#especially lesbians and trans ppl

[spacephobos]

Heartstopper is the only current lgbt netflix show that is actively still going with no threat of cancellation.

#warrior nun #cancelled #the umbrella academy #final season #even the european prince show #young royals #is on its final season #netflix hates queers #especially lesbians and trans ppl #heartstopper #netflix #representation #and if you dont think heartstoppers authours shitty i need to portray a cute uwu sanitary gay relationship #has nothing to do with it surviving when every other queer show is axed #im gonna need you to start being so fr

[skelepen]

Not Fit trying to start shit among trans ppl and lesbians JOKES ON YOU, THATS 99% OF YOUR FANS /j

#trans ppl and lesbians unite #skeletalk #liveblogging #fitmc #and especially #shout out to trans lesbians

[rebellum]

"We should respect trans mascs and butches because they protect us at pride"

So I get what you're doing with trying to argue against the anti-masculinity crowd and trying to say that trans mascs and butches are an important part of pride as a way to emphasize our place in the community

But...

Why us?

Why are we disposable? Why are we not worthy of protection?

When are you going to protect us, too?

#'mascs do the protecting but i prommie its because im woke and not bc i love to reinforce gender norms that posit men as the protectors of #femininity'. #also i wanna say something similar about how ppl sometimes treat trans poc like this #like we are valuable not as people but as battering rams as bodies for white protection #but my thoughts are too messy rn to form the post well #goddd and how ppl treat butches is so fucked up. #i understand that butch lesbians roles are traditionally understood as being protectors but like #when are you going to protect butches? when are you going to get in someones face to protect them? how do you think disabled butches feel? #just... i feel like. ppl forget that feminity can also be weaponised in a good way #(not that you HAVE to weaponise femin. in order to protect mascs for any reason) #but like. im a 5'3 small femme. i very easily pass as an upper middle class woman. #i may be black/mixed but i have a mediumish skin tone and i live in canada #i absolutely have the power to step in front of someone and raise my voice in feminine indignation #what are you gonna do? hit me? youre gonna hit a tiny 5'3 'woman' in a skirt that has kitties on it? #the idea of feminine people as weak can cone in handy! because esp large men know they WILL face social consequences for hurting ppl #like me. #especially if i start crying. #itd be more effective if a white person did it but i have that power too

[gaystardykeco]

society if there were more butch lesbians in every single tv show

#especially fat butches and trans butches and butches of color like i dont just mean skinny white androgynous ppl #if i could turn on the tv and see butch lesbians every day it would massively improve my quality of life

[olliecoded]

thank u to the person who called me a "transtrender" and said i'm faking it and not queer enough and learned about queerness through tiktok etc etc. all because i made the absolutely fucking buck wild claim that we should let bi lesbians live their lives in peace. wow

#keira don't look #<- it wasn't keira they just know the person im talking about and this was AGES ago i dont want them to know im still upset about it hehe #anyway for context i was talking about how attempts to place queer people into rigid boxes & draw unbreakable lines in the sand r always #going to fail bcs queerness is complex and messy! and human beings sometimes have identities that don't fit neatly under one label! #and the people who say shit like ''aphobes terfs and anti-neopronouns dni'' r the same people who now bully mspec lesbians #like. ur exclusionism isn't better just because it's ''woke'' this time. it's still bigoted tee hee #ANYWAY IN SUMMARY. i was just saying that i don't think it's our business to police how others identify and why they do so #and this person starts saying that im only queer bcs of tiktok and saying that i cant have an opinion on queer issues #and that im faking being trans #which is. incredibly hurtful especially bcs im bigender genderqueer genderweird etc so exactly the kind of trans person that exclus hate #and it's like. is this what people do? they just start trying to kick queer ppl out of our own community when they dont like what we're #saying?? #sorry i think about this periodically and it makes me really upset it's like. keep trying to define the entire fucked up weird spectrum of #human attraction and gender and then make everyone use ur definitions. dont worry bro itll work this time. #queerposting #<- i talk in depth about queer issues sometimes so ill start using that tag for ppl who dont wanna see the discourse

[empyreasheart]

im very secure in my sexuality but jesus christ my gender will always piss me off. Me when the gender is fluid:

#elisey speaks #SOOO ANNOYING... especially since a lot of ppl see me as a girl anyway or dont understand how being lesbian doesnt make me Not Genderfluid #just frustrating a little. i love being trans and nonbinary but omg. ill never truly feel like the Right Gender i guess

[alastors-wife]

man i need to actually start talking to some of the gay + trans folks in my area

#I've seen some pretty cool & friendly people but im so exhausted most of the time </3 #I'd really love to have new people to hang out with and talk to #having a little friend group brings me so much joy #especially if it's all people that i trust and just really enjoy being around #hearing from and spending time with my friends is like the highlight of my day #and it's always nice to have more people to love #thats part of why i still use lex... it's not bad when it comes to just chatting with people #absolute garbage for hookups. but just trying to talk to people? its great #and pretty chill #and even if I don't talk as much as I'd like to bcuz of burnout + chronic illness flareups it still warms my heart to see the same ppl- #-interacting with me #like. ah yes i remember u. its good to see u again #and people are usually so sweet and helpful #esp if its people you already know are kind and compassionate people. warms my heart to have support no matter how subtle #getting to interact with my local community has been really healing #its good to have a reminder that there's still lgbt ppl who actually care about each other and want solidarity #and are vocal about their support #including for the people who need it most. it just makes me all that much more proud to be a trans lesbian #with every lgbt person i meet even if we don't wind up being like long-term friends or anything- #-i usually remember all of these folks fondly #don't doubt the impact of your presence even to someone you barely know #a lot of people will remember and care about you even if its in a distant kinda way #being perceived and existing in the minds and lives of other people doesn't have to be a scary thing

[radfemie]

I’m a lesbian and I don’t hate trans people I just hate how most of them seem to think. They got so angry and triggered when they realized lesbians and gay men wouldn’t want them they had to come on in and edit our words to include them. Now lesbians get told to like girl dick or we would love girl dick. If you express how you don’t like penis which is a literal lesbian truth you get attacked and called a transphobic. Some of the ‘nicer’ ones will tell you penis trauma excuses you BUT if you still wouldn’t be with a post op trans women you are a transphobic because they truly believe their fake vagina and boobs along with how they dress fully erases their biological maleness.

It’s so fucked up and homophobic and yet somehow the T has the entire community backing them. People screech at JK Rowling every post even though she doesn’t hate trans people she hates how the movement acts and how homophobic they are but people won’t listen to lesbians and gay men. Our rights are being stripped and now lesbians and gay men are going through this new DIY conversion therapy.

I used to not mind trans people, I still don't for the most part — all my trans related post are always directed at trans "women" aka males, so I can say with confidence I hate males, but I do believe trans is a mental Illness.

Males have always tried to force themselves into our communities, you don't ever see gay men saying non-women like lesbians are supposed to. You don't see gay men getting bashed for saying they like dick, but if a lesbian dares to say vagina they are transphobic for not including "girl" dicks.

Males don't care, they never really will unless it effects them — so our rights getting stripped? Not a big deal, they have the privilege of still being male to cling to, their female fetishism is just a side gig for the weekends.

#ur literally so right anon #trans ppl #especially males #will not care unless it effects them #which is almost never does #lesbian #radfem #radfem safe #radfems please interact #radfems please touch #radical feminst #radical feminism #feminsim #feminist #terfs welcome #trans #transgender #trans men #trans women

[ocdhuacheng]

why the fuck would you genderbend jyl what did she ever do to you

#i do NOT get the appeal of genderbend at all. #but like at least if youre genderbending a man into a woman i understand that its mostly bc of lack of female characters* #*if youre a wlw. if youre a man genderbending a man into a woman im bonking you on the head with a mallet #but like maybe its bc im a lesbian but why on earth would you genderbend a female character into a male #there are so few female characters as is #but like anyway genderbending in general is just Not My Thing. even when youre going man -> woman #ESPECIALLY if youre doing it to make a couple straight. im looking at you tgcftwt #anyway. tldr i dont like genderbending #plus a lot of trans ppl feel its transphobic and im gonna trust them on that #.txt #so like i have complicated feelings on the tg/cf '''''genderbending''''' if you can call it that #ive said my reasons before but yea. i mean its loads better than just straight up rule 63 or whichever one it is #but its still just a teeny bit sus #If You Are Being Honest

[jack-owo-valentine]

I love being t4t and ngl I'm p sure it passes cis people off

#i think some people get lowkey offended when trans ppl are t4t #in the same way straight ppl (especially girls) will get mad when a lesbian or gay dude arent into them #bc theyre not their type #u know #like cis ppl get so pressed sometimes when trans ppl dont wanna date em lol #ofc this isnt about all cis ppl #just a very specific group of em

[nosks]

there's nothing wrong with people not wanting men following their blogs. I am going insane. it's a blog. you will live, i promise

#.txt #women and lesbians and survivors not wanting you on their blog will not kill you i promise you'll live #calm the fuck down #i had to unfollow osmeone for this #i dont get what is wrong with social media lately everyone is so overly concerned with women who are uncomfortable w men #like goddamn #i think you've lost sight of the goal when all you've started caring about is mens feelings and thats the only thing ur arguing for #and you only bring up TERFs bc you know thatll get ppls attention and ppl will jump on board regardless of the relevance. #especially when you start telling trans women who talk about their problems w men that they're being “TERF-y”

[rebellum]

Begging people to understand that homophobia doesn't mean "being mean to gay people because they're gay", misogyny doesn't mean "being mean to women because they're women," and transphobia doesn't mean "being mean to trans people because they're trans."

These are all intertwined systems of oppressive social control.

The whole THING is that gender policing of all types is used to keep people in line to make them act "normal" (to act as their gender should).

When a young boy doesn't want to play football and his brothers do, and they call him a sissy, they are being homophobic, transphobic, and misogynistic. Even if he is straight and cisgender.

If a cishet woman is derisively asked "what are you, a lesbian?" For having short hair, she has experienced homophobia, transphobia, and misogyny.

One of the reasons it's so necessary to discuss them is because they are systems of control. The words aren't just describing types of hate crimes etc perpetrated against certain groups of people, it describes the violent aspects of cisnormativity, heteronormativity, and the patriarchy.

This post was made bc im mad about ppl being like "how would a person not lgbtq experience homophobia" (something I literally just saw) and "trans men can't experience misogyny and especially not transmisogyny" and "I'm a wholeass lesbian I can't be homophobic" (both sentiments I've seen multiple times before almost word for word). Those are just a few examples of the stuff I've seen said online from people who unfortunately don't understand how systems of oppression work to keep everyone in line.

Transphobia, homophobia, and misogyny are all inseparably intertwined because they come from the same place and have the same purpose.

[ecoevoexo]

honestly there's a lot to think abt here from legislation targeting trans women (public indecency, solicitation, prurient purposes) to expectations of sexual availability (everything from cis ppl not caring abt consent to GC genital checks) to pressures around presenting in a sexualized or desexualized way--i know a lot of trans women hav trouble navigating this one, bc one wants to feel good about oneself but the moment you dress in a vaguely revealing way its highly sexualized, leading to a whole counter aesthetic of baggy hoodies & flannels & loose pants (an overlap w traumatized cis lesbian aesthetics for sure, but also w sex workers getting off the clock & not wanting to be harassed on the bus ride home).

its hard to discuss this dynamic without erasing or minimizing the further oppression faced by trans women actually engaging in sex work, especially fssw, but it's been something broadly known by most trans women i've talked to about it that we are seen as an identity inherently linked to sex work. for many people the first exposure to trans women is either porn, seeing sex workers on the street, or "dead tranny h**ker" jokes in family guy or whatever. no normie cis person's idea of a trans woman is a virtuous mother, in terms of the madonna/whore complex of patriarchy we are firmly relegated to one side. rather the dynamic is sexual predator / sexual prey, with sexual prey being considered the more virtuous, but both being seen as open for killing.

and in many ways i think it would be fair to see sesta/fosta as the beginning of the legal reaction against trans people in the US. at this point one of the main tactics for controlling trans--and queer in general--content in online and other media is by appealing to its inherently sexual nature. likewise this is used as a justification for all sorts of right-wing amplification of violence, which is very telling given how many right-wing politicians & pundits seek out trans porn & sex workers. just as a man might say "a woman belongs in the kitchen", it's clear a lot of people think "a tranny belongs in the redlight district, and nowhere else!"

[mars-ipan]

another important thing abt terfs that isn’t really talked about is the fact that we can’t really make it an “us versus them” situation. not only is that a bad idea in most conflicts, but it can create biases about who we think is “terfy”. a lesbian you don’t like isn’t a terf. not all lesbians in general are terfs. a white cishet feminist isn’t inherently a terf. things like that

#idk if i’m phrasing well but like #i get hesitant to be strongly feminist bc i don’t want to attract terfs to me #bc their feminism. isn’t feminist at all lmao #+ they’re racist and. well. transphobic #but i have to remember: terfs are a minority of feminists. most feminists are normal #actually lemme rephrase that. terfs /aren’t/ feminists. they’re insecure ppl who project their internalized misogyny (+ gender dysphoria- #-for a lot of them) onto other people #simultaneously doing acceptability politics and managing to piss literally everyone off #well. sorta. the right can use ‘em so they do #makes me sad :( but point is #a terf is a very specific kind of person. yes look out for warning signs if you’re suspicious #but calling themselves a feminist or being a lesbian does not a terf make #and to say so is not only incorrect and will not protect you #but is also harmful to regular feminists and lesbians- ESPECIALLY trans feminists and lesbians #obligatory terfs dni i hate ur guts #i might get some in my notes for putting the word terf in so much of this post #if you see one block and move on. not worth the effort #no hatescrolling either. is bad for you

[angelsthesis]

.

#why r soo many ppl on tumblr terfs #ill find a rly cool lesbian post and be like Yeah rb!! and then i go thru their blog more and theyre transphobic 🥲 #if theres one thing i Didnt miss abt this website its that #especially as a nonbinary lesbian its just so unnerving how normal radblr is considering how important trans ppl are to lesbian communities

[evergreen-femme]

i honestly hate the trans girl narrative that we were all always women no questions full stop. i get why it needs to exist and like i won't break the orthodoxy right now but to be honest that isn't really my experience. i was a boy who really desperately wanted to be a "girl" growing up, whatever that meant to me. now, i am a woman but i'm still that boy inside - he's my inner child. it may not be the nicest truth but it's my reality. it's immensely sad. but i need to acknowledge him if im ever going to have a sense of continuity in my life. so yea that's what the femboy stuff has been all about and why it feels so completely healing for me. its hot too yeah i know but i feel like i need to explain that it has a much deeper meaning to me than that as a "fetish." it's literally the narrative of my life, and me being happy enough with the results of my transition on a more or less every day basis to try and acknowledge and embrace the part of me i've always been the most ashamed of.

and also im really afraid of people saying shit because of this like "you aren't really a woman and you definitely aren't a lesbian!" bc i am still a woman. my adult self is a woman. acknowledging my womanhood meant acknowledging the 17 years of my life i spent fully dissociated from my body or any real sense of self, which was a terrifying thing to do that i think a lot of people would lack the courage for. and my lesbian and especially femme identity (to me, i'm a femme first, and a lesbian second) is incredibly important to my sense of womanhood. i had to embrace my womanhood to grow up, basically, and i delayed that for way too long. WAY too long. but i was still existing during that waiting time and i'm not going to just throw away 17 years of my life because it doesn't make sense to dumbass queer discoursers. i'm a boy who grew up into a woman. ppl like me do exist.

#diaryposting