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[jahayla-parker]

Do you think that Kaz would use toys and stuff on reader since he can't get rid of his touch aversion so easily and still craves her?

Warning: NO smut is below, but discussion relating to how Kaz would handle sex & mentions of touch aversion. Please read at your own discretion 💜

I can see him doing that once he gets comfortable enough with the reader to enter that level of intimacy.

For Kaz it’s not just sex and physical contact that’s difficult.

It’s also vulnerability and emotional intimacy that he struggles with.

It’ll take him awhile to get comfortable in those areas of the relationship before he’d be able to truly desire to become that intimately physical and then to get comfortable doing so.

That being said, I do think once he gets to the point where he starts to have those desires, he would look for ways to help the reader find pleasure until he could offer it himself.

It would be far more intimate than that behavior would normally be in most relationships given how intense it would be for Kaz (and how considerate he would be to put those feelings aside for the reader’s sake).

I don’t think he’d particularly love it, as we’ve seen he does want to eventually get to being okay with physical contact with others. And as such, I don’t think he’d find it to be enough (and would probably be hard on himself over needing to use them) in the long run.

But I think he would find it to be a good middle ground/interim solution until he healed enough to go further.

I hope that answers your question! 🖤

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[jahayla-parker]

Absolutely OBSESSED with never steal from the devil!! I love how brutally you write kaz! He’s so menacing but kegs exactly how he’d be I’m that situation, ESPECIALLY after discovering his love in such a state! Can’t wait to see the resolution and hopefully some softness from Kaz during the reader’s recovery

Awwww thank you 🥹🥹🥹 that’s so sweet. I wanted to make sure he was strong and violent but not over the top either. I’m glad you liked the balance I struck in this series! 🖤

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[jahayla-parker]

Hii, I was wondering if you had any tips for us ADHD folks for focusing on tasks because I’ve had a horrible week with focusing on tasks even as small just doing the dishes and it’s really stressing me out. No pressure to answer this, I really like your Freddy fics btw, they are soooo comforting and your most recent was is PERFECTION.

Thank you for your question. I’m sorry you’re struggling! As a fellow ADHDer, I know how difficult this can be and that many people don’t understand what it’s like and that it’s NOT laziness or a lack of willpower.

I have put a readmore break for those not interested or otherwise trying to get to other posts. 💜

Sleep! Omg sleep is ssooooo important. I struggle with this so much! (If you need more advice on how to fix this lmk). But sleep is crucial otherwise the symptoms will get worse as sleep deprivation only increases adhd symptoms.

Write down notes/ideas as they come. Don’t try to make yourself memorize or remember things when you don’t need to. My iPhone notes are so random but helpful! This will help get take the pressure off and allow your brain to rest.

Focus on easy wins! I cannot stress this enough!!!! ADHD paralysis/executive dysfunction can make everything feel overwhelming. Breaking tasks into smaller and more manageable tasks seems simple (and in terms of application it is) but it helps more than you’d think! It takes the pressure off of each task. Don’t forgot in getting it all done. Choose one task. Then, chose the first step(s) of the task and set some time (what seems manageable currently not what “you should designate” to it) aside to do it. Then give yourself some rest (see ideas below). Then repeat as needed.

Unless you have to, don’t force yourself to stick to a strict schedule. You might want to choose one important task to schedule if needed (ideally still do it the way mentioned above though). But don’t map out your whole day if it can be avoided. This feels, looks, and in many ways is, far too much. Ideally plan a rest activity too if you’re going to schedule anything.

Rest and self care is super important. This can look different from person to person. Especially downing on what your triggers are or what type of stimulation is best for you. For me and many others (but not all) prefer/find calming stimulation to be easier/better aka grounding. Examples of common grounding techniques include: painting (I alternate between my nails and a color by number set personally), coloring, drawing (for some, not me personally though), reading (varies a lot on effectiveness for people), yoga, etc.

Physical activity can help too but is understandably hard to do when these symptoms hit. Smaller/shorter/less intensity exercises are typically better and easier to get done when it feels like this. The key is rhythmic movement as studies have shown this to help (can help with ptsd too!)

Rhythmic activities examples (both physical and otherwise): Things like a few minutes of yoga/stretching, rolling/bouncing/tossing a ball, (drawing/paint/color can be included here too), tap feet/fingers/etc at a calm but steady pace, find something that makes (or can make) a soft sound and initiate that sound in a calm steady pace, listen to meditation music, petting/brushing a pet, etc.

Don’t strive for perfection. This is a hard one for me too. But, aim to complete something even if it’s not perfect. The pressure to perform well can in itself make the task harder. In these times, completion (even of a tiny step within a task) is perfection!

Motivate yourself! Completion isn’t enough motivation, so don’t even try to argue that idea lol. Instead, reward yourself for reaching small milestones. Motivation is a great psychological tool to overcome this. It can be whatever is the most exciting for you (please consider your health as well. -mostly referring to avoiding substance and addictive behaviors)

Hopefully this helps!💜

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[jahayla-parker]

Finally got to finishing S2 of Free Rein a couple days ago… 😳 We need to see Freddy on a horse again, I just can’t get enough! I mean, just look at him… 😱❤️

We need more Freddy period.

But yes, I agree! I miss Pin 🥰

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[jahayla-parker]

I am going to watch shadow and bone when I get home and I feel in love with Dylan in the trailer and I'm a sucker for overprotective shit or protective vibes.

If you are doing request for him ✌️

Hiii yes I’m doing Wylan requests at the moment due to not having done one for him yet!

I can certainly get this in the works for you asap! 🖤

FYI all Wylan works will be with the reader having an unspecified/gender neutral set up (ex: they instead of she or him) unless requested for Platonic!female or x male!reader.

This is because I know in the books and show he’s certainly into men, but it’s not officially established if he is bisexual, attracted to the opposite gender at all, gay, or his sexual orientation lies somewhere else.

If someone knows if it (^^^) is stated officially one way in the books, please correct me!!! 🙏

Tagging @lilisouless because she’s one of the best book accuracy bloggers on here 🥰 so she might know 🤞

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[jahayla-parker]

bae i am BEGGING to be put on the tag list for the nikolai lantsov mini series 🙏🧎‍♀️

Of course! I’ve got you love! (Plz let me know if you want to be tagged in all future Nikolai fics)

Going to try and get or part one out real soon for you all! 💜

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[jahayla-parker]

Hi when are we getting more Freddy Carter x reader please

Hi, I just posted yesterday that I’m working on some right now.

I’m sorry it’s been a bit, I have other characters I write for and have done a lot lately with those too.

I had a long string of only Freddy fics for a bit, it was only fair I mixed it up a bit.

But, that being said, again, I have some Freddy Carter x Reader works on the way. 💜

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[jahayla-parker]

Hello!! I’m loving your “KARMA” series!!!!

If you have a tag list, can I please be tagged in future chapters??

Please and thank you!!!!

Hi darling! Absolutely, I’ll add you to the list! 🖤

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[jahayla-parker]

Freddy Carter is married now and it is not to you. You are misinforming people by saying he is your husband. You should stop. Get it together.

W-…wow. I think you need to calm down….

I’m not causing anyone any harm by saying he’s my husband.

No one truly believes he’s actually my husband.

You’re also not going to like this upcoming series I’ve got planned 😂 (moodboard preview after the break below)

Yes I did just turn your hate into self-promo 👸💁‍♀️

Now, leave me and my husband alone 👏👏👏

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[jahayla-parker]

I saw that you enjoy asks, so I was curious!

CYM as the crows? Or as their actors? Or both? 😝

Yesss I dooo! Thanks bby! 🙌💜

Okay so this is gonna be funny cause my blog is very dieverse and several of my mutuals don’t even know the Six of Crows, Shadow and Bone, or the Grishaverse (TV nor books) 😂

@b3kk3r-by-br3kk3r

Crow: Kaz Brekker

Reason: always ready for a fight, protective, knows Kaz Brekker is attractive as if it’s a simple fact of life, passionate, knows how/when to regulate anger but will act when appropriate or necessary, and insomniac

@ell0ra-br3kk3r

Crow: Jesper Fahey

Reason: always tries to keep things positive, young-at-heart energy, energetic, a bit crazy haha, underestimated, kind, skilled / talented, sibling energy

@emmymaehereeeeee

Crow: Matthias Helvar

Reason: able to overcome challenging circumstances and contemporary (or expected by loved ones) ideologies or restrictions as needed, determined, strong heart, doesn’t take shit, and despite upbringing or the ideology of birthplace/residency pushes themselves to remain open minded

@lilisouless

Crow: Nina Zenik

Reason: I mean, so I really need to explain this one? Haha. Loves waffles, effortlessly hilarious, flirtatious, strong willed, knows herself and what she wants, big sister energy, has no problem educating people and giving constructive criticism even on things/people she loves, bullies Kaz Brekker

@theslayerofthevampires

Crow: Inej Ghafa

Reason: strong and determined, works hard to overcome obstacles and struggles, supportive, checks in on her friends often, secretly capable of violence and wreaking chaos, and protective + comforting sibling energy

@toms-gf

Crow: Wylan Van Eck

Reason: the matched range of duality!, sweet, talented, friendly, bashful, random chaotic energy, suddenly becomes unhinged (lovingly), loves a protective!boyfriend, and appears innocent at first

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[jahayla-parker]

WHEN ARE WE GETTING MORE FREDDY FICS????????????? XXXXXXX

Hi, I appreciate the interest in my work; especially Freddy content!

I respectfully ask that you please be patient with me. I’m working on getting more out now but I do have a lot going on.

Despite working through my past trauma lately I’ve been posting at least two fics a week (typically one on both Tuesday and Thursday).

I am almost done with another Freddy one but I have not decided when I will release it after edits are done.

But I’ll try and get it done soon.

To any tags, reblogs, etc. I’ve missed over the last few days; thank you all! I’m sorry for delay (I took a few days off for my mental health)

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[jahayla-parker]

kys

I’m electing to read this as koalas yawn sweetly and now I wanna see a video of that because I think I agree with the prediction 😊

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[jahayla-parker]

all this hate is a little weird- I don’t wanna be that person but it feels like this might be a little self inflicted… like I don’t want to be rude but a part of me thinks you might be sending yourself mean anons on purpose. But also I don’t know and i don’t think you’d do that

Ummm.. I do appreciate you feeling comfortable to say that.. but, why would I do that?

I was feeling really happy with how I’ve been doing lately on here and off and now I’m cleaning my inbox and getting these comments.

I don’t know if you think that because I’m responding to them instead of deleting them… if that’s the case I suppose I could stop and just delete them but I don’t see what the difference would be other than letting them win by doing that tbh

If it is cause I made the gif thing just now, I suppose I could see that argument connection but I like making things like that and wanted to share my appreciation to my followers and mutuals who so unconditionally share their support and love even when I don’t feel like I’m great at showing how much I appreciate them for it

But again, I can stop.

In fact I’ll probably be prescheduling some fics and then taking time away from all of this because my chest feels funny.

I don’t know why someone would say the things they are much less people thinking I did this to myself.

If I want to be hard on myself I can do so without learning how to send myself an ask on my own account and sharing my personal issues with the world in such a convoluted way.

I apologize it evidentially seems that I would do something like that, I see my digital presence is being seen differently than who I am or the way I thought

Thank you for sending your ask.

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[jahayla-parker]

who are some of your favorite mutuals and why

Hi my lovely little anon!

Ahhh that’s not super easy! Buuut, I’ll go with:

(in alphabetical ordering 🥰) [also moots, I left your actual names off and just did usernames, cause I didn’t know if you wanted that out there!)

@b3kk3r-by-br3kk3r

Super sweet, protective, responsive, encouraging, similar interests, ADHD buddy, Freddy and Kaz simp buddy!, fills my dashboard with GIFs of my husband Freddy, etc. 🖤

#BbB🎩☺️

@ell0ra-br3kk3r

Puts up my craziness, super sweet, responsive, proofreads my drafts to give feedback, keeps me young haha, my moodboard buddy, Freddy and Kaz simp buddy!, talented writer, Jesper and Nikolai simp buddy!, Taylor Swift buddy, etc. 💜

#ElB🦯🎩 or #littlesisel

@emmymaehereeeeee

So open and honest, respectful but doesn’t put up with bs from internet trolls, my “Ducks and Sunflower” buddy, Austin Butler simp buddy, talented writer, so sweet and funny, etc. 🖤

#ducks and sunflowers 🦆 🌻 and #emmy Mae 💎

@galaxyholland

First, bubbs I miss you being on here 😭 okay, I digress:

Oh my goodness, one of my first handful of followers on here, so unbelievably supportive, always reblogged my works from day one without having to ask, sweet and talented, Holland & Peter simp buddy!, etc. 💜

#galaxyholland🌌

@justapurrcat

Okay, I miss you on here sm too bby! 😭 again, I digress:

Ahh, one of my very first followers as well, talented writer, provides such helpful feedback and constructive criticism, major sweetheart, kitten/cat lover buddy!, Tom/Peter simp buddy, fellow purple obsessed buddy, always reblogs people’s work with the cutest annotations, fellow lily lover (why’s there no emoji of any lilies?!) etc. 🖤

#Justapurrcat😻 and #LiLi💜

@lilisouless

Side note, that transition ^^^ is uncanny lol

Supportive, open minded, engages in debates, SAB and SoC polls, SAB/SOC simp buddy, comfortable critiquing and debating SAB/SOC books/TV/book -> conversion accuracy/characters/etc., keeps me thinking and living my SoC hyperfixation dream lol, funny, etc. 💜

#lilisouless👻

@theslayerofthevampires

So very supportive and interactive, very understanding, provides feedback on my work, one of my first few followers as well I believe, Tom/Peter simp buddy, comfortable chatting about anything and everything, creative, etc. 🖤

#theslayerofallthevampires🧄❤️

@toms-gf

Tehehe I’m so glad you’re back and active again, I missed you bubs!

Fun, talented writer, motivating, one of my first followers and followed me over from my other account (tumblr has hated me from day one and that account didn’t last long before I got locked out, and I hadn’t posted any works of my own yet), hilarious, runs -what she calls- a “whore house” including for Tom and Peter, sweet, etc.💜

#toms gf💖

And of course all moots are tagged with #mutuals👯‍♀️

This was fun, thank you! And to anyone not listed who’s a moot, I still lysm, we need to chat more! 🖤

And mwuah to all my followers! If you wanna be a moot, lmk and let’s interact more!💜

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[jahayla-parker]

What's a fic that you have written that's your fav or do you have multiple fics that are your fav??

What a wonderful question! 🤗

I’d have to say that Crazed is one of my favorites right now.

That’s because the lovely @theslayerofthevampires pushed me (in a good, respectful, and supportive way!) outside of my usual restrictions or experience on it. She was very kind to let me change my mind and not do it if I couldn’t get into it.

But, even though I normally don’t go quite this dark with non-fictional characters (although, disclaimer: any version of ‘real life’ people on my blog/in my writing is a fictional character in its own right), I felt proud for stepping outside of those/my usual limits to do this one!

I also really like my Bewitched Love series (another idea from @theslayerofthevampires ) as it’s the longest series I’ve done and I think I show my talents decently in it!

But honestly, I just love writing and each new fic becomes a favorite of mine at least temporarily.

That’s why it sometimes takes a bit; because I like to really get into them not just as the writer but from the side of a prospective reader as well!

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[jahayla-parker]

Hey Jahayla,

I really love your writing, and was wondering if you could put me on the nikolai, and/or Freddy Carter tag lists.

Thanks so much

Sure! Did you also want Kaz in addition to Freddy?

Thank you so much!! 💜

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