#dhar mann is an incel!

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This video just REEKS of savior complex galore. I hate it.

You remember the video about the terminally ill girl who wasn't asked to prom? Well, that's what we're talking about today. I didn't make any comments on the video itself. It wasn't worth it. The video was bad and it annoyed me, but it wasn't enough to piss me off, surprisingly.

It’s ironic that this video didn’t piss me off as much as I was expecting it to. Especially since I had a friend who battled a terminal illness (brain cancer, to be specific) for almost eight years. She passed away in 2011 like mid-September. I didn’t know this girl for very long, but it doesn’t change the fact that I was friends with her, I was fond of this girl, I miss her, and I do think about her sometimes.

Anyways, I don’t want to make this sappy.

Before I begin tearing this video apart, I just want to put up a disclaimer: I'm not calling Dhar Mann a p3d0 in this post. There's no evidence that supports a claim as serious as p3d0philia in his case. He's extremely problematic, for sure, but he's not a p3d0phile. So any of you Dhar Mann stannies who come on here can chill the fuck out. I don’t condone anyone slandering Dhar Mann with serious claims like him being a p3d0phile, regardless of whether you’re a fan of him or not. 

The video starts out with the main focus of who Dhar Mann can exploit for his own gain (Faith) and her friend (Kim). Kim came to visit her friend Faith in the hospital for pretty much just one reason. It's prom season and they promised each other they'd go to prom together, of course! Faith obviously wants to go, but y'know, battling a terminal illness kind of makes going to big events like prom hard to do, if not impossible. That, of course, depends on the person and what terminal illness they have.

Instead of being understanding, Kim reminds her friend of the promise they made of them going to prom together. Faith tells Kim that she doesn’t have a dress, she doesn’t have the energy to put on makeup (or to go to a salon to get a total makeover for prom), she looks like shit (obviously Faith didn’t say it like this), she feels like shit, the whole nine. This is when Kim brings up Dhar Mann, who saved this family from being evicted from their home, and she suggests that Faith ask Dhar Mann for help. Faith asked Kim how he’d be able to help her. Kim just said to message him, tell him about her situation, and he’d HAVE to help her! Why? Oh, because terminally ill kids are the kind of people he wants to help! OF COURSE. Who would’ve guessed? /s

Kim then pulls out her phone to take a selfie with Faith, who clearly didn’t fucking ask for it, and Kim posts it on her profile to see if the cringe ass nae-nae baby would see it. (Way to exploit your friend, Kim.)

You know, ironically enough, it wasn’t the cringe ass nae-nae baby who saw the picture first. This beauty squad saw it first. When Kim was taking Faith out of the hospital, they just so happen to run into this beauty squad and they wanted to give Faith a makeover for prom. Faith says that she doesn’t even have a prom dress, which they do eventually get for her. 

I’m just gonna go on a tangent here real quick. I never went to my prom. It just wasn’t important to me. Plus, I had a lot more important things to worry about then. If prom is an important thing to you and you want to go, I hope you get to do that. If you don’t think prom is that important and you don’t want to go, do you! I’m not bashing on anyone who went to prom, wants to go to prom, none of that. Like I said, do you. Just be safe and responsible if/when you do go to prom. 

Fast forward to the day of prom. Kim is with her date, and Faith is just with them. She says that she still doesn't have a date to go to prom with. Faith also says that she DOUBTS that anyone would ask her to the prom. GUESS WHO COMES TO SAVE THE DAY? I'll give you a few minutes to think about it.

IT'S THE CRINGE ASS NAE-NAE BABY DHAR MANN. He pulls up like a suave (/s) gentleman (more like incel) and tells Faith that he's taking her to prom. Only if she wants to go with him! OF COURSE he'd say that.

A grown man who's in his late thirties asking a teenage girl to prom seems pretty fishy, if you ask me. "What if it was a grown woman asking a teenage boy to prom?" IT'S STILL PRETTY FUCKING WEIRD, NO MATTER WHAT FONT IT'S IN. Even if that person's a celebrity. The only exception is if said celebrity is a minor themselves who's in high school.

Instead of questioning the fact a grown man in his late thirties asked Faith, a teenage girl, to prom, she says yes. The video ends there.

Question: What kind of school would put up with a grown man in his late thirties taking a teenage girl to prom? Where the fuck do they go to school? Don't they have ANY rules put in place to prevent this kind of thing?

The high school I went to had a rule that any guests who were twenty-one or older were NOT allowed at prom. I'm just going off of my experience.

This video was not enjoyable whatsoever. Kim had good intentions and it's sweet that she wanted to help her friend Faith, but there are better ways to go about that.

#tw dhar mann #cw terminal illness #dhar mann will live to regret his decision to make these fucked up cringe videos #dhar mann will live to regret his decision uwu #dhar mann #anti dhar mann #dhar mann is a piece of human garbage #please stop supporting dhar mann #dhar mann is an incel! #dhar mann is a cringe ass nae nae baby #tw pedoforkia mention #mello speaks

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How Dhar Mann Thinks Playing Girls is Bad, but Playing Guys is Good (My thoughts on ‘Guy dates two girls from the same school, LIVES TO REGRET IT’)

Why Am I not covering the video in depth? Well because most of what I said in my ‘How Dhar Mann Unintentionally Makes Bad Messages’ post ALSO applies here. Dhar Mann’s messages in both of these videos are basically “Guys playing girls is bad, but Girls are COMPLETELY justified in playing guys.” “Ruining people’s lives is a good thing.” “Wanting to not be lonely is bad.” “Being in a stable relationship is NOT good.” “NO, we’re NOT going to go in depth why.”

In this specific video, a guy is lonely after a breakup with his girlfriend, and is suffering a severe identity crisis. To cope, he wants to try and find a new date, new friends, new girls to hang out with and talk to. Okay, what’s wrong with that?

Well, the message HERE is:

1: Just be alone, it’s better for you

Peers are EVIL.

Sociality is a BAD THING. Okay, so this video is trying to call out Nice Guys, fine, that DOES need to be called out. But there’s saying incels are bad, and then there’s saying sociality with the opposite gender ITSELF is the problem. Like, oh, a guy wants more than one girl’s phone number? HOW DARE HE.

HOW DARE HE TRY TO FIND FRIENDS, BUT NOT KNOW HOW TO DO IT RIGHT!

Like, why CAN’T he hang out with more than one girl? They established he’s just trying to find people to hang out with, that’s why he’s doing this. That’s not specifically dating, that’s literally just being with people for a weekend. 

And they’re trying SO HARD to make the guy look like this huge jerk and an absolute incel... but he’s NOT. He’s actually one of the most likeable characters in the video because he’s just trying to hang out with people. He’s not hurting them! He’s not using them for malicious intent! He just wants to hang out with them! 

Trust me, I have A HUGE history with Nice Guys, and this dude aint it. Or maybe that’s just because I was smart and didn’t fall for any of that junk. And trust me, saying no only makes the situation TEN TIMES WORSE.

A dude confessed to me, I rejected, he told the whole school we were dating anyway, (we weren’t) and EVERYONE believed him.

He made up a whole story about how we were married and had kids, and EVERYONE believed that.

He took me hostage at school once and proposed to me with a carrot. EVERY TIME I said NO. And as punishment, I was seen as the one in the wrong.

I absolutely do not regret dumping him.

But for SOME REASON, this dude in the video can’t bring himself to be upfront with the girls he’s dating, and say “I want to hang out with you both! I want to spend the weekends with you girls! I want people to be with! Why don’t we all just get along?”

Okay, so maybe THAT could be the message? You can have more than one person in your life, just be straight with everyone on what’s going on.

NOPE.

Instead the guy is supposed to be a garbage human being. 

Which, Dhar Dhar, you got Nice Guys completely wrong.

And then because this guy can’t even tell them what’s going on, NOBODY confronts him about how his lying isn’t going to negatively affect anything, or how he should just be honest with them on his feelings! NOPE, INSTEAD they demand that he should be ON HIS OWN. He should NOT be hanging out with ANYONE, AT ALL.

(I’d like to point out that this video was hash tagged ‘inspirational’)

And then his ex comes back and finds him, and he’s super happy! He’s happy to see her! He expresses how much he’s missed her, how she’s been missing him, they start to click again and work things out-

And then the other girls RUIN HIS LIFE

2: Ruining lives is GOOD

FOR SOME STUPID REASON, the girls, who didn’t even find out what was with the guy on screen, make a video recording where they say “hey, this dude is trash, lol” with NO evidence to back that up, they somehow GET ACCESS TO THE ENTIRE SCHOOL COMMUNICATION SYSTEM TO DELIVER THAT,

AND THEN EVERYONE INSTANTLY BELIEVE THEM.

ALL THE GIRLS LINE UP and they say “Dude, you trash! We hate you! You’re an INCEL! You’re AWFUL! NOBODY will EVER want to be around you EVER AGAIN! Get out of our lives you stupid lonely boi!”

And AGAIN, I said this before and I’ll say it here, this guy’s life being ruined, is caused ENTIRELY by the girls! NOT HIM! The girls do the exact same thing the guy did, but are seen as justified for some reason. 

Is this female empowerment? Because it just makes girls look like b***hes.

So they make it clear that NOBODY will ever want to hang out with him, and the guy’s like, “Yeah, they’re right. I should be alone instead. That’s WAY better.”

So not only are we encouraging that socialization is a crime, but we’re also encouraging trashing on people as well. Okay. Thanks Dhar Mann.

The reason this post isn’t as in depth as the last ones is because A) I discussed these topics before in previous posts, and B) I didn’t really find enough to go over here. The incel boy, again, is NOT even an incel boy, he’s just incompetent at socialization. And he actually has a legit motivation for the ‘bad’ stuff he does. But I guess I could also be mad that the boy’s loneliness is portrayed as a good thing and something to be proud of, where in real life it’s a start to mental illnesses, but Dhar Mann has done worse. So... really I could be angrier at this than I actually am.

Next thing I might actually have to go over older Dhar Mann videos instead to go in detail the bad messages he’s giving out.

#Dhar Mann #Bad messages #Revenge #Nice guys #Incels #Socialization #Lonliness #female empowerment

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Dhar Mann is bad (STA(N)P #1)

Welcome to the first (STA(N)P), today I shall talk to you about Dhar Mann. Dhar Mann is an entrepreneur who posts toxic positive videos online.

I’m going to talk to you about some of his videos and underlying problems I found out a few weeks ago.

Dhar recently posted a video about a mama’s boy, he was wearing a shirt that said “I love my mom”. Kids made fun of him (of course, who would wear that to school unless they’re trolling) I would’ve laughed a bit because it’s ridiculous. 

Anyway, we enter math class (my favorite) and they try and solve for ‘x’, the bully gets the wrong answer (typical in Dhar Mann videos) and James gets it right, gets laughed at by Cameron. You know, I don’t understand why the bullies in Dhar Mann videos aren’t (actually all characters) aware of anything, like who’s laughing. 

Then, Cameron gets into the car with his dad crying (or constipated idk), they go to the hospital and the mom tells Cameron that she has colon cancer, Cameron ask she’s going to get better like it’s the flu (why are the bullies so dumb) she doesn’t have much time left and they cry. Cameron spends more time with her, then her results come back negative. So using Dhar Mann logic doing something good gives you good karma, this is one of the toxic messages in his videos.

Dhar Mann shows in his videos that if you do good things that you’ll get a lot of good things in return, I think this teaches people that if they do the bare minimum they get good news. This similar to the incel mindset, open door for girl, I deserve girl, girl don’t want me, I get angry. 

There’s also accusations of Dhar faking his disability (Dyslexia) claiming that it affects his speech.

I dm’ed Dhar Mann about an actress who supports MMS, a group that sold covid cures (bleach). Here’s the dm:

Hello Dhar Mann, I have come to inform you about someone who acts in your videos frequently. This person is Elizabeth Lamboy-Wilson, I know that she seems like a sweet person but I have found that she supports the use of MMS products as shown here:https://www.facebook.com/622926951220815/posts/mms-rids-body-of-anything-foreign-to-it-mms-in-sacrament-amounts-can-will-restor/1464976727015829/ Elizabeth also has a testimonial also shown here:https://mmstestimonials.co/other/mms-chlorine-dioxide-cured-all-my-dis-eases-and-healed-many-of-my-friends-and-family-as-well If you don't know what's wrong with this I will tell you; MMS is ran by a jailed criminal (Jim Humble) who sold Covid-19 cures. MMS has also killed 7 people (from bleach). I'm again sorry to inform you about this as you seem that you care for your team and crew members. I hope this information doesn't sadden you badly.

Here’s the video:https://www.facebook.com/622926951220815/posts/mms-rids-body-of-anything-foreign-to-it-mms-in-sacrament-amounts-can-will-restor/1464976727015829/

And her testimonial:https://mmstestimonials.co/other/mms-chlorine-dioxide-cured-all-my-dis-eases-and-healed-many-of-my-friends-and-family-as-well

So you see (get it) Dhar Mann bad, I might talk more about it, but I spent an hour on this. I hope this reaches a few people because Dhar Mann needs to be stop of his toxic behaviors.

#dhar mann #dhar mann is a cringe ass nae nae baby

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I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and after seeing the amount of gold digger videos hes made, I’m beginning to suspect Dhar Mann is an incel.

Wouldn't put it past him.

#anon #answered #tw dhar mann #dhar mann talk #dhar mann #anti dhar mann #dhar mann is an incel! #cw incel mention #dhar mann will live to regret his decision to make these fucked up cringe videos #dhar mann is a piece of human garbage #please stop supporting dhar mann #dhar mann will live to regret his decision uwu #dhar mann is a cringe ass nae nae baby

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can you explain why dhar's lessons of 'nice guy' are problematic. I dont disagree with you i just want someone to put it in words

Sure!

Every single video that Dhar Mann has made about "Nice Guys™️" almost always involve the women they're after being treated like objects (like they're some goal) or they're portrayed as very superficial and only want a guy for his money (the sugar daddy shit).

They almost always portray the "Chads" as stereotypical jocks and popular guys who are very outgoing, social, and are seen as the more attractive ones. The "Nice Guys™️" are almost always portrayed as nerdy, pretty shy, soft-spoken, and they're usually not seen as attractive at all. Also, just the endings to these videos are completely unrealistic and scream what incels fantasize about.

It pretty much boils down to incel logic, which I'm not a fan of.

#anon #answered #tw dhar mann mention #tw incel mention #this just in...dhar mann is still a cringe ass nae nae baby

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Was Dhar Mann's heart broken by a gold digger or smth? He has a lot of videos where he shows people getting revenge on them, and he also treats women like objects (for example when the main characters are shown to be rich and famous in the future, they often have a hot girl, and these girls are portrayed as some sort of reward for being rich and popular...). In every Dhar Mann video, the women are shown to be SHALLOW asf. I love your posts crtisizing him, never stop making them l.

Good question! I honestly don't know. I feel bad for his wife though lol. They have a kid together and I hope their daughter doesn't think that she should be treated like how women are treated in the videos about toxic relationships or that she has to get someone who's rich to be loved.

The objectification of women in his videos really disgusts me. Yes, there ARE women who do go after people for their money, but to group up all women as that very description alone? No. Not true whatsoever. Most women don't care about their significant other having money or any other superficial stuff.

I don't care if a woman's rich or not. I don't care about the superficial stuff with women. As long as she's a good person with a good heart, she has some sort of goal...you know, the important qualities, I don't care about whatever else she has because it doesn't matter.

Being rich and/or popular does NOT entitle you to having a trophy spouse. Or any spouse for that matter.

It's really some incel type beat bullshit! Because they're all about respecting women and think they're entitled to having a girlfriend or whatever, yet they're misogynistic as all hell. (Femcels are like this too, apparently, but I have yet to encounter one.)

Thank you for sending this in. ^.^

#anon #answered #dhar mann talk #cw incel mention #cw femcel mention #tw toxic relationship #tw objectification #tw dhar mann

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I didn't think I'd have to make a post like this, but HERE WE GO, since some people can't behave.

Anyone who's part of the "Dhar Mann fam", don't interact with me challenge! Full offense, you're annoying as fuck.

Dhar Mann's videos aren't inspirational whatsoever. They're not full of good vibes. You know what they're full of? I'll put down a short list.

Misinformation about disabilities and mental illnesses that are ignorant at best, and very offensive at worst.

Racism

Misogyny

Sexism

Normalizing staying in abusive relationships, ESPECIALLY WHEN THERE ARE KIDS INVOLVED.

Classism

Xenophobia

Ableism

Fatphobia

Trauma p0rn

His gross savior complex

Incel type beat shit

Kissing ass to the police

Poorly written scripts that are recycled over and over again.

Exploiting true stories that happened to real people for his own gain.

Performative activism

Do I even need to go on about what's in his videos? With the amount of sugar daddy/sugar baby videos he's made, plus all the videos about gamers and the ones about bullying, we'd be here for a while if I dissected every single one. Plus it'd be complete overkill. They're the same video in different fonts. I'd only make posts talking about the subjects in general.

"But Mello! They're supposed to be targeted at kids, not at teenagers or adults!"

I get that; however, just because they're made for kids, it doesn't make them immune to criticism.

As much as I think gamers are pretty interesting to watch (though I don't really watch gaming videos much anymore), to even think you'd be on the level of big YouTubers like PewDiePie, Markiplier, and JackSepticEye in a short amount of time is unrealistic. Those three YouTubers have worked their asses off to get to where they are. It takes YEARS to get to the level they're at, if you're lucky enough to get there. Having connections would probably help too.

I get that a lot of kids nowadays want to become professional gamers. They want to become "the next PewDiePie". Yes, you can get paid to game now, but it's not as easy as Dhar Mann has made it out to be. The way he paints this as like a super common occurrence and how kids eat that stuff up is irresponsible on his part. He knows that the vast majority of his audience are kids who believe everything they hear, see, and read on the internet...and just in general. The chances of any kids becoming the next PewDiePie, Markiplier, or JackSepticEye ARE SLIM TO NONE.

MOVING ON.

Honestly, at this point, I'm convinced that people are just choosing to be ignorant instead of listening to people who are rightfully offended by his videos.

If you still can't see how problematic Dhar Mann is, despite there being evidence to support it, I can't help you.

#mello speaks #tw dhar mann #dhar mann talk #tw racism mention #tw ableism mention #tw misogyny mention #tw sexism mention #tw toxic relationship mention #tw fatphobia mention #tw for all-around bigotry being mentioned #dhar mann will live to regret his decision to make these fucked up cringe videos #dhar mann will live to regret his decision uwu #dhar mann #anti dhar mann #dhar mann is a piece of human garbage #please stop supporting dhar mann #dhar mann is a cringe ass nae nae baby #dhar mann stans dni

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gurrrrrrl i love your dhar mann posts. ive seen some youtubers call him out for cringe but you are the only one who calls out his racism. if you watch his videos you usually see black kids being portrayed as bullies to the white ones or asains being portrayed as smart. not to mention the portrayal of women - their eithr housewives-esque women submissive to their husbands or 'bitchy' sluts that act spoiled, and are usually punished for not liking the boy...it just reads like a terrible incel fanfiction

Hello, anon! Thank you for sending this in. ^.^

There are definitely more people who do call out his racism in those videos, and they did this before I called him out on it, so I'm not the only one. (Did you mean on here or in general?)

Being a white woman, I will never know what BIPOC or AAPI go through on a daily basis. What they go through in general is horrible and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. That doesn't stop me from educating myself about what they go through, reading up on their histories, sharing things about BIPOC and AAPI historical figures and their impacts on the world, supporting BIPOC and AAPI creators, speaking out against racism, signing petitions, sharing resources with people who may need them, and calling out racism in general.

His videos with disabled people are pretty ableist too, which is what really infuriated me, as a disabled woman who works with disabled people for a living. The video he made about Autism Spectrum Disorder especially was so insulting, filled with misinformation, and so ableist, that it felt like he was treating being autistic like it was a bad thing. It's not a bad thing to be autistic. I'm autistic. I was diagnosed when I was sixteen (when it was still referred to as A$p3rg3r'$ $yndr0m3), but never was open about it until this year. That kind of rhetoric was one of the factors that made me mask for seven years.

A lot of times, he doesn't cast a physically disabled actor for physically disabled characters. He just gives a couple of the child actors crutches. This is a reoccurring thing in the entertainment industry as a whole. Glee is another example of an able-bodied actor being cast as a physically disabled character. (I hate that show for a plethora of reasons. The fact they didn't bother to cast a physically disabled actor for the role of a physically disabled character is one of them.) I very rarely see physically disabled actors in media. Specifically, younger physically disabled actors. That needs to change. At least for live-action media. I'm sure the physically disabled kids would be happy to see actors who are like them. I've seen a lot of physically disabled characters in cartoons, which is great! I encourage them to make more physically disabled characters in cartoons. I don't see too many in anime either, so hopefully that'll change too.

The way Dhar Mann portrays BIPOC and AAPI in general makes me sick looking at it. He either paints black people as total damsels in distress or makes them big bullies. When Karen, the racist and ableist soccer mom™️ is being racist towards her son's friend and assuming the worst of him, it turns out that kid has rich parents! (Totally unrealistic too.) She goes on the whole, "I'm sorry for judging you before I got to know you!" shit instead of saying, "Hey, I'm sorry for being a racist bigot towards you and believing in gross stereotypes about black people."

Painting black people as "thugs" who all are in gangs and steal stuff is so incorrect. I'm sure that people who think like this get their pseudo education from watching movies with black people in them or rap music and get the impression that they're all like that. Like, no. Don't believe everything you see on the big screen. Not to mention how they targeted a black kid as a suspect for drugs in a video, when the real suspect turned out to be a white kid. They do that in real life A LOT. It's nauseating.

Selling drugs and stuff isn't an inherently bad thing. Not ideal, but some people don't exactly have any other choice except to sell drugs. Doing drugs doesn't mean you're a bad person. That kind of stuff hits home for me. Being brought up by parents who both did drugs, being around people who do drugs, and having friends who do drugs, I don't see people who do drugs as inherently bad people. They need to be treated with decency and like human beings, not like aggressive animals.

The whole "Asians are geniuses" stereotype is damaging. It's bad enough that Asians as a whole have all these ridiculous expectations put on them. Pretty gross and harmful stereotypes! Saying that all Asians are geniuses isn't a compliment to them. Yes, you can praise their work all you want, but don't treat them like they're attractions at a zoo. They're not robots. They're real human beings with their own thoughts, opinions, feelings, emotions, families, friends, jobs, issues, etc.

A YouTuber named Jarvis Johnson is an example of a person calling out Dhar Mann's racism in his videos. If you want to see them through a black person's perspective, definitely check Jarvis out. He's a great content creator and he definitely deserves more subscribers.

Oh my god, don't even get me started on the "sugar daddy" videos. There are so many of them, I don't know where to begin with tearing them apart. They're so BAD. Dhar Mann paints almost all of his so-called "morals" at the end of his videos with "Don't judge a book by its cover! uwu" instead of actually addressing the real issues in the video. He never bothers to address how people think money can buy you happiness. I mean, it can, to an extent, but only so much.

He recently made a video about a gay teenage boy in sports, his coach was being all homophobic, kicked him off the team, etc. First off, if that happened in real life, that school AND the coach would get sued for discrimination and the coach would most likely lose their job.

The fatphobia in some of his videos is fucking gross too, speaking as a bigger woman. One of the child actors was literally put in a fat suit in a "flashback". I mean, they do have fat actors. They have fat child actors too. Wouldn't it make sense to hire fat actors for fat characters? He's done that for another video he made about a girl getting bullied for her weight. (Fat suits are fatphobic.)

I feel bad for all the actors in those videos. I'm sure none of them vibe with the scripts. I hope they actually get roles in better things.

#anon #answered #dhar mann talk #tw racial violence mention #tw racism mention #tw ableism mention #tw homophobia mention #tw fatphobia mention #tw drug mention #dhar mann will live to regret his decision to make these fucked up cringe videos #dhar mann will live to regret his decision uwu #please stop supporting dhar mann #those actors deserve better #dhar mann is a piece of human garbage #tw dhar mann