#gifted kids

[identitty-dickruption]

hey uh. you guys do know that it’s possible to have been traumatised by being a gifted kid without downplaying the trauma that MANY people experience from being in special ed, right?

in a sense, the traumas shouldn’t be compared, because they are very different traumas. the trauma of being a gifted kid tends to be about a shift in identity and the crushing weight of expectation. whereas, the trauma of being in special ed can include physical abuse, emotional manipulation, etc etc (as we’re seeing in the disability royal commission)

your gifted kid trauma is real. I am not denying that. I really hope you’re able to get the support you need in order to heal in the ways you need to. but you also need to realise that the type of trauma that happens in schools goes much further than you would’ve necessarily been aware of

#neurodivergent #gifted kids #gifted kid burnout #tw abuse

[mikrhsnobara]

Feeling unwanted in your own house by the people that mean the most to you is a different kind of pain.

#academic validation #mental health #burnt out gifted kid #school #tw depressing thoughts #high school #burnout #gifted burn out #burn out #gifted kid syndrome #gifted kids #gifted kid problems #autism spectrum #family #family problems

[the-imitation-blog]

Spencer Reid’s above average intelligence actually set him up from a young age for far more trauma than the average kid.

It’s always the intelligent ones who are expected to be able to figure things out on their own, always the intelligent ones who end up parenting the incapable parents or raising themselves, always the intelligent ones who are overlooked by the majority of adults because they are assumed to not need the same level of support as the kids who don’t have that understanding of the way life is.

This leads these kids to be over achievers to try and get some of the attention they never received by just being a kid, and then when they reach adulthood they’re burnt out from trying so hard to be noticed so they just fade out of friendships, relationships and even job opportunities. They isolate themselves because they have learnt the hard way that the only person who’s ever truly there for you is themselves. And Gideon leaving in almost the exact same way as his father just solidified this.

Yes, Spencer is brilliant and could probably work out almost anything he put his mind to, but sometimes even the brightest most talented people need a little help, a little consistency and some consideration of their feelings and emotions.

We need to stop adult-ifying high intelligence in children and treat all children with the same level of care, boundaries and expectations as the rest. Spencer may be a fictional example of this phenomenon but he’s not some extreme example that never happens in reality, he’s the norm for a lot of smart kids.

#criminal minds #spencer reid #mathew gray gubler #reid criminal minds #parentification #parentified child #intelligent children #overachiever #gifted kids #children #psychology

[rjalker]

It's so fucking annoying hearing people who were put in gifted kid programs now as adults still crying about the fact that they're not better than everyone else.

"the educational system gave me false expectations before ultimately abandoning me to the same heartless world as everyone else"

Yeah you're *literally* mad you're not better than everyone else.

And the fact that these posts literally always ignore the systemic racism, misogyny, ableism and classism that determines who gets into gifted kid programs

And never fucking listen to people who were put in special education!

Your superiority complex does not make you more of a victim than anyone else, especially not when you refuse to acknowledge any of the privileges that let you get assigned "gifted" in the first place.

#racism #ableism #misogyny #classism #white supremacy #special education #gifted kids #spec ed #idfk the tags #actually autistic #actuallyautistic #special ed

[quiet-art-kid]

Snotlout animatic full: top of my school (Finished with music)

#youtube #httyd books #snotlout #snotface snotlout #he is a gifted kid who gets burnout around book 9-11 and that is a hill I will die on #gifted kids #top of my school #anamatic #i had this on my channel for a while but I don’t know if I shared it with you

[toracainz]

You know…I’m so proud of my cousins making sure to feed into their kids’ interests and making sure they’re well stimulated

They’re not even out of elementary and being tested for gifted programs

And yeah we all know about the “gifted kid syndrome”, but honestly seeing all this just makes me wonder how different my life would have been like had I been in the gifted program

So the way that I remember it (and I could be remembering wrong) I was actually “invited” to be tested into/part of the gifted program at my school. Now, I was an easily distracted kid, was slow to get things done, would often have leftover classwork as homework on top of the assigned homework, would constantly forget things, forget to write things down in my assignment book, forget to do things even if it was in my assignment book…so I remember my mom being like “she can hardly get her regular homework done at a decent hour…she’s not going to be able to handle additional homework from the gifted program”, so that path wasn’t pursued further.

Looking back after hearing what people say about ADHD, I’m so convinced I have it. So much of school career fits ADHD (likely the inattentive presentation).

But if I had gotten into the gifted program, I wonder how that would have changed me. If I was properly stimulated growing. If instead of adults getting frustrated, mad, or disappointed that I had forgotten something or didn’t know why I did something…if they had realized that there could be a possibility I was different…where my life would be.

I’m not diagnosed, though I’d like to get evaluated someday. And don’t get me wrong, by all accounts I had a great childhood and I love my parents deeply…but what if?

I hope that when these kids grow up they’re better prepared and more confident in their abilities to face the world than I ever was. That they’re not bogged down because they feel something is wrong with them cause they’re not as “motivated” as the other kids or they’re not on the same “level” as other kids.

What if…?

#personal #mental health #adhd #adhd adult #neurodivergent #STEM #gifted kids #gifted programs #just thinking about things #hopefully one day it’ll make a little more sense

[grungebutsoft]

Round of applause for my brother, 14, a gifted kid, who just learned how to spell his middle name (william)

#gifted kids #neurospicy #everyone my brother #this kid knows how to turn a math homework website into a jpeg of baked beans but not how to spell his name #smh

[cistematicchaos]

The idea of “gifted kids” is so fucked up and needs to be gotten rid of completely. No, it’s not redeemable, it’s not sustainable, it’s ableist and just all over shitty. Fuck that. 

#Gifted kid #Gifted kids #Like seriously #The moment you label kids 'gifted' #you're telling other kids they are NOT gifted #and then putting all this fucked up pressure on 'gifted kids' #to constantly perform to absurd heights #to keep the label #like no #no #fuck that #ableism #chaos is speaking

[idkikdikddontnow]

I really dislike the whole "all late-diagnosed neurodivergent people are former gifted kids who are burned out" sentiment that is going around the internet

there is just so much evidence that your socioeconomic class as well as race are strongly linked to how well you perform at school so like please examine other factors that might have helped you.

i feel like there is also this grudge that kids that were neurodivergent and acted badly or did bad at school, all got their diagnoses and everything was good for them. in reality, they probably they had a very difficult life both at school and at home. they were probably given even less help that these gifted kids. there is a reason why over 30% of British prisoners have some sort of learning disability/difficulty. Paired with the fact that Black-Caribbean men are over represented in the prison system in the UK, would suggest that a significant percentage of Black neurodivergent people are left behind because they are not the "gifted" kid and are in the need of help but due to ableist and racist society they end up in prisons.

quite frankly, I have a hard time that this many people have been "gifted". if your school had an actual special programme for gifted kids go back to point one and think about it. i feel like majority of people who consider themselves as gifted were just slightly better than their peers under the age of 15 which is quite frankly embarassing like if you are over the age of 16, stop crying that adults are no longer clapping and cheering because you are slighlty better than your peers.

idk this whole thing reeks of aspie supremacy - also the word neurodivergent means nothing most of you are talking about being autistic/having adhd

(i might delete in the morning)

#gifted kids #neurodivergent

[a-strangers-thoughtss]

Me getting extremely hyper obsessed with things, having extreme sensory issues as a child (and even now), being very over emotional, always asking questions, being unable to sit still and learn for long periods of time unless I’m hyper focused, being basically obsessed with learning, having a majority of my closest friends be neurodivergent, and basically completely unable to deal with change:

I’m totally neurotypical wdym

#byler #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #gifted kids #gifted kid burnout

[mikrhsnobara]

I want just once to be someone’s first choice.

Not only choice. But first choice. I want them to choose me among everyone else and I want them to do so without a ulterior motive.

Just choose me because even if you can without me you prefer being with me.

#mental health #academic validation #burnt out gifted kid #school #academicism #tw depressing thoughts #burnout #dark academia #gifted burn out #gifted kid syndrome #gifted kids #autism spectrum #not being enough #being loved

[rjalker]

For those who do not live in the United States or where otherwise not aware, gifted kid in the United States is a very specific term for kids put in specially funded programs within schools that choose the smartest kids in the grades and give them special classes where they get advanced resources expensive materials go on all sorts of special field trips and all of shit like this.

People who are white and male are more likely to be put in these specially funded programs. And I don't think I should have to explain why in 2023.

Special education on the other hand is for the kids deemed "too stupid" to be in regular classes. Aka: the fucking obviously disabled kids. If you get in trouble with the teachers in special ed you don't get sent to the principal's office or get detention, you get locked in a room by yourself for the rest of the day or the teacher can just straight up call the cops, and you, sobbing five year old, will be shoved into handcuffs and dragged outside.

And all of these things become exponentially worse if you're not white!

#ableism #racism #misogyny #special education #spec ed #special ed #gifted kids #made with speech to text

[saentorine]

Yes, your Honor, I am here to submit my request that Giftedness henceforth be referred to as Autism But The Good* Parts. *Disclaimer: "Good" here refers only to being able to pass standardized tests, having no speech deficits, and being reasonably compliant in behavior and does NOT preclude anxiety, executive dysfunction, ADHD, sensory issues, hypersensitivity, depression, emotional dysregulation, burnout, social isolation and ostracization, being bullied, etc. Because you're ~smart so you'll be ~fine, eh?

#giftedness #gifted kids #former gifted kids #autism #autism spectrum #and shout out to the like three of you in the gifted program who aren't autistic but just had tiger parents #and another shout out to those of us who had both lol #thank god they actually give autism diagnoses to gifted kids now it used to be one or the other #neurodivergent #neurospicy

[steamcrew]

gifted kids is absolutely hilarious when you stop to think about it but its also supposed to be a coming of age so like its fine its not emotional at all (lying)

#we planned out the ending last night (ark and i) and GAHHH #epitaph speaks #gifted kids

[staringdownabarrel]

do they even have gifted kids programs in Australia?

Yeah. It's mostly a thing in primary schools, though. A lot of the time they'll call it the gifted and talented program for kids in Years 5 and 6. Before that, there's also sometimes advanced spelling tracks for kids in the early primary school years. Nominally, it's for kids who are maybe a little better in class than the other kids.

Usually what happens here when it comes to Australian former "gifted kids" is they were in a lot of the top classes in high school. In the moment, it tends to get sold to you as a "Hey, you're really smart so you get to go to the A class" thing, but in reality, it's more complicated than that. Intelligence is definitely a factor, but usually there's only maybe five or six actually gifted kids in the A class and then twenty-five or so average or slightly above average kids.

They tend to crowd the top classes with as many kids as they legally can because that tends to be what makes the school look better. It's a thing they do so they can point to it and say, "Look at how well the kids here are doing. The A and B classes are almost overflowing."

Because of that, actually getting into them is one part intelligence and then one part compliance. Having thirty kids in a classroom is really only viable if the majority of them won't cause a scene in class most days. So if you're a middle-of-the-road kid who shows up most days, hands in their homework when it's due, and usually complies with what the teacher tells you to do, you have a better than average chance of ending up in the A or B class. In some cases, they didn't even really have to do that much homework or classwork--they just had to be quiet in class most days.

The other thing is that Australian high school classes tend to be designed in such a way that most people will be able to pass them so long as they show up most days and follow the teacher's instructions. To some extent, it does have to be that way because society as it exists right now increasingly requires that you'll at least have finished high school even if you have no tertiary education. This isn't to say that there's no room for reform because a lot of education reform is needed, but this is the assumption in today's society.

I think a lot of the time, at least here in Australia, a lot of former "gifted kids" never get around to asking themselves if they're actually gifted or if they were mostly just compliant. They just let their self esteem coast on this inflated sense of their intelligence and then never really adjusted to the culture shock of being in TAFE or university and being around all these people who really are gifted. I think it's also culture shock at realising that they're suddenly in a setting that doesn't require them to succeed in the same way high school does for some.

Anyway, this is probably a much longer response than you were hoping for, so I'll stop now.

#education #gifted kids

[theinvisibleforce]

If owls are a symbol of wisdom who are actually fucking dumb asses, that means they are the gifted kids of nature. I will not take criticism.

#owls #animals #gifted kid syndrome #gifted kids