#heterosexist

[commiepinkofag]

More HETERO-SEXIST shit. Outrage! sticker, 1991

#hyphens! #heterosexist #heteronormativity #heterosexual #homophobia #outrage #queer history #queer nation #act up #paragraph 16 #activism #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbqti #queer #trans #sticker #1991 #1990s #90s

[kit10phish]

Self Disclosure and Taylor Swift's Mastermind

Maybe, just maybe Taylor is feeling people out, carefully testing the waters, and making a decision to update her public persona based on the reactions she receives. I think it would be beneficial for people to relax on the “straightest woman in the world” narrative, so she doesn’t get locked in a box (gold cage?!). Even if she is straight, does it need defending? Straight, is the majority, the…

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#analysis #anxiety #assumptions #capitalism #closet #closeted #coming out #comp-het #eras #fear #Gaylor #glass closet #glass closeting #heteronormative #heterosexist #hetlors #Kaylor #Lavender Haze #LGBT #media #money #politics #queer #signal #SwiftGron #symbolism #Taylor Swift

[forgetful-river]

Happy to report that Jennifer's Body still makes me just as feral as it use to.

#it's the horror of toxic female friendships #it's the male gaze taking over your brain when you live in a heterosexist patriarchal society #its when comp het #it's when the world won't let you and your bff/gf be murders in peace :( #also the colors always look so much more saturated on photoshop???? #I'm gonna scream. Anyway. #jade harley #grimbark jade #grimbark #I want to make so many horror drawings but they never have the ~vibe~ I want!!!! #>:( #hs #homestuck #my art

[agp]

transitioning into manhood is an extremely common way of talking about cis manhood, both formally and casually, but if i were to talk about my time transitioning into manhood, and how i realized that wasnt necessary and in the end womanhood was what was most comfortable for me and my body, i believe i would likely get accused of being a deceitful predator attempting to pass myself off as detrans. i would be tricking others into accepting my womanhood by implying i was coercively assigned female because of the use of the word 'transitioning' speaking as a woman in the common phrase used to describe the process of becoming a man

and while i could accuse others of being the ones drawing parallels between my struggles during a past attempt at becoming a man and those of former trans men and continue to stigmatize this association, what if i dont fucking want to? what if i believe 'transitioning into manhood' should be for everyone who wishes to name their own struggles this way, both past and present?

what if i believe trans women are not fundamentally already men with no need for such transition? what if i believe we are no more 'transitioning away from manhood' than certain cis women, who instead are said to have 'detransitioned back from manhood'? what if i believe those coercively assigned female at birth are not necessarily already women by virtue of such assignment either? what if i believe language of becoming and transition is just as relevant in our struggles as women, cis or trans, detrans or otherwise? what if i believe i cant say these things together without being accused of conflating fundamentally different things?

what if i refuse to comply with the notion that we must necessarily reject our similarities? what if i express these beliefs? would i be so strange?

#what if i believe western heterosexist and cisexist gender norms operate dialectically? #what if i believe the production of womanhood under this system necessarily involves the negation of ones manhood and vice versa? #and that to have a manhood negate one must first produce it in order to stigmatize it away #what if i believe reproducing the ghost of womanhood is fundamental to manhhood and vice versa? #what if i believe this process never stops for anyone #that it is a struggle with which one improves #that the appearance of struggle is deemed unappealing and we are pressured to mask it #and that struggling with the notion of oneself as the opposite gender is deemed beneath the problems of a 'normal person' #despite that particular struggle being fundamental to the operation of gender in its hegemonic form #what if every 'no homo' or 'well I wouldnt do /that/' is such a production of negation? #what if i believe to be exclusively straight means to peform such an exclusion of becomings from ones futures? #what if i believe to be cisgender is to not be trans #not only in the sense that to be a cis woman would imply to not be a trans man #but also specifically and especially in the sense that to be a cis woman is to not be a trans woman

[cavalierappreciator]

This is not actually important. Hope this helps.

#the kind of men who can be positively influenced by men being nice to each other in a movie arent policing #those behaviors in each other irl. aka they’re kind nerds and or literally gay/bi #I also thought this post was going to mention the lack of women (which I understand is worse in the books don’t @ me) but jokes on me #if I said this kind of thinking is male supremacist and heterosexist? what then? #further proof that tumblr likes to think it’s the gay site but it’s the men worship site

[mintharan]

that hard drive article is literally bottom of the barrel unfunny, and if they were trying to make a point that Wyll is right to not want anything to do with Mizora (which would be you know... the right take) they could have worded it in a way that doesn't make it seem like what the average horny guy with a 'dommy mommy' kink would say (extremely annoying men btw, the way they act like this somehow means they're exempt from misogyny), if that was the point, it's really not well made and it does merit criticism.

#'don't you know it's every guy's dream to be sexually initiated in their teens by a hot woman' is abosolutely gross heterosexist rhetoric #and it's made much worse by being applied to a black character #i know that mizora no longer shows up with her human appearance but i can't just erase from my mind that she's supposed to be white #like what is the goal here if not to show that her relationship to him is extremely predatory? #and just opportunistic and selfserving

[macarensesangles]

omg i think i may have actually gotten vagued on twitter? maybe? love it. anyway lol ummm twirls my hair

i was on the twitting machine looking at posts and saw someone who USED to follow me on this blog but who does not any longer making a post about like "some people are SO MAD that people ship emet-selch with girls! it's DISGRACEFUL you should treat every character as pan and not just assume the game is ONLY FOR YOU!"

and i was like, hmm. i mean, i feel like in a game where everything is left so open-ended it's fine to have your own headcanons as long as you don't step on anyone else's toes, right? and as much as i've complained about the relative popularity of f/m emetwol and how that's not clicked well with internalized homophobia for me, and said i dislike the portrayals of it that lean really hard on objectionable tropes about compulsory heteronormativity, i don't like...i don't think there's anything WRONG with shipping him with a woman or thinking he's bisexual. there's likely more canon basis for that, even. everyone's entitled to their own opinion and wolship. i get that sometimes i come across as a bit bitchy on this front but it's just tiring to me to feel kind of like, edged out of the discussion as a card carrying fag yknow

anyway then i looked in the replies and the OP was specifically getting really infuriated about "people who think he's exclusively gay" because "CLEARLY he had a wife and kids so that automatically makes that impossible. theyre so gross bc they think he didn't really love his wife as solus and just did it as a means to an end" and this was specifically when i started thinking like Wow maybe she really is mad at least in part at me specifically for having a gay headcanon and not thinking he was attracted to his wife, especially given canonically he did kind of treat the galvus family like shit. which. was funny to me.

like maybe i am a little too salty sometimes but i really do think everyone should have whatever headcanon they want and am not inherently against f/m emetwol or bi emet or anything that's just not MY preference. there's no reason people can't enjoy it. that just like...doesn't mean everyone else has to agree or to see him as bisexual.....like it's odd to me to get angry at someone for insisting their headcanon is the only right one in your view and then immediately being like "but there is only one correct headcanon to have...it's just that it's MINE."

anyway [something derogatory about selchwifery here to end the post with a little extra negativity]

#i really do try to make it clear i only object to this particular kind of like #really misogynist heterosexist kind of writing and not just m/f in general or bi headcanons at all #it's specifically people who say imperialism is cool or who try to like #make him less effeminate bc they think male effeminacy is gross and shit like that #not just literally anyone with an m/f ship like let's be for real!!!! #f slur #tag for complaining #*keeps going in the tags* like honestly ive seen plenty of m/f ships with him that i really really enjoyed! #because the writing was good!!! #i don't care i know not everyone has my opinion!! #aaaaaaghuuu

[wildwren]

every time i go into the ted lasso tag it's an exercise in receiving the highest psychic damage possible in a single sitting

#people will be like “oh my god ❤️ women 😍😍” #and then proceed to drop theee most heterosexist takes I've ever seen #t*dbecca shippers need to be stopped sorry #r*ykeeley shippers are on thin fucking ice #sorry for posting shipping discourse on main like the clown that i am

[trashquisitor-shirozora]

Hi all!

Touched some grass, maybe touched too much grass, and got wiped out by a headache. The weekly weekday grind is about to begin so I’m going to temper my contributions to the ongoing conversations around and about the dinluke fandom.

That said, I’ve had quite a bit of catching up to do and want to say the following-

While the discourse quickly centered around dark!dinluke and dark!dinluke creators, I agree with Withercrown’s latest and other later posts from others that this group is not solely to blame for what’s been happening to this fandom. The dark!dinluke corner may be the most highly visible one and have contributed much to the toxic stereotypes, tropes, and trends that have dominated much of the fanworks we see nowadays, but they are not the only ones and cannot be solely blamed for every ill that seems to plague and diminish the ship’s fandom. There are many other fanworks that don’t share the same themes and (infamous? improper? nonexistent?) tags as the dark!dinluke corner but feature many of the same problems - racism, racialized xenophobia, homophobia, heterosexism, gendered stereotypes. 

I did my part in centering the debate around them and also on the racism and xenophobia surrounding Din Djarin and Pedro Pascal with my responses to asks, my reblogs, my tags. While I know these conversations needed to be had (and they keep needing to be had, why do we keep needing to have these conversations???), I should’ve done more to highlight the other major problems with the fandom. I also didn’t speak up when discussions and headcanons fetishized and applied heterosexist ideas and tropes onto gay/MLM relationships and characters, and that’s something I need to work on. I’ve complained in private spaces many times my frustrations with characterizations of Luke in particular but never took them public. Seems like it’s time to end that.

It also bears reminding that all of these major problems with the dinluke ship and fandom that had been driving people away and reducing participation in these spaces are not separate. They are not isolated, they are not single issues to be addressed one by one. These are inter-connected and intersectional. Any effort to do better and to make a better community needs to take into account how we should approach Din and Luke as individuals and in a relationship. I do what I can while keeping in mind how Din is perceived because of his actor and I do the same for Luke (and for every other character in Star Wars, really, they all deserve this). 

I’m just a human, I will fuck up (I have fucked up), but I’m always striving to correct myself, learn, and do better - for me, for the people in fandom, and for a ship I very much love.

I have a few asks in my inbox but I want to spend the rest of the night being productive with other things so I’ll address them later in the week. I’m also keeping anon asks off in the meantime for the same reasons. When will anon asks get turned back on? That’s for me to know and for you to find out.

Take care of yourselves. Do what you must for your sake. I’ll see y’all on the flip side.

#dinluke #skydalorian #tbh when I made that post I didn't expect it to blow up or kickstart another weekend of discoursing #I'm glad for it though I think we strayed too far from all the major issues Withercrown had brought up in his original post #but here's the thing - Withercrown was simply the straw that broke my camel's back #my poor camel had to bear the weight of all of my frustrations and anger toward not just dark!dinluke but other dinluke fans #I'm the poor fool who sat on that back with my silence and my fears about fandom and then that straw came down on my head #on a personal note - I hated gendered stereotypes and tropes all my life and my discomfort has led to me questioning myself #(one could argue that vico ortiz and OFMD's jim jimenez led me to seriously asking myself if I wasn't as cis as I thought I was) #that discomfort has also made me hyperaware of characters being assigned these traits and roles based on racialized and heterosexist ideas #it was never just the racism or xenophobia but also how the racism and xenophobia played into characterizing din and luke a certain way #the thing about intersectionality (besides it being really about frameworks of power and legal systems in the US) is that it is hard #it is hard work because it asks you to take into account so many facets of identity and inequality and you can lose track or focus #and it is ongoing. it never ends. so long as these systems and structures are in place we have to live and breathe it #it doesn't just go away after a weekend of volleying back and forth about statistics and identity #for me the hurt really began in 2016 with the finnpoe discourse which only worsened with The Last Jedi the next year #these hurts never left and will never leave because fandom doesn't learn doesn't do better #but I'm truly tired of being quiet and of wallowing silently in despair and of losing hope #so if I have to lob fireballs into the dinluke tag and show myself then so be it

[mindlessaugust]

I love how the entire conversation around lube on the internet is vagina-centric its so fun like A theres another hole that NEEDS lube for play, B half the population doesnt even have a vagina, eughhhh like just give advice for both!

#heteronormativity #heterosexist bullshit

[mollrat101]

Season 2 made Deborah’s relationship with femininity all the more confusing. 

I wrote about this a while ago and how it could connect with her discomfort with lesbians, but s2 seems to have thoroughly proven me wrong about pretty much all of it. To be fair, that could be a misreading on my part, but it seems so contradictory that I’m not sure it is. 

In that essay, I wondered if all the talk about the ways Deborah has felt oppressed by feminine beauty standards might lead her to really questioning her relationship to her own femininity. 

Does Deborah do all of these things (plastic surgery, disordered eating, etc.) because she genuinely thinks these things add value to her life or because she’s been taught by patriarchal beauty standards that she must do these things or risk rejection?

And apparently season 2′s answer is “Yes, she does like these things and she doesn’t want to question them that deeply and, in fact, we’re going to not punish her for judging other women for not living up to those standards, in fact we’re going to reward her for it”. 

Many times in s1 we’re lead to believe that a huge part of Deborah’s story is how she’s felt suffocated by others’ expectations. She’s spent a majority of her life trying to mold herself into the type of person that an audience would accept. She didn’t fight back against her depiction as a “crazy woman”, in fact she leaned into it. She didn’t buck back against feminine beauty standards, in fact she went to extreme lengths to reach them. She didn’t fight back against men treating her or other women poorly, she just accepted it in her personal life and, in fact, she spread misogynistic jokes to further align herself with the dominant worldview of her industry. 

Season 1 gave me a portrait of a woman who is exhausted and feels trapped by all these standards but has no idea what to do. 

Enter Ava. A woman who, by her very existence, challenges a lot of Deborah’s narrow views on gender and sexuality. 

Season 2 basically throws all of that potential away for both Ava and the queer women she met in 2.04 to deconstruct any of Deborah’s biases about gender and sexuality. In fact, we see her doubling down on her view this season. 

We’re not supposed to see Deborah’s ridicule of Ava’s less feminine appearance as anything that will be challenged or examined, instead Deb is just a bully and we should just accept that. We’re not supposed to read anything deeper about Deborah’s prejudice against lesbians, we’re just supposed to laugh at how the show reinforces her worldview about these women and we should just accept that. 

Deborah liking feminine things isn’t the problem. But the lack of self-reflection or examination and the judging of other women IS a problem. And despite the show building up to an idea that this was going to be a key part of Deborah’s arc, they instead reinforced that Deborah’s commitment to hyperfemininity can’t be questioned and neither can her pushing those views onto other women. There’s nothing deeper going on here, Deborah is just judgmental to other women and it’s funny. 

“There’s nothing deeper going on here” actually seems like it could be season 2′s motto. 

#hacks hbo #hbo hacks #hacks #hacks thoughts #deborah vance #s1 was all about how deb has been oppressed by patriarchy and heterosexism and yet s2 just says it's all fine #she doesn't regret or even feel any of her choices need be examined #and worse she judges other women for not taking her extreme views #lesbians embody what she fears most: women who don't feel compelled to follow heterosexist beauty standards #and the show doesn't challenge her on this instead it says she's right that lesbians suck #literally the next episode after 2.04 she forces ava into a dress she picked out #and declares ava is now a woman #she's learned nothing #why introduce feminism and sexism as important in s1 only to abandon it?

[kit10phish]

It's the Same Picture [A Little TS Lyrical Exercise]

Taylor not only uses, but “loves to communicate” with Easter eggs: She’s been embedding this clues since the beginning: Taylor tells us she WANTS people to really read her lyrics: Now we’ll go through several examples of Easter eggs Taylor has very intentionally embedded within the lyrics of her songs. Exhibit A]: We have the same amount of evidence (2 descriptions & 1 specific) for WHO Het…

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#analysis #boyfriend #critical thinking #Dianna Agron #Easter eggs #Gaylor #Harry Styles #heteronormative #heterosexist #homophobia #jake G #Karlie Kloss #Kaylor #LGBT #lyrics #muses #music #queer #queer lens #reading #song #SwiftGron #Taylor Swift #writing

[eliounora]

morgause: why does a lowly servant continue to risk everything for arthur and for camelot? merlin: the bromance

#i loathe the word bromance something about it is so heteronormative. heterosexist even LOL #nor's rambles #merlin blogging

[sayitwityachest]

2. okay so the other thing was i had a bit of an EXCHANGE with a client a month ago before i took off from my internship for 2 weeks bc family stuff, and i had to write and incident report about it. towards the end i def could of handled it better, but she just wanted to fight to be honest, and it was kinda about time someone stopped putting up with her shit... which is what i did. the best thing was the whole time she was yelling at me she was reclining in bed lmao i was standing in the middle of the room and i feel like my vibe was like

it was so fucking dumb and my coworker witnessed it too. and one point she jumped up from the bed and it was really weird and jerky and i was like ...that was fucking weird. and then she just stood there confused and went to the bathroom while screaming at me lmao. it was so weird, i only raised my voice at the end it was no where near her level of just like constant screaming from the get go. so anyway later i have to write an incident report and my coworker was helping me fill blanks, and at one point she starts laughing and is like "i like how she jumped up to rush you and you just did not move or seem phased and she deflated and fled to the bathroom in shame xD" and i was like !!!!!! bc i didnt even connect the dots lmao like when she did it intially there was a tiny instinctual part of my mind that was like "whoa there" but i was mostly like "wat she doing lol oh anyway" so i had to include that but lmao. im so fucking oblivious to shit i was about to get fucking rushed and i was chilling lmao. anyway i know that she was spoken to by supervisors but i never heard anything else but then yesterday i fucking find out she tried to get me fired and filed a goddamn grievance against me. like girl im a fucking intern. and i WISH i could share more details bc i cannot stress how fucking stupid this shit was, but the cherry on top is that she said i was trying to physically intimidate her and she was so scared she went to the bathroom bc she felt threatened and BULLSHITTTTTTT. this woman isnt afraid of any of us lmao, super confrontational and she's much heavier than i am and has a few inches on me too! oh that pissed me off. and my friends literally didnt tell me bc they didnt want to ruin my time off and im like !!! give me the teaaaaaaaa. i wanna know things especially things about me. apparently yesterday she asked someone if i still worked there and they were like "ummmm" like ahahah hey jerk they are currently begging me to work just part time lmao

#so like... she's really really homophobic/heterosexist and part of me is like 👀 #bc she knows im bi (it's a long story but i promise it makes sense and i am BASED) #so im like hmmmm maybe she was feeling really threatened the whole time on account of me looking like me? #but then im like girl no she is just spouting all the bullshit lmao #big #rant

[random-rabid-creature]

I just saw my pops watching LIGHT YEAR

I'm scared-

#he's heterosexist #he's not gonna like the gay scene #help

[certainwoman]

“Even at an individual level, there are remarkably few of even the most openly gay people who are not deliberately in the closet with someone personally or economically or institutionally important to them. Furthermore, the deadly elasticity of heterosexist presumption means that, like Wendy in Peter Pan, people find new walls springing up around them even as they drowse: every encounter with a new classful of students, to say nothing of a new boss, social worker, loan officer, landlord, doctor, erects new closets whose fraught and characteristic laws of optics and physics exact from at least gay people new surveys, new calculations, new draughts and requisitions of secrecy or disclosure. Even an out gay person deals daily with interlocutors about whom she doesn't know whether they know or not; it is equally difficult to guess for any given interlocutor whether, if they did know, the knowledge would seem very important. Nor-at the most basic level-is it unaccountable that someone who wanted a job, custody or visiting rights, insurance, protection from violence, from "therapy," from distorting stereotype, from insulting scrutiny, from simple insult, from forcible interpretation of their bodily product, could deliberately choose to remain in or to reenter the closet in some or all segments of their life. The gay closet is not a feature only of the lives of gay people.But for many gay people it is still the fundamental feature of social life; and there can be few gay people, however courageous and forthright by habit, however fortunate in the support of their immediate communities, in whose lives the closet is not still a shaping presence.“

Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick, Epistemology of the Closet

#eve kosofsky sedgwick #epistemology of the closet #lgbtq #Queer Cinema #outing