#i'm usually pretty good about curating my online engagement with fandom in a way that allows me to just focus on what i like

[13eyond13]

Any tips for getting famous on tumblr?

Ahaha I wouldn't say I'm Tumblr famous, but here are some experience-based

Tips for getting mutuals and engagement and asks:

-Reblog and/or like other people's content often, and also try to create your own content of some kind. The blogs that catch my attention the most and make me want to follow/follow back are the ones that are actively curating a personal aesthetic and/or have some sort of unique or enjoyable content they are creating themselves too. I like following blogs where I can get the content that I'm interested in having on my dash plus a good sense of the personality behind the scenes

-Try to be fairly consistent and frequent about posting, and use some of the relevant popular tags on your original posts like the fandom and the character and ship names to make sure they show up in those tags for people to find (eg. #death note #light yagami #lawlight)

-A great way to get people to notice your blog is simply to notice them and their blog or their content first too. Send some friendly asks off anon to bloggers who are looking for asks, or about whatever topics seem to be their fave thing or their area of expertise. If sending asks feels too intimidating you can also reblog their posts with some thoughtful compliments or jokes in the tags, which will probably flatter them into checking out who was noticing and appreciating them. I recommend sending asks or talking through the comments on posts before sending people private messages until you get to know them a little better though, as that feels a bit less intimate to do

-Once you gather some followers it definitely helps to maintain a fairly steady presence and not disappear for long periods of time, because you mostly only show up on followers' dashes if you're actively posting and reblogging things. They probably aren't intentionally ignoring you or your blog most times, they just don't really know if you're alive otherwise! If you're worried about spamming people's dashes too much or don't want to be chronically online then you can always use the queue feature to post things automatically for you at a slower, steady rate as well

-A good way to get asks once you have some followers is simply to make a post asking for asks about a specific topic or to take and fill requests of some kind. You can also reblog ask memes that invite people to ask you specific sorts of questions too. This helps others know what you're comfortable with before they decide to strike up a conversation with you. Answering asks usually leads to other people sending asks too, so it can become a fairly self-sustaining thing after a little bit

-I think a large part of the reason I've gained a following here over the years is because I have a clear set of boundaries on my page about who I am and what I'm ok with, and because I maintain a pretty organized and broad collection of content from this fandom that is well-tagged and easy to browse. I started out creating the blog I personally would want to find as a new member of the DN fandom and then I went from there. It helps to have a fairly clear idea in mind of the kind of blog you want to host from the beginning, but you can also adjust it as you go just depending on the kind of feedback you get and such. I didn't even expect or plan to get any asks here in the beginning, but after a few months of me sending asks to others and reblogging content and writing posts people started coming to me quite regularly with their thoughts. Maybe because I made a point of being welcoming to new fans and answering the questions about the fandom and the series that they had

-It helps to be patient about stuff like gaining followers and mutuals and not to stress out too much over something like losing a follower or two, too! That happens to absolutely everybody eventually, and you really have no definite idea why your follower count might have dropped most times. So just don't stress yourself over it and try not to take it too personally or check your total numbers super often if you can (I am on here daily, but maybe only intentionally check my own total follower count once or twice a month)

-Overall just creating the blog you yourself might want to find, being consistent with your posting, respectful and appreciative of the other creators and fans, and not being afraid to reach out first or create some content of your own are probably the best things you can do to increase the engagement that you're getting on your blog. Good luck 🤗

#ask #anon #p

[haleigh-sloth]

I'm quite new to BNHA fandom and shipping, and it's really tough out here I swear 😭 people are telling me to stay away from BKDK's and that they're all toxic, but that can't be true can it? I have talked to a few of them, and they seemed sweet to me and wouldn't it be fair to say that all ships have toxic and non-toxic shippers? I guess it's because it's a popular ship right? have you got any BKDK shippers as mutuals or whatever??? and what advice would you give to enjoying shipping?

Welcome! I hope you have a good time, it’s really fun if you curate what you see and read.

So, I mean, of course not. Not ✨all✨ shippers for ANY ship are toxic and awful. That’s just inaccurate to say.

So idk how familiar with the content on my blog you are—it’s okay if you’re not—but I’m not engaged in any shipping fandoms. Well, not for BNHA at least. So honestly I’m not an expert on how to enjoy it. Curate curate curate. Block blogs who are annoying, mute people on twitter, block on twitter too. Do whatever you gotta do to weed out the weirdos who can't behave.

But on the topic of the fanbase for the ship itself, for some reason in BNHA, idk--people engaged with the ships feel the need to defend their ship's canon potential and compare it to others and "prove" that theirs is more...real? I don't fucking know.

But I’ll be honest, I’ve never seen a fan base as bad about this as BKDK. Yes, it is because it’s a popular ship so it's inevitable it'll be everywhere. But I mean, I don’t see NaruSasu (which puts bkdk to shame) fans acting the way I see some bkdk fans do on such a large overwhelming scale. And NaruSasu has a pretty wild fanbase--but they're mostly funny about it, not....scary. Examples are them arguing with people on Twitter and Tumblr—once again for the purpose of defending their fanon ship’s canon potential—and being SO damn aggressive about it. Writing very aggressive "analyses" about why their ship is bound to be canon, AND that if Horikoshi DOESN'T make it canon then he's the antichrist. A while back, a WSJ cover with Izuku and Ochacko was published and I had someone in my DMs telling ME (idk why me??) that they're "so scared" Horikoshi is going to throw away all of BkDk's development as a couple and make IzuOcha canon, and that he's homophobic if he doesn't....I mean fuck.

I don't have this issue with other aspects of the manga's fanbase. At all.

But it's as you pointed out--it's THE most popular fandom ship, so yes it's going to be everywhere and be more annoying to those of us who don't particularly care to see it thrown in their faces.

But for someone to tell you to just avoid them at all costs is dramatic. If you like the ship, then engage in the content--lord knows you have more to pick from than anyone else in the fandom LOL. Enjoy it.

But YES! On tumblr I do have buddies here who like the ship and....it matters 0. It doesn't matter, because pretty much everybody I follow knows how to behave and not be a fucking weirdo who harasses people and gets insanely scary aggressive online about a fucking ship. If you see people using their ship to shit on other characters and other ships in general and you see that they can't just be--and I'm sorry to use this word--NORMAL about it, then I'd say run for the hills and don't look back.

I generally am not a fan of the current shipping culture because it's turned into very ugly arguments that make my head hurt. So I really can't point you in any direction to get a fun experience with it, but the warning signs that someone is taking it just a little bit too far are usually pretty obvious. You'll know your limits and you'll figure out what you're comfortable with seeing and not. I hope you have a good time though. It's fun here.

#bnha asks #anonymous #idk how to tag this #it's not anti bkdk but i don't want shippers coming to my inbox either #eh

[theharrowing]

"writing some of the darker themes is always going to evoke some negative feelings and invite controversy, but for those of us who find it cathartic, i think it can be very warm and healing."

wow lol what a playful way to say you like to write about rape, murder and abuse. please seek therapy.

friends, sorry i can’t post content warnings before messages, but you can see what this one deals with. my response doesn’t have such blatant language, but feel free to skip this post if it makes you uncomfortable. 

hello, darling anon! thank you for taking the time to write such a concise, thoughtful message! it always brightens my day to hear from strangers online who clearly have no experience with my actual body of work, nor knowledge of who i am as a person, and who hide behind anonymity and self-righteousness.

funny you should assume that i have not sought therapy, but you may be surprised to find that those from whom i have turned to for counsel have told me the very opposite, and have had some pretty interesting, deep conversations with me about catharsis and nuance.

writing and reading about darker topics is cathartic to some, whether you like it or not. it's fine if you disagree, but you can literally just scroll on without complaining. it's actually free of cost to curate your space in a way that feels safe for you and only engage in content that you feel safe engaging with.

i am reminded of a really thoughtful twitter thread on this topic, and i will post some individual tweets from that thread here, with links to each tweet, starting with this graphic:

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You do not "own" trauma. Some random stranger is NOT "romanticizing (your) trauma" when they write about or draw fictional characters in a traumatic situation. In many cases, the person is writing about THEIR OWN trauma using fictional characters. It has nothing to do with you. (link)

You're gonna see triggering things online. That's how the internet works. It's like Russian Roulette. Even if you utilize mute and block features, sometimes things still slip through the cracks and you see triggering stuff anyway. It's a risk that comes with using the internet. (link)

So the fact that people are complaining about fanart and fanfic - THINGS THAT ARE USUALLY TAGGED - is infuriating to me. You see that the fanfic has triggering tropes in the tag? Don't read it. You see an art tag that upsets you? Mute the tag so you won't see it on your tl. (link)

The internet is not a true "safe space." There's no way to 100% safety proof the internet to your specific comforts. I'm not saying this to be cruel. I'm just being realistic and practical. You can't blame others because your personal trauma was triggered by a random thing online (link)

If you see triggering content online on accident, that sucks and I'm so sorry that you experienced that. But it is not anyone's fault. People are allowed to post (nearly) anything they want online (especially in fandom spaces when fictional characters are involved)- (link)

It's not your fault either, especially when you take precautions like using muted terms. It's just an accident and the nature of the internet. And getting angry and upset at random strangers isn't going to help anything. (link)

You're allowed to feel discomfort ofc. But this misplaced... entitlement? Anger at others for posting fictional content? That isn't it. That's not the way to deal with that. (link)

It's a waste of energy, first of all. Good luck trying to get people to stop posting things that upset you. It's a lost cause. No matter how much I dislike (certain tropes), this is the World Wide Web that billions of people have access to and people will post that thing anyway- (link)

So it's better to just - as best as you can - let it roll of your shoulders. It is literally impossible to stop people from posting the thing (especially in fandom) so instead, switch your energy to seeking out things that you know appeal to you and bring you good feelings. (link)

You see something triggering? You close the window, take a moment to yourself, start fresh and find something that is more appealing or healing to you. Feeling discomfort or being upset is fine. Trying to go on some crusade to stop it? It's just not practical, I'm sorry. (link)

Being angry about others posting certain fictional content is like being disgusted by seafood and going to a restaurant and getting angry and upset because the diner the table next to you ordered fish. You are at a place that can and does serve fish. (link)

It's not practical to get upset at them about it. You can be annoyed or irritated that now you had to smell fish during your dinner. But you can't be angry at the restaurant or the servers or the other person for doing what they are allowed to do in that space. (link)

Also - you can complain about it, I guess! My issue is y'all need to stop demonizing people who are into darker FICTIONAL themes and who tag their content. You can dislike their crap yeah but stop acting like they're literally Satan and stop blaming them and fiction for abuse. (link)

...i think that sums up, pretty well, my thoughts on the matter. and, again, if you disagree, that is perfectly within your rights. but accusing folks of romanticizing something awful (which is what your message felt like) is...silly. grow up. hide tags, mute words, block me! it's really so easy.

thanks for the message, sweetie! have a great night!

#not so lovely anon #fanfic discourse? i guess? #we can talk more about this is you want to #but as a survivor i might get defensive #you've got mail 💌

[lachryphage]

idk

I know I’m getting aggressively upset by the amount of criticism I see and it’s not healthy for me to engage with it, even in these little rants I’m posting, but the reason I’m so frustrated is because I entered this fandom with a lot of love and joy in my heart

really long post below the cut about my history as a fan of the gorillaz and why song machine is perhaps my favorite “phase.” I just want to talk about the things that are important to me and make me happy...

my introduction to the gorillaz was the feel good inc video. I was over at a friend’s house and she wanted to show me something really cool on the internet (I was so impressed she was allowed on the computer AND without any supervision). I was 8 or 9 years old and I didn’t know what a music video was, that’s right, feel good inc. was the first music video I had EVER seen.

needless to say, it absolutely blew my mind. it’s a fucking iconic song AND iconic video. I didn’t really comprehend what I was looking at, I didn’t know these were characters with backgrounds, and I don’t even think I realized that the song was like. a song from a band. I just thought it was some kind of short film, a self-contained story. my idea of that video was completely divorced from what the gorillaz actually are, and to this day it still kind of is. I love that. it’s special to me for that reason, it feels like. like it’s mine.

I didn’t really listen to music that wasn’t what my friends or parents like, and the first time I had music I could sort of call my own was when my sister moved out and left all of her CDs with me. it was all stuff she HAD liked but wasn’t really interested in anymore, and a lot of it was stuff that I got to hear on my own, by myself, an experience I didn’t have to share.

some of the music still closest to my heart came from that CD case, it’s where I discovered the killers and death cab for cutie, which I have always considered my favorites. for whatever reason, until recently, I hadn’t really considered the gorillaz were included in that, but that’s how I was first PROPERLY introduced to the music: demon days. 

I remember listening to that album, alone on my bedroom floor, completely entranced by sounds like I had never heard before. once again, it was divorced from the context of the gorillaz as a virtual, socially-critical band. all I knew was the music. all I knew was the sound. and I of course recognized feel good inc, but I didn’t really remember the video or where I knew the song from, I had suppressed most of the memories from that time in my life. and so that song existed as an impression of a memory, haunting my mind and connecting me to something I couldn’t quite put a finger on.

I had my own private version of demon days in my head. a loose series of images and colors and a sense of some kind of narrative based on what little I could understand of the lyrics. it had nothing to do with the characters, in fact I didn’t even know they existed. once again, that album still somehow feels separate from the way I’m experiencing the gorillaz now. and i like that. I need that to never change. it feel like it’s mine.

I’ve never cared about who makes the music I listen to (and I understand now that sometimes that’s a problem). I don’t know why but I never bothered looking up music videos for songs I liked, sometimes a friend would show me something or I’d be listening to music on youtube and happen across a video, but even then I preferred lyrics videos. I never looked up artist names, lead singers, band members, history of the bands... in fact I usually didn’t even look beyond the albums I already liked. this is how I managed to remain ignorant of the gorillaz and didn’t listen to any of their stuff beyond demon days until highschool.

that’s when I met my who is now my best friend. she was a REAL gorillaz fan. she listened to ALL of their music and watched ALL of their videos and knew the “lore”... when we first started talking about the gorillaz I suddenly found myself way out of my depth. when we watched the feel good inc video (which I’m pretty sure I hadn’t seen it since that first time) she had to explain to me that no, those characters, THAT’S the band.  and I was like, um what the fuck? as embarrassing as it is to admit, I thought that de la soul were the band because those were the REAL people in the video ^^”’

I still didn’t have a lot of context for what I was seeing in the plastic beach videos, but of course I liked the music and the videos were super fun! because of my friend, I would hear gorillaz songs fairly regularly, though I never really sought them out myself, which is why I never listened to plastic beach, humanz, or the now now as actual ALBUMS. all I knew from them were the handful of videos that my friend would show me.

to illustrate just how clueless I was despite all of this: we got the power played frequently on the radio during my last year of college. I found it inspiring and loved singing to it, always meaning to look up who it was by, but by the time i’d be done driving I’d always forget to. I literally had no idea it was a gorillaz song. in fact, the same thing happened with momentary bliss earlier this year.

so how did I end up here? how did I suddenly have a huge interest in the band in its entirety, listening to the albums AND falling in love with the characters?

well, song machine happened. désolé happened.

the song, the video, it felt like perfection. the vocals made a home in my heart, and fatoumata diawara is such a gorgeous, delightful person... and so my friend kind of just shared stuff more frequently with me.

désolé made me fall in love with the new music, but my attempts to love my changing body are what led me to an interest in the characters.

long story short, I started T wand was worried about becoming one of those guys that is skinny but out of shape, small butt and a bit of tummy. I was so self conscious but when watching the strobelite video I thought 2D had a body type that was a stylization of what I was going to end up with. it made me feel so much better about myself and so I thought it’d be great to cosplay him and since I was going to cosplay him, I thought it was about time to learn the backstories of these characters... I was wholly unprepared for just how much interesting content there was.

I had no idea the amount of depth there was! I really was discovering the whole other half of the gorillaz, I went from no character content to more than I could have ever dreamed of.

and so I guess that’s why I have a completely different perspective than the other fans I’ve encountered. I understand why people who are used to having something great are so upset about the character side of things now... but in a lot of ways I’ve experienced the reverse. I went from nothing to a whole world of stuff to explore. it’s fantastic! it’s exciting!

and it’s why I’m so easily pleased with the stuff coming out now.

I entered this fandom with the joy of discovery, with the desire to explore, with the love of the current phase because it’s coincided with my introduction to the characters and thus is special to me just like my introduction to the music was special.

and damn is it not heartbreaking to go into something happy and find that much of the discussion around this thing that you love is about how much other people hate it.

#sigh... #the long and the short is that i have a hard time relating to other fans #the feel when you actually adore the current phase #i'm usually pretty good about curating my online engagement with fandom in a way that allows me to just focus on what i like #but it's like every single gorillaz blog i try and follow is so negative that i just can't get away from it #personal shit #still not tagging this even though i really wish i could share #it's lonely here #damn this is long #sounds #music

[jgnico]

Woah that anon was so passionately bent on assuming things continuously in the wrong way

I mean if you don't like it just don't read it? It's as simple as that,why do you gotta be a jerk? Just let people do what they enjoy to do

Now speaking of Gojo's technique and about him in general,his technique is really really confusing I agree with you 100% like it doesn't really follow physics at all. Ngl I enjoy reading all of your meta posts especially the recent one with Gojo's ability

As Gojo being hated, it's not your fault. I mean people simultaneously love/hate him you know. Like he gets clowned because of his ANTICS but hey he was also the one who got genuinely angry when yuuji died temporarily in the beginning, he obviously cares for his students a lot. I honestly dislike the fanon Gojo for this reason all they do is reduce him to someone who is a clown and a cheater and this side of him is usually never shown

Every rose has a thorn, similarly every character has some negative side to them also but that doesn't mean that it's all that is there to them

I would write more but it's 1:30 am now so yeah 😅

I hope you are doing well Nico and having a great day too

They were probably just having a bad day and needed to take that frustration out on someone. Unfortunately, making assumptions about my thoughts/feelings on things is the quickest way to get on my bad side. If it had been an ask that opened up the option for a genuine discussion of Gojo' s techniques, I'd be all for it.

First rule of fandom, curate your online experience. You're not gonna have any fun if you go looking for or engaging with things that upset you.

Agreed! Gojo's techniques are complex when you really dig into them. But as much as I enjoy the theoretical science behind them, something about them frustrates my brain. Does that mean that I think the techniques themselves are bad? No, not at all, I think they're pretty cool. Do I think that there's a lot going on with them that doesn't need to be as complex as it is? Yeah, but I'm not the author, so that doesn't matter lol.

Regardless, my personal opinions on the techniques' fundamental properties are just that, my opinions. Everyone has their own and if people don't like Gojo as a character for whatever reason, that's their opinion; they can think whatever they want. Gojo's a very easy character to love or hate, whether that's surface level or after analyzing his actions/personality. He has his faults, he has his strengths, just as every other character does.

Now worries! Have a good night! And thank you for the ask ❤

#my days going well so far #im gonna take a nap during my lunch break #cause im tired and in pain #but other than that its been a good day for me lol #answers #11nolongerhuman

[utilitycaster]

I maybe stupid and way off mark here but the way the fandom and sometimes the cast treat the warcrimes of Astrid vs essek really rubs me the wrong way the white woman who murders happily is victimised and seen as someone to be forgiven and the brown coded character is constantly reminded that they are horrible which I'm not refusing but it should be done to both is all I'm saying Caleb is so convinced Astrid is blinded but essek should just be constantly reminded? No one did that to Caleb either

Hi anon,

Pardon me if I’m really guarded/skeptical here but while I haven’t personally received any of the other trolling/baiting asks recently there’s been a spate of them, as well as in some other fandoms that I don’t follow as closely, of the form “I feel the fandom is really problematic” being sent to a bunch of people and then providing general concepts but no specific posts or examples. And while I missed most of it there’s been a lot of discourse this week on Essek specifically because of Talks. So you may be asking in good faith but like, it’s anon and I don’t know you, and if it comes out that this has been asked verbatim of multiple bloggers I’m going to feel very justified in my skepticism.

I also absolutely think there’s value in discussing racism/discrimination in fantasy media but I really do not like how it’s typically done on Tumblr or online in general; there’s a whole lot of performative hand-wringing in the absence of action. And while I’m not saying my experience as a Jewish woman is the same as the experience of a black person in fandom, I will say there’s been outright Jewish ethnicity-faking in fandom and a lot of posts on“here’s how to support Jewish people/avoid antisemitic tropes” that have made me go “huh. you don’t know a single goddamn Jewish person who plays D&D, do you.” Doing this on anon makes it even harder to engage fully. So what I’m saying is I just donated money to the NAACP LDF and suggest anyone interacting with this post who is in a financial position to do so donate to a charity that benefits people of color (or directly to someone like Omega Jones/Krystina Arielle/Orion Black/someone else of color in the actual play/D&D space who has experienced discrimination and harassment recently) as well.

Also to anyone reading this: I’m not interested in debate here of whether or not Essek is black or brown-coded; I think that’s a really complicated situation with dark elves in WoTC canon vs. how the Dynasty is depicted and this is not the place for it. If you want to discuss it, go ahead, but please make your own separate post.

But to answer this seriously and with all the benefit of the doubt I can give:

Without awakening the war crimes and semantics thereof discourse because ultimately I don’t think that’s important in this discussion, both Astrid and Essek have done significant evil actions that have directly or indirectly hurt the people of their own respective countries and in Essek’s case definitely helped precipitate an active war where considerable hostility already existed. I do not think many are disputing that.

With that said I have not personally observed what you are mentioning. I curate my experience pretty tightly - I am not involved in fandom communities on reddit or Twitter, and on Tumblr I rarely go into the main tags, and instead I usually follow people who consistently post/reblog things I like, and slowly expand out (or edit) who I follow from there. The general sense I have gotten from those people I follow is pretty much universally more positive towards Essek than Astrid - Essek has absolutely done harm, but the party knows him far better than anyone but Caleb knows Astrid, and he’s expressed remorse in a way that we haven’t seen from Astrid.

This also feels deeply at odds with what I literally just watched this morning, in which the party is treating Essek as their primary ally and entrusting him with quite a lot of information; most of the people I follow seem to have really liked this course of action and support Essek being brought in, and last week’s commune regarding Essek was also positive.

I think Caleb has a lot of concerns about both Astrid and Eodwulf, but I don’t think his motivation as a character is at all based in race. I think it’s based in the fact that he knows exactly what forces created Astrid, and that she was pushed into it as a child (vs. Essek who made the choices he made as an adult), and he knew her and was in love with her for several years, and that while she’s done terrible things since then as well he’s done many of the same things in the same service. Meanwhile, he met Essek less than six months ago and their relationship was heavily founded on deception - and he (Caleb) has still been fairly kind to Essek. I don’t think he’s reminded Essek; he showed considerable empathy for the situation Essek is in and towards Essek himself.

If you have specific examples you’d like to send please feel free to do so - despite what I said at the beginning, if you’re sending this in earnest and this is a widespread issue somewhere that I’m not seeing, I understand why that would be frustrating and I don’t like it either. But I’m not getting this sense at all from either canon nor fandom.

#anyone engaging with this post: keep it together or you will be blocked with impunity #critical role spoilers #not maintagging #Anonymous

[molusca]

she apologized for how she handled the situation and apologized for brushing off someone's honest criticisms as hate. what more is she meant to do? throw herself onto a pyre? is she not allowed to feel lousy that this whole thing blew up in her face? because she's an adult and she made a mistake, she's not allowed to be sad or stressed? she's still an imperfect human. apologizing immediately usually means people are still sensitive to their own hurt of being called out because it's fresh and on their mind so it tends to slip into their apology, but if she had waited any longer to compose herself, you guys would probably have an issue with how long she took. also, in aaaaaallll of this, I've have yet to once see what exactly about her work is so problematic? I've read her fic and I personally can't see anything wrong, although I will admit that yes, I'm a white ciswoman but I'd like to think I'm aware of negative tropes. but the only thing touted is "it made an mlm uncomfortable" but HOW??? honestly, I want to know! if anything so I can avoid doing the same thing! how is anyone meant to learn when you're not bringing up these points as often as you're explicitly laying out the problems in her apology and whatnot. I've seen 6 posts about how shit the apology was and for why and I've not once seen the original comment detailing why the fic was problematic, and I've been looking on twit, tumblr, insta, and ao3. if it's been deleted, why isn't anyone stating again and again what's wrong? also, if someone is making fic/art you don't like, don't. interact. with. it. there's tons of stuff on ao3 and twit that I don't like, some of it that I think is disgusting (do you know how many fics there are with keith/kosmos?) and I just scroll past it cause it can't hurt me if I don't read it. there's one artist that's pretty popular on Twitter and I personally really hate they way they draw klance but it's all over my tl. I respect that person's art style and creativeness and keep on moving. other people enjoy it, good for them. and if I start reading something and get surprised with something I dont like, I leave! find people who write things you like and stop engaging with creators who's things you don't like, as far as I know no one is holding a gun to your head making you read problematic fic. also for as much as you rag on her for the words she used to apologize, you don't seem to be considering your own words when offering criticism. if Taylor mistook the person's words as hate, couldn't it have been because the way he worded the complaint was done hatefully? lastly, no one, absolutely no one, is required to talk about world issues when they're running a fandom account,no matter how "big" they are. we all know what's going on in the world, we're surrounded by sad and stressful stories practically 24/7 and if someone isn't, they're probably curating their social feeds to be that way (like you should do when it come to kl content creators you don't like). people sending hate in Taylor's defense are in the wrong I agree, and this isn't hate its critism its a discussion, but Taylor isn't responsible for, how many people did you say? 16k on twit? even if she said hey guys stop, you think they would? she's can't control all those people and expecting her to is nonsense. I see so many younger fans expecting perfection in their fandoms and that just isn't going to happen. yes we should be striving to be better but no one is ever going to be perfect. not you, not me, not the mlm person, not Taylor, not anyone on any side of this argument. the only way to avoid this kind of circular dog piling and hate sending is to better curate your fandom experience by ignore those you have issues with.- 🦛

she apologized for how she handled the situation and apologized for brushing off someone's honest criticisms as hate. what more is she meant to do?

im pretty sure i said its good that she realizes she handled it poorly. but she makes the whole apology about this, doesnt directly talk about the issues and i know someone went to her to talk about it. also, it took her a day to say something about it so it wasnt exactly immediate (in the sense people had already stopped talking about it but that doesnt mean they werent still bothered). the apology was directed at mlm, and i havent seen one saying it felt genuine. of couse she can be hurt but when you apologize to a marginalized group the focus shouldnt be your feelings, but the feelings of the ones you have hurt.

I've have yet to once see what exactly about her work is so problematic?

she admits to be projecting on lance. so she makes him very femine and keith very masculine. and ok, gay couples like that do exist, but she is a woman projecting in this situation so this bothers people. putting mlm in this position is a harmful steriotype, bc it feels very heterosexual. this is a trope, it unfortunately happens a lot and its harmful. women need to be aware of what they are representing when drawing/writing mlm because well, real mlm are going to see it, and no one likes to feel like a fetish to others. and its not our place to question if the criticism is right or wrong when we are not mlm, so if you read this and think “but thats not a problem thats not a fetish etc” well, its not your place to judge that. theres more to it and you probably could get a better answer from a mlm sorry.

if someone is making fic/art you don't like, don't. interact. with. it. there's tons of stuff on ao3 and twit that I don't like, some of it that I think is disgusting (do you know how many fics there are with keith/kosmos?) and I just scroll past it cause it can't hurt me if I don't read it.

please, lets not compare a minority pointing out harmful tropes with. something fucking illegal.

as you said, you are a cis woman, of course its not going to hurt you in this case. but if people are making harmful content its not a simple matter of “dont interact with it” because they will still be promoting it, other people are going to read it, and media influences how we see minorities so of course people will not like when they see bad portrayal of them. also, tumblr sucks so even if you want to just “dont interact with it” its hard because even after blocking you can still cross the content of someone. not sure how it works on twitter but anyway this discussion started on tumblr and tumblr doesnt stop people who were bothered by her to avoid her by blocking.

if Taylor mistook the person's words as hate, couldn't it have been because the way he worded the complaint was done hatefully?

i think she deleted the ask by now, but i dont remember the ask being hateful. i remember someone asking if she was a fujoshi, and another person mentioned that mlm didnt like the way she portrayals klance. i dont remember it being hateful. but again, she apologized for handling it badly. its just that she stops there.

no one, absolutely no one, is required to talk about world issues when they're running a fandom account,no matter how "big" they are. we all know what's going on in the world, we're surrounded by sad and stressful stories practically 24/7 and if someone isn't, they're probably curating their social feeds to be that way

ignoring world issues is a privilege. if someone is able to turn off from all the problems in the world, its a privilige. yes no one should talk aobut it all the time thats not even healthy, but to never talk about it is a privilege. thats what black people are saying, they cant just turn off from racism, so yes they are going to expect white people to do something. online honestly i cant do shit, i dont think anything i reblog here does a difference and i do what i can in my own country, but she has a plataform that could help bring awareness. again, its a privilege to be able to curate your social media to be a perfect happy place.

even if she said hey guys stop, you think they would? she's can't control all those people and expecting her to is nonsense.

maybe they wouldnt, but if people were doing this type of thing in my name, in my defense, i would at least say something about it idk. she cant control them but she makes nothing to show that she disagrees or look for the people being harassed to say something about it.

the only way to avoid this kind of circular dog piling and hate sending is to better curate your fandom experience by ignore those you have issues with.

when it comes to simple things like “i prefer taller lance and i dont like taller keith” yeah, its fine to ignore people who draw taller keith and move on with your life or something like that. but we are talking about mlm, a real group of people, being upset for being portrayed in a harmful and steriotype way. its everywhere in fandom, and in real life. they cant escape from real life, and then they come to fandom where everyone wants some escapism and have to deal with more issues. its tiring

#well. good morning #anon