#fj negativity

[evilhasnever]

gonna be honest for a second fam, I think FJ is the biggest disappointment I’ve experienced from a piece of media since the ending of how I met your mother

#I was like yay movie spin-off!! And then I got that OOC drivel that makes jgy very cruel and very stupid… #never forgive never forget #Song of turmoil spells out the death character in the air if you squint apparently #Literally unbelievable #FJ negativity #shhh shiome #I love Nie zhongui tho he is actually a nice Nie for once

[xiyao-feels]

Thinking about Fatal Journey again... man I hate that movie so much. Right now I'm remembering the way they make the anger curse more sympathetic by making NMJ hallucinate that his men are energy targets. The only time he hallucinates because of the sabre curse in canon is right at the end, just before he dies, when he hallucinates that everyone is JGY...and specifically the JGY he's trying to kill right then and there. (For the crime of being upset to LXC that NMJ called him the son of a prostitute on the stairs, no less. Ugh.)

Like, lol, the way it would actually work is him getting way angrier at his men, directly. Maybe even attacking them! Probably for something that is objectively nowhere near that big of a deal. But that's waaaaay harder to depict sympathetically and not make it very clear what kind of danger NMJ is to the people around him, so!

#hisses furiously #fj negativity #I REALLY hate this movie

[fencesandfrogs]

i'm thinking abt a post for earlier n i neglected to specify that i don't talk about my brain i talk about my child brain (or more commonly my baby brain bc lil baby matthew was a young kid trying to survive n i like to emphasize that).

idk it feels meaningful to me. baby brain didn't see any other way to cope. now i'm stuck w it.

#mine #aldsk;fj;kj #joke here i can't relate for privacy reasons just know it's a funny one #disorderposting #nyway #usually i'm pretty lighthearted about the disorder(tm) #easier that way than to spend too long on the negatives

[mbti-notes]

hey, enfj here.

In your Fe vs Fi article, you wrote that FJs were more likely to ruminate because they were trying to make sense of their feelings rather than just accepting them and let them be. And well, as an FJs i’m having a hard time to understand what does it mean. Does it mean that i shouldn’t spend time trying to identify why i feel the way i do, but just accept that i feel like that, and move on/work on what can I do to feel better (if it’s a bad feeling) ?

Sometimes i do spend hours, and even days trying to figure out why do i feel bad, but it’s like i never find the proper answer and i feel paralyzed, as if without the answer i couldn’t do anything to feel better.

You're on the right track. Oftentimes, the desire to find the "cause" of emotions is a subtle way of blaming. Blame is counter-productive to recovery because it requires you to stay stuck in a negative state of mind. One of the most important lessons to learn when it comes to improving emotional intelligence is that a person can't start processing difficult experiences properly until they take full responsibility for having generated their feelings and emotions. Blaming someone/something for "making" you feel bad means you aren't owning up and then your emotional life is always at the mercy of outside forces, beyond your control. This is already covered in the EI articles, please read.

#enfj #emotional intelligence #blame #ask

[funkymbtifiction]

Do you think Fe or Fi is more inclined to be a social chameleon, as in changing who they are depending on who is around?

It's more of a Fe trait than a Fi trait, but also largely depends on whether the person is from the attachment triad (3/6/9). I've seen 3s mirror other people and become different around various groups and in different environments as they seek what's desired; I've seen 9s self-censor to keep the peace; as a 6, I trim what I know won't be acceptable in this group to fly under the radar, but it doesn't change who I am, it just makes me quieter.

Also in regards to being a social chameleon, do you think Fe can be negative or more lively depending on who they’re with? Like to give an example, if they were with someone who they didn’t like, they would act less cheery and more bitter towards them compared to when if they were around someone they liked. Is that an example of Fe or Fi?

High Fe is usually aware of how they are coming across to other people, and would be more inclined to be fake" to that person they dislike in order to avoid disrupting the entire group -- the alternative being when the Fe chooses to leave someone out to make a public statement. EFJs in particular are aware of how things look to other people, so they know freezing someone out is going to cause others to take notice. For example, Molly Weasley (ESFJ) punishing Hermione for what she read in Rita Skeeter's newspaper by sending her an Easter chocolate (the "proper" thing to do) but by making sure it's much smaller than Harry and Ron's (chastising her -- she still makes the Fe gesture, but it's intended to make Hermione know she's mad at her). Or Emma saying, "I hate Mrs. Elton, so I must throw a party for her, or everyone will see at once how much I dislike her!" FJ can be not genuine toward people they dislike out of appearance's sake. A Fi has more of an internal struggle with this, it goes against "how I feel" to be nice to someone I hate, and they won't be able to conceal their contempt or dislike nearly as well -- they are more likely to go quiet with disapproval or not want to attend the gathering. They are often more upfront with their dislike, but also ruder about it.

Because I’ve heard Fi being known to be more themselves regardless of the situation, but I’ve also seen Fe users kinda also adapt themselves in the situation. Idk if that makes sense.

This is true. It doesn't mean Fi's do not want acceptance or to be considerate, but they suppress themselves out of a me-focused thought method (I want to stay friends with this person, so I won't bring this up because it would offend them) rather than automatically adjusting themselves to what others need for the sake of group harmony ("when in Rome, do as the Romans do").

#question #mbti

[bookworm-blackcatmagic]

Hi there Tumblr! I've never posted before but I've never seen anything solid on INSJ x INFJ relationships anywhere so here goes!

(Based off of my ISTJ bf and I, an ISFJ)

First, ISTJ:

- TJ helps FJ develop healthy coping mechanisms to cope with the stress of being the therapist/mom friend

-TJ is the voice of reason, of rationality when FJ gets overwhelmed by negative thoughts/feelings

- TJ's work ethic/dedication inspires FJ to put in the effort to be successful/reach their goal

-TJ prefers consistency and predictibility, which is something FJ needs to function properly

And ISFJ:

- FJ helps TJ learn how to live in the moment more, rather than focusing solely on the future

-FJ helps TJ genuinely connect with people, and makes them see the value in maintaining relationships (platonic/romantic)

- With FJ's guidance and support, TJ gets into touch with his emotions. FJ aids TJ in learning how to properly express them. FJ is understanding when TJ struggles with this.

Both FJ and TJ are observant and intellectual individuals. However, they have different perspectives of the world. TJ views the world in a way that stresses the importance of why something works the way it does and how to improve it and increase its value. Whereas TJ views how it works as well but goes one step further into the emotional aspect to seek understanding.

Thus, they can hold deep, insightful discussions about the world around them and the people in it. They share a strong connection, and their ability to communicate goes beyond the need for words.

Feel free to add more!

#mbti types #mbti #istj #isfj #mbti personality types

[kissingagrumpygiant]

Hello I'd like to submit an application for a job at the cr salt mine

sh@dogast exists purely as fanservice for the rabid "liam owes us a gay purple romance!!" fans, fj*rester have zero chemistry and negative impact on the others' character growth and are just travis and laura making out in green and blue facepaint, and the final arc/finale shot caleb and jester's character arcs and growth point blank and left them for dead in an alley. widojest was the deepest and most profound relationship and it was entirely ignored by both the fandom and the rest of the cast. cr is no longer a home game but an actual company that thrives off of the parasocial bonds its created with its fanbase, and as a storytelling medium it often fails spectacularly, with its only saving grace being the character dynamics which are too often suffocated by the wait between games, the too-long runtime and matt's determination that the world and plot move forward with or without them.

watch d20 instead.

add me to that body list in the alley bc holy shit yeah spot on

#THANK you for coming down to the salt mine #ask #not-switzerland #cr disk horse

[fivenightsatfreddysfanfiction]

what differentiates a positive and negative spirit/soul/bond, and how is it possible to change? ex. digi going from negative to positive ghost, or faith going from positive to negative bond in FJ (throwback)? is it intention?

Yeah, it's intention. There's a kind of scale for the energy spirits and their connections can have and it slides back and forth based on their intention and alignments. Some ghosts have an easier time staying positive because they're naturally inclined to lean towards benevolent actions and intentions. Some are easier to lean negative because of trauma or personal flaws dominating their thoughts or genuinely malicious intent.

The 4 ghost children in the pizzeria are negative aligned because of the trauma of their deaths and their anger towards the injustice of it all and their constant attacking of the night watch. Digi is neutral-positive aligned, neutral in that he doesn't go out of his way to affect anyone if he can help it but slides positive when it comes to looking after Meera and her friends, even if he is unsure of those friends. He had been negative aligned before Master File messed with his files and left him neutral while he tried to regain his sense of identity.

Changes in a spirit's perspective of themselves and the world, their emotional states, their intentions towards other spirits and the living people, all of these factor into the scale of energy and can change their alignments.

#the writer rambles

[hexusproductions]

Hush Weaver fun facts

Hush Weaver is VERY talented at silk acrobatics, it’s her main sort of recreational activity when she has access to it. It’s a practice she’s kept up since she was young, and Goldspindle (the laboratory she escaped from) always keeps the equipment set up in her holding cell during the brief periods they’re able to recapture her

Hush owns a hearse! It’s one of the first things she bought with her own money

She talks in rhyme! There’s not really a reason why it started, she just thinks it’s fun, and sometimes it annoys people (I, also, just think it’s really fun when a character talks in rhyme)

Hush doesn’t mind being sent back to a cell for a bit. She doesn’t enjoy it, and there’s a reason she left Goldspindle in the first place, but she always sees it as a very temporary rest stop.

Despite what you might believe, Hush and Fester Jester actually wouldn’t get along well. Hush would get frustrated since she can’t feed off of FJ (being undead), and FJ wouldn’t dislike Hush necessarily, but she would be far too interested in Hush’s skills as an acrobat and contortionist. There’d just be too much manipulation on both sides to be compatible.

Hush Weaver is a psychic vampire; she feeds off of (usually negative) emotion, but she can also exert limited control over other people’s emotions or sleep. To influence other people they need to have direct contact with either Hush herself, or something she’s touched.

Her claw weapons are intimidating, but they don’t really have heaps of range, so she’ll usually channel some of her powers into an object that isn’t nailed down and throw that. It’s still limited though, she can hit you with a rock full of “Get Angry” juice, but it can’t also make you fall asleep. Unless the rock hits you hard enough.

Finally, we’ve got a little mock-up of her appearance, thanks to this Picrew:

#Hush Weaver #OC #okay to reblog #I thought I had posted this ages ago but apparently not #my bad!

[archduchessofnowhere]

You might've already gotten a question like this, but is there an estimation on how many people died during the wedding of Elisabeth and Franz?

Hello! No, I hadn't gotten a question like this before. I suposse this question was prompted by The Empress, were it is depicted that after the wedding the masses that had gone to watch their new empress at the entrance of the Augustian Church were repressed to death by the guards. This was solely a dramatic scene to shock the audience, because no disturbances occured that day, at least none that made it to the news. The Sun London reported about the wedding on 29 April 1854:

The greatest possible enthusiasm was manifested by all classes of the public. Amidst the busy preparations for, and the general agitation and bustle consequent upon, these festivities, the political news of the day is comparatively neglected, and it is difficult to find even professional politicians disposed to converse on any subject not immediately connected with the Imperial marriage, and the general rejoicings occasioned thereby.

During this time there was a lot of stress over whether Austria was going to join the Crimean War in alliance with Russia; that's what it's talking about when it mentions the "political news of the day". British newspapers were critical of Austrian politicies during this time, I found more than one news article that lowkey threw shade at FJ, so if the Viennese people had been beated to death during the emperor's wedding then they woud have definitely reported it.

In general the mood was very positive during the wedding celebrations, mainly because over two hundred political prisoners were pardoned, and a hundred had their sentences reduced to half, also a general amnesty “for all crimes of lese majeste and offenses against the public order” and the “treasonable activities” of 1848 in Galicia and Lemberg was proclaimed, and the state of siege was lifted in Hungary, Lombardy and Venetia. AND on top of that the emperor gifted 200,000 guldens to be distributed between the poor of Bohemia, Moravia, Silesia, Galicia, Tyrol, Croatia, Dalmatia and Vienna (1986, Hamann). So people were feeling optimistic because they hoped that this was the beginning of the end of the repressive counter revolutionary policies, and that their new empress would interced in their favor.

In her biography of Elisabeth, Brigitte Hamann also quotes the report of the Belgian envoy, who wrote that “In a city where not long ago the revolutionary spirit wrought so much devastation, it was not an idle act to unfold the entire splendor of the monarchy.” And she also quotes another eyewitness, Baron Karl Kiibeck, who wrote in his diary on April 24, “On the podium and among the spectators, jubilation and expectant joy. Behind the scenes, increasingly somber, very somber signs.” But this were the only negative comments I could find.

So to answer, as far as we know, it's safe to say that no one died, and that this was a peaceful and cheerful day for the people of Vienna, if only because people hoped that the opression they were suffering was finally over.

#empress elisabeth of austria #franz josef i of austria #the sun london #historian: brigitte hamann #the reluctant empress #asks

[stomp-that-ho-regard]

I saw you got another ask that said “truly wild the bj shippers were in the minority”. The thing is we weren’t though. A lot of people in the beginning, at bare minimum, multishipped and thought BJ was cute but none of us thought it would happen because of Laura and Travis being married and her being deadset on seducing him. I think we were all pretty much going along knowing it’d probably be cute and fanon forever even if it was the superior best friends to lovers dynamic.

Even then though, I remember reblogging a joke post about Beaujester shippers casually going along with like hurricane Laura trying to pursue her husband coming straight for us and it had like 5k notes. Which is not insignificant for a niche nerd fandom that is only really mainstream on Tumblr?

Like we were about as populous as BY shippers and definitely more so than the FJs before the crush reveal happened, like Widojest was too. We talk a lot about how if we don’t necessarily like that ship, Caleb respects Jester more as an adult with her own complexity than Fjord.

And when the crush reveal happened we were without a doubt, the most popular ship in fandom. We had the most posts, the most fanart, the most fanfics on AO3. It just doesn’t feel that way because the cast intentionally left us out of fanart of the week, cosplay of the week, questions they asked on Talks Machina.

We’ll never know what happened behind the scenes during the hiatus. There’s so many things, the fact that they wanted to end the campaign, the whole Ashley revealing that Pike had been into Percy, Ashley and Travis saying they wanted to play out romance for the first time (lmao painfully obviously). But the cast was really successful in trying to make us forget that BJ and it’s popularity were ever real. And I think probably part of what happened is they put that pressure on Laura and Marisha too. 

I will say, Marisha never seems as happy talking about BY as she was about BJ early in the game. Like her tweet after the Kamordah ep where she acknowledged Jester saved Beau with the little 💗 

The little smile from her Talks discussion about how her feelings for Jester are more. I feel like maybe Laura was okay going along with FJ because at one point she was savagely pursuing it and it was Travis and it was kind of wrapped up with the oneshot nod to little Ronin. I tend to think Marisha lost out like the rest of us.

Yeah, you’re actually right about Beaujester’s popularity. Looking back through fanart and meta posts, likes on twitter, a lot of them had thousands of reblogs and thousands of likes. So yeah, for a handful of months at least, they were pretty damn popular. 

Unfortunately for us, Covid hit. And it was bad for us in two ways: 1) Because the break had a negative effect on the way the cast approached the story and 2) Because of quarantine, there were a lot of people bored at home who stumbled across CR, and a majority of them jumped on the BY train.

So, when you combine the cast already ignoring us, in relatively small but completely unsubtle ways before hiatus, with the deluge of newbies (some already anticipating BY going into the show)... we got drowned out.

Maybe Marisha lost out too. But she sure did handle it like shit, which is why I have no sympathy. If she actually still gave a shit about the thread that she started, she would have handled it with some kind of care, instead of the completely tactless statements we got in ep108.

Deep down I knew that that was their official way of ‘addressing’ the situation so they could move past it asap, and that was as far as it was ever gonna go. Despite other people in the fandom (including some other BJ shippers) telling the rest of us that we shouldn’t worry/freak out because “it’ll definitely be brought up again" and stuff like “she downplayed her feelings because she was talking to Fjord.” 

What a joke lol

#op #ask

[frontproofmedia]

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Published: March 02, 2024

SAN JUAN, PUERTO RICO - Jake Paul (9-1, 6 KOs) will likely continue to be divisive as long as he stays in the public eye, no matter what he does. However, if anyone was expecting him to be booed in front of his adopted home in Puerto Rico, they were mistaken.

At the Jose Miguel Agrelot Coliseum, Paul continued his mission for boxing legitimacy by taking on another pure boxer, North Dakota’s Ryan Bourland (17-3, 6 KOs). Paul quickly dispatched his opponent in the first round. The social media star landed a perfect right hand to the body after throwing a pair of jabs that sent his opponent into a tailspin.

Paul pounced on his opponent, unloading a salvo of unanswered blows that punished Bourland into submission. After dropping Bourland to his knees after an accumulation of punches, the referee stopped the fight, awarding Paul a first-round technical knockout. The fight ended at the 2:37 mark of the first round.

Much can be stated about Paul’s level of competition, but as long as he stays active while improving, the attention he brings to the sport outweighs any perceived negativity.

Paul, who is now using the new moniker “El Gallo de Dorado,” got a big and positive reaction in Puerto Rico, which could lead to more of his fights taking place on the island. The goal for Paul is to head into a world championship bout while increasing his level of opposition.

After the match, Paul called out the current undisputed super middleweight champion, Saul “Canelo” Alvarez, for a fight. However, that fight is likely still years away as Alvarez gets older and Paul continues to improve.

A fighter like Paul, whose fights transcend into the mainstream, has several avenues he can head into. Whether he ventures into a pure money fight by taking on a former Mixed Martial Arts legend as he has in the past or fights another boxer is yet to be determined.

(Featured Photo: Alex Menedez/Getty Images)

#HF #Jake Paul #Ryan Bourland #Most Valuable Promotions #DAZN #Puerto Rico

[xiyao-feels]

What do you think of NHS?

Oh I loathe him. Basically everyone else I might dislike them but I appreciate their character—I'm actually much fonder of NMJ than I suspect I come across, for example. But I have a stronger negative emotional reaction to NHS even than I do to, like, WRH or JGS. Probably in part because he actually gets away with everything, and also probably in part due to the way fandom constantly rewrites him as a fucking moral hero.

To be clear my problem isn't that he sought revenge on JGY; I do think JGY was justified in killing NMJ, but he was still NHS' older brother, and theirs is a very revenge-focused society, I get it. It's the way he seeks revenge and the kind of revenge he seeks. If he'd just killed JGY—I'd be sad about it, but I wouldn't hate him. But the way he carries it out—trying to destroy everything JGY ever cared about, tearing down his every legacy, careless and frankly actively encouraging the collateral damage—which when you take into account the watchtowers becomes enormous—ugh I just. I really hate him. To the extent that I mostly try not to do too much analysis that focuses on him heavily, because he's the fucking worst and I can't be generous to him the same way I can e.g. NMJ.

(I'll take a moment to observe that while JGY killed NMJ, he guarded and maintained and kept safe his legacy and the things he cared about.)

This is all also one reason I loathe FJ so much; while I acknowledge anyone's right to take it into their canon if they want to, it has absolutely nothing to do with the actual characters in question (even the CQL versions!), it completely ignores the actual moral questions and complications of actual canon, it's frankly bullshit effectively Nie propaganda that got everywhere because it's internally emotionally compelling about the Nie brothers even if it's not about the characters elsewhere known as NMJ and NHS, and who cares about total butchery of the actual characters if it means you can divide them up into good guys and bad guys, am I right. NHS' role I at least can acknowledge was important to the story; FJ I just wish had never been made.

[tamaradoubraomonibeke]

Type Workshop - Legibility and Gestalt (LO1)

Legibility Talk 1 (How to obtain it using features/measurements of typography)

Glyph x-height (height) - A larger x-height (typically) means it’s a legible typeface. (Bigger so it’s easier to read) but if it’s too big, you loose the distinction between the ascender and cap-height. (Ascender and descender needs to be same).

Glyph cap height (top) and Glyph descender height (below the baseline) needs to be the similar measurement for legibility.

Typefaces with an appropriate contrast between cap height, the ascenders, and descenders with the x-height will have greater legibility.

Glyph width - Needs to be balanced. A balanced width that best showcases the recognisable shape of the letterforms will have higher legibility.

Glyph weight - A balanced weight that doesn’t distort the recognisable details of the letterforms will have greater legibility.

Glyph design traits - Individual aesthetic traits of the typeface will either define or distract from the acuity of the letterform. (You can customise type but old type is more distinct)

Glyph stress - The stress of the strokes is a reflection of the device used to craft them. The higher the contrast, the less legible the typeface.

Glyph counters and Glyph apertures - Open counters and apertures will create more defined legibility the letterforms.

Workshop 1

The task was to draw the type and label the features with a given guide. I didn’t finish labelling but learnt new things like the loop is part of a G. Thus, it was very enlightening.

Legibility Talk 2 (Continuation)

Cap height and x height are the same for readable type.

Apex is the tall pointed part of an A. W sometimes have an apex.

1 and 3% is calculated for the overshoot and overhang.

All curved forms have overshoot and overhang.

For d, the counter sits on the overhang and the leg on the overshoot.

Thinner strokes don’t line up than thicker strokes in type.

Everything appears to sit on a line, even if it doesn’t. Everything appears aligned, even if it isn’t.

Every typeface is designed to the same lines, even if the lines aren’t the same.

Workshop 2

The task was to line up the anchor points to match with the typeface. I found it difficult at first( I use Illustrator a lot so I was disappointed in myself) as I don’t focus on type and their names. Eventually, I got better but didn’t finish as I prefer to take my times with things. I discovered the solution was aligning the strokes to be in a similar proportion.

Legibility Talk 3 (Latin ligatures)

Examples of Latin ligatures are fi and fj.

The ampersand is the oldest ligature born from the French (&)

Discretionary Ligatures (shown in Indesign feature) It’s to reduce the negative space in the typeface.

Workshop 3

The task was to produce a ligature using our monograms as reference. I found difficulty with the T and O but worked with what I had and achieved the above ligature.

Gestalt Talk and Theorem

Negative space (White space) - gives relationship between objects.

Empty space - no relationship

When seeing a complex arrangement of elements we tend to look for a single recognisable pattern.

Building a cohesive relationship between the content on the page.

Closure = Control Meaning

12 is the best for creating a magazine layout because you can breakdown stuff.

Closure = Control Meaning Grids = Control Proportion

Closure = Where in this space do I put a thing. Grids = What size should the thing be.

This gives us objectively rational answers to questions regarding position and size.

Free our minds to seek the more interesting question of how can I creatively utilise this space.

Consistent in grids. Use mathematical 12 grids so the relationship can be the same.

Bend over rules for display text.

If someone give you copy, craft it a visually appealing way.

Page furniture (after the bleed for navigation such as page numbers)

Develop your design taste.

Make pull quote and caption

Workshop 3

The task was to use the Gestalt theory, closure in creating spreads. I struggled but ended up making a few and learnt it's best to have a rationale for my design choices rather than how aesthetically pleasing they appear.

#visual communication #learning #typography

[mbti-notes]

Anon wrote: Hello again. I am always grateful for your responses and your knowledge. I have this topic which I want to discuss.

I realized that when making judgements and critiques I am often objective. I look from all aspects and give an objective judgement which often comes as vague. I don’t have personal internalized values and morals; I often take and adapt external moral judgments rather from my own.

In many situations I can’t decide what is right and wrong, for example with people’s behavior, I see what is supposed to be accepted and judge it that way. I ask people what would they do in certain situations, for example if someone just came and slapped you out of nowhere, and what would their reaction be and try to see what is the right response (to slap back, to get angry, to ask, to stay silent). I see the world too objectively that it may seem a bit apathetic.

I don’t know if this is a result of low self esteem where I see that my opinions don’t matter (although I really don’t have an opinion and I have no idea what I should be thinking), or a projection of fe function (I am an INFJ), or something else.

Just to add that I am not distressed by the fact that I don’t know what is right and what is wrong, I just go by certain ‘universal’ principles, which that I concretely can make judgments of (and are somewhat general). Its just that I am confused why I am like this.

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There's nothing wrong with being objective per se, in fact, it is often a good thing to be more objective when making decisions. It only becomes a problem when it's actually motivated by some unhealthy psychological issue that you're not fully aware of, which means the objectivity isn't genuine.

There are two main factors to consider, which may work separately or interact with each other:

1) Ego Development: An important stage of healthy ego development is the formation of a personal identity, which includes possessing your own beliefs, values, and ideals, among other things. Having a strong personal identity necessitates self-respect, self-expression, and asserting individuality. There are a variety of reasons why people do not get through this stage of ego development. These people generally suffer the ill-effects of having a weak sense of self. If you believe objectivity requires you to be fair and take every viewpoint into account, then why isn't yours included? For a human being to not have a viewpoint means that they are not fully exercising their intellectual faculties and not properly honoring their own personal needs/preferences, which essentially results in them being "empty" and completely vulnerable to manipulation or exploitation. This is obviously not a good way to be.

2) Fe Development: Overindulgence of auxiliary Fe is characterized by overdependence on outside/objective sources when making value judgments. Value judgments include moral judgments. Usually, the underlying reason for the overdependence is a fear of taking full personal responsibility. If you hold strong personal beliefs and values, especially of the moral variety, you will feel compelled to stand up and stand out in order to defend them. Do you dare live your life constantly getting in other people's faces? Many FJs fear expressing their individuality fully because it would make them vulnerable to conflict, criticism, social reprisals, or being judged negatively as self-centered or selfish. It's easier to hide behind the mask of so-called impersonal "objectivity" when it is implied to be "unassailable". Making the choice to think in the same way as everyone else grants you social safety, does it not? It's a big reason why so many people choose conformity. But conformity is not the same as objectivity.

#infj #auxiliary fe #conformity #objectivity #sense of self #identity #ask

[funkymbtifiction]

I was listening to BHE's latest podcast this morning, and they said attachment meets you halfway, whereas hexad already has their location and if they move toward you, it's because their location has moved to include you.

This is very true. I unconsciously do this as a 6, decide when and where to meet you (by being agreeable) and withhold my views if I think they might alienate you. But as a strong Fi type, I wrestle with myself a LOT about how MUCH to meet you. I want to attach and be likable and find common ground with you, but without sacrificing my opinions or my feelings. This results in a strong push-pull and a lot of resentment if I want to be strongly opinionated, but do not feel 'safe' doing so. I've been talking about this, in fact, with a 9w1 INFP of late, in which we mutually agreed that it's difficult as attachment Fi types to involve ourselves with people, because we want to accommodate them and meet them halfway and be tolerant, but without losing our identity or our moral opinions in the process. We wind up ignoring what we disagree with (up to a point) just to be agreeable, but then feel frustrated or angry about not allowing ourselves to be unapologetic about our locations, because we feel like we're not allowed to be ourselves without repercussions -- in her case, she wants to avoid the conflict of self-expression in favor of harmony, and in mine, I don't want to put myself in danger.

This is, obviously, something to think about and mull over, when thinking about your Enneagram type and how it might interact with your MBTI type. It's also why you may or may not relate to certain aspects of the type description -- like a 9 losing themselves in other people, or a 3 being unconcerned with being 'fake,' or a 6 falling into line without question. These things are more common in some MBTI types than others, because the attachment compliments the already-inborn attachment of their functional process. And the same goes for hexad types -- being someone who doesn't move their location, but expects people to come to them, is going to neutralize people-centered functions. Like a 2 EFJ who thinks they are more accommodating than they are -- whose Fe wants to meet people where they are, but whose 2 has a firm agenda in mind through this interaction (agenda is not negative; it can be to help, to connect, to make friends, etc). Or a 1 FJ who has a firm desire to justify all their ideas about how things SHOULD be and go, and feels less concerned about adapting to keep others happy.

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