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anjuschiffer · 4 years

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Coming In For A Diagnosis and Leaving With A Date

HAPPY BIRTHDAY @theatreandcomicfreak!!!! Sure, we’ve only known each other for a few months, but Mina! You’re so freaking amazing and I’m so glad to have met you!

So to celebrate, I wrote this for you! Enjoy it! And hope you have a wonderful day :D

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He was here to help Damian on taking down a small-time criminal, so why were they having such a hard time taking him down?

“Damian, are you sure that-” Garfield started, only to get interrupted by his friend.

“I’m going to be fine. Go and rest. I’ll be sure to update you on-” Static filled their communication, Garfield already fearing the worst.

“Damian.” No response. “Damian!” Garfield yelled out, quickly coming to a halt, bearing the slight burn he got from the roof asphalt. Who cares if he was bleeding from his arm. Who cares if he couldn’t retain his form for any longer than five minutes. He had to go back! Damian was in danger-

“Well, look what we have here. A lost kitten.” Garfield quickly whipped his head to see Catwoman. Or Selina as Damian called her. Despite Selina and Bruce being together for several years, the two still wouldn’t get together, much to Damian’s annoyance. If you asked Garfield, Damian probably wanted her to officially be part of the family already, not that Damian already considered her as such.

“Please don’t do that.” Garfield said, letting out a breath he didn’t know he was holding. All the hairs on his body relaxed, but his heart still raced quickly against his chest. “Do you know what’s going on?” Garfield watched as Selina hummed, looking over to where Damian was last heard from.

“He’s going to be fine, kid. He can handle this. And if anything, he’s got Bat out there as well.” She assured, looking at the gash across his arm. “You, on the other hand, won’t if you don’t get that treated.”

“I’m fine.” Garfield protested, wincing when Selina placed pressure on his wound.

“I beg to differ.” Selina said, quickly taking out her phone, a corner of her lips curving as she typed something, pocketing it away once she was down. “See that apartment over there?”

“Yeah?” Garfield looked over to where she was pointing, an apartment building just a block over. If Garfield squinted just a tiny bit, he was able to see a few plants sitting by the window ledge. “What about that-”

“Go there and wait inside.” Selina instructed, ushering him to go. “Someone will be there shortly to help you treat that wound of yours.” Garfield turned to go, but remained seated where he was. “I’ll make sure to update you on Damian’s whereabouts.”

Seeing as Selina wouldn’t take ‘no’ for an answer, Garfield made his way to the open apartment, carefully stepping over the plants, finding himself stepping onto a sofa. He promptly took off his shoes, not wanting to dirty the poor furniture anymore than what he had already done.

As he chose to sit, he took note of how organized -and white- the room was, the cabinets meticulously neat and labeled, his eyes widening when he saw the names on some of the glass jars.

Naloxone, bacitracin, lidocaine… where did this person even get the first and last one?

As he tried to distract himself, Garfield thought it would be a good idea to look at the white board hung above one of the work stations, ignoring the various mortars filled with who-knows-what.

He began to panic when he saw Damian’s medical records there, quickly running towards it to grab it, quickly turning page after page, panicking when he saw that this person also knew that Damian was Robin.

Lifting his gaze from the papers, his eyes landed on the wall files, his eyes landing on the name Wayne.

He began to rummage through, finding the rest of the Batfam’s identities, also finding other rogues' names in the other compartments.

His heart stopped when he came across his own file, his name staring back at him in pink ink.

Just as he was about to look at how much this person knew about him, the sound of keys jingling broke his determination.

He quickly began to put the files back, making sure to place them in their proper slots, quickly hopping back into the sofa as he heard footsteps approach the room along with muffled talking.

As soon as he managed to sit down and attempt to look normal, the door slid open.

“-should have said no. Maybe I really am a pushover.” The person muttered, Garfield feeling his breath hitch. She was pretty. Very pretty.

The girl looked at him, gaping at his appearance before throwing her bag to the side and rushing out the room.

Garfield felt hurt, wondering what she had thought when she saw him, only for it to all go away when she came back, gloves on and a first aid kit in hand.

He thought she already looked pretty with her hair down, but she looked just as stunning with her hair tied into a loose bun.

“How long have you been like this?” She asked, snapping Garfield from his trance.

“Half an hour?” Garfield tried to provide, watching as she cut off his sleeve, quick to start cleaning the outer rims of his wounds.

“I’m guessing you were like this for a while before Miss Ky-Ca-” she started to fumble.

“I know Miss Kyle is Catwoman. Don’t gotta worry about the whole ‘secret-identity’ thing with me.” Garfield said, watching the girl visibly relax, the girl going back to focusing on clearing the dry blood with a pair of tweezers and cotton swabs.

The two remained quiet, Garfield watching as she kept cleaning his wound, wincing when she started to add the stitches to his wound.

“Sorry.”

“You’re just doing your job.” Garfield had to bite his tongue to stop from hissing from the pain. “Actually, is this your job?”

“Kind of.” She replied, adding one last stitch. “I have experience on patching up small injuries and I used to study medicine under a mentor, but that was a while ago...” the girl trailed, Garfield picking up on how her mood quickly shifted.

“Wow, these are the neatest stitches I’ve ever gotten! You have to be a pretty amazing sewer if they’re this neat. I bet you’d also be a pretty good designer!” Garfield praised, noticing a faint blush dust her face as she placed some ointment over the stitches.

“Matter of fact, I am a designer.” The girl said, a soft smile now on her lips. “Miss Kyle commissioned me to make her a dress for the upcoming charity here in Gotham. Although, I ended up getting roped in some things I shouldn’t have.”

“Accidentally found out her identity?” He watched the girl nod.

“Yup. Well...that's a part of it.” She said, taking out some bandage. “And along the way I found out about her family’s, as you saw the files over there.”

“I-I didn’t see any files.“ He said, averting his eyes from her, feeling her gaze on him. “Okay. I did.” He admitted. “But why do you even have all of those medical records?”

“Curious, aren’t you?” Marinette purred, something inside of Garfield stirring. “Don’t blame you. It’s not everyday you find someone like me.”

“You mean a pretty girl like you?” Garfield teased, watching her almost drop the pair of scissors in her hand. “Which reminds me, what’s your name?”

“Wh-what? No!” Marinette squeaked out, trying her hardest to not wrap the bandage too tight. “I meant someone who helps vigilantes and heroes while being a civilian.” Garfield hummed at that, watching as she finished patching him up. “And Marinette. My name’s Marinette.” Marinette said, checking over her work. “And seems like you’re good to go.”

“That’s it?” Garfield said in a panic, not wanting to leave just yet. “Wow, didn’t think it’d be this fast.”

“Like I said,” Marinette said, pulling out Garfield’s file and jotting something down. “I have my share of experience when it comes to these types of things.”

“Well then,” Garfield got up, one minute himself and the next as a cat on her desk, nudging her hand for some scratches. “Thank you very much.”

He watched as red dusted her face again, giving him a few scritches under his chin, giggling when he let out a few purrs.

“Remember to come back tomorrow morning for the follow up.” Marinette reminded, watching as Garfield pounced to the window ledge, morphing back into his normal form. “Need to make sure it heals properly.”

“Will do doc!” Garfield said, stepping out into the fire escape, only to find Damian there. “Holy shi-” He was fine!

“What are you doing here?” Damian asked with a growl.

“Umm...getting my injuries checked?” Garfield defended, showing Damian his wrapped arm. “What about you?”

“Same thing.” Damian said as he motioned to his bruised face, quickly jumping into the window. Garfield quickly followed suit.

“Damian! Just look at you! What in kwami’s name were you up to?” Marinette scolded when she saw Damian, quickly going through her cabinets, grabbing different jars. “Oh! Hi Gar! Thought we agreed to see each other tomorrow?”

“Tomorrow?” Damian asked, narrowing his eyes at Garfield, causing him to gulp. Why was he acting like this?

“A follow up Dami, no need to get so overprotective, geez.” Marinette clarified, making Damian face her. “If anything, I should be the overprotective one. I am older than you.” Garfield could only watch as the two bickered.

“By two years.” Damian stated, hissing when she placed an ice pack over his bruise.

“Meaning I don’t need little brother dearest to be following me 24/7.” Marinette said with a hint of annoyance, lifting Damian’s face to get a better look at the cut under his chin. “Small scratch. Nothing too major, unlike the one on your torso.”

“Wait, brother? You guys are related?” Garfield asked, this question going ignored as the two siblings kept arguing.

“It’s just a scratch.”

Marinette was related to Damian… his sister...

“A scratch!? You’re still bleeding from it!”

Meaning she is a Wayne...and she had quite the overprotective family, and a large one at that… just look at Damian!

“Nothing that I can’t heal on my own.”

Just what is he getting himself into?

“That’s it.” Marinette huffed, pulling out her phone. “I’m calling Grandpere.” Garfield let out a laugh when he saw Damian stiffen.

“Mari, don’t you dare-”

“Alf? Yes, it's me. Listen, Damian doesn’t want to get himself checked, insisting that his injury-stop that!” Marinette yelled at Damian, who tried to grab the phone away from her, only for Garfield to get a hold of it.

“Hey!” “Logan, hand it over to me.” The siblings said simultaneously, only for Garfield to ignore the two.

“Hey Alfred, it’s me, Garfield. Yes, a cut on his torso that’s not too deep. Yes, I will tell him to let Mari to look at it or else there will be consequences.” He looked over at a betrayed Damian and a grinning Marinette who mouthed a thank you. “Yes, I’m fine as well Alfred. Oh! And if Miss Kyle is there, please tell her I said thank you. Right. Bye.” With that, Garfield hanged up, handing Marinette her phone back.

“I won’t forget this betrayal Logan.” Damian said, pouting as he sat back down on the sofa, Marinette already having her tool out to clean his wound.

“You’re very welcome.” Garfield said, grinning as he watched Damian fuss over his patch up.

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“Thank you for having my back Garfield.” Marinette said as he followed Damian out the window.

Marinette was able to tend to Damian’s injuries with such grace that it left Garfield mesmerized, wondering how he didn’t feel the two hours pass by.

“It was nothing.” Garfield said, averting his gaze from her, scratching the back of his head as heat rose to his cheeks. That’s when he felt a peck on his cheek, turning to see Marinette smile at him.

“A token of my gratitude.” She reasoned, fiddling with her fingers as she watched Garfiled hover a hand over the place she kissed him. “Sorry if I made you uncom-”

“No, no, no!” Garfield started, finally touching the spot with his fingers. “I didn’t mind it.” He melted when she beamed, only for Damian to ruin their moment.

“Hurry up! I don’t have all night!” Damian yelled, causing Garfield to groan.

“So about tomorrow-” Mari started, only for Gar to cut her off.

“Come in the morning for the check up. Got it.” Garfield recited, lifting his right hand. “Promise to be here at 8 sharp.”

“Well, I was thinking if you’d like to join me for breakfast after the check up.” Gar broke into a smile. “Would you?”

“Definitely!” Gar said, “Consider it a date then.” Without giving her a chance to reply, he went to join Damian, looking forward to his breakfast date with Marinette.

Marinette watched as Garfield jumped away, going back to the file she had for him. Picking up her pink pen, she drew a small heart next to his name.

She can’t wait for tomorrow’s date, even if it meant that her stupid brothers might try to stop it.

#maribat #garmari #happy birthday!#anju writes

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gore-maballer · 3 years

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alright here goes big personal post time

i did wanna make this yesterday but i had to do a couple of things and i got kinda tired

this is definitely gonna get heavy but i do want to end on a good note

I think i need to get this out straight away, i have Asperger’s Syndrome, i’m very high functioning but i do have it. I like to think it doesn’t affect me that much but i’ve lived with the diagnosis long enough to know it’s just not true.

Loud noises cause me no end of distress. Focusing on particular subjects can be almost impossible sometimes. Naturally this impacted me at school, which is what i think caused the bulk of my mental health issues.

Officially i only have 9th grade completed, i haven’t even finished high school. Like, i know i’m not stupid, but imagine what that does to someone’s self-esteem.

That isn’t to say i didn’t try to finish high school. I tried harder than anyone i know, i’ve taken practically every course available to me, even across multiple schools. I’ve taken science, art, multimedia, health and safety, culinary school, you name it.

but like i said, for people like me, studying is practically impossible sometimes.

whatever information i needed, i had to get it first try during class. That’s not easy when you share a room full of people always chattering and making distractions. And that’s even if you like your schoolmates somewhat, most of the classes i was in i couldn’t stand the people around me.

Don’t get me wrong, i didn’t hate everyone i met, i even made some dear friends, which kinda hurts now because i’ve lost contact with so many of them, and the ones i can contact still, i don’t really want to because i feel like they’ve moved on and i don’t want to bother them. So that was my school life, lonely, overwhelmingly stressful and underwhelmingly rewarding.

All the while i felt like a burden to my parents. Like, here’s this fuckin deadbeat leeching off his parents way past any reasonable amount of time to finish high school. i should have finished high school by the time i was seventeen. I’m 26 now. In retrospect, it’s not exactly a bad thing, none of the courses i took felt right to me. Like that health and safety one. I HATED that course, i took it because it was the only one i could at the time. I had no interest in the subjects, my classmates were insufferable, we shared rooms with ANOTHER class that was somehow even worse than the one i was in because our courses shared subjects and it was a small school, and some of the teachers were downright bad at their job sorry not sorry. So something happened, the stress got too much and i had an outburst. And people noticed. My parents noticed.

I started going to a psychiatrist, i got diagnosed with depression. Not anxiety but i feel like those go hand in hand anyway. Fuckin three hit combo right here, autism, depression, and the anxiety that goes with it. Fuck me up fam. Still, it did get me the help i needed and i started getting medication. And things started getting better.

Back to school. Starting over, three more years.

I really enjoyed culinary school, i found i have a knack for making some mean arroz con leche and i feel like i do really well with pastries and sweets in general. So school was nice for a while, i was enjoying my studies even if i wasn’t doing well in ALL of them, (sorry to my french teacher she was cool, but fuck that entire language), my classmates were pretty okay for the most part, the fact that it was a professional course meant that when i finished, not only would i have a highschool diploma, i’d be immediately certified to start working.

But on my second year, my father got diagnosed with cancer. And it all went to shit. I felt pressured to start helping my family anyway i could, after all, i’d taken so much and given so little. I started taking driving lessons and i got my license which was a big help in general. And good thing i did, because my dad’s health deteriorated quick. It was caught too late. I was miserable because when he was sick, at one point we had a heart to heart and i realized how much he loved me and didn’t think i was a burden like i thought he did, and though sometimes he really made me upset, i felt like i never showed how much i appreciated and loved him. He didn’t make it. Not a month later my grandmother died and a little under a year later my grandfather. This might seem cold, my grandparents were riddled with dementia, they barely recognized me so i wasn’t too upset when they died. But my mom, these people have been with her in the most important moments of her life and she lost them all in the span of a year. She was devastated, and seeing her like that wrecked me.

So my depression got worse, and my grades tanked, and i failed school again, and again i felt like a burden. I start thinking about things. I should run away, live on the street, anything so i wouldn’t burden my mother anymore. What’s the worst that could happen? I die? So what? Death felt welcome, even deserved. But could i do that to my mom? I’m glad i didn’t.

Things started getting better. Pushing through it all, i started another course, auxilliary health technician, and this one is right for me, i’m certain. I’m great at it, i get to help people and i love it. It’s just the right level of responsibilty, we basically assist nurses and help take care of the patients among other things.

It’s too bad the damn pandemic hit, we got stuck with telework, suddenly every subject and every class shifts to theory, and we’re spending hours upon hours everyday on our computers doing boring research and just completing assignment after boring assignment. So i started getting headaches, cool. My brain’s finally taken all it can take.

Anyway, i start my third and final internship before i finish the course, and i make it through my first week. And one night the seizure happens. I find out i have a brain tumor and it’s been growing for a while. Thankfully it’s not cancer, i really didn’t want to put my mom through that shit again.

Most of the mass was removed, i didn’t have any complications, i’m feeling great doing RT to remove what they couldn’t take out through surgery, plus i’m almost done with it, and further on i’ll do chemo, which i’m a bit more nervous about, but i’m sure it’ll go well too. And i got plenty of time to organize my thoughts. I really start thinking about life, about everyone who helped me get where i am now and i realize. People care about me, and i care about them. And i don’t want to hurt them, and i think they don’t want to me get hurt either.

So i’m not gonna. I’m not gonna hurt anyone, least of all myself anymore.

Needless to say this whole situation kinda grinded my studies to a halt. But I found out i’ll be able to kick off where i stopped later on this year.

Hopefully the state of things will be better by then, and i’m feeling the best I’ve ever felt, all things considering. I’m gonna see this damn thing through. I’m taking control of my life.

I finally feel like a person.

I got nowhere to go but forward.

If you read through all of this, thank you. It meant a lot and i love you.

I think i’ll go have a healthy cry now.

#getting better #personal #long post #like really long i don't think i ever put this much effort into writing something

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blazoff · 4 years

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Staying Awhile

Oh God, how do I start this?

I figured that given the current circumstances, I would extend and share some of my thoughts. These are trying times. No longer do we have the veil of life’s every day distractions to occupy our mind and many of us, including me, have unfortunately receded back into a place that we have hoped we would never have to return to again. I decided to write this upon hearing that more than a few of my friends have been having a difficult time adjusting to this new world, many of them dealing with even more on top of mandated isolation.

Before I get into the nitty-gritty, I would like to start by saying that there is one thing that we all must at the very least consider, and that is that no one is entirely responsible for all of their actions. We are imperfect beings, looking at the world through an imperfect lens. For a lack of a more elegant way of saying it, we all fuck up from time to time. I have noticed that, at least in my very own experience, we judge others by their actions and often judge ourselves by our intentions. It is in my belief that this is what turns us into animals.

When I was younger, I struggled deeply with my own identity. I did not know who I was or who I was suppose to be. I’m sure many of you can resonate with that. My friends would text me asking to hang out, only for me to accept until they were parked outside of my house. I had the insane delusion that I had to have my mind made up about who I was and what I stood for before I could step out into the world. I failed to recognize that very few people, even some towards the end of their lives, have come to know who they truly are. I never brought these feelings of uneasiness up to my friends and family, and it grew and festered inside of me almost until it was too late.

Sometime early during my junior year of high school, I finally decided that I wanted to be someone. Something. Now, this is not inherently a problem. It is natural to want to be a part of others’ lives and to feel accepted. Except that this decision was not calculated. It only worsened my situation. I drank. I smoked. I partied. I was trying to be someone I knew I wasn’t, but nonetheless I was sick of being called a pussy and sick of feeling so worthless. Eventually, I threw myself at a girl. I was so deeply disgusted with myself that I had never so much as kissed another person that, without even an ounce of consideration, I latched onto another person. Someone who was just as broken as me, and the two of us took advantage of each other whenever possible.

I became depressed and intensely infatuated with the thought of suicide.

For months I didn’t get out of bed unless it was for school. I was increasingly awful and inconsiderate to my parents and brother (God bless them). I painted the girl I was once with as the devil when she truly wasn’t. I just wanted someone to blame other than myself. I vividly remember laying in my bed, picking dates, and imagining all the ways I could end my own life. It was agony. Until, one day, for one reason or another, a lightbulb went off in my head. To this day I’m not even sure why it came to my mind. I like to think that it was because maybe someone mentioned me in a prayer. I had finally came to the realization that if I were to end my life, I was going to hurt a lot of people. Not just my mother, father, brother, extended family, or close friends. I thought of those people I would just occasionally just say, “Hi” to. Even if that was the extent of our interactions, what might happen to them if I suddenly wasn’t there without any real explanation? What if even just one of them looked up to me or saw me as a friend? The thought of inconveniencing someone for even just a moment started to feel more and more wrong to me. So I changed. I have those people to thank for saving my life, and I guarantee some of you are reading this right now.

I set out on a journey to return the favor and give to people as much as they gave to me. I finally had a sense of purpose, that is: I was put on this earth to help others. I still think this is true to this day, and even though I falter, I give it my best damn shot. With my new found appreciation of life I met my first real girlfriend. I tried to apply what I learned to our relationship and for a great while, I think it worked. She, very much like me, struggled with her mental health. Finally I was able to relate to someone, and although I hate to sometimes admit it, some of my favorite memories were from our time together. She (at the time) was great for me because I had someone to take care of. When she mentioned to me her various underlying symptoms, I took it upon myself to stay up countless nights and read about what they could possibly mean for her and for myself. I eventually came to the conclusion that she might have a specific mental disorder, so I mentioned it to her in hopes she would be able to seek professional help and be properly diagnosed. Almost two and half years later, I unfortunately turned out being right after she received an official diagnosis in therapy (in retrospect, I’m a bit of a jackass for doing this though. Even suggesting to someone that they might have a specific mental disorder should be left to trained professionals).

However, all things to come to an end. As I set out to Indiana University for my sophomore year of college, her and I split. I once again fell into a depressive state and became something I would soon hate. I was frustrated with the fact that she chose to leave me in a time when I was increasingly vulnerable. When I told her I was beginning to think about suicide again, it was too much for her to handle at the time. For months after we were done I selfishly tried to reach out to her to voice my anger and confusion. I failed to do what I originally set out to do. I was no longer helping her, even if I felt the entire situation was woefully unfair to me. After months of wrestling with this simple fact I accepted that the only person you owe something in this world is yourself. People must take care of themselves first before they can adequately take care of others.

So, once again, that’s what I did. I figured that was what she was doing. I started cooking. I started working out. I started writing. I distracted myself with different hobbies and interests. I even came to the conclusion that I was dealing with a specific mental disorder of my own, and to my surprise within a month I was diagnosed with ADHD and even started medication. Once again, I started to see the world under a different light. One not so different than the one previously mentioned, but different nonetheless.

Now I ask of you to do the same. Work on improving yourself. Help others when they are down. Set goals for yourself each day and accomplish them. Start small, be realistic, and be timely. Even if you fail to do what you set out to do, just know that you will be better for it. Progress will be made, even in times like these where it is tempting to get lost in our own thoughts. We only got one chance at this crazy thing called life, so you might as well go for it. I hope the sentiments I shared in this writing are heard, because you are just important as the person sitting next to you.

Stay Awhile. You might just be saving someone’s life and you might not even be aware of it. If you need someone to talk to during all of this, feel free to reach out to me. I might not be able to give you the best advice but at the very least I can listen. And for those of you who took the time out of your day to read this, I say to you, “Thank You.” It is my dream to write and create stories that move people, and today I feel as if I took a necessary step in order to do that. I am going to start writing here more so feel free to check back from time to time.

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sage-nebula · 5 years

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How long have you known you have ADD and what clued you in that you have it?

MMM, this is kind of a tough question.

First, as a disclaimer: This is one of two disorders I’m 99% sure I have but haven’t been officially diagnosed with, the other being delayed sleep phase disorder. I’ve been officially diagnosed with C-PTSD, chronic severe depression, an anxiety disorder, and a learning disability in math, but I have not been officially diagnosed with attention deficit disorder or delayed sleep phase disorder (the former of which because I’ve never brought it up with a doctor, and the latter of which because I’ve yet to find a doctor who believes me). That said, though, I was very sure that I had C-PTSD, chronic severe depression, an anxiety disorder, and a learning disability in math before I was ever diagnosed with any of those, so while I’m not officially diagnosed with ADD or DSPD at this point in time, the fact that I hit pretty much every symptom checkbox for both makes me feel just as sure about those two as I do all the rest. (And honestly, I would have a diagnosis for DSPD if only anyone would BELIEVE ME, but that’s neither here nor there.)

Anyway, to answer your question . . .

I honestly first started suspecting it back when I was in high school. There were commercials on TV for medication to help with “adult ADD,” and the symptoms described in those commercials (difficulty focusing, difficulty keeping track of time, procrastinating, etc) all sounded like me. Of course I wasn’t an adult at the time, but I also wasn’t a young child, like the typical person you see diagnosed with ADHD. Furthermore, the symptoms sounded very different from what I’d always been led to believe ADHD was (hyperactive, bouncing off the walls, et cetera), so I thought that I might have “adult ADD,” as was described in the commercials. That said, I never brought it up with my parents because they didn’t even believe me when I said was burnt out junior year and that was why I failed math, and instead just decided that I was lazy and unwilling to try, so. I figured there was no point in bringing it up with them.

I kind of forgot about it in the years that followed until, funnily enough, I saw some posts on tumblr where people talked about some less commonly known symptoms that fit me perfectly. I think the one that stood out to me the most (though I can’t find it now) was a post about being unable to sit in a chair properly. I’m going to level with you: I cannot sit in a chair with both feet on the floor for more than two or three minutes to save my life. It is so uncomfortable. Ever since I was a kid I always pulled my feet up onto my chair, and I never sit in one position for too long. Sometimes I sit cross-legged, other times it’s with both feet on the chair and my knees drawn up, sometimes it’s one knee up and the other cross-legged, and so on and so forth. I shift position and squirm around constantly, not because I’m hyper, but because I just can’t sit in one position for too long without feeling massively uncomfortable. There was a post here on tumblr about how that inability to sit still and properly in chairs is a lesser known symptom of ADD in women, and that made me start wondering if perhaps my high school curiosity about whether I could have ADD or not had some merit to it after all. (Of course, no online symptom sites list “can’t sit in chairs properly” as a symptom, but you know. These things happen.)

So I started to do more research online, going to different websites to see what I could find. And what I found is that Inattentive-Type ADD fits me perfectly. As a brief rundown:

Missing details and becoming distracted easily: I can be detail oriented if it’s something I’m very interested in (or something I’m trying very hard to focus on), but otherwise I do have a tendency to blaze through and skim things, taking shortcuts because I assume I already know the thing even if I actually don’t. As for distractions? Oh boy. At my old job in particular I had to have headphones and music on if I was to focus on work orders / e-mails because otherwise the noise around me was so much of a distraction I couldn’t focus on any one thing. But even then, it could not be any music with lyrics, because the lyrics would distract me and send me into daydreams before I realized what was happening! I also tend to get distracted in the sense that I can be doing one task and get distracted by another task, or can have my thoughts jump around a lot as I leap from tangent to tangent . . . that’s less noticeable in writing, but that’s part of why I prefer to communicate in writing. It’s easier to keep my thoughts organized if I have time to sort them out first.

Trouble focusing on the task at hand: Talked about this above, but yeah, unless it’s something super interesting to me, keeping my focus on one thing can feel like an insurmountable task. Like I said before, at my previous job the only way I could knock out a bunch of work orders or support e-mails at once was if I had headphones on. Otherwise? My attention would flit from conversation to conversation while I mindlessly played with my phone or went from tab to tab (without really looking at anything) on my laptop, because my attention just could not hold because it was pulled in too many different directions. It was hell. (My new job is much quieter, which is a big relief.)

Becoming bored quickly: Hahaaaa, oh my god. You might have noticed, but I’m “in” about ten different fandoms at once, usually. And this is because it’s so, so hard to hold my interest on any one thing! Like I do have some life-long interests, such as Pokémon, but even then I also have so many other things that I’m like and that I find to entertain myself with because I cannot handle boredom, and that includes being unable to handle doing the same thing over, and over, and over. Believe it or not, that was the worst part of retail for me. It wasn’t dealing with the coworkers that I hated the most, oh no. It was the sheer monotony of having to do the same goddamn thing over and over again for eight bloody hours in a row. I distinctly remember at my last retail job feeling like my brain was actually, physically rotting, and like it would have been a mercy to scrape it out with a windshield ice scraper than to continue doing that job. At least when customers screamed at me it gave me something new to say and do. When it was just another routine day at the Barnes & Noble? That’s when I wished for sweet, merciful death (and a swift one, unlike the slow one that boredom inflicts). I should also mention that at this point I have gotten up from my seat no less than five times purely because I felt distracted and wanted to walk around a bit.

Daydreaming frequently: I have trouble with long movies because I will get distracted by something inane in the movie, get taken away on a daydream trip, and then come back sometime later only to realize I no longer have any idea what’s going on in the movie. I daydream while I’m driving (though don’t worry, I can still pay attention to the road; when it comes to driving I can multitask this). I daydream in the shower, I daydream at work, I daydream while falling asleep, I’m almost never not goddamn daydreaming. Ffs, I will be having a conversation with someone and as they’re talking to me my attention will snap to something else and I’ll go off on a thought tangent / daydream. I guess that could also fit under “easily distracted” but you get the gist. My whole life has been nothing but daydreams. There are baby pictures of me where I look like I was sedated by my parents, but actually I was probably just daydreaming even then. It’s been my perpetual state as long as I can remember.

Executive dysfunction: I have trouble keeping organized, and I procrastinate everything, even things I want to do. I will want to play a video game, but instead of turning on the game I will sit here and flip mindlessly through different internet tabs because I just cannot bring myself to start the task. And again, I do this with everything! Writing, doing chores, eating, going to bed, waking up---you name it, I procrastinate it, and this is on top of not being able to keep things organized despite how much I vastly prefer it when things are neat and tidy. I had to buy myself a schedule book just so I could try to remember when my bills are due and when my appointments are (and it does help, when I remember to use it). But honestly, I could have a terrible headache, and yet actually getting up to take medicine---or just reaching over to grab the bottle that’s conveniently within reach---feels like a task I just cannot start. It’s absurd, and yet I’ve always been like this. (Ofc if you ask my parents I’m just lazy, but again, this is even with things I want to do, like video games, or getting out of my car when I get home instead of messing with my phone for ten minutes first. It’s like the gears of my brain get stuck and I just cannot get them to move.)

Hyperfocusing: While I am incredibly easily distracted at times, at the same time when I get into something, I get really into it, and sometimes this kicks my brain into a hyperfocused state (which I didn’t even realize until recently was a hyperfocused state) where I cannot do anything else other than that task, including sleeping, eating, or otherwise taking care of myself. This usually happens with cleaning, but it can also happen with video games, with show binging, or other similar activities. Once I’m in the zone, I’m in the zone and I don’t come out of that zone until my brain has decided it has had enough / the thing is done. (Similarly, I get hyperfixations where I’m SUPER INTO one thing for a while, often churning out tons of content and such for it until it runs its course through my system. This is also when my attention to detail actually returns to me and I can remember minute details of things I love.)

And so on and so forth, you get the idea. I’ve taken a few different online tests as well, such as one I just now took that said a score of 51% or higher means that you should see a mental health professional for a diagnosis, and I scored 75%. Of course, online checklists and self-tests aren’t surefire diagnoses, but at the same time these are often very similar to the worksheets that doctors hand you in their offices. It’s not a diagnosis, but it’s something that indicates that there is something going on that you (or in this case, I) should probably have checked out.

So all in all, researching ADD and reading about the different types and how different symptoms present in different people makes me think I have it. It’s not something I thought about or fully realized until well into my adult years, but hey, at least I’ve got an idea now. (And tbh I think I have sort of a combined type going on due to the chair and fidgeting thing, as well as how fast I talk and how my mouth often has trouble keeping up with my thoughts, but still.) It also explains a lot about my childhood, adolescence, and even adult years, just like the mathematics learning disability did. It’s a missing piece to help me understand why my brain has always been like . . . this.

At any rate, hope this sates your curiosity, anon. And if you’re looking into this for yourself, I wish you the best of luck!

#total times i got up from my seat while writing this reply: 9 #total minutes it took me to write as a result despite that i type 144 WPM? 45 #jfc #Anonymous

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mywinestainedheart · 5 years

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Depression, Anxiety and … Cigarettes?

I’m not a smoker.

I know this because I take three drags then let it burn to the butt between my fingers. Sometimes it dies before I even take those three drags because I’m not pulling hard enough. Other times I put it out myself and get back to that same stick a week later.

I hate the taste. I usually eat something or wash my mouth out with toothpaste to get rid of it. I hate the smell. I wash my hands three times, toss my jerseys into the washing machine and hang my head over the bathtub for a conditioner-rinse to douse all traces of the scent.

I’m not a smoker.

What I am is a heartbroken, social media stalking, recently-diagnosed-with-depression twenty-eight year old woman trying to quell the anxiety she’s, apparently, been living with since her teenage years. Childhood bullying and molestation sob-stories aside, I always knew there was something functionally wrong with me.

Online descriptions of depression will detail a broad list of symptoms that essentially claim everyone in the world to be depressed. Sleep disorderliness, apathy, agitation, lack of concentration, poor appetite etc., etc. By that standard, my whole first year class at uni was depressed, so I never thought much of it. Besides, this would happen in bouts. It was never consistent. I’d experience an odd wave of anxiety that would come out of nowhere, but hang out with my smoker friends and feel fine for the next five to ten minutes. The next day, that anxiety might even be gone. I would have breakdowns and cry about feeling ugly, vapid and worthless, then eventually sober to no sense of feelings at all. I tend to overthink and get angry very easily. Someone cutting me off in traffic can have me ruminating over it for the rest of the day. I prefer to keep to myself, yet I’m constantly seeking distractions. In childhood it was imaginary worlds through Barbie dolls, in adulthood it was sex. Happiness would come and go, but pessimistic thoughts about myself, my life and my chances of finding love in a partner the way it seemed so easy for all my prettier friends were an ever-present influence on my psyche.

People will tell you “just snap out of it”, “think positive”, “thoughts become things” and, my personal favourite, “choose to be happy”. Well, gee! I never thought of that, clueless Life Orientation teacher who has probably never stepped out of her comfort zone within the northern suburbs of Johannesburg. Imma just wake up tomorrow and tell myself to be in a better mood.

I had learned to exist in this way: Feeling empty and, fittingly, not having a name for it. Feeling sad and not having a reason for it. Overthinking and comparing myself to every girl who walked into the room because I believed that everyone else could see how much lesser than I was compared to her too. I would come up after brushing my teeth to stare at my reflection in the bathroom mirror and wonder what it would be like to just not exist anymore.

We used to live in an upmarket housing complex in Johannesburg. People who lived in this area are usually well off. They aren’t thought to have problems, and yet, we had a neighbour whose husband shot himself in the complex park. Years later, I heard of a former high school classmate of mine who shot himself in the middle of the street in the same area.

It got me thinking: People who are only occasionally sad, like me, don’t frequently envy people who had the gall to commit suicide, do they?

The first time I went to a psychiatrist was because I broke down in front of my mother the night before. My heart was bleeding from a breakup I hated that I was going through. This man insisted that I “didn’t deserve him”, but the twenty-four-year-old yuppie he used to go to school with, for some reason, did. He picked her over me and he’s happy with his choice. Put that on top of an entire existence of feeling lesser than, and I realised I was a ticking timebomb.

I was toying with the idea of suicide and noticed that the only thing holding me back was a fear of the unknown.

These thoughts are not new, by the way. I’d been having them since childhood. The one I entertained the most was standing behind the kitchen door with a knife to my chest, so that when someone swung the door open, the blade would push through my ribcage. Obviously, this would not be as simple in execution, but I was nine and it was a fantasy. Give me a break.

Upon hearing that I was thinking of killing myself, my mother chortled and told me “you’re behaving like a teenager”. That response would be the number one reason I have never spoken about my deeper feelings with my mom before this. It wasn’t that she didn’t know how to love, it was that she didn’t understand that someone like me required a different type of love. A child might not say so because they themselves don’t know what it is, but there will always be subtle signs of a mood disorder. In hindsight, I’d displayed a number of them, but I was dismissed as being anti-social, sullen or attention-seeking.

“I’m just so tired,” I remember saying, choking on my own tears.

“Of what?” My mother demanded. She couldn’t understand what I could possibly be talking about. You’re only twenty-eight, you have a roof over your head and both parents that love you. You have a job. We’ve given you a car. You have freedom. You have friends. What on earth could have you crying like the world was coming to an end?

“Everything,” I said. Because that was the truth. I was tired of everything. I was tired of waking up every morning and remembering that the man I loved had chosen someone else over me. I was tired of driving for an hour every day to get into town, passing everything that reminded me of him and the breakup (including him and his new girlfriend in the middle of traffic). I was tired of going to a job that was adding nothing to my career, tired of budgeting a pathetic salary. Tired of waiting on my father and his promises that he was setting me up on a different career path, tired of eating the same food everyday (if I even remembered to eat). Tired of smoking cigarettes with my cousins cause I felt like if I was failing this badly at life then I may as well smoke up and hope for cancer, and I was absolutely exhausted with the idea that I had lost my twenty-four-year-old niece; a bodacious lover of life who’d existed on a seemingly never-ending vibration of confidence and positivity, to a senseless car accident, but here I was, still breathing.

Someone who deserved life was cemented in the ground. I woke up every morning wishing we could trade places.

The psychiatrist let me talk for a few minutes before diagnosing me as depressed and suicidal. Considering multiple factors and incidences I’d described in session, she said the depression has been there my whole life and that my break up was the lit cigarette that rolled too close to the leaky-gas pipe in my identity, causing this implosion.

Note, I’m not blaming my ex for my mental instability. How could he have known if I didn’t know? I’d had my suspicions, but, like my mother; telling him would have likely amounted to him (initially) dismissing me as being dramatic. What he saw as a “crazy” display of raw insecurity was probably the starter flames of this inferno. Again, not his fault, but he was certainly a contributor, and I find myself struggling not to resent him for that. But that’s a blog post for another time.

The psychiatrist prescribes me anti-depressants, some other drug that causes drowsiness, and orders to me to eight months of therapy with a nice woman she recommends in the area I live now. All I’m hearing is money, money and more money. I can’t afford any of this on what I make, and my dad is a businessman whose entire income is dependent on deals. Sometimes we have more money than we know what to do with, other times we’re so broke that there’s a negotiation between toilet paper and breakfast cereal. At twenty-eight, I’m officially jaded with the financial instability I grew up in, so I dismiss the idea of therapy entirely. Why start something only to stop because we can’t afford it anymore? Besides, I’d apparently been living with this raging beast my whole life. Surely, we could find a way to co-exist once again? Like Venom and Eddie Brock.

I say thanks but no thanks to the medication and go home with a mother who suddenly has a whole new understanding of me. She’s attentive when she talks now, and says ‘I love you’ before she hangs up the phone. Confessing my diagnosis to my father shouldn’t have felt embarrassing, but it did. I hated that he might now see me as weak. I was the one child he didn’t have to worry about. I had a sassy attitude and a smart mouth. I was assertive in my speech and tolerated no bullshit. I could hold my own against anyone, and I knew he was proud of me for that. How would he perceive me after I admitted that I’m not as strong as I pretend to be?

The truth? No different. I was still his daughter. The only change I noticed is that he looks at me when he talks to me (more attentive, like my mother) and makes a point of using my family nickname when he says good morning, hello or goodbye. He’s also trying harder to make sure his planned career path for me falls into place, but I’m no longer holding my breath.

As for me and my revelation of my diagnosis? Like I said, I always knew that there was something functionally wrong with me. I just have a name for it now. I’m still battling with the ideas of death and how I would do it. The running fantasy now is one I usually entertain before bed about slitting my wrists and sliding into a bathtub. Morbid, I know, but it’s the only way I can seem to find sleep these days: Thinking of no longer existing helps me transition into a state where I no longer exist for a little while. I’m not about to slit my wrists any time soon (besides, my pain threshold has a limit. If I were going to kill myself I wouldn’t pick a method quite so agonising and messy), but I recognise that these are not healthy thought processes. I do think I need therapy. After all, you have to learn how to love yourself before anyone else can love you and all that, right? I want to overcome this. I want to see progression in my life and my career. I don’t want my ex to believe he dodged a stagnant bullet the next time he bumps into me—or give him the satisfaction of knowing he was the catalyst of my failure.

I want to be happy.

So as I take my third drag of my last cigarette of 2019, I pray to a Deity I have a shaky belief in and tell myself that this is my rock bottom. It can’t possibly get any worse from here.

Or can it?

I suppose only my next move, and time, will tell.

#Depression Anxiety MentalHealth Scared Heartbroken

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laekynlegner · 4 years

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I. Technopanic through History:

Techonopanics arise when a new technology, device, or idea is discovered. A technopanic is a moral panic that centers around societal fears about a specific technology instead of merely the content flowing over that technology or medium. When researching technopanics a common theme I found was that these articles drove fear into the public, thus creating a technopanic. Fear is an extremely powerful driving force especially in attempt to sway the public's opinion. The fear of technology has always been there but it jumps from one domain to another. “When trains first came along, physicians intoned that the human body could not travel at more than 60mph. Similar fears attached themselves to electricity, to steam engines, to television and radio, and, of course, to the internet” (Salmon, 2015). All of these, got burdened with the same fear and versions of moral panic. However, worrying a little can be a good thing. Most technopanics arise from the fear of the threat of cybersecurity, safety, and privacy. In an article written by Mike Isaac he says that, nearly 50 million Facebook users were hacked and had their personal information exposed (Isaac, 2018). Because of this fear becoming a reality it is very reasonable for people to have doubts about their information being safe with technology. Humans have a survival instinct and when that is compared to risks it leads people to doubt arising technology. When it comes to the threat of privacy the biggest fear of most adults is privacy of their kids. “Also, the rise of online social networking sites a few years ago spawned a “predator panic” and resulted in a proposed federal ban on access to those sites in schools and libraries, as well as mandatory online age verification, which was endorsed by many state officials” (Thierer, 2013). When it comes to a parents' list of worries their children are normally at the top of the list. I believe that parents should be worried about their child's privacy online and what they get access to. This is similar to what we discussed in class because we discussed what scared people about arising technology and why. These authors used their literature to discuss why people are so scared of new technology. All of these authors create valid points in their arguments about why we should be scared of new technologies at first and that worrying is okay. These authors do not promote fear in their readers but rather discuss the doubts people have about technology and that worrying about these things can be a good thing.

II. The Future of the Body:

Technology is reshaping the future of healthcare. Majority of the articles discussed how learning machines is laying the groundwork for better healthcare and advancements in the medical field. Throughout the years scientists and researchers have been discovering advancements, with the help of technology. This has exciting implications for the public. In an article written by David DiSalvo he discussed how scientists have developed a memory-restorying prosthetic for the human brain. “This first-of-its-kind implant study took a novel approach to restoring memory. Rather than try to reverse memory loss, the prosthetic enhances existing memory-making ability by “writing code” into the brain’s memory system” (DiSalvo, 2018). This protheses can tap into a patient’s memory, reinforce it and feed it back to the patient. If a person’s memory is impaired it is possible to identify the neural firing patterns that indicate correct memory formation and separate them from the patterns that are incorrect and assist the brain in forming the correct patterns. Although this was an implant study it is the first step in developing a tool for people suffering from disorders and injuries that have already damaged their brains. This would be life changing for the people suffering from Alzhemiers or other diseases that impair the keeping or creating of memories. Throughout this article the author discusses the positive ways this device will help the public creating a wave of excitement among the readers. In a similar article written by Jet Khasriya he discusses the impacts of technology on the human body. He says that technological advancements with medicine has helped us live longer. With the help of technology we can spot an early cancer, evaluate the risk of having a stroke or heart attack and then reduce it with the click of a button (Khasriya). In the past, people had to depend primarily on their doctors for information about their health. Today, the internet has evolved and is a great resource for those seeking health-related information. Studies predict that within ten years, a medical check-up could involve more interactions with sensors, cameras and robotic scanning devices than human doctors and nurses (Khasriya). Using wearable tools to monitor your health and carry out scans patients will be able to self-diagnose at home without needing to visit a hospital. This would be transformative because it takes time away from people spending countless hours waiting to be seen by a medical professional when they can self-diagnose their illness or injury in the comfort of their own home. In class discussion we covered the memory-restoring prosthetic I mentioned and we also discussed technology aiding doctors in the process of creating the best treatment plan or diagnosis. Both of these articles propose a life-changing advancements that can be possible with technology. These authors use their articles to convey an underlying theme of excitement and focusing on the positive aspects of the new technology being created.

III. Intelligent Systems:

An intelligent system is a type of technology, most commonly a computer system, with an embedded, Internet-connected computer that has the ability to gather and analyze data and communicate with other systems. Intelligent systems are complex and use a wide range of technologies. “Recent years have seen dramatic breakthroughs in image and speech recognition, autonomous robotics, and game playing. The coming decades will likely see substantial progress. This promises great benefits: new scientific discoveries, cheaper and better goods and services, medical advances” (University of Cambridge). There have been important breakthroughs in the field of machine learning and deep learning. These concepts have allowed machines to process and analyze information in a very sophisticated manner. From a healthcare perspective Artificial Intelligence (AI) enhances care in the medical field. The development of intelligent machines is making health care delivery more accurate, efficient, and accessible. “Using AI, we can now analyze massive quantities of data to inform clinical decision-making at the point of care” (Loomis, 2019). AI can be used to analyze existing patient data and draw new findings and hypotheses that are often not covered in larger or more traditional scientific research. This will continually strengthen the decision making process by facilitating access to information. Medical personnel will spend far less time trying to find information, resulting in more time on direct patient care which will inevitably improve the quality of healthcare for the patient. Throughout this article the Loomis goes on to discuss the positive impacts AI has in the health field. An article published by Coalition for Future Mobility the author discusses the benefits of self-driving cars. Self-driving cars create greater road safety, save money, reduce congestion, and prove to be better for the environment. Government data identifies driver behavior or error as a factor in 94 percent of crashes, and self-driving vehicles can reduce driver error. (Benefits of Self-Driving Cars) Furthermore, self-driving cars reduce impaired driving, drugged driving, speeding and distractions. Fewer crashes creates less congestion and when self-driving cars maintain a safe and consistent distance between vehicles it reduces the number of stop-and-go waves that produce road congestion. Thus, fewer traffic jams also result in reducing fuel use and carbon emissions. Most gas is wasted when driving at high speeds, braking, and re-accelerating excessively. Self-driving vehicles cut these factors out, meaning less gas is burned, resulting in less air pollution. This author goes more in depth about how self-driving cars prove to be safer, reduce traffic, and better for the environment. During this phase, in class we discussed Watson, an artificial intelligence computer system, being used to personalize treatment plans for cancer patients. The articles I found were centered around how AI can be used in the medical field to make the most informed clinical decision which is very similar to the goal of Watson. When discussing self-driving cars in class almost all of the articles focused on the positives the these cars bring to society. Both of these articles show an implicit theme of successfully introducing the positive aspects that come from artificial intelligence. Each article addresses the possibilities technology brings which is comparable to all of the sections thus far.

IV. Making and Things:

In terms of recent technological advancements, 3D printing is one of the most promising new technologies. Many manufacturing methods result in high costs and waste but one of the most exciting advantages of 3D printing is that it only uses the required amount of material to create a part or product which results in very little waste. The material used for 3D printing makes it a very sustainable option. “Thermoplastic materials, for instance, can be melted, cured (cooled down such that they become solid), melted again, cured again, and so forth” (6 Main Advantages to 3D Printing). Therefore, manufacturing waste can be reused and preventing it from becoming waste in the first place. This would be extremely helpful considering the overwhelming need to reduce waste. The author also discusses multiple advantages that comes with 3D printing. Some of these advantages being reduced cost and time, reduced errors, and production on demand. This author brings excitement to the reader by the things that 3D printing can make possible. In an article published by Forbes the author, Amit Chowdhry, discusses the possibilities of 3D printing. One of the most exciting things being researched is the possibility of 3D printed organs. “3D printing has been used to print organs from a patient's own cells. In the past, hospitals implanted structures into patients made by hands. 3D printing has drastically improved this process” (Chowdhry, 2013). This is very exciting because this means that patients may no longer have to wait for donors. Dr. Anthony Atala performed a TED talk and during his speech he explained how 3D printing organs is possible. He discusses how he was able to create artificial scaffolds in the shape of an organ with living cells. He says that, “90 percent of the patients on the transplant list are actually waiting for a kidney. Patients are dying every day because we don’t have enough of those organs to go around.” He goes on to say that they can reconstruct the entire volume of a kidney made from biodegradable polyester from the CT scans of patients. When discussing 3D printers in class one of the things we covered is 3D printed limbs which can be useful for so many people that are suffering from the loss of a limb. This can also be applied to the 3D printing of organs because although it is not something you can physically see on the body it is helping people live their life as normal and healthy as possible. All of these authors discuss the possibilities and advantages of 3D printing. They use their platforms to bring about the positive aspects of 3D printing. This is a similar theme in all of the sections, highlighting the positive and bringing excitement of new technology to the readers

V. Cyborgs and Bioart:

To qualify as a cyborg it is defined as an organism with both organic and biomechatronic body parts. Technically, humans could be seen as cyborgs in various situations, including the use of artificial implants. In an article written by Juliana Adelman she discusses the benefits of being among the cyborg generation. Since being a cyborg classifies the use of artificial implants these implants could be life saving. A pacemaker is a device that is placed in the chest to help control abnormal heart rhythms and uses electrical pulses to prompt the heart to beat at a normal rate. “Pacemakers in fact represent a minority of the more than 200 million medical devices implanted in Western Europeans. If you’re not a cyborg, you probably know one” (Adelman, 2017). If a pacemaker is implanted, it is life saving and can increase your life expectancy and the quality of life. In an article published by the Australian Academy of Science the author, Dr. Emily Ridgewell discusses the emergence of mind-controlled bionic limbs. The prosthesis can be integrated with body tissues, including the nervous system. They are able to respond to commands from the central nervous system and therefore to more closely replicate normal movement and functionality, while also instantly triggering the desired movement with less ‘lag time’ (Ridgewell). Although these technologies are currently in research and in the development phase this could be life changing. These bionic limbs could function as a real limb and improve the quality of life for those people. In a similar article published by Science Daily, the author discusses the biotechnology of iPS cells which is a field of regenerative medicine in which body cells are reprogrammed into a pluripotent cell state, from which any organ can be created. If this is made possible it will increase the opportunity of patients in desperate need of an organ to not have to be on the organ transplant list. This regenerative medicine can provide patients who are sick or dying with improved natural health or an extended lifespan. People who have been composed of biotechnology, are enhanced and their life is prolonged. Some of the articles discussed in class covered the future of the bionic body and how bionics enhance the body. The implanting of a pacemaker, bionic limb, and the use of biotechnology to create organs are all things that can enhance the body. All of these authors use their platform to introduce the common theme by creating excitement among the public by focusing on the positive aspects that are possible through the use of cyborgs and biotechnology.

VI. Conclusion

In conclusion, each of these articles focused on a similar theme in terms of the possibilities of technology. These authors, except for the section on techno-panics, all used their platform to focus on the positive aspects of technology to create excitement about their topic to the reader. Whether the author is applying the technology to the medical field or something that is used in our day to day life each author conveys a theme of highlighting the positive and sparking excitement onto their readers. Although the section of techno-panics did not focus on the positives the authors discussed valid points which I believe should be worried about. I think that focusing on the positive aspects of technology is a good thing because people are so skeptical of new technology and their main focus is what can go wrong rather than what can go right. Although, most of the technology I discussed are still in development if they were moved to clinical trials and proved to be successful they would be life changing for so many people. All in all, each of these authors centered their literature around the positive aspects of developing technology swaying the reader to be eager about the future of technology and the endless possibilities to come.

VII. References

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Atala, A. (2011, March). Printing a human kidney. Retrieved December 13, 2019, from https://www.ted.com/talks/anthony_atala_printing_a_human_kidney?language=en.

“Benefits of Self-Driving Vehicles.” Coalition For Future Mobility, Coalition For Future Mobility, coalitionforfuturemobility.com/benefits-of-self- driving-vehicles/.

Chowdhry, A. (2013, October 8). What Can 3D Printing Do? Here Are 6 Creative Examples. Retrieved December 13, 2019, from https://www.forbes.com/sites/amitchowdhry/2013 /10/08/what-can-3d-printing-do-here-are-6-creative-examples/#3075e6ec5491.

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DiSalvo, D. (2018, March 29). Scientists Say They Have Developed A Memory-Restoring Prosthetic For The Human Brain. Retrieved December 13, 2019, from https://www. forbes.com/sites/daviddisalvo/2018/03/29/scientists-say-they-have-developed-a-memory-restoring-prosthetic-for-the-human-brain/#37731a843b74.

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We do it every day, I realized. We are so much stronger than we imagine, and belief is one of the most valiant and long-lived human characteristics. To believe, when all along we humans know that nothing can cure the briefness of this life, that there is no remedy for our basic mortality, that is a form of bravery. To continue believing in yourself, believing in the doctors, believing in thetreatent, believing in whatever I chose to believe in, that was the most important thing. – Lance Armstrong • I came in contact with every known Indian anarchist in London. Their bravery impressed me, but I felt that their zeal was misguided. I felt that violence was no remedy for India’s ills, and that her civilisation required the use of a different and higher weapon for self-protection. – Hind Swaraj – Mahatma Gandhi • I can get no remedy against this consumption of the purse: borrowing only lingers and lingers it out, but the disease is incurable. – William Shakespeare • I did not go to the Supreme Court on behalf of a class of women. I wasn’t pursuing any legal remedy to my unwanted pregnancy. I did not go to the federal courts for relief. I went to Sarah Weddington asking her if she knew how I could obtain an abortion. She and Linda Coffey said they didn’t know where to get one. They lied to me just like I lied to them. Sarah already had an abortion. She knew where to get one. Sarah and Linda were just looking for somebody, anybody, to further their own agenda. I was their willing dupe. For this, I will forever be ashamed. – Norma McCorvey • I don’t know anyone who enjoys going to the hospital. To help remedy this, I got an idea to create what a Laugh Room in the pediatric ward of hospitals. – Joseph Barbera • I know of no safe depository of the ultimate powers of the society but the people themselves; and if we think them not enlightened enough to exercise their control with a wholesome discretion, the remedy is not to take it from them but to inform their discretion. – Thomas Jefferson • I like a good beer. Of course, I’ll drink a bad one too. Let no person thirst for lack of real ale! Thank god for long-necked bottles, the angel’s remedy. – Tom Petty • I mostly want to remind her of the recipes of healing, and give her my own made-on-the spot remedy for the easing of her pain. I tell her, “Get a pen. Stop crying so you can write this down and start working on it tonight.” My remedy is long. But the last item on the list says: “When you wake up and find yourself living someplace where there is nobody you love and trust, no community, it is time to leave town – to pack up and go (you can even go tonight). And where you need to go is any place where there are arms that can hold you, that will not let you go. – Bell Hooks • I object. I object to any killing at all. You know, it’s terrible what happened and I think retaliation definitely makes sense and it’s definitely one option. But, personally, I prefer peace. You know, maybe I’m just being ignorant and shortsighted, you know, it’s true I’m not running the government, I’m not running the United States. I just don’t think that killing people is a good way to remedy people dying. Martin Luther King Jr. said that you can murder a murderer but you can never murder murder itself. – Tre Cool • I speak to people in the languagethey understand. First I have a dialogue, if that is not understood I speak inanother language. There is no remedy for this. – Raj Thackeray • I tell them that if they will occupy themselves with the study of mathematics they will find in it the best remedy against the lusts of the flesh. – Thomas Mann • If feeling anxious about anything Dr Bachs night time rescue remedy is great. Sometimes a bath before bed helps. Burning Lavender or Clary Sage in the room before retiring. Try not to work on my computer very late and then bed straight after. Getting enough exercise definitely helps sleep. – Rachel Ryan • If God causes man to be sick, sickness must be good, and its opposite, health, must be evil, for all that He makes is good and will stand forever. If the transgression of God’s law produces sickness, it is right to be sick; and we cannot if we would, and should not if we could, annul the decrees of wisdom. It is the transgression of a belief of mortal mind, not of a law of matter nor of divine Mind, which causes the belief of sickness. The remedy is Truth, not matter,–the truth that disease is unreal. – Mary Baker Eddy • If I were a physician, and if I were allowed to prescribe just one remedy for all the ills of the modern world, I would prescribe silence. For even if the Word of God were proclaimed in the modern world, how could one hear it with so much noise? Therefore, create silence. – Soren Kierkegaard • If there be time to expose through discussion the falsehood and fallacies, to avert the evil by the processes of education, the remedy to be applied is more speech, not enforced silence. – Louis D. Brandeis • If you are too fond of new remedies, first you will not cure your patients; secondly, you will have no patients to cure. – Astley Cooper • If you have a wounded heart, touch it as little as you would an injured eye. There are only two remedies for the suffering of the soul: hope and patience. – Pythagoras • Ignorance is the evil – knowledge will be the remedy. Knowledge not of what sort of beings we shall be hereafter, or what is beyond the skies, but a knowledge pertaining to terra firma, and we may have all the power, goodness and love that we have been taught belongs to God himself. – Ernestine Rose • I’m hoping that we’re not getting to Second Amendment remedies. I hope the vote will be the cure for the Harry Reid problems. – Sharron Angle • I’m in love! Your advice, what are they? Love has poisoned me! Your remedies, what are they? I hear them shout: “fast, Bind him feet!” But if my heart that has gone mad! Those strings on my feet What is the point? – Rumi • Impeachment is not a remedy for private wrongs; its a method of removing someone whose continued presence in office would cause grave danger to the nation. – Charles Ruff • In a few more days I’d anticipated telling Veronika that our injections had cured her heart condition. But in light of her unscheduled departure form Villette my telling that particular lie will not be required. The majority of people who attempt suicide repeat that attempt until they succeed. I took a risk in lying to her about her condition, i decided to test the only remedy i have come to have any faith in: awareness of life. Until she finds out from some other doctor that she is perfectly healthy. She’ll consider each day a miracle. Which in my view it is. – Paulo Coelho • In a universe suddenly divested of illusion and lights, man feels an alien, a stranger. His exile is without remedy since he is deprived of the memory of a lost home or the hope of a promised land. – Albert Camus • In all of history, we have found just one cure for error—a partial antidote against making and repeating grand, foolish mistakes, a remedy against self-deception. That antidote is criticism. – David Brin • In ART as in Life the Best Way to REMEDY mistakes is to take advantage of them. – Walter Darby Bannard • In every case, the remedy is to take action. Get clear about exactly what it is that you need to learn and exactly what you need to do to learn it. BEING CLEAR KILLS FEAR. Make it thy business to know thyself, which is the most difficult lesson in the world. – Miguel de Cervantes • In existing States a fresh law is looked upon as a remedy for evil. Instead of themselves altering what is bad, people begin by demanding a law to alter it. – Peter Kropotkin • In republican government the legislative authority necessarily predominates. The remedy for this . . . is to divide the legislature into different branches; and to render them by different modes of election, and different principles of action, as little connected with each other as the nature of their common functions, and their common dependence on the society, will admit. – James Madison • In such misfortunes my Mother was of an heroic spirit, in suffering patiently when there was no remedy, and being industrious where she thought she could help. – Margaret Cavendish • Interestingly, God’s remedy for Elijah’s depression was not a refresher course in theology but food and sleep… Before God spoke to him at all, Elijah was fed twice and given a good chance to sleep. Only then, and very gently, did God confront him with his error. This is always God’s way. Having made us as human beings, He respects our humanness and treats us with integrity. That is, He treats us true to the truth of who we are. It is human beings and not God who have made spirituality impractical. – Os Guinness • It is a persistent evil to persecute a man who belongs to the grace of God. It is a calamity without remedy to hate the happy. – Cyprian • It is frightening that in recent years such an increase has occurred in acts of terrorism, which have even reached peaceful countries such as ours. And as a “remedy”, more and more security forces are established to protect the lives of individual men and women. – Alva Myrdal • It seems to me that the least deserving recipients of wealth are inheritors. Further, there are many indications that inheritors often have trouble adjusting to their unearned inheritance. An inheritance tax would de facto help remedy this. – Julian Robertson • It shall be my pleasure to remedy it. First, it is not your strength or your speed that draws me. It’s your…everything. Your laugh, your wit, your emotions and the way they change. Your courage, your sweetness, your near obsessive delight in cookies. Second, you are indeed a prize. You’ve made me want what no one else ever had. A communion of bodies.” -Zacharel to Annabelle – Gena Showalter • It’s good for a country to have a revolution every 20 years. I hope that’s not where we’re going. But, you know, if this Congress keeps going the way it is, people are really looking toward those Second Amendment remedies. – Sharron Angle • It’s not my business to remedy deaths! It’s my business to tell stories. Lyra and the other heroines didn’t come with placards saying, “Make this a feminist story!” I’m glad people enjoy seeing a female protagonist in a big adventure story, but I didn’t do it for political reasons. – Philip Pullman • Keeing busy” is the remedy for all the ills in America. It’s also the means by which the creative impulse is destroyed. – Joyce Carol Oates • Laugh at yourself and at life. Not in the spirit of derision or whining self-pity, but as a remedy, a miracle drug, that will ease your pain, cure your depression, and help you to put in perspective that seemingly terrible defeat… Never take yourself too seriously. – Og Mandino • Learn the fundamentals of the game and stick to them. Band-Aid remedies never last. – Jack Nicklaus • Let us face a pluralistic world in which there are no universal churches, no single remedy for all diseases, no one way to teach or write or sing, no magic diet, no world poets, and no chosen races, but only the wretched and wonderfully diversified human race. – Jacques Barzun • Let’s find and remedy all our weaknesses before our enemies get a chance to say a word. That is what Charles Darwin did. …When Darwin completed the manuscript of his immortal book “The Origin Of Species” he realized that the publication of his revolutionary concept of creation would rock the intellectual and religious worlds. So he became his own critic and spent another 15 years checking his data, challenging his reasoning, and criticizing his conclusions. – Dale Carnegie • Life is thickly sown with thorns. I know no other remedy than to pass rapidly over them. The longer we dwell on our misfortunes the greater is their power to harm us. – Voltaire • Living is a sickness to which sleep provides relief every sixteen hours. It’s a palliative. The remedy is death. – Nicolas Chamfort • Many doctors are drawn to this profession (psychology) because they have an innate deficiency of insight into the motives, feelings and thoughts of others, a deficiency they hope to remedy by ingesting masses of data. – William S. Burroughs • Maturity is a bitter disappointment for which no remedy exists, unless laughter could be said to remedy anything. – Kurt Vonnegut • Medicine is an incoherent assemblage of incoherent ideas, and is, perhaps, of all the physiological Sciences, that which best shows the caprice of the human mind. What did I say! It is not a Science for a methodical mind. It is a shapeless assemblage of inaccurate ideas, of observations often puerile, of deceptive remedies, and of formulae as fantastically conceived as they are tediously arranged. – Marie Francois Xavier Bichat • Men who have flattered themselves into this opinion of their own abilities, look down on all who waste their lives over books, as a race of inferior beings condemned by nature to perpetual pupilage, and fruitlessly endeavouring to remedy their barrenness by incessant cultivation, or succour their feebleness by subsidiary strength. They presume that none would be more industrious than they, if they were not more sensible of deficiences; and readily conclude, that he who places no confidence in his own powers owes his modesty only to his weakness. – Samuel Johnson • Mirth, and even cheerfulness, when employed as remedies in low spirits, are like hot water to a frozen limb. – Benjamin Rush • Moral improvement (or perfecting) require an evolution leading to a higher consciousness, which is the true torch of life; it is what we have failed too much to appreciate, and that which would be fatal to fail to appreciate any longer (“pluslongtemps”, Fr.); For if we do not take it upon ourselves to remedy in time to the moral colapse (or bankruptcy) that already threaten, the whole civilisation will risks to disappear. – African Spir • More than half of all great remedies known to medical history have come from empiricists…’irregulars’…of no or little scientific training. There is no reason to believe that conditions have essentially changed. – Alexis Carrel • Much of your pain is self-chosen. It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self. Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquility: For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen, And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears. – Khalil Gibran • Music can lift us out of depression or move us to tears – it is a remedy, a tonic, orange juice for the ear. – Oliver Sacks • Music can lift us out of depression or move us to tears – it is a remedy, a tonic, orange juice for the ear. But for many of my neurological patients, music is even more – it can provide access, even when no medication can, to movement, to speech, to life. For them, music is not a luxury, but a necessity. – Oliver Sacks • My garden does not whet the appetite; it satisfies it. It does not provoke thirst through heedless indulgence, but slakes it by proffering its natural remedy. Amid such pleasures as these have I grown old. – Epicurus • Neglect of mathematics work injury to all knowledge, since he who is ignorant of it cannot know the other sciences or things of this world. And what is worst, those who are thus ignorant are unable to perceive their own ignorance, and so do not seek a remedy. – Roger Bacon • No sooner met but they looked; no sooner looked but they loved; no sooner loved but they sighed; no sooner sighed but they asked one another the reason; no sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy; and in these degrees have they made a pair of stairs to marriage. – William Shakespeare • Nobody has any right to find life uninteresting or unrewarding who sees within the sphere of his own activity a wrong he can help to remedy, or within himself an evil he can hope to overcome. – Charles William Eliot • Nothing is more despicable than a professional talker who uses his words as a quack uses his remedies – Francois Fenelon • Nutrition is the only remedy that can bring full recovery and can be used with any treatment. Remember, food is our best medicine! – Bernard Jensen

• Odors have a power of persuasion stronger than that of words, appearances, emotions, or will. The persuasive power of an odor cannot be fended off, it enters into us like breath into our lungs, it fills us up, imbues us totally. There is no remedy for it. – Patrick Süskind • Of all the home remedies, a good wife is best. – Kin Hubbard • Of several remedies, the physician should choose the least sensational. – Hippocrates • On any other hypothesis, the delegation of judicial power would annul the authority delegating it; and the concurrence of this department with the others in usurped powers, might subvert forever, and beyond the possible reach of any rightful remedy, the very Constitution which all were instituted to preserve. – James Madison • Once one has seen God, what is the remedy? – Sylvia Plath • One great flaw in the reforming passion is that in its eagerness to remedy social wrongs it tends to neglect, certainly to undervalue, the experience of those whose lives it wishes to improve. – Irving Howe • One of the most beneficial of remedies is persisting in du’a. – Ibn Qayyim Al-Jawziyya • Our remedies oft in ourselves do lie, Which we ascribe to Heaven. – William Shakespeare • Patience is the best remedy for every trouble. – Plautus • Petruchio: Come, come, you wasp; i’ faith, you are too angry. Katherine: If I be waspish, best beware my sting. Petruchio: My remedy is then, to pluck it out. Katherine: Ay, if the fool could find where it lies. Petruchio: Who knows not where a wasp does wear his sting? In his tail. Katherine: In his tongue. Petruchio: Whose tongue? Katherine: Yours, if you talk of tails: and so farewell. Petruchio: What, with my tongue in your tail? Nay, come again, Good Kate; I am a gentleman. – William Shakespeare • Philosophy finds talkativeness a disease very difficult and hard to cure. For its remedy, conversation, requires hearers: but talkative people hear nobody, for they are ever prating. And the first evil this inability to keep silence produces is an inability to listen. – Plutarch • Philosophy, like medicine, has plenty of drugs, few good remedies, and hardly any specific cures. – Nicolas Chamfort • Plant diseases, drought, desolation, despair were recurrent catastrophes during the ages – and the ancient remedies: supplications to supernatural spirits or gods. – Norman Borlaug • Poison is in everything, and no thing is without poison. The dosage makes it either a poison or a remedy. – Paracelsus • Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly and applying the wrong remedies. – Groucho Marx • Preventives of evil are far better than remedies; cheaper and easier of application, and surer in result. – Tryon Edwards • Pride is a deeply rooted ailment of the soul. The penalty is misery; the remedy lies in the sincere, life-long cultivation of humility, which means true self-evaluation and a proper perspective toward past, present and future. – Robert Gordis • Publicity is justly commended as a remedy for social and industrial diseases. – Louis D. Brandeis • Publicity is justly commended as a remedy for social and industrial diseases. Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants; electric light the most efficient policeman. – Louis D. Brandeis • Receive Communion often, very often…there you have the sole remedy, if you want to be cured. Jesus has not put this attraction in your heart for nothing. – Therese of Lisieux • Religion has ever filled the mind of man with darkness, and kept him in ignorance of his real duties and true interests. It is by dispelling the clouds and phantoms of religion, that we shall discover truth, morality and reason. Religion diverts us from the causes of evils, and from these remedies which nature advocates, far from curing; it only aggravates, perpetuates and multiplies them. – Baron d’Holbach • Remedy your deficiencies,and your merits will take care of themselves. – Edward Bulwer-Lytton, 1st Baron Lytton • Revenge is fever in our own blood, to be cured only by letting the blood of another; but the remedy too often produces a relapse, which is remorse–a malady far more dreadful than the first disease, because it is incurable. – Charles Caleb Colton • Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all – the apathy of human beings. – Helen Keller • Science stands, a too competant servant, behind her wrangling underbred masters, holding out resources, devices, and remedies they are too stupid to use. … And on its material side, a modern Utopia must needs present these gifts as taken. – George Herbert • Secession belongs to a different class of remedies. It is to be justified upon the basis that the States are Sovereign. There was a time when none denied it. I hope the time may come again, when a better comprehension of the theory of our Government, and the inalienable rights of the people of the States, will prevent any one from denying that each State is a Sovereign, and thus may reclaim the grants which it has made to any agent whomsoever. – Jefferson Davis • Seek the outstanding mental conflict in the person, give him the remedy that will overcome that conflict and all the hope and encouragement you can, then the virtue within him will, itself do all the rest. – Edward Bach • She had discovered that the best remedy for heartache was trying to make herself useful to others. – Lisa Kleypas • Since long I’ve held silence a remedy for harm. – Aeschylus • Sitting back in the evening, stargazing and stroking your dog, is an infallible remedy. – Ralph Waldo Emerson • Smiling is definitely one of the best beauty remedies. If you have a good sense of humor and a good approach to life, that’s beautiful. – Rashida Jones • Socialism has never and nowhere been at first a working-class movement. It is by no means an obvious remedy for the obvious evil which the interests of that class will necessarily demand. It is a construction of theorists. – Friedrich August von Hayek • Spending some time getting quiet can really be the best remedy for tangled situations. Taking a step back from all the emotion, frustration, and exhaustion to sit quietly with Jesus will do more to untangle a mess than anything else I’ve ever found. – Lysa TerKeurst • Substantial progress toward better things can rarely be taken without developing new evils requiring new remedies. – William Howard Taft • Suicide is not a remedy – James A. Garfield • The atonement of Jesus Christ is the only remedy and rest for my soul. – Martin Van Buren • The best remedy for a bruised heart is not, as so many people think, repose upon a manly bosom. Much more efficacious are honest work, physical activity, and the sudden acquisition of wealth. – Dorothy L. Sayers • The best remedy for a short temper is a long walk. – Joseph Joubert • The best remedy for anger is delay. – Brigham Young • The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be and that God wishes to see people happy, amidst the simple beauty of nature. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, I know that then there will always be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be. And I firmly believe that nature brings solace in all troubles. – Anne Frank • The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be. – Anne Frank • The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside – Anne Frank • The best remedy for what ails me is being with you here under the sun. – Christopher Paolini • The blindness of men is the most dangerous effect of their pride; it seems to nourish and augment it; it deprives them of knowledge of remedies which can solace their miseries and can cure their faults. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld • The fact that I have no remedy for all the sorrows of the world is no reason for my accepting yours. It simply supports the strong probability that yours is a fake. – H. L. Mencken • The flame will cool tomorrow, or the day after tomorrow…. But someone must see this already today, and speak heretically today about tomorrow. Heretics are the only (bitter) remedy against the entropy of human thought. – Yevgeny Zamyatin • The greatest remedy for anger is delay. – Thomas Paine • The heart which grief hath cankered, Hath one unfailing remedy – the Tankard. – Charles Stuart Calverley • The liberal party is a party which believes that, as new conditions an problems arise beyond the power of men and women to meet as individuals, it becomes the duty of the government itself to find new remedies with which to meet them. – Franklin D. Roosevelt • The magnitude of this evil among us is so deeply felt, and so universally acknowledged, that no merit could be greater than that of devising a satisfactory remedy for it. – James Madison • The moment when a man’s head drops off is seldom or never, I am inclined to think, precisely the most agreeable of his life. Nevertheless, like the greater part of our misfortunes, even so serious a contingency brings its remedy and consolation with it, if the sufferer will but make the best, rather than the worst, of the accident which has befallen him. – Nathaniel Hawthorne • The only remedy against hunger is reasonable birth control. – Friedrich Durrenmatt • The possible redemption from the predicament of irreversibility──of being unable to undo what one has done──is the faculty of forgiving. The remedy for unpredictability, for the chaotic uncertainty of the future, is contained in the faculty to make and keep promises. Both faculties depend upon plurality, on the presence and acting of others, for no man can forgive himself and no one can be bound by a promise made only to himself. – Hannah Arendt • The problem with deterrence – apparently sometimes forgotten by our former presidents – is that it is not static, but a creature of the moment, captive to impression, and nursed on action, not talk. It must be maintained hourly and can erode or be lost with a single act of failed nerve, despite all the braggadocio of threatened measures. And, once gone, the remedies needed for its restoration are always more expensive, deadly – and controversial – than would have been its simple maintenance. – Victor Davis Hanson • The real truth is, the number of convicts is too overwhelming for the means of proper and effectual punishment. I despair of any remedy but that which I wish I could hope for – a great reduction in the amount of crime. – Robert Peel • The remedy against want is to moderate your desires. – Saadi • The remedy for life’s broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don’t try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive. – Iyanla Vanzant • The remedy for most marital stress is not in divorce. It is in repentance and forgiveness, in sincere expressions of charity and service. It is not in separation. It is in simple integrity that leads a man and a woman to square up their shoulders and meet their obligations. It is found in the Golden Rule, a time-honored principle that should first and foremost find expression in marriage. – Gordon B. Hinckley • The remedy for thirst? It is the opposite of the one for a dog bite: run always after a dog, he’ll never bite you; drink always before thirst, and it will never overtake you. – Francois Rabelais • The remedy for wrongs is to forget them. – Publilius Syrus • The remedy is worse than the disease. – Francis Bacon • The remedy now is two scotches and an aspirin, I think. – Harry Sinden • The right remedy for the trade cycle is not to be found in abolishing booms and thus keeping us permanently in a semi-slump; but in abolishing slumps and thus keeping us permanently in a quasi-boom. – John Maynard Keynes • The rights of copyright holders need to be protected, but some draconian remedies that have been suggested would create more problems than they would solve. – Patrick Leahy • The spectacle of modern investment markets has sometimes moved me towards the conclusion that to make the purchase of an investment permanent and indissoluble, like marriage, except by reason of death or other grave cause, might be a useful remedy for our contemporary evils. For this would force the investor to direct his mind to the long-term prospects and to those only. – John Maynard Keynes • The standard formulation on remedy is that it ought to cure past violations and prevent their recurrence. That’s what antitrust is all about. – Charles James • The thought that all experience will be lost at the moment of my death makes me feel pain and fear… What a waste, decades spent building up experience, only to throw it all away… We remedy this sadness by working. For example, by writing, painting, or building cities. – Umberto Eco • The true remedy for most evils is none other than liberty, unlimited and complete liberty, liberty in every field of human endeavor. – Gustave de Molinari • The world’s one and only remedy is the cross. – Charles Spurgeon • There are many evils in this country. The only remedy for every one of them is freedom for the nation. – Kalki Krishnamurthy • There are several remedies which will cure love, but there are no infallible ones. – Francois de La Rochefoucauld • There are some remedies worse than disease. – Sara Shepard • There are very few errors and false doctrines of which the beginning may not be traced up to unsound views about the corruption of human nature. Wrong views of the disease will always bring with them wrong views of the remedy. Wrong views of the corruption of human nature will always carry with them wrong views of the grand antidote and cure of that corruption. – J. C. Ryle • There is no evil in the world without a remedy. – Jacopo Sannazaro • There is no remedy for death–or birth–except to hug the spaces in between. Live loud. Live wide. Live tall. – Jim Crace • There is no remedy for love but to love more. – Henry David Thoreau • There is no remedy so easy as books, which if they do not give cheerfulness, at least restore quiet to the most troubled mind. – Mary Wortley Montagu • There is no remedy, but you must either turn or burn. – Joseph Alleine • There is one weakness in people for which there is no remedy. It is the universal weakness of LACK OF AMBITION! – Napoleon Hill • There is remedy for all things except death – Don Quixote De La Mancha – Miguel de Cervantes • Things without all remedy should be without regard: what’s done is done. – William Shakespeare • This paranoid Islam, which blames outsider, ‘infidels’, for all the ills of Muslim societies, and whose proposed remedy is the closing of those societies to the rival project of modernity, is presently the fastest growing version of Islam in the world. – Salman Rushdie • This truth is a remedy against spiritual pride, namely, that none should account himself better before God than others, though perhaps adorned with greater gifts, and endowments. – Johann Arndt • This world is full of remedies. But you have no remedy until God opens a window for you. You may not be aware of that remedy just now. In the hour of need it will be made clear to you. The Prophet said God made a remedy for every pain. – Rumi • Thus the right of nullification meant by Mr. Jefferson is the natural right, which all admit to be a remedy against insupportable oppression. – James Madison • Tidy fees are the most effective remedy, both for the doctor and the patient. – Dario Fo • Time is the greatest remedy for anger. – Seneca the Younger • To be truthful, some writers stop you dead in your tracks by making you see your own work in the most unflattering light. Each of us will meet a different harbinger of personal failure, some innocent genius chosen by us for reasons having to do with what we see as our own inadequacies. The only remedy to this I have found is to read a writer whose work is entirely different from another, though not necessarily more like your own—a difference that will remind you of how many rooms there are in the house of art. – Francine Prose • To cure us of our immoderate love of gain, we should seriously consider how many goods there are that money will not purchase, and these the best; and how many evils there are that money will not remedy, and these the worst. – Charles Caleb Colton • To do nothing is sometimes a good remedy. – Hippocrates • turn and turn and turn again you see the what, but not the when remedy and wrong entwine and so they form a single vine – Suzanne Collins • Until man duplicates a blade of grass, nature can laugh at his so-called scientific knowledge. Remedies from chemicals will never stand in favor compared with the products of nature, the living cell of the plant, the final result of the rays of the sun, the mother of all life. – Thomas A. Edison • Upon this subject, the habits of our whole species fall into three great classes–useful labour, useless labour and idleness. Of these the first only is meritorious; and to it all the products of labour rightfully belong; but the two latter, while they exist, are heavy pensioners upon the first, robbing it of a large portion of it’s just rights. The only remedy for this is to, as far as possible, drive useless labour and idleness out of existence. – Abraham Lincoln • Vegetarianism is not implicitly important for the mental progress or the intellectual development, unless it is supposed to be a remedy to clean the body from slag. A temporary abstinence from meat or animal food is indicated only for very specific magic operations as a sort of preparation, and even then only for a certain period. All this is to be considered with respect to sexual life. – Franz Bardon • War is the remedy that our enemies have chosen, and I say let us give them all they want. – William Tecumseh Sherman • We are warned by the Word both of our duty, our danger, and our remedy. On the sea of life there would be many more wrecks if it were not for the divine storm-signals which give to the watchful a timely warning. The Bible should be our Mentor, our Monitor, our Memento Mori, our Remembrancer, and the Keeper of our Conscience. – Charles Spurgeon • We attach our feelings to the moment when we were hurt, endowing it with immortality. And we let it assault us every time it comes to mind. It travels with us, sleeps with us, hovers over us while we make love, and broods over us while we die. Our hate does not even have the decency to die when those we hate die-for it is a parasite sucking OUR blood, not theirs. There is only one remedy for it. [forgiveness] – Lewis B. Smedes • We grow through investigation, and to investigate we need experience. We tend to repeat what we have not understood. If we are sensitive and intelligent, we need not suffer. Pain is a call for attention and the penalty of carelessness. Intelligent and compassionate action is the only remedy. – Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj • We must often draw the comparison between time and eternity. This is the remedy of all our troubles. How small will the present moment appear when we enter that great ocean. – Elizabeth Ann Seton • We think sometimes that poverty is only being hungry, naked and homeless. The poverty of being unwanted, unloved and uncared for is the greatest poverty. We must start in our own homes to remedy this kind of poverty. – Mother Teresa • We waste the power in impatience which, if, otherwise employed, might remedy the evil. – Robert Aris Willmott • Well used are those cruelties (if it is permitted to speak well of evil) that are carried out in a single stroke, done out of necessity to protect oneself, and are not continued but are instead converted into the greatest possible benefits for the subjects. Badly used are those cruelties which. although being few at the outset, grow with the passing time instead of disappearing. Those who follow the first method can remedy their condition with God and with men; the others cannot possibly survive. – Niccolo Machiavelli • Well, now there’s a remedy for everything except death. – Miguel de Cervantes • Well, there’s a remedy for all things but death, which will be sure to lay us flat one time or other. – Miguel de Cervantes • Were I disposed to consider the comparative merit of each of them [facts or theories in medical practice], I should derive most of the evils of medicine from supposed facts, and ascribe all the remedies which have been uniformly and extensively useful, to such theories as are true. Facts are combined and rendered useful only by means of theories, and the more disposed men are to reason, the more minute and extensive they become in their observations – Benjamin Rush • When a lot of remedies are suggested for a disease, that means it can’t be cured. – Anton Chekhov • When all the world is overcharged with inhabitants, then the last remedy of all is war, which provideth for every man, by victory or death. – Thomas Hobbes • When I was very young and the urge to be someplace else was on me, I was assured by mature people that maturity would cure this itch. When years described me as mature, the remedy prescribed was middle age. In middle age I was assured that greater age would calm my fever and now that I am fifty-eight perhaps senility will do the job. Nothing has worked. I fear the disease is incurable. – John Steinbeck • When remedies are past, the griefs are ended By seeing the worst, which late on hopes depended. To mourn a mischief that is past and gone Is the next way to draw new mischief on. What cannot be preserved when fortune takes, Patience her injury a mockery makes. The robb’d that smiles steals something for the thief; He robs himself that spends a bootless grief. – William Shakespeare • When the patient loves his disease, how unwilling he is to allow a remedy to be applied. – Pierre Corneille • When thought becomes excessively painful, action is the finest remedy. – Salman Rushdie • When you live in the present moment, time stands still. Accept your circumstances and live them. If there is an experience ahead of you, have it! But if worries stand in your way, put them off until tomorrow. Give yourself a day off from worry. You deserve it. Some people live with a low-grade anxiety tugging at their spirit all day long. They go to sleep with it, wake up with it, carry it around at home, in town, to church, and with friends. Here’s a remedy: Take the present moment and find something to laugh at. People who laugh, last. – Barbara Johnson • Whiskey is by far the most popular of all remedies that won’t cure a cold. – Jerry Vale • Whoever wishes to make progress in perfection should use particular diligence in not allowing himself to be led away by his passions, which destroy with one hand the spiritual edifice which is rising by the labors of the other. But to succeed well in this, resistance should be begun while the passions are yet weak; for after they are thoroughly rooted and grown up, there is scarcely any remedy. – St. Vincent • Women’s strong qualities have become despised because of their weakness. The obvious remedy is to create a feminine character with all the strength of Superman plus all the allure of a good and beautiful woman. – William Moulton Marston • Work is a sovereign remedy for all ills, and a man who loves to work will never be unhappy. – Ellen Swallow Richards • You hang around actors, or dancers, the minute you sneeze, everybody has a remedy, and we’re all on a million different kinds of diets, and different kinds of things that we do for exercise. – Anna Deavere Smith • Your Remedy is within you, but you do not sense it. Your Sickness is from you, but you do not perceive it. You Presume you are a small entity, But within you is enfolded the entire universe. You are indeed the evident book, By whose alphabet the hidden becomes the manifest. Therefore, you have no need to look beyond yourself, What you seek is within you, if only you reflect. – Ali ibn Abi Talib • Youth knows no remedy for grief but death. – Winifred Holtby [clickbank-storefront-bestselling]

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How to Recognize and Prevent Lawyer Burnout

Like a spent fire or candle, burned-out people have no more fuel. They cannot continue. A burnout is, as one lawyer described it, a “certified charred hulk.” The problem is serious. “Technology makes it much more likely that we’ll experience burnout,” says Alessandra Wall, a clinical psychologist.

In fact, Paula Davis-Laack, an attorney and burnout expert, believes we live in a culture of disconnection, distraction, and overload that is a perfect breeding ground for burnout. And the law, with its unforgiving culture, long hours, and billable time, presents especially acute risks for burnout.

What Burnout Really Means

“A disease of disengagement.”

The term burnout is used casually and frequently, but a formal definition is surprisingly elusive. Burnout is not an official medical diagnosis. Davis-Laack, who has a master’s degree in positive psychology and frequently works with lawyers, defines burnout as “a disease of disengagement.”

“It’s a chronic process of unplugging and disconnecting from work, friends, family, and health,” said Davis-Laack. “The most important part of this definition is the word ‘chronic.'” Burnout arises slowly, like a frog in a slowly boiling pot who does not realize he is getting cooked.

To a large extent, burnout is the result of a mismatch between demands and resources. Professor Arnold B. Bakker, Ph.D., a prolific burnout researcher, stated:

[B]urnout develops when someone is dealing with a high level of stress but doesn’t have access to adequate resources, such as social support, helpful advice, feedback from friends of colleagues, or control over how they spend their time.

The core symptoms of burnout include:

Fatigue, no matter how much someone rests or sleeps. This is an exhaustion that runs deeper than sleep deprivation, and it cannot be cured by a few days off.

Cynicism about life, or a feeling that nothing a person does really matters. Burned out people are not excited about their work, even major successes in things they once loved, and they feel generally disengaged.

A sense of inefficacy. Burned out people feel like they are exerting significant effort, but are not making any progress or gaining any recognition.

Lack of attention. Inability to control your attention is a key symptom of burnout, says Davis-Laack.

Many people—and their physicians—have a hard time recognizing burnout because its symptoms are not unique to the condition of burnout. Although symptoms can look like a lot of other ailments, Davis-Laack writes that there are clues to watch for. Physical clues can include frequent headaches, digestive issues, difficulty sleeping, and chest pain. Psychological indicators can include panic attacks, anger, irritability, hopelessness, helplessness, and a general loss of enjoyment.

People heading toward burnout may also experience a drop in productivity and an increased desire to be alone. If you suspect you may be developing burnout, Davis-Laack recommends telling your healthcare provider about chronic stress and mentioning burnout specifically.

Our Personalities and Our Profession Put Us at High Risk

Lawyers are at especially high risk for burnout, both because of the job and because of the personality traits we tend to have.

“One of the key causes of burnout is that demands exceed the resources to meet them, and the long and difficult work of practicing law can easily place too many demands on a practitioner.”

Lawyers notoriously work long and stressful hours, which can mean that the demands of the job are intense. One of the key causes of burnout is that demands exceed the resources to meet them, and the long and difficult work of practicing law can easily place too many demands on a practitioner. Our resources and support often fall short.

Our tough-it-out legal culture also creates burnout risks. Very often, lawyers work in environments where the credo is something like “you can sleep after you’re dead” or “work hard, play later.” Combined with pressure to appear tough and invulnerable to both clients—for whom lawyers are often the rock of stability in stressful situations—and colleagues, lawyers often exist in cultures that just don’t tolerate the discussion of burnout or stress.

This kind of culture can prevent lawyers from acknowledging that they are burning out, talking about it, or seeking help, all of which are essential to preventing serious burnout.

“You can sleep after you’re dead.”

One of the key solutions to dealing with a culture like this is to develop high-quality relationships in which it feels safe to discuss burnout, says Davis-Laack. Cultivating relationships with people who won’t deem the stress and burnout a sign of weakness can make a huge difference. Unfortunately, for many lawyers, there might not be any high-quality relationships in the workplace. If that’s the case, seek out non-work relationships.

Solo practitioners may be an especially high-risk group, says Linda Rudnick, a former solo lawyer who experienced burnout. Solo practitioners “lose the camaraderie and synergy” that lawyers practicing in groups have. Solos also tend to do everything from billing, business development, and law themselves, which can be a recipe for a big gap between demands and support.

Psychiatrist Ron Hofeldt, who works with attorneys, has observed that litigators also burn out an especially high rate. Litigation is, of course, inherently confrontational, which can be stressful. Litigators also have little control over their schedules. Vacations and weekends are at the mercy of opposing counsel and the courts, who have no incentive (and potentially a disincentive) to respect much-needed downtime. The combination of lack control over time, confrontation, hours, and high stakes can run people ragged.

Many burnout prevention techniques involve doing less or taking the time to recharge. For a lawyer who survives by billing hours, taking significant time off to recharge can create its own stress. Time not working means taking a revenue hit. Yet taking the time to recharge may be necessary in the long run and will likely improve productivity in the short term.

The impact of the billable hour goes beyond simply crowding out time to exercise and rest. As Scott Turow has written, selling time diminishes the opportunities for lawyers “to pursue the professional experiences that nourish a lawyer’s soul.” Providing free and reduced-cost services can infuse practices with exactly the kind of purpose that can stave off burnout, yet the billable hour erects an imposing obstacle to doing so. There’s simply no easy way to reconcile the billable hour—especially if you work in a place that demands a high minimum number of hours—with preventing burnout.

In addition to the challenges of practicing law, some contend that lawyers tend to have personality traits that make them more prone to burnout. Perhaps the most significant such trait is perfectionism.

Law demands acute attention to detail, and the price for making a mistake can be millions of dollars or a life in prison. Thus, lawyers are served well—at least professionally—by their perfectionism. But this same perfectionism can make them feel like their work is never good enough. This sort of perfectionism is a major risk factor for burnout, said Davis-Laack. Lawyers need to take a close look at their own core beliefs. Do those beliefs include ideas that prevent you from admitting there’s a problem or from seeking help?

Lawyers also tend to score low on resilience: as many as 90% of lawyers score in the bottom half on resilience. People who are low in resilience have a harder time bouncing back from life’s inevitable setbacks and are at high risk for burnout.

How to Prevent Burnout

Although our society and profession seem to foster burnout, there is a lot you can do to protect yourself, and you do not necessarily have to make monumental changes like leaving your job.

Find or Create More Meaning

One of the first things you should do is check whether there is a serious conflict between your values and your work, says Dr. Amiran Elrick, a psychologist who specializes in working with lawyers.

A lack of meaning is one of the key drivers of burnout. You don’t need to be saving the world or fulfilling your life’s purpose with every minute. Rather, Dr. Ron Epstein (PDF) found that doctors who found a mere 20% of their work meaningful burned out significantly less than others, even when the rest of the work was draining.

So, seek meaning in your work. For many lawyers, it’s already there and just needs to be noticed more. Lawyers change lives, so perhaps you can connect with your clients more and focus on how important your work is to them. Remind yourself of the good you do. Not only will this help stave off burnout, but you’ll also probably do a better job, too. One study found that, by putting a patient’s photo in the file, radiologists made 46% more accurate diagnoses.

If you can’t find any meaning, try creating some. You may be able to take on a pro bono case or shift your practice area to serve a cause or group you care about. If that’s not feasible, even mentoring someone or strengthening connections with others at work can help. For some people, even these changes may not be possible. If you cannot find or cultivate meaning in what you are doing, bigger changes may be in order.

Let Go of Perfection

“Perfection is the enemy of good enough.”

Easing up on perfection is critical. Women, in particular, suffer from a need to be perfect at everything — from looks to motherhood to career. And lawyers, Davis-Laack remarks, would be well served to compartmentalize their perfectionist tendencies.

You may need to turn on your skepticism and perfectionism to represent your clients, but perhaps dinner can be frozen pizza, or your house can remain a mess. Recall that old saying “the perfect is the enemy of the good.” Triage your life a bit, and figure out what really must be done nearly perfectly, and when good enough is, well, good enough.

Build Awareness of Your Stress, Your Feelings, and Your Triggers

You can’t solve a problem you do not acknowledge. Learn to recognize the signs that you are being pushed to the edge, whether they are headaches, anger, irritability, or something else. Lawyers tend to be a tough, stoic lot, and we can be very good at playing through the pain. An important part of protecting against burnout, though, is recognizing when it’s coming and when your life has become too much.

Try to identify precisely what is stressing you, especially if there is a chronic mismatch between demands and your resources. Are there activities you can cut? Can you hire someone to help you or delegate something?

Manage Your Energy

Davis-Laack recommends managing your energy, not your time. Humans are not machines; we all need breaks. Studies show that humans cannot really focus for much longer than about 90 minutes. After that, we get inefficient and a bit fried and less effective. So try taking a good, recharging break (like a walk, or listening to music—not checking CNN or personal email!) after 90 minutes. Try to do the tasks that energize you first, when your energy is likely to be high.

Related “How to Increase Focus and Productivity with Mindfulness”

Many of these changes sound simple—and they are—but they are not easy. Taking stock of where things have gone wrong and changing them requires the kind of honest introspection that most of us avoid. Yet if we don’t, we may end up spending a year on the couch watching reruns.

What to Do if You Suspect You Are Burned Out

“[Burnout] tends to hit the best employees …”

If you suspect burnout, you can take the Maslach Burnout Inventory-General Survey. This well-researched survey can give you evidence to share with your healthcare provider. You should also consider obtaining professional help. Tell your doctor that you suspect burnout, and don’t be afraid to use that phrase.

Davis-Laack advises that if you’re seriously burned out, you likely need to make serious changes quickly. You don’t necessarily need to quit your job, but consider new practice areas, taking a sabbatical, finding some work that adds meaning, or finding additional support. Unfortunately, the more severe burnout becomes, the harder it is to cure.

Keep in mind, too, that burnout is not a personal failing. “[Burnout] tends to hit the best employees, those with enthusiasm who accept responsibility readily and whose job is an important part of their identity,” says Ulrich Kraft in Scientific American. And there may be a silver lining. “The good news [about burnout] is that it’s a wonderful motivator,” says Hofeldt.

Burnout is a huge problem. About 70% of American workers feel disengaged, which is a major symptom of burnout, and there’s little reason so suspect lawyers are different. In fact, lawyers may be suffering even more than others: ours is the only profession with an entire industry devoted to helping its members quit. Nobody knows how many lawyers experience burnout, but there’s no doubt it’s too many.

Originally published 2016-09-09. Republished 2019-08-01.

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How to Recognize and Prevent Lawyer Burnout

What Burnout Really Means

“A disease of disengagement.”

To a large extent, burnout is the result of a mismatch between demands and resources. Professor Arnold B. Bakker, Ph.D., a prolific burnout researcher, stated:

The core symptoms of burnout include:

Fatigue, no matter how much someone rests or sleeps. This is an exhaustion that runs deeper than sleep deprivation, and it cannot be cured by a few days off.

A sense of inefficacy. Burned out people feel like they are exerting significant effort, but are not making any progress or gaining any recognition.

Lack of attention. Inability to control your attention is a key symptom of burnout, says Davis-Laack.

Our Personalities and Our Profession Put Us at High Risk

Lawyers are at especially high risk for burnout, both because of the job and because of the personality traits we tend to have.

“One of the key causes of burnout is that demands exceed the resources to meet them, and the long and difficult work of practicing law can easily place too many demands on a practitioner.”

This kind of culture can prevent lawyers from acknowledging that they are burning out, talking about it, or seeking help, all of which are essential to preventing serious burnout.

“You can sleep after you’re dead.”

How to Prevent Burnout

Although our society and profession seem to foster burnout, there is a lot you can do to protect yourself, and you do not necessarily have to make monumental changes like leaving your job.

Find or Create More Meaning

One of the first things you should do is check whether there is a serious conflict between your values and your work, says Dr. Amiran Elrick, a psychologist who specializes in working with lawyers.

Let Go of Perfection

“Perfection is the enemy of good enough.”

Build Awareness of Your Stress, Your Feelings, and Your Triggers

Manage Your Energy

Related “How to Increase Focus and Productivity with Mindfulness”

What to Do if You Suspect You Are Burned Out

“[Burnout] tends to hit the best employees …”

Originally published 2016-09-09. Republished 2019-08-01.

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