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kkusuka · 3 years

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Third year songs <3

this is most of the thrid years- not all

from my spotify liked playlist <3

comes with a side of slight character analysis

These are my interpretations of HQ characters and these songs!!

Time-skip spoilers!! (very slight)

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Karasuno

Daichi Sawamura

Waiting for Superman- Daughtry

She's waiting for Superman

To lift her up

And take her anywhere

Show her love

And climbing through the air

Save her now

Before it's too late tonight

She's waiting for Superman

Daichi seems like he makes a lot of promises, that he just can’t physically keep. He just has so many things going on that he just can’t pay attention to all of them at once. This leads to far too many forgotten dates and even more broken promises. You know its not his fault and he does too, he just can’t leave anyone hanging.

Koushi Sugawara

Island- Florida Georgia Line

We might as well be on an island

Like we're the last two on this Earth

Like we're frozen here in time

Like it's empty here tonight

I feel like suga likes to put himself back into happier times. And that he tries to hold into happy moments as they are happening. He says he is a man of the moment, but when he feels down, he tries to put himself back into the more joyous times.

Asahi Azumane

You say- Lauren Daigle

You say I am loved when I can't feel a thing

You say I am strong when I think I am weak

And you say I am held when I am falling short

And when I don't belong, oh You say I am Yours

And I believe (I)

Oh, I believe (I)

What You say of me (I)

I believe

Asahi is clearly very attached to how people perceive him. So when people shower him with compliments, he attaches onto them. He likes what makes him comfortable and he wants to stay comfortable for as long as he can. Words are important to him, so when he hears something bad it can ruin him for a while. He really does believe what the people he loves say to him.

Kiyoko Shimizu

Mothers daughter- Miley Cyrus

Oh my gosh, she got the power

Oh, look at her, she got the power

So, so, so

…

Must be something in the water

Or that I'm my mother's daughter

The power this woman carries. She’s built her confidence and she’s not letting anyone ruin it for her. I truly believe that her friends all become more confident because she wants everyone around her to feel confident too. Since she doesn't speak all that much she lets her body language do most of the expression.

Nekoma

Tetsurō Kuroo

High school sweethearts- Melanie Martinez

Could you hold me through the night?

Put your lips all over my mine

Salty face when I start cryin'

Could you be my first time?

Eat me up like apple pie

Kuroo definitely takes trust very seriously. I feel he’s also really scared of someone breaking this trust, so he does form it with a lot of people. That saying if he does, he wants it to last forever.

(...Step twoThis is a waste if you can't walk me down the finish line…)

He truly believes in the people he surrounds himself with.

Nobuyuki Kai

Kill the Lights- Set it Off

Now I am cutting ties clean off

And I can breathe at last

So we all stand enthralled by this bland curtain call

And the truth we pursue as we all, we all beg you to

Kai seems like he wasn't really that invested in volleyball, so having all these passionate people around him was a shock. But he really got into third year, and he wants people to feel that passion too. In the back of his mind he feels bad for not feeling it like the rest of the team, but since looking in the past means nothing now, he tries to move on.

Morisuke Yaku

Mama- Mcr

And when we go don't blame us, yeah

We'll let the fires just bathe us, yeah

You made us oh so famous;

We'll never let you go

And when you go don't return to me my love

I mean, he is part of the mom squad. But it's ever so slightly more deep. I’m gonna say it's momma-bird syndrome. He doesn't want people to move on without him, seeing people achieve their dreams is great but he doesn't want you to do it if that means loving him.

Seijoh

Tōru Oikawa

Prom Queen- Beach Bunny

Maybe I should try harder

You should lower your expectations

I'm no quick-curl barbie

I was never cut out for prom queen

I feel like oikawa is constantly feeling like he has to catch up to everyone around him. At some point in Argentina he came to the conclusion that he was good enough and didn't need to rise to anyone's standards of him, but when he got picked for the national team everything came back. He still has all of those feelings from high-school. Never making it to nationals, feeling like he failed his team.

Issei Matsukawa

Bubblegum Bitch- Marina and the diamonds

Got a figure like a pin-up, got a figure like a doll

Don't care if you think I'm dumb, I don't care at all

Candy bear, sweetie pie, wanna be adored

I'm the girl you'd die for

I feel like to earn Mattsun’s trust, he would put you through some ridiculous trial of sorts. I also feel that he is very comfortable with who he is, and he takes no shit about it. But that comes with the fact that he rarely takes fault in things, and that sparks arguments. He’ll use your love for him against you, he’ll be as cold as he can muster, until YOU take fault.

Takahiro Hanamaki

OUT THE ROOF- Chase Atlantic

Yeah, we stay lit

We fuck bitches, pop on pillies, that is it, yeah

Holy moly, holy shit, yeah

Me and all my people are heaven sent, yeah, yup

9this is a strait vibe for Makki)

I feel like Makki drowns his problems out with meaningless activities. Like smoking or one-night stands. He’d rather drown out his problems then have them in his face. Or when he’s forced to face them, he’ll deflect until he has nothing else to deflect. Because when you’re high there nothing to worry about! Why stress about meaningless problems when he can be having fun!

Hajime Iwaizumi

Endlessly- The Cab

Yeah, your friends may think I'm crazy

Cause they can only see

I'm not perfect, but I swear, I'm perfect for you.

And there's no guarantee

That this will be easy.

It's not a miracle you need, believe me.

Yeah, I'm no angel, I'm just me

But I will love you endlessly.

Iwa knows that he can't be there for you all the time. Physically he tries his best, mentally he can help when he can. But you both know that you're perfect for one another. He just can't help but listen to the people around him sometimes. You deserve the world, but he doesn't know if he can give that to you.

Fukurodani

Kōtarō Bokuto

Prima Donna- Andrew Lloyd Webber

Can you bow out when they're shouting your name?

Think of how they all adore you

We’ve all seen how Bokuto gets what he’s praised for literally anything remotely impressive. So that makes him a cannon prima donna! but that also means the lows and really bad mood swings. This song just fits him so well it’s scary.

Shiratorizawa

Wakatoshi Ushijim

More- Usher

If you really want more, scream it out louder,

If you on the floor, bring out the fire,

And light it up, take it up higher,

Gotta push it to the limit, give it more.

This seems kinda obvious, but Ushijima never gives up. Ever since he was a kid, he set a goal for himself and he went beyond what he even set out for. And that comes with a lot of work and training for every new level of volleyball. He’s just going to get better and better until he retires, or is forced to retire.

Eita Semi

strawberries and cigarettes- troye sivan

Long nights, daydreams

Sugar and smoke rings, I've been a fool

But strawberries and cigarettes always taste like you

Headlights, on me

Racing to 60, I've been a fool

But strawberries and cigarettes always taste like

Blue eyes, black jeans

Lighters and candy, I've been a fool

But strawberries and cigarettes always taste like you

I feel like semi always thinks about how Shirabu replaced him on the starting line-up. But he’s mostly gotten over it, but certain things bring him back into that stage of his life. Then the cycle starts all over again. He constantly looks back on the game against Karasuno and thinks about wat would have happened if he was the setter instead.

Reon Ōhira

Remember when- Chris Wallace

So can we push push push rewind,

Go go back in time,

When we were kids sneaking bottles of wine,

Take take take me back, I wanna go back,

Back to what we had! Do you remember when we started this mess,

My heart was beating out of my chest!,

Remember when we stole your dad's car,

Reon gives me the vibe that his days at Shiratorizawa were some of the best of his life. How can they not be? He made the greatest friends of his life there. And I also feel like he looks back on them a bit more than he wants to admit.

Satori Tendō

This Side of Paradise- Coyote theory

Are you lonely?

Passion is crashing as we speak

You seem so lonely

You're the ground my feet won't reach

So if you're lonely

Darling you're glowing

If you're lonely come be lonely with me.

I get the vibe that Tendou attaches himself to whatever makes him feel wanted/safe. (ex. volleyball) he knows it isn't healthy, but he can't help it. This does lead to him completely distancing himself from you over and over because he thinks you’ll leave him.

Hayato Yamagata- House of gold- Twenty one Pilots

I will make you

Queen of everything you see

I'll put you on the map

I'll cure you of disease (Ooh)

And since we know that dreams are dead

And life turns plans up on their head

I will plan to be a bum

So I just might become someone

Even though we don't see a lot of him, I get the feeling he treats people really well. Like he cherishes people a lot more than some of them deserve. As you can see this leads to some unfair relationships and toxic people. He just wants to hold on until a good person comes along.

Nohebi

Suguru Daishō

Mr Loverman - Ricky Montgomery

I'm Mr. Loverman

And I miss my lover, man

I'm Mr. Loverman

Oh, and I miss my lover

I feel like this was way too obvious, but it really is his song. It’s literally cannon, every lyric in this song is what happened with Mika. but in the end he got her back and made his promise to be a better loverman <3.

Kazuma Numai

Nonstop- Drake

Future took the business and ran it for me

I let Ollie take the owl, told him brand it for me

I get two million a pop and that's standard for me

Like I went blind dog, you gotta hand it to me

He looks and acts like a guy who listens to drake. He just seems like a guy who won't stop or give up even when things take a turn. He’ll just keep fighting until nothing’s left.

Kōji Hiroo

At the Wheel- Colorblind

I need something to wake me up

It's never strong enough

I'm just getting colder and starting over

Going numb is just the way I run from

All my problems when I can't solve them

Need to break away

Escape the way I'm feeling

Hate to be fake, but I'm just dealing

This one doesn't really have a true reason, i really just felt like this was his song. Sorry just the vibe.

;)

Inarizaki

Shinsuke Kita

Oh Ms Believer- twenty one pilots

Oh, Ms. Believer, my pretty sleeper

Your twisted mind is like snow on the road

Your shaking shoulders prove that it's colder

Inside your head than the winter of dead

I will tell you I love you

But the muffs on your ears will cater your fears

My nose and feet are running as we start

To travel through snow

Together we go

I feel like kita is unintentionally cold towards the world, like he wants to open up but can't figure out how. But in turn if you can get him to feel “warmer” (get closer to him) he’ll share everything with you, almost oversharing. Just because he can't help it, he’s kept it all in for so long. Sometimes he just needs someone to hold him and make HIM feel better, because he does it for everyone. If you can manage all of this i feel like he’ll keep you with him forever.

Ren Ōmimi

Armor- Landon Austin

I'm not bullet proof when it comes to you

Don't know what to say when you made me the enemy

After the war is won

There's always the next one

I'm not bullet proof when it comes to you

I feel like not a lot of people approach ren because of how intimidating he looks. This has made him weary when people are really enthused to first meet him, because he thinks it’s a joke. After getting over that hurdle i feel like he just isn't an open person so it’ll take a long time to even get to a point where he trusts you. Hence the other wars after the first.

Aran Ojiro-

Never really over- Katy perry

Two years, and just like that, my head still takes me back

Thought it was done, but I guess it's never really over

Oh, we were such a mess, but wasn't it the best?

Thought it was done, but I guess it's never really over

Just because it's over doesn't mean it's really over

And if I think it over, maybe you'll be coming over again

And I'll have to get over you all over again

After all of these years, I really don't think Aran has truly gotten over losing at nationals in third year. And now on the national team he sees Hinata and Kageyama all the time and it takes him back. It makes him re-feel all the emotions he felt after the game. It hurt him to know that he gave his everything and still lost. Like when he’s in bed he puts himself back into that self loathing phase of his life.

Michinari Akagi

Try Hard - 5sos

It's obvious she’s so out of reach

And I'm finding it hard 'cause

She makes me feel, makes me feel

Like I try, like I try, like I'm trying too hard

'Cause I'm not being me

And it’s getting me down that

She makes me think, makes me think

That I try, that I try, that I'm trying too hard again

Akagi gives off boy best friend vibes. But like to EVERYONE, so the person he liked just thought he was making fun of them and he didn't like them back. And i feel like that kinda traumatized him a bit, so when he got a new s/o he tried really really hard to make them special, but the same thing happened.

i may do some with the second and first years, idk this took so long :)

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russellthornton · 5 years

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How to Know if You Are Being Taken Advantage Of By People Around You

We all think we are nice people who do nice things, but when does our caring and patience turn into being taken advantage of?

Being taken advantage of is an awful feeling. It means you are not only putting in more effort than you’re getting in return, but you are also not being appreciated.

People are taking the amazing things you do and passing it off as their own, not reimbursing you, or just straight up using you. Not only is it unfair to be treated like this, but it can even give you a complex.

It can be so ingrained in your psyche that you do not even realize it is happening. Whether it be at work, home, with a friend, or a partner, notice these signs so you can put stop to it and finally get what you deserve. [Read: 15 ways to spot selfish people and stop them from hurting you]

Do you already think you are being taken advantage of?

If your gut says you are putting in more effort than you get in return, you are probably being taken advantage of. And that sucks.

But sometimes, we get into ruts where we feel we are being taken advantage of, but aren’t. Maybe at work, you feel like you never get the recognition for what you do. It can feel like that, but maybe you are the only one getting a bonus check.

During a time in your relationship where your partner is going through something, it can feel like they are just expecting you to be there. But, think back to the last time you needed them to drop everything for you and they did it without complaint. In the moment, we feel like what we do doesn’t count, but in the bigger picture, it does. [Read: How to instantly tell the difference between real and fake friends]

Look at who you think is taking advantage of you. Is your boss paying you more than fair for your work, but not patting you on the back and saying job well done? That might feel bad, but not everyone shows their appreciation through words or gifts.

See how the person you focus on returns the favor and the effort. They may not bring the same as you to the table, but it doesn’t mean they bring nothing.

Signs you are being taken advantage of

If you still are not quite sure if you are being taken advantage of but want to know before accusing someone, these signs may just help you get there.

#1 You only get negative feedback. We usually know whether or not we are doing a good job at work or in a relationship. We know when we have put our best foot forward. So, when your boss or partner or even friend only complains about what you may or may not do wrong rather than praising all you do right, you are being taken advantage of.

We should not expect everyone to say thank you and make a fuss for every little thing we do. But, if you always make dinner for your partner and one night you are tired and order out and they call you lazy, they are taking advantage of you. [Read: Understanding how people use emotional manipulation]

#2 You’re asked to do things below or above your pay grade. If your boss asks you to fix the copier or answer the phones when those are nowhere in your job description, they are taking advantage of you. Same goes for if they ask you to take on a project for someone who gets paid more than you. Your abilities deserve to be compensated fairly.

Or your partner asks you to do something above and beyond your role. It can be something you are not comfortable with or something they can easily do themselves. Your kindness and effort should be appreciated, not expected or forced.

#3 You constantly apologize. Apologizing is important when you actually did something wrong, but, “I’m sorry,” should not be something you feel the need to say regularly. If your boss asks for a file that they didn’t ask for earlier, say, “I’ll get it now,” not, “I’m sorry, I’ll get it now.”

If you have nothing to be sorry for, this person should not be blaming you or making you feel like you need to say sorry. But, sometimes you put yourself into this situation by doubting yourself. Know your worth and don’t apologize if you did nothing wrong.

When first in the workforce, I would apologize every time my boss asked me to revise something I wrote, but I did not need to. I did not do anything wrong. Now I realized that I let myself be taken advantage of. So, I question a superior’s idea if I think they are wrong or could use another opinion.

And if I need to change something, I say I will get right on it. I will not apologize for doing my job and you shouldn’t either. You apologize for spilling coffee on someone, not for doing what you were hired to do. [Read: How to gain confidence and turn your life around]

#4 You are called pet names. This is a big one, especially for women. It can certainly happen to men as well. It is no secret that pet names can be hidden slurs under the guise of endearment.

A boyfriend or boss can call you honey, babe, sweetie, or any sort of name like this to seem nice and sweet when they are actually taking advantage of your kind and caring nature. It can be when your partner asks you to make them a sandwich they could make themselves or your superior or even equal at work asks you to get coffee.

#5 You are overlooked when it matters. When someone is being taken advantage of, they are often overlooked and not taken seriously. Although you may do the work to deserve a promotion, your boss would not even consider you.

In terms of a relationship or friendship, your partner may accept a job that takes up a lot of time without consulting you. A friend may sign you up and expect you to say yes. Your opinion and input matters, but to someone taking advantage of you, it doesn’t. [Read: How to handle a friend who is just using you for their selfish needs]

#6 You never complain. Even though in your head you may be screaming and are exhausted at the end of the day, you never let them see you sweat. Someone taken advantage of is often groomed to think they should be capable of going above and beyond.

Their partner or superior often tells them their work and effort will be worth it in the end or they need to pay their dues. So they keep their mouth shut and feel lucky for the position they are in. [Read: 16 ways to build self-confidence and realize you’re worth it]

#7 You cannot rely on them. The person who takes advantage of you often relies on you for everything. Remember that Sandra Bullock movie, Two Weeks Notice? Hugh Grant’s character took advantage of Bullock’s. They depend on you for everything.

But, when it comes time for them to do something for you, they cannot commit to it. They are flaky. They cannot keep promises. And they knock down community centers they promised they would save. Okay, maybe not that last one, but Hugh Grant did it *well, almost!*. [Read: 13 traits of toxic people who will hurt you]

#8 You’re constantly interrupted. Pretty much if you are a woman this happens to you every day at work and home. We are often taken advantage of by men and even other women.

If you notice you cannot get your point across or even complete a sentence without someone else butting in and no one speaking out for you, your colleagues or friends may be taking advantage of you.

How to stop being taken advantage of

Now that you know whether or not you are being taken advantage of, this does not mean you are weak or an easy target. You did nothing wrong.

What it means is that your kindness and compassion have been taken for granted. Someone else used your amazing qualities to benefit themselves. And although it is hard to change someone’s mind, it can be done. [Read: How to be happy again – 20 ways to draw happiness from within]

These people often know you are worthy of respect and appreciation. They recognize what you are capable of. That is why they conditioned you to stay in your lane so to speak. Whether they are intimidated, fearful, ignorant, or a combination instead of changing their minds, demand respect.

It all starts with your confidence. Believe that you are worth it. You deserve to be treated equally and to be paid what you earn. I wish it was as simple as telling someone they are taking advantage of you and then they stop.

But this behavior is unfortunately learned and practiced and a pattern difficult to break. So, it is up to you to stop apologizing, learn when to say no, know your worth, and demand to be heard and respected at home and at work.

[Read: How to set boundaries and feel more in control of your life]

If you related to anything above, it is the end of you being taken advantage of. Build your confidence and boundaries. And change your life for the better.

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