to get rid off, there was a whole pile of books that I didn’t necessarily want out of my sight, but which also sparked no joy whatsover.

 I was completely indifferent towards these books. In fact, if I accidentally spilled coffee on them and ruined them, I wouldn’t as much as be upset about losing a good cup of coffee. I wouldn’t give a shit about having to throw the drenched books away. 

And that made me realize that there was no point in me keeping these books anymore. And moreover, like Marie Kondo herself says in her book, it’s not fair on the items either. To exist in a home where they are not cared for. Where everyone only feels indifference towards them. What use are they serving? None. 

And that may just be me displaying too much empathy towards inanimate objects, but it also lead me to another realization. Wouldn’t it be much better to donate these books so they could go to a new home to an owner who actually wanted them? To a home where someone read them and appreciated the stories in them? I didn’t need these books. I didn’t read them, I would never read them again. 

Marie Kondo says that every item you possess has a function. And sometimes that function is to show you you don’t need that item after all, and that’s perfectly okay. Some of these books were like that - trifted or bought from sale because it gave me a momentary dopamine spike. And then some time passed and I realized I don’t need them after all. And that made me philosophisize more - perhaps the purpose of me owning that item for a while was to lead it in its intended place. Perhaps I found the item because when I did, it was already fate that I would realize I don’t need it and would put it forward and then the person it belongs to finds it. 

idk. So philosophical haha, this was intended as a quick tip and then I spiraled lmao

#konmari #marie kondo #minimalism #declutter

[daggersandarrows]

So that post with me griping about how awful people are to Marie Kondo is something I dashed off in a sudden rage off the top of my head with absolutely zero idea that it would extend beyond a few people, and now that it's kinda blown up I'd just like to say a few things:

1. I am a person of color who experiences misogyny, but yeah I'm not immune to "for a moment I was so caught up in the euphoria of (cool person existing) that I lived in a world where (racism and sexism) didn't exist"

2. Shut up about the 30 books shut up about the 30 books SHUT UP ABOUT THE 30 BOOKS. Marie said that once she personally was done tidying her space, 30 books was the number that SHE ended up with and a number that SHE likes FOR HERSELF, and if it sparks joy for you to keep way more than that or none at all, then you should do it. Nowhere did she EVER say that you should throw away all but 30 of your books.

3. For those wondering where to learn about her method/read more, her book is called The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and it's worth every cent.

4. For those wanting a very very basic summary of her method, this is how it works: you tidy by category, not location. Order of category is important because it gets you used to the method and gives you practice on it going from what is typically easiest-hardest to let go of. The categories, in order, are clothes, books, papers, miscellaneous, and sentimental items. You go through each category one item at a time, hold the item in your hands for a second, and ask yourself if it's something that makes you happy to own it. If yes, or if it's a necessity you can't afford to replace or an important document/work thing, you keep it. If no, thank it for serving you, even if the thank you is just "thank you for teaching me I don't like wearing green", and toss it or donate it. That's it! There's more, but those are the basics.

#marie kondo #konmari #thane.txt

[yogadaily]

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#sidhasana #meditation #konmari #yoga #yogi #yogini #asana #asanas #yogapose #yogaposes #yogaaesthetic #yogamotivation #motivation #motivational #manifestation #manifest #manifesting #fitness #health and fitness #yogaeverywhere #yogaeverydamday #yogaeveryday #yogadaily #Aesthetic #inspiration #inspire #inspirational #yogainspiration #blessed #yogablessed

[pencildragon11]

You know the whole, you start cleaning your room but then start playing with your toys instead?

I found a jigsaw puzzle

#yes #everything i pulled out of the closet to sort is still in piles on the floor #i am doing the jigsaw puzzle #no #i am not going to feel shame about this #i decided I'd rather step over piles for a few days and play with the toys I'd forgotten about #so im gonna do that with my whole chest #one room life #konmari #adulting

[uchidachi]

I’ve got to hand it to Marie Kondo, thanking my old, worn out clothes for their work before I get rid of them has been a game-changer.

#konmari #closet clean out #the solo album

[rachelwritesstories]

Thanks to @magicratfingers , Z and I started out konmari yesterday.

Before

We gathered all our clothes, stuck them in the living room and said, “Surely, two people don’t need all these clothes.”

After

We were right! Seven bags and a wedding dress for donation and two bags for trash.

(Thank you for being our clothes, clothes.)

#konmari

[wowbright]

Going through my old journals/diaries from when I was younger and wow they're depressing. I'm ready to throw them away.

Lots of complaints about people I don't remember. Also plenty of detailed complaints about various family members' pecadillos and sometimes worse behaviors, and it's very unpleasant to read because I'm on much better footing with most of my family members now--and there is also the issue that I only wrote about them when I was angry; I rarely wrote about the good things that happened in our relationships, of which there were many.

There's always been part of me that thought I should hold on to my old journals because what if I get dementia? But if I do get dementia? This is not the way I want to (mis)represent my life to my future self.

For many years I felt guilty about losing the journaling habit, but now I'm relieved because that means fewer journals to go through!

Do I shred them, or just toss them in the recycling bin as is? (Rhetorical question; or, not exactly rhetorical, but not necessarily looking for an answer--but basically the deal is that if I shred them, I can't recycle them; my only option other than putting them in the trash if they are shredded is to save them for feeding to my composting worms, but that's more paper than they could go through in years.) I mean, I don't think there's actually that much identifiable info in there and even if there is, IDK if I care if anybody reads it LOL.

I know there is a place in UK where you can send your old journals, because they like to keep them for historical purposes, but postage to the UK is pretty darn expensive.

If you want to reply to this post with a comment like "don't throw them away" or "*I* would never throw *my* journals away" or "people shouldn't throw their journals away," please don't. Please go into messages and express your shock about it to somebody who isn't me.

The burden of keeping these journals around has been hanging over my head for years and I'm glad to finally make a decision.

(I am actually keeping some of them--the ones that I enjoy reading and/or have information I like to refer back to.)

#gpoy #konmari #unburdening #journaling #diaries

[in-sufficientdata]

(though it won't work for you if you're a legit hoarder)

#mine #konmari #konmari method #marie kondo #racism #reposting everything from my twitter feed #i'm about to delete everything so get it while it's hot #tweet: 2019

[palabasa]

finally found an mp3 for one of the cleaning books i've been putting off, kc davis' how to keep house while drowning. three chapters in and it's already disparaging both konmari AND bullet journaling and the eye-rolling rage that induced in me woke me up from where i was nodding off while listening to davis

this is my like number 1 pet peeve, when cleaning/self-help/mental health or whatever books put down a different system to tout their own as better. it's the exact reason i've been putting off reading this book

it doubly pisses me off because davis not only boils konmari down to, "marie kondo says to tri-fold your underwear," as if the literal thesis of her method isn't already spelled out for you in her books' titles, but also adds bujo to the mix while tacking on shit about "self-help gurus undermining the physical, mental and economic privileges they hold" as if ryder carroll hasn't talked extensively about inventing thw bullet journal in order to manage his ADHD

like. hello??? what in the actual fuck are you talking about. can you maybe do a second of research instead of talking out of your ass

#amihan reads #how to keep house while drowning #konmari #marie kondo #the bullet journal method #yes i will be annoying about this. #i do not accept any sort of half assed marie kondo slander in this house #and while i'm more ambivalent to carroll i'll #i'll trust the white guy who actually put an indexed glossary of every single book and article he mentions in his book #over the white woman pulling shit outta her ass

[whowouldwininafite]

#who would win in a fite #polls #tournament tuesday #tt3 #heavy tf2 #marie kondo #konmari #team fortress

[firespirited]

I got to give belly scritches to both ginger cats this morning but my phone crashed right as I tried to get photos (I think it might be model specific, the LG G5 crashes repeatedly if the charge is under 60% and will not start at all if it's under about 45). They also played with the string of the dog lead before getting distracted with a brotherly play fight.

I've been stuck unable to craft or do much except rest after pulling my left shoulder somehow. Neck neuralgia is so stupid. Arm hurty so gonna make your eyes not work and woopsie doo brain feels too big for the back of your cranium in a way that's going to ramp up into pain so odd it'll feel like you don't have a body just a big ache that outlines the exact shape of your skull from the inside.

Felt sane enough to try a little konmari without throwing out baby and bath with the bathwater. I could tell the difference between aesthetic enjoyment and nostalgia, personal spark vs rarity/sunk cost but it passed within five minutes. I was looking at newer monster highs and some work in progress that can't currently be finished that I've displayed with mixed dolls and couldn't get the clarity and then doubts took over.

So next time: fully dressed dolls among their similar shaped/unfinished 'peers' and try again.

Still not doing the craft supplies, it's too fraught. It could really do with some reorganising but I could so very easily give away all the painstakingly collected stashes because of the uncertainty that comes with neck injury and the big worry that comes with the pain.

Like I'm currently struggling with taps (faucets?) and spreading butter so everything handicraft related feels slightly threatening. There's no pressure except a very limited amount of personal space and clutter blindness.

Paperwork and email inbox sorting is on hold because it got out of hand and is going to take some courage 😂😁

Getting registered to vote is proving difficult: they want paperwork to prove I lived in British addresses from before I was ten: they have my birth certificate and passport details but I wasn't exactly on the bills or receiving official mail as a kid. If they really cared, they could see my NHS records but I suspect they want 'expats' only not emigrants, the types with a second home, double citizenship or who left after retirement. It was open to any brits but they want proof of diplomas (16+), work payslips and bills. I had a bank account at 7 (granddad felt it was a very important rite of passage to have one even though I didn't get an allowance) but that doesn't count either. Frustrating.

I'm very fond of late winter, the skies are spectacular and you get to see the frost sparkle as the sun rises. I don't mind wearing double socks because there are no mosquitos. The slap in the face that is cold wind makes any heated building feel magically cozy and the birds make a racket up til 7 thirty. Even saw what looked like a bat this morning but I don't know what they eat in this weather or if they hibernate. Off to wikipedia.

#saf #personal #Konmari